The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Hello, my name is Hailie and I am currently in a four year relationship with an alcoholic.
I've been thinking of attending the meetings, I feel quite alone. His addiction is beginning to affect me and I'm frightened, unsure of what to do next.
((Hailie)) You've definitely made a step in the right direction by coming here. This place has truly been a miracle for me. I think another good step would be to go to an al anon meeting. You won't learn how to stop your A from drinking, but you will learn how to take care of yourself and do what's best for you. You can learn a lot by reading the posts here and the replies to them. Keep coming back, you're NOT alone.
hi and welcome. now you know you are not alone! there are many of us here who have felt the same way but now visit regularly and share our feelings with each other. it may seem hard at first but as you read the posts and share your experiences you will find it gets easier. noone will offer you advice, noone will tell you what you should or shouldnt do. its up to you to find what works for you. what you will get from this forum is lots of support and shared feelings. joining this group and/or attending the meetings will hopefully bring you comfort and help you on your way to your recovery. you did not cause your As illness, you cannot control it, and you cannot make it go away. what you can do is look after you! post as much as you like and many will respond to give you support, point you in the right direction of meetings etc. take a deep breath because it is going to be a bumpy ride but we are all with you on varying stages of the journey. ((((((hugs))))))) gilly
You received great suggestions from Pineapple and Miss Lucy. Following their simple suggestions can change your life. I took the same suggestions a little over three years ago and it not only changed my life, it probably saved my life. You are not any different than any of us when we arrived at the doors of Al-Anon. We had to finally admit that we were powerless over alcohol and our lives had become unmanageable. You would probably admit that is a good description of yourself.
My suggestion....follow up on what the two ladies above suggested and get to a f2f meeting as soon as you can. You deserve it, and most important.......you are not alone anymore.
HUGS, RLC
-- Edited by RLC on Friday 19th of February 2010 07:47:10 PM
My expiriences in Al-anon have all been positive. It helps me not only deal with the loved one but everything else in life that seems challenging. I felt alone and isolated like you did, and currently, not having attended meetings in a while I feel that way once more.....
Hope you find the love and understanding many have found here......you will not be judged, only understood....... Blessings***
Great first step posting, you are now not alone any more.
This disease is a very powerful, cunning one to not only the A but also those affected by the A. The support of Alanon is an incredible gift and blessing.
Hope you get to a meeting and keep coming here.
yours in recovery, Maria
__________________
If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
You are not alone and we're super happy to have you. I don't have anything more to add - but did want to say welcome!
__________________
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Welcome Hailey! Some great info already in response to your first post! I found this site because of my relationship with my Alcoholic boyfriend (ABF) and have received so much support. I agree that F2F meetings are very important - hopefully you have options in your area for that - I have found that trying out different meetings (days of the week, times, different groups) has been helpful for me to get comfortable. I also found a lot of info here and there are online meetings two times a day - these are great too. Keep coming back!
