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farmgirlmay · farmgirlmay

My STB ex-AH called yesterday afternoon and what did I do?? Oh no, I didn't hit reject or just ignore the call, yes, I answered it!! Why?? I have NO idea. Maybe I wanted to see what the fisherman was up to this time or I was feeling lonley, abandoned, afraid and whatever contact I could have was better...

Jerry F · Jerry F

When he/she (alcoholic) is in recovery and attending to their own growth and I am not. This is something China woke me up to; an experience I use to witness in the past (Don't focus on it now) and have seen happen in the area I got into recovery. The alcoholic got sober and grew, often very well, in recove...

daisygirl · daisygirl

I have been in a yo-yo relationship with an alcoholic for a year and 1/2. He is an amazing man when sober. He is a successful builder, intelligent, passionate, caring, romantic, is always thinking of me, treats me like a princess and rocks my world. When he drinks... he becomes insecure and child...

Jennifer · Jennifer

and I am an addict addict. Otherwise known as an professional enabler, and codependent. I once thought I was as powerful as a savior, ready to take on the world of addictions, though not my own, caffeine is my friend ... just my A's or any of the A's in my life. I was a sounding board, knightess in tarnishe...

babysteps · babysteps

Out of the blue my AH-separated filed for custody of our daughter, alimony and child support. He moved out 15 months ago to a town 4 hours away. Our daughter visits him as often as practical given the distance. I have been her primary caretaker since birth and she has lived with me since he left. I talked t...

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

Things have been going pretty well lately. Abf-sober has been making meetings, as have I. Working steps, trying to break old patterns and though there has been a bump or two along the way the last month or more, for the most part it's been a pretty "normal" time. Then yesterday happened. ...

Love Always Hopes · Love Always Hopes

I have lost track of how many serious talks my A and I have had where he tells me his plan to stop drinking. I ask him what will be different this time and there is always some way that he appeals to the hope in me and I am happy and relieved and grateful and totally behind him - I'll plan the evenings so there's...

China · China

Hi, it has been a while since my last post. I finally moved out and doing very well. This summer is going to be two years. My Ex-A is been sober for a little more than a year. It looks like everything is going well. But it is me. I don't want to go back to him even though he is showing a great effort in keeping u...

farmgirlmay · farmgirlmay

My soon to be ex-AH is still sending the hooks and i'm still a fish swimming in that pond!! Today was his payday so I sent an e-mail asking about money for myself and the kids. His response was he could spare $100 (after he has payed for all his own expenses) and that he "hoped" i understood he c...

Acatnip · Acatnip

Last night as I am trying to fall asleep, my Ah calls me to let me know he is home. And he is furious. He was told while in rehab that I had moved out. He was very angry that I had taken all my clothes, not just a few to tide me over. Then he procedes with the guilt trip on how horrible rehab was and how he was doing it...

weggie · weggie

Well, I was wondering when this would happen. My A woke up this am and didn't remember anything about last night. He begged me to stay with him as I am leaving for church. I said no and left....Please God fixed this problem, as he and I are hurting.

Rose · Rose

I am really feeling broken today and wondering "Can you really ever have a happy marriage with your A"? Right now I have such a hate for him and how much he has hurt me over the years, I just can't see any type of relationship with him. I was looking back yesterday at when I first joined MIP and I ca...

John · John

The Al-Anon Message Board Decision Meeting Mailing list, which you can sign up to recieve is located at the top of this message board page. The purpose of this mailing list is so that those who want to be informed of our decision meeting schedule, whats on the agenda for those meetings and the results o...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

It looks as though by the end of June I will be divorced from my AH; we've been married for 36 years. We have been separated since his last DUI in Nov. 2009. I'm so ready to be legally detached from him, even though I'm concerned that he might drink and drive again, resulting in a fatality. Being legal...

shannah · shannah

Hi, I am so drained after a six month relationship with an alcoholic that I missed my first al anon meeting I had intended to go to. I have never dealt with an alcoholic before so my question my sound really naive to those of you who have the experience. My boyfriend would call me in his after bar hours, waki...

Acatnip · Acatnip

AH has been estranged from his children and family for years, for which it was explained to me because of his drinking and controlling manner. I reached out to his only remianing son that would speak to him when AH began his binging and first suicide attempt. I sought out some help from him and to make him...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

Take a deep breath Feels like your choking Everything is broken.. Bob Dylan These are a few lines from one of my favorite Dylan songs, it expresses exactly how I feel at this moment. I feel so low, I know I shouldn't be disappointed when my A son does what comes n...

John · John

A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based on past experiences.An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.A loss of interest in judging other people.A loss of interest in judging self.A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others.A loss of interest in confli...

moonchild · moonchild

Hi Everyone, Just wanted to touch base with all about Ason. He is out of hosiptal and now in a 6 month program with the Salvation Army... He is very excited to start a new life. A sober life. I told him one day at a time. I let go and let HP take control .... Now I can sleep knowing that my son is in a safe place. T...

maresie · maresie

This last weekend someone I don't really know went off on me. In the past I would have spent a lot of time wondering why someone did that. Now that I have boundaries I have a good idea when to pull the plug. I also would have really personalized the attack. I don't do that anymore. I spent years in purga...

Rodney2009 · Rodney2009

I finelly made it thanks to my sponsor and the program and my home Group

Rodney2009 · Rodney2009

sorry all for the confusions I just been so angry and up set here and I guess I should of signed up for the AA room. Anyhow I will shut up for now Rodney I hope to come back. I had suicidal ideas last night and said this on face book as well.thanks to a reletive who called me talked me out of this.

DreamXL · DreamXL

Those were words I heard from alot of people in my life. The problem with that was that if it were true I was in serious trouble. I reached a point where I was just not willing to take that as truth. I knew something was very wrong with my attraction, misplaced loyalty, and downright broken heartedness...

maresie · maresie

I think the biggest change for me in recent years is not only the boundary issue. What I have stopped doing is thinking any alcoholic can understand me, meet my emotional needs or have empathy for me. I've spent decades trying to convert alcoholics and trying to squeeze out something from active alc...

Love Always Hopes · Love Always Hopes

This is my first week of exploring this website or even really learning what al-anon is all about. There are two themes I'm hearing that I have questions about. Hopefully, you will understand that I am not trying to argue but really just want to answer the honest question that pops up in my heart... 1...

Rose · Rose

Hi all, I haven't posted much but I read a lot of the messages and just want to scream at the world that the majority of the posts are exactly what I am feeling. This is a great place to come to know that you are not alone in this world. So my story continues.......my AH is still drinking. Can't seem to make it...

Jozie · Jozie

What Day... THAT Day :) I sat down at my kitchen table, 10 years ago today... I sat down & wrote a letter to My Grandma in heaven... I wanted to share a piece of it with you... "I can sit down here & I can write my memories of her: Her memory will live with me forever, along with her STRENGTH, her C...

Acatnip · Acatnip

AH has been hitting the bottle pretty hard, starting early yesterday with much drama as evident by my last post. He keeps telling me he loves me but I know he loves the bottle more. So today, left AH at home and spent the day with my daughter. I missed a call from him and he left a message saying he was "...

Gailey · Gailey

has just arrived. I am so excited but will not get to meet her until 4/17. We will be leaving for Japan that day. Her name is Julia and they have waited a long time for a baby. What a joy!!!!!

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

My AH is half way through his treatment. I am more confused now more than ever. I have been talking to him almost nightly since he went in. Some things are really troubling me... I'm thoroughly enjoying him being gone. I like that I can do what I want and don't have to even think about what he is doing. I li...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Hi All. Just feeling down. My dear father died a week ago in hospital. They rang but I live 2 hours away and didn't get there in time. He would have been 89 next month and he has been ill for some time so in some ways it was a relief and a release for him. At last he is in peace. I have spent the last 2 days sorting ou...

Rodney2009 · Rodney2009

I am still struggling here re my family still using I cant seam to get a sponsor face to face for this program what is your advice thanks Rod from Canada

hotrod · hotrod

Hi Everyone It seems strange that there has been no new posts on this board in several hours . I was unable to attend last nights meeting, as I could not connect to the chat room Just wondering about the results. Hope everyone has a great day

loss a family member · Rodney2009

I have had desire to drink in the past while thank God i did not do it but please keep me in prayers thanks Rod

Karilynn · Karilynn

To all of my MIP that celebrates Passover this week, I wish you much joy & blessings. Enjoy the celebration. Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

hotrod · hotrod

Good Morning Everyone A few weeks ago we decided to post a Step a week on the Step Board. We did begin with Step One and since it has been 2 weeks since the last post I have Posted my experience with Step 2 on the Step Board. I would love to read your experience with this Step Thanks

rachweb · rachweb

What the heck is it about weekends? I don't get it. My husband and I pass in the night all week long and when Thursday night comes Dr. Jekyll starts to appear. Our weekends and holidays SUCK. Like I have mentioned before, my husband's drinking is not active all the time, in fact, he has not gotten drun...

babysteps · babysteps

Thank God for this website. My AH and I have been separated for 15 months. He has lived 4 hours away from me and our daughter since separating. He was/is a chronic alcoholic. He has seen our daughter for holidays, long weekends once a month, and five weeks last summer. He has only come to our town once sinc...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi Everyone, I have been to weekend convention this weekend and had a very strange experience. I asked my Hp before I left to help me to keep the focus on me. The convention is called new beginnings and I wanted to really start to focus on my recovery. My sober ABF was attending the convention also and a...

Acatnip · Acatnip

AH checked himself in last night for a voluntary three day hold to get help. I do not know if he did it to quit drinking or to prevent another suicide attempt. I was not home and he sought out his son to assist him. As a result, I have no idea what to expect. I am planning to move out and am fearful that they are go...

fingersxd · fingersxd

Hi. I'm new on here and hope to benefit from your advice and posts and to 'let off some steam' if I'm honest!! My 44 yr old sister ... married with 3 kids ... is an alcoholic and has been for years. She spent 6 weeks in a clinic on a de-tox programme 5 years ago and spent a considerable time sober. I took her...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

Hi Everybody, You have all encouraged me. My husband relapsed 3 weeks ago and I have gone through alot of soul searching and prayer. After reading all the posts on this board and the inspiring messages, I decided to go to an Al-Anon meeting after being absent for over a year. I am so glad I went!!!! It w...

weggie · weggie

Another lonely night thinking where is he. My A just came home awhile ago and of course...drunk. ..As he passed out on the bed, I cried out to my God "Plese take him or me, I can't take this anymore." I must have cried out for 1/2 hour repeating the same words to God..." Please, him or me,,...

CharlieDog · CharlieDog

I am currently sitting at home with my ten month old baby. Monday I pick my AH from rehab. I am such a ball of stress, I do not know what to do, where to go, how to act. I have seen him twice since he went in. I like the guy I have talked to. I just don't know him and I don't trust ANY of it. Logically, in my head I t...

rachweb · rachweb

Well, I am new to Al-Anon and brand new to this site. I just stumbled upon it. I could really use some advice/help. My first Al-anon meeting was Thursday, March 11. I felt invincible after the meeting. I loved it. I felt a bit sad when I got home and couldn't share any of what I learned with my husband....

Hurt Nurse · Hurt Nurse

My boyfriend of 1 year is an alcoholic. A month ago he called me and said "I think we need to take a break, I need to work on myself" Up to this point his drinking went from drinking on weekends to drinking every night. So I gave him his space, thinking maybe he was going to get help. But now I find ou...

xter · xter

my AH moved out and i immediately took up with someone else. another A. it was all physical at first. i thought i deserved it, i thought i could handle it and keep my emotions out of it. but then i stopped going to al anon, and i fell head over heels for this guy. he was great at first. of course. but the p...

xter · xter

ex ABF showed up to a work event with his pregnant wife last night and i feel so low because of it. my apartment is a mess and i have no time to clean until tomorrow after my meeting and i feel so guilty about it. there's so much to do at the office, i'm overwhelmed. i was crying this morning already and i'm reac...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hey Gang, Been a long time since I have been able to get here. HALT ... I am not hungry or angry, I am lonely and tired. Full time work, 3/4 time school and that leaves enough time to sleep and play with the moostiff. My apologies for not being here to give back as much as I have recieved. It re-entered my head t...

farmgirlmay · farmgirlmay

My AH and I have been separated for the last year, he just recently spent 30 days in rehab after totalling his car on Valentines. About 2 weeks ago I learned that he had been having a year long affair with a former student of his who is all of 22 now (he is twice that age). My son and I visited him in treatment a...

sdisnie · sdisnie

The past week I've been struggling with missing the ex AH. This surprises me in a way because there was quite awhile that I felt ok with him being gone. However.....this time last year, he was sober and things were pretty good. He had been sober from the fall on (2008) after being hospitalized for bi...

Love Always Hopes · Love Always Hopes

Hi I'm new here. And new to Al-Anon. Actually, I've never even been to a meeting. I am in a committed relationship with an alcoholic. When we met, he had completed a full year in-house recovery program. Last June he started drinking occasionally and now is full blown drunk most of the time. Befor...

weggie · weggie

I have been away from Alaon for whatever reason, work, family, no time, I thought I could handle it myself. etc..I have been reading all the lit on Alaon with some great results for myself. I am starting back with my f to f meeting on Wed. I am going thru a bad time with my A as I really think he has reached ro...

maybethistime · maybethistime

Long (10 year relationship) story in a shortened version... We met and I fell head over heels for his passion, anger and screw you attitude. We partied A LOT. Our relationship was tumultous from the start. Lots of fighting that accompained the drinking. He asked me to marry him. While planning the...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, When I first started my posts almost four years ago, I had come out of a terrible dilemma with one of my brothers. He had taken me for a complete rid for about 7 months and I was very upset when we fell out. However, it forced me to address issues that I had with my family situation and my life improve...

Bettina · Bettina

Just some thoughts, now that I have reached the ripe young age of 64 its kind of freeing. Looking back over my life, I took some turns that I would like to do over, but glad Im where I am at and have few regrets. Im divorced from the xah that I was married too for 26 years and would you believe I even managed to...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I am needing to vent. Things have been going very well for me. I have been focusing on me and taking care of me as never before. It has been a while since I have allowed myself to obsess about somthing that I have almost forgot what the hampster wheel sounded like, but the hampster is back and he is spi...

Hurt Nurse · Hurt Nurse

I must say what an eye opener it was for me. I wish I would have been going through out the entire relationship. But now I know I can start working on healing myself even if he isn't going to get help for himself.

lindseymommyof2 · lindseymommyof2

Hi- I am just...lost, My Afiance has been dry for 2 months now and this is like a rollercoaster ride! I can't help but have so much anger and try to keep things in when the kids are around. I just don't know how to NOT be angry. I am trying to be happy around him, but it just crumbles-every little thing sets hi...

Acatnip · Acatnip

So I got up this morning, took care of the dogs, grabbed a cup of coffee, made note that 1/2 bottle of vodka missing since late last night and headed back to the guest room I am staying in. AH's dog (who prefers to stay with me when he is drinking) had opened his bedroom door and went in (it was cracked enough...

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	Hooks......I think I swallowed it this time!! UGH!! (Preview) My STB ex-AH called yesterday afternoon and what did I do?? Oh no, I didn't hit reject or just ignore the call, yes, I answered it!! Why?? I have NO idea. Maybe I wanted to see what the fisherman was up to this time or I was feeling lonley, abandoned, afraid and whatever contact I could have was better...	farmgirlmay	4	956	Apr 2, 2010 by Jerry F
	What might happen... (Preview) When he/she (alcoholic) is in recovery and attending to their own growth and I am not. This is something China woke me up to; an experience I use to witness in the past (Don't focus on it now) and have seen happen in the area I got into recovery. The alcoholic got sober and grew, often very well, in recove...	Jerry F	10	834	Apr 2, 2010 by Tracy
	broken hearted (Preview) I have been in a yo-yo relationship with an alcoholic for a year and 1/2. He is an amazing man when sober. He is a successful builder, intelligent, passionate, caring, romantic, is always thinking of me, treats me like a princess and rocks my world. When he drinks... he becomes insecure and child...	daisygirl	5	1326	Apr 2, 2010 by maresie
	Hello, my name is Jennifer (Preview) and I am an addict addict. Otherwise known as an professional enabler, and codependent. I once thought I was as powerful as a savior, ready to take on the world of addictions, though not my own, caffeine is my friend ... just my A's or any of the A's in my life. I was a sounding board, knightess in tarnishe...	Jennifer	7	1215	Apr 2, 2010 by Jerry F
	Seeing AH tonight (Preview) Out of the blue my AH-separated filed for custody of our daughter, alimony and child support. He moved out 15 months ago to a town 4 hours away. Our daughter visits him as often as practical given the distance. I have been her primary caretaker since birth and she has lived with me since he left. I talked t...	babysteps	6	864	Apr 1, 2010 by Acatnip
	Not sure how to feel (Preview) Things have been going pretty well lately. Abf-sober has been making meetings, as have I. Working steps, trying to break old patterns and though there has been a bump or two along the way the last month or more, for the most part it's been a pretty "normal" time. Then yesterday happened. ...	lizzakiss	12	908	Apr 1, 2010 by AGO
	Frustrated disappointment (Preview) I have lost track of how many serious talks my A and I have had where he tells me his plan to stop drinking. I ask him what will be different this time and there is always some way that he appeals to the hope in me and I am happy and relieved and grateful and totally behind him - I'll plan the evenings so there's...	Love Always Hopes	12	851	Apr 1, 2010 by xeno59
	What to do next? (Preview) Hi, it has been a while since my last post. I finally moved out and doing very well. This summer is going to be two years. My Ex-A is been sober for a little more than a year. It looks like everything is going well. But it is me. I don't want to go back to him even though he is showing a great effort in keeping u...	China	6	1121	Apr 1, 2010 by Kiki52
	Hooks... (Preview) My soon to be ex-AH is still sending the hooks and i'm still a fish swimming in that pond!! Today was his payday so I sent an e-mail asking about money for myself and the kids. His response was he could spare $100 (after he has payed for all his own expenses) and that he "hoped" i understood he c...	farmgirlmay	6	881	Apr 1, 2010 by ythannah
	AH Home from Rehab, The Spiral Continues (Preview) Last night as I am trying to fall asleep, my Ah calls me to let me know he is home. And he is furious. He was told while in rehab that I had moved out. He was very angry that I had taken all my clothes, not just a few to tide me over. Then he procedes with the guilt trip on how horrible rehab was and how he was doing it...	Acatnip	8	1096	Apr 1, 2010 by ythannah
	Morning After (Preview) Well, I was wondering when this would happen. My A woke up this am and didn't remember anything about last night. He begged me to stay with him as I am leaving for church. I said no and left....Please God fixed this problem, as he and I are hurting.	weggie	4	672	Apr 1, 2010 by weggie
	Feel so broken (Preview) I am really feeling broken today and wondering "Can you really ever have a happy marriage with your A"? Right now I have such a hate for him and how much he has hurt me over the years, I just can't see any type of relationship with him. I was looking back yesterday at when I first joined MIP and I ca...	Rose	7	886	Apr 1, 2010 by Rose
	Message Board Mailing List (Preview) The Al-Anon Message Board Decision Meeting Mailing list, which you can sign up to recieve is located at the top of this message board page. The purpose of this mailing list is so that those who want to be informed of our decision meeting schedule, whats on the agenda for those meetings and the results o...	John	0	560	Mar 31, 2010 by John
	Soon Legally Unhitched, But Still Emotionally Attached (Preview) It looks as though by the end of June I will be divorced from my AH; we've been married for 36 years. We have been separated since his last DUI in Nov. 2009. I'm so ready to be legally detached from him, even though I'm concerned that he might drink and drive again, resulting in a fatality. Being legal...	GailMichelle	2	1026	Mar 31, 2010 by mon123
	Can someone behave totally different under the influence of alcohol (Preview) Hi, I am so drained after a six month relationship with an alcoholic that I missed my first al anon meeting I had intended to go to. I have never dealt with an alcoholic before so my question my sound really naive to those of you who have the experience. My boyfriend would call me in his after bar hours, waki...	shannah	10	1124	Mar 31, 2010 by shannah
	Why do they lie and when does the damage stop? (Preview) AH has been estranged from his children and family for years, for which it was explained to me because of his drinking and controlling manner. I reached out to his only remianing son that would speak to him when AH began his binging and first suicide attempt. I sought out some help from him and to make him...	Acatnip	10	1088	Mar 31, 2010 by kitty
	Everthing Is Broken (Preview) Take a deep breath Feels like your choking Everything is broken.. Bob Dylan These are a few lines from one of my favorite Dylan songs, it expresses exactly how I feel at this moment. I feel so low, I know I shouldn't be disappointed when my A son does what comes n...	DreamsOver	6	954	Mar 31, 2010 by DreamsOver
	Some signs and symptoms of inner peace: (Preview) A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based on past experiences.An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.A loss of interest in judging other people.A loss of interest in judging self.A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others.A loss of interest in confli...	John	9	1285	Mar 31, 2010 by kitty
	MY MIRACLE (Preview) Hi Everyone, Just wanted to touch base with all about Ason. He is out of hosiptal and now in a 6 month program with the Salvation Army... He is very excited to start a new life. A sober life. I told him one day at a time. I let go and let HP take control .... Now I can sleep knowing that my son is in a safe place. T...	moonchild	10	836	Mar 31, 2010 by Peggy7
	Progress. (Preview) This last weekend someone I don't really know went off on me. In the past I would have spent a lot of time wondering why someone did that. Now that I have boundaries I have a good idea when to pull the plug. I also would have really personalized the attack. I don't do that anymore. I spent years in purga...	maresie	4	1069	Mar 30, 2010 by maresie
	9 yrs and 3 months sober (Preview) I finelly made it thanks to my sponsor and the program and my home Group	Rodney2009	4	783	Mar 30, 2010 by Hoot Nanny
	my messages (Preview) sorry all for the confusions I just been so angry and up set here and I guess I should of signed up for the AA room. Anyhow I will shut up for now Rodney I hope to come back. I had suicidal ideas last night and said this on face book as well.thanks to a reletive who called me talked me out of this.	Rodney2009	5	927	Mar 30, 2010 by xeno59
	We cant help who we fall in love with ???? (Preview) Those were words I heard from alot of people in my life. The problem with that was that if it were true I was in serious trouble. I reached a point where I was just not willing to take that as truth. I knew something was very wrong with my attraction, misplaced loyalty, and downright broken heartedness...	DreamXL	12	774	Mar 30, 2010 by DreamXL
	Change (Preview) I think the biggest change for me in recent years is not only the boundary issue. What I have stopped doing is thinking any alcoholic can understand me, meet my emotional needs or have empathy for me. I've spent decades trying to convert alcoholics and trying to squeeze out something from active alc...	maresie	3	769	Mar 30, 2010 by kitty
	Questions on what I'm learning here (Preview) This is my first week of exploring this website or even really learning what al-anon is all about. There are two themes I'm hearing that I have questions about. Hopefully, you will understand that I am not trying to argue but really just want to answer the honest question that pops up in my heart... 1...	Love Always Hopes	10	984	Mar 30, 2010 by Love Always Hopes
	Back again - Lost and angry (Preview) Hi all, I haven't posted much but I read a lot of the messages and just want to scream at the world that the majority of the posts are exactly what I am feeling. This is a great place to come to know that you are not alone in this world. So my story continues.......my AH is still drinking. Can't seem to make it...	Rose	10	1005	Mar 29, 2010 by maresie
	Today is THAT Day... (Preview) What Day... THAT Day :) I sat down at my kitchen table, 10 years ago today... I sat down & wrote a letter to My Grandma in heaven... I wanted to share a piece of it with you... "I can sit down here & I can write my memories of her: Her memory will live with me forever, along with her STRENGTH, her C...	Jozie	2	927	Mar 29, 2010 by maresie
	What To Do?? Need Serious Advice (Preview) AH has been hitting the bottle pretty hard, starting early yesterday with much drama as evident by my last post. He keeps telling me he loves me but I know he loves the bottle more. So today, left AH at home and spent the day with my daughter. I missed a call from him and he left a message saying he was "...	Acatnip	9	1029	Mar 29, 2010 by maresie
	my new granddaughter....... (Preview) has just arrived. I am so excited but will not get to meet her until 4/17. We will be leaving for Japan that day. Her name is Julia and they have waited a long time for a baby. What a joy!!!!!	Gailey	8	843	Mar 29, 2010 by Rita G
	half way there (Preview) My AH is half way through his treatment. I am more confused now more than ever. I have been talking to him almost nightly since he went in. Some things are really troubling me... I'm thoroughly enjoying him being gone. I like that I can do what I want and don't have to even think about what he is doing. I li...	Sweet Stanley	4	678	Mar 29, 2010 by Kiki52
	Very down (Preview) Hi All. Just feeling down. My dear father died a week ago in hospital. They rang but I live 2 hours away and didn't get there in time. He would have been 89 next month and he has been ill for some time so in some ways it was a relief and a release for him. At last he is in peace. I have spent the last 2 days sorting ou...	Tattyhead	6	889	Mar 29, 2010 by ythannah
	dont belong here oviouselly (Preview) I am still struggling here re my family still using I cant seam to get a sponsor face to face for this program what is your advice thanks Rod from Canada	Rodney2009	9	1056	Mar 29, 2010 by Rodney2009
	Postings (Preview) Hi Everyone It seems strange that there has been no new posts on this board in several hours . I was unable to attend last nights meeting, as I could not connect to the chat room Just wondering about the results. Hope everyone has a great day	hotrod	2	770	Mar 29, 2010 by hotrod
	loss a family member (Preview) I have had desire to drink in the past while thank God i did not do it but please keep me in prayers thanks Rod	Rodney2009	8	958	Mar 29, 2010 by Rodney2009
	Happy Passover (Preview) To all of my MIP that celebrates Passover this week, I wish you much joy & blessings. Enjoy the celebration. Karilynn & Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	0	442	Mar 29, 2010 by Karilynn
	Step 2 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone A few weeks ago we decided to post a Step a week on the Step Board. We did begin with Step One and since it has been 2 weeks since the last post I have Posted my experience with Step 2 on the Step Board. I would love to read your experience with this Step Thanks	hotrod	3	754	Mar 29, 2010 by Jozie
	Why do Weekends SUCK???? (Preview) What the heck is it about weekends? I don't get it. My husband and I pass in the night all week long and when Thursday night comes Dr. Jekyll starts to appear. Our weekends and holidays SUCK. Like I have mentioned before, my husband's drinking is not active all the time, in fact, he has not gotten drun...	rachweb	8	962	Mar 29, 2010 by Bettina
	Ugly divorce (Preview) Thank God for this website. My AH and I have been separated for 15 months. He has lived 4 hours away from me and our daughter since separating. He was/is a chronic alcoholic. He has seen our daughter for holidays, long weekends once a month, and five weeks last summer. He has only come to our town once sinc...	babysteps	5	845	Mar 29, 2010 by Bettina
	Pain (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have been to weekend convention this weekend and had a very strange experience. I asked my Hp before I left to help me to keep the focus on me. The convention is called new beginnings and I wanted to really start to focus on my recovery. My sober ABF was attending the convention also and a...	Tracy	3	774	Mar 28, 2010 by Jerry F
	Rehab/3 day hold question (Preview) AH checked himself in last night for a voluntary three day hold to get help. I do not know if he did it to quit drinking or to prevent another suicide attempt. I was not home and he sought out his son to assist him. As a result, I have no idea what to expect. I am planning to move out and am fearful that they are go...	Acatnip	2	749	Mar 28, 2010 by Jerry F
	New here! (Preview) Hi. I'm new on here and hope to benefit from your advice and posts and to 'let off some steam' if I'm honest!! My 44 yr old sister ... married with 3 kids ... is an alcoholic and has been for years. She spent 6 weeks in a clinic on a de-tox programme 5 years ago and spent a considerable time sober. I took her...	fingersxd	10	947	Mar 28, 2010 by fingersxd
	My meeting after being absent over 1 year (Preview) Hi Everybody, You have all encouraged me. My husband relapsed 3 weeks ago and I have gone through alot of soul searching and prayer. After reading all the posts on this board and the inspiring messages, I decided to go to an Al-Anon meeting after being absent for over a year. I am so glad I went!!!! It w...	wifeofalcoholic	7	862	Mar 28, 2010 by Rodney2009
	Pray (Preview) Another lonely night thinking where is he. My A just came home awhile ago and of course...drunk. ..As he passed out on the bed, I cried out to my God "Plese take him or me, I can't take this anymore." I must have cried out for 1/2 hour repeating the same words to God..." Please, him or me,,...	weggie	4	860	Mar 28, 2010 by glad lee
	Don't Even Know Where to Start (Preview) I am currently sitting at home with my ten month old baby. Monday I pick my AH from rehab. I am such a ball of stress, I do not know what to do, where to go, how to act. I have seen him twice since he went in. I like the guy I have talked to. I just don't know him and I don't trust ANY of it. Logically, in my head I t...	CharlieDog	4	844	Mar 28, 2010 by ayjay
	I am New to Al-anon and could really use some help (Preview) Well, I am new to Al-Anon and brand new to this site. I just stumbled upon it. I could really use some advice/help. My first Al-anon meeting was Thursday, March 11. I felt invincible after the meeting. I loved it. I felt a bit sad when I got home and couldn't share any of what I learned with my husband....	rachweb	11	1037	Mar 27, 2010 by breezee
	New Here and God, do I need help (Preview) My boyfriend of 1 year is an alcoholic. A month ago he called me and said "I think we need to take a break, I need to work on myself" Up to this point his drinking went from drinking on weekends to drinking every night. So I gave him his space, thinking maybe he was going to get help. But now I find ou...	Hurt Nurse	11	954	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	haaaate myself (Preview) my AH moved out and i immediately took up with someone else. another A. it was all physical at first. i thought i deserved it, i thought i could handle it and keep my emotions out of it. but then i stopped going to al anon, and i fell head over heels for this guy. he was great at first. of course. but the p...	xter	14	1309	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	tough morning (Preview) ex ABF showed up to a work event with his pregnant wife last night and i feel so low because of it. my apartment is a mess and i have no time to clean until tomorrow after my meeting and i feel so guilty about it. there's so much to do at the office, i'm overwhelmed. i was crying this morning already and i'm reac...	xter	7	668	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Stinky thoughts on replay in my head (Preview) Hey Gang, Been a long time since I have been able to get here. HALT ... I am not hungry or angry, I am lonely and tired. Full time work, 3/4 time school and that leaves enough time to sleep and play with the moostiff. My apologies for not being here to give back as much as I have recieved. It re-entered my head t...	Jennifer	4	824	Mar 27, 2010 by Jennifer
	Crazy Making (Preview) My AH and I have been separated for the last year, he just recently spent 30 days in rehab after totalling his car on Valentines. About 2 weeks ago I learned that he had been having a year long affair with a former student of his who is all of 22 now (he is twice that age). My son and I visited him in treatment a...	farmgirlmay	9	1779	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Struggling lately with missing the A and maybe the chaos with it (Preview) The past week I've been struggling with missing the ex AH. This surprises me in a way because there was quite awhile that I felt ok with him being gone. However.....this time last year, he was sober and things were pretty good. He had been sober from the fall on (2008) after being hospitalized for bi...	sdisnie	4	1340	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	New & Possibly Unwise to Ignore ABF request by being here? (Preview) Hi I'm new here. And new to Al-Anon. Actually, I've never even been to a meeting. I am in a committed relationship with an alcoholic. When we met, he had completed a full year in-house recovery program. Last June he started drinking occasionally and now is full blown drunk most of the time. Befor...	Love Always Hopes	11	1019	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Starting Again (Preview) I have been away from Alaon for whatever reason, work, family, no time, I thought I could handle it myself. etc..I have been reading all the lit on Alaon with some great results for myself. I am starting back with my f to f meeting on Wed. I am going thru a bad time with my A as I really think he has reached ro...	weggie	4	865	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Newbie wondering if there is "too much water under the bridge" (Preview) Long (10 year relationship) story in a shortened version... We met and I fell head over heels for his passion, anger and screw you attitude. We partied A LOT. Our relationship was tumultous from the start. Lots of fighting that accompained the drinking. He asked me to marry him. While planning the...	maybethistime	10	3605	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Situation with my brother (Preview) Dear All, When I first started my posts almost four years ago, I had come out of a terrible dilemma with one of my brothers. He had taken me for a complete rid for about 7 months and I was very upset when we fell out. However, it forced me to address issues that I had with my family situation and my life improve...	maire rua	5	885	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Just Insights (Preview) Just some thoughts, now that I have reached the ripe young age of 64 its kind of freeing. Looking back over my life, I took some turns that I would like to do over, but glad Im where I am at and have few regrets. Im divorced from the xah that I was married too for 26 years and would you believe I even managed to...	Bettina	5	814	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Feeling Angry (Preview) Hi all, I am needing to vent. Things have been going very well for me. I have been focusing on me and taking care of me as never before. It has been a while since I have allowed myself to obsess about somthing that I have almost forgot what the hampster wheel sounded like, but the hampster is back and he is spi...	Mandy123	6	860	Mar 27, 2010 by ayjay
	I went to my first Al Anon meeting (Preview) I must say what an eye opener it was for me. I wish I would have been going through out the entire relationship. But now I know I can start working on healing myself even if he isn't going to get help for himself.	Hurt Nurse	9	706	Mar 27, 2010 by ayjay
	stuck, angry, question about housing (Preview) Hi- I am just...lost, My Afiance has been dry for 2 months now and this is like a rollercoaster ride! I can't help but have so much anger and try to keep things in when the kids are around. I just don't know how to NOT be angry. I am trying to be happy around him, but it just crumbles-every little thing sets hi...	lindseymommyof2	3	981	Mar 27, 2010 by DreamXL
	Sheriff is here, what a way to start the day (Preview) So I got up this morning, took care of the dogs, grabbed a cup of coffee, made note that 1/2 bottle of vodka missing since late last night and headed back to the guest room I am staying in. AH's dog (who prefers to stay with me when he is drinking) had opened his bedroom door and went in (it was cracked enough...	Acatnip	5	832	Mar 27, 2010 by Acatnip
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