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Tracy · Tracy

Hi Everyone, I have been to weekend convention this weekend and had a very strange experience. I asked my Hp before I left to help me to keep the focus on me. The convention is called new beginnings and I wanted to really start to focus on my recovery. My sober ABF was attending the convention also and a...

Acatnip · Acatnip

AH checked himself in last night for a voluntary three day hold to get help. I do not know if he did it to quit drinking or to prevent another suicide attempt. I was not home and he sought out his son to assist him. As a result, I have no idea what to expect. I am planning to move out and am fearful that they are go...

fingersxd · fingersxd

Hi. I'm new on here and hope to benefit from your advice and posts and to 'let off some steam' if I'm honest!! My 44 yr old sister ... married with 3 kids ... is an alcoholic and has been for years. She spent 6 weeks in a clinic on a de-tox programme 5 years ago and spent a considerable time sober. I took her...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

Hi Everybody, You have all encouraged me. My husband relapsed 3 weeks ago and I have gone through alot of soul searching and prayer. After reading all the posts on this board and the inspiring messages, I decided to go to an Al-Anon meeting after being absent for over a year. I am so glad I went!!!! It w...

weggie · weggie

Another lonely night thinking where is he. My A just came home awhile ago and of course...drunk. ..As he passed out on the bed, I cried out to my God "Plese take him or me, I can't take this anymore." I must have cried out for 1/2 hour repeating the same words to God..." Please, him or me,,...

CharlieDog · CharlieDog

I am currently sitting at home with my ten month old baby. Monday I pick my AH from rehab. I am such a ball of stress, I do not know what to do, where to go, how to act. I have seen him twice since he went in. I like the guy I have talked to. I just don't know him and I don't trust ANY of it. Logically, in my head I t...

rachweb · rachweb

Well, I am new to Al-Anon and brand new to this site. I just stumbled upon it. I could really use some advice/help. My first Al-anon meeting was Thursday, March 11. I felt invincible after the meeting. I loved it. I felt a bit sad when I got home and couldn't share any of what I learned with my husband....

Hurt Nurse · Hurt Nurse

My boyfriend of 1 year is an alcoholic. A month ago he called me and said "I think we need to take a break, I need to work on myself" Up to this point his drinking went from drinking on weekends to drinking every night. So I gave him his space, thinking maybe he was going to get help. But now I find ou...

xter · xter

my AH moved out and i immediately took up with someone else. another A. it was all physical at first. i thought i deserved it, i thought i could handle it and keep my emotions out of it. but then i stopped going to al anon, and i fell head over heels for this guy. he was great at first. of course. but the p...

xter · xter

ex ABF showed up to a work event with his pregnant wife last night and i feel so low because of it. my apartment is a mess and i have no time to clean until tomorrow after my meeting and i feel so guilty about it. there's so much to do at the office, i'm overwhelmed. i was crying this morning already and i'm reac...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hey Gang, Been a long time since I have been able to get here. HALT ... I am not hungry or angry, I am lonely and tired. Full time work, 3/4 time school and that leaves enough time to sleep and play with the moostiff. My apologies for not being here to give back as much as I have recieved. It re-entered my head t...

farmgirlmay · farmgirlmay

My AH and I have been separated for the last year, he just recently spent 30 days in rehab after totalling his car on Valentines. About 2 weeks ago I learned that he had been having a year long affair with a former student of his who is all of 22 now (he is twice that age). My son and I visited him in treatment a...

sdisnie · sdisnie

The past week I've been struggling with missing the ex AH. This surprises me in a way because there was quite awhile that I felt ok with him being gone. However.....this time last year, he was sober and things were pretty good. He had been sober from the fall on (2008) after being hospitalized for bi...

Love Always Hopes · Love Always Hopes

Hi I'm new here. And new to Al-Anon. Actually, I've never even been to a meeting. I am in a committed relationship with an alcoholic. When we met, he had completed a full year in-house recovery program. Last June he started drinking occasionally and now is full blown drunk most of the time. Befor...

weggie · weggie

I have been away from Alaon for whatever reason, work, family, no time, I thought I could handle it myself. etc..I have been reading all the lit on Alaon with some great results for myself. I am starting back with my f to f meeting on Wed. I am going thru a bad time with my A as I really think he has reached ro...

maybethistime · maybethistime

Long (10 year relationship) story in a shortened version... We met and I fell head over heels for his passion, anger and screw you attitude. We partied A LOT. Our relationship was tumultous from the start. Lots of fighting that accompained the drinking. He asked me to marry him. While planning the...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, When I first started my posts almost four years ago, I had come out of a terrible dilemma with one of my brothers. He had taken me for a complete rid for about 7 months and I was very upset when we fell out. However, it forced me to address issues that I had with my family situation and my life improve...

Bettina · Bettina

Just some thoughts, now that I have reached the ripe young age of 64 its kind of freeing. Looking back over my life, I took some turns that I would like to do over, but glad Im where I am at and have few regrets. Im divorced from the xah that I was married too for 26 years and would you believe I even managed to...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I am needing to vent. Things have been going very well for me. I have been focusing on me and taking care of me as never before. It has been a while since I have allowed myself to obsess about somthing that I have almost forgot what the hampster wheel sounded like, but the hampster is back and he is spi...

Hurt Nurse · Hurt Nurse

I must say what an eye opener it was for me. I wish I would have been going through out the entire relationship. But now I know I can start working on healing myself even if he isn't going to get help for himself.

lindseymommyof2 · lindseymommyof2

Hi- I am just...lost, My Afiance has been dry for 2 months now and this is like a rollercoaster ride! I can't help but have so much anger and try to keep things in when the kids are around. I just don't know how to NOT be angry. I am trying to be happy around him, but it just crumbles-every little thing sets hi...

Acatnip · Acatnip

So I got up this morning, took care of the dogs, grabbed a cup of coffee, made note that 1/2 bottle of vodka missing since late last night and headed back to the guest room I am staying in. AH's dog (who prefers to stay with me when he is drinking) had opened his bedroom door and went in (it was cracked enough...

John · John

Hello Everyone! As indicated at the top of this message board some changes have been made regarding how the message board will be regulated. All future decisions regarding the policies and proceedures related to the Message Board will be voted on by any registered member who wishes to participa...

sdisnie · sdisnie

For you old timers out there....who have since split with their A....can you tell me your story about life after the A....did they change, did they get better...worse...how was your relationship etc.... I just want to hear other stories.... Thanks

lacewing · lacewing

Hello fellow Al-Anoner's! Does anyone know of a website where the Blue Prints for Progress Step 4 book is available online? I am in need of a copy, or a book - if someone has an extra that they are willing to donate to me. I cannot afford a new copy and any that I have found on bid/buy sites, seem to have other...

CJ recovery · CJ recovery

"I married a wonderful man (wife) and he (she) turned into a 'xxxx'." How many of us have experienced that? Most, if not all. Did that person change? Perhaps, but probably not substantially. They still possess the attributes you loved- you just ignored the bad parts (and learned of t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

THANKS FOR THE SUGGESTION! I REALLY DO NEED TO DO THE 10TH STEP EVERY DAY! AND ALSO I HAVE A REAL RESENTMENT THAT I AM CURRENTLY DEALING WITH. USUALLY THE FOCUS IS ON ME. I GUESS I JUST NEED TO KEEP THAT FOCUS THERE. THANKS FOR GIVING A HOOT! KATHLEEN

NMW · NMW

Does anybody have any good ideas on how to go places where your ex is without it bothering you?

Destynee · Destynee

Drug addict H has been thrown out of his sober house. I didn't hear from him for 3 days until last night when he calls and says he's killing himself. I called 911 and gave me the last address I had but he had been thrown out. They couldn't find him. He called again and started blaming me for everything, h...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I posted yesterday about feeling angry about the possibility of an upcoming surgery. In the past when I was angry, sad, lonely....pretty much any overwhelming feeling I would turn to food. I would make mashed potatoes (lol I don't know why) and that was the best comfort food. Well I have been wo...

Rora · Rora

I've read your last post about your feelings about your soon to be exA. I've been chewing on it all night. I have had an attitude overhaul by you saying that at one time, the love that the A and you shared was the best of both of your lives. My exaH and I have been "together" for nearly 10 yrs - sep...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Been a while since I have been on here. Just wanted to give an update. Still working, still going to school and looking forward to summer. My ex AH is back in jail and calling me collect on my cell phone 2 or 3 times a day. ANNOYING. I guess because I let him stay for a few months he took that as he has a chan...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

SOMETIMES I FEEL SO SORRY FOR MYSELF FOR THE DECISIONS I MADE IN THE PAST. TODAY I HAD I BAD DAY! I GOT A NAP LIKE I HAD PLANNED BUT STILL FELT AWFUL. I BARKED AT MY HUSBAND. I COMPLAINED ABOUT AA & ALL THE SITUATIONS HE GETS INTO. I BASICALLY GOT INTO HIS BUSINESS & FOR ONCE IT WASN'T ALL ABOUT ME! AT...

kml26385 · kml26385

I just wanted to stop by and introduce myself. I am totally new to al-anon but I am feeling a deep need to learn how to handle the situation I am in. I have been with my alcoholic husband for ten years. He has been sober for four of the ten years. Recently his drinking has escalated to the point where he is d...

Cararuss · Cararuss

I have a friend whose family did an intervention and sent him to rehab. He was in a bad auto accident a few months ago due to alcohol and was recovering but starting to drink again so his family stepped in. He's 40 divorced with 3 kids. I never knew he had a "problem" and was always a laid back swee...

Alyana · Alyana

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Gailey · Gailey

What I read in C2C this morning was profound for me. It has really given me food for thought. My mother has the beginning stages of Alzhimer's disease. My son has the disease of Alcoholism. It is very frustrating to be around both of them at times. I love my mother and I love my son. They are my family. Woul...

Acatnip · Acatnip

So I mentioned I am planning to move and have taken steps to get a new place and started a new job. As I sit here studying in the bedroom I moved into to be able to get advanced work and more hours, I hear the familiar banging of AH stuck in the bathroom again. I check on him to find he is on the floor and sauced to t...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Al Anon cont. to help me in life. So much of it comes natural now. AH is still in prison, I filed for divorce the end of January. Have done all the paper work and not the court date is April 29,10. Feels great. For me it was the best thing to wait to be ready to do all this. I have no emotion for him at all. No longer...

ythannah · ythannah

I'm recognizing a pattern of emotional unavailability as a common denominator in my past partners, who were both alcoholics and non-alcoholics. Which, of course, mirrors what was familiar to me from my family of origin; seems to be what I'm comfortable with! But I never seem to be able to spot it...

kerry5 · kerry5

Again Tommorow Thursday at 9pm est is our Step/Tradition meeting> We will be on Tradition 12. I ask all oldtimers or some to come and join us and teach our new membes what the traditions mean to us and how we can use them in our lives. I would appeciate it . We need you! Thanks Kerry (aka Kerisha)

BEM · BEM

I think I was on here a couple of years ago but can't remember. I haven't been good about going to meetings and I thought I was doing o.k. - but in real denial. This has been one (very bad) year. We decided to move last year - my choice. So many things to list but summing it up my A cheated on me, got a DWI, and...

pricklypear · pricklypear

So here I am again. Thinking I can fix it.. the neverending substance abuse counselor who is great with her clients. My friend who has been in AA for the last 23 years says "draw the line...tell him to get help or go." Realize I pink slipped this guy two months ago because of suicidal behav...

AGO · AGO

Greetings to the MIP Alanon Board, I started reading here a few years ago when I began studying the effects of codependency in my life, but just read and didn't participate, for various reasons. However I read your (Moonchild) post recently and it tugged my heartstrings, but not being a parent, I felt...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

This week I had an experience that helped me understand how to detach and I wanted to share my ES&H. The Behaviors I learned Growing Up in An Alcoholic Home In the alcoholic family I grew up in, I developed a series of behaviors around crisis or perceived crisis. Whenever there was an upset, I drop...

jasobel · jasobel

Hi, my ex ABF is in a relationship with an abusive AGF. We have been apart for 4 months. This past week I guess I failed and took him in so he could leave the abusive relationship. I put him up at a hotel for a couple of nights until he could find a rental. His AGF abuses him verbally and emotionally when she dr...

Katy · Katy

Please come back, I miss you.Katyx

angelchar375 · angelchar375

I was devasted last year when I found out my husband is a heroine addict and had taken a lethal concoction of drugs and could have killed us all on our roadtrip to Mexico. I had been frustrated with his drug use and exhausted myself in trying to get him clean. He has dabbled with sobriety and a 12step progra...

evaangel · evaangel

I ended our 4 year marriage, 4 months ago, reason because of the violence and I the put downs that I suffered, I was with him for 12 years. My confidence is at a low, I still feel useless, unworthy, will I be ever free of these emotions and feelings. I attend Al anon meetings and find it fantastic, where I fee...

Destynee · Destynee

AH has moved out, happy he was to do it. He's seeing someone. And he lies constantly. Said he moved into a sober house but he didn't. Got an apartment for 485.00 a month with all utilities paid and took the vehicle that's paid off. I'm having such a problem not responding to his lies. Anyway, turns o...

bluebee · bluebee

Hi All, I've been doing some reflecting and I am feeling guilty about being an enabler to my exABF. We live in separate towns, but after our relationship got serious we decided that I would move back to my hometown (where he lives) after I finished my masters to start our lives together. I knew he was goin...

Carol_Lynn · Carol_Lynn

Carol Lynn, Alanon. Tonight's meeting had some wonderful topics and I could relate to all of them. Pain has always been one of the hardest things to cope with, physical or emotional. when I am in pain, that is all I think about. It is all I can do to try to think of others who are also in pain and it seems to m...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

This may seem like a strange question - over the years when my AH drinks, it's almost always on a Saturday night. My friends already have plans and there I am in the house getting distressed, isolated and sad. I have called a couple of friends when this has happened and when they are busy, it makes me m...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Well my son got out of jail on the 16th. Judge wanted to put him on house arrest where he would of had to wear a bracelet to monitor him. Son told judge he didn't have the money so judge let him out with restriction to stay in the house. That has not happened. He was out friday and then again yesterday. Bef...

freeagain · freeagain

My kids and I were sitting, waiting at a resturant. The waiter came over and said "Hi, my name is Mike and I am your waiter." My two alateens and I said "Hi Mike." and then waited in anticipation for him to begin his "story" LOL!!! A couple of seconds ticked by before the k...

Kellie Bovarro · Kellie Bovarro

I have been with my husband for almost six years now, we just got married in July and had our son in December. I have known that he's a drinker and that his father died because he was an alcoholic, but I didn't think that things would ever get this bad. My husband is not violant or anything when he's drunk,...

Acatnip · Acatnip

Not here, this has become my shelter from the storm. After another drama filled night that left me out after midnight seeking a hotel room just to get a few hours of much needed sleep, I am done here. I have had more drama in one week than I have had in the last ten years. In one week, it amazes me the things I ha...

cassidy2010 · cassidy2010

Hi everyone, I haven't been here in a while.I actually thought things were improving with my AH. Suprise!I was so happy thinking life is just beginning again and then boom.I come across something strange on my PC.Hmmm what's this ? Some things never change.He's been so sweet and willing to do whate...

bluebee · bluebee

Hi everyone. I am new here and I hope this is the right place for me to share. If not, please let me know. My boyfriend began rehab last week for alcohol addiction. Treatment is 6 months. As a result, he broke up with me. First of all, I was taken aside a bit. I knew he liked to drink a lot (it escalated in the las...

NMW · NMW

I broke up with my abf 4 months ago. Second time around, I thought I could handle it because I loved him. He is a good person. this time around I think the diease progressed. He wasnt' as attentive and somethings got short with me. He seemed angry, sad, depressed, and resentful. He got some bad news about s...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Pain (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have been to weekend convention this weekend and had a very strange experience. I asked my Hp before I left to help me to keep the focus on me. The convention is called new beginnings and I wanted to really start to focus on my recovery. My sober ABF was attending the convention also and a...	Tracy	3	670	Mar 28, 2010 by Jerry F
	Rehab/3 day hold question (Preview) AH checked himself in last night for a voluntary three day hold to get help. I do not know if he did it to quit drinking or to prevent another suicide attempt. I was not home and he sought out his son to assist him. As a result, I have no idea what to expect. I am planning to move out and am fearful that they are go...	Acatnip	2	680	Mar 28, 2010 by Jerry F
	New here! (Preview) Hi. I'm new on here and hope to benefit from your advice and posts and to 'let off some steam' if I'm honest!! My 44 yr old sister ... married with 3 kids ... is an alcoholic and has been for years. She spent 6 weeks in a clinic on a de-tox programme 5 years ago and spent a considerable time sober. I took her...	fingersxd	10	868	Mar 28, 2010 by fingersxd
	My meeting after being absent over 1 year (Preview) Hi Everybody, You have all encouraged me. My husband relapsed 3 weeks ago and I have gone through alot of soul searching and prayer. After reading all the posts on this board and the inspiring messages, I decided to go to an Al-Anon meeting after being absent for over a year. I am so glad I went!!!! It w...	wifeofalcoholic	7	774	Mar 28, 2010 by Rodney2009
	Pray (Preview) Another lonely night thinking where is he. My A just came home awhile ago and of course...drunk. ..As he passed out on the bed, I cried out to my God "Plese take him or me, I can't take this anymore." I must have cried out for 1/2 hour repeating the same words to God..." Please, him or me,,...	weggie	4	759	Mar 28, 2010 by glad lee
	Don't Even Know Where to Start (Preview) I am currently sitting at home with my ten month old baby. Monday I pick my AH from rehab. I am such a ball of stress, I do not know what to do, where to go, how to act. I have seen him twice since he went in. I like the guy I have talked to. I just don't know him and I don't trust ANY of it. Logically, in my head I t...	CharlieDog	4	769	Mar 28, 2010 by ayjay
	I am New to Al-anon and could really use some help (Preview) Well, I am new to Al-Anon and brand new to this site. I just stumbled upon it. I could really use some advice/help. My first Al-anon meeting was Thursday, March 11. I felt invincible after the meeting. I loved it. I felt a bit sad when I got home and couldn't share any of what I learned with my husband....	rachweb	11	953	Mar 27, 2010 by breezee
	New Here and God, do I need help (Preview) My boyfriend of 1 year is an alcoholic. A month ago he called me and said "I think we need to take a break, I need to work on myself" Up to this point his drinking went from drinking on weekends to drinking every night. So I gave him his space, thinking maybe he was going to get help. But now I find ou...	Hurt Nurse	11	872	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	haaaate myself (Preview) my AH moved out and i immediately took up with someone else. another A. it was all physical at first. i thought i deserved it, i thought i could handle it and keep my emotions out of it. but then i stopped going to al anon, and i fell head over heels for this guy. he was great at first. of course. but the p...	xter	14	1232	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	tough morning (Preview) ex ABF showed up to a work event with his pregnant wife last night and i feel so low because of it. my apartment is a mess and i have no time to clean until tomorrow after my meeting and i feel so guilty about it. there's so much to do at the office, i'm overwhelmed. i was crying this morning already and i'm reac...	xter	7	583	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Stinky thoughts on replay in my head (Preview) Hey Gang, Been a long time since I have been able to get here. HALT ... I am not hungry or angry, I am lonely and tired. Full time work, 3/4 time school and that leaves enough time to sleep and play with the moostiff. My apologies for not being here to give back as much as I have recieved. It re-entered my head t...	Jennifer	4	743	Mar 27, 2010 by Jennifer
	Crazy Making (Preview) My AH and I have been separated for the last year, he just recently spent 30 days in rehab after totalling his car on Valentines. About 2 weeks ago I learned that he had been having a year long affair with a former student of his who is all of 22 now (he is twice that age). My son and I visited him in treatment a...	farmgirlmay	9	1689	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Struggling lately with missing the A and maybe the chaos with it (Preview) The past week I've been struggling with missing the ex AH. This surprises me in a way because there was quite awhile that I felt ok with him being gone. However.....this time last year, he was sober and things were pretty good. He had been sober from the fall on (2008) after being hospitalized for bi...	sdisnie	4	1253	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	New & Possibly Unwise to Ignore ABF request by being here? (Preview) Hi I'm new here. And new to Al-Anon. Actually, I've never even been to a meeting. I am in a committed relationship with an alcoholic. When we met, he had completed a full year in-house recovery program. Last June he started drinking occasionally and now is full blown drunk most of the time. Befor...	Love Always Hopes	11	930	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Starting Again (Preview) I have been away from Alaon for whatever reason, work, family, no time, I thought I could handle it myself. etc..I have been reading all the lit on Alaon with some great results for myself. I am starting back with my f to f meeting on Wed. I am going thru a bad time with my A as I really think he has reached ro...	weggie	4	771	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Newbie wondering if there is "too much water under the bridge" (Preview) Long (10 year relationship) story in a shortened version... We met and I fell head over heels for his passion, anger and screw you attitude. We partied A LOT. Our relationship was tumultous from the start. Lots of fighting that accompained the drinking. He asked me to marry him. While planning the...	maybethistime	10	3097	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Situation with my brother (Preview) Dear All, When I first started my posts almost four years ago, I had come out of a terrible dilemma with one of my brothers. He had taken me for a complete rid for about 7 months and I was very upset when we fell out. However, it forced me to address issues that I had with my family situation and my life improve...	maire rua	5	805	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Just Insights (Preview) Just some thoughts, now that I have reached the ripe young age of 64 its kind of freeing. Looking back over my life, I took some turns that I would like to do over, but glad Im where I am at and have few regrets. Im divorced from the xah that I was married too for 26 years and would you believe I even managed to...	Bettina	5	737	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Feeling Angry (Preview) Hi all, I am needing to vent. Things have been going very well for me. I have been focusing on me and taking care of me as never before. It has been a while since I have allowed myself to obsess about somthing that I have almost forgot what the hampster wheel sounded like, but the hampster is back and he is spi...	Mandy123	6	784	Mar 27, 2010 by ayjay
	I went to my first Al Anon meeting (Preview) I must say what an eye opener it was for me. I wish I would have been going through out the entire relationship. But now I know I can start working on healing myself even if he isn't going to get help for himself.	Hurt Nurse	9	626	Mar 27, 2010 by ayjay
	stuck, angry, question about housing (Preview) Hi- I am just...lost, My Afiance has been dry for 2 months now and this is like a rollercoaster ride! I can't help but have so much anger and try to keep things in when the kids are around. I just don't know how to NOT be angry. I am trying to be happy around him, but it just crumbles-every little thing sets hi...	lindseymommyof2	3	906	Mar 27, 2010 by DreamXL
	Sheriff is here, what a way to start the day (Preview) So I got up this morning, took care of the dogs, grabbed a cup of coffee, made note that 1/2 bottle of vodka missing since late last night and headed back to the guest room I am staying in. AH's dog (who prefers to stay with me when he is drinking) had opened his bedroom door and went in (it was cracked enough...	Acatnip	5	759	Mar 27, 2010 by Acatnip
	Message Board Decision Meeting Sunday March 28th, @ 9pm est. (Preview) Hello Everyone! As indicated at the top of this message board some changes have been made regarding how the message board will be regulated. All future decisions regarding the policies and proceedures related to the Message Board will be voted on by any registered member who wishes to participa...	John	1	674	Mar 26, 2010 by John
	Old Timers...Tell me YOUR story about life after your A (Preview) For you old timers out there....who have since split with their A....can you tell me your story about life after the A....did they change, did they get better...worse...how was your relationship etc.... I just want to hear other stories.... Thanks	sdisnie	10	1389	Mar 26, 2010 by Jennifer
	Help with an Al-Anon Book, Please? (Preview) Hello fellow Al-Anoner's! Does anyone know of a website where the Blue Prints for Progress Step 4 book is available online? I am in need of a copy, or a book - if someone has an extra that they are willing to donate to me. I cannot afford a new copy and any that I have found on bid/buy sites, seem to have other...	lacewing	4	590	Mar 26, 2010 by lacewing
	Detachment for Rachweb (and others) (Preview) "I married a wonderful man (wife) and he (she) turned into a 'xxxx'." How many of us have experienced that? Most, if not all. Did that person change? Perhaps, but probably not substantially. They still possess the attributes you loved- you just ignored the bad parts (and learned of t...	CJ recovery	7	920	Mar 26, 2010 by rachweb
	JERRY F. (Preview) THANKS FOR THE SUGGESTION! I REALLY DO NEED TO DO THE 10TH STEP EVERY DAY! AND ALSO I HAVE A REAL RESENTMENT THAT I AM CURRENTLY DEALING WITH. USUALLY THE FOCUS IS ON ME. I GUESS I JUST NEED TO KEEP THAT FOCUS THERE. THANKS FOR GIVING A HOOT! KATHLEEN	Hoot Nanny	1	740	Mar 26, 2010 by Jerry F
	Party Saturday Night (Preview) Does anybody have any good ideas on how to go places where your ex is without it bothering you?	NMW	7	842	Mar 26, 2010 by kitty
	Trying so hard to work the program.... (Preview) Drug addict H has been thrown out of his sober house. I didn't hear from him for 3 days until last night when he calls and says he's killing himself. I called 911 and gave me the last address I had but he had been thrown out. They couldn't find him. He called again and started blaming me for everything, h...	Destynee	7	1179	Mar 26, 2010 by kitty
	Changed attitudes can aid recovery.....who knew :) (Preview) Hi all, I posted yesterday about feeling angry about the possibility of an upcoming surgery. In the past when I was angry, sad, lonely....pretty much any overwhelming feeling I would turn to food. I would make mashed potatoes (lol I don't know why) and that was the best comfort food. Well I have been wo...	Mandy123	5	1038	Mar 26, 2010 by maybethistime
	Thank you Debilyn.... (Preview) I've read your last post about your feelings about your soon to be exA. I've been chewing on it all night. I have had an attitude overhaul by you saying that at one time, the love that the A and you shared was the best of both of your lives. My exaH and I have been "together" for nearly 10 yrs - sep...	Rora	4	676	Mar 26, 2010 by NMW
	Update on me (Preview) Been a while since I have been on here. Just wanted to give an update. Still working, still going to school and looking forward to summer. My ex AH is back in jail and calling me collect on my cell phone 2 or 3 times a day. ANNOYING. I guess because I let him stay for a few months he took that as he has a chan...	carolinagirl	4	675	Mar 26, 2010 by ythannah
	I feel so I feel! (Preview) SOMETIMES I FEEL SO SORRY FOR MYSELF FOR THE DECISIONS I MADE IN THE PAST. TODAY I HAD I BAD DAY! I GOT A NAP LIKE I HAD PLANNED BUT STILL FELT AWFUL. I BARKED AT MY HUSBAND. I COMPLAINED ABOUT AA & ALL THE SITUATIONS HE GETS INTO. I BASICALLY GOT INTO HIS BUSINESS & FOR ONCE IT WASN'T ALL ABOUT ME! AT...	Hoot Nanny	1	706	Mar 25, 2010 by Jerry F
	Hello from a newbie. (Preview) I just wanted to stop by and introduce myself. I am totally new to al-anon but I am feeling a deep need to learn how to handle the situation I am in. I have been with my alcoholic husband for ten years. He has been sober for four of the ten years. Recently his drinking has escalated to the point where he is d...	kml26385	6	597	Mar 25, 2010 by kml26385
	What to expect when they get out of rehab??? (Preview) I have a friend whose family did an intervention and sent him to rehab. He was in a bad auto accident a few months ago due to alcohol and was recovering but starting to drink again so his family stepped in. He's 40 divorced with 3 kids. I never knew he had a "problem" and was always a laid back swee...	Cararuss	8	5015	Mar 25, 2010 by Kiki52
	Life Updates (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=34237870	Alyana	10	833	Mar 25, 2010 by Karilynn
	C2C 3/24 (Preview) What I read in C2C this morning was profound for me. It has really given me food for thought. My mother has the beginning stages of Alzhimer's disease. My son has the disease of Alcoholism. It is very frustrating to be around both of them at times. I love my mother and I love my son. They are my family. Woul...	Gailey	5	873	Mar 25, 2010 by Karilynn
	A long night ahead (Preview) So I mentioned I am planning to move and have taken steps to get a new place and started a new job. As I sit here studying in the bedroom I moved into to be able to get advanced work and more hours, I hear the familiar banging of AH stuck in the bathroom again. I check on him to find he is on the floor and sauced to t...	Acatnip	8	794	Mar 25, 2010 by Acatnip
	just stuff (o: (Preview) Al Anon cont. to help me in life. So much of it comes natural now. AH is still in prison, I filed for divorce the end of January. Have done all the paper work and not the court date is April 29,10. Feels great. For me it was the best thing to wait to be ready to do all this. I have no emotion for him at all. No longer...	Debilyn	10	928	Mar 25, 2010 by Katy
	Emotional Unavailability in A's (Preview) I'm recognizing a pattern of emotional unavailability as a common denominator in my past partners, who were both alcoholics and non-alcoholics. Which, of course, mirrors what was familiar to me from my family of origin; seems to be what I'm comfortable with! But I never seem to be able to spot it...	ythannah	11	1198	Mar 24, 2010 by ythannah
	Calling All Older timers Again :) (Preview) Again Tommorow Thursday at 9pm est is our Step/Tradition meeting> We will be on Tradition 12. I ask all oldtimers or some to come and join us and teach our new membes what the traditions mean to us and how we can use them in our lives. I would appeciate it . We need you! Thanks Kerry (aka Kerisha)	kerry5	0	579	Mar 24, 2010 by kerry5
	needing support (Preview) I think I was on here a couple of years ago but can't remember. I haven't been good about going to meetings and I thought I was doing o.k. - but in real denial. This has been one (very bad) year. We decided to move last year - my choice. So many things to list but summing it up my A cheated on me, got a DWI, and...	BEM	4	741	Mar 24, 2010 by Bettina
	I AM SO STUBBORN (Preview) So here I am again. Thinking I can fix it.. the neverending substance abuse counselor who is great with her clients. My friend who has been in AA for the last 23 years says "draw the line...tell him to get help or go." Realize I pink slipped this guy two months ago because of suicidal behav...	pricklypear	6	752	Mar 24, 2010 by kitty
	To Moonchild (Preview) Greetings to the MIP Alanon Board, I started reading here a few years ago when I began studying the effects of codependency in my life, but just read and didn't participate, for various reasons. However I read your (Moonchild) post recently and it tugged my heartstrings, but not being a parent, I felt...	AGO	10	636	Mar 24, 2010 by moonchild
	Work It Your Worth It: How I Used Detachment to Maintain My Serenity This Week (Preview) This week I had an experience that helped me understand how to detach and I wanted to share my ES&H. The Behaviors I learned Growing Up in An Alcoholic Home In the alcoholic family I grew up in, I developed a series of behaviors around crisis or perceived crisis. Whenever there was an upset, I drop...	BlueCloud	6	630	Mar 24, 2010 by blender_girl
	Alcoholism and Abuse (Preview) Hi, my ex ABF is in a relationship with an abusive AGF. We have been apart for 4 months. This past week I guess I failed and took him in so he could leave the abusive relationship. I put him up at a hotel for a couple of nights until he could find a rental. His AGF abuses him verbally and emotionally when she dr...	jasobel	4	631	Mar 24, 2010 by DreamXL
	Shelly 123! (Preview) Please come back, I miss you.Katyx	Katy	0	572	Mar 24, 2010 by Katy
	It's been over a year now and I still see the same patterns (Preview) I was devasted last year when I found out my husband is a heroine addict and had taken a lethal concoction of drugs and could have killed us all on our roadtrip to Mexico. I had been frustrated with his drug use and exhausted myself in trying to get him clean. He has dabbled with sobriety and a 12step progra...	angelchar375	5	829	Mar 24, 2010 by Rora
	I have left the alcoholic but why has the alcoholic not left me!! (Preview) I ended our 4 year marriage, 4 months ago, reason because of the violence and I the put downs that I suffered, I was with him for 12 years. My confidence is at a low, I still feel useless, unworthy, will I be ever free of these emotions and feelings. I attend Al anon meetings and find it fantastic, where I fee...	evaangel	10	722	Mar 23, 2010 by saltire
	Do I create a crisis when I'm in a crisis? (Preview) AH has moved out, happy he was to do it. He's seeing someone. And he lies constantly. Said he moved into a sober house but he didn't. Got an apartment for 485.00 a month with all utilities paid and took the vehicle that's paid off. I'm having such a problem not responding to his lies. Anyway, turns o...	Destynee	4	1094	Mar 23, 2010 by Jerry F
	Feeling guilty about exABF (Preview) Hi All, I've been doing some reflecting and I am feeling guilty about being an enabler to my exABF. We live in separate towns, but after our relationship got serious we decided that I would move back to my hometown (where he lives) after I finished my masters to start our lives together. I knew he was goin...	bluebee	3	667	Mar 23, 2010 by Jerry F
	trying to detach (Preview) Carol Lynn, Alanon. Tonight's meeting had some wonderful topics and I could relate to all of them. Pain has always been one of the hardest things to cope with, physical or emotional. when I am in pain, that is all I think about. It is all I can do to try to think of others who are also in pain and it seems to m...	Carol_Lynn	5	607	Mar 23, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	Any ideas of where I can go when AH is drunk? (Preview) This may seem like a strange question - over the years when my AH drinks, it's almost always on a Saturday night. My friends already have plans and there I am in the house getting distressed, isolated and sad. I have called a couple of friends when this has happened and when they are busy, it makes me m...	wifeofalcoholic	12	927	Mar 23, 2010 by kitty
	HELP - HELP - HELP!!!!! (Preview) Well my son got out of jail on the 16th. Judge wanted to put him on house arrest where he would of had to wear a bracelet to monitor him. Son told judge he didn't have the money so judge let him out with restriction to stay in the house. That has not happened. He was out friday and then again yesterday. Bef...	fishinmama	8	648	Mar 22, 2010 by Debilyn
	unconsciously alanon (Preview) My kids and I were sitting, waiting at a resturant. The waiter came over and said "Hi, my name is Mike and I am your waiter." My two alateens and I said "Hi Mike." and then waited in anticipation for him to begin his "story" LOL!!! A couple of seconds ticked by before the k...	freeagain	8	761	Mar 22, 2010 by Mandy123
	I just don't know what to do anymore (Preview) I have been with my husband for almost six years now, we just got married in July and had our son in December. I have known that he's a drinker and that his father died because he was an alcoholic, but I didn't think that things would ever get this bad. My husband is not violant or anything when he's drunk,...	Kellie Bovarro	10	826	Mar 22, 2010 by ythannah
	Throwing in the Towel (Preview) Not here, this has become my shelter from the storm. After another drama filled night that left me out after midnight seeking a hotel room just to get a few hours of much needed sleep, I am done here. I have had more drama in one week than I have had in the last ten years. In one week, it amazes me the things I ha...	Acatnip	10	730	Mar 22, 2010 by Acatnip
	Duped yet again (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't been here in a while.I actually thought things were improving with my AH. Suprise!I was so happy thinking life is just beginning again and then boom.I come across something strange on my PC.Hmmm what's this ? Some things never change.He's been so sweet and willing to do whate...	cassidy2010	3	667	Mar 22, 2010 by RLC
	New here. Need help please - ex in rehab (Preview) Hi everyone. I am new here and I hope this is the right place for me to share. If not, please let me know. My boyfriend began rehab last week for alcohol addiction. Treatment is 6 months. As a result, he broke up with me. First of all, I was taken aside a bit. I knew he liked to drink a lot (it escalated in the las...	bluebee	12	681	Mar 22, 2010 by bluebee
	Any Ideas???? (Preview) I broke up with my abf 4 months ago. Second time around, I thought I could handle it because I loved him. He is a good person. this time around I think the diease progressed. He wasnt' as attentive and somethings got short with me. He seemed angry, sad, depressed, and resentful. He got some bad news about s...	NMW	9	622	Mar 22, 2010 by NMW
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