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weggie


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Well, I was wondering when this would happen.  My A woke up this am and didn't remember anything about last night. He begged me to stay with him as I am leaving for church.  I said no and left....Please God fixed this problem, as he  and I are hurting. 



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 "I can't take it anymore. You said if I ask you anything in your name, you would do it.   Please take him, cure him, or take me. ""

((weggie))) so glad you are with us !  I remember saying those words and the feelings that went with them.  It took me a while to realize that I was the one that needed to be cured...I started to pray for that...I had reached a point where something had to change as god cant cure people who dont want to be cured and I was ready as I had hit my bottom........blessings , keep coming back and thank you.

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As an A, the only thing that made me want to change was facing the consequences of what I had been doing.  Staying and loving, hugging, excusing his behavior is not going to make him want to change.  He has to suffer the consequences.

You did wonderfully, even though it didn't feel good.  Read my signature.  You can do those 3 things and still be loving - you can do anything and everything through love.  Even if it is tough love.

Please keep coming back,

Tricia

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DreamXL


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Thank you for the reminders :) blessings :)

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weggie


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Good Morning to all,  Thank you for all your concers and some ideas as to what to do and how to handle my situation.  Today my A said he doesn't want me to react when he has his bouts with Achol.  He said all he wanted me to do when he got home on Sunday AM  is to hold him and I went  to church and left him as he said he was so lonely and distraut as he didn't remember anything about the night or how he got home.  I told him I have been there for 40 years and I am not going anywhere but he has to take care of himself and I have to take care of me and that  I can't help him  as I have tried.  The weekend is coming and the kids will be over for Easter, hope this weekend is enjoyable..But I will be.....thanks

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