AH Home from Rehab, The Spiral Continues - Al-Anon Family Group

Acatnip · Veteran Member

AH Home from Rehab, The Spiral Continues

DreamXL · Senior Member

Hi Catnip..
I am sorry your going thru this but it does sounds like you are doing whats best for you. I dont know about your question if you going thru ptsd, but I do know that I have been traumatized by the craziness of an alcholic on more than one occassion. Like your post is titled..."the spiral continues" ...I sounds like stepping back and trying to clear your head is a good idea. The insanity of these situations got me as crazy as the alcholic. Do what you need to do for you ..no matter what that is..glad your with us...blessings

RLC · ~*Service Worker*~

You keep taking care of yourself. If your AH went to rehap for you ---He went for the wrong reason. Next time he should go for himself !! Don't "fall" into his guilt trip---instead "fall" back on your program, and turn him over to HP.

HUGS,
RLC

P.S. Acatnip, I don't think you are suffering form PTSS--- your suffering from TDCA-----"The disease called alcoholism"---I suffer from the same disease !!

-- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 31st of March 2010 10:57:43 AM

Rita G · ~*Service Worker*~

hate you didn't get much rest last nite - that can make for a stressful day today -

Have you ever heard the expression "Arguing with a quacking Pine Tree?"

Sounds like he was quacking like a duck last nite and you would have been better talking to the Pine Tree in the front yard - lol

Please know I'm not trying to discount your pain or stress - just trying to help you smile thru a difficult situation - been there, done that -

Please take special care of YOU today - it's been some really rough days for you - you need the TLC - for me at these times I needed lots of self-care and recovery oriented stuff.

Oh and I might would look at another option for an alarm clock - cause he's probably going to keep doing what he always has done - if we want something different we have to be willing to try something different - turning the phone off is hard - i struggling with doing that - but maybe u can so u can get the rest u deserve!
HUGS,
Rita

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

hugs hon. had to say I finally got to the point that I did not care what they say, just did not matter. It was what they did that showed me the truth.

If this is your landline you can block him from calling. I agree, get an alarm clock etc.

There are good message services you can get on your phone in case of an emergency.

For me this was poison and I did all I could to avoid it. I even had to put everything in my son's name to avoid my AH's crazy methed out sister!

I am glad you got out of there and are taking care of you! Love,debilyn

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

PTSS is of course one of the syndrome from those who have lived with the
disease. Program, sponsor, counseling, etc...there's hope. You've done
real good and will do better as you practice, practice, practice. In support.
(((((hugs))))) smile

Acatnip · Veteran Member

Thanks again guys for all the support. I does help to know others can identify and I am not out of my mind.

AH filled my voice mail with ramblings all day, expressing his displeasure that each message had a limited time to record. A few veiled, vague threats of never seeing him again, etc, etc. All things are qiuet now, praise be to God.

I did find an alarm clock and decided that if and when he calls, I will tell him he gets one call a day and only before 9pm. At that time, I will shut it off for the evening.

Had a pleasant evening with DD- cutting grass and grilling out. How is that for taking care of myself?

Jennifer · ~*Service Worker*~

Hello,

I was diagnosed if that is technically what it is called with PTSD while and after leaving my xah. In counseling I rationalised it as
Post-After
Trauma-Yes, no explanation needed here for that
Stress-Lots of that too
Disorder-Out of order
It pretty much described my whole being at that time. In some ways it helps to have a name to call whatever it is I experienced. And Jerry pretty much covered it all, program, counseling, sponsor, self care, laughter helps alot.

Jen

ythannah · Senior Member

Sorry that happened to you, Acatnip. I know I'm always more vulnerable emotionally when I'm sleep-deprived, so take extra good care of yourself.

Phone calls from the XABF always unnerved me too. I didn't (wouldn't!) live with either of mine and felt like my own home was my escape, my safe place. And those phone calls would be like violations of my precious sanctuary -- like I couldn't get away, he could still reach me and invade that space.

I got call blocking put on my line. Well worth the extra $4 a month to preserve my peace! Of course, it wasn't foolproof as it couldn't prevent him from calling from another number if he was out partying, but I could block that one right afterward and he'd only get one call in.

Technology is a wonderful thing. biggrin

I'm old enough to remember a time when there was no such thing as caller ID or call blocking, and phones were hard-wired so you couldn't even unplug them from the jack.

-- Edited by ythannah on Thursday 1st of April 2010 08:54:21 AM

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