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Allee · Allee

My husband has been sober for 24 years. However, due to a recent back injury a few years ago he became addicted to pain medication. Addiction is addiction regardless of the drug. The same ugly cycle started all over again, the lies, the bills not being paid, him not working, the irresponsibility. ...

lyndebi · lyndebi

Essgee sparked something for me. Yesterday I woke up feeling horrible. Very down, depressed, dreams about my dead husband, and mother etc. I physically feel ill. shakey. know I cannot be around people. Had a lovely NOT my disablility symptom happen. My head just cannot soften anything. Why am I even...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

A little over 5 years ago I fell in love. Come to find out one of "her" favorite words is freedom. I thought that it applied for the step I was taking in my life so I too adopted it as my favorite word. Every time, I said it, typed it, thought about it. I smiled. My heart felt happy cause it reminded...

katfshh · katfshh

I reunited with an old boyfriend in Jan of this year. He was sober for 5 years, then started drinking again. Then this time he was sober for a year. He was going to AA meetings every day. Has a sponser. He told me how bad he needs to stay sober and how much he has been through. And how committed to his sobrie...

zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

My A-fiance is so good at telling me what I want to hear, especially when I'm so upset and he can see that I'm thinking about my future and my choices. How did he get to be so good at this? He tells me he loves me more than anything, that he doesn't like who he is, that he knows he needs to stop, that he's so grat...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! lol I fell better now. Boy has it been a day and some of it my own making and some I don't know. I have posted before about the ex boyfriend. Was an "A" in recovery and then relapsed in April and that is when things ended for us. Well at the end of A...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

For anyone that is in al-anon that has either been in AA first or gotten there afterward ... how do you know if your own alcohol consumption is a problem?

mclaughlin73 · mclaughlin73

Friends, I first want to say that I am so grateful for all the responses and welcomes to this website. My hope and steadfastness increased tremendously as I read each reply and message I got. Thank you very much, I can't explain how much I appreciate you all and this website. This awareness is so new to me...

mikeco · mikeco

Hi Everyone, I have not been to this board for a while. I have started coming back now that I have a little time at night. Both of my parents are Alcoholic. The disease goes back 4 generations in my family that I can easily trace, and probably further. Aunts, uncles, siblings, cousins. My family is a t...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I stepped out of my madness and reached out to a dear friend of mine who gave me some wonderful advice.. I realized some of the things I was doing wrong in the program I was taking on too much... I was practicing detachment, setting up boundaries,find my HP and focusing on myself (of course there is...

Hopeless · Hopeless

When does it end and when do they get it's not working anymore.... It's been a month since me and the A have been seperated and everything he says at this point is all lies = ( I'm almost offended that he thinks I'm that naive at this point... He called me at 7:15pm telling me he just got back from seeing an...

mclaughlin73 · mclaughlin73

Hi everyone, My name is Mike, and at the prodding of my therapist, I am going to get involved with my local Al-Anon meetings. I want to reach out to this community as well. I've read a few posts, and I like the how honest and expressive people are, and also that people respond with kindness, blunt truth, an...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

-Asked AH to leave almost 2 months ago. -We have managed to be civil with minor ups and downs until now. -He is accusing me of a lot of weird things: *After he found out I cancelled our sponsored child (I did this to save money...long story), he was furious. He tried to renew the sponsorship and hasn't hear...

Hopeless · Hopeless

It's amazing how such a simple act as calling your friend for a good laugh feels = ) I actually forgot that feeling since I was so consumed with the A and felt/prayed that him being in a good mood was my only way to happiness.... I'm so thankful for these little presents that I get ever now and then since I le...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha MIP Family....In a previous thread I spoke about a major relapse I had where I stepped way out of bounds on a complusive "fix binge" that took me by surprise (don't know why that is what I use to do on a regular basis with my very own alcoholic wife) and a couple of other people also. I did t...

Criket · Criket

Hello everyone,I went to the chat room but no one was there so I am coming here to "talk" as I am hurting so much. As some of you have read before I have been going through this awful stuff we go through with my daughter who is 33 and has 2 kids. She has almost lost them to the courts several times and...

FuzzyLogic · FuzzyLogic

I am sure this has to have come up in posts along the way. I cannot seem to locate a way to search so I figure I would post and maybe someone can shed some light on things. I am not a prude by any stretch of the imagination. I am however, clear on how I want to be treated. Respect is important to me. Sex is more emot...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I wrote earlier about how I struggle to detach myself from my ex-girlfriend (in recovery in AA) after she broke up with me about a month ago. We are still not speaking and I am in the space where I absolutely dont know how she is. Thats the first time since I met her more than three years ago. Although I am f...

angelbreeze127 · angelbreeze127

called the cops on my h yesterday over verbal abuse of our son... I am in a trance... VEry confused.. a mixture of emotions... part of me wants to beg him to change into waht I want and the other just feels incredibly sad. As it stands now he is moving on 6/12.

Aloha · Aloha

I attended a great birthday meeting tonight. It was great for me to get out. I could have found a million excuses not to go... I'm stressed, tired, I had worked earlier today at my second part-time job, then when to an exercise class... I had laundry to do at home, I should get my lunches ready for the week....

RLC · RLC

My son is graduating from Law School tomorrow. He was six when his Mother and I were married. We hear lots of stories on this board about sons who have problems related to addiction or other problems, and my heart always goes out to them. But I felt I needed to to say something about my son, you notice I did...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

HAD A GOOD NIGHT LAST NIGHT. MY TOPS GROUP HAD WHAT WE CALL AN SRD & SINCE I REACHED MY GOAL 3 YEARS AGO, I GOT REINSTATED AFTER REGAINING & TAKING OFF POUNDS SENSIBLY--THAT IS WHAT TOPS STANDS FOR: TAKE OFF POUNDS SENSIBLY! I GOT ALL DECKED OUT WITH A 100 DOLLAR DRESS WHICH SEEMS EXCESSIVE BUT I FE...

maresie · maresie

I am finding that self pity is my alcohol. If I go into that space which I can very quickly as its almost a reflex I'm done for. I live around roommates who live, eat and sleep self pity and resent everything and everyone. Needless to say I once fit in very nicely with them since I blamed, resented and rai...

barisax · barisax

She will be soon. DramaGoddess needs all the prayers she can get now. All that bipolar and alcoholic blood in her has been coming to a boil the past year. She slowly climbs back to reality, but as she nears a chance to come home, she slips back into psychotic breaks. Mom is hanging in there but she nee...

essgee1952 · essgee1952

I was having a bad morning of arguments about money with my AH, and Carol Burnett happened to come on a morning talk show with Bonnie Hunt. They talked about Carol's daughter, Carrie Hamilton, who as you may know died of cancer at 38 (after overcoming multiple addictions, BTW). She told a story about...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I am really not sure where this thread is going to go. I am just going to get in the car and see where it takes me. I have a nagging voice in the back of my head and sometimes just hearing her out is the only way I can get her to shut up. I have had an up and down week emotionally and what it all comes down to rea...

Aloha · Aloha

After two years of really not knowing where I wanted to go in my relationship with my AH after discovering he'd been cheating on me and hiding a sexual identity issue, I've finally decided it's time. I actually reached a decision that "enough was enough" during a counseling session with hi...

My Three Things Org · My Three Things Org

Hi! I'm Kimberly with the My Three Things Organization. Website: http://MyThreeThings.org My step-father was an alcoholic. I grew up watching him physically abuse and verbally shame my mother. I know firsthand how difficult it is when someone close to you has an addiction. It takes a lot of courag...

Hopeless · Hopeless

http://religion.blogs.cnn.com/2010/05/20/what-makes-people-happy/?hpt=C2

Hopeless · Hopeless

I'm up for a promotion which is a good thing but I also know the position I'm in personally (just starting the program and dealing the A) and it scares me! I need to focus more on myself I'm making that promise to myself and for my kids!!! I want them to see their mother happy = ) This will be huge for me, s...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I am new to this site. I have read a lot of the messages here and I am hoping that it will help me too. My AH has been to rehab 3 times and is attending AA meetings but still "slips" quite regularly. He has quite a few medical issues that have been going on for years now. (We have been married 32 y...

Hopeless · Hopeless

It's beautiful out today = ) I feel a lot better after the online meeting last night (thanks, Kitty)... Today the focus is BACK on ME.... * I have this thing with crows the scare me for some reason, lol... I was walking the puppy this morning and I saw a crow flying away with a little bird chasing it as i...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((((((((((((((Friends)))))))))))))))))))), Well finally i have moved forward to make a new start in my life. I am actually going back to school....it's offical...got my letter of acceptance today....wow...mind blowing for me. Here I sit 49, widow and guess what it's ok....amazing what...

angelbreeze127 · angelbreeze127

I read one of the last responses from this morning's post and I felt AGAIN as though I had done something wrong. I refer to him as a loser becasue I am so ripped to shreds from the last 13 years of life with him. His abusive vulgar name calling and pushing of my teen daughter, his verbally abusive namecalli...

tkyater2003 · tkyater2003

how does evevryone go on and live and all how do the ones that have signifant other stay with thier partners how do we do it go on day after day day after day yes i knew when i got with him he drank and all but how does one go on

Hopeless · Hopeless

In previous post I've explained the situation with my daughter having seizures, hospital visits and doctors appts... I've had to take a lot of time off of work (we just merged with another company so I have to apply for my position again).. Of course when it rains it pours - My daughters sitter h...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

Thank you all for giving me the encouragement I need right now. My AS has been gone for several days and that can only mean one thing, I don't know where he is but my HP does, I pray I can keep that in my thoughts so that I can go on and do the things that I need to do for my family and myself. My other son that has Au...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi Family, AGO's thread on the hardware store really got me thinking. Which is sometimes a scary thing. Right before lunch I had an IM from a friend who is in AA and struggling. He has had a few relapses and is sitting at about a week without drinking and working his steps again. I sometimes struggle with w...

lindadianne · lindadianne

Hi I ave just joined this site and I'm having difficulties with boundries of where my responsibiliy to help ends ,and how to know how much to give to others time energy and money wise? It seems such a hard thing for me to work out. I come from a family of 12 and my father was either a very heavy drinker or an...

AGO · AGO

So I go to The Hardware Store.....I walk in...look around, the place is HUGE, I am in Heaven!!!!. They have plants, tools, every kitchen appliance known to man, sodas, candy bars....I wander around for hours like a kid in a candy store, this place has everything I will ever need. I walk up to the teller,...

RandomSparkles · RandomSparkles

I need to ask how do you move on from the anger and heartache? My husband was sober for almost 2 decades and then fell off the wagon for 18 months. He now has over 100 days sober. His drinking and legal problems which were brought on by his behaviour while drinking has cost us so much emotionally and finan...

FuzzyLogic · FuzzyLogic

Sorry this is so long and may contain TMI. I am so damn sick of being told that everything I do is wrong. The entire time we have been together I have been mean to him. All the millions of little things he seeks out to justify attacking me or putting me down. My sanity is beyond questionable at this point. The...

RLC · RLC

I just found out this morning that I may have two Alcoholics in my home. I have known about the human A for 18 years now. But this morning I found two Natural Lite beer cans (my wifes drink of choice) chewed up in the computer room. My one year old Black Lab Ellie it seems has become addicted. I found all t...

zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

How do you know when it's time to leave your alcoholic loved one and begin a new life? When is enough enough? I've read that only you can know and it's different for every person, but it's something I've been thinking about for the last few weeks. I'm so burned out over my fiance's alcoholism, especia...

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

It's been a while since I posted. I've been working my program and steps as has the Abf-sober and we've been doing pretty well. bumps in the road here and there but who doesn't have them? My doc recently put me on Zoloft due to some mega job related stress and mild depression plus he feels I may have PMDD i...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I'm grateful for it; the program, and the people in it and for the recovery and growth. At times I'm even grateful for the hard work and as I remembered this morning before going to make my apology my early sponsor reminding me "liking it is optional". I don't like it when others come after m...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

So I saw my AH on thursday at his mom's birthday party and we agreed he couls come over to my house the next day. Once again he started talking about us getting back together, and finally I gave in. I say I gave in cause in the past I told him there was no chance in hell I would get back together with him until he...

reese7968 · reese7968

Hi everyone, I'm new to the board and I'm not sure how this works. I have been to face to face meetings before, but never online meetings or step work on a message board. Someone kindly referred me here and said that my father's brother would be Robert. lol So, would someone here mind pointing me to Robert...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I just wantit to go away = ( I'm so overwhelmed with the kids (my daughter being sick getting my son ready for a camping trip and taking the puppy to training classes) and the constant thought the whole time is the A is having a great old time, can come and go as he pleases and I have no help at all... BUT...

sirpher · sirpher

Here is the story, been with my AW for 15yrs, have two daughters 13 and 11. Her alcoholism started about 6yrs ago just after her gastric bypass. In this process, learned that she just swapped her addiction from food to alcohol. In the past two years, she has been in 3 different rehab places, 5 months in a h...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, Hmmmmm let's see if this thread turns out the way the subject makes it sound . I have stepped out of my comfort zone and volunteered to be the Al-anon co-chair for an AA function coming up in my area in September. It is an AA function with Al-anon participation. You want humor in your life....do...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I no longer want to be around people any longer. I can't handle the the "small things" that seems to be so important to other people, if their food order isn't just right, if the pens they ordered were blue instead of black, who left the light on in the room, my child got a "B" in chem...

Jozie · Jozie

ya know, its funny how HP can guide, and steer me thru life... I have been living in "Insanity" so long that at times it starts to feel normal all over again... I have learned some very valuable lessons here of late, and apparently HP felt the need to give me not one but Many lessons on Acceptanc...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I was writing on a post yesterday. Aparently I did everything right and got good responses Today, however I acted really fast on a thought that came to me. I texted my ex-alcoholic girlfriend to ask if we could get back together... What I wrote: "Good day. I know I'm not supposed to, but I had to sa...

angelbreeze127 · angelbreeze127

Fri nite, I stupidly drank MYSELF to try to get some intimacy after over a year from my ah... I guess I drank to forget he is a loser.. it didn't work and I got pissed and told him his 11 yr old son hates him.. whcih he has told me... so now, instead of addressing the issue of his inability to perform or WHY his s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am doing better! I did Ok on Sat. not so good on Sunday. Oh well...I will survive & yes, I am reaching out to others & still giving it away even though it sounds like it's "all about me" these days! sleep will always been an issue for me I have grown to accept. I really can't blame my hus...

Sgt_Pepper · Sgt_Pepper

I'm assuming every first post starts with a description of a messy situation so here is mine. My wife of almost 9 years is an binge alcoholic. Her rollercoaster ride has included a revolving door in and out of AA, 2 rehabs,6 weeks of weekend jail, a breathalyzer on our car for 2 years, 3 DUIs in MD, 2 DUI...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I've posted yesterday how my A is threatened by al anon by saying he thinks it is brainwashing me, etc... I get a text this morning telling me the person he is staying with got drunk last night and came after him.... 2 things came to mind 1) now you know how I feel and 2) your really trying hard to get my a...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Duh!! ...It's a compulsion of the mind dang it!! Repeat that 1000 times and practice it twice that amount. Oh I had wonderful aim and I knew it was gonna hurt and be a mangled mess but I was compulsed to do it and stay in it until he (an alcoholic with a personality bent) got it!! I tried. I gave him all t...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Went to a funeral yesterday. He was one of my AH's best friends through high school. He would come to our house often to party but once my 2 children were like 6 and 3, I told my AH that it was him or us. I couldn't have that going on all the time with two small children. After that, we didn't see him much. At th...

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	Second Chance ? (Preview) My husband has been sober for 24 years. However, due to a recent back injury a few years ago he became addicted to pain medication. Addiction is addiction regardless of the drug. The same ugly cycle started all over again, the lies, the bills not being paid, him not working, the irresponsibility. ...	Allee	2	907	May 28, 2010 by Allee
	I am two people (Preview) Essgee sparked something for me. Yesterday I woke up feeling horrible. Very down, depressed, dreams about my dead husband, and mother etc. I physically feel ill. shakey. know I cannot be around people. Had a lovely NOT my disablility symptom happen. My head just cannot soften anything. Why am I even...	lyndebi	12	875	May 28, 2010 by lyndebi
	FREEDOM (Preview) A little over 5 years ago I fell in love. Come to find out one of "her" favorite words is freedom. I thought that it applied for the step I was taking in my life so I too adopted it as my favorite word. Every time, I said it, typed it, thought about it. I smiled. My heart felt happy cause it reminded...	seekingserenity	1	933	May 27, 2010 by Jerry F
	New here, can't stop crying (Preview) I reunited with an old boyfriend in Jan of this year. He was sober for 5 years, then started drinking again. Then this time he was sober for a year. He was going to AA meetings every day. Has a sponser. He told me how bad he needs to stay sober and how much he has been through. And how committed to his sobrie...	katfshh	13	1029	May 27, 2010 by katfshh
	For the first time I stopped hearing my A and instead heard the quacking! (Preview) My A-fiance is so good at telling me what I want to hear, especially when I'm so upset and he can see that I'm thinking about my future and my choices. How did he get to be so good at this? He tells me he loves me more than anything, that he doesn't like who he is, that he knows he needs to stop, that he's so grat...	zhotdogs99	9	900	May 27, 2010 by Aloha
	Manipulations (Preview) Hi all, AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! lol I fell better now. Boy has it been a day and some of it my own making and some I don't know. I have posted before about the ex boyfriend. Was an "A" in recovery and then relapsed in April and that is when things ended for us. Well at the end of A...	Mandy123	7	843	May 27, 2010 by maresie
	Double winners question (Preview) For anyone that is in al-anon that has either been in AA first or gotten there afterward ... how do you know if your own alcohol consumption is a problem?	White Rabbit	8	1613	May 27, 2010 by barisax
	Need wisdom and experience (Preview) Friends, I first want to say that I am so grateful for all the responses and welcomes to this website. My hope and steadfastness increased tremendously as I read each reply and message I got. Thank you very much, I can't explain how much I appreciate you all and this website. This awareness is so new to me...	mclaughlin73	9	881	May 27, 2010 by kitty
	Hi everyone (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have not been to this board for a while. I have started coming back now that I have a little time at night. Both of my parents are Alcoholic. The disease goes back 4 generations in my family that I can easily trace, and probably further. Aunts, uncles, siblings, cousins. My family is a t...	mikeco	6	582	May 26, 2010 by mikeco
	Insight = ) (Preview) I stepped out of my madness and reached out to a dear friend of mine who gave me some wonderful advice.. I realized some of the things I was doing wrong in the program I was taking on too much... I was practicing detachment, setting up boundaries,find my HP and focusing on myself (of course there is...	Hopeless	3	883	May 26, 2010 by Andrea12
	LIES, LIES and MORE LIES!!! (Preview) When does it end and when do they get it's not working anymore.... It's been a month since me and the A have been seperated and everything he says at this point is all lies = ( I'm almost offended that he thinks I'm that naive at this point... He called me at 7:15pm telling me he just got back from seeing an...	Hopeless	11	1131	May 25, 2010 by Melissa21
	Coming to grips... (Preview) Hi everyone, My name is Mike, and at the prodding of my therapist, I am going to get involved with my local Al-Anon meetings. I want to reach out to this community as well. I've read a few posts, and I like the how honest and expressive people are, and also that people respond with kindness, blunt truth, an...	mclaughlin73	10	883	May 25, 2010 by Jennifer
	Is his behaviour common-or am I really insane?! (Preview) -Asked AH to leave almost 2 months ago. -We have managed to be civil with minor ups and downs until now. -He is accusing me of a lot of weird things: *After he found out I cancelled our sponsored child (I did this to save money...long story), he was furious. He tried to renew the sponsorship and hasn't hear...	looking_for_peace	10	1179	May 25, 2010 by mon123
	A moment = ) (Preview) It's amazing how such a simple act as calling your friend for a good laugh feels = ) I actually forgot that feeling since I was so consumed with the A and felt/prayed that him being in a good mood was my only way to happiness.... I'm so thankful for these little presents that I get ever now and then since I le...	Hopeless	2	767	May 25, 2010 by lyndebi
	The amends continues. (Preview) Aloha MIP Family....In a previous thread I spoke about a major relapse I had where I stepped way out of bounds on a complusive "fix binge" that took me by surprise (don't know why that is what I use to do on a regular basis with my very own alcoholic wife) and a couple of other people also. I did t...	Jerry F	13	1199	May 25, 2010 by Ness
	HURTING Again! (Preview) Hello everyone,I went to the chat room but no one was there so I am coming here to "talk" as I am hurting so much. As some of you have read before I have been going through this awful stuff we go through with my daughter who is 33 and has 2 kids. She has almost lost them to the courts several times and...	Criket	5	724	May 25, 2010 by Criket
	Sex issues---warning may not be for everyone to read (Preview) I am sure this has to have come up in posts along the way. I cannot seem to locate a way to search so I figure I would post and maybe someone can shed some light on things. I am not a prude by any stretch of the imagination. I am however, clear on how I want to be treated. Respect is important to me. Sex is more emot...	FuzzyLogic	21	1681	May 25, 2010 by idontknow
	Struggling, but doing so willingly (Preview) Hi I wrote earlier about how I struggle to detach myself from my ex-girlfriend (in recovery in AA) after she broke up with me about a month ago. We are still not speaking and I am in the space where I absolutely dont know how she is. Thats the first time since I met her more than three years ago. Although I am f...	Cosmos	7	897	May 25, 2010 by Cosmos
	cops (Preview) called the cops on my h yesterday over verbal abuse of our son... I am in a trance... VEry confused.. a mixture of emotions... part of me wants to beg him to change into waht I want and the other just feels incredibly sad. As it stands now he is moving on 6/12.	angelbreeze127	9	859	May 24, 2010 by Tattyhead
	Airing things out (Preview) I attended a great birthday meeting tonight. It was great for me to get out. I could have found a million excuses not to go... I'm stressed, tired, I had worked earlier today at my second part-time job, then when to an exercise class... I had laundry to do at home, I should get my lunches ready for the week....	Aloha	6	587	May 24, 2010 by Tattyhead
	Sharing about My Son (Preview) My son is graduating from Law School tomorrow. He was six when his Mother and I were married. We hear lots of stories on this board about sons who have problems related to addiction or other problems, and my heart always goes out to them. But I felt I needed to to say something about my son, you notice I did...	RLC	14	1292	May 24, 2010 by Jozie
	Yay! (Preview) HAD A GOOD NIGHT LAST NIGHT. MY TOPS GROUP HAD WHAT WE CALL AN SRD & SINCE I REACHED MY GOAL 3 YEARS AGO, I GOT REINSTATED AFTER REGAINING & TAKING OFF POUNDS SENSIBLY--THAT IS WHAT TOPS STANDS FOR: TAKE OFF POUNDS SENSIBLY! I GOT ALL DECKED OUT WITH A 100 DOLLAR DRESS WHICH SEEMS EXCESSIVE BUT I FE...	Hoot Nanny	5	720	May 24, 2010 by Hoot Nanny
	Self pity (Preview) I am finding that self pity is my alcohol. If I go into that space which I can very quickly as its almost a reflex I'm done for. I live around roommates who live, eat and sleep self pity and resent everything and everyone. Needless to say I once fit in very nicely with them since I blamed, resented and rai...	maresie	5	1767	May 24, 2010 by maresie
	The Drama Goddess at 16 (Preview) She will be soon. DramaGoddess needs all the prayers she can get now. All that bipolar and alcoholic blood in her has been coming to a boil the past year. She slowly climbs back to reality, but as she nears a chance to come home, she slips back into psychotic breaks. Mom is hanging in there but she nee...	barisax	8	923	May 24, 2010 by Rita G
	Loving My Life (At Least Trying...) (Preview) I was having a bad morning of arguments about money with my AH, and Carol Burnett happened to come on a morning talk show with Bonnie Hunt. They talked about Carol's daughter, Carrie Hamilton, who as you may know died of cancer at 38 (after overcoming multiple addictions, BTW). She told a story about...	essgee1952	11	930	May 23, 2010 by Andrea12
	Seeing my disease (Preview) Hi all, I am really not sure where this thread is going to go. I am just going to get in the car and see where it takes me. I have a nagging voice in the back of my head and sometimes just hearing her out is the only way I can get her to shut up. I have had an up and down week emotionally and what it all comes down to rea...	Mandy123	8	987	May 23, 2010 by Andrea12
	I've asked for a divorce. (Preview) After two years of really not knowing where I wanted to go in my relationship with my AH after discovering he'd been cheating on me and hiding a sexual identity issue, I've finally decided it's time. I actually reached a decision that "enough was enough" during a counseling session with hi...	Aloha	17	1265	May 23, 2010 by blender_girl
	Participation in Forgiveness Project! forgiveness healing let go love shame guilt my three things (Preview) Hi! I'm Kimberly with the My Three Things Organization. Website: http://MyThreeThings.org My step-father was an alcoholic. I grew up watching him physically abuse and verbally shame my mother. I know firsthand how difficult it is when someone close to you has an addiction. It takes a lot of courag...	My Three Things Org	0	6966	May 23, 2010 by My Three Things Org
	Found this interesting.... (Preview) http://religion.blogs.cnn.com/2010/05/20/what-makes-people-happy/?hpt=C2	Hopeless	4	872	May 22, 2010 by tlcate
	Big Change... (Preview) I'm up for a promotion which is a good thing but I also know the position I'm in personally (just starting the program and dealing the A) and it scares me! I need to focus more on myself I'm making that promise to myself and for my kids!!! I want them to see their mother happy = ) This will be huge for me, s...	Hopeless	4	843	May 21, 2010 by abbyal
	My Story (Preview) I am new to this site. I have read a lot of the messages here and I am hoping that it will help me too. My AH has been to rehab 3 times and is attending AA meetings but still "slips" quite regularly. He has quite a few medical issues that have been going on for years now. (We have been married 32 y...	Sweet Stanley	8	1060	May 21, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	New Day = ) (Preview) It's beautiful out today = ) I feel a lot better after the online meeting last night (thanks, Kitty)... Today the focus is BACK on ME.... * I have this thing with crows the scare me for some reason, lol... I was walking the puppy this morning and I saw a crow flying away with a little bird chasing it as i...	Hopeless	5	1078	May 21, 2010 by kitty
	Moving Forward (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Friends)))))))))))))))))))), Well finally i have moved forward to make a new start in my life. I am actually going back to school....it's offical...got my letter of acceptance today....wow...mind blowing for me. Here I sit 49, widow and guess what it's ok....amazing what...	Andrea12	15	856	May 20, 2010 by Andrea12
	I am sorry; but I am "mad" at some responses. (Preview) I read one of the last responses from this morning's post and I felt AGAIN as though I had done something wrong. I refer to him as a loser becasue I am so ripped to shreds from the last 13 years of life with him. His abusive vulgar name calling and pushing of my teen daughter, his verbally abusive namecalli...	angelbreeze127	21	1878	May 20, 2010 by tkyater2003
	have many questions (Preview) how does evevryone go on and live and all how do the ones that have signifant other stay with thier partners how do we do it go on day after day day after day yes i knew when i got with him he drank and all but how does one go on	tkyater2003	7	892	May 20, 2010 by tkyater2003
	Need to be STRONGER! (Preview) In previous post I've explained the situation with my daughter having seizures, hospital visits and doctors appts... I've had to take a lot of time off of work (we just merged with another company so I have to apply for my position again).. Of course when it rains it pours - My daughters sitter h...	Hopeless	7	891	May 19, 2010 by soxfan
	I Am So Grateful For This Board..... (Preview) Thank you all for giving me the encouragement I need right now. My AS has been gone for several days and that can only mean one thing, I don't know where he is but my HP does, I pray I can keep that in my thoughts so that I can go on and do the things that I need to do for my family and myself. My other son that has Au...	DreamsOver	7	949	May 19, 2010 by soxfan
	I can't give what I don't have (Preview) Hi Family, AGO's thread on the hardware store really got me thinking. Which is sometimes a scary thing. Right before lunch I had an IM from a friend who is in AA and struggling. He has had a few relapses and is sitting at about a week without drinking and working his steps again. I sometimes struggle with w...	Mandy123	7	951	May 19, 2010 by Andrea12
	Unclear boundry issues (Preview) Hi I ave just joined this site and I'm having difficulties with boundries of where my responsibiliy to help ends ,and how to know how much to give to others time energy and money wise? It seems such a hard thing for me to work out. I come from a family of 12 and my father was either a very heavy drinker or an...	lindadianne	11	1473	May 19, 2010 by lindadianne
	What is WRONG with Hardware Stores???? (Preview) So I go to The Hardware Store.....I walk in...look around, the place is HUGE, I am in Heaven!!!!. They have plants, tools, every kitchen appliance known to man, sodas, candy bars....I wander around for hours like a kid in a candy store, this place has everything I will ever need. I walk up to the teller,...	AGO	13	3902	May 19, 2010 by sirpher
	Where to start..... (Preview) I need to ask how do you move on from the anger and heartache? My husband was sober for almost 2 decades and then fell off the wagon for 18 months. He now has over 100 days sober. His drinking and legal problems which were brought on by his behaviour while drinking has cost us so much emotionally and finan...	RandomSparkles	5	932	May 19, 2010 by abbyal
	Can't do anything right. (Preview) Sorry this is so long and may contain TMI. I am so damn sick of being told that everything I do is wrong. The entire time we have been together I have been mean to him. All the millions of little things he seeks out to justify attacking me or putting me down. My sanity is beyond questionable at this point. The...	FuzzyLogic	6	1296	May 19, 2010 by FuzzyLogic
	Doggie Al-Anon ??? (Preview) I just found out this morning that I may have two Alcoholics in my home. I have known about the human A for 18 years now. But this morning I found two Natural Lite beer cans (my wifes drink of choice) chewed up in the computer room. My one year old Black Lab Ellie it seems has become addicted. I found all t...	RLC	10	1274	May 19, 2010 by aprilleaves
	How did you know when it was time to leave? (Preview) How do you know when it's time to leave your alcoholic loved one and begin a new life? When is enough enough? I've read that only you can know and it's different for every person, but it's something I've been thinking about for the last few weeks. I'm so burned out over my fiance's alcoholism, especia...	zhotdogs99	12	3763	May 19, 2010 by zhotdogs99
	Why can't emotional baggage get lost at baggage claim? (Preview) It's been a while since I posted. I've been working my program and steps as has the Abf-sober and we've been doing pretty well. bumps in the road here and there but who doesn't have them? My doc recently put me on Zoloft due to some mega job related stress and mild depression plus he feels I may have PMDD i...	lizzakiss	6	678	May 19, 2010 by blender_girl
	It's not required that you like it... (Preview) I'm grateful for it; the program, and the people in it and for the recovery and growth. At times I'm even grateful for the hard work and as I remembered this morning before going to make my apology my early sponsor reminding me "liking it is optional". I don't like it when others come after m...	Jerry F	7	960	May 19, 2010 by blender_girl
	Doing the right thing? (Preview) So I saw my AH on thursday at his mom's birthday party and we agreed he couls come over to my house the next day. Once again he started talking about us getting back together, and finally I gave in. I say I gave in cause in the past I told him there was no chance in hell I would get back together with him until he...	Priscilla83	3	822	May 18, 2010 by Jerry F
	New To Message Board (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new to the board and I'm not sure how this works. I have been to face to face meetings before, but never online meetings or step work on a message board. Someone kindly referred me here and said that my father's brother would be Robert. lol So, would someone here mind pointing me to Robert...	reese7968	4	883	May 18, 2010 by reese7968
	Have to let go of this ANGER! (Preview) I just wantit to go away = ( I'm so overwhelmed with the kids (my daughter being sick getting my son ready for a camping trip and taking the puppy to training classes) and the constant thought the whole time is the A is having a great old time, can come and go as he pleases and I have no help at all... BUT...	Hopeless	20	1096	May 18, 2010 by Hopeless
	New to the board - just needing support (Preview) Here is the story, been with my AW for 15yrs, have two daughters 13 and 11. Her alcoholism started about 6yrs ago just after her gastric bypass. In this process, learned that she just swapped her addiction from food to alcohol. In the past two years, she has been in 3 different rehab places, 5 months in a h...	sirpher	5	933	May 18, 2010 by sirpher
	Gettin Busy Al-anon Style (Preview) Hi family, Hmmmmm let's see if this thread turns out the way the subject makes it sound . I have stepped out of my comfort zone and volunteered to be the Al-anon co-chair for an AA function coming up in my area in September. It is an AA function with Al-anon participation. You want humor in your life....do...	Mandy123	7	1292	May 18, 2010 by RLC
	I Want To Withdraw From Everyday Life..... (Preview) I no longer want to be around people any longer. I can't handle the the "small things" that seems to be so important to other people, if their food order isn't just right, if the pens they ordered were blue instead of black, who left the light on in the room, my child got a "B" in chem...	DreamsOver	6	1147	May 18, 2010 by Ness
	One more time... (Preview) ya know, its funny how HP can guide, and steer me thru life... I have been living in "Insanity" so long that at times it starts to feel normal all over again... I have learned some very valuable lessons here of late, and apparently HP felt the need to give me not one but Many lessons on Acceptanc...	Jozie	4	599	May 17, 2010 by Jerry F
	Relsapse? (Preview) Hi I was writing on a post yesterday. Aparently I did everything right and got good responses Today, however I acted really fast on a thought that came to me. I texted my ex-alcoholic girlfriend to ask if we could get back together... What I wrote: "Good day. I know I'm not supposed to, but I had to sa...	Cosmos	8	540	May 17, 2010 by hotrod
	turned it around again (Preview) Fri nite, I stupidly drank MYSELF to try to get some intimacy after over a year from my ah... I guess I drank to forget he is a loser.. it didn't work and I got pissed and told him his 11 yr old son hates him.. whcih he has told me... so now, instead of addressing the issue of his inability to perform or WHY his s...	angelbreeze127	5	564	May 17, 2010 by maresie
	Update on me & my struggles (Preview) I am doing better! I did Ok on Sat. not so good on Sunday. Oh well...I will survive & yes, I am reaching out to others & still giving it away even though it sounds like it's "all about me" these days! sleep will always been an issue for me I have grown to accept. I really can't blame my hus...	Hoot Nanny	2	608	May 17, 2010 by Jerry F
	Big Big Mess... (Preview) I'm assuming every first post starts with a description of a messy situation so here is mine. My wife of almost 9 years is an binge alcoholic. Her rollercoaster ride has included a revolving door in and out of AA, 2 rehabs,6 weeks of weekend jail, a breathalyzer on our car for 2 years, 3 DUIs in MD, 2 DUI...	Sgt_Pepper	9	815	May 17, 2010 by sirpher
	Threatened by Al Anon... (Preview) I've posted yesterday how my A is threatened by al anon by saying he thinks it is brainwashing me, etc... I get a text this morning telling me the person he is staying with got drunk last night and came after him.... 2 things came to mind 1) now you know how I feel and 2) your really trying hard to get my a...	Hopeless	7	917	May 17, 2010 by Jozie
	So when it was done I'd blown my foot off!! (Preview) Duh!! ...It's a compulsion of the mind dang it!! Repeat that 1000 times and practice it twice that amount. Oh I had wonderful aim and I knew it was gonna hurt and be a mangled mess but I was compulsed to do it and stay in it until he (an alcoholic with a personality bent) got it!! I tried. I gave him all t...	Jerry F	11	897	May 17, 2010 by Jozie
	The reality of alcoholism (Preview) Went to a funeral yesterday. He was one of my AH's best friends through high school. He would come to our house often to party but once my 2 children were like 6 and 3, I told my AH that it was him or us. I couldn't have that going on all the time with two small children. After that, we didn't see him much. At th...	Sweet Stanley	5	1271	May 17, 2010 by mikeco
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