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So bf called me a stupid b**** a few days ago and am still hurt. After not talking for 2 days he tells me on a voicemail we need to talk when I get back home. I get home, no talk. I asked about it, he yells at me again.
Told him today I mine as well find myself another place to live and he can stay here. Told him I don't see a point staying together. All we do is argue. I'm blamed for everything and for today I have had enough.
Reading about dry drunk syndrome again really scared me. It was said that it's possible that they are about to drink again after displaying those extreme behaviors constantly.
All I wanted was a loving partner. One who can express his love towards me. I only hear "I love u" from him on a voicemail after an argument. I am starting to accept the fact that if we stay together it will always be the way it is today. I want more out of life.
I'm just very dissapointed today and don't see a future for us, I mean not a happy one. I don't know why he hangs on to me. So I'm venting today. It's nice to have someone listening without getting yelled at.
Yea dear like it is today? Sadly it gets worse! And ya know my thought is first they are sick so there is no trying to figure out an insane person.I believe they get nasty as they are spewing out the way "they" feel inside about themselves. Has nothing to do with us.
I put myself in others place as best as I can. So imagining feeling as awful as they do, I know in my case, my AH called me his rock. They have no foundation. I believe we are the buoy in their life, their true address.
Glad you came in and vented. good to see ya! debilyn
I hear totally what you are saying!! You do deserve more out of life and it's great that you realize that because we only get one! My A called me tonight to apologize for something stupid and i totally shut him down. I used the tools i have learned from here and some great reading material and i said you may be sorry but your actions/words are still unacceptable and i deserve to be treated better then i hung up the phone. It was so hard but you really need to show them that you will not tolerate that kind of behavior. You do deserve better!!
I can't get inside the alcoholics head but I do have compassion for their disease. It's a terrible disease and I can be thankful it only effects me from the outside and not the inside. My A sometimes seems to take her problems and anger caused by her disease out on me. Most of the time when this happens I am able to detach....not react, and give her the benefit of doubt, but not all the time, because I'm human. Life is short and even with the program there are two things I don't and will not tolerate....verbal abuse and unacceptable behavior There is no circumstance that calls for either in my book. I was taught to be respectful of others and expect the same in return.
I have no doubt the program I have seen evidenced in your posts on MIP that you are a considerate, understanding and respectful person. Take care of yourself first by not allowing anyone to treat you in that fashion, dry drunk syndrome or not, you deserve and are intitled to be treated with diginity and respect....disease be damned.
I'm like debilyn, I would never yell at you, but I will give you a BIG HUG, RLC
