Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

mimihtx · mimihtx

I am just at a loss. I've been debating joining this group for years, but always decided that my personal problems needed to stay behind closed doors. I don't know where to turn anymore... My boyfriend (we have lived together for 4 years- I have 2 children and he also has 2 children. We lost a baby of our ow...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Boundaries seem to be a big theme in my life as of late. We have a new lady in one of my woman's groups and well she just rubs me wrong. She asks persoanl questions and is just too nosy for me. What I am learning from her, is instead to give up any information I am not comfortable with and left feeling violated...

lightblue2 · lightblue2

After separating from my Ah a couple of months ago with quite alot of blame towards him. I am beginning to see that I have not been a happy or content person for quite some time. The home life was confusing for sometime, and I think that is the thing I will bear in mind when I try to make sense of where I am in m...

emmyboo2 · emmyboo2

I am feeling really strong right now because I have created a boundary and plan to stick with it. A little background: AH got arrested DUI, moved to parents house, went to rehab and did really well and we had made a recovery and reconciliation plan, got out of rehab and his parents have been enabling him s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is a pretty good day! I am not having as much trouble typing this as I was before. My arms & shoulders still hurt but I am getting along better. Thanks to all who prayed for me. I am going for a follow-up next Thurs. I hope it is only the medicine I have been taking that I stopped last Tues. I am actual...

daisy31 · daisy31

I recently heard this quote and it turned my world upside down for about a week. I have been able to go back to it time and time again and I realize just how much all of my "defending" has really only hurt me in my life. I still catch myself a lot in defense mode but the awareness is getting bette...

All I can be · All I can be

When to retreat? What can I do when I find myself up against someone that is: Angry, Drunk, High, Abusive, or requires conflict in their lives? Maybe it is best to just retreat. I can not negotiate with a terrorist or these mindsets. Serenity in these cases can be proportionate to the distance I am remov...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.Theodore Roosevelt

orchidlover · orchidlover

I know after dealing with a certain amount of stress exhaustion sets in. Its been over five years for me and I am still living hand to mouth after leaving the ex A. One of the reasons I feared leaving him was I knew it was going to be so hard. I didn't know it would carry on for so long. Even with working two j...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

QtipQtipQtipQtip! I had to let go of my power today. I keep grabbing hold. I don't think I have any power or control over my AH any longer. I feel pretty detached (with love) but where I am having trouble is at work with people. I keep getting invited to arguments, invited into gossip, and invited into s...

daisy31 · daisy31

Lately I have been really focusing on letting go of all of my pre conceived ideas about a HP that I was raised with and it has been so freeing (it is still a work in progress for sure). I am trying to just let go and not analyze too much of anything...and I tell you it feels absolutely amazing! I have been enj...

Nanauq · Nanauq

I guess one of the worse parts of my disease is that I get my feelings hurt too easily. I have always been like this, ever since a child - long before I ever realized I was an al-anon. This morning he told a stupid joke. "Stuff your wife and your dog in the trunk of your car and lock them in for a while. W...

Carly79 · Carly79

Hi all, I just spent an hour going through old posts and learning more about "detachment". It sounds like detachment is the way I've been dealing with my mother's drinking all along. I was feeling guilty for being able to walk away from it and leave her to it, while worrying about her safe...

amyefoy · amyefoy

My name is Amy and I have been in Al Anon before but not for a long time. I chose bad relationships....what I mean is I'm co-dependent. My father was an alcoholic and my last four relationships have been a disaster. My family hasnt spoken to me in two years this May....my mother, my sisters, and my 2 daugh...

sunnysmile · sunnysmile

Hi, everyone! I'm new to the board - a first time poster, but I've been silently visiting and reading the board daily for the past week or so. I've also been reading older posts you've all left as well (I think I've traveled back 'in time' with you all through your posts to at least November. If someone 'bu...

TLD · TLD

Well now I'm just angry, this just topped my levels of frustration. I get our television bill and there is 100.00 of pay per view. Hm, really hard to figure out what that is. He can't pitch in for any extra bill yet orders this!!! So, I left the bill on the counter with a total I need to be paid as it comes ou...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Thought some of you might appreciate this:

DadtoCandE · DadtoCandE

My wife has moved back in. We were talking the other night and she mentioned how she had felt deserted during her second stint at rehab which was preceded by an intervention. I now realize that interventions are really for the family and friends, you can't really force anyone into recovery. Back t...

pineapple · pineapple

My A had an accident two weeks ago while drinking. I told two people about his fall/injury. A third friend knew about it because she was here at the time. She helped me get A to the clinic and stayed with me while he was being treated. Yesterday I decided I deserved/NEEDED an outing. I went into town for a n...

surfgirl123 · surfgirl123

Is it a no-no to post on the AA message board site. I am curious sometimes to ask those on the other side of the coin things but don't know if that is appropriate? Anyone here do this or know if this is allowed or frowned upon?

Pushka · Pushka

Ok .. lol .. here is my little codependent self .. someone decides they are moving out. How long do I have to keep their stuff? Anything that is his I've stuck in trash bags. I've kept dirty clothes and clean clothes separate. It's not so simple that I can put it in a shed or put it in a garage. We have mic...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

So, on Saturday night AH has plans to attend a party with a bunch of buddies. They're his new tennis drinking buddies and it's an organized party downtown, about 20 miles south of our house. Anyway, I was actually hoping that he would do something stupid that night and that maybe he would see how his bi...

wantinganswers · wantinganswers

I am struggling with finding the strength to feel compassion for my AH...we are seperated and going through a divorce,,which he has decided to fight because well, yeah..he wants a divorce because im the cause of all his misery but he doesnt want to have to pay support..thats just crazy..he cant affor...

Pushka · Pushka

Well reality has set in and acceptance, panic and fear are starting to set in. I never thought of myself recently as someone who needed to be in a relationship and now I'm thinking OMGosh .. I think I am which scares the life out of me. My mom, .. God love her .. was in a relationship at all costs and I just ca...

daisy31 · daisy31

I was at the gym today and a lady I know came up to me and started talking about Jesus and how he is so wonderful. I was caught off guard because I am really in a place right now where I am not focusing on any religion. In fact, I am trying to shed all of the past trauma that happened to me as a child to do with the rel...

Carly79 · Carly79

Hi, I'm glad I found this board and I'm hoping someone will be able to relate to my problem. I am the child of alcoholic parents. Was going to go into my whole life story, but really, it's irrelevant and won't help me deal with my problem NOW, which is my mother. She's always been a drinker, and I got pregn...

Annalise13 · Annalise13

I am a newcomer to Al-Anon; my fiance is a recovering alcoholic who is 3 months sober. The man and I have been together for four years, living together 2+ years and his drinking has been destructive and problematic, for some degree for the whole relationship, but seriously a problem for the last 1-2 yea...

stefani74 · stefani74

Anyone's A's have problems with meds they've been put on while trying to quit drinking? When my ABF went into rehab they put him on three different meds to help with the trembling and anxiety and depression. So after he gets home he goes to see his regular physican and he keeps him on them. Well after a w...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

I am not sure if this is Al Anon related. I posted it on the ACA site but I have realised that many of you guys here have also done the ACA steps so thought you may have some ESH for me as you may not be on the ACA board. I have not been coping as well with the last psych session as I did the previous. It is only today...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I had my annual physical last week and just got my lab results back. You know, it's one thing to think you are getting better, but it's even more when you KNOW you are getting better. My blood pressure, cholesterol, blood glucose, triglycerides and weight are all the best levels they have been in the las...

Iris lover of dogs · Iris lover of dogs

Hello all, I've read this word - deflection - a number of times on a bunch of different posts in the last few days, and I want to know more about people's experiences with it! You see, for years, I think I haven't recognized it. I think I have been a sponge that automatically soaks up guilt. In my rela...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

Ok, this could be a lightening rod of a subject, but I am genuinely curious... Do most people assume that the Higher Power is Christian? I see and hear a LOT of allusions to this in meetings, and just take what I like and leave the rest. I do that on here as well... I am sharing on step 7 tomorrow and it is a toug...

Ariel · Ariel

I welcome any words of wisdom. I've been living with an AB for 4 years. We have a son together who is almost 3. It's a long story. When we met, I was going through a divorce from a very nice man- I just wasn't in love and thought I could find a fairy tale. I found a nightmare. I was single for a year before I met my A...

pineapple · pineapple

This has been a tough day for me. I've been here at least half a dozen times today. As well as reading my literature and saying the serenity prayer. My A has been drunk for the last three days. Constantly. Around the clock. He admitted to me today that he knows he is drinking himself to death and doesn't car...

1 day at a time · 1 day at a time

find myself questioning balance.with the hours i work i can get to about meeting about once a week.last night i didnt want to go to meeting i just wanted to spend time with my recovering ah.between us working,kids and meetings i feel myself being so lonely for the just us time. i didnt go to meeting and ne...

Chantel · Chantel

I am not real sure my husband can be catagorized as an alcholic. Right now he seems very funtional. That is why I need to know what to expect. He started drinking a lot of wine. He is now drinking a 5 liter box within 3 days. I figure he averages about 2 liters a day. When I approached him about maybe hav...

Vesu · Vesu

He's still living in our house but I moved to an apartment months ago. He wants me to come see him tonight, says he has things he needs to talk to me about. Really dreading this. We haven't seen each other in a while and when we spoke on the phone last week he just tore into me. Went on and on about how I aban...

TLD · TLD

Seems some choices are so hard to make. I'm trying to decide if I want to stay in this relationship with my AH or not. I know I don't have to make a decision right now, but the living situation has gotten fairly uncomfortable. He is bingge drinking and using drugs. In the last two weeks, we have not spoke...

amills4294 · amills4294

My partner lashes out when he is hurt - usually with not nice words instead of expressing what he feels. I used to cower under to try to soothe him or attack back. Today I was confronted with his unhappiness with me by him saying in a very nasty tone "I guess this is what I have to live with"... ...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Hi, I was just listening to an ACA workshop. In it, the fellow mentioned that when he was in aa, he learned about the concept of one day at a time, to keep his compulsion away. He said with aca though he needs to take it one feeling at a time. There was no way he could do it one day at a time. Wow!!! I never th...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi All: a few days ago I felt so peaceful and serene, knowing I had let my AH know that while I understood I could not expect him to stop drinking, embrace recovery, etc there were certain things I knew I couldn't live with any more we agreed to give our marriage another try for 6 months, as we have now serio...

GreenerGrass · GreenerGrass

This is quite funny to me actually, I mean kind of funny. I tried to order dilemma of the alcoholic marriage on amazon, but the credit card is maxed out, so are all the other ones. Thanks AH.this is a dilemma. The house of cards is finally falling down. We can't afford our bills any more and we are going to go...

Iris lover of dogs · Iris lover of dogs

Next weekend is my AH husband's move out of the house date. It has been 2 months since I made the decision not to continue our 7 year marriage and 17 year relationship, and I haven't doubted that decision until now. We agreed that 2 months would give him time to figure out what he wanted to do, and there ha...

surfgirl123 · surfgirl123

Need to vent to the only people in the world who will understand. Came home last night and within minutes my AH went on a rampage. The worst I have ever seen. Screaming, punching in walls, throwing the gun he keeps in the house around, and then he discharged a bullet into the wall not knowing there was a rou...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

I fell upon, by odd coincidence, a journal my Grandma kept the year I was born up until, perhaps, I was about ten. She does not talk much about me in her entries, because she had about 38 grandchildren so she did not write about any one particular child for long. She jumps back and forth, mainly talking a...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

As some of you may know, I have been feeling a bit stressed of late. A few things going on in my life... friends, work. My husband and I have been getting along fine. He has many many stressors in his professional life at the moment. In my relapse, I have started checking and obsession again. Then judg...

Debilyn · Debilyn

befuddled by too many contridicting factors, confused. Needing to get back to simple. many of you know I am not landlady material. I always get hurt and burnt. This is the worst. court to get them out is this friday. The dep sheriff said this is the worst he has ever encountered. I called my place Potter'...

Vesu · Vesu

I recently left my husband of 10 years because of his addictions. He's started going to AA meetings and is looking to get involved with NA as well. We're living apart at the moment but he says he doesn't want a divorce, that we still have a chance. I'm pretty conflicted about that so I thought that while he...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

Its been a while since I posted and I apologize for the length of this post but I am just now reaching a point where I am really ready to share because I have a better idea of where I am at now then I have for the past several weeks. I have a sponsor. The catalyst for me finally calling and asking someone, the fi...

Pushka · Pushka

I did some self care this weekend I went and got my hair cut and had it colored, ... felt so good to take care of myself. Today I had a dentist appointment, as well as a therapy appointment, as well and in a couple of weeks I need to schedule the physical I have been putting off for ohh .. let's see 3 years now. I...

emmyboo2 · emmyboo2

This is my first post although I have been on here looking at a lot of other posts to help get me through this. OK AH and I (married 6 years together 10) are now separated. I feel like I don't need to explain all the abuse, manipulation, blame, etc that I have been through with his alcoholism because we al...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I'm heading out in a few minutes to go with my adult daughter to meet her dad (my AH) for his birthday- we're taking out to dinner. My daughter asked me to go with her because she's uncomfortable with seeing him one on one right now. Unfortunately, I am very upset with him right now after having a two hour co...

1 day at a time · 1 day at a time

my ah is now 9 months sober,this is what i always wished for.he is working his programs and goes to lots of meetings, as he should be thats where he needs to be.so why feel a sense of loss.i want to spend every waking moment with him,just like i did when we first met.i think about him ever second of the day.he...

wp · wp

I have tried numerous times tonight , Monday, to enter the mip alanon chat room with no luck. I noticed in another post that others have had the same problem today. I suppose we could "meet" at but1purpose.org/ On the other hand , I have a bunch of other things to do and it's getting lat...

grammie · grammie

Hi Family, just wondered if anyone else is having a problem getting into the chat room this morning..Today is the 6th of Feb..guess my HP wants me to get busy doing some chores instead of sitting here LOL. Everyone have a blessed day, I'll see you all soon. Love in recovery, grammie

Davilu · Davilu

Hi I am a newbie and have a situation that is draining me mentally and physically and I feel very guilty. I am a 50 year old woman with 2 daughters and a great and supportive husband. Let me see if I can make this short and sweet (not so sweet) Both my 75 year old parents are and have been alcoholics since I c...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

What a crazy weekend I had. I was the only person not drinking at a family event and I did well up until the end. My brothers wanted to stay over night. One is 22 and the other is 19. I already see the 19 year old becoming very dependent upon not only alcohol, but just getting to do whatever it is he wants to...

Sent Via Email to All MIP members · John

Hello Everyone! I hope that the start of 2012 has shown to be a blessing to everyone who is registered on our site's message boards. As a registered member on our message boards, you may receive 3-4 emails per year. Your email account will not be slammed with a bunch of emails, nor will your em...

danni · danni

So, we (my AH and two little ones) have been having a not so great day due to lack of sleep, my crabbiness, life...things are getting better and my AH announces he wants to "take a break and go watch the superbowl". I said ok, since I am staying out of the way of potential drinking, which has bee...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

I've been praying about this for some time now, and I've told my sponsor about it, yesterday I strongly felt it when I heard a family friend is having a party for their daughter who recently was appointed a superior judge, our children are around the same age, my first thought was "they want to brag...

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	He decided to get sober, and now he doesn't want to be with me?! (Preview) I am just at a loss. I've been debating joining this group for years, but always decided that my personal problems needed to stay behind closed doors. I don't know where to turn anymore... My boyfriend (we have lived together for 4 years- I have 2 children and he also has 2 children. We lost a baby of our ow...	mimihtx	26	8390	Feb 11, 2012 by orchidlover
	Good ol boundaries (Preview) Boundaries seem to be a big theme in my life as of late. We have a new lady in one of my woman's groups and well she just rubs me wrong. She asks persoanl questions and is just too nosy for me. What I am learning from her, is instead to give up any information I am not comfortable with and left feeling violated...	Breakingfree	7	537	Feb 11, 2012 by orchidlover
	changes (Preview) After separating from my Ah a couple of months ago with quite alot of blame towards him. I am beginning to see that I have not been a happy or content person for quite some time. The home life was confusing for sometime, and I think that is the thing I will bear in mind when I try to make sense of where I am in m...	lightblue2	5	456	Feb 11, 2012 by Green Eyes
	Feeling good about my boundary! (Preview) I am feeling really strong right now because I have created a boundary and plan to stick with it. A little background: AH got arrested DUI, moved to parents house, went to rehab and did really well and we had made a recovery and reconciliation plan, got out of rehab and his parents have been enabling him s...	emmyboo2	7	476	Feb 11, 2012 by sunnysmile
	slowly but surely; I feel better! (Preview) Today is a pretty good day! I am not having as much trouble typing this as I was before. My arms & shoulders still hurt but I am getting along better. Thanks to all who prayed for me. I am going for a follow-up next Thurs. I hope it is only the medicine I have been taking that I stopped last Tues. I am actual...	Hoot Nanny	2	424	Feb 11, 2012 by Pushka
	A quote I love (Preview) I recently heard this quote and it turned my world upside down for about a week. I have been able to go back to it time and time again and I realize just how much all of my "defending" has really only hurt me in my life. I still catch myself a lot in defense mode but the awareness is getting bette...	daisy31	4	454	Feb 11, 2012 by Breakingfree
	When to retreat? (Preview) When to retreat? What can I do when I find myself up against someone that is: Angry, Drunk, High, Abusive, or requires conflict in their lives? Maybe it is best to just retreat. I can not negotiate with a terrorist or these mindsets. Serenity in these cases can be proportionate to the distance I am remov...	All I can be	8	641	Feb 11, 2012 by maryjane
	Quote in Reading from C2C 2/10/12 (Preview) Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.Theodore Roosevelt	Jackie11	13	506	Feb 11, 2012 by Green Eyes
	update (Preview) I know after dealing with a certain amount of stress exhaustion sets in. Its been over five years for me and I am still living hand to mouth after leaving the ex A. One of the reasons I feared leaving him was I knew it was going to be so hard. I didn't know it would carry on for so long. Even with working two j...	orchidlover	7	634	Feb 10, 2012 by Pushka
	QTIP, man (Preview) QtipQtipQtipQtip! I had to let go of my power today. I keep grabbing hold. I don't think I have any power or control over my AH any longer. I feel pretty detached (with love) but where I am having trouble is at work with people. I keep getting invited to arguments, invited into gossip, and invited into s...	Michelle814	5	936	Feb 10, 2012 by daisy31
	learning to dance with my HP (Preview) Lately I have been really focusing on letting go of all of my pre conceived ideas about a HP that I was raised with and it has been so freeing (it is still a work in progress for sure). I am trying to just let go and not analyze too much of anything...and I tell you it feels absolutely amazing! I have been enj...	daisy31	8	866	Feb 10, 2012 by sunnysmile
	Hurt feelings (Preview) I guess one of the worse parts of my disease is that I get my feelings hurt too easily. I have always been like this, ever since a child - long before I ever realized I was an al-anon. This morning he told a stupid joke. "Stuff your wife and your dog in the trunk of your car and lock them in for a while. W...	Nanauq	12	3244	Feb 10, 2012 by Nanauq
	So have I been doing it right all along? (Preview) Hi all, I just spent an hour going through old posts and learning more about "detachment". It sounds like detachment is the way I've been dealing with my mother's drinking all along. I was feeling guilty for being able to walk away from it and leave her to it, while worrying about her safe...	Carly79	1	354	Feb 10, 2012 by hotrod
	New here and I'm ready to begin to put my life back together (Preview) My name is Amy and I have been in Al Anon before but not for a long time. I chose bad relationships....what I mean is I'm co-dependent. My father was an alcoholic and my last four relationships have been a disaster. My family hasnt spoken to me in two years this May....my mother, my sisters, and my 2 daugh...	amyefoy	7	445	Feb 10, 2012 by Michelle814
	Hi - and thank you - from a newbie to the board! (Preview) Hi, everyone! I'm new to the board - a first time poster, but I've been silently visiting and reading the board daily for the past week or so. I've also been reading older posts you've all left as well (I think I've traveled back 'in time' with you all through your posts to at least November. If someone 'bu...	sunnysmile	11	607	Feb 10, 2012 by sunnysmile
	Just plain angry (Preview) Well now I'm just angry, this just topped my levels of frustration. I get our television bill and there is 100.00 of pay per view. Hm, really hard to figure out what that is. He can't pitch in for any extra bill yet orders this!!! So, I left the bill on the counter with a total I need to be paid as it comes ou...	TLD	12	780	Feb 10, 2012 by Pushka
	Awesome Message (Preview) Thought some of you might appreciate this:	GailMichelle	1	426	Feb 10, 2012 by Breakingfree
	It's not that I want to be the hero (anymore) (Preview) My wife has moved back in. We were talking the other night and she mentioned how she had felt deserted during her second stint at rehab which was preceded by an intervention. I now realize that interventions are really for the family and friends, you can't really force anyone into recovery. Back t...	DadtoCandE	6	418	Feb 10, 2012 by Michelle814
	hurtful words (Preview) My A had an accident two weeks ago while drinking. I told two people about his fall/injury. A third friend knew about it because she was here at the time. She helped me get A to the clinic and stayed with me while he was being treated. Yesterday I decided I deserved/NEEDED an outing. I went into town for a n...	pineapple	14	1230	Feb 10, 2012 by Nanauq
	Posting on AA Site (Preview) Is it a no-no to post on the AA message board site. I am curious sometimes to ask those on the other side of the coin things but don't know if that is appropriate? Anyone here do this or know if this is allowed or frowned upon?	surfgirl123	4	505	Feb 10, 2012 by pinkchip
	Fair? (Preview) Ok .. lol .. here is my little codependent self .. someone decides they are moving out. How long do I have to keep their stuff? Anything that is his I've stuck in trash bags. I've kept dirty clothes and clean clothes separate. It's not so simple that I can put it in a shed or put it in a garage. We have mic...	Pushka	9	622	Feb 10, 2012 by danni
	Darn (Preview) So, on Saturday night AH has plans to attend a party with a bunch of buddies. They're his new tennis drinking buddies and it's an organized party downtown, about 20 miles south of our house. Anyway, I was actually hoping that he would do something stupid that night and that maybe he would see how his bi...	ilovedogs	5	594	Feb 10, 2012 by danni
	compassion....really??? do I have to????? (Preview) I am struggling with finding the strength to feel compassion for my AH...we are seperated and going through a divorce,,which he has decided to fight because well, yeah..he wants a divorce because im the cause of all his misery but he doesnt want to have to pay support..thats just crazy..he cant affor...	wantinganswers	13	708	Feb 10, 2012 by Lindaoakford
	Ouch (Preview) Well reality has set in and acceptance, panic and fear are starting to set in. I never thought of myself recently as someone who needed to be in a relationship and now I'm thinking OMGosh .. I think I am which scares the life out of me. My mom, .. God love her .. was in a relationship at all costs and I just ca...	Pushka	17	722	Feb 9, 2012 by Jackie11
	a lady who is pushing her beliefs (Preview) I was at the gym today and a lady I know came up to me and started talking about Jesus and how he is so wonderful. I was caught off guard because I am really in a place right now where I am not focusing on any religion. In fact, I am trying to shed all of the past trauma that happened to me as a child to do with the rel...	daisy31	12	738	Feb 9, 2012 by Pushka
	New and need to know how to deal with alcoholic mom (Preview) Hi, I'm glad I found this board and I'm hoping someone will be able to relate to my problem. I am the child of alcoholic parents. Was going to go into my whole life story, but really, it's irrelevant and won't help me deal with my problem NOW, which is my mother. She's always been a drinker, and I got pregn...	Carly79	6	552	Feb 9, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Can't find an Al-Anon meeting that I click with (Preview) I am a newcomer to Al-Anon; my fiance is a recovering alcoholic who is 3 months sober. The man and I have been together for four years, living together 2+ years and his drinking has been destructive and problematic, for some degree for the whole relationship, but seriously a problem for the last 1-2 yea...	Annalise13	7	479	Feb 9, 2012 by ythannah
	Problems with meds (Preview) Anyone's A's have problems with meds they've been put on while trying to quit drinking? When my ABF went into rehab they put him on three different meds to help with the trembling and anxiety and depression. So after he gets home he goes to see his regular physican and he keeps him on them. Well after a w...	stefani74	6	439	Feb 9, 2012 by Michelle814
	A letter to a little girl (me) (Preview) I am not sure if this is Al Anon related. I posted it on the ACA site but I have realised that many of you guys here have also done the ACA steps so thought you may have some ESH for me as you may not be on the ACA board. I have not been coping as well with the last psych session as I did the previous. It is only today...	Lindaoakford	6	879	Feb 9, 2012 by Michelle814
	Knowing that I am Getting Better (Preview) I had my annual physical last week and just got my lab results back. You know, it's one thing to think you are getting better, but it's even more when you KNOW you are getting better. My blood pressure, cholesterol, blood glucose, triglycerides and weight are all the best levels they have been in the las...	Green Eyes	4	468	Feb 9, 2012 by Michelle814
	deflection (Preview) Hello all, I've read this word - deflection - a number of times on a bunch of different posts in the last few days, and I want to know more about people's experiences with it! You see, for years, I think I haven't recognized it. I think I have been a sponge that automatically soaks up guilt. In my rela...	Iris lover of dogs	11	6619	Feb 9, 2012 by Pushka
	AlAnon is not allied with any sect, religion... (Preview) Ok, this could be a lightening rod of a subject, but I am genuinely curious... Do most people assume that the Higher Power is Christian? I see and hear a LOT of allusions to this in meetings, and just take what I like and leave the rest. I do that on here as well... I am sharing on step 7 tomorrow and it is a toug...	alanonicScotland	14	3453	Feb 9, 2012 by margob
	New Here (Preview) I welcome any words of wisdom. I've been living with an AB for 4 years. We have a son together who is almost 3. It's a long story. When we met, I was going through a divorce from a very nice man- I just wasn't in love and thought I could find a fairy tale. I found a nightmare. I was single for a year before I met my A...	Ariel	11	609	Feb 9, 2012 by Lindaoakford
	too, too sad (Preview) This has been a tough day for me. I've been here at least half a dozen times today. As well as reading my literature and saying the serenity prayer. My A has been drunk for the last three days. Constantly. Around the clock. He admitted to me today that he knows he is drinking himself to death and doesn't car...	pineapple	14	712	Feb 9, 2012 by hotrod
	balance?need to hear ideas or someone who understands (Preview) find myself questioning balance.with the hours i work i can get to about meeting about once a week.last night i didnt want to go to meeting i just wanted to spend time with my recovering ah.between us working,kids and meetings i feel myself being so lonely for the just us time. i didnt go to meeting and ne...	1 day at a time	6	481	Feb 9, 2012 by Lindaoakford
	New here and need lots of information please. (Preview) I am not real sure my husband can be catagorized as an alcholic. Right now he seems very funtional. That is why I need to know what to expect. He started drinking a lot of wine. He is now drinking a 5 liter box within 3 days. I figure he averages about 2 liters a day. When I approached him about maybe hav...	Chantel	7	422	Feb 9, 2012 by nyc018
	AH just called (Preview) He's still living in our house but I moved to an apartment months ago. He wants me to come see him tonight, says he has things he needs to talk to me about. Really dreading this. We haven't seen each other in a while and when we spoke on the phone last week he just tore into me. Went on and on about how I aban...	Vesu	8	780	Feb 8, 2012 by Michelle814
	Choices (Preview) Seems some choices are so hard to make. I'm trying to decide if I want to stay in this relationship with my AH or not. I know I don't have to make a decision right now, but the living situation has gotten fairly uncomfortable. He is bingge drinking and using drugs. In the last two weeks, we have not spoke...	TLD	10	584	Feb 8, 2012 by danni
	Practicing trying not to react.... (Preview) My partner lashes out when he is hurt - usually with not nice words instead of expressing what he feels. I used to cower under to try to soothe him or attack back. Today I was confronted with his unhappiness with me by him saying in a very nasty tone "I guess this is what I have to live with"... ...	amills4294	9	682	Feb 8, 2012 by 1 day at a time
	Adult Child - Feelings (Preview) Hi, I was just listening to an ACA workshop. In it, the fellow mentioned that when he was in aa, he learned about the concept of one day at a time, to keep his compulsion away. He said with aca though he needs to take it one feeling at a time. There was no way he could do it one day at a time. Wow!!! I never th...	Tracey C	4	418	Feb 8, 2012 by Tracey C
	any thoughts appreciated (Preview) Hi All: a few days ago I felt so peaceful and serene, knowing I had let my AH know that while I understood I could not expect him to stop drinking, embrace recovery, etc there were certain things I knew I couldn't live with any more we agreed to give our marriage another try for 6 months, as we have now serio...	yanksfan51	5	427	Feb 8, 2012 by Pushka
	Here's a dilemma for you (Preview) This is quite funny to me actually, I mean kind of funny. I tried to order dilemma of the alcoholic marriage on amazon, but the credit card is maxed out, so are all the other ones. Thanks AH.this is a dilemma. The house of cards is finally falling down. We can't afford our bills any more and we are going to go...	GreenerGrass	5	402	Feb 8, 2012 by yanksfan51
	trying to prepare myself (Preview) Next weekend is my AH husband's move out of the house date. It has been 2 months since I made the decision not to continue our 7 year marriage and 17 year relationship, and I haven't doubted that decision until now. We agreed that 2 months would give him time to figure out what he wanted to do, and there ha...	Iris lover of dogs	11	474	Feb 8, 2012 by yanksfan51
	The Shot Heard Round The World (Preview) Need to vent to the only people in the world who will understand. Came home last night and within minutes my AH went on a rampage. The worst I have ever seen. Screaming, punching in walls, throwing the gun he keeps in the house around, and then he discharged a bullet into the wall not knowing there was a rou...	surfgirl123	21	689	Feb 8, 2012 by Lindaoakford
	August 1984 (Preview) I fell upon, by odd coincidence, a journal my Grandma kept the year I was born up until, perhaps, I was about ten. She does not talk much about me in her entries, because she had about 38 grandchildren so she did not write about any one particular child for long. She jumps back and forth, mainly talking a...	Michelle814	6	444	Feb 8, 2012 by Lindaoakford
	Its amazing how quick I can relapse (Preview) As some of you may know, I have been feeling a bit stressed of late. A few things going on in my life... friends, work. My husband and I have been getting along fine. He has many many stressors in his professional life at the moment. In my relapse, I have started checking and obsession again. Then judg...	Lindaoakford	8	562	Feb 8, 2012 by Lindaoakford
	bewildered (Preview) befuddled by too many contridicting factors, confused. Needing to get back to simple. many of you know I am not landlady material. I always get hurt and burnt. This is the worst. court to get them out is this friday. The dep sheriff said this is the worst he has ever encountered. I called my place Potter'...	Debilyn	10	762	Feb 8, 2012 by orchidlover
	Hey, I'm new here (Preview) I recently left my husband of 10 years because of his addictions. He's started going to AA meetings and is looking to get involved with NA as well. We're living apart at the moment but he says he doesn't want a divorce, that we still have a chance. I'm pretty conflicted about that so I thought that while he...	Vesu	14	524	Feb 7, 2012 by abbyal
	Learning how to communicate (Preview) Its been a while since I posted and I apologize for the length of this post but I am just now reaching a point where I am really ready to share because I have a better idea of where I am at now then I have for the past several weeks. I have a sponsor. The catalyst for me finally calling and asking someone, the fi...	Jackie11	8	459	Feb 7, 2012 by abbyal
	Good and long day .. (Preview) I did some self care this weekend I went and got my hair cut and had it colored, ... felt so good to take care of myself. Today I had a dentist appointment, as well as a therapy appointment, as well and in a couple of weeks I need to schedule the physical I have been putting off for ohh .. let's see 3 years now. I...	Pushka	13	735	Feb 7, 2012 by Michelle814
	Looking for strength (Preview) This is my first post although I have been on here looking at a lot of other posts to help get me through this. OK AH and I (married 6 years together 10) are now separated. I feel like I don't need to explain all the abuse, manipulation, blame, etc that I have been through with his alcoholism because we al...	emmyboo2	5	629	Feb 7, 2012 by pineapple
	ESH Request (Preview) I'm heading out in a few minutes to go with my adult daughter to meet her dad (my AH) for his birthday- we're taking out to dinner. My daughter asked me to go with her because she's uncomfortable with seeing him one on one right now. Unfortunately, I am very upset with him right now after having a two hour co...	Green Eyes	9	527	Feb 7, 2012 by amills4294
	think i maybe crazy (Preview) my ah is now 9 months sober,this is what i always wished for.he is working his programs and goes to lots of meetings, as he should be thats where he needs to be.so why feel a sense of loss.i want to spend every waking moment with him,just like i did when we first met.i think about him ever second of the day.he...	1 day at a time	5	517	Feb 7, 2012 by DreamXL
	MIP Chatroom down? (Preview) I have tried numerous times tonight , Monday, to enter the mip alanon chat room with no luck. I noticed in another post that others have had the same problem today. I suppose we could "meet" at but1purpose.org/ On the other hand , I have a bunch of other things to do and it's getting lat...	wp	0	307	Feb 7, 2012 by wp
	Anyone else having trouble? (Preview) Hi Family, just wondered if anyone else is having a problem getting into the chat room this morning..Today is the 6th of Feb..guess my HP wants me to get busy doing some chores instead of sitting here LOL. Everyone have a blessed day, I'll see you all soon. Love in recovery, grammie	grammie	4	387	Feb 7, 2012 by Bonnie
	I think I am an enabler...need to vent! Thank you (Preview) Hi I am a newbie and have a situation that is draining me mentally and physically and I feel very guilty. I am a 50 year old woman with 2 daughters and a great and supportive husband. Let me see if I can make this short and sweet (not so sweet) Both my 75 year old parents are and have been alcoholics since I c...	Davilu	7	535	Feb 7, 2012 by Davilu
	practice makes perfect (Preview) What a crazy weekend I had. I was the only person not drinking at a family event and I did well up until the end. My brothers wanted to stay over night. One is 22 and the other is 19. I already see the 19 year old becoming very dependent upon not only alcohol, but just getting to do whatever it is he wants to...	Michelle814	7	464	Feb 6, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Sent Via Email to All MIP members (Preview) Hello Everyone! I hope that the start of 2012 has shown to be a blessing to everyone who is registered on our site's message boards. As a registered member on our message boards, you may receive 3-4 emails per year. Your email account will not be slammed with a bunch of emails, nor will your em...	John	1	450	Feb 7, 2012 by lacewing
	AH wants to go "somewhere" to watch Superbowl (Preview) So, we (my AH and two little ones) have been having a not so great day due to lack of sleep, my crabbiness, life...things are getting better and my AH announces he wants to "take a break and go watch the superbowl". I said ok, since I am staying out of the way of potential drinking, which has bee...	danni	11	657	Feb 7, 2012 by danni
	Pride and envey (Preview) I've been praying about this for some time now, and I've told my sponsor about it, yesterday I strongly felt it when I heard a family friend is having a party for their daughter who recently was appointed a superior judge, our children are around the same age, my first thought was "they want to brag...	Highlyfavored	6	504	Feb 7, 2012 by Highlyfavored
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