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i feel like a firework about to pop!!
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I decided that I was going to help my church with service work before the fireworks display in our town. I really didn't think my soberA would want to go so I didn't ask him. This morning he said he wanted to help but then at the last minute he backed out. When i knew he wasn't going I was ok but when he said he wo...
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Carrying the Water
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It always boggles my mind how everything seems to be connected. The last few days I've been doing some 12th step work, just listening mostly. Sometimes we just need someone to listen and to interject that well-timed uh-huh.....oh really?.....and how did that make you feel? So then we had our little m...
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Wolfie55
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The Dysfunction Doesn't Fall Far From the Tree
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Another holiday turned disaster. My AH's family is the definition of dysfunction. They all behave like children, NONE of them know how to communicate. My AH walked into the party last night ready to let bygones be bygones and his jerk brother decided he was going to give my AH the cold shoulder and...
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*Sigh* Relapse
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So I suspected it yesterday, he lied (I expected that but he did not appear intoxicated). Last night his PTSD dreams returned and by the time I got home it was clear. Found his stash, confronted him and gave him two options. He's too intoxicated to drive so I told him either he found a way to leave, or h...
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AStrongerMe
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I am prepared for him to binge tonight
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I am ready. I expect it. I know it's coming. I feel aweful saying that because love is supposed to believe the best, but the sickness endures. I'm not trying to be negative. He always says I'm negative, I say I'm realistic so I don't get dissapointed. Hope for the best prepare for the worst. On Sunday it wa...
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Ouch
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This has been a rough day. He drank again, I met crazy in the form of reeking of booze, receipt in my hand with date and item purchased and him going "I didn't buy it, I didn't drink anything, I'm not drunk" I took him to ER for his back (been injured 3 days) they released him and I tried to drop him...
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I did it!
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I enrolled in school for a RN program and there is a 1 year waiting list, but I have lots of prereq's to get done while I am waiting. It feels good to be setting goals and actually taking the steps to follow through. I used to talk myself out of it and I almost did this time too. I love this program and how it help...
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I forgot about the meeting last night!
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Oh my gosh, I was just sitting here looking at the calendar... it's Wednesday. My meetings are on Tuesday night. How can I FORGET to go to my meeting? It wasn't even like I thought about it and decided not to go. I completely totally spaced it! Has this ever happened to anyone else? -- Edited by callmemara...
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callmemara
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First baby due alcoholic father causing chaos
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Hello (sorry in advance for long post) I am a 29 yr old ACOA, my father has been an alcoholic my whole life, with the severity increasing over the years and countless attemps at sobriety, the longest being three years (2008-2011) after a jail stint for this 3rd DUI. Since he started drinking again l...
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camus
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what to do next...
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I am new to this forum. I am also new to trying to be in the life of some one going through AA. I have been seeing some one for the last month that is attending AA for substance abuse and I really care for him. This is some one that I knew in high school that just came back into my life and where I want to be there for...
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flyagain
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relationship with self
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I am realising that I do not have a very good relationship with myself. It is better today thanks to fellowship but still has lots of room for improvement. Today I am trying to explore what i want need and what i do and do not want in my life. Any shares on how you built a good relationship with yourself whi...
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Getting Started......Need help with Detaching
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Hi Everyone ~ My name is Jackie and I'm not new to the boards.......just took a few years off. My husband is an alcoholic. He is in denial. He doesnt want to stop drinking. I have been struggling for several years. I keep think that things are going to get better. I keep thinking that one day soon, he will ge...
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frustrated and so angry
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I had appt with fertility Dr today but i can't go because of no money I needed to go to this appt now I have to wait another month before I can go again. I was so angry & sad I started to cry & I sent my soberA a heated text that i wanted to tell him off but couldn't cuz no good will come. He called & call...
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texasgal
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My heart hurts
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I just put my A son out the door. The binging won't stop and he won't seek help. I've been threatening for some time now but I guess either he didn't take me at my word or maybe the alcohol wouldn't let him hear what I was saying. Really didn't want to do this just yet cause hubby is still recovering from he...
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Path to Serenity
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Finding me amongst this life I'm in :)
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Just needed to post this morning - to make sure that I'm taking care of me. This past weekend I got really really snippy with my family and I realized that much of it was my own fault. I started slipping back into the "well if they won't take care of this house/stuff/dinner/responsibilites I'm go...
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good things
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I am grateful for my home. I have turtles in my back yard. I love turtles. I am grateful to be home with my son. I love being able to tell him I love him and give him hugs and kisses whenever I want to. I am grateful for my business. I have made so many new friends and am learning to love myself. I am grateful for my...
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Update!!!
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Well, more prayers please .. LOL! It's actually good .. it looks like we will have a trial tomorrow at 230pm. Again with the afternoon time .. ugh! The good news is that it's all up to the judge ... soooo I'm relieved!!! that means it doesn't matter the bickering between my stbx and myself. So neither...
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Pushka
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giving up control?
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After living in crazytown for quite a few years, I started accepting that it is just that, crazy! (ha, ha...so many revelations!) With the help of Al Anon, I'm starting to allow myself to realize that I don't have to accept ALL the craziness and I am starting to listen to my intuition again. A few days ago...
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Wanderer
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Confused!!!!
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I know my AH is at a strip club right now. I had a moment of weakness and tried to call his cell, but no answer and I did not leave a message. I also texted him, but no response. I was going to tell him that I knew where he was and I'm sure it would have ended up in a huge fight. I guess it worked out that he didn't...
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pjm15
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happy 4th!
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So today I am wishing all of you a very happy 4th of July! I am sittting at a computer at the library as usual & the library is closed tomorrow. So, enjoy your Independence Day as you feel. I am having some people over that are in recovery. It is a man & his wife & 3 kids. He is a recovering addict &a...
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Hoot Nanny
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Rational?
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I was at the used bookstore and saw a book called "Rational Recovery from Alcoholism". It caught my eye since the very nature of alcoholics is they don't think rationally. I bought the book, we'll see.
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callmemara
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I'm having a rough time
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My son and his wife are narcotic addicts and have lost custody of their two sons. My husband and I are sharing the the load of caring for the boys with his wife's parents. The kids (11 & 14) are relatively easy to care for but the problem we have is with the our son and DIL. They have 3 3hr supervised visit...
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StinkySol
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my a and behavior
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a went to the er this morn,hopeing to get what i call dope,he called me said they wouldnt give him a shot without seeing me to pick him up,i came on up there and he was out in parking lot and told me that they didnt give him nothing so i said so you didnt get any dope,he didnt like what i said cause i called it dope...
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Little Update and Thank you
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I just wanted to thank everyone on this board for their kind thoughts, prayers, and for listening. I truly appreciate it. Last week was a major crisis for me, and I can't believe I made it through. Thank God for all of you, and Alanon. The kindness, compassion, and true understanding I received from mos...
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Ponderings...
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Hi Everyone, I'm a grateful member of Alanon and also AA. I'd like to throw my ESH in the ring. I think the misperception for many is that alcoholics have a drinking problem. The truth is I have many deeper problems beyond that and have used alcohol as the solution to those problems. I am an ego mania...
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namaste
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Even when they are sober.......
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they are still alcoholics. Perhaps that sentence sounds crazy. OF COURSE THEY ARE! Everyone who loves an A knows that. It's the actions and thoughts that make me shake my head, grit my teeth, and try to remember who and what he is. I don't think we have ever had a conversation that did not include th...
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Diva
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My AH was being so sweet!
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As many of you know, my AH is in a recovery program. (It's a 9 month program and he's been there for almost 2 months now... I guess I should start calling him my recovering AH... Anyway the program is an extension of the church I go to. We have a woman's facility and a men's facilty-80 beds total) Well, yeste...
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Amandakay
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struggling with sober AH...
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First, I'd like to say thank-you to everyone who posts on this board. I'm a few months new to al anon and have been reading this board for about 6 months. I am so thankful to all of you who post here--you may have no idea how much you've helped me in the last few months. Reading here is also what prompted me to g...
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Wanderer
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AH says he will stop drinking thanks to peer pressure
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I am new to the al-anon world and I'm focusing on detachment. My AH has been binge drinking for a few days and I'm trying to set boundaries so that I can stop finding myself angry every time he goes to buy alcohol and drinks. I know that my choices are mine and his choice are his, and that even though I do not li...
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leeranger
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what a difference a weekend makes!
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I can't say enough how important it is to wait for the miracle. I am so much more relaxed now that I put things back into perspective. I am no longer bored! I spent my weekend doing things that I love to do & I tell ya even shopping can make a difference if I don't let it control me. I am a bit of a compulsive s...
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Hoot Nanny
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another situation!
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esh please? Our 24 year old daughter has returned home briefly while she works and saves to return to eductaion in october to do a masters, I am feeling my feelings diffrently and whilst I am changing she is sooooo angry and lashing out verbally at myself and husband, she is a deeply loyal and caring pers...
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Katy
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He is ranting and screaming.
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I don't know how to handle this today. My daughter (18) who has been gone for 10 days on a trip out of the country with her Church is coming home today. My AF is in a mood, I have never witnessed before. He is yelling at me, and flipping out. I don't want my daughter to witness this.
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katfshh
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MONDAY A.M. AL-ANON MEETING
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I am unable to chair the Monday a.m., July 2 meeting. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair it for me. Thanks.
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shimo
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haveing a alcoholic/drug addict in my home
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well,for the last 2 weeks things have been going gr8t,loveing each other to peices as we always have for the last 20 braekups which i was always the one breakinging it off,he drank or drinks 3 24oz everynite after he gets off work sometimes he just manages to get 2 24oz down before he falls asleep after be...
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silent
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Prayers Please :)
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First court date and I am nervous as a cat in a room full of 100 rocking chairs. It's going to be ok I know that and God already knows the outcome .. just asking for some prayers and positive thoughts that things workout in the best interests of the kids and I. Thanks so much for all of the support here I don'...
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Pushka
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newbie
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I've been married for 24 yrs. There were issues before we got married with alcohol and substance abuse, but I figured that these would change once we were married! (yeah, I know!) Early on things weren't good, moved 300 miles from friends and family to begin a new life (my idea) and to save the marriage....
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deenay
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Changing the things I can
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Something that apparently is driving everyone in my life crazy is that I've now changed how I make decisions. I am hearing a lot of people who love me a lot that I HAVE to make decisions right now!! I have to know what I want to major in for college. I have to know when I'm going to move. I have to know what t...
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Pushka
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"Is it Love or is it Addiction?"
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I went to go get the Mr. Unavailable book that was recommended on the board but there weren't any copies at the book store. I did go to the author's blog called Baggage Reclaim and it addresses the many of the same issues we are dealing with here. It focuses a lot on learning to love oneself. As I mentioned,...
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Chaya
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Love Isnt Supposed To Hurt
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So I sat down last night to find something good to watch on TV. I was flipping through ONDemand and found a Dr. Drew TV show. The show had Christi Hall on it and she was talking about her book that she wrote called "Love Isnt Supposed to Hurt" I downloaded the book on my Kindle, and wow!! I have...
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dragonflys
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I am a total failure!
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For ten years I have tried. I have given ALAnon my best shot. I have listened, attempted to learn; I am still angry, hurt, and upset with his nasty drunken binges. I have no peace of mind. I have no understanding of his addiction. I keep trying, and keep hanging on. I don't know why it hasn't worked...
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Diva
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Living Life
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Hello Friends, It has been awhile since I have posted. I use to post always when I was having a hard time. I must admit that some of my greatest inspiration came from this board. However, July is a hard month for me..That is when I lost my husband. It will be 5 years this month and I must say, I am enjoyin...
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Andrea12
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I need to know it will be okay...
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So...it's summer...my ex A lives with his sister...no job...living on money he got from me in divorce...etc...none of them work...they all smoke cigs...etc...not the best role models... they have a pool... when my 10 year old is home at my place-- I have to work lots of hours...and am often tired and...
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rehprof
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Serenity to Accept
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I know this probably sounds obvious, but (I'm realising on a deeper level today) it's not just an As drinking or other compulsion I can't change, it's their maturity, their availability, their self centredness, their reactions, whether they care, how they see me, their misunderstandings judgeme...
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Tigger
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Dropped a Bomb
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I am new here to the forum. Have attended Al-Anon meetings but haven't found the right one yet. The forum here seemed like the best place to talk about what my recovering AH said to me. My AH went through a 28 program in March. He has been sober since that time and actively works his recovery program...
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4LittleHens
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Breaking Heart
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Why do we have to love such unavailable people? Who will go to any lengths to keep us in a role and keep us at a distance. We try to make it work, oh how we try, but they have other plans for us. I feel like a hostage to love, kept in the dark and fed the worst parts of my partner. I know the love is there and it is deep...
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Tigger
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Alcoholic Daughter is back
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Hello everyone. I have been reading this MIP page daily since my last post. I have been in AlAnon for two years. Last post I needed to hear from others with an Alcoholic Daughter/Son to see how they were coping as our AD was a few days away from living in her car with our grandson. Took the advise and turned...
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LeenieBeanie
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Forgiveness
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I'm really struggling with forgiveness today.
Had such a beautiful day yesterday and felt so connected and grateful and then came into contact with someone who pushed my buttons today and felt this rage. Have pushed it down by getting depressed and feel I have lost a chunk of my day to it.
It's hyster...
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Rainbow Woman
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Why stay with an alcoholic?
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I keep asking myself why I am so afraid to leave my (a) husband. We have been married less than a year. This isn't the life I thought I was signing up for. So why can't I just go? Why would anyone choose to stay?
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erleichda
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Question about Al Anon mtgs
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Do I need to contact anyone before going to a face to face Al Anon mtg or can I just show up?
And I saw something on this forum about al anon chat sessions. How can I tell when those are held and where do I log on to find them?
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noclevername
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rough morning
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Good Morning Everyone, First I want to say how grateful I am that I have this forum. If I didn't have this place to come to "talk" and read I don't know what I would do. Last night I went to hang with the girls for the first time in a long time. It was so nice. We talked, we cried, we laughed. I am...
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imom
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resentment
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hi all just started logging on to this site and its been a great help already - my husband of 14 years is an alcoholic in denial and has been full on drinking since his 'soulmate' pal died two years ago in july. we have two small children so i had to ask him to leave the family home for their safety and min...
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Fiona
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Off Topic! :) I need some dinner ideas
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What does everyone like to eat for dinner? I am in a rut with cooking around here and I would really like to cook more family dinners around our home. This summer has been so busy and I atleast want us to sit and eat a yummy dinner together more often. So give me you ideas :) My kids will thank you since chi...
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He wants me to buy booze right now!
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I am really trying not to focus on his drinking. I am trying to be normal, do things for myself and just go on without everything focusing on him. In the past I have made the mistake of buying him booze when he is "trying to wean." I realize it is all crap. Well, he is just about out of booze right no...
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katfshh
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Anger
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Hi all. Having a rough day in my head. I feel anger today. I dont know what to do with it. Im not angry at specific things my ex A did or didnt do. Today, I am angry at alcoholism. Today, I am angry at codependency. I am angry that he, good person, has alcoholism. I am angry that I, a good person, am codependent....
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CDK
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Good morning campers and white rabbits
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For those that don't know, we say white rabbits on pinch punch first of the month. So then? I got my car right outside my kitchen window, if I could get it in the house believe me it would be in, I haven't done a lot of driving her yet, been too busy working it's great though because I can park her right outside...
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Katy
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AF said the book I am reading is stupid.
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He seems to think he is such an expert on recovery. "I've been in this program for a very long time." Ugh. Well, he sucks at this program, obviously. I am reading "Getting Them Sober."
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katfshh
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detachment
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Does anyone else have the experience of not being able to talk nicely to the A while they detach? I have been working very hard and have had some small successess (yeah for me!) but sometimes I don't want to even say hi or bye to him because I just want to completely push him out of my life. Maybe I am thinki...
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imom
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Alanon Tradition 5
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http://stepwork.activeboard.com/forum.spark#lastPostAnchor
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hotrod
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Poop on the toilet and floor
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One of many of the crazy things that happened on his drunken escapade last night. It was on the floor, seat and all in the toilet seat hinge. It was so nasty and hard to clean it out of the toilet seat hinge. Unfortunately I had to clean it up because he obviously couldn't and that is the only toilet in our hou...
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callmemara
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You are the biggest idiot I know!!!!
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That is what I want to tell my exAH today! I can't believe how angry I am. I wish I had a meeting I could go to tonight. I do all the running and he turned away having the kids this weekend at the first excuse he could find because there is a big wedding happening near him this weekend which means lots of people p...
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