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One of many of the crazy things that happened on his drunken escapade last night.
It was on the floor, seat and all in the toilet seat hinge. It was so nasty and hard to clean it out of the toilet seat hinge.
Unfortunately I had to clean it up because he obviously couldn't and that is the only toilet in our house.
Well, I took a picture of it and texted AND emailed it to him and wrote "reason 20234 to quit drinking. I was pretty annoyed and upset and wanted him to know what I had gone through.
His response "Oh crap" just being funny here. Yeah that is worse my exAH used to wake up in the morning still wasted and pee in corners. Sending you much love and support!
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My soon to be exAH used to wake up in the middle of the night after bingeing and pee in the corner of our bedroom or on the carpet in front of the toilet. Gross! I made him call the carpet cleaning service each time and then made him pay for the cleaning. Don't miss those days at all.
Mine would pee everywhere! in the corners, on the toilet lid, in the kids bedroom, in the kitchen, bathroom sink (he's 6'2"), he's peed in his shoes, he once peed on his lap top and then realized what he did and tried to wash it in the sink. He doesn't have a laptop anymore! He tried to blame the 3 year year old for that, the next day he didn't remember at all what he had done and said there was "No Way" he would do such a thing. Ha! I told him my 3 year old has better toileting habits than he does. There was another time he was getting undressed and flushed his socks down the toilet and was about to try to flush the rest of his clothes down the toilet but I made him stop. He didn't believe me the next day until he couldn't find his socks. (We were out of town, staying in a hotel for the night.) Nothing phased him. He believed the saying what happened in vegas stays in vegas applied to his drinking. If it happened while he was drunk, then you just don't talk about it... I'm so glad he's in rehab, no man-pee to clean up, no drunk husband following me around and either tell me how much he loooooves me or 'xxxx' hates me, there is so much peace and very low anxiety.. I do pray he is recieving the helps he needs, I'm sure they're giving it to him but it's up to him to take it.
And for his response... Did he accuse you of setting the whole thing up and blaming it on him?.. Mine would have done that or blame it on the kids or animals.
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-- Edited by canadianguy on Friday 29th of June 2012 02:03:57 PM
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I donno if I would have cleaned it up...I might have gone to a local store that had public restrooms and did my own thing there. Anyhow you did the best you could with what you had and I'm sure he's got the picture? Drunk means not sane or normal...hope he's feeling concerned. Keep coming back ((((hugs))))
Unfortunately I can relate to this. Two days ago I went to use the bathroom and there was s##t all over the toilet, on the roll of toilet paper, the bathroom shelf...and the wall! I was determined that I was not going to clean it up-and I didn't, for a day (spent the rest of the day/night at a friend's house.) He doesn't respond or make excuses. He's oblivious. Yesterday the mess was still there. I went to his room to ask him to clean it up but he was too drunk to stand, let alone clean anything. Then I remembered someone was coming by to visit and might need to use the bathroom. So I ended up cleaning the mess. I rarely get angry with A anymore, mostly the situation just makes me sad. But a day later I am still angry about this.
I feel terrible that you had to clean that up. I don't have a lot of extra cash and don't want to run up my balance on my credit card anymore than it already is, but I think I would have just gone to a hotel for a couple days and left it to him to clean up- that's disgusting. My AH once peed the bed with me in it- that was while we were out camping, so we had to pack everything up and come home a few days early because obviously I wasn't going to sleep in that. I'm so sorry that happened. I'm glad you texted a picture of it to him. Maybe that's me feeling like you need to punish your A, but geez- for that it seems like he deserves to be reminded a few times!
Even sadder - this is not the first time a post like this has been made this year. It's really sad how common this stuff is when dealing with an alcoholic.
I never did anying like that - HOWEVER, it was standard protocol for me to break things like the toilet seat, shower curtain, toilet paper holder, doors, shutters, end tables, chairs....all things that I broke when drunk.
Wow, I didn't realize how common this problem was! Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences!
Well, he woke me up at 5:30 that morning wanting to know where his phone and wallet were. I told him they were down stairs by the washing machine. Yes, I made him take a shower and washed his clothes because he and his clothes had poop on them too. So he got the text within a few hours of completing the act and just said something like "you took a picture".
Well then, the next evening when he is sober and we had had a really nice dinner and conversation, then he goes to check his email. He screams at my from the next room and I thought something was really wrong. So I run in there, he's like "what the hell is this!" he was so pissed. I think he was so upset because he was really ashamed and embarrassed by it and felt I was rubbing it in his face. I told him I didn't mean to shame him but I wanted him to know what I went through. Eventually he calmed down and told me he wasn't proud of himself for doing that.
Sorry that happened. When mine was drinking he wouldn't get up he would just pee in his pants like a 2 yr old "his chair" was gross he one time peed in the car & the seats were fabric. Needles to say the car stunk & I refused to drive for a long time. I don't know why I tolerated it. Idk why i still tolerate his wacky behavior. Maybe cuz I'm just as wacky idk what I do know is this program will help me get better one day at a time.
