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So...it's summer...my ex A lives with his sister...no job...living on money he got from me in divorce...etc...none of them work...they all smoke cigs...etc...not the best role models...
they have a pool...
when my 10 year old is home at my place-- I have to work lots of hours...and am often tired and stressed...so he is naturally wanting to stay at a place where he can be in the pool and have no responsibilities or chores...
I don't want him to think that lifestyle is okay...and it makes me sick to my stomach thinking he will spend so much time this summer with his A dad...sure he's having fun...and his dad loves him...but what else is he learning? will A drink and drive if the 15 year old is not there too? (I have 2 boys, and the older one is going to be with me)..
My stomach is in my throat...but of course a 10 year old is only going to go for the "fun" factor...
Hugs r, I feel you on many levels dealing with 13 and 8 similar story. Something my eldest says she prefers the rules because they make her feel safe. It takes time and hopefully the kids see what is ok and what is not. All I can do is be consistent and follow through. God has my back and I have to trust that. Hugs p ;)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
