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As many of you know, my AH is in a recovery program. (It's a 9 month program and he's been there for almost 2 months now... I guess I should start calling him my recovering AH... Anyway the program is an extension of the church I go to. We have a woman's facility and a men's facilty-80 beds total) Well, yesterday we had our church's annual 4th of July picnic. I almost didn't go because just last week he told me he wanted a divorce and I knew he would be there... but I decided to go anyway because I wasn't going to let him keep me from fellowshiping with people I love and care about. So, I got there and he came to my car to see if I needed any help with anything... What, who is this man! ... we talked for a little bit, he was nice. I played on the water slide with the kids and got soaked, then soaked him with a big hug. He kissed me... God he looks good sober!! Looks like he's gained a little weight - which is good because he is a skinny as a rail when he's drinking. Man, he sexy!! Anyway, he never apologized for last week but he was so sweet yesterday. There's hope. I have to stand my ground and not allow my guard down just because he is being nice to me. I still need to have boundaries and expect to be respected. I still need to work on me and my enabling and codependent behaviors. And hopefully this is the begining of a change in him too. I'm keeping my fingers crossed, but it was nice to have him love on me yesterday at the picnic.
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Mandy
Don't settle for less than your potenial. Remember, average is as close to the bottom as to the top. ~Unknown
No matter how far you've gone down the wrong road, turn back! ~Unknown
... we talked for a little bit, he was nice. I played on the water slide with the kids and got soaked, then soaked him with a big hug. He kissed me... God he looks good sober!! Looks like he's gained a little weight - which is good because he is a skinny as a rail when he's drinking. Man, he sexy!! Anyway, he never apologized for last week but he was so sweet yesterday. There's hope. I have to stand my ground and not allow my guard down just because he is being nice to me. I still need to have boundaries and expect to be respected. I still need to work on me and my enabling and codependent behaviors. And hopefully this is the begining of a change in him too. I'm keeping my fingers crossed, but it was nice to have him love on me yesterday at the picnic.
Thanks for the positive post - it is letting me hope. It is great how you enjoy the love and keep your boundaries up!