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I am really trying not to focus on his drinking. I am trying to be normal, do things for myself and just go on without everything focusing on him. In the past I have made the mistake of buying him booze when he is "trying to wean." I realize it is all crap. Well, he is just about out of booze right now. Although, I have a bottle of wine hidden, that he might find. But, he is almost out of his. He is out of money. He maxed his credit cards, and has no money in his account. I just hid my atm card, and my cash. He asked me if I would go buy him medicine for his stomach. He has a bad stomach, and obviously drinking for 10 days straight is stupid. I said I would get something for his stomach. Then he said and some vodka. So, I said forget it. I came back to the computer, and he went to lay down. I don't know if I should just get out of the house and go shopping or something. I am really pooped and don't feel like leaving. But, I don't want to get bullied into enabling him, or buying more alcohol. Ugh. I don't know why this is hard, yes I do, because I have been here before, and when I say no it gets ugly.
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Katfshh
~The most beautiful sunsets are made by cloudy skies~
Of course he uses the "ugly" to try to control the situation. I would think that anything that gets you out of the line of fire is justified. Take good care of yourself. Hugs.
Go out, stay home, go to bed, watch tv, get on your computer, do a crossword, walk the dog, do the ironing, rearrange the furniture.....but don't buy his liquor!!! If he is broke and has maxed out his cards, tough! That is not your problem.
Diva
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