Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

1976love · 1976love

Well, this weekend was trying. Good old social media for ya. My recovering ASIL who I have said before, is recovering, but is as self centered as they come, hit a new low. She currently lives at my inlaw's house with her husband and children because they have no where else to go. Her husband is out of t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am finding these days that I am moving forward slowly. I have been noticing that I am growing but feel that I am sometimes moving backwards. I am so confused sometimes where I am. Hopefully w/ more rest & exercise, I can feel & act normal for me. I want to vent so much these days but am afraid for pe...

blondie99 · blondie99

Hello friends - I'm a grateful Al-Anoner working it every day. I have a question I'm hoping someone smarter than me can help with. My AH is checking in tomorrow at 9 a.m. for this third stint in rehab. We have not been living together since he completed his second stint the day after Thanksgiving 2012. Du...

RobinKSC · RobinKSC

The meetings have been great, I have three more weeks of crutches and then I will be at rehab during the morning meetings. I will be happy to co chair meetings with anyone if you would like to learn to chair. This Thursday I won't be able to chair, I have carpet people coming to replace my 14 year old carpet....

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Monday Morning Everyone I talked to my son yesterday and it was nice. He is sober but I think it's because he doesn't have a dime to his name. After the talk my mind started up again thinking maybe I should ask him to clean my property ( weeds, tree trimming) and maybe paint my bedroon....in turn I w...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

It has been exactly one month today since my AH passed away unexpectedly from renal and liver failure, and it also would have been his 52nd birthday. I continue to be all over the board with my emotions: sometimes I'm sad and unconsolable, sometimes I'm angry, and sometimes there is a sense of relief (w...

Path to Serenity · Path to Serenity

My Mom died when I was 11 months old - death certificates indicates cause of death was tubercular meningitis. My father moved back home with his mom and she basically raised us while enabling my Dad's alcoholism & abuse of my sis & I. My Mom's family harbored a deep hatred for my Dad because of t...

DavidG · DavidG

Oh I shouldn't call this place a hick-town. It was an old gold-mining town, and a sheep town. I reckon a lot of people came here to run and hide. Before the main street was flooded there were three pubs in it. They were called 'the bottom', 'the middle' and 'the top'. There were two pubs in the outlying set...

John · John

imom · imom

Why is it bothering me that my AH doesn't want to communicate with me from rehab? he emailed our daughter but not me. The only time he contacted me is when he was at the airport and wanted money. So why do I care? He made the choice to continue to abuse drugs and alcohol. He endangered our entire neighb...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Things I am tired of.Tired of walking on eggshells, never knowing if what I say, or don't say, or do or don't do are going to make him drink. I must remember that I did not cause it, I cannot control and I cannot cure it.Tired of checking the bank account every day to see how much money he has withdrawn, worr...

hurting at 36 · hurting at 36

Hi everyone. This is my first time here and honestly my first time ever reaching out to anyone. My hope is to find people to relate to as right now I'm pretty angry at myself. I'll soon tell you why. I've been to 1 al anon meeting in the past when I was a teenager but haven't been since. My name is Tracie an...

newwoman · newwoman

For whatever this is worth... i have been on this forum griping, crying and yelling about my A in rehab...whether or not to visit him on family day- his letters etc. Yesterday, I did it- I made the drive to the facility and did the hour visit. Before I left I told myself that I cannot have any expections g...

imom · imom

Now that my AH is in a treatment center far far away, I am finding myself to feel very sad. I think I have been so caught up in the madness of the alcohol and drugs so much that I have been unable to mourn the loss of my marriage and friendship with him until now. So here I am alone in an empty house because my ki...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Up until age eight, I had no character defects. They were all assets, as far as the eye could see. Once age eight came along, I was apparently a grown-up and responsible for my behaviour and the behaviour of others. I started to believe that if I was told I was bad, I was bad. I remember fighting these c...

smurfymermaid · smurfymermaid

Like to introduce myself and tell you the current scenario. My elderly mom and I are caring for my dementia dad (post chemo). He wasn't an alcoholic, but he is and has always been emotionally unavailable to everyone accept my mom (in his own limited way). All my love interests have been addicts that wer...

Tigger · Tigger

hey friends,my eye is feeling sore (a virus) so i dont want to chair tonight. i just need to go to bed.ive messaged a few people so i hope someone will cover for me.sorry,tigger x

Tracey C · Tracey C

I've learned to accept that my loved one's sobriey is literally "One Day at a Time." I've learned to let go when she's sober, and detach when she's not. Today is one of those in between days that I need to manage differently. She's struggling in her sobriety and I want to reach out to help. ...

John · John

I just found this video while on YouTube and it just kinda hit me, so I thought I would share it. I feel its a good one. I like the last sentence..."I've made up your mind". LOL Lyrics- Call Me When You're Sober" Don't cry to me.If you loved me,You would be her...

cinders · cinders

I had such a crazy day at work. Doing evaluations on 11 employees can be exhausting and overwhelming. I want to give these the attention they deserve because they are so important to the folks I work with, but honestly, I hate doing them. There are only so many ways you can change how you say something...

4kidsmama · 4kidsmama

Why does my now sober AH hurtful words STILL break my heart?! Why does his comments of my cooking, cleaning, etc still hurt? Why can't I seem to develop a thicker skin? I'm calming down sooner than I did in the past. I don't get defensive and start shooting nasty comments back all the time (emphasis o...

hope4ever · hope4ever

I am afraid of imtimacy. It is like I want people to be close and then I push them away. It even affects my sex life with my husband at times (not always) - I am afraid to be so intimate that we are "one" you know? I think it is because of how I was raised. I was also sexually abused as a child and al...

John · John

Pushka · Pushka

The kids and I had an amazing day. Soooo much fun, it is nice to just let go of all this garbage and start living again. I know I get into binge thinking and that just really trips me up. My daughter went and took her tennis lessons had a BLAST!!! She is getting signed up and thanks be to some very special...

Jerry F · Jerry F

you will find help. Each and everytime I hear that repeated at the closing of our face to face meetings I become grateful again because that promise was the first miracle of recovery that I received. Aloha all and thank you for being in my life. This is now the near end of February 8th which I acknowl...

tortuga · tortuga

Good morning MiP when I look back at my past relationships, i often found JEALOUSY a common negative thought and emotion that has been sitting in me...and it has sabotaged many situations. and blinded me and misleaded me. I want to work on that for the future. I know it is related to fear and anger... I kn...

cinders · cinders

So I learned the hard way this week that all the stress, anxiety and years of emotional pain from living with an A can have medical consequences to your own body. Went to see the dr and my blood pressure is so sky high that it i causing some damage to my body. My dr who has walked through the emotional part...

rehprof · rehprof

On Monday, my Dad took my 16 yo to an appointment (bc the exA couldn't do it...AGAIN). My Dad is 79. He has replaced my well pump, fixed electrical problems, and on monday he brought me newspaper, kindling, and 1/2 cord of wood...because I was out of firewood. So despite the terrible weather, and fear of...

Pushka · Pushka

Lots of good news happening, I think the money is going to be released sooner than later. I also think that my STBAX has done something INCREDIBLY stupid and filed without me. If he has he's in a whole world of doo doo in ways that will boggle his mind. The other issue is the child support and maintenanc...

pixie · pixie

Has anyone had to deal with dementia/alzheimers with their alcoholic.My husband has been acting like he's in the early stages.I have the utmost compassion for anyone with these problems but if his is caused by the drinking I have no compassion for him and am finding it hard to deal with it.He's just an...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t52580578/step-9-alanon/

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

He woke up this morning and promised up and down that it would never happen again, but the difference this time is he said, "I'm not checking into a hospital, but I do need help". WOW! He has never said those words before, so I am encouraged. He has been to a few meetings in the recent months, but...

AllieinAlanon · AllieinAlanon

Hello, it's me again, Allie. I am trying to be forgiving toward my friend, who lives with me. He went out today and forgot to call me. I don't like checking on him, believe me. But he forgot to call at his usual time and he's been ill. I left him a text and he called back immediately, angry at me for bothering h...

Aloha · Aloha

I've been feeling real down lately... I have many things that have been troubling me lately and I've been living them and making them my story. I've caught myself during the last couple weeks of this grieving process that I'm going through smiling and telling people I'm doing well. Then when I went to a...

Heather 68 · Heather 68

For the second time in 2 years he is back in jail for alcohol related stupidity. We were unable to live together months ago due to the alcohol related drama, verbal abuse, threats, damaged property and physical abuse. When sober he was a different person, like Jeckel and Hyde. We tried to make it work d...

Annie1234 · Annie1234

Most days I'm able to get myself out of the dumps, by praying, or doing something nice for myself. I don't even feel that I can do that today. I am so overwhelmed by so much today. My AH has been a bear all week...playing his typical passive aggressive role of victim. My son, whose friend past away in Se...

milkwood · milkwood

I read my horoscope this morning and somehow it seems appropriate to share it with you all: "For some reason we seem to imagine that miracles need to be dramatic. They must involve things we weren't expecting, things we can't explain, things that somehow make no sense. But is a flower not a miracl...

SaRw · SaRw

Stop the roller coaster. I want to get off! Up until September of this year, my AH was extremely functional. Up until then, I wouldn't have thought he was an A. Now I know better. Just before Thanksgiving, he admitted to me that he couldn't stop drinking. He asked me to help him find help. We found a...

imom · imom

Ever since I began moving forward with my own life, filed for divorce, and my HP intervened with a whopping incident causing major change, things have been changing very fast. My A is leaving for a treatment center tomorrow (God willing). I am still skeptical that he actually makes it there. I hav...

britbug · britbug

I come from a long line of alcholics & addicts - uncles, grandfathers, father, 2 brothers, 1 sister... My 25 year old brother died December 15, 2011 of liver failure after living for years addicted to mainly alcohol and opiates. 2 weeks later I began working as a substance abuse counselor for most...

PP · PP

Becasue I have a hard time saying no and diappointing people, I am feeling anxious and unable to concentrate on preparation for a class I am teaching on Sat, which I am already anxious about. I am worried I will flub it up for sure now! Here is the situation: We filed chapter 13 last year to release 2 re...

Afraidparent · Afraidparent

Trying so hard today to work the program. Received text messages and voice mails when I got up all from 1-3 a.m. You know the times. When the A is out and could care less others need sleep and work. Several months ago I put the phone on vibrate and leave in another room far from our bedroom. I've told ou...

pixie · pixie

I'm new to Al-non but have thought about joining for years.My husband of almost 29 years is an alcoholic in denial.He's a great provider with a good job but that's where it ends.He doesn't drink anything but beer but he's up to over a gallon most days,more if he's off work that day.It's terrible when he h...

dwest26 · dwest26

Hi. I'm 27 years old, and my husband is 38 years old. We have to beautiful children. 5 year old son, and 3 year old daughter. I met my husband when I was 18, and he was 28. I knew he was a drug addict (he was on drug offenders probation), but love was love, and I knew what I was in for. Previously before his arres...

lissa34 · lissa34

I swear sometimes I feel like I can't be knocked down any further! Finally decide to go to a face to face meeting. Takes lots of planning with an 18 month baby! They no longer have that meeting due to not enough interest but is still listed on the Alanon website. I feel like I am constantly pulling myself...

el-cee · el-cee

my sponsor said 'many are called a few are chosen' struck a chord with me. alanon is such a fabulous program, it is changing my life. why do some people not 'get' it and why did i not get it sooner? could have saved so much misery.

canadianguy · canadianguy

Our program gently guides us to allow our A's to reap the consequences of their behaviors, and that we cannot continue to offer 'soft landings' for them all the time.... I had a friend from my childhood, who became a drug addict.... he was on the street for several years, and had lied & disappointe...

Pushka · Pushka

Well, I have lots of options and I'm not sure what to do at this point. None of the choices are going to have pretty outcomes and honestly I'm to frustrated to care. I am powerless over other people's involvement when it comes to my STBAX's crazy behavior. They don't get it and I'm waiting for a 911 situ...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

As I'm letting go of my son I find I have nothing to do anymore. No more late night calls, not hospitals or detox centers, no spending money or taking him somewhere or picking him up or talking and arguing, no visits so he won't drink, no making him come to my house so he won't drink. No craziness. I"...

cmd309 · cmd309

I want to trust my AH again but fear I am hoping for something impossible. I have this idea in my mind, a fantasy maybe, of having a husband that goes out with the guys and comes home at a decent time, who contributes money to the relationship rather than spend everything he makes plus what I make ... someon...

Sinneslust · Sinneslust

I am fresh into a relationship (1.5 months) with a freshly recovering addict (6 months sober). I have been told the dangers of dating someone so early in their recovery and have read countless stories (both bad and good) about doing so. I have heard the tales of emotional rollercoasters and being held...

soozin12 · soozin12

Of course I found myself thinking my AH can change but as with any expectation that leads to disappointment. After over 2 years off him being off drugs-he is still drinking so i dont call him sober even though he considers himself to be in recovery-he doesnt come home last night and I discover an ATM wi...

Minaret · Minaret

What I mean by this is that...when my AH is drunk and being an ass, and angry at the kids and everything is chaos and I want to leave him forever...and then the next day comes and he is sober for a day and somewhat nice and things go much better overall, then I feel guilty that I had feelings of leaving him...t...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I read that 90% of people in 12-step recovery can identify with self-sabotage. Not necessarily with substances but EMOTIONAL Self-sabotage. What are your experiences on why we do this and how to stop repeating it?

AngieP · AngieP

My sober Abf was in a wreck tonight. He shouldn't have even been driving, but I no longer live there. He is 3 weeks out of back surgery - fusing 3 vertibra. Instead of being thankful he is safe & no damage was done to his back or no new damage was added - he is ANGRY that they discharged him with no new narc...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Why do we put ourselves in the position to be harmed? I know today I invited people into my life who were the most troubled people in society...I did that to myself because I wanted to victimize myself and I didn't know any better. I made myself a "victim", always blaming others for their own s...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello Al-Anon Family :) Sorry its been So Long! I've had my Share of Tragity Mixed with some Magical Moments, which seems to be the story of my life here of late, but Still taking it Day by Day... Moment by Moment... And at times Second by second! I was sitting here in my Pity Pot Yesterday & For what eve...

tortuga · tortuga

Hey all, i thought I would come here and share my care program, that I have tailored around my own Self. I first felt quite unusual you know, I am VERY good at caring for others, yet when I turned that around and started nurturuing myself, it felt odd: a little bit of guilt, that feeling to be selfish... bu...

newwoman · newwoman

I received a letter from my A who is away at rehab. In the letter and I quote "I operate in a practical, business and organized approach. That may be when your feel pushed away because at that time we are operating in different worlds." (Which is based on the left side of my brain not working mos...

jackic · jackic

I am still trying to find a meeting that will fit into my schedule but I could really use some help now. I am an aa member ( actually celebrating my 6 year anniversary today!). I recently went backt to the west coast to visit my parents. My father is an alcoholic. I stayed in a hotel because of his drinking. I...

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	you can't help. (Preview) Well, this weekend was trying. Good old social media for ya. My recovering ASIL who I have said before, is recovering, but is as self centered as they come, hit a new low. She currently lives at my inlaw's house with her husband and children because they have no where else to go. Her husband is out of t...	1976love	5	478	Feb 12, 2013 by 1976love
	trudging on... (Preview) I am finding these days that I am moving forward slowly. I have been noticing that I am growing but feel that I am sometimes moving backwards. I am so confused sometimes where I am. Hopefully w/ more rest & exercise, I can feel & act normal for me. I want to vent so much these days but am afraid for pe...	Hoot Nanny	5	288	Feb 12, 2013 by el-cee
	should I go get the dog and the truck (Preview) Hello friends - I'm a grateful Al-Anoner working it every day. I have a question I'm hoping someone smarter than me can help with. My AH is checking in tomorrow at 9 a.m. for this third stint in rehab. We have not been living together since he completed his second stint the day after Thanksgiving 2012. Du...	blondie99	6	379	Feb 12, 2013 by RobinKSC
	We need chairs for morning meetings, Wednesday, Thursday and Sunday (Preview) The meetings have been great, I have three more weeks of crutches and then I will be at rehab during the morning meetings. I will be happy to co chair meetings with anyone if you would like to learn to chair. This Thursday I won't be able to chair, I have carpet people coming to replace my 14 year old carpet....	RobinKSC	0	207	Feb 11, 2013 by RobinKSC
	Wrong thoughts this morning (Preview) Good Monday Morning Everyone I talked to my son yesterday and it was nice. He is sober but I think it's because he doesn't have a dime to his name. After the talk my mind started up again thinking maybe I should ask him to clean my property ( weeds, tree trimming) and maybe paint my bedroon....in turn I w...	Cathyinaz	6	390	Feb 11, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Reflecting on the Loss of my AH (Preview) It has been exactly one month today since my AH passed away unexpectedly from renal and liver failure, and it also would have been his 52nd birthday. I continue to be all over the board with my emotions: sometimes I'm sad and unconsolable, sometimes I'm angry, and sometimes there is a sense of relief (w...	Green Eyes	15	660	Feb 11, 2013 by Debilyn
	Old wounds have been opened (Preview) My Mom died when I was 11 months old - death certificates indicates cause of death was tubercular meningitis. My father moved back home with his mom and she basically raised us while enabling my Dad's alcoholism & abuse of my sis & I. My Mom's family harbored a deep hatred for my Dad because of t...	Path to Serenity	4	446	Feb 11, 2013 by Debilyn
	Things getting big... (Preview) Oh I shouldn't call this place a hick-town. It was an old gold-mining town, and a sheep town. I reckon a lot of people came here to run and hide. Before the main street was flooded there were three pubs in it. They were called 'the bottom', 'the middle' and 'the top'. There were two pubs in the outlying set...	DavidG	2	282	Feb 11, 2013 by Debilyn
	You ever feel this way? (Preview)	John	1	291	Feb 11, 2013 by Pushka
	What is wrong with me? (Preview) Why is it bothering me that my AH doesn't want to communicate with me from rehab? he emailed our daughter but not me. The only time he contacted me is when he was at the airport and wanted money. So why do I care? He made the choice to continue to abuse drugs and alcohol. He endangered our entire neighb...	imom	5	338	Feb 11, 2013 by pinkchip
	Things I am tired of (Preview) Things I am tired of.Tired of walking on eggshells, never knowing if what I say, or don't say, or do or don't do are going to make him drink. I must remember that I did not cause it, I cannot control and I cannot cure it.Tired of checking the bank account every day to see how much money he has withdrawn, worr...	ParisMemories	4	352	Feb 11, 2013 by milkwood
	A moment in pain (Preview) Hi everyone. This is my first time here and honestly my first time ever reaching out to anyone. My hope is to find people to relate to as right now I'm pretty angry at myself. I'll soon tell you why. I've been to 1 al anon meeting in the past when I was a teenager but haven't been since. My name is Tracie an...	hurting at 36	3	400	Feb 11, 2013 by Katy
	Family Visit to Rehab (Preview) For whatever this is worth... i have been on this forum griping, crying and yelling about my A in rehab...whether or not to visit him on family day- his letters etc. Yesterday, I did it- I made the drive to the facility and did the hour visit. Before I left I told myself that I cannot have any expections g...	newwoman	3	432	Feb 11, 2013 by hopeful4ever
	Facing reality (Preview) Now that my AH is in a treatment center far far away, I am finding myself to feel very sad. I think I have been so caught up in the madness of the alcohol and drugs so much that I have been unable to mourn the loss of my marriage and friendship with him until now. So here I am alone in an empty house because my ki...	imom	11	685	Feb 11, 2013 by newwoman
	I have hope and dreams - again (Preview) Up until age eight, I had no character defects. They were all assets, as far as the eye could see. Once age eight came along, I was apparently a grown-up and responsible for my behaviour and the behaviour of others. I started to believe that if I was told I was bad, I was bad. I remember fighting these c...	Tracey C	1	295	Feb 10, 2013 by hotrod
	New here + Caring for dying qualifier father (Preview) Like to introduce myself and tell you the current scenario. My elderly mom and I are caring for my dementia dad (post chemo). He wasn't an alcoholic, but he is and has always been emotionally unavailable to everyone accept my mom (in his own limited way). All my love interests have been addicts that wer...	smurfymermaid	10	535	Feb 11, 2013 by hotrod
	i cant do the chair tonight (Preview) hey friends,my eye is feeling sore (a virus) so i dont want to chair tonight. i just need to go to bed.ive messaged a few people so i hope someone will cover for me.sorry,tigger x	Tigger	1	250	Feb 11, 2013 by hotrod
	My lesson in detachment - a man's view (Preview) I've learned to accept that my loved one's sobriey is literally "One Day at a Time." I've learned to let go when she's sober, and detach when she's not. Today is one of those in between days that I need to manage differently. She's struggling in her sobriety and I want to reach out to help. ...	Tracey C	11	638	Feb 11, 2013 by Tracey C
	Call me when you are sober... (Video) (Preview) I just found this video while on YouTube and it just kinda hit me, so I thought I would share it. I feel its a good one. I like the last sentence..."I've made up your mind". LOL Lyrics- Call Me When You're Sober" Don't cry to me.If you loved me,You would be her...	John	2	338	Feb 11, 2013 by Heather 68
	Blessings (Preview) I had such a crazy day at work. Doing evaluations on 11 employees can be exhausting and overwhelming. I want to give these the attention they deserve because they are so important to the folks I work with, but honestly, I hate doing them. There are only so many ways you can change how you say something...	cinders	4	313	Feb 11, 2013 by el-cee
	Hurtful words (Preview) Why does my now sober AH hurtful words STILL break my heart?! Why does his comments of my cooking, cleaning, etc still hurt? Why can't I seem to develop a thicker skin? I'm calming down sooner than I did in the past. I don't get defensive and start shooting nasty comments back all the time (emphasis o...	4kidsmama	9	916	Feb 10, 2013 by Ms S
	if someone gets too close I push them away (Preview) I am afraid of imtimacy. It is like I want people to be close and then I push them away. It even affects my sex life with my husband at times (not always) - I am afraid to be so intimate that we are "one" you know? I think it is because of how I was raised. I was also sexually abused as a child and al...	hope4ever	2	595	Feb 10, 2013 by Jerry F
	Setting Me Free (Video) (Preview)	John	4	361	Feb 10, 2013 by likemyheart
	Terrific Day ... (Preview) The kids and I had an amazing day. Soooo much fun, it is nice to just let go of all this garbage and start living again. I know I get into binge thinking and that just really trips me up. My daughter went and took her tennis lessons had a BLAST!!! She is getting signed up and thanks be to some very special...	Pushka	3	251	Feb 10, 2013 by ilovedogs
	If you keep and open mind... (Preview) you will find help. Each and everytime I hear that repeated at the closing of our face to face meetings I become grateful again because that promise was the first miracle of recovery that I received. Aloha all and thank you for being in my life. This is now the near end of February 8th which I acknowl...	Jerry F	12	674	Feb 10, 2013 by tortuga
	dealing with JEALOUSY? (Preview) Good morning MiP when I look back at my past relationships, i often found JEALOUSY a common negative thought and emotion that has been sitting in me...and it has sabotaged many situations. and blinded me and misleaded me. I want to work on that for the future. I know it is related to fear and anger... I kn...	tortuga	8	910	Feb 10, 2013 by tortuga
	What the stress can do to us (Preview) So I learned the hard way this week that all the stress, anxiety and years of emotional pain from living with an A can have medical consequences to your own body. Went to see the dr and my blood pressure is so sky high that it i causing some damage to my body. My dr who has walked through the emotional part...	cinders	7	560	Feb 10, 2013 by peace2me
	Blizzard Gratitude (Preview) On Monday, my Dad took my 16 yo to an appointment (bc the exA couldn't do it...AGAIN). My Dad is 79. He has replaced my well pump, fixed electrical problems, and on monday he brought me newspaper, kindling, and 1/2 cord of wood...because I was out of firewood. So despite the terrible weather, and fear of...	rehprof	6	292	Feb 10, 2013 by peace2me
	Good NEWS :) (Preview) Lots of good news happening, I think the money is going to be released sooner than later. I also think that my STBAX has done something INCREDIBLY stupid and filed without me. If he has he's in a whole world of doo doo in ways that will boggle his mind. The other issue is the child support and maintenanc...	Pushka	8	358	Feb 10, 2013 by John
	dementia/alzheimers (Preview) Has anyone had to deal with dementia/alzheimers with their alcoholic.My husband has been acting like he's in the early stages.I have the utmost compassion for anyone with these problems but if his is caused by the drinking I have no compassion for him and am finding it hard to deal with it.He's just an...	pixie	7	394	Feb 10, 2013 by Jerry F
	STEP 9 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t52580578/step-9-alanon/	hotrod	0	263	Feb 9, 2013 by hotrod
	AH has finally admitted he needs help (Preview) He woke up this morning and promised up and down that it would never happen again, but the difference this time is he said, "I'm not checking into a hospital, but I do need help". WOW! He has never said those words before, so I am encouraged. He has been to a few meetings in the recent months, but...	ParisMemories	6	473	Feb 9, 2013 by yanksfan51
	Hard time detaching (Preview) Hello, it's me again, Allie. I am trying to be forgiving toward my friend, who lives with me. He went out today and forgot to call me. I don't like checking on him, believe me. But he forgot to call at his usual time and he's been ill. I left him a text and he called back immediately, angry at me for bothering h...	AllieinAlanon	3	474	Feb 9, 2013 by AllieinAlanon
	Practice honesty (Preview) I've been feeling real down lately... I have many things that have been troubling me lately and I've been living them and making them my story. I've caught myself during the last couple weeks of this grieving process that I'm going through smiling and telling people I'm doing well. Then when I went to a...	Aloha	3	333	Feb 9, 2013 by Aloha
	Encouragement needed! (Preview) For the second time in 2 years he is back in jail for alcohol related stupidity. We were unable to live together months ago due to the alcohol related drama, verbal abuse, threats, damaged property and physical abuse. When sober he was a different person, like Jeckel and Hyde. We tried to make it work d...	Heather 68	4	351	Feb 9, 2013 by Heather 68
	I need prayer today. (Preview) Most days I'm able to get myself out of the dumps, by praying, or doing something nice for myself. I don't even feel that I can do that today. I am so overwhelmed by so much today. My AH has been a bear all week...playing his typical passive aggressive role of victim. My son, whose friend past away in Se...	Annie1234	5	455	Feb 9, 2013 by yanksfan51
	Are you made of miracles as well... (Preview) I read my horoscope this morning and somehow it seems appropriate to share it with you all: "For some reason we seem to imagine that miracles need to be dramatic. They must involve things we weren't expecting, things we can't explain, things that somehow make no sense. But is a flower not a miracl...	milkwood	5	611	Feb 8, 2013 by maryjane
	Here we go again. What a crazy ride! (Preview) Stop the roller coaster. I want to get off! Up until September of this year, my AH was extremely functional. Up until then, I wouldn't have thought he was an A. Now I know better. Just before Thanksgiving, he admitted to me that he couldn't stop drinking. He asked me to help him find help. We found a...	SaRw	6	415	Feb 8, 2013 by Tracy
	Uncertainty (Preview) Ever since I began moving forward with my own life, filed for divorce, and my HP intervened with a whopping incident causing major change, things have been changing very fast. My A is leaving for a treatment center tomorrow (God willing). I am still skeptical that he actually makes it there. I hav...	imom	3	413	Feb 8, 2013 by Tracy
	New to Alanon seeking help... (Preview) I come from a long line of alcholics & addicts - uncles, grandfathers, father, 2 brothers, 1 sister... My 25 year old brother died December 15, 2011 of liver failure after living for years addicted to mainly alcohol and opiates. 2 weeks later I began working as a substance abuse counselor for most...	britbug	12	640	Feb 8, 2013 by milkwood
	Want to disarm my anxiety (Preview) Becasue I have a hard time saying no and diappointing people, I am feeling anxious and unable to concentrate on preparation for a class I am teaching on Sat, which I am already anxious about. I am worried I will flub it up for sure now! Here is the situation: We filed chapter 13 last year to release 2 re...	PP	2	329	Feb 8, 2013 by PP
	Trying, Trying, Trying (Preview) Trying so hard today to work the program. Received text messages and voice mails when I got up all from 1-3 a.m. You know the times. When the A is out and could care less others need sleep and work. Several months ago I put the phone on vibrate and leave in another room far from our bedroom. I've told ou...	Afraidparent	3	372	Feb 8, 2013 by lgnutah
	just need to vent (Preview) I'm new to Al-non but have thought about joining for years.My husband of almost 29 years is an alcoholic in denial.He's a great provider with a good job but that's where it ends.He doesn't drink anything but beer but he's up to over a gallon most days,more if he's off work that day.It's terrible when he h...	pixie	4	456	Feb 8, 2013 by abbyalana
	Help! My husband's pain pill addiction is out of control! (Preview) Hi. I'm 27 years old, and my husband is 38 years old. We have to beautiful children. 5 year old son, and 3 year old daughter. I met my husband when I was 18, and he was 28. I knew he was a drug addict (he was on drug offenders probation), but love was love, and I knew what I was in for. Previously before his arres...	dwest26	4	547	Feb 8, 2013 by ParisMemories
	So Frustrating- Am I being punished? (Preview) I swear sometimes I feel like I can't be knocked down any further! Finally decide to go to a face to face meeting. Takes lots of planning with an 18 month baby! They no longer have that meeting due to not enough interest but is still listed on the Alanon website. I feel like I am constantly pulling myself...	lissa34	9	653	Feb 8, 2013 by ParisMemories
	chosen few? (Preview) my sponsor said 'many are called a few are chosen' struck a chord with me. alanon is such a fabulous program, it is changing my life. why do some people not 'get' it and why did i not get it sooner? could have saved so much misery.	el-cee	9	539	Feb 8, 2013 by el-cee
	Tough Love (Preview) Our program gently guides us to allow our A's to reap the consequences of their behaviors, and that we cannot continue to offer 'soft landings' for them all the time.... I had a friend from my childhood, who became a drug addict.... he was on the street for several years, and had lied & disappointe...	canadianguy	12	4180	Feb 8, 2013 by Heather 68
	Overwhelmed (Preview) Well, I have lots of options and I'm not sure what to do at this point. None of the choices are going to have pretty outcomes and honestly I'm to frustrated to care. I am powerless over other people's involvement when it comes to my STBAX's crazy behavior. They don't get it and I'm waiting for a 911 situ...	Pushka	6	355	Feb 8, 2013 by PP
	I'm Lost (Preview) As I'm letting go of my son I find I have nothing to do anymore. No more late night calls, not hospitals or detox centers, no spending money or taking him somewhere or picking him up or talking and arguing, no visits so he won't drink, no making him come to my house so he won't drink. No craziness. I"...	Cathyinaz	10	459	Feb 7, 2013 by Afraidparent
	Trust? (Preview) I want to trust my AH again but fear I am hoping for something impossible. I have this idea in my mind, a fantasy maybe, of having a husband that goes out with the guys and comes home at a decent time, who contributes money to the relationship rather than spend everything he makes plus what I make ... someon...	cmd309	12	468	Feb 7, 2013 by britbug
	Looking for advice, suggestions, or guidance. (Preview) I am fresh into a relationship (1.5 months) with a freshly recovering addict (6 months sober). I have been told the dangers of dating someone so early in their recovery and have read countless stories (both bad and good) about doing so. I have heard the tales of emotional rollercoasters and being held...	Sinneslust	5	410	Feb 7, 2013 by DavidG
	It never ends does it? (Preview) Of course I found myself thinking my AH can change but as with any expectation that leads to disappointment. After over 2 years off him being off drugs-he is still drinking so i dont call him sober even though he considers himself to be in recovery-he doesnt come home last night and I discover an ATM wi...	soozin12	3	387	Feb 7, 2013 by el-cee
	Do you feel guilty when the A is sober? (Preview) What I mean by this is that...when my AH is drunk and being an ass, and angry at the kids and everything is chaos and I want to leave him forever...and then the next day comes and he is sober for a day and somewhat nice and things go much better overall, then I feel guilty that I had feelings of leaving him...t...	Minaret	9	453	Feb 6, 2013 by Minaret
	Self-sabotage? (Preview) I read that 90% of people in 12-step recovery can identify with self-sabotage. Not necessarily with substances but EMOTIONAL Self-sabotage. What are your experiences on why we do this and how to stop repeating it?	WorkingThroughIt	10	1118	Feb 6, 2013 by el-cee
	So fustrated (Preview) My sober Abf was in a wreck tonight. He shouldn't have even been driving, but I no longer live there. He is 3 weeks out of back surgery - fusing 3 vertibra. Instead of being thankful he is safe & no damage was done to his back or no new damage was added - he is ANGRY that they discharged him with no new narc...	AngieP	2	324	Feb 6, 2013 by PP
	Anybody Identify with this? (Preview) Why do we put ourselves in the position to be harmed? I know today I invited people into my life who were the most troubled people in society...I did that to myself because I wanted to victimize myself and I didn't know any better. I made myself a "victim", always blaming others for their own s...	WorkingThroughIt	11	541	Feb 6, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Learning to Love... (Preview) Hello Al-Anon Family :) Sorry its been So Long! I've had my Share of Tragity Mixed with some Magical Moments, which seems to be the story of my life here of late, but Still taking it Day by Day... Moment by Moment... And at times Second by second! I was sitting here in my Pity Pot Yesterday & For what eve...	Jozie	4	430	Feb 6, 2013 by LeenieBeanie
	my self-care program: share (Preview) Hey all, i thought I would come here and share my care program, that I have tailored around my own Self. I first felt quite unusual you know, I am VERY good at caring for others, yet when I turned that around and started nurturuing myself, it felt odd: a little bit of guilt, that feeling to be selfish... bu...	tortuga	7	351	Feb 6, 2013 by pinkchip
	Need Help with Translating a Letter from my A (Preview) I received a letter from my A who is away at rehab. In the letter and I quote "I operate in a practical, business and organized approach. That may be when your feel pushed away because at that time we are operating in different worlds." (Which is based on the left side of my brain not working mos...	newwoman	9	408	Feb 6, 2013 by likemyheart
	My first step into al anon as an aa member (Preview) I am still trying to find a meeting that will fit into my schedule but I could really use some help now. I am an aa member ( actually celebrating my 6 year anniversary today!). I recently went backt to the west coast to visit my parents. My father is an alcoholic. I stayed in a hotel because of his drinking. I...	jackic	6	634	Feb 6, 2013 by jackic
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