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Has anyone had to deal with dementia/alzheimers with their alcoholic.My husband has been acting like he's in the early stages.I have the utmost compassion for anyone with these problems but if his is caused by the drinking I have no compassion for him and am finding it hard to deal with it.He's just annoying me more.I've worked in nursing homes and have seen it and he's acting like my elderly residents who have alzheimers and dementia type problems.
Hope everyone is having a great day.Take care of yourselves!!
My son is 35 years old and forgets, repeats and doesn't remember things all the time.
Just this morning he texts me asking if I have received his W2 in my mail yet. It was only 2 days prior that we talked about me getting the W2 and I had put it in the mail to him. He says Oh...I will check with my landlord.....thx.
These things happen all the time when he drinks.
It makes me sad to see such a young person destroying his brain with alcohol. If he ever gets clean I pray his mind will come back.
Welcome to MIP and keep coming back...your not alone.
Cathy
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it may be any kind of dementia...due to poor blood circulation (vascular dementia), alzheimers, or another dementia known as Korsakoff SYndrome...brought on by alcoholism (from a vitamin deficiency).
Whatever might be going on...it's good to get a doc's opinion, a neuro consult, in case it's something that is reversible or slowed...
I wish I could get him to go to a doctor but he won't even go to one when he has a bad cold unless he's desperate.I think he's afraid of what he might be told.It's the denial thing and if a profession puts it right in his face he might have to really think about it.It's his loss,it's just hard to deal with when I'm pretty sure he brought it on himself.He'll get no sympathy from me
Last weekend I bought a wi-fi adapter for my computer so I could move it to a different room.I got it all hooked up and working.My husband comes in and asks how it's working.......3 times.The next day he comes up to my sewing room and says,"oh,I forgot you moved the computer,how's it working.That's when I said in a not so nice tone,"that's the 4th time you asked me and each time I've said fine!!" He walked away.He loves his football and he looked forward all week last week to watch the superbowl.He got his things done,I had dinner ready before it came on and he took his shower so he could sit and enjoy the game.When the game came on he was passed out on the couch and missed most of the game.If it weren't for the power outage and the delay it caused he wouldn't have seen any of it.I just don't feel sorry for him any more.
I am sorry you have to watch your son with these problems.It's so young but maybe he could turn it around if he'd stop drinking.I'll keep good thoughts that he does.
It's so hard to answer the same question over and over. I'm sorry...this disease sure does devastate people and their families. Take care of you Pixie...we'll send all the strength we can muster for you...
Hi Pixie, it is so frustrating isn't it, especially when you are trying to rush off somewhere or in the middle of something! That said, I find that it is useful to accept that AH's reality is real to him, and that it is ok if I think differently but fairly useless to try and argue - it would be a bit like someone saying to me 'that isn't actually your post on MIP...' I think that it is very very scary for him when he does catch a glimpse that he is not as sharp as he used to be.
When I learned that my alcoholic/addict wife was suffering from a life threatening disease I was released from most of the anger and resentment. It was at that point that I would allow the fellowship to teach me the compassion I had built inside of a concrete room. That was one of the first freedoms I received in Al-Anon the freedom from fear. My mother had dementia, parkinsons and alzheimers. I've been dealing with forgetfulness at times where ever it is attached to. It reminds me to have compasison for the others who also have it. ((((hugs))))
