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Lots of good news happening, I think the money is going to be released sooner than later. I also think that my STBAX has done something INCREDIBLY stupid and filed without me. If he has he's in a whole world of doo doo in ways that will boggle his mind.
The other issue is the child support and maintenance is not going to be at his will to release it's all coming out automatically. He's very much NOT happy about it all. Now it's gone from it's his money to YOUR money. LOL .. I'm like nooo it's money for your child and I to survive on. He's also going to have to provide check stubs once a month on the 1st for the previous month so that he can't hide money. He's very much NOT happy about that either. I dare him to go against the order because he's going to wind up in a world of more doo doo. Now everyone is done dealing with him including his atty.
This is a LOAD off my mind. Now I feel like I can move forward and make things happen in a postive way. My daughter's ortho is going to be paid for, the schooling and so on.
I've also been blessed to sign my daughter up for tennis .. ILD I was thinking of you big time :) We will see where she is at I want to give her something to look forward to and I feel like tennis is something that would be so good for her. She's been talking about it for weeks now and will be SOOOOOO excited when she finds out that she gets to go!! I'm so very proud of the kids and I may see if I can get my son signed up as well.
Anyway, FINALLY some really great news!! I will also get to talk to my atty about the TRO and the kids. This is so far from done it's not funny now I'm ready to sit on my barge and wait it all out. It's been a long week and I'm sooo excited for this to all be in effect.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Sooo much information at the moment I can't sort through it all.
The bottom line is these natural consquences are really crazy things. It's hard to step out of the way and not feel that I need to lead the charge.
I'm just sooo relieved at the moment it's not even funny. I feel like I can finally take a breath.
He's going to be in soooo much trouble. I really can't believe he continues to operate at the level he is at the moment I almost feel sorry for him. This is going to cost him not just financially. He's not going to know which way is up when it's all said and done.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Oh, yay! I'm so glad she's going to try tennis. Tennis keeps ME sane, LOL! Oh, and I have to spend the weekend at one of ds' tournaments but I love watching the kids play.
So glad that things are seeming to turn around for you. Just keep doing the 'next right thing', girl!
Now that I've had time to think about stuff at first I was freaked out over him filing without me. He's indicating to his atty that "we've" filed taxes .. the priceless moment when the judge informed him he was still married we have to file together. This last year we have to file taxes together .. well .. that is a problem because nothing went through the child support disbursment plan there is nothing showing as to what his part is and is not. SOOOOOOO .. what that translates to is that the state shows him owing a TON of money .. I mean a LOT and so the taxes will come to me automatically which means the situation will iron itself out sooner than later. PLUS if he's hallucinating he's headed to Chile with his dad .. he's not getting a passport for a LONG time to come.
He really doesn't get it and he doesn't get that everytime he does something stupid that it whammy's back on him. Of course it's MY fault after all now instead of hearing about "his money" he's changed it to "your money" that means those are statements are atty induced. He gets it and then forgets. The ONLY reason I got anything his last payday is that the atty sat him down and told him this is what's going to happen period. I mean I'm now hoping that this atty sticks around as I don't want to deal with another atty AGAIN!! Well he has no money for a different atty. He's up the creek in ways that boggle the mind. I am thinking that his atty is NOT going to be all up for delays and billing hours his client can't pay for.
Now he's avoiding his atty, because his atty is going to confront him on the fact we have NOT filed taxes and this holds up a LOT of money for me and his atty. I am strictly guessing based upon what I have paid and spent .. we are talking THOUSANDS he hasn't even made one payment on. LOL .. no wonder his atty was soooo mad when he found out about that bonus .. it's money HE missed out on as well. STBAX's true colors are flying through at this point and time. He just can't pay a bill .. he's not even paying his mother at this point either.
I guess the bottom line is for now things have worked out and hopefully will continue to. I am extremely concerned about a couple other things I can't talk about now however in a few weeks I can. The kids are safe, I'm safe and that's all that I'm concerned with at this point. The money will start being automatic and now he's in the system and that bodes well for the kids and I.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I have been sitting in the background, reading post for a good while, and I have followed all that you have been throught since becoming a member here and also the great amount of growth and healing that has been an ongoing process.
I am so very glad things are working out for you. It amazes me that we can fight and fight, but until we surrender and put it all in the right professional's hands and the hands of our HP, it just seems like an never ending struggle. When we let go and do the next right thing.. the next right thing always happens...
John
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" And what did we gain? A new life, with purpose, meaning and constant progress, and all the contentment and fulfillment that comes from such growth."
