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ParisMemories · ParisMemories

His outpatient program ended at 3PM today. He came home at 4:30, smelling of alcohol. He packed up some stuff and headed for the door. I said please don't leave. He said he can't stay here with me. He said he has to leave, and he is afraid he will hurt himself. This morning before he left for the program, he s...

Number30 · Number30

If you've seen the movie "Inception" this will make sense, if not, it's a great movie and you should see it. ;) **spoiler below!!** I feel like Leonardo D.'s character and AH is his wife. I feel so spun out living in reality when his reality (drug-induced) is so false to me. He was clean for l...

el-cee · el-cee

its blowing a gale in my part of the world tonight and my son is out there somewhere. fear creeps into my mind and my body reacts. i become a bit paralysed. sounds dramatic but i can stay frozen for hours when it takes hold. ive just watched a program(while beng frozen) that may have been sent from my hp. all...

debhud · debhud

i am a nurse and have worked in detox in the past. today while visiting AS he asked me if he could come to my house for a few days so i could help him detox safely. (he has no medical insurance.) i used to work in this type of unit and i know what is involved. he does have medications needed to get him through...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am finding it easier when I go w/ the flow. Accept the things I cannot change, etc. But today I am feeling a little sad because my cousin in CA hasn't emailed me in awhile. I asked her for her phone number & I guess it was too many times. I am such a pushy cousin I guess. Anyhow, if she doesn't email me soon...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I am so stressed out today. My AH's domestic violence case is scheduled for trial. He refuses to hire any attorney. He says I need to fix this. I know that sounds crazy, but part of me, a big part of me, does feel responsible. I honestly knew that he was not violent. The reason I called the police that day was...

tortuga · tortuga

Hello Family, I'm actually back to myself, and my life more or less in balance... there is lots to do still, and there will always be, but at least I have my peace back.... without that i couldn't walk so steady. So yesterday again my ex ABF contacted me, with a small text saying 'how are you?'.... I didn'...

milkwood · milkwood

Hello All, This week I am doing a mamoth painting and decorating job. Its going ok but since I'm feeling a bit tired I thought I'd take a few minutes to enjoy my MIP family and reading the posts I was reminded of a little card that I carry in my wallet. Perhaps it is worth a share.... A 17th Century Nun's Pra...

blondie99 · blondie99

Have to share something with you my dear MIP family...hopefully it will offer strength and hope to those who are hurting. I've never been one who is good with confrontations - especially when they are unexpected. So when I got a call earlier this evening from my STBXAH from rehab, I knew something was u...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

When my heart and mind were filled with discouragement, there was no room for concern for others. Daily I tormented myself, thinking in circles, deciding first on one desperate measure, then another. There was no air, no breathing space, between me and my problem; we were entangled and confused. I...

david62 · david62

For all you e-book fans!! New from Al Anon: Our first e-book! Having Had a Spiritual Awakening . . . This beautiful book features member sharings, photographs, and artwork from around the globe, reflecting the diversity of Al Anon members' spiritual experiences. No longer in print,Havi...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Well, at least my mentality took a turn, that's for sure. We had marriage counseling yesterday, it didn't go well. I need someone to tell me to NOT listen to his insanity. He says I don't care about the house anymore and that right there was insane: I have planted new shrubs, I clean, I vacuum, I take ca...

John · John

As I had mentioned rather recently, my son, a 33 yr old A got busted for breaking into a little store and stealing cigarettes and beer. He was charged with two felonies as a result. His bond was 10,000.00. This was on Dec. 1st. I let his ass sit in jail for about 2 weeks and then put up the 1,000.00 it cost...

Sandiedog · Sandiedog

Hi, am new here and need to get things off my chest to people who understand and don't judge. 2 months ago my brother in law died - he was an alcholic living with his mum so we had a long hard road with her enabling him. My sister is also an alcholic since young. She went into a detox unit before Christmas and ha...

Jbrobers · Jbrobers

My wife of seven years is a recovering addict. About 3 months ago she started helping a male member of our church who is fresh out of recovery. He hasn't gotten a sponsor. He hasn't made 90 meetings in 90 days. He relapsed once already. He slept with a girl a week after he got out of rehab and thought he had he...

New member - taking first steps · SpiderArcana

Hey everyone. I guess a little background first. My husband is a high-functioning alcoholic, and battles depression and anxiety as well. He's on medication for the latter two, and has been working on the alcohol. We've been together for 13 years, and looking back I realize that he suffered for a l...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Little message from my son. I emailed him about his choices in life, working at getting things together and told him I'm praying for him and that I loved him: Response: I am trying on all fronts. Some guy came to look at the car last night and seems very interesred. I also rejected an offer for 7. My anxiet...

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

I have no idea if I should do this or not. But I am so incredibly ticked off everyday all day at my AH for his meanness, his whining, his helplessness, his drug use, his excuses, his laziness, his false accusations, his unwillingness to BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING. I left a message for his probation officer t...

Lyne · Lyne

With every lie, the last one was about something so small, but with each one no matter how big or small, I just move further and further away emotionally. And my A seems to be in her own world of denial. She blames me for being distant, and doesn't see her behavior as anything problematic. I guess the wo...

imom · imom

I have been separated from my AH for about out a month now. I finally got to the point where I was truly happy and saw a new future for myself, when my AH asked me to join him for family night at his rehab center. I went for a few reasons. First I was shocked and flattered that he invited me after shutting me o...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Hello out there everyone, I guess I'll start out by admitting that I haven't been working the steps on the boards, as faithfully as I'd intended. What's that saying about the road to hell being paved with good intentions (lol)? This past weekend, ABF surprised me by saying that he wanted to stop drinki...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just got the new tablet on Saturday as I mentioned earlier this week. Sometimes I get frustrated. It is new to me--I guess it will take time to get used to it. I love to look around & see what it available on it. Unfortunately I still have to get on the library computer to do other things. I have gotten u...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

Sad. I have been to more than 6 meetings, and have " How Al-anon works" sitting next to me tonight. I felt like I was doing so well, and I remember a time when my partner saying he would even go to AA would have been God shining down right in front of me. I couldn't imagine that day and felt like when...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Does anyone know how to access MIP on a tablet? I haven't got that far yet. I just got it on Sat. I am still going to be on here on the library computer. I feel much more comfortable knowing that I can get on here w/o any trouble. I am doing OK. God is still blessing me. I am going to be able to keep in touch much bet...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Recently I have been feeling convicted in my heart that I am being unfair to AH when it comes to sex. I have not been interested in him sexually for quite some time. I have been at a point where I the lies, the drinking, the DUI, the angry mean things he says, etc(you all get the picture) have taken a toll on...

cnh502 · cnh502

al·co·hol·ism/alkhôlizm/ NounAn addiction to the consumption of alcoholic liquor or the mental illness and compulsive behavior resulting from alcohol dependency. Synonyms dipsomania - inebriety So who named this devil created addiction a disease?

cnh502 · cnh502

Hello all, I googled 'how to deal with a recovering alcoholic' and here you fine folks are! I have never considered Al-Anon, not sure why. Nonetheless, here I am. My husband has been in recovery 5 days, I use the word recovery loosely. Let me give you some brief history: In the recent past I have been rev...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I have done well... living by hes gonna drink or not drink what are you gonna do... He has left last few wkends to be drunk at fishing camp, course txting horrible things to me, Ive learned not to answer calls and txts for that matter for the most part. I helped my daughter move in her 1st house she just bough...

Heather 68 · Heather 68

I had a dream recently, actually a nightmare. I dreamt of my ABF (ex now) with all the abuse, lies, drinking, pain and chaos warped in one place. In the dream i begged for help from the police and friends (lost friends when i choose to stay with him, that's real) but no one would help because i keep putting u...

John · John

This morning I woke up and sat in front of my laptop, read a few post on this and a few other MIP message boards, and was pretty much run over with memories of years gone by. I sat right here, 12 years ago today (2001), and wrote a letter to the NC Board of Social Workers and the NC State Attorney General, and co...

Heather 68 · Heather 68

Rough couple of days here. My ABF got stink drunk, called to tell me he met a women at a bar than had the women call me. He was upset because I went to a meeting and he claims i put that before him. I said some really horrible things to him, out of the anger, things he did not know and i never intended to tell him. H...

1976love · 1976love

Quick little post before I go to work. My oldest son was hit with a virus. I have it now, was up all night with a fever. My house looks like a tornado ran through it. I will clean it when I start to feel better. My AH has broke his own record being sober more than 75 days, yesterday he said he had to get to his...

el-cee · el-cee

lately im feeling very detached from myself, if that makes sense. my home life seems to go from bad to worse and i am wondering if everyone has a breaking point? im managing to keep going and put a brave face on but its a lie. i dont feel brave or normal. im wondering if i have a limit before i lose my mind. i wan...

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

So much for his denials. I can say I finally caught him, though it doesn't make me feel better. I found some white chunks in his cigarette pack. He still tried to say he didn't know what it was, til I touched it to my tongue and it numbed my mouth and throat. Then he finally admitted it. I flushed it. I wa...

Lupo · Lupo

So this morning I found several hypodermic needles in my fiancées bathroom I already gave her an ultimatum that if she continues to use it would be over. She swears they're old and she needed to take them someplace to dispose of. What do I do? I want to believe her but I dont know... What do I do with the need...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Hi everyone. Hope things are going ok for you. I started reading Courage To Change because my library happened to have it. I miss my Hope For Today book and am hoping to gind one at an Alanon meeting. My health has gotten really bad and I'm trying to do everything I can to stop smoking. My addiction goes alo...

TrudyS85 · TrudyS85

I have not posted in months, been reading and keeping up with everyone else but it has been too hard to post. Still seperated from AH, handed him divorce papers and he went into full "I'll change" mode. He is on new medications for his bipolar and they are seeming to help. I feel stuck in limbo a...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Today was a very hard day. AH is so angry with me about this court case. Things did not go well today, mainly because AH is so egotistical and thought he should represent himself in front of the judge. Never a good idea. I am giving it all to my HP and trying so hard to do the next right thing. Not react, think,...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

OMGOSH...... My son just called me. He's Drunk and can hardly speak. He's about to be put on the streets and he crying. He asked if I would take Nisa ( his kitty ) Man this is going to be hard God help me to handle this....

rainlax · rainlax

I went to my 2nd mtg tonight and had a few WOW moments! By the end of the mtg, I was super excited to go again next week. But then, as I was putting on my jacket, the lady sitting in front of me (who I'd never met before) turned around to welcome me and ask if I have any questions. I said not really, that I was still...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

My parents moved out on Thursday night. It was a huge ugly fight. I gave them a letter a month ago saying that I'd like them to move out by April 7th. They hadn't said a word to me about it or hardly anything else for that matter. I've been feeling like a hostage in my own home. Like I couldn't move or breath. My...

CaliGirl83 · CaliGirl83

He's been lying to her for a year about his drinking so she would continue to pay his rent while he was unemployed and "going back to school". FYI, and no surprise, he took one online class in the entire year, dropped out of all the rest, and has been partying nearly every day with whoever woul...

debhud · debhud

prayers needed...my AS 14 year old daughter was admitted to a psychiatric center today for suicial thoughts. her parents split up 1 year ago due to AS progressive drinking. my granddaughter is such a sweet young lady. torn between mom and dad. moved out of her home of 13 years. it is so sad. my hea...

davie · davie

Me and my AW have been seperated for 5 months now and she hasnt stopped calling since. currently she has lost her sister, 2 nieces, her husband and sits in her house all day on her awn and continues to drink. i gave in one day and called my AW and we met, she hasnt changed and looks ill, and her clothes were wor...

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

I visit this board throughout the day (probably more than my employer would like). And so often I want to post but I don't. I start a post and write for about 5 minutes and then I delete it. I have been miserable today because of the repercussions of my behavior when I found drugs on my AH last Sunday. I...

Clear4 · Clear4

I've been in and out of Al-Anon since the 80's & have been struggling with the LP. The program promotes "God of your Understanding" and also states Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, etc The LP uses the term "our father." Not everyone's God is "their...

vickie1961 · vickie1961

This is going to be my frist time ever meeting for al-nona. So could I get some help on what might be going on in there. Do i need to take pen and paper do you have to have books i'm worry about going.

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

I just wanted to take a minute and say thank you to this Al-Anon site's administrators. I really appreciate your monitoring and maintaining this board. I know there are a lot of behind the scenes things that go on that you all take care of for us. I am sure other people feel the same. (BTW, I'm not new...

tortuga · tortuga

Dear MIP it has been over 2 weeks that I seperated from my ABF. Struggle, fear, sadness, anger.... i let it all happen, and pass. and spending much time with people that are positive and do me good, and polishing up my social life a little bit. it's actually amazing how I put myself in the last row of my own l...

AngelicH57 · AngelicH57

I think and pray about my daughter all the time. I'm afraid she's going to jail because she doesn't have the money to pay her court fines $900+. I know it would only take a credit card and a few clicks of the mouse to pay them for her but it will start the cycle all over again...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone Over these last few months I can say I have learned a lot about myself and its really given me the ability to live again. Dont get me wrong, Im nowhere close to being completely without fear and worry but Im learning to handle it better and faster. Betty told me its natural to have worry in my...

laurab · laurab

Son is in the hospital in Phuket Thailand. Our friends visit, speak to the doctors, and to our son. Son doesn't like the third world hospital. Big ward, shared bathroom, change your own sheets if you can get some. No food unless someone brings it in. Too bad. He is bleeding internally. We don't know the r...

Debilyn · Debilyn

The experience I had, I wrote lightly about it. In reality it was extremely scarey, and I am still feeling uncomfortable and have not gone out again. My ex AH physically hurt me badly once. Before that it was a poke in the back or well nothing that hurt and I was prepared to protect me. But the complete turn...

missm1234 · missm1234

Hello ... this is the first time I have ever come for help within Al-Anon. My situation is a little strange. My mom has been drinking for years, she has tried to quit once before and did for three years. She relapsed a year ago and her drinking has become out of control. She agreed to go to rehab, most pe...

Grumble · Grumble

I attended my first meeting last week, so please bare with me as I'm new and I'm confused. Background: my family are not addicts, but I am only attracted to, date, live, love addicts. Most of the time I have no idea they are addicts. They are all so different, I don't have a type, I live alone, I'm singl...

Heather 68 · Heather 68

So, my ABF is out of jail, again. I refused to visit him, write or talk to him on the phone. Can you believe this upset him! WTF!! I have told him how negatively his drinking effects me but only get blamed and denials. Since his release he has seen me practice detachment, he says I am selfish. No concept of ho...

AngelicH57 · AngelicH57

I watched the movie Flight last night... has anyone seen it yet? What are your thoughts? I felt that it helped me understand a little better what an alcoholic is going through and of course I cried at the end.

KSwiss · KSwiss

I just realized today that my HP answered one of my biggest prayers. It came to me as I was in the shower like a lightbulb being turned on. HP is awesome!! I am so glad he led me to Al anon almost two years ago. I had prayed for my kids to be ok. They are doing excellent! They have good grades and my two oldest are...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

It has been a very difficult two weeks. My AH was arrested for domestic vandalism (he broke a window, I called the police). As a result he checked himself into an inpatient detox for 6 days and is now in an IOP program. He has been diagnosed bipolar and mild schizophrenic. Wed we go to the pretrial hearing...

cinders · cinders

I received an email from my soon to be ex AH yesterday. He was hateful, mean, putting me down and cruel. Usually I am not bothered by most of what he says and can usually just ignore it, but yesterdays email was very very cruel. I simply replied back that if he ever contacts me again I will get a restraini...

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	AH Left and Said He is Afraid He Might Hurt Himself (Preview) His outpatient program ended at 3PM today. He came home at 4:30, smelling of alcohol. He packed up some stuff and headed for the door. I said please don't leave. He said he can't stay here with me. He said he has to leave, and he is afraid he will hurt himself. This morning before he left for the program, he s...	ParisMemories	13	392	Mar 9, 2013 by ParisMemories
	"Inception" and my struggle (Preview) If you've seen the movie "Inception" this will make sense, if not, it's a great movie and you should see it. ;) spoiler below!! I feel like Leonardo D.'s character and AH is his wife. I feel so spun out living in reality when his reality (drug-induced) is so false to me. He was clean for l...	Number30	2	332	Mar 9, 2013 by hotrod
	windy night (Preview) its blowing a gale in my part of the world tonight and my son is out there somewhere. fear creeps into my mind and my body reacts. i become a bit paralysed. sounds dramatic but i can stay frozen for hours when it takes hold. ive just watched a program(while beng frozen) that may have been sent from my hp. all...	el-cee	7	224	Mar 9, 2013 by el-cee
	AS asked for my help. Need ESH PLEASE (Preview) i am a nurse and have worked in detox in the past. today while visiting AS he asked me if he could come to my house for a few days so i could help him detox safely. (he has no medical insurance.) i used to work in this type of unit and i know what is involved. he does have medications needed to get him through...	debhud	6	277	Mar 9, 2013 by Jerry F
	go w/ the flow! (Preview) I am finding it easier when I go w/ the flow. Accept the things I cannot change, etc. But today I am feeling a little sad because my cousin in CA hasn't emailed me in awhile. I asked her for her phone number & I guess it was too many times. I am such a pushy cousin I guess. Anyhow, if she doesn't email me soon...	Hoot Nanny	1	214	Mar 9, 2013 by el-cee
	Trying to remain calm (Preview) I am so stressed out today. My AH's domestic violence case is scheduled for trial. He refuses to hire any attorney. He says I need to fix this. I know that sounds crazy, but part of me, a big part of me, does feel responsible. I honestly knew that he was not violent. The reason I called the police that day was...	ParisMemories	4	417	Mar 9, 2013 by hotrod
	uncomfortable feeling: detachment or indifference? (Preview) Hello Family, I'm actually back to myself, and my life more or less in balance... there is lots to do still, and there will always be, but at least I have my peace back.... without that i couldn't walk so steady. So yesterday again my ex ABF contacted me, with a small text saying 'how are you?'.... I didn'...	tortuga	7	646	Mar 9, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	A 17th Century Prayer... (Preview) Hello All, This week I am doing a mamoth painting and decorating job. Its going ok but since I'm feeling a bit tired I thought I'd take a few minutes to enjoy my MIP family and reading the posts I was reminded of a little card that I carry in my wallet. Perhaps it is worth a share.... A 17th Century Nun's Pra...	milkwood	5	581	Mar 8, 2013 by el-cee
	Thank you HP (Preview) Have to share something with you my dear MIP family...hopefully it will offer strength and hope to those who are hurting. I've never been one who is good with confrontations - especially when they are unexpected. So when I got a call earlier this evening from my STBXAH from rehab, I knew something was u...	blondie99	4	228	Mar 8, 2013 by tiredtonite
	One Day at a Time (Preview) When my heart and mind were filled with discouragement, there was no room for concern for others. Daily I tormented myself, thinking in circles, deciding first on one desperate measure, then another. There was no air, no breathing space, between me and my problem; we were entangled and confused. I...	Cathyinaz	2	209	Mar 8, 2013 by AngelicH57
	Al-Anon's First e-book! (Preview) For all you e-book fans!! New from Al Anon: Our first e-book! Having Had a Spiritual Awakening . . . This beautiful book features member sharings, photographs, and artwork from around the globe, reflecting the diversity of Al Anon members' spiritual experiences. No longer in print,Havi...	david62	5	681	Mar 8, 2013 by StargazerLily
	Friends, things took a turn (Preview) Well, at least my mentality took a turn, that's for sure. We had marriage counseling yesterday, it didn't go well. I need someone to tell me to NOT listen to his insanity. He says I don't care about the house anymore and that right there was insane: I have planted new shrubs, I clean, I vacuum, I take ca...	ilovedogs	6	448	Mar 8, 2013 by ilovedogs
	My A Son re-arrested! (Preview) As I had mentioned rather recently, my son, a 33 yr old A got busted for breaking into a little store and stealing cigarettes and beer. He was charged with two felonies as a result. His bond was 10,000.00. This was on Dec. 1st. I let his ass sit in jail for about 2 weeks and then put up the 1,000.00 it cost...	John	11	531	Mar 8, 2013 by Highlyfavored
	New here and upset tonight (Preview) Hi, am new here and need to get things off my chest to people who understand and don't judge. 2 months ago my brother in law died - he was an alcholic living with his mum so we had a long hard road with her enabling him. My sister is also an alcholic since young. She went into a detox unit before Christmas and ha...	Sandiedog	9	341	Mar 8, 2013 by Tracey C
	Too helpful wife (Preview) My wife of seven years is a recovering addict. About 3 months ago she started helping a male member of our church who is fresh out of recovery. He hasn't gotten a sponsor. He hasn't made 90 meetings in 90 days. He relapsed once already. He slept with a girl a week after he got out of rehab and thought he had he...	Jbrobers	4	415	Mar 8, 2013 by Jbrobers
	New member - taking first steps (Preview) Hey everyone. I guess a little background first. My husband is a high-functioning alcoholic, and battles depression and anxiety as well. He's on medication for the latter two, and has been working on the alcohol. We've been together for 13 years, and looking back I realize that he suffered for a l...	SpiderArcana	4	324	Mar 8, 2013 by SpiderArcana
	Is this denial (Preview) Little message from my son. I emailed him about his choices in life, working at getting things together and told him I'm praying for him and that I loved him: Response: I am trying on all fronts. Some guy came to look at the car last night and seems very interesred. I also rejected an offer for 7. My anxiet...	Cathyinaz	10	301	Mar 8, 2013 by John
	Left a voicemail w/ probation officer (Preview) I have no idea if I should do this or not. But I am so incredibly ticked off everyday all day at my AH for his meanness, his whining, his helplessness, his drug use, his excuses, his laziness, his false accusations, his unwillingness to BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING. I left a message for his probation officer t...	NicoleDiver	18	627	Mar 8, 2013 by rehprof
	With every lie (Preview) With every lie, the last one was about something so small, but with each one no matter how big or small, I just move further and further away emotionally. And my A seems to be in her own world of denial. She blames me for being distant, and doesn't see her behavior as anything problematic. I guess the wo...	Lyne	3	250	Mar 8, 2013 by Jerry F
	Withdrawal from The A (Preview) I have been separated from my AH for about out a month now. I finally got to the point where I was truly happy and saw a new future for myself, when my AH asked me to join him for family night at his rehab center. I went for a few reasons. First I was shocked and flattered that he invited me after shutting me o...	imom	3	372	Mar 8, 2013 by Jerry F
	A Letter to ABF (Preview) Hello out there everyone, I guess I'll start out by admitting that I haven't been working the steps on the boards, as faithfully as I'd intended. What's that saying about the road to hell being paved with good intentions (lol)? This past weekend, ABF surprised me by saying that he wanted to stop drinki...	Raven Juniper	6	369	Mar 8, 2013 by giraffe13
	it doesn't work sometimes (Preview) I just got the new tablet on Saturday as I mentioned earlier this week. Sometimes I get frustrated. It is new to me--I guess it will take time to get used to it. I love to look around & see what it available on it. Unfortunately I still have to get on the library computer to do other things. I have gotten u...	Hoot Nanny	1	210	Mar 8, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	help me. I am riddled with stress right now over what my partner is out doing! (Preview) Sad. I have been to more than 6 meetings, and have " How Al-anon works" sitting next to me tonight. I felt like I was doing so well, and I remember a time when my partner saying he would even go to AA would have been God shining down right in front of me. I couldn't imagine that day and felt like when...	giraffe13	7	500	Mar 7, 2013 by giraffe13
	does anyone know? (Preview) Does anyone know how to access MIP on a tablet? I haven't got that far yet. I just got it on Sat. I am still going to be on here on the library computer. I feel much more comfortable knowing that I can get on here w/o any trouble. I am doing OK. God is still blessing me. I am going to be able to keep in touch much bet...	Hoot Nanny	2	265	Mar 8, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Am I being fair to my AH? (Preview) Recently I have been feeling convicted in my heart that I am being unfair to AH when it comes to sex. I have not been interested in him sexually for quite some time. I have been at a point where I the lies, the drinking, the DUI, the angry mean things he says, etc(you all get the picture) have taken a toll on...	ilovedogs	6	302	Mar 8, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Alcoholism (Preview) al·co·hol·ism/alkhôlizm/ NounAn addiction to the consumption of alcoholic liquor or the mental illness and compulsive behavior resulting from alcohol dependency. Synonyms dipsomania - inebriety So who named this devil created addiction a disease?	cnh502	4	277	Mar 8, 2013 by cnh502
	He Has Been In Recovery for 5 days and he is WORSE! (Preview) Hello all, I googled 'how to deal with a recovering alcoholic' and here you fine folks are! I have never considered Al-Anon, not sure why. Nonetheless, here I am. My husband has been in recovery 5 days, I use the word recovery loosely. Let me give you some brief history: In the recent past I have been rev...	cnh502	16	382	Mar 7, 2013 by cnh502
	I went backward !!! (Preview) I have done well... living by hes gonna drink or not drink what are you gonna do... He has left last few wkends to be drunk at fishing camp, course txting horrible things to me, Ive learned not to answer calls and txts for that matter for the most part. I helped my daughter move in her 1st house she just bough...	sweeetr	6	234	Mar 8, 2013 by sweeetr
	HP has spoken (Preview) I had a dream recently, actually a nightmare. I dreamt of my ABF (ex now) with all the abuse, lies, drinking, pain and chaos warped in one place. In the dream i begged for help from the police and friends (lost friends when i choose to stay with him, that's real) but no one would help because i keep putting u...	Heather 68	2	201	Mar 8, 2013 by Jerry F
	Today, 12 years ago.... (Preview) This morning I woke up and sat in front of my laptop, read a few post on this and a few other MIP message boards, and was pretty much run over with memories of years gone by. I sat right here, 12 years ago today (2001), and wrote a letter to the NC Board of Social Workers and the NC State Attorney General, and co...	John	8	463	Mar 8, 2013 by DavidG
	Feeling how? (Preview) Rough couple of days here. My ABF got stink drunk, called to tell me he met a women at a bar than had the women call me. He was upset because I went to a meeting and he claims i put that before him. I said some really horrible things to him, out of the anger, things he did not know and i never intended to tell him. H...	Heather 68	3	323	Mar 8, 2013 by Heather 68
	easy is for fools (Preview) Quick little post before I go to work. My oldest son was hit with a virus. I have it now, was up all night with a fever. My house looks like a tornado ran through it. I will clean it when I start to feel better. My AH has broke his own record being sober more than 75 days, yesterday he said he had to get to his...	1976love	3	246	Mar 7, 2013 by 1976love
	is this self pity? (Preview) lately im feeling very detached from myself, if that makes sense. my home life seems to go from bad to worse and i am wondering if everyone has a breaking point? im managing to keep going and put a brave face on but its a lie. i dont feel brave or normal. im wondering if i have a limit before i lose my mind. i wan...	el-cee	9	421	Mar 7, 2013 by el-cee
	Finally caught him red-handed (Preview) So much for his denials. I can say I finally caught him, though it doesn't make me feel better. I found some white chunks in his cigarette pack. He still tried to say he didn't know what it was, til I touched it to my tongue and it numbed my mouth and throat. Then he finally admitted it. I flushed it. I wa...	NicoleDiver	7	364	Mar 7, 2013 by cnh502
	What to do? (Preview) So this morning I found several hypodermic needles in my fiancées bathroom I already gave her an ultimatum that if she continues to use it would be over. She swears they're old and she needed to take them someplace to dispose of. What do I do? I want to believe her but I dont know... What do I do with the need...	Lupo	5	312	Mar 7, 2013 by Lupo
	Addictions and Codependency (Preview) Hi everyone. Hope things are going ok for you. I started reading Courage To Change because my library happened to have it. I miss my Hope For Today book and am hoping to gind one at an Alanon meeting. My health has gotten really bad and I'm trying to do everything I can to stop smoking. My addiction goes alo...	WorkingThroughIt	8	321	Mar 7, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Still Working Thru It (Preview) I have not posted in months, been reading and keeping up with everyone else but it has been too hard to post. Still seperated from AH, handed him divorce papers and he went into full "I'll change" mode. He is on new medications for his bipolar and they are seeming to help. I feel stuck in limbo a...	TrudyS85	4	307	Mar 7, 2013 by Pushka
	Today we went to court (Preview) Today was a very hard day. AH is so angry with me about this court case. Things did not go well today, mainly because AH is so egotistical and thought he should represent himself in front of the judge. Never a good idea. I am giving it all to my HP and trying so hard to do the next right thing. Not react, think,...	ParisMemories	3	437	Mar 7, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	It's beyond my control (Preview) OMGOSH...... My son just called me. He's Drunk and can hardly speak. He's about to be put on the streets and he crying. He asked if I would take Nisa ( his kitty ) Man this is going to be hard God help me to handle this....	Cathyinaz	12	397	Mar 7, 2013 by AngelicH57
	Bad experience at 2nd meeting. (Preview) I went to my 2nd mtg tonight and had a few WOW moments! By the end of the mtg, I was super excited to go again next week. But then, as I was putting on my jacket, the lady sitting in front of me (who I'd never met before) turned around to welcome me and ask if I have any questions. I said not really, that I was still...	rainlax	13	727	Mar 6, 2013 by hotrod
	Need to share without judgement (Preview) My parents moved out on Thursday night. It was a huge ugly fight. I gave them a letter a month ago saying that I'd like them to move out by April 7th. They hadn't said a word to me about it or hardly anything else for that matter. I've been feeling like a hostage in my own home. Like I couldn't move or breath. My...	StargazerLily	9	372	Mar 6, 2013 by StargazerLily
	As an alcoholic's closest friend, I told his mother he is still drinking. Did I do the right thing? (Preview) He's been lying to her for a year about his drinking so she would continue to pay his rent while he was unemployed and "going back to school". FYI, and no surprise, he took one online class in the entire year, dropped out of all the rest, and has been partying nearly every day with whoever woul...	CaliGirl83	5	295	Mar 6, 2013 by Mattie
	my AS 14 year old daughter is suicidal. (Preview) prayers needed...my AS 14 year old daughter was admitted to a psychiatric center today for suicial thoughts. her parents split up 1 year ago due to AS progressive drinking. my granddaughter is such a sweet young lady. torn between mom and dad. moved out of her home of 13 years. it is so sad. my hea...	debhud	3	515	Mar 6, 2013 by Overcome
	Need advice !! can anyone help ? (Preview) Me and my AW have been seperated for 5 months now and she hasnt stopped calling since. currently she has lost her sister, 2 nieces, her husband and sits in her house all day on her awn and continues to drink. i gave in one day and called my AW and we met, she hasnt changed and looks ill, and her clothes were wor...	davie	3	244	Mar 6, 2013 by Auntyaya
	To post or not to post (Preview) I visit this board throughout the day (probably more than my employer would like). And so often I want to post but I don't. I start a post and write for about 5 minutes and then I delete it. I have been miserable today because of the repercussions of my behavior when I found drugs on my AH last Sunday. I...	NicoleDiver	8	413	Mar 6, 2013 by tortuga
	LP and steps (Preview) I've been in and out of Al-Anon since the 80's & have been struggling with the LP. The program promotes "God of your Understanding" and also states Al-Anon is not allied with any sect, denomination, etc The LP uses the term "our father." Not everyone's God is "their...	Clear4	8	486	Mar 6, 2013 by Clear4
	frist meeting tonight (Preview) This is going to be my frist time ever meeting for al-nona. So could I get some help on what might be going on in there. Do i need to take pen and paper do you have to have books i'm worry about going.	vickie1961	9	606	Mar 6, 2013 by hotrod
	Thanks to the site administrators (Preview) I just wanted to take a minute and say thank you to this Al-Anon site's administrators. I really appreciate your monitoring and maintaining this board. I know there are a lot of behind the scenes things that go on that you all take care of for us. I am sure other people feel the same. (BTW, I'm not new...	NicoleDiver	2	238	Mar 6, 2013 by hotrod
	detachment...just an update! (Preview) Dear MIP it has been over 2 weeks that I seperated from my ABF. Struggle, fear, sadness, anger.... i let it all happen, and pass. and spending much time with people that are positive and do me good, and polishing up my social life a little bit. it's actually amazing how I put myself in the last row of my own l...	tortuga	5	468	Mar 5, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Trying not to cave in.... (Preview) I think and pray about my daughter all the time. I'm afraid she's going to jail because she doesn't have the money to pay her court fines $900+. I know it would only take a credit card and a few clicks of the mouse to pay them for her but it will start the cycle all over again...	AngelicH57	9	292	Mar 5, 2013 by NicoleDiver
	Thoughts today (Preview) Hi Everyone Over these last few months I can say I have learned a lot about myself and its really given me the ability to live again. Dont get me wrong, Im nowhere close to being completely without fear and worry but Im learning to handle it better and faster. Betty told me its natural to have worry in my...	Cathyinaz	8	482	Mar 5, 2013 by pinkchip
	I'm going to the beach. How lucky for me! A nightmare! (Preview) Son is in the hospital in Phuket Thailand. Our friends visit, speak to the doctors, and to our son. Son doesn't like the third world hospital. Big ward, shared bathroom, change your own sheets if you can get some. No food unless someone brings it in. Too bad. He is bleeding internally. We don't know the r...	laurab	13	1099	Mar 5, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Guess I should have not sugared it. (Preview) The experience I had, I wrote lightly about it. In reality it was extremely scarey, and I am still feeling uncomfortable and have not gone out again. My ex AH physically hurt me badly once. Before that it was a poke in the back or well nothing that hurt and I was prepared to protect me. But the complete turn...	Debilyn	5	609	Mar 5, 2013 by tiredtonite
	On vacation with my Mom, need advice, please help me. (Preview) Hello ... this is the first time I have ever come for help within Al-Anon. My situation is a little strange. My mom has been drinking for years, she has tried to quit once before and did for three years. She relapsed a year ago and her drinking has become out of control. She agreed to go to rehab, most pe...	missm1234	5	327	Mar 5, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Addict Radar? attracted to addicts addict radar (Preview) I attended my first meeting last week, so please bare with me as I'm new and I'm confused. Background: my family are not addicts, but I am only attracted to, date, live, love addicts. Most of the time I have no idea they are addicts. They are all so different, I don't have a type, I live alone, I'm singl...	Grumble	15	630	Mar 5, 2013 by Grumble
	Roller coaster (Preview) So, my ABF is out of jail, again. I refused to visit him, write or talk to him on the phone. Can you believe this upset him! WTF!! I have told him how negatively his drinking effects me but only get blamed and denials. Since his release he has seen me practice detachment, he says I am selfish. No concept of ho...	Heather 68	5	214	Mar 5, 2013 by Heather 68
	The movie Flight (Preview) I watched the movie Flight last night... has anyone seen it yet? What are your thoughts? I felt that it helped me understand a little better what an alcoholic is going through and of course I cried at the end.	AngelicH57	9	508	Mar 4, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Answered prayer (Preview) I just realized today that my HP answered one of my biggest prayers. It came to me as I was in the shower like a lightbulb being turned on. HP is awesome!! I am so glad he led me to Al anon almost two years ago. I had prayed for my kids to be ok. They are doing excellent! They have good grades and my two oldest are...	KSwiss	5	231	Mar 4, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	need prayers (Preview) It has been a very difficult two weeks. My AH was arrested for domestic vandalism (he broke a window, I called the police). As a result he checked himself into an inpatient detox for 6 days and is now in an IOP program. He has been diagnosed bipolar and mild schizophrenic. Wed we go to the pretrial hearing...	ParisMemories	5	292	Mar 4, 2013 by Jerry F
	He can do so much damage with written words (Preview) I received an email from my soon to be ex AH yesterday. He was hateful, mean, putting me down and cruel. Usually I am not bothered by most of what he says and can usually just ignore it, but yesterdays email was very very cruel. I simply replied back that if he ever contacts me again I will get a restraini...	cinders	4	298	Mar 4, 2013 by cinders
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