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My son, a problem drinker, is no longer living with me and his a father has taken him in. At first relief that he's not on the streets but now fear because an active a is very tricky to cope with, never mind a young boy with issues. I'm thinking of the crazyness that could take place. Fearful and worried. I really want to tell my son he would be better off in a shelter for young people but Im trying to not interfere and trust mine and his hp. But what if the something terrible is to be the
Outcome. Oh dear. I actually just want him here with me regardless.
Please don't beat yourself up over this. You made a decision that you couldn't live with his abusive matter so maybe you need to let go. Your son going into a situation that might harm him more is scary I know but will getting him back change anything? I guess you need to make that decision.
He's not that young of a boy anymore and you can't control him forever. He is going to do what he wants and anything you try and help with will not work and you know this.
Please don't let the " what if's " overtake you. They only hurt.
I will pray for you that you make the right decision whatever that is.
Let go Let God....my friend
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Aloha el-cee...try leading the statement "But what if the something terrible is to be the Outcome" with "But what is not...." Just try that and see how it works with you and your program. ((((hugs))))
Thanks, I've been strong ish all weekend but last night thoughts ran away. I m ok this morning. There are a few facts I need to bear in mind. I have tried really hard to be a good mother and I think I am. I tried to cope with unacceptable behaviour and couldn't. It poisoned our relationship. He is nearly 20 he's a young man. He is actually very intelligent and he knows what he's doing. Ok well what kind of program do I truly have? My goal today is to live in the moment.x
Like you say we are both going through a really tough time right now but with prayer and working the program we can make the right decisions on what is best in the long run. We both have very smart young men that have to learn from their choices in life and if we continue to interfere and rescue them from themselves nothing is ever going to change. With your x being the enabler now it's giving you some fear but you can only pray that all will be OK for you son.
God will never give you anymore than you can handle...
Good practice day for you and I both
(((( hugs ))))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
