Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Jerry F · Jerry F

for never have making this suggestion. Where the hell was my thinking. For the years I have been on this board and for the years that I have been the literature person in my home group and otheres; for the years that I have sat and listened to the subject of what alcoholism is doing to my marriage and fa...

4kidsmama · 4kidsmama

My AH has been sober for 6 months and things have been 10 times better. Except for one thing. He just will not lay off with the snide and hurtful comments directed at me. My cooking, my cleaning, my driving, my kids, my pets, my job. Whenever he has a bad week at work or isn't feeling good, he reverts b...

John · John

"In homes where relationship trauma or addiction is present, behavior may be inconsistent. The rules that apply one day don't always carry over to the next. The same rules that are laid down on Monday may no longer apply on Tuesday and then suddenly on Friday, Mondays rules may be applied as though t...

el-cee · el-cee

I think it's amazing that this program actually exists and works. I mean it is common sense really in lots of ways but for it to be so straight forward and clear. Did the people who wrote the steps and traditions know what an impact they would make? Also, it doesn't get enough credit. I know lots of people w...

atheos · atheos

I know that in general, "moving on" and "not letting others' behavior cause you unhappiness" are considered good steps towards recovery. But I don't think I'm ready for that part yet -- I think before you can move on from pain and anger, you have to be able to have them first! That...

Iman · Iman

I have been struggling for months with the decision on weather or not I need to leave my husband due to his addiction. I know marriage is supposed to be forever, however, i feel that when we married, part of the truth was left out. now we have small children that i need to put first, and it doesnt seem right t...

Temple · Temple

A few of the quotes from Iyanla Vanzant that I copied for me off the Internet this morning: "The only thing that goes on in your life is what you allow (underscored--I don't know how to do that) to go on in your life." "You gotta own your stuff, baby girl. You gotta own your stuff. It's no...

blondie99 · blondie99

I'm enjoying some time to myself today...was able to work from home in my PJ's and got dressed just long enough to go to a lunchtime AlAnon meeting. It was a good one - there was an older couple there who were newcomers. They look like they had been hit by a train. Lordy, do I remember looking and feeling tha...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

My mom's best friend was telling me this morning that she and my AM were talking on the phone, my AM apologized for what she did and how she's been acting lately...my AM says she's too embarrassed to go to an AA meeting....maybe it's me being neive but what's there to be embarrassed about?! everyone in AA...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Words can not express how good my heart feels right now. I went & shared at a Face to Face Meeting today. This was the 3rd meeting i've been to in 12 years. The first one: 12 years ago, I could not speak, only cry. The second one: a few years ago, i was angry and i didn't need alanon, i needed to dump th...

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

I just saw this in a job posting on Craigslist (of course, I'm looking for my AH) and thought it was funny, and quite suiting when I think about my day: AH calls me at work from probation office this morning to say he failed the drug test (shocker - he was supposed to go yesterday but re-scheduled out of fea...

gigi1 · gigi1

Ok. I am almost new to this site..have been coming faithfully for over a month. But my demons are starting to kick in. All part of my dysfunction. Am I ok? Am I offending anyone. Are people starting to not like me. When I log on in the middle of the day and someone logs off as soon as my name appears, is it becau...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Not a he...a she. I didn't obey the rules and requirements when I first got here so when they said men on men and women on women I did exactly what was then expected of me...you got it. Her name is anonymous because that's how it works but her works helped save my mind and spirit, emotions and body. She...

gigi1 · gigi1

Last night at my F2F i learned something amazing.. We were reading from a daily devotions book and it was talking about us falsely feeling that we are the "victims". I realized and expressed that I am the victim- because I want to be. It is the dance I am used to!! Then i realized that it means-...

Number30 · Number30

Hello all. These past few days since AH entered rehab (Sat night) have been horrible, but I'm still alive! :) I've had panic attacks (first in YEARS), nightmares, crying fits, etc. etc., but last night was the first I've felt anger in a while. And it was GOOD! AH called Monday night, then didn't again un...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am struggling trying to remember what I said last time I posted on here. Oh well...I know I mentioned that I am trying to get eye surgery w/o insurance & w/ the money that we got from selling my dad & mom's house in March. It is going to be 3000 dollars an eye; one at a time. It is like cataract surger...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. The alcoholic that qualifies me for al-anon is my father. I just received a very interesting phone call from him that I feel is a breakthrough in both of our recoveries. I'll backtrack a bit. A few months ago my father was diagnosed with earl...

Alias · Alias

Hi. I am in need and uncomfortable discussing this with anyone in our community. I am not sure my situation is appropriate for this board so I apologize if it is out of place. My wedding dress is hanging right here in this room, which is locked because my fiancé is passed out drunk in the living room. W...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Hi guys, quick question. I have been with my sponsor for about 9 months now. I'm slowly working step 4 right now. I constantly have a hard time reaching her. I know she has a lot of people she sponsors(probably around 10, at least) and I know her time is limited but I find that I can go weeks without get...

Lupo · Lupo

This may seem odd but I have been very disconnected spiritually for a long time. I was hoping someone might be able to recommend a book preferably a non denominational one that could help me to learn to pray and meditate. Thanks

stephaniej · stephaniej

After the wretched weekend I had recently (and thank you all again, for all your ESH on all of THAT), I am fighting hard for my serenity. The writing was definitely on the wall after my AH's last escapade. Now, as I formulate my exit strategy, my AH is in the midst of a lot of uncertainty. His union is pre...

Rinn · Rinn

I wanted to share a list of thing I value. I made it to pin on my bedroom mirror to see everytime I walk by and stay focused. It has been helping me to make decisions that uphold these values. If it doesn't work with in this paradigm, it isn't something making my life better it is just add distraction. It i...

tortuga · tortuga

Dear MIP family, I want to say where I am currently at. I know I haven't been back much lately posting. I wished I was ready to be more of a support to others, and I do come back alot to read the stories of each one of you, and they keep me so much more in th erality of things. They help me staying true to myself an...

ApparentlyNOTstupid · ApparentlyNOTstupid

I am very new to this board, and new to learning of the insane world of A, although not new to living in the insane world itself. Over the last two weeks I have read anything I can get my hands on.... researched, studied, you name it. After reading another posters thread yesterday, about her feeling ba...

LeenieBeanie · LeenieBeanie

I have been given by my violin teacher as a "homework assignment" a small, beautiful tune from Les Miserables to practice all week. Can you guess?? It's Drink With Me (to days gone by). There is no getting away from alcohol. Hope you all have a good week.

1976love · 1976love

After a while you get used to living certain ways. My AH has been steadily attending AA meetings and going on one day at a time. He recieved his 90 coin last week and I was happy to go and support him. Last night was the first time in about 3 months he decided to skip one night of meetings and stay home and fi...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning I just couldn't stand it anymore. My son is such a pig and his living quarters were a health concern so I went over there after work and put HIM to work. lol It took us 4 hours to get that little apartment cleaned but it made me feel better...and I think him too. Just to have a clean set of shee...

Rinn · Rinn

He fell asleep in his jeans and I tried waking him up and shook him, and felt something in his pocket and it was a well used meth pipe. I woke him up and told him to pack a few things I love him but it was time for him to go he needed to leave and sleep somewhere else tonight and for the foreseeable future. I was pr...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I am traveling with my son right now in CA for one of his tennis tournaments and I had been having some great nights of sleep up until last night. As usual for when I travel, my AH has been sweet as pie on the phone and we act like one normal happily married couple. I keep ruminating over why I am so fearful of...

mom2mna · mom2mna

This seems like such a great community! I just wanted to say hello, and introduce myself. I'm married to an alcoholic, and I'm a mom to three little girls. Yesterday, my husband drank for the first time in a month and a half. I'm just so frustrated with it, the lying, the treating me like I'm stupid. I'm su...

dponlyme · dponlyme

This past week has not been a good one for me mentally but HP has really been there for me and today I am feeling good again. AW has been so completely negative about everything and that has been hard to deal with. Today got news that we are having our food stamps decreased but I count it as a blessing as this w...

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

So I get this email from my mom today telling me how it is a shame that I was fired from my job in 2010 because of my AH. Which was news to me. Yes, I got fired in 2010 but they never told me why, they just told me to leave when I got to work one Monday morning. And it just so happens that my AH had been arrested for...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Well, it's now been exactly three months since my AH passed away from complications due to his alcoholism. I'm still numb. We were in the process of getting a divorce when he suddenly died. My AD is still not in communication with me or her sister ever since her dad's memorial. She's only speaking to my o...

Jen61 · Jen61

It has been about 3 weeks since my AH drank. Has been nice but knew it would not last. It seems everytime something stressful comes up in his life he drinks. I could tell this morning that today was a drinking day and a few hours ago I confronted him. Why, I have no idea. It all goes downhill from there....

KSwiss · KSwiss

Last night while I was at my AlAnon meeting, my 14 yr. old blew up at my AH, his Dad over something stupid like laundry. My AH had to take a drive to cool down. My son told me that he was angry at his Dad for abandoning him while drinking in the past ( he has been sober since August but has no program). I told my son...

likemyheart · likemyheart

This morning checking my bank account as I do every morning, I see that my federal tax refund has posted, yea, I did my return right! (silly sounding, not happy I got the refund, but happy my return is ok and I won't get a letter from the IRS, weird eh?) And the thought it brings to mind is how it was when HE was...

norasq · norasq

One of the things I've realized through this Alanon work is how one of the ways I've been affected by my AH is that I've spent so much time in my head trying to make sense out of crazy things. I'm learning to stop my mind from circling around and and around, trying to fit puzzle pieces together, and remembe...

Jozie · Jozie

Hey Peeps ;) Sorry its been so Long, Still Clawing my Way tho... Last Night I went to My F2F Meeting and the Topic was FEAR... Ya know till I started to listen around the table I Honestly didn't realize how much FEAR has held me Back in so Many Opticles in my Life, and tho some are Simpler then others, Some for...

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

The last 6 months have been a nightmare thanks to my stbxah rapidly spiraling out of control. He has created tons of financial and legal issues for both of us. I was just starting to think things were starting to look up for me. And then I just found out my job is shutting down next week. For the first time in...

regina2013 · regina2013

hi there, I just joined a few weeks ago I watched my family die from alchoholism and am now living with a "dry" alcoholic who does not attend AA . I also find it very difficult to deal with the issues and abuse that come along with the disease also my work situation is similar except that it is...

Number30 · Number30

I could use some ESH... AH finally told his parents before he went to rehab. Literally, the conversation went like "I'm a drug addict, I'm going to rehab, and I love you." So now that he's there I'm the first line of contact... I'm having a hard time. I've pointed them to Al-Anon every time I'v...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

I got a really strange phone call about 2 hours ago that has left me on edge. My AH called very shook up and crying and said that he had a bad dream about me. He said that someone is watching me and wants to hurt me. Just kept saying it's bad, it's really bad. Made me promise that I wouldn't let anyone in and w...

rmbergeron1 · rmbergeron1

Hello! This is my first post. I have been with al-anon now for about 1 year and still struggling. I think I have a handle and then something else happens! My AH came home from work today drunk again. Been on a binge for about a week now. Since I have been getting better, he has slightly as well until thi...

tortuga · tortuga

Hey there, I'm a thanful member of Al Anon. I have been silent for some time, giving me space and peace, and building myself up again. I split up with my ABF 2 months ago, ...I still say I wouldn't have done it by myself, because I loved him very much..but i was kind of forced to, it was so obvious the abuse and...

Jerry F · Jerry F

3 years in recovery!! You go girl!! and keep coming back also. (((((hugs)))))

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi everyone Last week I had my house all cleaned by professionals and it feels so good. The weekend was great not having one thing to do but what I wanted. Got a call from my son on Sunday and he asked if I would drive him over to look at a car. I agreed, picked him up and when over to see it. Nice and clean,...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t53264714/alanon-step-1/

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

I came home from work today to find my AM drinking as per usual. She was slurring her words, she wanted more wine. Yelling ensued between my dad and my AM, he pushed her. I didn't see any of this, I only heard it. My AM's best friend and my AM are downstairs talking, about what I don't know.

sadsusie · sadsusie

My husband of 13 years has been abusing alcohol most of our marriage (I never really realized it until about 5 years ago). It is hard for me to believe or accept that I accepted it...he verbally abused me for most of my marriage. I had always just thought I wasn't doing a good job....so he sort of was in the...

Tasha · Tasha

Just curious if it's just our city that doesn't do it.

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

So I just googled "How long does cocaine stay in your system" because my AH has an appt w/ his probation officer this Wednesday. He just failed a drug test 2 weeks ago (+ for cocaine, THC & benzos(?) ) and I'm starting to obsess over what is going to happen. Yes, he's still been smokin...

1976love · 1976love

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=npMY95o2C4g So today at my meeting, we discussed patience. One page that was read was about being patient with yourself. You may not understand all you have read, been told or experienced, but when you sit and continue with meetings and become patient and gen...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello, my name is Tonya! I am 36 years old and have been with my A for 10 years now. I have another A in my life and that is my mother. For the most part of 10 years I have focused on them and their decisions and have completely lost myself. I am great at my job and it seems like I have become my job and have no ot...

Findinghope · Findinghope

I'm so ashamed of myself -- i got really angry Tonight and yelled and screamed and was hurtful to someone who absolutely didn't deserve it. im kicking myself for letting my emotions take over, and become crazy like I was pre-alanon and wondering if I'm ever going to be at a point where I can just let thing...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Today before a group of strangers I stated my greatest concern & fear of my husband coming home from inpatient treatment. It took courage. I prayed for strength. I said them passionately, without anger or bitterness. this evening I left a group of friends who all have the same concerns and fears....

Apparentlystupid · Apparentlystupid

Hi there.... I am new to this site, and not sure if I am even posting in the right place. I'm not even positive what I need to be doing. I was never raised with anyone who had alcoholism, so this is all very new to me. All I know is that I am exhausted, and pretty sure I have tried everything under the sun with...

el-cee · el-cee

Hi I would like to share where I am at right now. Outwardly, I am living my recovery. I am out meeting with friends and fellow members. I am keeping calm and trying to do the next right thing but inwardly I feel a bit numb with everything that is going on. I am walking on egg shells and I am a bit lost. Im not real...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha kakahiaka MIP Ohana. Good evening MIP family...This is Merrie Monarch time of the year and the time for hula competition with hula groups from all over coming into my town to show off their dancing skills and very very colorful attire. It's both Women and Men groups and this is the 50th year o...

Number30 · Number30

An update to my saga - tonight we admitted my addict husband into rehab. It went better and worse than I expected at times, but he's there. It was his choice, and so I didn't mind when the ugly addiction started lashing out at me - I knew what it was and was able to calmly explain that it was his decision and fo...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

I came home from work today to find my AM drinking as per usual. She was slurring her words, she wanted more wine. Yelling ensued between my dad and my AM, he pushed her. I didn't see any of this, I only heard it. My AM's best friend and my AM are downstairs talking, about what I don't know.

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	I apologize (Preview) for never have making this suggestion. Where the hell was my thinking. For the years I have been on this board and for the years that I have been the literature person in my home group and otheres; for the years that I have sat and listened to the subject of what alcoholism is doing to my marriage and fa...	Jerry F	6	393	Apr 14, 2013 by el-cee
	Is he a alcoholic or just an 'xxxx'? (Preview) My AH has been sober for 6 months and things have been 10 times better. Except for one thing. He just will not lay off with the snide and hurtful comments directed at me. My cooking, my cleaning, my driving, my kids, my pets, my job. Whenever he has a bad week at work or isn't feeling good, he reverts b...	4kidsmama	12	2220	Apr 14, 2013 by John
	Emotional Sobriety (Preview) "In homes where relationship trauma or addiction is present, behavior may be inconsistent. The rules that apply one day don't always carry over to the next. The same rules that are laid down on Monday may no longer apply on Tuesday and then suddenly on Friday, Mondays rules may be applied as though t...	John	9	4289	Apr 14, 2013 by forestfairy
	the founders of alanon (Preview) I think it's amazing that this program actually exists and works. I mean it is common sense really in lots of ways but for it to be so straight forward and clear. Did the people who wrote the steps and traditions know what an impact they would make? Also, it doesn't get enough credit. I know lots of people w...	el-cee	3	550	Apr 13, 2013 by PP
	How do you self-vaidate pain/anger? (Preview) I know that in general, "moving on" and "not letting others' behavior cause you unhappiness" are considered good steps towards recovery. But I don't think I'm ready for that part yet -- I think before you can move on from pain and anger, you have to be able to have them first! That...	atheos	5	463	Apr 13, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Legal options for separation (Preview) I have been struggling for months with the decision on weather or not I need to leave my husband due to his addiction. I know marriage is supposed to be forever, however, i feel that when we married, part of the truth was left out. now we have small children that i need to put first, and it doesnt seem right t...	Iman	11	455	Apr 13, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Iyanla Vanzant Quotes (Preview) A few of the quotes from Iyanla Vanzant that I copied for me off the Internet this morning: "The only thing that goes on in your life is what you allow (underscored--I don't know how to do that) to go on in your life." "You gotta own your stuff, baby girl. You gotta own your stuff. It's no...	Temple	4	2415	Apr 13, 2013 by John
	Quiet time (Preview) I'm enjoying some time to myself today...was able to work from home in my PJ's and got dressed just long enough to go to a lunchtime AlAnon meeting. It was a good one - there was an older couple there who were newcomers. They look like they had been hit by a train. Lordy, do I remember looking and feeling tha...	blondie99	8	562	Apr 13, 2013 by michael p
	my AM says she's too embarrassed to go to an AA meeting... (Preview) My mom's best friend was telling me this morning that she and my AM were talking on the phone, my AM apologized for what she did and how she's been acting lately...my AM says she's too embarrassed to go to an AA meeting....maybe it's me being neive but what's there to be embarrassed about?! everyone in AA...	phoenixmagicgirl	12	442	Apr 13, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
	1st Share @ Face to Face Meeting :-) AMEN! (Preview) Words can not express how good my heart feels right now. I went & shared at a Face to Face Meeting today. This was the 3rd meeting i've been to in 12 years. The first one: 12 years ago, I could not speak, only cry. The second one: a few years ago, i was angry and i didn't need alanon, i needed to dump th...	Sincerely	6	389	Apr 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	Leave your drama with your mama (Preview) I just saw this in a job posting on Craigslist (of course, I'm looking for my AH) and thought it was funny, and quite suiting when I think about my day: AH calls me at work from probation office this morning to say he failed the drug test (shocker - he was supposed to go yesterday but re-scheduled out of fea...	NicoleDiver	9	2867	Apr 13, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Me and my confusion with life (Preview) Ok. I am almost new to this site..have been coming faithfully for over a month. But my demons are starting to kick in. All part of my dysfunction. Am I ok? Am I offending anyone. Are people starting to not like me. When I log on in the middle of the day and someone logs off as soon as my name appears, is it becau...	gigi1	9	523	Apr 13, 2013 by Breakingfree
	First Sponsor coming into town... (Preview) Not a he...a she. I didn't obey the rules and requirements when I first got here so when they said men on men and women on women I did exactly what was then expected of me...you got it. Her name is anonymous because that's how it works but her works helped save my mind and spirit, emotions and body. She...	Jerry F	6	412	Apr 12, 2013 by Temple
	Victim (Preview) Last night at my F2F i learned something amazing.. We were reading from a daily devotions book and it was talking about us falsely feeling that we are the "victims". I realized and expressed that I am the victim- because I want to be. It is the dance I am used to!! Then i realized that it means-...	gigi1	4	456	Apr 12, 2013 by tortuga
	The good in anger (Preview) Hello all. These past few days since AH entered rehab (Sat night) have been horrible, but I'm still alive! :) I've had panic attacks (first in YEARS), nightmares, crying fits, etc. etc., but last night was the first I've felt anger in a while. And it was GOOD! AH called Monday night, then didn't again un...	Number30	8	417	Apr 12, 2013 by pinkchip
	what did I say last time? (Preview) I am struggling trying to remember what I said last time I posted on here. Oh well...I know I mentioned that I am trying to get eye surgery w/o insurance & w/ the money that we got from selling my dad & mom's house in March. It is going to be 3000 dollars an eye; one at a time. It is like cataract surger...	Hoot Nanny	1	293	Apr 12, 2013 by el-cee
	My Alcoholic has revealed something about his past. (Preview) Hi, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. The alcoholic that qualifies me for al-anon is my father. I just received a very interesting phone call from him that I feel is a breakthrough in both of our recoveries. I'll backtrack a bit. A few months ago my father was diagnosed with earl...	slogan_jim	6	373	Apr 12, 2013 by lgnutah
	Getting married this summer (Preview) Hi. I am in need and uncomfortable discussing this with anyone in our community. I am not sure my situation is appropriate for this board so I apologize if it is out of place. My wedding dress is hanging right here in this room, which is locked because my fiancé is passed out drunk in the living room. W...	Alias	15	412	Apr 12, 2013 by Auntyaya
	Question about sponsors (Preview) Hi guys, quick question. I have been with my sponsor for about 9 months now. I'm slowly working step 4 right now. I constantly have a hard time reaching her. I know she has a lot of people she sponsors(probably around 10, at least) and I know her time is limited but I find that I can go weeks without get...	ilovedogs	6	463	Apr 12, 2013 by Jerry F
	Book for meditation and prayer. (Preview) This may seem odd but I have been very disconnected spiritually for a long time. I was hoping someone might be able to recommend a book preferably a non denominational one that could help me to learn to pray and meditate. Thanks	Lupo	4	429	Apr 12, 2013 by Lupo
	Turning it over to my HP (Preview) After the wretched weekend I had recently (and thank you all again, for all your ESH on all of THAT), I am fighting hard for my serenity. The writing was definitely on the wall after my AH's last escapade. Now, as I formulate my exit strategy, my AH is in the midst of a lot of uncertainty. His union is pre...	stephaniej	4	477	Apr 12, 2013 by Pushka
	Values as a paradiam for decisions (Preview) I wanted to share a list of thing I value. I made it to pin on my bedroom mirror to see everytime I walk by and stay focused. It has been helping me to make decisions that uphold these values. If it doesn't work with in this paradigm, it isn't something making my life better it is just add distraction. It i...	Rinn	6	603	Apr 11, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	Sorry for being under construction, but you are still all great! (Preview) Dear MIP family, I want to say where I am currently at. I know I haven't been back much lately posting. I wished I was ready to be more of a support to others, and I do come back alot to read the stories of each one of you, and they keep me so much more in th erality of things. They help me staying true to myself an...	tortuga	2	321	Apr 11, 2013 by hotrod
	BEFORE YOU GET DOWN ON YOURSELF- REMEMBER THIS (Preview) I am very new to this board, and new to learning of the insane world of A, although not new to living in the insane world itself. Over the last two weeks I have read anything I can get my hands on.... researched, studied, you name it. After reading another posters thread yesterday, about her feeling ba...	ApparentlyNOTstupid	3	368	Apr 11, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	Had to Laugh (Preview) I have been given by my violin teacher as a "homework assignment" a small, beautiful tune from Les Miserables to practice all week. Can you guess?? It's Drink With Me (to days gone by). There is no getting away from alcohol. Hope you all have a good week.	LeenieBeanie	5	316	Apr 11, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	oh my dreams (Preview) After a while you get used to living certain ways. My AH has been steadily attending AA meetings and going on one day at a time. He recieved his 90 coin last week and I was happy to go and support him. Last night was the first time in about 3 months he decided to skip one night of meetings and stay home and fi...	1976love	6	321	Apr 11, 2013 by ilovedogs
	I just couldn't stand it anymore (Preview) Good Morning I just couldn't stand it anymore. My son is such a pig and his living quarters were a health concern so I went over there after work and put HIM to work. lol It took us 4 hours to get that little apartment cleaned but it made me feel better...and I think him too. Just to have a clean set of shee...	Cathyinaz	14	781	Apr 11, 2013 by Path to Serenity
	I just asked my husband to leave (Preview) He fell asleep in his jeans and I tried waking him up and shook him, and felt something in his pocket and it was a well used meth pipe. I woke him up and told him to pack a few things I love him but it was time for him to go he needed to leave and sleep somewhere else tonight and for the foreseeable future. I was pr...	Rinn	19	3212	Apr 11, 2013 by PP
	Had a strange epiphany last night (Preview) I am traveling with my son right now in CA for one of his tennis tournaments and I had been having some great nights of sleep up until last night. As usual for when I travel, my AH has been sweet as pie on the phone and we act like one normal happily married couple. I keep ruminating over why I am so fearful of...	ilovedogs	12	554	Apr 11, 2013 by stephaniej
	Hello all... (Preview) This seems like such a great community! I just wanted to say hello, and introduce myself. I'm married to an alcoholic, and I'm a mom to three little girls. Yesterday, my husband drank for the first time in a month and a half. I'm just so frustrated with it, the lying, the treating me like I'm stupid. I'm su...	mom2mna	3	254	Apr 11, 2013 by PP
	HP is doing wonderful things for me today (Preview) This past week has not been a good one for me mentally but HP has really been there for me and today I am feeling good again. AW has been so completely negative about everything and that has been hard to deal with. Today got news that we are having our food stamps decreased but I count it as a blessing as this w...	dponlyme	2	281	Apr 11, 2013 by PP
	Blast from the past (Preview) So I get this email from my mom today telling me how it is a shame that I was fired from my job in 2010 because of my AH. Which was news to me. Yes, I got fired in 2010 but they never told me why, they just told me to leave when I got to work one Monday morning. And it just so happens that my AH had been arrested for...	NicoleDiver	4	353	Apr 11, 2013 by 1976love
	Three Months Later (Preview) Well, it's now been exactly three months since my AH passed away from complications due to his alcoholism. I'm still numb. We were in the process of getting a divorce when he suddenly died. My AD is still not in communication with me or her sister ever since her dad's memorial. She's only speaking to my o...	Green Eyes	5	320	Apr 11, 2013 by Jerry F
	I lost it tonight (Preview) It has been about 3 weeks since my AH drank. Has been nice but knew it would not last. It seems everytime something stressful comes up in his life he drinks. I could tell this morning that today was a drinking day and a few hours ago I confronted him. Why, I have no idea. It all goes downhill from there....	Jen61	7	356	Apr 10, 2013 by Jen61
	Trying hard to mind my own business (Preview) Last night while I was at my AlAnon meeting, my 14 yr. old blew up at my AH, his Dad over something stupid like laundry. My AH had to take a drive to cool down. My son told me that he was angry at his Dad for abandoning him while drinking in the past ( he has been sober since August but has no program). I told my son...	KSwiss	6	378	Apr 10, 2013 by Pushka
	Tax return (Preview) This morning checking my bank account as I do every morning, I see that my federal tax refund has posted, yea, I did my return right! (silly sounding, not happy I got the refund, but happy my return is ok and I won't get a letter from the IRS, weird eh?) And the thought it brings to mind is how it was when HE was...	likemyheart	3	675	Apr 10, 2013 by Jerry F
	Tired of trying to make sense out of crazy (Preview) One of the things I've realized through this Alanon work is how one of the ways I've been affected by my AH is that I've spent so much time in my head trying to make sense out of crazy things. I'm learning to stop my mind from circling around and and around, trying to fit puzzle pieces together, and remembe...	norasq	7	375	Apr 10, 2013 by norasq
	Still Struggling in Fear! (Preview) Hey Peeps ;) Sorry its been so Long, Still Clawing my Way tho... Last Night I went to My F2F Meeting and the Topic was FEAR... Ya know till I started to listen around the table I Honestly didn't realize how much FEAR has held me Back in so Many Opticles in my Life, and tho some are Simpler then others, Some for...	Jozie	4	694	Apr 10, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Got laid off from my job (Preview) The last 6 months have been a nightmare thanks to my stbxah rapidly spiraling out of control. He has created tons of financial and legal issues for both of us. I was just starting to think things were starting to look up for me. And then I just found out my job is shutting down next week. For the first time in...	scaredandconfused	3	319	Apr 10, 2013 by Jerry F
	new here (Preview) hi there, I just joined a few weeks ago I watched my family die from alchoholism and am now living with a "dry" alcoholic who does not attend AA . I also find it very difficult to deal with the issues and abuse that come along with the disease also my work situation is similar except that it is...	regina2013	7	437	Apr 9, 2013 by f2fmember
	AH's parents? (Preview) I could use some ESH... AH finally told his parents before he went to rehab. Literally, the conversation went like "I'm a drug addict, I'm going to rehab, and I love you." So now that he's there I'm the first line of contact... I'm having a hard time. I've pointed them to Al-Anon every time I'v...	Number30	5	444	Apr 9, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Scared (Preview) I got a really strange phone call about 2 hours ago that has left me on edge. My AH called very shook up and crying and said that he had a bad dream about me. He said that someone is watching me and wants to hurt me. Just kept saying it's bad, it's really bad. Made me promise that I wouldn't let anyone in and w...	wornoutmrsfixit	6	305	Apr 9, 2013 by pinkchip
	what affects me directly (Preview) Hello! This is my first post. I have been with al-anon now for about 1 year and still struggling. I think I have a handle and then something else happens! My AH came home from work today drunk again. Been on a binge for about a week now. Since I have been getting better, he has slightly as well until thi...	rmbergeron1	4	306	Apr 9, 2013 by pinkchip
	venting: I AM STRONG, VULNERABLE, HURT, SENSIBLE... so what? I'm NOT a VICTIM. (Preview) Hey there, I'm a thanful member of Al Anon. I have been silent for some time, giving me space and peace, and building myself up again. I split up with my ABF 2 months ago, ...I still say I wouldn't have done it by myself, because I loved him very much..but i was kind of forced to, it was so obvious the abuse and...	tortuga	2	367	Apr 9, 2013 by pinkchip
	CONGRADULATION BLONDIE.... (Preview) 3 years in recovery!! You go girl!! and keep coming back also. (((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	7	302	Apr 9, 2013 by blondie99
	Nice week and weekend (Preview) Hi everyone Last week I had my house all cleaned by professionals and it feels so good. The weekend was great not having one thing to do but what I wanted. Got a call from my son on Sunday and he asked if I would drive him over to look at a car. I agreed, picked him up and when over to see it. Nice and clean,...	Cathyinaz	6	415	Apr 9, 2013 by DavidG
	STEP WORK BOARD (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t53264714/alanon-step-1/	hotrod	5	280	Apr 9, 2013 by hotrod
	Just when I thought my AM was at a turning point this happens.... (Preview) I came home from work today to find my AM drinking as per usual. She was slurring her words, she wanted more wine. Yelling ensued between my dad and my AM, he pushed her. I didn't see any of this, I only heard it. My AM's best friend and my AM are downstairs talking, about what I don't know.	phoenixmagicgirl	6	303	Apr 9, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
	Where do I find the strength to deal or support or help my alcoholic husband (Preview) My husband of 13 years has been abusing alcohol most of our marriage (I never really realized it until about 5 years ago). It is hard for me to believe or accept that I accepted it...he verbally abused me for most of my marriage. I had always just thought I wasn't doing a good job....so he sort of was in the...	sadsusie	23	450	Apr 9, 2013 by hotrod
	Do you live some place where Alanons get tokens like AA's (Preview) Just curious if it's just our city that doesn't do it.	Tasha	13	864	Apr 9, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	Countdown? (Preview) So I just googled "How long does cocaine stay in your system" because my AH has an appt w/ his probation officer this Wednesday. He just failed a drug test 2 weeks ago (+ for cocaine, THC & benzos(?) ) and I'm starting to obsess over what is going to happen. Yes, he's still been smokin...	NicoleDiver	4	310	Apr 8, 2013 by hotrod
	When you see crazy coming, cross the street (Preview) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=npMY95o2C4g So today at my meeting, we discussed patience. One page that was read was about being patient with yourself. You may not understand all you have read, been told or experienced, but when you sit and continue with meetings and become patient and gen...	1976love	4	446	Apr 8, 2013 by lgnutah
	Unexpectedly Noticing Progress (updating profile) (Preview) Hello, my name is Tonya! I am 36 years old and have been with my A for 10 years now. I have another A in my life and that is my mother. For the most part of 10 years I have focused on them and their decisions and have completely lost myself. I am great at my job and it seems like I have become my job and have no ot...	Sincerely	4	301	Apr 8, 2013 by Sweet Stanley
	Lost my serenity tonight, big time (Preview) I'm so ashamed of myself -- i got really angry Tonight and yelled and screamed and was hurtful to someone who absolutely didn't deserve it. im kicking myself for letting my emotions take over, and become crazy like I was pre-alanon and wondering if I'm ever going to be at a point where I can just let thing...	Findinghope	6	544	Apr 8, 2013 by NicoleDiver
	Family Group @ AA Husbands Treatment (Preview) Today before a group of strangers I stated my greatest concern & fear of my husband coming home from inpatient treatment. It took courage. I prayed for strength. I said them passionately, without anger or bitterness. this evening I left a group of friends who all have the same concerns and fears....	Sincerely	2	281	Apr 8, 2013 by Tracy
	NEW TO EVERYTHING (Preview) Hi there.... I am new to this site, and not sure if I am even posting in the right place. I'm not even positive what I need to be doing. I was never raised with anyone who had alcoholism, so this is all very new to me. All I know is that I am exhausted, and pretty sure I have tried everything under the sun with...	Apparentlystupid	37	687	Apr 8, 2013 by ApparentlyNOTstupid
	Uncomfortably numb (Preview) Hi I would like to share where I am at right now. Outwardly, I am living my recovery. I am out meeting with friends and fellow members. I am keeping calm and trying to do the next right thing but inwardly I feel a bit numb with everything that is going on. I am walking on egg shells and I am a bit lost. Im not real...	el-cee	13	419	Apr 8, 2013 by PP
	An Annual Blessing.... (Preview) Aloha kakahiaka MIP Ohana. Good evening MIP family...This is Merrie Monarch time of the year and the time for hula competition with hula groups from all over coming into my town to show off their dancing skills and very very colorful attire. It's both Women and Men groups and this is the 50th year o...	Jerry F	11	315	Apr 8, 2013 by Jill
	AH is now in rehab (Preview) An update to my saga - tonight we admitted my addict husband into rehab. It went better and worse than I expected at times, but he's there. It was his choice, and so I didn't mind when the ugly addiction started lashing out at me - I knew what it was and was able to calmly explain that it was his decision and fo...	Number30	5	391	Apr 8, 2013 by Number30
	Just when I thought my AM was at a turning point this happens.... (Preview) I came home from work today to find my AM drinking as per usual. She was slurring her words, she wanted more wine. Yelling ensued between my dad and my AM, he pushed her. I didn't see any of this, I only heard it. My AM's best friend and my AM are downstairs talking, about what I don't know.	phoenixmagicgirl	3	250	Apr 8, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
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