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Values as a paradiam for decisions
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I wanted to share a list of thing I value. I made it to pin on my bedroom mirror to see everytime I walk by and stay focused. It has been helping me to make decisions that uphold these values. If it doesn't work with in this paradigm, it isn't something making my life better it is just add distraction. It i...
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Sorry for being under construction, but you are still all great!
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Dear MIP family, I want to say where I am currently at. I know I haven't been back much lately posting. I wished I was ready to be more of a support to others, and I do come back alot to read the stories of each one of you, and they keep me so much more in th erality of things. They help me staying true to myself an...
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BEFORE YOU GET DOWN ON YOURSELF- REMEMBER THIS
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I am very new to this board, and new to learning of the insane world of A, although not new to living in the insane world itself. Over the last two weeks I have read anything I can get my hands on.... researched, studied, you name it. After reading another posters thread yesterday, about her feeling ba...
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Had to Laugh
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I have been given by my violin teacher as a "homework assignment" a small, beautiful tune from Les Miserables to practice all week. Can you guess?? It's Drink With Me (to days gone by). There is no getting away from alcohol. Hope you all have a good week.
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oh my dreams
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After a while you get used to living certain ways. My AH has been steadily attending AA meetings and going on one day at a time. He recieved his 90 coin last week and I was happy to go and support him. Last night was the first time in about 3 months he decided to skip one night of meetings and stay home and fi...
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I just couldn't stand it anymore
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Good Morning I just couldn't stand it anymore. My son is such a pig and his living quarters were a health concern so I went over there after work and put HIM to work. lol It took us 4 hours to get that little apartment cleaned but it made me feel better...and I think him too. Just to have a clean set of shee...
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I just asked my husband to leave
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He fell asleep in his jeans and I tried waking him up and shook him, and felt something in his pocket and it was a well used meth pipe. I woke him up and told him to pack a few things I love him but it was time for him to go he needed to leave and sleep somewhere else tonight and for the foreseeable future. I was pr...
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Had a strange epiphany last night
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I am traveling with my son right now in CA for one of his tennis tournaments and I had been having some great nights of sleep up until last night. As usual for when I travel, my AH has been sweet as pie on the phone and we act like one normal happily married couple. I keep ruminating over why I am so fearful of...
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Hello all...
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This seems like such a great community! I just wanted to say hello, and introduce myself. I'm married to an alcoholic, and I'm a mom to three little girls. Yesterday, my husband drank for the first time in a month and a half. I'm just so frustrated with it, the lying, the treating me like I'm stupid. I'm su...
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HP is doing wonderful things for me today
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This past week has not been a good one for me mentally but HP has really been there for me and today I am feeling good again. AW has been so completely negative about everything and that has been hard to deal with. Today got news that we are having our food stamps decreased but I count it as a blessing as this w...
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Blast from the past
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So I get this email from my mom today telling me how it is a shame that I was fired from my job in 2010 because of my AH. Which was news to me. Yes, I got fired in 2010 but they never told me why, they just told me to leave when I got to work one Monday morning. And it just so happens that my AH had been arrested for...
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Three Months Later
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Well, it's now been exactly three months since my AH passed away from complications due to his alcoholism. I'm still numb. We were in the process of getting a divorce when he suddenly died. My AD is still not in communication with me or her sister ever since her dad's memorial. She's only speaking to my o...
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I lost it tonight
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It has been about 3 weeks since my AH drank. Has been nice but knew it would not last. It seems everytime something stressful comes up in his life he drinks. I could tell this morning that today was a drinking day and a few hours ago I confronted him. Why, I have no idea. It all goes downhill from there....
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Trying hard to mind my own business
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Last night while I was at my AlAnon meeting, my 14 yr. old blew up at my AH, his Dad over something stupid like laundry. My AH had to take a drive to cool down. My son told me that he was angry at his Dad for abandoning him while drinking in the past ( he has been sober since August but has no program). I told my son...
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Tax return
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This morning checking my bank account as I do every morning, I see that my federal tax refund has posted, yea, I did my return right! (silly sounding, not happy I got the refund, but happy my return is ok and I won't get a letter from the IRS, weird eh?) And the thought it brings to mind is how it was when HE was...
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likemyheart
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Tired of trying to make sense out of crazy
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One of the things I've realized through this Alanon work is how one of the ways I've been affected by my AH is that I've spent so much time in my head trying to make sense out of crazy things. I'm learning to stop my mind from circling around and and around, trying to fit puzzle pieces together, and remembe...
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Still Struggling in Fear!
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Hey Peeps ;) Sorry its been so Long, Still Clawing my Way tho... Last Night I went to My F2F Meeting and the Topic was FEAR... Ya know till I started to listen around the table I Honestly didn't realize how much FEAR has held me Back in so Many Opticles in my Life, and tho some are Simpler then others, Some for...
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Jozie
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Got laid off from my job
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The last 6 months have been a nightmare thanks to my stbxah rapidly spiraling out of control. He has created tons of financial and legal issues for both of us. I was just starting to think things were starting to look up for me. And then I just found out my job is shutting down next week. For the first time in...
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new here
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hi there, I just joined a few weeks ago I watched my family die from alchoholism and am now living with a "dry" alcoholic who does not attend AA . I also find it very difficult to deal with the issues and abuse that come along with the disease also my work situation is similar except that it is...
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AH's parents?
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I could use some ESH... AH finally told his parents before he went to rehab. Literally, the conversation went like "I'm a drug addict, I'm going to rehab, and I love you." So now that he's there I'm the first line of contact... I'm having a hard time. I've pointed them to Al-Anon every time I'v...
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Scared
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I got a really strange phone call about 2 hours ago that has left me on edge. My AH called very shook up and crying and said that he had a bad dream about me. He said that someone is watching me and wants to hurt me. Just kept saying it's bad, it's really bad. Made me promise that I wouldn't let anyone in and w...
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what affects me directly
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Hello! This is my first post. I have been with al-anon now for about 1 year and still struggling. I think I have a handle and then something else happens! My AH came home from work today drunk again. Been on a binge for about a week now. Since I have been getting better, he has slightly as well until thi...
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venting: I AM STRONG, VULNERABLE, HURT, SENSIBLE... so what? I'm NOT a VICTIM.
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Hey there, I'm a thanful member of Al Anon. I have been silent for some time, giving me space and peace, and building myself up again. I split up with my ABF 2 months ago, ...I still say I wouldn't have done it by myself, because I loved him very much..but i was kind of forced to, it was so obvious the abuse and...
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CONGRADULATION BLONDIE....
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3 years in recovery!! You go girl!! and keep coming back also. (((((hugs)))))
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Jerry F
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Nice week and weekend
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Hi everyone Last week I had my house all cleaned by professionals and it feels so good. The weekend was great not having one thing to do but what I wanted. Got a call from my son on Sunday and he asked if I would drive him over to look at a car. I agreed, picked him up and when over to see it. Nice and clean,...
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STEP WORK BOARD
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http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t53264714/alanon-step-1/
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Just when I thought my AM was at a turning point this happens....
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I came home from work today to find my AM drinking as per usual. She was slurring her words, she wanted more wine. Yelling ensued between my dad and my AM, he pushed her. I didn't see any of this, I only heard it. My AM's best friend and my AM are downstairs talking, about what I don't know.
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Where do I find the strength to deal or support or help my alcoholic husband
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My husband of 13 years has been abusing alcohol most of our marriage (I never really realized it until about 5 years ago). It is hard for me to believe or accept that I accepted it...he verbally abused me for most of my marriage. I had always just thought I wasn't doing a good job....so he sort of was in the...
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Do you live some place where Alanons get tokens like AA's
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Just curious if it's just our city that doesn't do it.
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Tasha
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Countdown?
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So I just googled "How long does cocaine stay in your system" because my AH has an appt w/ his probation officer this Wednesday. He just failed a drug test 2 weeks ago (+ for cocaine, THC & benzos(?) ) and I'm starting to obsess over what is going to happen. Yes, he's still been smokin...
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When you see crazy coming, cross the street
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=npMY95o2C4g So today at my meeting, we discussed patience. One page that was read was about being patient with yourself. You may not understand all you have read, been told or experienced, but when you sit and continue with meetings and become patient and gen...
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1976love
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Unexpectedly Noticing Progress (updating profile)
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Hello, my name is Tonya! I am 36 years old and have been with my A for 10 years now. I have another A in my life and that is my mother. For the most part of 10 years I have focused on them and their decisions and have completely lost myself. I am great at my job and it seems like I have become my job and have no ot...
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Sincerely
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Lost my serenity tonight, big time
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I'm so ashamed of myself -- i got really angry Tonight and yelled and screamed and was hurtful to someone who absolutely didn't deserve it. im kicking myself for letting my emotions take over, and become crazy like I was pre-alanon and wondering if I'm ever going to be at a point where I can just let thing...
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Findinghope
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Family Group @ AA Husbands Treatment
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Today before a group of strangers I stated my greatest concern & fear of my husband coming home from inpatient treatment. It took courage. I prayed for strength. I said them passionately, without anger or bitterness. this evening I left a group of friends who all have the same concerns and fears....
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Sincerely
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NEW TO EVERYTHING
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Hi there.... I am new to this site, and not sure if I am even posting in the right place. I'm not even positive what I need to be doing. I was never raised with anyone who had alcoholism, so this is all very new to me. All I know is that I am exhausted, and pretty sure I have tried everything under the sun with...
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Uncomfortably numb
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Hi I would like to share where I am at right now. Outwardly, I am living my recovery. I am out meeting with friends and fellow members. I am keeping calm and trying to do the next right thing but inwardly I feel a bit numb with everything that is going on. I am walking on egg shells and I am a bit lost. Im not real...
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An Annual Blessing....
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Aloha kakahiaka MIP Ohana. Good evening MIP family...This is Merrie Monarch time of the year and the time for hula competition with hula groups from all over coming into my town to show off their dancing skills and very very colorful attire. It's both Women and Men groups and this is the 50th year o...
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AH is now in rehab
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An update to my saga - tonight we admitted my addict husband into rehab. It went better and worse than I expected at times, but he's there. It was his choice, and so I didn't mind when the ugly addiction started lashing out at me - I knew what it was and was able to calmly explain that it was his decision and fo...
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Just when I thought my AM was at a turning point this happens....
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I came home from work today to find my AM drinking as per usual. She was slurring her words, she wanted more wine. Yelling ensued between my dad and my AM, he pushed her. I didn't see any of this, I only heard it. My AM's best friend and my AM are downstairs talking, about what I don't know.
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Turning the corner and making up for lost time
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It's been a couple weeks since I've posted but I've been reading everyone's stories. So hard to see the challenges some of our Al-Anon brothers and sisters are facing. I say a prayer every day for our bretheren here on MIP and for those who haven't yet walked into the rooms. Me - I'm doing pretty good - fee...
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A step in the right direction for my AM?...
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We had my AM's best friend and her husband come up this week from FL and so far there haven't been any difficult situations involving my AM's drinking, which I'm very grateful to my HP for. My AM was very open with her best friend about her drinking, my AM told her best friend that she's heard others say tha...
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Waiting passionately for patience ..
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I thought that was the neatest concept I heard shared recently. I don't believe in praying for strength, patience, because I do believe that the God of my understanding will deliver these lessons and so not the way I enjoy them. LOL!! That whole the apple didn't fall far from the tree in terms of God'...
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Pushka
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Having a confidant in my boss
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It's been a huge relief for me to be able to have a confidant in both my boss and our sous chef (I work in a cafe). To be able to share with them as both an employee and friend has helped me to feel as if I'm not on this crazy roller coaster ride alone. It's been very helpful to have their support.
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phoenixmagicgirl
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Face To Face Meetings
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My city has 2 face to face meetings. 6pm Sunday Night and 10 am Friday Mornings. I have a million excuses on why they are never convenient for me. On Sundays, I'm normally winding down and getting settled in for the evening. On Fridays, i'm at work. I need to dedicate some time to go to church and an ala...
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Sincerely
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There always must be a culprit in our home
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I feel rather sarcastic right now. I feel like I want to make a silly joke out of this behaviour, yet I know sarcasm will get me nowhere. Almost week at home with my parents and our family perfection needs to be maintained to the outsider's eye. God help me shall I decide to make a mistake or silly decision....
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The past ..
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I'm trying to reconsile at the moment the past, now for me as I've stated before I'm powerless over other people, places, things and the past. However, .. that being said I don't like or appreciate being spoon fed the past and then being told ohhh sorry that's in the past. Yes, it's in the past in terms o...
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Pushka
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After years, I am finally leaving ABF
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Hi guys, I just wanted to say first how great all of the support over the years here has been amazing. Thank you! I posted a little while back about how I had come to a point where I felt I needed to leave my ABF of 4 years but felt that there was a wall between me and that outcome. He is not working a program, and w...
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Sangyaa
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Life after the A
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My life has been crazy busy going to college full time, working every weekend and raising my 2 girls all alone, although I do have a couple great friends that help me with running our kids one way and I do the other, I have accepted it is on me to do all that I can to raise my girls to the best of my abilities. I h...
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Breakingfree
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It's a good day!!!
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Went to a F2F last night - My HP really knows what he's doing! This was my 2nd meeting with this particular group - The first meeting I went to on Tuesday, I didn't share - just wasn't ready, I guess. But I went back last night, and the reading was about "Fear" - the passage that I read was about...
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cRaZyJaDe
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can't believe how good it is getting; actually I can!
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More than one good day in a row! I wish I could share more! Some days I feel like I am floating on a pink cloud. This is something I heard in early recovery but then it was a negative thing--not for me! I want to ride the cloud & the wave as long as I am able. I feel a sense of relief. My AH & I are getting alo...
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Hoot Nanny
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Just when I thought it couldn't get worse
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So I took my son and left and went to a shelter. It's been about 10 days now, and I've been speaking to counsellors and trying to negotiate with my spouse to move out to an apt and let my son and I live in the house because it is near his school and it is way too much upheaval for a child. After much delay finall...
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Asking AH to Get into a long term recovery program
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Hello friends AH has checked himself into detox / mental health facility again. This is the second time since the end of February. He has told his case worker that when he completes the 7 day inpatient he wants to go back to the 9-3 outpatient program. Both his case worker and I agree that he needs long-te...
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Back home, back to state of 'frozen'
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Hi all. This great group and your shares on this page really keep me going for last few months. This is my first post and possible not last. I am currently visiting my home country, my hometown and staying with my folks that I haven't seen for past 18 months. We usually get on very well ( not surprising of co...
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HappyToBe
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Just a little note about soulmates
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A little soulmate thought from my head.....I believe we have many soulmates hanging around for us and some come with expiration dates.
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Priorities
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Our A daughter was told she has to be out of our home in June, has no money, no job and here she is, spending 9 hours today getting extensions in her hair!!!! Her birthday is tomorrow and she wants us to take her out to dinner!!!!! I don't get it, and perhaps never will............... -- Edited by LeenieBe...
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Surprise!! You've been divorced for 11 days!!
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So, today I decided to check the online court forum and see if my soon to be ex husband had filed any new papers that I might not have found out about yet. We had filed a joinder and were doing our divorce without any hostility or fighting. It is just going to be over. We are just walking away. Sad that it h...
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A treat to share...
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I have just enjoyed my favourite walk in the mountains, starting near a shower of snow melt and passing through a narrow gorge where the river was tumbling in full flow. As the path climbed higher the mountain mists wrapped the wise old beech trees and when I reached the highest point of the path, where...
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A Daily Reading (re-posted from ACoA board)
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Yesterday's daily reading REALLY hit me right between the eyes, and I wanted to share it with everyone. Hope you all get as much out of it as I did! Today I Accept My Mistakes I embrace my lack of perfection and I accept my mistakes. I have the right to be wrong. My self-worth does not have to evaporate when I...
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Red Hawk
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Back to Zero AGAIN
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I am so upset right now. :( AH was doing so well and he's been off the drugs for almost two weeks now and off the alcohol for two months but a few minutes ago, he just walked out of the front door to go to the smoke shop to get some spice. He's been going to his outpatient treatment classes but obviously, he'...
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Clueless Optimist
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Dealing with my Alcohaulic Mom
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I am new to Alanon, and spent many years avoiding getting involved in Alanon until I was forced to when my life threw up. I grew up with an alcohaulic mother. She is now 16 years "sober" yet she still has all of the typical alcohaulic behaviors. Selfishness, narcassism, attention whoring. T...
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