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Jlr76


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Short version of my story I have been with my husband twelve years And about a year go he told me wanted divorce. Well I love him and told him this could be fixed. Well the back story is mom ther died unexpectedly three years ago and he never grieved her. And last week I found out he had an affair. This man is so against cheating and lying and he did it. He drinks everyday at least a case of beer. He can't go with out drinking plus he pops iburophen like there candy. I love him but I don't know how to get him to see all the hurt he has caused. We have two little boys 6 and 7. I think all these problems pluii his drinking had made one big mess. And now he is mad at me because I found out about the affair. I actually weren't and talked to her. He lied to us both. Is there any way to help him without walking away. 



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hotrod


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Welcome to Miracles in Progress Jlr76
 
I am so glad you reached out and shared. Please understand that the best way to care for your marriage and yourself it to reach out here and find alanon face to face meetings in your community and attend.

Unfortunately, the behavior you describe is not that unusual while sharing your life with a significant other who has the with the disease of alcoholism. . We do believe that alcoholism is a disease over which we are powerless. Having been seriously affected by this disease we also need a program of recovery. It is also suggested that you make no major life changes until you are in the program for at least 6 months That is so you can gain the ability to make healthy choices for yourself and family.

.Al-Anon is for friends and relatives of Alcoholics. If you have been affected by someone else's drinking then Al-Anon is for you!

By going to the following link:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html

And placing your cursor over about us in the upper left of the screen, 3 more pull downs open. One of these is information for the newcomer, and the second is Al-Anon for you; both have good information

Please keep coming here and sharing the journey



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Betty

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I share Betty's guidance for you.  Get support for you through all of the al anon tools and this forum.  In time, you can come to know peace whether you choose to stay with your hubbie or not.  As you become healthier, you will know what the right choice will be.  hugs



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Welcome to MIP! Sorry to hear that you are going through this. Alot of your questions can be answered by coming here or attending Alanon meetings. You will also learn some tools to help you cope. I am going through a divorce after 30 years. Yes, it is painful but there is hope.

Nancy

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