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This morning checking my bank account as I do every morning, I see that my federal tax refund has posted, yea, I did my return right! (silly sounding, not happy I got the refund, but happy my return is ok and I won't get a letter from the IRS, weird eh?) And the thought it brings to mind is how it was when HE was still a part of my life. Twice a year, fall and spring, coinciding with deer hunting and turkey hunting seasons, (meaning get together for drunken blasts with family he doesn't see except then), he would implode and we would explode and he would stomp out declaring he was done, he'd let me know where to send his things, etc. Then when the tax refund was due to come of course he'd be out of money because... well, ya know, living as a free bachelor is expensive. So he would hound me for his share of the refund, threatening to turn me in to the DA if I withhold HIS money. Keep in mind that he only collected unemployment, the tax refund we got was due to my jobs and my child and my qualification for EIC! Oh how nice it is to know that i am not going to endure those phone calls, threats, and sob stories this year.
After we were divorced, he tried to convince me that we could still file together - yeah baby, he wanted to keep getting a piece of that EIC pie! He promised I could keep the whole tax return if we filed together - oh, I'm sorry, did I believe him? Of course not, I knew exactly how it would go and I wanted NO part it.
Sigh, unfortunately I don't get to go shopping, summer unemployment from my main job makes whatever I have now have to stretch over four months - but its mine, mine, its all mine, (hey, when did Daffy Duck get in here?)
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
I sure can relate to your relief in getting your tax refund. In the last two years that I have filed "married filing separately," I've had to hold my breath and hope that everything went smoothly, which is why getting my refund this year gave me great relief that my tax return was submitted correctly. Now that my AH has passed, the drama regarding my taxes should be over in the coming years, although he died owing IRS debt from business dealings, and those debts might be owed by his estate (which could be passed on to me since I live in CA, a community property state). I will be glad when all of the dust has settled. My AH also felt that I had to split the tax refund with him, even though I was the only one having federal and state taxes withheld over the past five years.
Another funny tax story ..... my daughter got married on a June day and my AH told my new son-in-law that he couldn't have her as a deduction on his taxes and that the AH was going to claim her on his. My SIL looked at me with big eyes and said, "Is he serious?" He couldn't believe it. I told him not to listen to the alcoholic..... and welcome to the family!!
You are sooo funny..which means to me that you are feeling happy inside...which also means that its working for you. Awesome!! Thanks for the humor. ((((hugs))))
