Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yes sir, if it wasn't my story, I would not believe it. I have been seriously thinking that soon I would like to write my autobiography. I am game for it but don't plan on writing it for anyone except myself. I don't mean a 4th step either. I would have to include stuff that have nothing to do w/ the disease of...

Bettina · Bettina

"View your life with "Kindsight". Instead of beating yourself up and asking: "What was I thinking"? Look with loving kindness and ask yourself. "What was I learning "? unk

Bettina · Bettina

Givers Have To Set Limits Because Takers Rarely Do.... Irma Kurtz

islandtime · islandtime

Yesterday I took a long walk, through our woods. I hadn't been back there for quite a while. Nothing better,with the fall crispness in the air, to commune with nature. When I started out, I had an agenda of posting "No hunting" signs, nothing more. But mother nature/ HP sucked me in, and i...

talkinglikerain · talkinglikerain

Hello everyone, I've been lurking on this board for a while. I really appreciate all of the ESH in all of your shares. I am a very grateful member of Al-anon with 4 years in the program, and I attend weekly F2F meetings. I have a sponsor and have been working the steps very slowly but diligently (I seem t...

Beabop910 · Beabop910

My AH has been sober for 5 months. The verbal abuse has stopped which is such a relief. Last night he came home from work and said he wanted to end the marriage. He said he knew I was having an affair and had many online friends. This totally blew my mind. I tried to tell him I was not having an affair and I didn'...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Just posting here quick so I do not send the man I just split with a message trying to say something that makes him see I'm changing or "you threw the best thing away" or anything that would try to control his response or feelings or actions towards me. I must remember I don't want to try to convi...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Being much more aware of my own thinking in recent times, I've been catching myself doing something really alarming- multiple times each day. I think I've been doing it forever, but I've only just become aware of it. Here's an example. This afternoon, I'm walking in the park with my daughter and dog. I...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning Everyone I just want to let you know my son has taken charge and got himself into a rehab, then has plans for a sober living environment after that. He did it on his own....thank you HP. I took this weekend to let go and take care of me and you know what; he survived. He didn't want to be homeless...

qwerty49 · qwerty49

So I moved to Cornwall from Manchester & decided I'd textd my cousin to ask if she'd look out for mum now i'm here as i know she get upset that she's not included in stuff they do. She was very defensive & said she's 'always' there for my mum, which is bull. Mum & me were stood outside her house on...

Tnika · Tnika

Hi, I've spent a lot of time searching online for a 'cure / solution / fix' for my A. It took a while to realise that in doing that, I was becoming lost to myself in place of what is going on for him. Al-Anon helpline was a help, but having read through some of your posts, I came to realise that some people pos...

Marko · Marko

Since I was child I always experience of getting bullied off my childhood neighbors and also in school. I've seen my parents are always fighting each other. Maybe because my father is alcoholic. I remember the time I was walking home crying because of my cruel neighbors. They always called me gay but...

neshema2 · neshema2

Hi everyone Thank you souls who took the time to wish me a happy birthday....if this were facebook I would have clicked a BIG like after each one and I read ALL of them... Actually it meant you all are glad that I was "hatched" and I appreciate it Had a nice day yesterday....my D#1 sent me a beau...

Jacquiej · Jacquiej

My A is my husband. We have been married for 20 years and together for 25... since I was 15. We have been struggling with this for about two years this time. He had trouble about 8 years ago but got sober and stayed sober for about 6 years. This time is different... he won't get help even though he says...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Hi guys, I'm a bit frustrated at the moment. I have been going to a minimum of 2 meetings a week. I have a scheduled time to call my sponsor weekly and I have a few other program friends whom I chat with every so often during the week. My biggest issue is that I don't feel connected to my sponsor. This past...

islandtime · islandtime

I had a light bulb moment...expectations are what has led to my sadness, dissapointment,ect, ect. My expectations were what anyone elses would be. In my marriage, I expected to..... be loved enjoy each others company be nurtured to ha...

neshema2 · neshema2

I am gonna do some fun stuff.......NO recovery work for Sunday....Its my Birthday, now at 3am, I am still up from watching good movies. Going to go to sleep now and later???? HAVE FUN.....maybe I'll go browse the books at goodwill....OR play on my new "jump ball" where I straddle this big...

tortuga · tortuga

hello all old-timers, I am seeking for advice. My parents are in town. And alcohol runs in our family, it's a long time history. Not all binge drinkers, but alcohol has always been omnipresent. So for me it has become obvious it is creating problems, where if it would be absent, life could have been nice...

luv123 · luv123

Thought I would share a cool meeting idea with my recovery pals: Today I went to a great special 3 hr. workshop Al-anon meeting on intimacy. It had so many well thought through ideas and a panel of people with very differing intimacy situations just answering questions out of their own experience--...

Bettina · Bettina

"It is wrong and immoral for a nation to supply intoxicating liquor to those who are addicted to drink ". Gandhi (10/2/1869-1/30/48) -- Edited by Bettina on Saturday 21st of September 2013 09:02:04 PM -- Edited by Bettina on Sunday 22nd of September 2013 12:34:55 AM

Melly1248 · Melly1248

One thing that's been hitting the "hurt" button with me is reading posts from people talking about their A as their "best friend" who has been "lost" to them. 'Cause my A used to be my best friend too, but I don't think about that anymore. It's been so long since there wa...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I have noticed my program tools slipping with me basically living at school now and working the weekends. I have had to let house work go and am not able to make it to my Tuesday evening meetings or find time to do much else except school work. I am doing good in school, but they said this program was intense...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I have mentioned in the past that I decided to foster a cat so that I could give pet ownership a try and give me some company. They offered me a cat that had been poisoned by his previous owner and he started experiencing seizures. I br...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Hi I'm not in my head or in my body I don't no where I am . My home is now a house of secrets the doors are closed and whispering begins . I have broke down my walls and busted my bubble I am open to all around me to gain access to . I'm scared my confusion has taking over me. I pray that my break down does not have my hu...

Sun sun · Sun sun

Hi everyone i have posted here a couple of times and find myself frequently seeking comfort and learning on these pages. So here I am again, and that can only mean there's been yet another drama with the ABH. Promises, promises. All broken. I kicked him out of the house a month ago after his abuse went b...

tortuga · tortuga

I am currently understanding 'taking care of ME' by observing very strictly anti-HALT

Hungry- I find pleasure in cooking and selecting healthy food--- my body seems to absorb this thankfully, I feel energetic and enjoy the cooking process...gives me creative ME time Angry- I'm tired to be angr...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi MIP Family. Here is a small laugh for the day. My partner and I went to Jones Beach today to walk the beach, have lunch and feed the seagulls We purchased a .99 cent package of hot dogs from the Supermarket for the gulls and went to Subways and purchased a $5,00 Foot Long to share. We arrived at the b...

Christine · Christine

So my significant other was dry for a year with the help of antibuse (which he understood would make him violently ill) he made the decision to go off the meds and try drinking socially again. We have had so much go wrong in our year and a half relationship, a house shooting, a major flood, custody battle...

Lyne · Lyne

So yesterday and today I have experienced minor setbacks with my A. I'm not yelling at myself because I know I am making progress overall. But the setbacks did take me by surprise. Yesterday maybe we didn't communicate well. When I thought she would be coming home was not when she came home. She sa...

neshema2 · neshema2

Today, Saturday was the last day that the gal at the front desk worked.... We have quite a history...She came to work a year after I...At first it was "ok" then one day we were facebooking , chatting and she is AT WORK...doing this on company times...I was at home...I realized this and told h...

Pushka · Pushka

I'm a huge offender in that area ESPECIALLY when I started making a conscious decision about getting a divorce .. I got my hands on every single piece of paperwork I could get and started filing everything down. In my mind THAT is not snooping that is being proactive and thank goodness I was because he h...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Maybe my thinking is off on this, but I find myself no longer caring if working my program makes a difference for somebody else? Although I do want to carry the message, the results of that carrying of it simply doesn't interest me as much as it once did. What's more important to me is whether or not work...

Lyne · Lyne

A new member came to my F2F meeting and I saw myself-scared, not knowing what to expect, not knowing the prayer we say together or the format. I felt relief and gratitude after my first meeting and I hope she did too. A few of us spoke to her afterwards (myself included) and a man gave her the newcomer pa...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Enjoy!!

Melly1248 · Melly1248

So, I took a deep breath, and adjusted my thinking as best I could. See, before I wrote that last post, I made a little plea to the A- just a little one- I said "I'm really struggling with the isolation and loneliness at the moment, do you think you could make an effort to be friendly and speak nicely to...

Jerry F · Jerry F

"In order to keep it...you have to give it away"...My elder sponsor wedged that one into my head when he started to support my growth toward doing service for the program and others. It was cute to me then until I found out that it was really true. He also told me "If you really want to...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I can't believe how things are going in my life these days. I feel the most positive lately. I guess I just am finally in acceptance. It makes a lot of difference if I let go of all the things that prevent from finding serenity. I have noticed how much of the promises have come true this last month especiall...

Rose50 · Rose50

Yesterday was a tough day for me and I spent most of it praying for guidance and help for my son. Late this morning he called me to tell me that he had good news - his unemployment was finally approved and he received a call about a job he applied for. Then he told me something he thought was strange - yesterd...

neshema2 · neshema2

Today, I go to work and the gal at the front desk whom I had to literally "melt down" w/kindness to a witch....well today, I go in and shes LEAVING......gave her notice on Wed...and Sat. is her last day....not even a week.... well I wish her good luck and tell her I hope it works out and I really d...

oldergal · oldergal

Pick up your tools, read your Al-Anon literature, follow the Steps you have learned, get a sponsor. You have choices, you don't have to be sad and crying, ask for help today. Don't wonder if you are doing the right thing, you are.....Al-Anon is tried and true. Ask yourself what is the alternative? Yike...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I am horribly embarrassed, made a huge mistake. I have NO excuse and accept any hard feelings. ugh This grieving has made me insane. It had to stop. Not sure what made HP bring this but boy did I learn from it. You guys were WONDERFUL. I learned as usual from you all.It all still fits as the guy has really goo...

DavidG · DavidG

This proves that Alanon can be anywhere... even in New Zealand. The old public hall in Mataura. He is a humble man. In the afternoon session he talked about official Alanon Stuff. In the evening he appeared as Ric B. and gave us his ESH on the steps. All congratulations to the members who arranged this v...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

After my dog's rabbit-massacre 2 weeks ago I really didn't know what to say to the neighbours. So, feeling like a coward I sent them some (overly expensive) flowers and a note to say sorry, and I kept my dog inside while the other dogs were out playing and avoided walking him past their house. And all the w...

Bettina · Bettina

Tonite's the Harvest Moon....trivia fact that a lot of people will binge drink on the nite of the full moon... Observe.....

New_Day · New_Day

First off, it's "AngieP" had to delete my account and lay low a bit.. Got google and found on here posting about "planning to break off contact." I did end the relationship tonight as promised to myself as a bday gift (a lil early) and wow was it a firework show, I've been feeling s...

hotrod · hotrod

We are beginning the Steps once again on the Step Work BoardStep 1 and the associated questions have been posted to the Board. Please join us and share your Experience, Strength and Hopehttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t55025047/alanon-step-1/

faith84 · faith84

Ok, So I keep going up and down, back and forth between acceptance and pure fury over my situation with my A. Some days I think, OK, I can do this, I can't change him or control him, just let him do his thing and I will do mine. And then a moment later I am back to giving him a lecture on how much he has hurt me, and t...

faith84 · faith84

Last Friday I posted in regards to a few vows that I wanted to work on. It is amazing once you FINALLY reach the point of understanding that you really are powerless to their addiction, and that the only thing that can be changed is ourselves and our attitudes. I have been attempting to get to this poin...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'm not sure how it happened. I visited my coworker at her cubicle today because she's the only left of her team after downsizing. She sits in a big room of empty offices and empty cubicles on the other side of our building alone. She isn't going to leave until they tell her to go and that kinda makes sen...

Pushka · Pushka

Something that has come up in my therapy is the whole I'm a victim mentality Vs being victimized and choosing to take a different route. When I first came to Alanon I definitely felt other people did things to me and looking back I can now see how much power I used to give away on a daily basis. I was able to...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Everyone on here has something to add. I appreciate all of you that comment on my posts. I try to put my two cents in every once in a while. I feel compelled to say something even if it is just a short diddy of some kind. I am just being honest & try to be comical once in a while because life can get too seriou...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My new avatar is just for me and a reminder about open perceptions and how the program works in so many many ways. That little Mo`o or lizard is a Madagascar which have become way to numerous in a short period of time on the east shore of Hawaii island and my village of Hilo. My office is a garden and I tend...

Rose50 · Rose50

If alcoholism is categorized as a disease, then why do we say to fully detach from the alcoholic? One wouldn't abandon a family member that had cancer or diabetes. As an example - my son has a dual diagnosis of alcoholism and depression. Both of his sisters have fully detached and feel I should do the s...

tortuga · tortuga

yesterday i had a minor panic attack due to loneliness that came over me. I have gotten better though, thanks to lessons learned due to meditation. i now know the feeling and the confidence in the fact that storms do pass. It is hard to sit and wait though. But i am learning to trust. So i went out for a walk i...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family <3 Sorry its been so Long! I have been Sitting Here Pondering yet another Life Gone to Addictions... Yet Trying to Grasp the Ridicule, and Harsh Slur's from the Judgements in his Death! Tho I Grew up with this Man and Haven't Seen him in Prob. 15yrs, I Still Remember the Man he WAS! But...

deacon · deacon

I wonder if you will ever know what a wonderful thing you are doing in sharing your lives. I know that you come here for caring, compassion, an understanding ear and heart, a thumbs up when you are excited or feel you are moving along and a reminder that we all fail and make mistakes and it is a form of growth...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

Should we all be so fortunate to experience a moment like this. AH is very aware of his addiction. He had reached out last Friday to another recovering member who picked him up (AH was half blitzed already) to go to a meeting. He has continued to drink daily since that meeting. He knows how I feel about his...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Hello everybody, My name is Raven and I'm an addict. I'm addicted to my Alcoholic/Addict Boyfriend. I live in fear and denial of his and my problems. I started thinking that I didn't need 12 steps, because I wasn't the one with the problem. When ABF stopped drinking earlier this year I thought maybe &qu...

Pushka · Pushka

Omgosh .. thank you all sooo much!! One hurdle down and there are probably 5 more to go so this is not the end to say the least and I'm sure that the money stuff is going to be what pushes and pulls him over the edge at this point. I am completely shocked and completely in awe .. now .. why couldn't the...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Tonight one of my alanon groups is celebrating its anniversary. I've never been to an anniversary meeting before, but am really looking forward to it. The timing is perfect too, because it is almost exactly one year since I walked through the doors to my first meeting. My attitude and ways of dealing w...

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	if it wasn't my story, I wouldn't believe it! (Preview) Yes sir, if it wasn't my story, I would not believe it. I have been seriously thinking that soon I would like to write my autobiography. I am game for it but don't plan on writing it for anyone except myself. I don't mean a 4th step either. I would have to include stuff that have nothing to do w/ the disease of...	Hoot Nanny	2	649	Sep 25, 2013 by Bettina
	"KINDSIGHT" (Preview) "View your life with "Kindsight". Instead of beating yourself up and asking: "What was I thinking"? Look with loving kindness and ask yourself. "What was I learning "? unk	Bettina	8	394	Sep 24, 2013 by talkinglikerain
	Ponder this! (Preview) Givers Have To Set Limits Because Takers Rarely Do.... Irma Kurtz	Bettina	7	457	Sep 24, 2013 by Momworrys
	A walk in the woods (Preview) Yesterday I took a long walk, through our woods. I hadn't been back there for quite a while. Nothing better,with the fall crispness in the air, to commune with nature. When I started out, I had an agenda of posting "No hunting" signs, nothing more. But mother nature/ HP sucked me in, and i...	islandtime	6	420	Sep 24, 2013 by islandtime
	Relationship changes as result of Alanon recovery (Preview) Hello everyone, I've been lurking on this board for a while. I really appreciate all of the ESH in all of your shares. I am a very grateful member of Al-anon with 4 years in the program, and I attend weekly F2F meetings. I have a sponsor and have been working the steps very slowly but diligently (I seem t...	talkinglikerain	7	720	Sep 24, 2013 by abbyal
	AH 5 months sober and wants to separate (Preview) My AH has been sober for 5 months. The verbal abuse has stopped which is such a relief. Last night he came home from work and said he wanted to end the marriage. He said he knew I was having an affair and had many online friends. This totally blew my mind. I tried to tell him I was not having an affair and I didn'...	Beabop910	14	2198	Sep 24, 2013 by abbyal
	Letting It Go (Preview) Just posting here quick so I do not send the man I just split with a message trying to say something that makes him see I'm changing or "you threw the best thing away" or anything that would try to control his response or feelings or actions towards me. I must remember I don't want to try to convi...	RunnerChick	10	563	Sep 24, 2013 by diamond
	How long have I been doing this to myself? (Preview) Being much more aware of my own thinking in recent times, I've been catching myself doing something really alarming- multiple times each day. I think I've been doing it forever, but I've only just become aware of it. Here's an example. This afternoon, I'm walking in the park with my daughter and dog. I...	Melly1248	16	598	Sep 24, 2013 by PP
	My son took charge (Preview) Good Morning Everyone I just want to let you know my son has taken charge and got himself into a rehab, then has plans for a sober living environment after that. He did it on his own....thank you HP. I took this weekend to let go and take care of me and you know what; he survived. He didn't want to be homeless...	Cathyinaz	16	677	Sep 24, 2013 by ilovedogs
	I finally moved & have more a voice to my alcoholic mothers famiyl all of a sudden :) (Preview) So I moved to Cornwall from Manchester & decided I'd textd my cousin to ask if she'd look out for mum now i'm here as i know she get upset that she's not included in stuff they do. She was very defensive & said she's 'always' there for my mum, which is bull. Mum & me were stood outside her house on...	qwerty49	4	317	Sep 24, 2013 by grateful2be
	I'm new here... It seems I found what I was searching for (Preview) Hi, I've spent a lot of time searching online for a 'cure / solution / fix' for my A. It took a while to realise that in doing that, I was becoming lost to myself in place of what is going on for him. Al-Anon helpline was a help, but having read through some of your posts, I came to realise that some people pos...	Tnika	8	641	Sep 24, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Feeling Victimized Frustrated abused rejected and misunderstood (Preview) Since I was child I always experience of getting bullied off my childhood neighbors and also in school. I've seen my parents are always fighting each other. Maybe because my father is alcoholic. I remember the time I was walking home crying because of my cruel neighbors. They always called me gay but...	Marko	9	631	Sep 24, 2013 by milkwood
	Thank you all :) (Preview) Hi everyone Thank you souls who took the time to wish me a happy birthday....if this were facebook I would have clicked a BIG like after each one and I read ALL of them... Actually it meant you all are glad that I was "hatched" and I appreciate it Had a nice day yesterday....my D#1 sent me a beau...	neshema2	4	340	Sep 24, 2013 by Breakingfree
	I don't know what to do anymore.... (Preview) My A is my husband. We have been married for 20 years and together for 25... since I was 15. We have been struggling with this for about two years this time. He had trouble about 8 years ago but got sober and stayed sober for about 6 years. This time is different... he won't get help even though he says...	Jacquiej	6	643	Sep 24, 2013 by grateful2be
	Feeling crappy when I leave meetings (Preview) Hi guys, I'm a bit frustrated at the moment. I have been going to a minimum of 2 meetings a week. I have a scheduled time to call my sponsor weekly and I have a few other program friends whom I chat with every so often during the week. My biggest issue is that I don't feel connected to my sponsor. This past...	ilovedogs	10	647	Sep 24, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	Great expectations (Preview) I had a light bulb moment...expectations are what has led to my sadness, dissapointment,ect, ect. My expectations were what anyone elses would be. In my marriage, I expected to..... be loved enjoy each others company be nurtured to ha...	islandtime	6	506	Sep 23, 2013 by Sweet Stanley
	MY BIRTHDAY is today so I am OFF on sabatical till MONDAY (Preview) I am gonna do some fun stuff.......NO recovery work for Sunday....Its my Birthday, now at 3am, I am still up from watching good movies. Going to go to sleep now and later???? HAVE FUN.....maybe I'll go browse the books at goodwill....OR play on my new "jump ball" where I straddle this big...	neshema2	13	519	Sep 23, 2013 by cwya
	to old-timers: Al Anon book recommendation for father in slight denial but open to information! (Preview) hello all old-timers, I am seeking for advice. My parents are in town. And alcohol runs in our family, it's a long time history. Not all binge drinkers, but alcohol has always been omnipresent. So for me it has become obvious it is creating problems, where if it would be absent, life could have been nice...	tortuga	8	499	Sep 23, 2013 by neshema2
	Great Intimacy Meeting today (Preview) Thought I would share a cool meeting idea with my recovery pals: Today I went to a great special 3 hr. workshop Al-anon meeting on intimacy. It had so many well thought through ideas and a panel of people with very differing intimacy situations just answering questions out of their own experience--...	luv123	3	580	Sep 23, 2013 by Mari1978
	Even Gandhi! (Preview) "It is wrong and immoral for a nation to supply intoxicating liquor to those who are addicted to drink ". Gandhi (10/2/1869-1/30/48) -- Edited by Bettina on Saturday 21st of September 2013 09:02:04 PM -- Edited by Bettina on Sunday 22nd of September 2013 12:34:55 AM	Bettina	32	645	Sep 23, 2013 by PP
	It's only words. (Preview) One thing that's been hitting the "hurt" button with me is reading posts from people talking about their A as their "best friend" who has been "lost" to them. 'Cause my A used to be my best friend too, but I don't think about that anymore. It's been so long since there wa...	Melly1248	6	540	Sep 23, 2013 by Raven Juniper
	Too busy for anything else! (Preview) I have noticed my program tools slipping with me basically living at school now and working the weekends. I have had to let house work go and am not able to make it to my Tuesday evening meetings or find time to do much else except school work. I am doing good in school, but they said this program was intense...	Breakingfree	5	631	Sep 23, 2013 by hotrod
	I feel like I am disappointing my higher power. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I have mentioned in the past that I decided to foster a cat so that I could give pet ownership a try and give me some company. They offered me a cat that had been poisoned by his previous owner and he started experiencing seizures. I br...	slogan_jim	11	533	Sep 23, 2013 by Debilyn
	Isolating begin today (Preview) Hi I'm not in my head or in my body I don't no where I am . My home is now a house of secrets the doors are closed and whispering begins . I have broke down my walls and busted my bubble I am open to all around me to gain access to . I'm scared my confusion has taking over me. I pray that my break down does not have my hu...	Ms co-dependent	8	549	Sep 23, 2013 by hotrod
	Time for some internal housekeeping. Scary. (Preview) Hi everyone i have posted here a couple of times and find myself frequently seeking comfort and learning on these pages. So here I am again, and that can only mean there's been yet another drama with the ABH. Promises, promises. All broken. I kicked him out of the house a month ago after his abuse went b...	Sun sun	14	642	Sep 23, 2013 by Sun sun
	H.A.L.T. prevention (Preview) I am currently understanding 'taking care of ME' by observing very strictly anti-HALT Hungry- I find pleasure in cooking and selecting healthy food--- my body seems to absorb this thankfully, I feel energetic and enjoy the cooking process...gives me creative ME time Angry- I'm tired to be angr...	tortuga	4	401	Sep 23, 2013 by Peggy7
	HP has given me a sense of humor (Preview) Hi MIP Family. Here is a small laugh for the day. My partner and I went to Jones Beach today to walk the beach, have lunch and feed the seagulls We purchased a .99 cent package of hot dogs from the Supermarket for the gulls and went to Subways and purchased a $5,00 Foot Long to share. We arrived at the b...	hotrod	8	452	Sep 22, 2013 by tiredtonite
	I am new here (Preview) So my significant other was dry for a year with the help of antibuse (which he understood would make him violently ill) he made the decision to go off the meds and try drinking socially again. We have had so much go wrong in our year and a half relationship, a house shooting, a major flood, custody battle...	Christine	8	545	Sep 22, 2013 by Christine
	Don't have to be perfect, right? (Preview) So yesterday and today I have experienced minor setbacks with my A. I'm not yelling at myself because I know I am making progress overall. But the setbacks did take me by surprise. Yesterday maybe we didn't communicate well. When I thought she would be coming home was not when she came home. She sa...	Lyne	5	483	Sep 22, 2013 by bud
	I notice that I am "infected" by ALANON.... (Preview) Today, Saturday was the last day that the gal at the front desk worked.... We have quite a history...She came to work a year after I...At first it was "ok" then one day we were facebooking , chatting and she is AT WORK...doing this on company times...I was at home...I realized this and told h...	neshema2	3	444	Sep 22, 2013 by hotrod
	For the snoopers :) (Preview) I'm a huge offender in that area ESPECIALLY when I started making a conscious decision about getting a divorce .. I got my hands on every single piece of paperwork I could get and started filing everything down. In my mind THAT is not snooping that is being proactive and thank goodness I was because he h...	Pushka	6	542	Sep 22, 2013 by Ms co-dependent
	Progress (Preview) Maybe my thinking is off on this, but I find myself no longer caring if working my program makes a difference for somebody else? Although I do want to carry the message, the results of that carrying of it simply doesn't interest me as much as it once did. What's more important to me is whether or not work...	grateful2be	6	529	Sep 22, 2013 by grateful2be
	saw myself (Preview) A new member came to my F2F meeting and I saw myself-scared, not knowing what to expect, not knowing the prayer we say together or the format. I felt relief and gratitude after my first meeting and I hope she did too. A few of us spoke to her afterwards (myself included) and a man gave her the newcomer pa...	Lyne	8	498	Sep 21, 2013 by PP
	Happy Birthday Jerry F (Preview) Enjoy!!	Peggy7	20	461	Sep 21, 2013 by el-cee
	Forgot I'm meant to wait on the shelf until I'm needed :-p (Preview) So, I took a deep breath, and adjusted my thinking as best I could. See, before I wrote that last post, I made a little plea to the A- just a little one- I said "I'm really struggling with the isolation and loneliness at the moment, do you think you could make an effort to be friendly and speak nicely to...	Melly1248	13	579	Sep 21, 2013 by el-cee
	Service... (Preview) "In order to keep it...you have to give it away"...My elder sponsor wedged that one into my head when he started to support my growth toward doing service for the program and others. It was cute to me then until I found out that it was really true. He also told me "If you really want to...	Jerry F	7	408	Sep 21, 2013 by Jerry F
	another promising day! (Preview) I can't believe how things are going in my life these days. I feel the most positive lately. I guess I just am finally in acceptance. It makes a lot of difference if I let go of all the things that prevent from finding serenity. I have noticed how much of the promises have come true this last month especiall...	Hoot Nanny	3	336	Sep 21, 2013 by cwya
	HP at work (Preview) Yesterday was a tough day for me and I spent most of it praying for guidance and help for my son. Late this morning he called me to tell me that he had good news - his unemployment was finally approved and he received a call about a job he applied for. Then he told me something he thought was strange - yesterd...	Rose50	8	463	Sep 21, 2013 by neshema2
	I just seem to draw them too me.... (Preview) Today, I go to work and the gal at the front desk whom I had to literally "melt down" w/kindness to a witch....well today, I go in and shes LEAVING......gave her notice on Wed...and Sat. is her last day....not even a week.... well I wish her good luck and tell her I hope it works out and I really d...	neshema2	14	592	Sep 21, 2013 by neshema2
	MISERY IS A CHOICE (Preview) Pick up your tools, read your Al-Anon literature, follow the Steps you have learned, get a sponsor. You have choices, you don't have to be sad and crying, ask for help today. Don't wonder if you are doing the right thing, you are.....Al-Anon is tried and true. Ask yourself what is the alternative? Yike...	oldergal	8	819	Sep 21, 2013 by maryjane
	Please forgive me I blew it BIG Time!!!! (Preview) I am horribly embarrassed, made a huge mistake. I have NO excuse and accept any hard feelings. ugh This grieving has made me insane. It had to stop. Not sure what made HP bring this but boy did I learn from it. You guys were WONDERFUL. I learned as usual from you all.It all still fits as the guy has really goo...	Debilyn	6	669	Sep 21, 2013 by Debilyn
	Visit by Ric B. to our neck of the woods... (Preview) This proves that Alanon can be anywhere... even in New Zealand. The old public hall in Mataura. He is a humble man. In the afternoon session he talked about official Alanon Stuff. In the evening he appeared as Ric B. and gave us his ESH on the steps. All congratulations to the members who arranged this v...	DavidG	2	380	Sep 21, 2013 by hotrod
	OMG did you know other people can do stuff too? (Preview) After my dog's rabbit-massacre 2 weeks ago I really didn't know what to say to the neighbours. So, feeling like a coward I sent them some (overly expensive) flowers and a note to say sorry, and I kept my dog inside while the other dogs were out playing and avoided walking him past their house. And all the w...	Melly1248	8	505	Sep 21, 2013 by neshema2
	Moon trivia! (Preview) Tonite's the Harvest Moon....trivia fact that a lot of people will binge drink on the nite of the full moon... Observe.....	Bettina	3	412	Sep 20, 2013 by neshema2
	Feels so bad.. But I did the right thing (Preview) First off, it's "AngieP" had to delete my account and lay low a bit.. Got google and found on here posting about "planning to break off contact." I did end the relationship tonight as promised to myself as a bday gift (a lil early) and wow was it a firework show, I've been feeling s...	New_Day	10	430	Sep 20, 2013 by pinkchip
	Step One (Preview) We are beginning the Steps once again on the Step Work BoardStep 1 and the associated questions have been posted to the Board. Please join us and share your Experience, Strength and Hopehttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t55025047/alanon-step-1/	hotrod	0	423	Sep 20, 2013 by hotrod
	How do I keep my mouth shut?! (Preview) Ok, So I keep going up and down, back and forth between acceptance and pure fury over my situation with my A. Some days I think, OK, I can do this, I can't change him or control him, just let him do his thing and I will do mine. And then a moment later I am back to giving him a lecture on how much he has hurt me, and t...	faith84	12	797	Sep 20, 2013 by faith84
	Powerless (Preview) Last Friday I posted in regards to a few vows that I wanted to work on. It is amazing once you FINALLY reach the point of understanding that you really are powerless to their addiction, and that the only thing that can be changed is ourselves and our attitudes. I have been attempting to get to this poin...	faith84	4	428	Sep 20, 2013 by faith84
	What was I thinking.... I wasn't thinking! (Preview) I'm not sure how it happened. I visited my coworker at her cubicle today because she's the only left of her team after downsizing. She sits in a big room of empty offices and empty cubicles on the other side of our building alone. She isn't going to leave until they tell her to go and that kinda makes sen...	tiredtonite	11	520	Sep 20, 2013 by grateful2be
	Victim Vs Being Victimized (Preview) Something that has come up in my therapy is the whole I'm a victim mentality Vs being victimized and choosing to take a different route. When I first came to Alanon I definitely felt other people did things to me and looking back I can now see how much power I used to give away on a daily basis. I was able to...	Pushka	6	1248	Sep 20, 2013 by Jerry F
	I agree about all the posters(not the carboard kind) (Preview) Everyone on here has something to add. I appreciate all of you that comment on my posts. I try to put my two cents in every once in a while. I feel compelled to say something even if it is just a short diddy of some kind. I am just being honest & try to be comical once in a while because life can get too seriou...	Hoot Nanny	1	377	Sep 20, 2013 by Jerry F
	Mo`o metaphor... (Preview) My new avatar is just for me and a reminder about open perceptions and how the program works in so many many ways. That little Mo`o or lizard is a Madagascar which have become way to numerous in a short period of time on the east shore of Hawaii island and my village of Hilo. My office is a garden and I tend...	Jerry F	10	649	Sep 20, 2013 by bud
	If alcoholism is a disease... (Preview) If alcoholism is categorized as a disease, then why do we say to fully detach from the alcoholic? One wouldn't abandon a family member that had cancer or diabetes. As an example - my son has a dual diagnosis of alcoholism and depression. Both of his sisters have fully detached and feel I should do the s...	Rose50	10	669	Sep 20, 2013 by Mimi3
	new ways, maybe into change! (Preview) yesterday i had a minor panic attack due to loneliness that came over me. I have gotten better though, thanks to lessons learned due to meditation. i now know the feeling and the confidence in the fact that storms do pass. It is hard to sit and wait though. But i am learning to trust. So i went out for a walk i...	tortuga	4	395	Sep 19, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Mean Spirits & How to Deal..... (Preview) Hello MIP Family <3 Sorry its been so Long! I have been Sitting Here Pondering yet another Life Gone to Addictions... Yet Trying to Grasp the Ridicule, and Harsh Slur's from the Judgements in his Death! Tho I Grew up with this Man and Haven't Seen him in Prob. 15yrs, I Still Remember the Man he WAS! But...	Jozie	6	655	Sep 19, 2013 by afglin
	A thanks for those who post here regularly (Preview) I wonder if you will ever know what a wonderful thing you are doing in sharing your lives. I know that you come here for caring, compassion, an understanding ear and heart, a thumbs up when you are excited or feel you are moving along and a reminder that we all fail and make mistakes and it is a form of growth...	deacon	7	493	Sep 19, 2013 by Mari1978
	A moment of gratefulness (Preview) Should we all be so fortunate to experience a moment like this. AH is very aware of his addiction. He had reached out last Friday to another recovering member who picked him up (AH was half blitzed already) to go to a meeting. He has continued to drink daily since that meeting. He knows how I feel about his...	Mari1978	5	326	Sep 19, 2013 by grateful2be
	Addicted to an Addict (Preview) Hello everybody, My name is Raven and I'm an addict. I'm addicted to my Alcoholic/Addict Boyfriend. I live in fear and denial of his and my problems. I started thinking that I didn't need 12 steps, because I wasn't the one with the problem. When ABF stopped drinking earlier this year I thought maybe &qu...	Raven Juniper	10	545	Sep 19, 2013 by Indeed
	THANK YOU!!!! :) (Preview) Omgosh .. thank you all sooo much!! One hurdle down and there are probably 5 more to go so this is not the end to say the least and I'm sure that the money stuff is going to be what pushes and pulls him over the edge at this point. I am completely shocked and completely in awe .. now .. why couldn't the...	Pushka	8	461	Sep 19, 2013 by Jerry F
	An Anniversary (Preview) Tonight one of my alanon groups is celebrating its anniversary. I've never been to an anniversary meeting before, but am really looking forward to it. The timing is perfect too, because it is almost exactly one year since I walked through the doors to my first meeting. My attitude and ways of dealing w...	ParisMemories	6	389	Sep 19, 2013 by Jerry F
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