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I want to say thank you for your continued support. My hand was held and I could let go let God. I didn't help, I didn't enable. My son did call and I just asked him to call his sponsor, reunite and move forward. I love you son.
What the future holds for him I do not know.
Your support these last few days from everyone has given me much strength and courage and I'm truly grateful to all of you. I just pray someday I will have the peace and healthy mind to be of service like I need to be.
MY story still unfolds and I can bring it here in hopes to help others and continue to give me strength........for that I am grateful.
A member asked me to keep a list of my assets, which I have done and I see I do have assets, many of them. What a revealing experience. Another was firm in letting me know what I do enabling will not help my son. Thet firmness in the posts knocked some sense into me. Also others with their love, support and kindness no matter what I do or say. All this, every single one of you I am grateful for.
My gratitude list is getting long. My defects are getting help....my life will have peace someday as long I continue to practice.
Thank you my friends.....I am not alone
Cathy in AZ
EDIT PS: Do you know it has taken me almost a year just to truly let go....amazing
-- Edited by Cathyinaz on Tuesday 17th of September 2013 09:20:37 AM
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
"I just pray someday I will have the peace and healthy mind to be of service like I need to be."
((( Cathy ))). But you already DO! You have already helped me more than you know (because I haven't told you til now). I am not in the same situation as you are but your example of working your program and how you do it, down to the little details, is SO very helpful to me. You already help others more than you know.
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Cathy: What an endearing post and an encouraging one for sure. As I've read Betty's posts, there is a message she often repeats: We are a fellowship of equals. That is so true. You are part of that fellowship. We are all at the beginning of learning something new. We are all practicing, practicing, practicing something we haven't mastered yet. You've helped me grow, too!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your posts are so helpful to me as we travel the same road. You inspire me....believe that! As I write this, my son is being released from the hospital. I spoke with him earlier and he will be attending intensive (5 hr daily) group therapy beginning tomorrow. This has helped him immensely in the past but he had stopped going. Hopefully this time he will commit.
This indeed is a great Board, and it is really a "board". Problems are presented here, they are looked at, brain stormed, analyzed and given the best ESH we have to give. We care and support all. Prayers are always in order. I think I would be lost without the great people here, and still in pain. There are those who are not emotionally involved and can "tell it like it is" couldn't live without them, they keep me real.
As far as you go, you "get it" Cathy, you are doing everything humanly possible, you have learned a lot this year and you are on the right path to serenity, relax, there isnt much more you can do, except be really good to Cathy, don't you think its about time...! My prayers have shifted over to your ever capable, smart, son who needs to "Get It". OG
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Don't Worry About Growing Old, It Is A Privilege For Some Of Us.....
EDIT PS: Do you know it has taken me almost a year just to truly let go....amazing
-- Edited by Cathyinaz on Tuesday 17th of September 2013 09:20:37 AM
Yes, I do believe it and that is FAST compared to some folks I have seen....pat yourself on the back for working your program........and you are SO welcome.....We are all here to care and to share.....like pooling our assets...........some stuff I am "ok" on......some stuff I am weak on......it evens out b/c I know u guys, you guys who support me and encourage me....I too give thanks for that support......
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Cathy, you sound so good! I know how hard this has been for you, you are an inspiration. And yes, I can believe its taken a year, that's how long it has taken me to finally understand this program. I learn more every day, from all the wonderful friends on this board. I still have lots more to learn. Thank you. Keeping you and your son in my prayers.
