Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

abbyal · abbyal

Sometimes I come to this room and hear the despair from our newcommers, who are afraid that things will never change , that the A in thier lives will not stop drinking . Fear is running thier lives just as it did mine a few years ago. And I am reminded of how it used to be for me but thanks to Al-Anon I no l...

marcie301 · marcie301

I had a strong feeling he was drinking again tonight/today. I asked him a couple questions(fairly innocent) and got defensiveness throughout the day. He will only drink when he hides it and lies about it. Then, he went out to take the dog outside. I went out af...

Barbara · Barbara

Did you just pickup the phone and say hello? Go for coffee? email/IM? What do you do once you decide who you would like for a sponsor? What did you first discuss, etc? How did you get started?

Barbara · Barbara

Says he needs diskettes w/his resume, job hunting clothes, etc from Mom's house. Gave me his side of the story, asked what I knew. He had to setup an AfterCare program but did not need to stay with Salvation Army. I emailed him back. So with court involved how much do I need to stay out? I dont want either on...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

We were talking the other day, and someone is going to be needing the MIP screw for awhile it seems. I need to tell my husband of my plans of leaving and could really use one. Cound we find it in the MIP budget to buy a few more screws? Of course David lost the good one. But in my ho...

marcie301 · marcie301

Everything I've read through Alanon says not to do anything for 6 months. I started Alanon several years ago but quit going after a few months. I started doing online stuff a couple of months ago. Today I attended my first f2f in a few years. Today will be the start of my 6 months.&n...

John · John

Hello Miracle In Progress Family Please keep sending in those recipies for the Miracles In Progress cook book. I am planning this book to be very big and filled with recipies from all over the world. I have several already but if you have not sent your in.. please do so. Empty thos...

Barbara · Barbara

Guess my brother asked if he could leave and the judge said yes! My older brother went to my mothers to get something. Noone knows where my younger brother is or where he's going. I told my husband to be on the lookout. Younger brother is still mad so I really dont want him at my house at this time. Will keep e...

Nettie · Nettie

So, I'm at a loss here. I'm trying to work the program one day at a time. I'm new to this, so I know that I have a long way to go. My biggest struggle is the children. No, I take that back, it's me. You see, I'm afraid. I'm afraid to tell my A that if he's using, he's not al...

rtexas · rtexas

I am struggling with how to have conversations with my A. If we say that all the mean, selfish and hurtful things an A does is beyond their control, how can you sort out the truth from the BS. My A wants to seperate she 'says'. We seperated once before, and she was thrilled. Of course...

Lindy · Lindy

I know I'm not perfect and that I have my faults. Another thing I know is that my head is not constantly clouded by alcohol and the things I say, whether good or bad, comes directly from me and not the "alcohol talking", if you know what I mean. Anyway, I am starting to look closely at myself and wonder if I pu...

kitty · kitty

So I read my own post, the torture of my mom, she is so selfish & this disease is taking her down... she isn't even the same person anymore. I just miss her & hurt for her so much to come back to life. I am helpless, I surrender her & her A everyday & say prayers for them.&...

Christy · Christy

Whatta day... Hubby just wasn't right today. It started yesterday with a fall. Didn't hit his head or anything, just not real "with it". Had some confusion going on today. Didn't know if he took his meds or not, even tho the "Friday" pill section in his plastic thingy was full. Asked me what day it was s...

serendipity · serendipity

my husband just relapsed monday after a year of sobriety. he is a crack addict and has bi polar disorder. so we've done this before. alot. but this time i took the car and the kids and rented a house. i just can't do this anymore. i prayed and prayed for an answer and i got it and i'm doing the best i can for now b...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

hi all. well the dreaded day is coming, it will be here sunday........my birthday. i honestly hate my birthday because everything and anything always goes wrong. the past weeks i have had nothing but phone calls asking what i want to do? and friends saying lets go party. which i definatly dont want to d...

allison · allison

Hi everyone..just a quick update cause I haven`t posted in a while.I`ve been busy working more hours to pay bills since my A who has been gone for almost 3 months wont give me any money to support our 4 kids. I got approved for food assistance which helps out alot.Emotionally I`m doing better..I don`t cr...

sas · sas

I experienced a light-bulb moment the other day. I was reading Courage to Change, looking up readings about acceptance and came across the 3-A's which I had never heard. Awareness, Acceptance, and Action. I always thought that I was good at blocking out what was happening aro...

mel123 · mel123

We asked our 19 year old son to leave the house a week ago. Since then we feel like yo-yos. He's been back, then gone, back then gone. Finally Sunday, we said you have to leave.....he got angry and he did leave. And of course he left with an unsafe friend. He only pa...

bob6502 · bob6502

For those of you who are not familiar with this process, a group inventory is like a 4th step inventory for the group as a whole. We answer questions based on our membership in the group and as a group as a whole. Please be honest with your answers. I am the only person that will be compiling the results and t...

chrissy · chrissy

hi guys, I just wanted to give you an update. Amanda is doing great, she is behaving better we are getting along so good and she is happy that chuck is home. we have fun together. everything is still going great chuck has been clean & sober since rehab. he still goes...

ragingchild · ragingchild

I keep trying to get in the chatroom but it keeps saying "cannot joint channel (+b)", hmmm, I'm lost. Help! Thanks, RC

marcie301 · marcie301

My A and I have have been married for almost 6 years. We started out as best friends. We always got along and never fought until after we got married. Then, a few things happened to other family members and he started dealing with stress by drinking and hiding it and lying about it. ...

Christy · Christy

I've been asked for an update so I'll do a short one, will know more tomorrow after A's Dr appt. Things are kind of weird right now. A is still very sick. His back problem is worse. He can barely make it to the bathroom. I feel really bad for him. He's so weak and thin, recovering from detox, pneumonia an...

marmare · marmare

This has to be the longest day of my life! My mom's appt. is at 3:15 today, I wish that you all could be here to hold my hand through this. I am at work but not really getting a thing done. Thank you for all your support and caring hearts. Hugs Mary From March 1 reading "Courage to Chan...

kitty · kitty

Just wanted to say to those of you I promised to snail mail pamphlets they are officially en route as of today, expect it in 2 days - dunno why two day is cheaper - loads of goodies coming your way! You know who you are! all of my love, -Kitty of Light

sweetums · sweetums

Haven't talk to him in a couple of days now. Wish I could stop counting how long it's been. I guage how often to call, and conjecture on when I should. 'Timing' contact so that I don't look like I want him to come back, or that I miss him too much, yet not wanting to let him go. I can't stop asking him if he has dra...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Anxiety Attack? "[The] Power that brought us to this program is still with us and will continue to guide us if we allow it."Basic Text, p. 26Ever had a panic attack? Everywhere we turn, life's demands overwhelm us. We're paralyzed, and we don't know what to do about it. How do we break an anxiety att...

sweetums · sweetums

well, the end of another day. finally whew I did end up calling him, but waited to do it on my 15 min break at work so i would not get too involved in it, just say hi and ask how he is and move along. it went well. he asked after a bit if i miss him, and i just said i don't want to talk about that and he changed th...

confused · confused

Hi everyone, I haven't posted for awhile. I have been keeping up with other's posts, reading, replying etc. Just thought I would take a moment for a quick update. My A and I are still separated. I have been finding that I am very lonely lately, but still plugging away.&nbs...

chris52 · chris52

Dear Lord, So far today,I am doing alright. I have not gossipped,lost my temper,been greedy,nasty,selfish or self-indulgent. I have not whined,complained,cursed,or eaten any cakes or chocolate. I have charged absolutely nothing to my credit/debit card. But....I will be getting out of bed in a...

rtexas · rtexas

Kitty, I wish for you and everyone who has a birthday this month peace, serenity and joy. You all deserve it. Have a good day!

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Success "Any form of success was frightening and unfamiliar." Basic Text, p. 14 Before coming to NA, few of us had much experience with success. Every attempt to stop using on our own had ended in failure. We had begun to give up hope of finding any relief from active addiction. We had grown acc...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Lou)))))))))))))))))))), Just wondering how you're doing? Has anyone seen him? Let us know. We miss you. Hope all is well with you and the family. Live strong, Karilynn

RamzDear · RamzDear

I had made a topic titled"Should I talk to him or not." NUMBER one...each and every one of you helped me keep my confused mind on a bit of a higher ground. Thank you so much. Interestingly enough I got my answer tonight. My A (as high functioning as he is) brought homes stacks of supplies from a wholesale...

kitty · kitty

As most of you know, my mother has been abusing me & taking jobs away from me after working for the family for 5 years. She called early today at 830, saying to finish the account's receivable 1 more month, as it will be a Quarter & makes more sense.

Okay. What really bugged m...

pixel04 · pixel04

My sponsor frequently reminds me to focus on planning my actions - what I can do about a situation - instead of trying to plan the outcome. I think I do a better job of this now than I used to, but it is still a pattern I have the tendency to fall into. My husband and I have been living with his father fo...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

I thought some people on this board perhaps would be interested in knowing the Today Show this week is discussing "Strange Addictions"- today they started with probably the most troublesome addiction in society today in my opinion- Pornagraphy and sex addiction. Porn on the Internet has gr...

doxie · doxie

I am needing to talk this out, get it out of my head, invite opinion and maybe vent a little! One of the topics at this mornings meeting here got me thinking about this conversation again .....Al-Anon friends. A lot of my frustrations and questions were taken care of during the shares...

marmare · marmare

Well with a million things happening all at once in my life please say a little prayer for me and my family. My mom's breast cancer has recured. She has a mass on the left side under her rib cage, after a cat scan they have found 3 spots (we think as her story gets minimized with each of us kids she tel...

bobump · bobump

Well all I got to put the new service that a fellow alanoner at f2f suggest where they will come out w/ a mobile response within an hour. Well we get home from the visit. I ask my daughter if she did Monday's homework. Nope. She didn't do it when i asked Monday, she stayed home sick tod...

irish54 · irish54

Hmmmm as I have been reading some of the other posts here and doing my own work on the steps it has made me stop and think why I have so often been fearful of allowing nmyself to be willing for God's will in my life. Lord knows after 56 years of me doing my own thinking and planning things are a real mess!&nbs...

Barbara · Barbara

Ok what can anyone tell me about someone being sent to the Salvation Army for 6months? What type of treatment is avail through them? Guess that is what the judge has recommended for my brother. The court does not want my mother to see my brother or vs. How can we get clothes up to him? Can they be left at the d...

bobump · bobump

Hi all, Not alot of action today. Picked up a list of Rx from the pharmacy so that the Hospital can see what she was on. I noticed that she got a new doctor to begin prescribing her oxycodone. Well, I agreed not to call her doctors but all bets are off after you try to commit suicide. I spoke to he...

RamzDear · RamzDear

My A is under the impression that if he’s on a motivational kick he needs to be drunk.Trouble is that everyone around just sees it as him being drunk. I could tell he was pretty lost on the phone before he came home last night;it was verified when he go home,even with the sad ‘cover-up’that they do with try...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got this e-mail on surrendering. I have been struggling with surrendering. Thought this might nelp others too.. Today I will surrender to that which I cannot control. Surrender does not mean giving up when I need to be persistent; it means letting go of that which I can't change. Surren...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I finally talked to my AH after almost 5 weeks. It was really weird. I remained calm talking to him. We talked for about an hour, but it just went in circles. I just have questions and I kept asking them, I can't help myself. I want to know WHY he left me and the kids, why he h...

Lindy · Lindy

Things have been okay for awhile now, but the first signs of the cycle changing are starting to show. Last night, my husband was somewhat drunk. He was in his annoying stage last night. It's pathetic, but I know every one of his drunken stages. I know when he's been at the bar and been drinking stronger be...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello group, I haven't posted in a while, I was busy all last week. I had been doing really well with setting boundaries with my "a" and he kept asking to come home last week. He said he thought he wanted the separation but then realized exactly what that meant. We talked with our fa...

rtexas · rtexas

She wants to leave. Says that she hates me. I had told her last week that of course I am agrivated at the chaos in our home, but that I was trying to do something to help me get better. She knows my Father was an A and I focused on that, when talking about how I am obsessed with acceptance an...

sweetums · sweetums

Well I got the kids out to school, got the house clean, only took a half hour. either I am real fast or it wasn't really dirty. Frig. Got some errands to do this morning before work. I'm trying hard to think about me and what I gotta do, but it is all just distracting myself from the telephone and the hole...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

I am told that the automatic pilot in an airplane does not work by locking onto a course and sticking to it. Instead, it steers back and forth over the path of an assigned course and makes the necessary corrections when it senses that it has strayed. In reality, the auto p...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi all, Grateful, so grateful to be able to come here where others will understand the depth of pain all this causes. My A to me, is just skin over an evil demon. When ever I do see him, he does not smell good or look good at all anymore. I am very humbled by what Jesus did for us. When I hear the A use J...

irish54 · irish54

I am the daughter of an alcoholic father , but I never saw him take a drink. His actions were very abusive both to my mother and also to me. You see, we were a very "religious" family. I knew my parents fought often and occasionally I would hear my mom accuse him of drinking, but as I said...

Barbara · Barbara

Just spoke with my mother. My brother accepted no help while in Bridgewater. Court appearance was delayed until after lunch - she was there since before 10am. My mother had to speak and testify. My brother didnt talk. The court will either put my brother in Tewksbury hospital or a halfway house. The co...

bobump · bobump

Hi all, Wife is out of the ER unit and in a Critical Care unit for now. We are looking at 24 - 48 hours in there before we decide where we go next. Next step is probably the physchiatric inpatient but that is not definate, I'm not 'expecting' anything. She wakes up, asks for ice chips and ro...

tea2 · tea2

Today, while driving back from baseball practice (indoors) son shared a story his father had told him, a song had him recall a memory. There was some silence, he turned the radio back up. I said you know you can talk about dad anytime. He said -No mom, I really don't want to. That just came to mind is all......

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

Just wanted to post that I had started meditating again. I learned it in high school, and I remembered how much calmer it made me. Things that used to get to me didn't bother me anymore. I saw more beauty in the world and was generally a more relaxed and happier person. I know of...

gardengal · gardengal

But not all our communication is determined by what we do or do not say. It also depends how we say it. Not only our choice of words, but also our attitudes, facial expressions, and tone of voice can either open a channel or slam a door, reguadless of the subject being discussed. All people, from the cashi...

Tammy · Tammy

Alcoholism is such a terrible disease effecting everyone who loves the alcoholic. I have been reading posts today for the first time in a few months. I fell away from the board as I felt that I too could deal with this disease alone. I found out, i cant. Just like the alcoholic we are as addicted to them a...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

Sorry I wrote down Your email address wrong and did not get to email you correctly! Please email thankyou Deb! FEBRUARY 28 Turning over my will and my life to the care of my Higher Power (the Third Step) is an ongoing process. At first I surrendered only the big problems....

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	HOPE (Preview) Sometimes I come to this room and hear the despair from our newcommers, who are afraid that things will never change , that the A in thier lives will not stop drinking . Fear is running thier lives just as it did mine a few years ago. And I am reminded of how it used to be for me but thanks to Al-Anon I no l...	abbyal	10	424	Mar 4, 2006 by Jeannie
	It's happening again (Preview) I had a strong feeling he was drinking again tonight/today. I asked him a couple questions(fairly innocent) and got defensiveness throughout the day. He will only drink when he hides it and lies about it. Then, he went out to take the dog outside. I went out af...	marcie301	4	478	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	once you found someone - How did you get started with a sponsor? (Preview) Did you just pickup the phone and say hello? Go for coffee? email/IM? What do you do once you decide who you would like for a sponsor? What did you first discuss, etc? How did you get started?	Barbara	4	344	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Now I am truly in the middle - brother has contacted me (Preview) Says he needs diskettes w/his resume, job hunting clothes, etc from Mom's house. Gave me his side of the story, asked what I knew. He had to setup an AfterCare program but did not need to stay with Salvation Army. I emailed him back. So with court involved how much do I need to stay out? I dont want either on...	Barbara	4	324	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Can we afford a few more screws? (Preview) We were talking the other day, and someone is going to be needing the MIP screw for awhile it seems. I need to tell my husband of my plans of leaving and could really use one. Cound we find it in the MIP budget to buy a few more screws? Of course David lost the good one. But in my ho...	jrtjosey	13	415	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	I went to a f2f and have a plan (Preview) Everything I've read through Alanon says not to do anything for 6 months. I started Alanon several years ago but quit going after a few months. I started doing online stuff a couple of months ago. Today I attended my first f2f in a few years. Today will be the start of my 6 months.&n...	marcie301	6	422	Mar 4, 2006 by jrtjosey
	more recipies wanted (Preview) Hello Miracle In Progress Family Please keep sending in those recipies for the Miracles In Progress cook book. I am planning this book to be very big and filled with recipies from all over the world. I have several already but if you have not sent your in.. please do so. Empty thos...	John	2	322	Mar 4, 2006 by lin0606
	Found - brother is loose! noone knows where he is! (Preview) Guess my brother asked if he could leave and the judge said yes! My older brother went to my mothers to get something. Noone knows where my younger brother is or where he's going. I told my husband to be on the lookout. Younger brother is still mad so I really dont want him at my house at this time. Will keep e...	Barbara	4	418	Mar 4, 2006 by Flora123
	Looking for advice (Preview) So, I'm at a loss here. I'm trying to work the program one day at a time. I'm new to this, so I know that I have a long way to go. My biggest struggle is the children. No, I take that back, it's me. You see, I'm afraid. I'm afraid to tell my A that if he's using, he's not al...	Nettie	4	318	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	Struggling with Truth (Preview) I am struggling with how to have conversations with my A. If we say that all the mean, selfish and hurtful things an A does is beyond their control, how can you sort out the truth from the BS. My A wants to seperate she 'says'. We seperated once before, and she was thrilled. Of course...	rtexas	5	578	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	Was told that I'm messed up! (Preview) I know I'm not perfect and that I have my faults. Another thing I know is that my head is not constantly clouded by alcohol and the things I say, whether good or bad, comes directly from me and not the "alcohol talking", if you know what I mean. Anyway, I am starting to look closely at myself and wonder if I pu...	Lindy	12	519	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	manipulative auntie (Preview) So I read my own post, the torture of my mom, she is so selfish & this disease is taking her down... she isn't even the same person anymore. I just miss her & hurt for her so much to come back to life. I am helpless, I surrender her & her A everyday & say prayers for them.&...	kitty	6	338	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	Doctor Day/ hubby update (Preview) Whatta day... Hubby just wasn't right today. It started yesterday with a fall. Didn't hit his head or anything, just not real "with it". Had some confusion going on today. Didn't know if he took his meds or not, even tho the "Friday" pill section in his plastic thingy was full. Asked me what day it was s...	Christy	7	371	Mar 4, 2006 by Becky1
	fear (Preview) my husband just relapsed monday after a year of sobriety. he is a crack addict and has bi polar disorder. so we've done this before. alot. but this time i took the car and the kids and rented a house. i just can't do this anymore. i prayed and prayed for an answer and i got it and i'm doing the best i can for now b...	serendipity	6	338	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	vent (Preview) hi all. well the dreaded day is coming, it will be here sunday........my birthday. i honestly hate my birthday because everything and anything always goes wrong. the past weeks i have had nothing but phone calls asking what i want to do? and friends saying lets go party. which i definatly dont want to d...	notsonew1111	6	342	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	update (Preview) Hi everyone..just a quick update cause I haven`t posted in a while.I`ve been busy working more hours to pay bills since my A who has been gone for almost 3 months wont give me any money to support our 4 kids. I got approved for food assistance which helps out alot.Emotionally I`m doing better..I don`t cr...	allison	2	276	Mar 4, 2006 by maresie
	Mini light-bulb moment - Acceptance (Preview) I experienced a light-bulb moment the other day. I was reading Courage to Change, looking up readings about acceptance and came across the 3-A's which I had never heard. Awareness, Acceptance, and Action. I always thought that I was good at blocking out what was happening aro...	sas	3	404	Mar 4, 2006 by sas
	Tough love is really Tough!!!! (Preview) We asked our 19 year old son to leave the house a week ago. Since then we feel like yo-yos. He's been back, then gone, back then gone. Finally Sunday, we said you have to leave.....he got angry and he did leave. And of course he left with an unsafe friend. He only pa...	mel123	10	480	Mar 4, 2006 by Beth
	Group Inventory (Preview) For those of you who are not familiar with this process, a group inventory is like a 4th step inventory for the group as a whole. We answer questions based on our membership in the group and as a group as a whole. Please be honest with your answers. I am the only person that will be compiling the results and t...	bob6502	0	329	Mar 4, 2006 by bob6502
	still here :) (Preview) hi guys, I just wanted to give you an update. Amanda is doing great, she is behaving better we are getting along so good and she is happy that chuck is home. we have fun together. everything is still going great chuck has been clean & sober since rehab. he still goes...	chrissy	7	456	Mar 4, 2006 by chrissy
	can't get into chatroom (Preview) I keep trying to get in the chatroom but it keeps saying "cannot joint channel (+b)", hmmm, I'm lost. Help! Thanks, RC	ragingchild	1	259	Mar 3, 2006 by ragingchild
	Am I expecting too much? (Preview) My A and I have have been married for almost 6 years. We started out as best friends. We always got along and never fought until after we got married. Then, a few things happened to other family members and he started dealing with stress by drinking and hiding it and lying about it. ...	marcie301	5	367	Mar 3, 2006 by Emmie11
	short update (Preview) I've been asked for an update so I'll do a short one, will know more tomorrow after A's Dr appt. Things are kind of weird right now. A is still very sick. His back problem is worse. He can barely make it to the bathroom. I feel really bad for him. He's so weak and thin, recovering from detox, pneumonia an...	Christy	11	401	Mar 3, 2006 by leo
	I wish you all were here (Preview) This has to be the longest day of my life! My mom's appt. is at 3:15 today, I wish that you all could be here to hold my hand through this. I am at work but not really getting a thing done. Thank you for all your support and caring hearts. Hugs Mary From March 1 reading "Courage to Chan...	marmare	8	351	Mar 3, 2006 by Diva
	pamphlets snailed for u 6 ppl (Preview) Just wanted to say to those of you I promised to snail mail pamphlets they are officially en route as of today, expect it in 2 days - dunno why two day is cheaper - loads of goodies coming your way! You know who you are! all of my love, -Kitty of Light	kitty	1	335	Mar 3, 2006 by chris52
	Moody this morning (Preview) Haven't talk to him in a couple of days now. Wish I could stop counting how long it's been. I guage how often to call, and conjecture on when I should. 'Timing' contact so that I don't look like I want him to come back, or that I miss him too much, yet not wanting to let him go. I can't stop asking him if he has dra...	sweetums	1	271	Mar 3, 2006 by nmike
	horrible scare---NEED protection prayers (Preview) Anxiety Attack? "[The] Power that brought us to this program is still with us and will continue to guide us if we allow it."Basic Text, p. 26Ever had a panic attack? Everywhere we turn, life's demands overwhelm us. We're paralyzed, and we don't know what to do about it. How do we break an anxiety att...	rosie light shines	6	418	Mar 3, 2006 by leo
	to call or not to call? well I CALLED (Preview) well, the end of another day. finally whew I did end up calling him, but waited to do it on my 15 min break at work so i would not get too involved in it, just say hi and ask how he is and move along. it went well. he asked after a bit if i miss him, and i just said i don't want to talk about that and he changed th...	sweetums	1	329	Mar 2, 2006 by Maria123
	grateful update (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't posted for awhile. I have been keeping up with other's posts, reading, replying etc. Just thought I would take a moment for a quick update. My A and I are still separated. I have been finding that I am very lonely lately, but still plugging away.&nbs...	confused	1	310	Mar 2, 2006 by Maria123
	a very sincere prayer (Preview) Dear Lord, So far today,I am doing alright. I have not gossipped,lost my temper,been greedy,nasty,selfish or self-indulgent. I have not whined,complained,cursed,or eaten any cakes or chocolate. I have charged absolutely nothing to my credit/debit card. But....I will be getting out of bed in a...	chris52	3	423	Mar 2, 2006 by Maria123
	Happy Birthday month (Preview) Kitty, I wish for you and everyone who has a birthday this month peace, serenity and joy. You all deserve it. Have a good day!	rtexas	2	282	Mar 2, 2006 by aunitedway
	a setback can be a step forward??? (Preview) Success "Any form of success was frightening and unfamiliar." Basic Text, p. 14 Before coming to NA, few of us had much experience with success. Every attempt to stop using on our own had ended in failure. We had begun to give up hope of finding any relief from active addiction. We had grown acc...	rosie light shines	2	379	Mar 2, 2006 by aunitedway
	Uncle Lou where are you? (Preview) ((((((((((((Lou)))))))))))))))))))), Just wondering how you're doing? Has anyone seen him? Let us know. We miss you. Hope all is well with you and the family. Live strong, Karilynn	Karilynn	1	377	Mar 2, 2006 by Diva
	I got my answer.. (Preview) I had made a topic titled"Should I talk to him or not." NUMBER one...each and every one of you helped me keep my confused mind on a bit of a higher ground. Thank you so much. Interestingly enough I got my answer tonight. My A (as high functioning as he is) brought homes stacks of supplies from a wholesale...	RamzDear	2	334	Mar 2, 2006 by sas
	torture of Mom not ending (Preview) As most of you know, my mother has been abusing me & taking jobs away from me after working for the family for 5 years. She called early today at 830, saying to finish the account's receivable 1 more month, as it will be a Quarter & makes more sense. Okay. What really bugged m...	kitty	7	410	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	plan my actions, not the outcome (Preview) My sponsor frequently reminds me to focus on planning my actions - what I can do about a situation - instead of trying to plan the outcome. I think I do a better job of this now than I used to, but it is still a pattern I have the tendency to fall into. My husband and I have been living with his father fo...	pixel04	2	745	Mar 1, 2006 by mebjk
	Today Show topic this week: "Strange Addictions" (Preview) I thought some people on this board perhaps would be interested in knowing the Today Show this week is discussing "Strange Addictions"- today they started with probably the most troublesome addiction in society today in my opinion- Pornagraphy and sex addiction. Porn on the Internet has gr...	DanaAngel	0	389	Mar 1, 2006 by DanaAngel
	Disturbing conversation (Preview) I am needing to talk this out, get it out of my head, invite opinion and maybe vent a little! One of the topics at this mornings meeting here got me thinking about this conversation again .....Al-Anon friends. A lot of my frustrations and questions were taken care of during the shares...	doxie	19	558	Mar 1, 2006 by tea2
	Prayer Request (Preview) Well with a million things happening all at once in my life please say a little prayer for me and my family. My mom's breast cancer has recured. She has a mass on the left side under her rib cage, after a cat scan they have found 3 spots (we think as her story gets minimized with each of us kids she tel...	marmare	9	334	Mar 1, 2006 by peewee
	mobil crisis unit visit....and visiting the A (Preview) Well all I got to put the new service that a fellow alanoner at f2f suggest where they will come out w/ a mobile response within an hour. Well we get home from the visit. I ask my daughter if she did Monday's homework. Nope. She didn't do it when i asked Monday, she stayed home sick tod...	bobump	16	581	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	God's will to be done (Preview) Hmmmm as I have been reading some of the other posts here and doing my own work on the steps it has made me stop and think why I have so often been fearful of allowing nmyself to be willing for God's will in my life. Lord knows after 56 years of me doing my own thinking and planning things are a real mess!&nbs...	irish54	2	311	Mar 1, 2006 by sas
	Salvation Army for 6 months (Preview) Ok what can anyone tell me about someone being sent to the Salvation Army for 6months? What type of treatment is avail through them? Guess that is what the judge has recommended for my brother. The court does not want my mother to see my brother or vs. How can we get clothes up to him? Can they be left at the d...	Barbara	4	434	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	wife out of Critical Care (Preview) Hi all, Not alot of action today. Picked up a list of Rx from the pharmacy so that the Hospital can see what she was on. I noticed that she got a new doctor to begin prescribing her oxycodone. Well, I agreed not to call her doctors but all bets are off after you try to commit suicide. I spoke to he...	bobump	18	504	Mar 1, 2006 by maresie
	Should I talk to him or not?? (Preview) My A is under the impression that if he’s on a motivational kick he needs to be drunk.Trouble is that everyone around just sees it as him being drunk. I could tell he was pretty lost on the phone before he came home last night;it was verified when he go home,even with the sad ‘cover-up’that they do with try...	RamzDear	7	372	Mar 1, 2006 by sas
	Surrender (Preview) I got this e-mail on surrendering. I have been struggling with surrendering. Thought this might nelp others too.. Today I will surrender to that which I cannot control. Surrender does not mean giving up when I need to be persistent; it means letting go of that which I can't change. Surren...	sandie123	2	320	Mar 1, 2006 by irish54
	Finally talked to Husband (Preview) I finally talked to my AH after almost 5 weeks. It was really weird. I remained calm talking to him. We talked for about an hour, but it just went in circles. I just have questions and I kept asking them, I can't help myself. I want to know WHY he left me and the kids, why he h...	sdisnie	6	673	Mar 1, 2006 by jemco518
	Annoying drunks (Preview) Things have been okay for awhile now, but the first signs of the cycle changing are starting to show. Last night, my husband was somewhat drunk. He was in his annoying stage last night. It's pathetic, but I know every one of his drunken stages. I know when he's been at the bar and been drinking stronger be...	Lindy	8	447	Mar 1, 2006 by Diva
	Thrown back into the s*&^ (Preview) Hello group, I haven't posted in a while, I was busy all last week. I had been doing really well with setting boundaries with my "a" and he kept asking to come home last week. He said he thought he wanted the separation but then realized exactly what that meant. We talked with our fa...	twinmom2	2	588	Mar 1, 2006 by Lindy
	Well... (Preview) She wants to leave. Says that she hates me. I had told her last week that of course I am agrivated at the chaos in our home, but that I was trying to do something to help me get better. She knows my Father was an A and I focused on that, when talking about how I am obsessed with acceptance an...	rtexas	2	293	Mar 1, 2006 by d53sjurne
	es&h (Preview) Well I got the kids out to school, got the house clean, only took a half hour. either I am real fast or it wasn't really dirty. Frig. Got some errands to do this morning before work. I'm trying hard to think about me and what I gotta do, but it is all just distracting myself from the telephone and the hole...	sweetums	3	433	Mar 1, 2006 by Christy
	Courage to change Daily Readings March 1st + (Preview) I am told that the automatic pilot in an airplane does not work by locking onto a course and sticking to it. Instead, it steers back and forth over the path of an assigned course and makes the necessary corrections when it senses that it has strayed. In reality, the auto p...	Debbie Lee	2	5229	Mar 1, 2006 by Debbie Lee
	yuck, it gets so much worse. (Preview) Hi all, Grateful, so grateful to be able to come here where others will understand the depth of pain all this causes. My A to me, is just skin over an evil demon. When ever I do see him, he does not smell good or look good at all anymore. I am very humbled by what Jesus did for us. When I hear the A use J...	debilyn	7	437	Mar 1, 2006 by leo
	Trying to learn to let go of the past (Preview) I am the daughter of an alcoholic father , but I never saw him take a drink. His actions were very abusive both to my mother and also to me. You see, we were a very "religious" family. I knew my parents fought often and occasionally I would hear my mom accuse him of drinking, but as I said...	irish54	3	329	Mar 1, 2006 by Andrea12
	my poor mother is a wreck! had to testify today! (Preview) Just spoke with my mother. My brother accepted no help while in Bridgewater. Court appearance was delayed until after lunch - she was there since before 10am. My mother had to speak and testify. My brother didnt talk. The court will either put my brother in Tewksbury hospital or a halfway house. The co...	Barbara	9	520	Mar 1, 2006 by Barbara
	wife in hospital - update (Preview) Hi all, Wife is out of the ER unit and in a Critical Care unit for now. We are looking at 24 - 48 hours in there before we decide where we go next. Next step is probably the physchiatric inpatient but that is not definate, I'm not 'expecting' anything. She wakes up, asks for ice chips and ro...	bobump	23	1009	Feb 28, 2006 by aunitedway
	son said (Preview) Today, while driving back from baseball practice (indoors) son shared a story his father had told him, a song had him recall a memory. There was some silence, he turned the radio back up. I said you know you can talk about dad anytime. He said -No mom, I really don't want to. That just came to mind is all......	tea2	10	380	Feb 28, 2006 by danz123
	meditation (Preview) Just wanted to post that I had started meditating again. I learned it in high school, and I remembered how much calmer it made me. Things that used to get to me didn't bother me anymore. I saw more beauty in the world and was generally a more relaxed and happier person. I know of...	paintthinnr	2	311	Feb 28, 2006 by doxie
	HOW WE SAY, WHAT WE SAY... (Preview) But not all our communication is determined by what we do or do not say. It also depends how we say it. Not only our choice of words, but also our attitudes, facial expressions, and tone of voice can either open a channel or slam a door, reguadless of the subject being discussed. All people, from the cashi...	gardengal	3	408	Feb 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	HOW do they do that ??? (Preview) Alcoholism is such a terrible disease effecting everyone who loves the alcoholic. I have been reading posts today for the first time in a few months. I fell away from the board as I felt that I too could deal with this disease alone. I found out, i cant. Just like the alcoholic we are as addicted to them a...	Tammy	3	316	Feb 28, 2006 by sandie123
	Looking For Teddybearpoet (Preview) Sorry I wrote down Your email address wrong and did not get to email you correctly! Please email thankyou Deb! FEBRUARY 28 Turning over my will and my life to the care of my Higher Power (the Third Step) is an ongoing process. At first I surrendered only the big problems....	Debbie Lee	0	283	Feb 28, 2006 by Debbie Lee
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