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I had told my husband that I was going away to my best friends house to go sking.On Wednesday my husband came to me to ask to use the car and I said no and that was the end of it nothing was made of it. On Thursday I got home from work early dure to snow. I did alot of sleeping. He came in around 9pm to start about the car and i didn't see any light at the end of the tunnel. He asked me why can't i used the car and he keep at it. He would not take no for an answer. I told him to leave and he wouldn't so i got so mad and impuse took over I hit him and then got myself together and meet my best friend at my parents house. Left my car at my parents house. My friend took me to her apt where I stayed. Didn't call him.
Friday my friend worked and I stayed an was on my computer. Friday night my friend took me out to diner which was very nice place then we went to a alanon meeting. My other friend was there and that was nice to see her. Well at the meeting I didn't know anyone so i really didn't say anything and the meeting people only comment on my hat they didn't ask my name for the whole time i was there.
On sat i went lunch, shopping got a nice pink outfit. Then we went to see a movie. It was a great day.
On Sunday was a nice day I learned how to ski. Never went skiing before. My friend took alot of picutres. Well skiing I could see in the begin I couldn't walk on the skies and then at time went on I was able to be able to do it. I got mad and upset that I couldn't stop.
Well in alanon it is like that, you can't walk you don't know what u are doing. Then with a friend/sponsor next to u you learn to be able to walk it takes time and very upseting when u can't get it. But being determined u will be able to make it. You will see ur growth after a while.
Being at my friends house helped me alot and showed I could sleep away from him and that I have grown alot. I was so scared that I wouldn't like it. I had a awsome time.
I read a quote from Leanardo da Vinci the other day about taking some steps back from whatever you are working on to get a whole different perspecitve. What you did was brilliant! And you learned more about yourself. Bravo! mebjk
You did well not to cave in to the pressure and demands.Always used to really wear me down as I got so sick of saying NO.Glad you left the car elsewhere. I made the mistake once of leaving it where it was and just locking it,and came back to find it badly damaged.That was in the early days before I realised how much anger he could show if he didn't get his own way.Didn't make that mistake again,though I made plenty of others!!!
Am SO glad you had a good weekend and great to hear that you achieved something you didn't think was possible for you. Go girl.....you're doing just great.
Wonderful to hear that your weekend was sooo awesome! And.... that you spent it with someone that.. had your back.(support) Friends can be life changing. Just like a Sponsor. A Sponsor really CAN help You. Help to understand and share those things, those times , when you are confused and unsure of the steps you want to take and the steps you have chosen. And what friendship is all about too. I have such a respect for You.
Thanks for sharing your life with me :) What growth you are having! It is good to see the bright side of things and know you are worth having them in your life. Keep up the good work. cdb :)
I can relate to your struggle very much. If I had an argument with the A my abandonment issues were so huge I would try to make it up very very quickly. The fact you could take yourself out of the situation and then go off and take care of you is incredible. I know you have put a lot of time and energy into your program and clearly it is there. One of my biggest resentments with the A is around the vehicle which he crashed. I think he has no idea what an imposition I find that and how ruefully I regret involving myself with him in that case. I think it is incredible that you resisted and took your vehicle elsewhere. That is such great progress for you and I am glad for you.