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Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))), Just had to share with you a beautiful day.

Hubby has been scoping out hunting places on state lands because he is disabled and can drive the trooper there. He has been bugging me for the past several weeks to go and look at one with him. I hav...

megan · megan

What is a triathlete? Someone who competes in a race with 3 events. My events yesterday were a half mile swim, 15 mile bike and 3.1 mile run. This course of events took me 2 hours and 14 minutes and I successfully finished without walking. Why do I post this here? When I found this site I was at the m...

Becky1 · Becky1

Dearest Al-Anon friends~ I love you all so very much. Although we have never met in person, I often think of each one of you as I go about my day. I work on an assembly line, so I have lots of time to think! When I first came here, I was hesitant, I had never gotten involved in online chatroom...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Last week I posted about my feelings of missing a concert due to a death in my recovering A's family. I shared about resentments I had over his past issues vs. my want to attend this show. That night I attended a meeting in which one of the topics was step 6. During this meeting it occur...

Rita G · Rita G

I had the wonderful opportunity to attend the HUGS (Hope, Unity, Gratitude, Serenity) Women's Retreat in Spring, TX this past weekend. I also had the pleasure of sharing my story as the Saturday night Al-Anon Speaker. It was such an honor and humbling experience. I, like many...

Newbie · Newbie

I have currently found myself attracted to someone who is a recovering A (I have only known him sober). This is new in the fact that I have not been in a relationship with an A for years. However, I grew up surrounded by As. The connection the two of us share is phenomenal.&nb...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Let It Begin With Me When anyone, anywhere, reaches out for help let the hand of Al-Anon and Alateen always be there, and - Let It Begin With Me. JEWEL LYRICS "Hands" If I could tell the world just one thing It would be that we're all OK And not to worry 'cause worry...

faith · faith

Hello to all- I am a 28 yr old woman who has had her life forever changed by alcohol. I know it started in the womb-My mother and father were both alcoholics-My mother 36 when she got pregant with me already had 5 other children whom she had givin up to different people for the disease-my father 40 an...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello Me again. My husband has called me several times this afternoon begging and pleading with me for 1 more chance. I just don't think I can do it. He's talked to a few people about killing himself. He even left me a fake suicide phone message on Monday morning. He was very drunk and high on cocaine,...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

blue Hello Friends, Well it's finally the last straw....I have been trying so hard to bide my time until I am a little more financially able.....all that went out the window today..after being out of work for more than 4 months and me holding us together...he got his fi...

by a thread · by a thread

Why does my guy sabotage our relationship with drugs/alcohol every time things are going so good? it doesn't make sense... he uses it when he needs it the least? I'm so tired of the ups and downs, been hurt and let down more times than I can count, really having a difficult time understandi...

Kelly M · Kelly M

I'm new here, have been to a few f2f meetings. My husband is an A, been with him for 20 years, married for 9 of those years. He was out of control when I met him, still drank, but was better most of the time. In 2000, he went on a bender while on vacation in the Carribean, went to a Dr. down there and was tol...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

We had just gone outside with our little dogs about an hour ago. 10pm, I heard a skid then a thud. I said it sounds like a car accident. Remember now, I live in a rural county. so we have almost complete silence out here. Our dogs started howling. We thought surely someone on the blacktop heard it and will go...

bev · bev

hi havent posted in a couple weeks..but this past weekend i went away to disney with my mother in law,daughter and granddaughter{went from sat to tuesday}on friday the day before we went my AH wanted to go out so i took him to the bar{he went to the bar that deals with drugs}well anyways i went to pick him u...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

It has been almost 6 weeks since my A husband and I were talking. We have been here many times and in the past it is around this time I start getting weak. I would be so devastated when my husband and I would argue and he would demand that I leave and tell me he wanted a divorce. He wo...

maresie2 · maresie2

As some of you know I have been working a pretty low wage job and not really getting that far with my plan b. I have the opportunity tomorrow to go interview for a much better paid job and also another interview on Monday. I am hoping to do like Andrea and others have to land a job despite the odds again...

kicky · kicky

The A I've lived with for 6 years didn't come home last night. It's not the first time and I know it won't be the last. But my kids are 10 and 12 now and they "get it" that he isn't still working at 10 pm. I don't want them to think their successful mom is a sap when it comes to relationships and what she wil...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Hi, I'm working on my list of boundaries today because I know the A will be back in town soon and I want to be prepared. So far I have he doesn't stay the night at my house or on my property. He doesn't come here or call drunk or expect to see the kids under the influence. I think he's about to lose his license fro...

leo · leo

Not ready to write a proper post just yet but would like a few hugs sent my way if you guys have any to spare. Had a big fight with my husband feeling okay but I have taken my wedding and engagement rings off today which I never do. Haven't made any decisions just feeling a little in limbo right n...

Tammy · Tammy

Please pray for ME, i need my HP's strength to get thru this.. I need my HP's guidance, support and LOVE right now.. My husband needs his HP to guide him too..

maresie2 · maresie2

I made a lethal mistake of telling the A I am going on a job interview. This morning he starts in at 4:30 the house is a mess, then he moves onto that I buy too much dog food (he has accused me publicly before of neglecting the dogs). Now he is off on a riff about his socks being missing.&nb...

mommaof2 · mommaof2

Alright, so I attended my first Al-anon meeting on Monday. I was so scared because I didn't know what to expect, and I'm extremely shy on top of it. By the time my 1st step meeting was over, I was alot more relaxed and somewhat relieved. I was happy to know alot of other people are feeling the same frust...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I emerge out of my cocoon to share my progress I have a "relapse" into old behavior. My A backed out of counseling yesterday and of course used all sorts of excuses to justify it. I went from that place of feeling good and happy regardless of what he does or feels right back into the poop of fee...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Thank you all for your kind words. Speaking from my heart is new to me since joining this program. In my family of origin we almost never blurt out "I love you" to anyone. It was understood.... I guess. Well I acturally sent that letter to my AW. When we t...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Well today was a great day, and still is becasue I am not asleep yet, close lol, but not yet. I really can't not remember much at work, it was so nuts :) just like me and just the way I like it. At the end of this month I will be completing my second term as an AmeriCorps member and lol I will be an alu...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi roomies, My family and I returned from our vacation on Sunday. It was a great trip and I was able to meet my neice and nephew for the first time. (Neice is adopted an extremly adorable 2 year old and my nephew is 12 weeks old.) Things were great. Hubby was such an amazing support and was...

rtexas · rtexas

Dear ....... Last night you asked me a question. You said you needed to know if you had to stop drinking for me to show you any love and affection? Honey, it's not a simple question to answer. I can tell you this... I do love you, I always have. In the middle of our worst moments I sti...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I heard that an alcoholic or addict stops emotionally growing up when they start using. Has anyone else heard this? IE if they start using at 12 they act like 12 year olds and never grow up from there emotionally until they are sober for a good long time?

annmarie · annmarie

Hi all, I've noticed my tendancy to people please a lot recently. I'm trying to undo this and create new boundaries for myself. I am actually quite surprised at how natural this was/is to me. I've come to the conclusion that my self esteem must actually be quite low. My Abf asks me what's wrong with me a lo...

Gailey · Gailey

Here is something fun to do. List things you are grateful for for each letter of the alphabet. Of course you don't have to post if you do not want to. I still have many more to think about. See how many you can do. A ALANON….of course B BRUCE…my husband C COMPASSION for the A D ...

horselover58 · horselover58

I am still having trouble getting into the chatroom. Was there last night after work, but can't get in this morning for meeting. It says I have been banned, something about my IP being on a "blacklist." I have absolutely no clue what is going on or why. Anothe person said they experienced simil...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was talking to a friend the other day trying to figure out why I couldn't just let go after all I have been through and I told her I couldn't stand the idea of him being with someone else. She asked me why? and I didn't know. Then she said you're afraid he's going to treat someone else like this? And I said No,...

acjmom · acjmom

Hello All- I am new here and have been looking around for a couple of days and havent seen what Im looking for...maybe just because there is no answer to the questions I have...I have been with my A for almost two years and feel like I have gave all I have to give, we have tried everything to make this w...

Gailey · Gailey

I have not tried to get into the chat room for a long time. Today I decided to stop in on the 9:00 a.m. meeting. Cannot get in. This is what it says at the bottom of the white box: Connecting... Unable to conncet: java.net ConnectException: Connection refused: connect Please help!!!!

Newbie · Newbie

Just a quick question on how to overcome the characteristics we developed in your experiences with As. Does it help to address the issues with a recovering A. Is that where the issues reside or does just working the program do it? Just curious.

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am sure there are some of you who have left your A and have children in common. How do you deal with them seeing the children but not getting sucked into getting back together? How do you deal with seeing them even if you don't want to?

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I promise this is my last one tonight but I wanted to take a minute to talk about something the last post brought up. My daugher (his step) and my AH have not gotten along for many years. He constantly finds fault with everything she does. Sometimes I even think he lies about things to put her in a bad light....

beachbaby · beachbaby

Hi Everyone, I have to vent, as many of you may remember, my ex bf A/CH and I split after he went to rehab, at the recommendation of his sponsor. No relationship in the first year, etc etc. I really understood and thought it best for me too. I held out some hope that we may reconcile an...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello Just when I start to feel really good about my decision to divorce my A/cocaine addicted husband, so that I can get on with my life and have a happy future...... he calls me and begs me to come back. He says he promises that he won't use and will quit drinking if only I will come back to him. He says h...

hersh · hersh

(((Hi everyone))) Just thought I would see if others have the problem with their As pretty much talking all about themselves, their goals, them, them, them!!! I was wondering that lastnight as AH came home, buzzed, began to tell me the same story for the second time, bragging about who he ran...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello MIP Family))) I have seen some big struggles on the board this week and also have been reading about alot of growth happening in so many people. I gain so much wisdom and insight from reading the post and people's honest open shares. My program is coming along very well and I'm n...

lilms · lilms

A quick note to let ya all know I won't be on for a few days. I am heading off to Toronto tomorrow to visit friends, laze around, eat good food and shop. I am just taking me, am only leaving an emergency number with my wife. Everyone else will have to go thru her and she will not...

nycbt · nycbt

I have been in Alanon for going 2yrs in Nov both on the site here and face to face meeting. Lately I have had a hard time getting my self to meeting. I have stayed in touch with my sponsor that was very important. She has helped me the whole time. She tells me that this is normal to want to space myself from the p...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) So I open my ODAT and read todays selection, which essentially says it is wrong to treat the A with disrespect when they are acting out in thier disease. I have recently been very close to that and it struck a bit close to home for me. My AW has a number of complaints about ou...

debilyn · debilyn

I have not been here much. The tenant I have is insane. It is horrible. She is major A. I cannot tell you how horrible it has been. She is lieing, says I come over and harrass her. ? Just says all this insane stuff. Her dogs got over here and bit up my Great Pyr and killed a chicken. My Pyr was protect...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, the AH called again from AZ. I have been writing down all the numerous reasons that I don't want to go there again in the journal AND there are MANY! Whenever he calls he is crying and always asks the same questions. Can we be together again when I get back? Is there someone else? As if I can't just be ha...

LadyLibra · LadyLibra

Hello everyone. Can someone help with understanding what type of personalities become addicted. My boyfriend is addicted to alcohol, I have a sister addicted to the same, and 2 brothers who are addicted to crack. Looking on the surface they all seem to have different personali...

katrina2000 · katrina2000

Here I am trying to face life straight ahead. Be the Captain of my Ship...all that stuff. But honestly....all I feel is...as soon as "everyone" discovers how much of a failure I really am on the inside I will be alone. I'm trying so hard to forget how disappointed I made my ex (who is also o...

Tammy · Tammy

Well, a lot has happened in the last 48 hours and i am falling to pieces. Monday I confronted my husband ( my A) about a girl he met in a bar about a month ago.. He said that he had been talking to someone but they were just friends. They hadnt seen each other since the night they met although they had talked....

John · John

Hi everyone, I haven't meant to be neglectful of the site or message boards lately, but I have had to be due to two deaths in my family that took place last Sunday. Two of my aunts were murdered in Fort Myers, Fla. September 10th, 2006. It appears that one was killed at approxiately 3 pm,...

daisy2 · daisy2

You're An EXTREME Redneck When..... > > 1. You let your 14-year-old daughter smoke at the > dinner table in front of her kids. > > 2. The Blue Book value of your truck goes up and > down depending on how much gas is in it. > > 3. You've been married three times and still hav...

Barbara · Barbara

OMG! My brothers abuse case against my mother was dismissed just FOURTEEN DAYS ago. Last wk my mother called to say brother moved back in w/her! Today she called to say she's moving into an apartment and brother is staying in the condo! Holy crap! And she says I never go see her, etc etc. Well I am the o...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am very proud of myself too, when we were talking about him coming back here I told him I was sure he could get his old job back and he asked me to call him (repeatedly) to test the water. I did this for him before he left to see what kind of reference he would give him (should have been bad personally but excel...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

On the 8th I got a text from my A bf saying that he was crashing at someone's house because his driver was drinking (he's 2 months sober and has no license). I was upset and let him know it. He and I had a long talk the next day about how he has gotten over some of his behaviors but I wasn't getting o...

daisy2 · daisy2

Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they sometimes take the apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy. The apples at the top think something is wrong w...

david62 · david62

Well here it is! My 500th post to this board! Who’d a thunk it? Now hang on…cuz it is a long one!!! I thought I would do a little thinking back about my life since I first came into Al-anon on April 17, 2004. For some of you who have been here the whole time, you know most of this story. For those of you w...

shadow1 · shadow1

Today is a very sad day for my family and me. It is the one-year anniversary of my young brother in law’s death. He was a 28-year-old motorcycle instructor that had a passion for motorcycles. When I met him, he was only 7 year old and I watched him grow up to be an outstanding young man that loved life...

AH27 · AH27

Sorry- this is very, very long Hello everyone! I think this is where I need to be. I attended a few alanon meetings over a year ago, but I have since moved to an area where we don't have a chapter. Anyway, I think I just need to share my experience so that I can help clarify it for myself.&nb...

twinkie · twinkie

hi - i've really enjoyed reading your posts...they have given me a lot to think about and much learning. I'm new to this, just a month of so. Have been involved with A for 7 months - it was a whirlwind relationship and I was swept off my feet. Even moved three hours away to be with him.&n...

mommaof2 · mommaof2

I'm very new to this to please forgive me if I did this wrong or messed up in anyway shape or form. I had quite a night with my Alcoholic husband. See, he went out with his sister (also alcoholic). I knew full well what was going to happen, but I didn't try to control him. As well as my feelings. ...

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	Serenity (Preview) ((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))), Just had to share with you a beautiful day. Hubby has been scoping out hunting places on state lands because he is disabled and can drive the trooper there. He has been bugging me for the past several weeks to go and look at one with him. I hav...	Karilynn	10	383	Sep 24, 2006 by drucilla06
	I am a triathlete (Preview) What is a triathlete? Someone who competes in a race with 3 events. My events yesterday were a half mile swim, 15 mile bike and 3.1 mile run. This course of events took me 2 hours and 14 minutes and I successfully finished without walking. Why do I post this here? When I found this site I was at the m...	megan	17	350	Sep 24, 2006 by Jeannie
	Letter to My A-Anon Family Which They Will Hopefully Read (Preview) Dearest Al-Anon friends~ I love you all so very much. Although we have never met in person, I often think of each one of you as I go about my day. I work on an assembly line, so I have lots of time to think! When I first came here, I was hesitant, I had never gotten involved in online chatroom...	Becky1	11	654	Sep 24, 2006 by danz123
	Rewards of doing the right things... (Preview) Last week I posted about my feelings of missing a concert due to a death in my recovering A's family. I shared about resentments I had over his past issues vs. my want to attend this show. That night I attended a meeting in which one of the topics was step 6. During this meeting it occur...	AlaMom	4	492	Sep 24, 2006 by david62
	HUGS - Women's Retreat (Preview) I had the wonderful opportunity to attend the HUGS (Hope, Unity, Gratitude, Serenity) Women's Retreat in Spring, TX this past weekend. I also had the pleasure of sharing my story as the Saturday night Al-Anon Speaker. It was such an honor and humbling experience. I, like many...	Rita G	2	472	Sep 24, 2006 by Mobirdie
	Is it for real? (Preview) I have currently found myself attracted to someone who is a recovering A (I have only known him sober). This is new in the fact that I have not been in a relationship with an A for years. However, I grew up surrounded by As. The connection the two of us share is phenomenal.&nb...	Newbie	9	433	Sep 24, 2006 by Zyperiris
	Al-Anon's Declaration (Preview) Let It Begin With Me When anyone, anywhere, reaches out for help let the hand of Al-Anon and Alateen always be there, and - Let It Begin With Me. JEWEL LYRICS "Hands" If I could tell the world just one thing It would be that we're all OK And not to worry 'cause worry...	kismetstrand	2	536	Sep 23, 2006 by bob6502
	i am looking for a way to cope (Preview) Hello to all- I am a 28 yr old woman who has had her life forever changed by alcohol. I know it started in the womb-My mother and father were both alcoholics-My mother 36 when she got pregant with me already had 5 other children whom she had givin up to different people for the disease-my father 40 an...	faith	4	315	Sep 23, 2006 by Becky1
	when to take threats seriously... (Preview) Hello Me again. My husband has called me several times this afternoon begging and pleading with me for 1 more chance. I just don't think I can do it. He's talked to a few people about killing himself. He even left me a fake suicide phone message on Monday morning. He was very drunk and high on cocaine,...	artygirl	12	556	Sep 23, 2006 by sallyb
	Prayers for Strength (Preview) blue Hello Friends, Well it's finally the last straw....I have been trying so hard to bide my time until I am a little more financially able.....all that went out the window today..after being out of work for more than 4 months and me holding us together...he got his fi...	Andrea12	14	644	Sep 23, 2006 by chris52
	why is he so weak? (Preview) Why does my guy sabotage our relationship with drugs/alcohol every time things are going so good? it doesn't make sense... he uses it when he needs it the least? I'm so tired of the ups and downs, been hurt and let down more times than I can count, really having a difficult time understandi...	by a thread	11	539	Sep 23, 2006 by faith
	Now What? (Preview) I'm new here, have been to a few f2f meetings. My husband is an A, been with him for 20 years, married for 9 of those years. He was out of control when I met him, still drank, but was better most of the time. In 2000, he went on a bender while on vacation in the Carribean, went to a Dr. down there and was tol...	Kelly M	6	273	Sep 23, 2006 by faith
	Feeling numb , just saw a fatal car accident & found my last 2 goats dead (Preview) We had just gone outside with our little dogs about an hour ago. 10pm, I heard a skid then a thud. I said it sounds like a car accident. Remember now, I live in a rural county. so we have almost complete silence out here. Our dogs started howling. We thought surely someone on the blacktop heard it and will go...	hmrnrnmm	7	733	Sep 22, 2006 by maresie2
	just need to vent (Preview) hi havent posted in a couple weeks..but this past weekend i went away to disney with my mother in law,daughter and granddaughter{went from sat to tuesday}on friday the day before we went my AH wanted to go out so i took him to the bar{he went to the bar that deals with drugs}well anyways i went to pick him u...	bev	6	458	Sep 22, 2006 by Jill
	Celebrating my growth in Alanon (Preview) It has been almost 6 weeks since my A husband and I were talking. We have been here many times and in the past it is around this time I start getting weak. I would be so devastated when my husband and I would argue and he would demand that I leave and tell me he wanted a divorce. He wo...	JulieLynn	2	332	Sep 22, 2006 by Karilynn
	the money stuff (Preview) As some of you know I have been working a pretty low wage job and not really getting that far with my plan b. I have the opportunity tomorrow to go interview for a much better paid job and also another interview on Monday. I am hoping to do like Andrea and others have to land a job despite the odds again...	maresie2	4	304	Sep 22, 2006 by Becky1
	I want this to be over...once and for all. (Preview) The A I've lived with for 6 years didn't come home last night. It's not the first time and I know it won't be the last. But my kids are 10 and 12 now and they "get it" that he isn't still working at 10 pm. I don't want them to think their successful mom is a sap when it comes to relationships and what she wil...	kicky	3	318	Sep 22, 2006 by Becky1
	boundary suggestions? (Preview) Hi, I'm working on my list of boundaries today because I know the A will be back in town soon and I want to be prepared. So far I have he doesn't stay the night at my house or on my property. He doesn't come here or call drunk or expect to see the kids under the influence. I think he's about to lose his license fro...	carolinagirl	2	295	Sep 22, 2006 by Becky1
	hugs and esh (Preview) Not ready to write a proper post just yet but would like a few hugs sent my way if you guys have any to spare. Had a big fight with my husband feeling okay but I have taken my wedding and engagement rings off today which I never do. Haven't made any decisions just feeling a little in limbo right n...	leo	10	738	Sep 22, 2006 by sandie123
	Please PRAY for me !! (Preview) Please pray for ME, i need my HP's strength to get thru this.. I need my HP's guidance, support and LOVE right now.. My husband needs his HP to guide him too..	Tammy	9	400	Sep 22, 2006 by sandie123
	directing my anger (Preview) I made a lethal mistake of telling the A I am going on a job interview. This morning he starts in at 4:30 the house is a mess, then he moves onto that I buy too much dog food (he has accused me publicly before of neglecting the dogs). Now he is off on a riff about his socks being missing.&nb...	maresie2	6	538	Sep 22, 2006 by megan
	detachment.... (Preview) Alright, so I attended my first Al-anon meeting on Monday. I was so scared because I didn't know what to expect, and I'm extremely shy on top of it. By the time my 1st step meeting was over, I was alot more relaxed and somewhat relieved. I was happy to know alot of other people are feeling the same frust...	mommaof2	4	410	Sep 22, 2006 by mommaof2
	Its funny when... (Preview) I emerge out of my cocoon to share my progress I have a "relapse" into old behavior. My A backed out of counseling yesterday and of course used all sorts of excuses to justify it. I went from that place of feeling good and happy regardless of what he does or feels right back into the poop of fee...	twinmom2	3	305	Sep 22, 2006 by hersh
	Response to - Letter to my AW (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Thank you all for your kind words. Speaking from my heart is new to me since joining this program. In my family of origin we almost never blurt out "I love you" to anyone. It was understood.... I guess. Well I acturally sent that letter to my AW. When we t...	rtexas	3	442	Sep 22, 2006 by twinmom2
	Feeling the sunshine after my removal from the pit of dispair (thanks for keeping the ladder safe all :) ) (Preview) Hi all, Well today was a great day, and still is becasue I am not asleep yet, close lol, but not yet. I really can't not remember much at work, it was so nuts :) just like me and just the way I like it. At the end of this month I will be completing my second term as an AmeriCorps member and lol I will be an alu...	Dolphin123	3	262	Sep 22, 2006 by hersh
	I had lost my ladder to get out of the pit of depsair, I found it here, again where it alwasy is! (Preview) Hi roomies, My family and I returned from our vacation on Sunday. It was a great trip and I was able to meet my neice and nephew for the first time. (Neice is adopted an extremly adorable 2 year old and my nephew is 12 weeks old.) Things were great. Hubby was such an amazing support and was...	Dolphin123	13	421	Sep 22, 2006 by hersh
	Letter to my AW (Preview) Dear ....... Last night you asked me a question. You said you needed to know if you had to stop drinking for me to show you any love and affection? Honey, it's not a simple question to answer. I can tell you this... I do love you, I always have. In the middle of our worst moments I sti...	rtexas	6	400	Sep 22, 2006 by Rita G
	I have heard... (Preview) I heard that an alcoholic or addict stops emotionally growing up when they start using. Has anyone else heard this? IE if they start using at 12 they act like 12 year olds and never grow up from there emotionally until they are sober for a good long time?	carolinagirl	7	438	Sep 22, 2006 by TLC2
	my self esteem crashing (Preview) Hi all, I've noticed my tendancy to people please a lot recently. I'm trying to undo this and create new boundaries for myself. I am actually quite surprised at how natural this was/is to me. I've come to the conclusion that my self esteem must actually be quite low. My Abf asks me what's wrong with me a lo...	annmarie	5	368	Sep 22, 2006 by annmarie
	Alphabet Grattitude list (Preview) Here is something fun to do. List things you are grateful for for each letter of the alphabet. Of course you don't have to post if you do not want to. I still have many more to think about. See how many you can do. A ALANON….of course B BRUCE…my husband C COMPASSION for the A D ...	Gailey	3	886	Sep 22, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Still having trouble (Preview) I am still having trouble getting into the chatroom. Was there last night after work, but can't get in this morning for meeting. It says I have been banned, something about my IP being on a "blacklist." I have absolutely no clue what is going on or why. Anothe person said they experienced simil...	horselover58	3	373	Sep 21, 2006 by John
	Feeling a little guilty (Preview) I was talking to a friend the other day trying to figure out why I couldn't just let go after all I have been through and I told her I couldn't stand the idea of him being with someone else. She asked me why? and I didn't know. Then she said you're afraid he's going to treat someone else like this? And I said No,...	carolinagirl	8	363	Sep 21, 2006 by lin0606
	What Now (Preview) Hello All- I am new here and have been looking around for a couple of days and havent seen what Im looking for...maybe just because there is no answer to the questions I have...I have been with my A for almost two years and feel like I have gave all I have to give, we have tried everything to make this w...	acjmom	11	338	Sep 21, 2006 by acjmom
	getting into chat room problem (Preview) I have not tried to get into the chat room for a long time. Today I decided to stop in on the 9:00 a.m. meeting. Cannot get in. This is what it says at the bottom of the white box: Connecting... Unable to conncet: java.net ConnectException: Connection refused: connect Please help!!!!	Gailey	2	284	Sep 21, 2006 by tea2
	Overcoming the characteristics... (Preview) Just a quick question on how to overcome the characteristics we developed in your experiences with As. Does it help to address the issues with a recovering A. Is that where the issues reside or does just working the program do it? Just curious.	Newbie	7	1374	Sep 21, 2006 by lin0606
	Is anyone else in this position? (Preview) I am sure there are some of you who have left your A and have children in common. How do you deal with them seeing the children but not getting sucked into getting back together? How do you deal with seeing them even if you don't want to?	carolinagirl	7	552	Sep 21, 2006 by lin0606
	One last thing about children (Preview) I promise this is my last one tonight but I wanted to take a minute to talk about something the last post brought up. My daugher (his step) and my AH have not gotten along for many years. He constantly finds fault with everything she does. Sometimes I even think he lies about things to put her in a bad light....	carolinagirl	8	303	Sep 21, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Honesty about my obsession (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have to vent, as many of you may remember, my ex bf A/CH and I split after he went to rehab, at the recommendation of his sponsor. No relationship in the first year, etc etc. I really understood and thought it best for me too. I held out some hope that we may reconcile an...	beachbaby	3	410	Sep 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	begging and pleading for another chance... (Preview) Hello Just when I start to feel really good about my decision to divorce my A/cocaine addicted husband, so that I can get on with my life and have a happy future...... he calls me and begs me to come back. He says he promises that he won't use and will quit drinking if only I will come back to him. He says h...	artygirl	6	425	Sep 21, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Grandiose Ideas, Never Action (Preview) (((Hi everyone))) Just thought I would see if others have the problem with their As pretty much talking all about themselves, their goals, them, them, them!!! I was wondering that lastnight as AH came home, buzzed, began to tell me the same story for the second time, bragging about who he ran...	hersh	5	314	Sep 21, 2006 by Tiger2006
	A quick update (Preview) (((Hello MIP Family))) I have seen some big struggles on the board this week and also have been reading about alot of growth happening in so many people. I gain so much wisdom and insight from reading the post and people's honest open shares. My program is coming along very well and I'm n...	twinmom2	5	298	Sep 21, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Taking care of me (Preview) A quick note to let ya all know I won't be on for a few days. I am heading off to Toronto tomorrow to visit friends, laze around, eat good food and shop. I am just taking me, am only leaving an emergency number with my wife. Everyone else will have to go thru her and she will not...	lilms	3	272	Sep 21, 2006 by TLC2
	alot of things (Preview) I have been in Alanon for going 2yrs in Nov both on the site here and face to face meeting. Lately I have had a hard time getting my self to meeting. I have stayed in touch with my sponsor that was very important. She has helped me the whole time. She tells me that this is normal to want to space myself from the p...	nycbt	5	292	Sep 21, 2006 by TLC2
	Treating them with respect when they are being unreasonable (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) So I open my ODAT and read todays selection, which essentially says it is wrong to treat the A with disrespect when they are acting out in thier disease. I have recently been very close to that and it struck a bit close to home for me. My AW has a number of complaints about ou...	rtexas	7	435	Sep 21, 2006 by Maksmommie
	A tenant (Preview) I have not been here much. The tenant I have is insane. It is horrible. She is major A. I cannot tell you how horrible it has been. She is lieing, says I come over and harrass her. ? Just says all this insane stuff. Her dogs got over here and bit up my Great Pyr and killed a chicken. My Pyr was protect...	debilyn	7	335	Sep 20, 2006 by maresie2
	He called again need some input. (Preview) Well, the AH called again from AZ. I have been writing down all the numerous reasons that I don't want to go there again in the journal AND there are MANY! Whenever he calls he is crying and always asks the same questions. Can we be together again when I get back? Is there someone else? As if I can't just be ha...	carolinagirl	3	290	Sep 20, 2006 by carolinagirl
	What type of personalities (Preview) Hello everyone. Can someone help with understanding what type of personalities become addicted. My boyfriend is addicted to alcohol, I have a sister addicted to the same, and 2 brothers who are addicted to crack. Looking on the surface they all seem to have different personali...	LadyLibra	9	398	Sep 20, 2006 by irish54
	no faith in myself (Preview) Here I am trying to face life straight ahead. Be the Captain of my Ship...all that stuff. But honestly....all I feel is...as soon as "everyone" discovers how much of a failure I really am on the inside I will be alone. I'm trying so hard to forget how disappointed I made my ex (who is also o...	katrina2000	6	318	Sep 20, 2006 by irish54
	Falling to pieces !! (Preview) Well, a lot has happened in the last 48 hours and i am falling to pieces. Monday I confronted my husband ( my A) about a girl he met in a bar about a month ago.. He said that he had been talking to someone but they were just friends. They hadnt seen each other since the night they met although they had talked....	Tammy	10	473	Sep 20, 2006 by Tammy
	Family Deaths (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't meant to be neglectful of the site or message boards lately, but I have had to be due to two deaths in my family that took place last Sunday. Two of my aunts were murdered in Fort Myers, Fla. September 10th, 2006. It appears that one was killed at approxiately 3 pm,...	John	29	784	Sep 20, 2006 by lildee
	Laugh your head off (Preview) You're An EXTREME Redneck When..... > > 1. You let your 14-year-old daughter smoke at the > dinner table in front of her kids. > > 2. The Blue Book value of your truck goes up and > down depending on how much gas is in it. > > 3. You've been married three times and still hav...	daisy2	2	298	Sep 20, 2006 by Gailey
	14 days since brothers case was dismissed and Mom's moving out of her condo, brother staying! (Preview) OMG! My brothers abuse case against my mother was dismissed just FOURTEEN DAYS ago. Last wk my mother called to say brother moved back in w/her! Today she called to say she's moving into an apartment and brother is staying in the condo! Holy crap! And she says I never go see her, etc etc. Well I am the o...	Barbara	5	299	Sep 20, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Proud of myself (Preview) I am very proud of myself too, when we were talking about him coming back here I told him I was sure he could get his old job back and he asked me to call him (repeatedly) to test the water. I did this for him before he left to see what kind of reference he would give him (should have been bad personally but excel...	carolinagirl	3	289	Sep 20, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Here We Go Again (Preview) On the 8th I got a text from my A bf saying that he was crashing at someone's house because his driver was drinking (he's 2 months sober and has no license). I was upset and let him know it. He and I had a long talk the next day about how he has gotten over some of his behaviors but I wasn't getting o...	SerenityGirl	5	313	Sep 20, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Another to put a smile on your face :-) (Preview) Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they sometimes take the apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy. The apples at the top think something is wrong w...	daisy2	1	267	Sep 20, 2006 by twinmom2
	The Big 5-0-0 (Preview) Well here it is! My 500th post to this board! Who’d a thunk it? Now hang on…cuz it is a long one!!! I thought I would do a little thinking back about my life since I first came into Al-anon on April 17, 2004. For some of you who have been here the whole time, you know most of this story. For those of you w...	david62	15	455	Sep 20, 2006 by nycbt
	A sad day (Preview) Today is a very sad day for my family and me. It is the one-year anniversary of my young brother in law’s death. He was a 28-year-old motorcycle instructor that had a passion for motorcycles. When I met him, he was only 7 year old and I watched him grow up to be an outstanding young man that loved life...	shadow1	8	384	Sep 20, 2006 by leo
	alcholic husband while pregnant/ need feedback (Preview) Sorry- this is very, very long Hello everyone! I think this is where I need to be. I attended a few alanon meetings over a year ago, but I have since moved to an area where we don't have a chapter. Anyway, I think I just need to share my experience so that I can help clarify it for myself.&nb...	AH27	9	469	Sep 20, 2006 by nycbt
	feeling sad...need some hope (Preview) hi - i've really enjoyed reading your posts...they have given me a lot to think about and much learning. I'm new to this, just a month of so. Have been involved with A for 7 months - it was a whirlwind relationship and I was swept off my feet. Even moved three hours away to be with him.&n...	twinkie	10	402	Sep 20, 2006 by nycbt
	feeling used and abused, little confused (Preview) I'm very new to this to please forgive me if I did this wrong or messed up in anyway shape or form. I had quite a night with my Alcoholic husband. See, he went out with his sister (also alcoholic). I knew full well what was going to happen, but I didn't try to control him. As well as my feelings. ...	mommaof2	8	373	Sep 20, 2006 by nycbt
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