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joyoma · joyoma

My husband, our son and his child, and I spent Father's Day weekend in a condo on a lovely beach. It was an attempt at celebrating a family holiday in a different way. My son continues to grieve over his now two-year old divorce...something he did not want but couldn't stop. His grief and depression...

junehouse · junehouse

Hello All, I find Father's Day a thoughtful time for me because I am 'not' in contact with my father. I send photos of my son two times a year at Christmas and at his birthday. Since he is just two this year this is a fairly new idea I have had. I got the idea from someone in AA to send photos. Both my parents...

meagain · meagain

As I was saying my son treats me like his A father did to me. I have told my some I am not afraid physcially-but mentainally an emotionally.I have not heard back from him in this regard---but no more playing tag on the internet with him. Enough already. I am really sticking to my boundaries....I am reall...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((MIP Dads))))), To my MIP Dads: HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! I thank you for all your love, strength and laughs you have given us. You are indeed a special bunch of men. I may tease you lots, but it comes from the . May your day be extra special filled with love and laughter. Do the things you and spend them...

China · China

Hi, It is my first time posting. I am very concerned. I have been thinking of moving out of the house. But my A always changes my mind. Telling me that it is best for the family to stay together that it will hurt our 8 year old son, that it is best finanacially etc... However, I can't control my temper anymore...

deecee6565 · deecee6565

My A exhusband who I have been living with moved out a few weeks ago. He had been doing drugs instead of drinking because of an anklemonitor and really I think he left because he knew how bad he gets. I had noticed for the last few months he had been spending a sick amount of money and his cell rang at all hou...

belle1 · belle1

As many of you may already know my mom found a lump on her breast and it was cancerous well today was day of surgery and a long one for my family, many prayers well wishes from so many people and from this family of mines also id just like to send many many thanks Surgery went well at night visit she was sitting...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Well, I hope I was missed, HA! HA! Seriously I was forgetting to check in. I don't remember the last time I posted. I am doing pretty well.. I am enjoying the much needed sunshine. Lots of rain earlier. I am very sorry for all of you in areas of the country who have suffered from excessive heat, floodin...

kitty · kitty

and now for something completely different... I saw this elephant on Animal Planet and found it so moving & beautiful, I thought it would be nice to share with all of you. I have never seen such a happy elephant in captivity before, truly amazing! http://www.treehugger.com/files/2008/06/am...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) Was thinking about you all and i decided to drop by and say hi Hoping this finds everyone having the courage to change their lives into what they want it to be... Well the last three months i have had no Al-anon, i felt i needed some time to truely get to know myse...

joyoma · joyoma

I haven't posted in weeks due to technical problems I probably created all by myself. I haven't been able to log on at all. Finally, with John's e-mail of this week, I was able to make contact. Now it seems my screen name is "joyoma" rather than "omajoy"!!! Isn't that interes...

madonna · madonna

Hi, I really need a sponsor and I was wondering if I can get one online? Or do I have to go to a live meeting to get one. Please let me know. I do not have an alcoholic in my family but my father (who died in 1995) was a ragoholic. He is still haunting me. My biggest problem is my weight. He always made fun of m...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

Hi! Today my daughter and I peeled and cut potatoes together and I enjoyed it! More importantly, I felt like an adult! I just thought I'd share. Later Danette

RLC · RLC

Happy Fathers Day to all MIP Fathers. A day to sit back and reflect not on mistakes we might have made, or things we wish we had done differently, but be proud of the opportunity we had to shape the lives of the ones we hold so dear. It is also a day to remember our own Fathers and all the things they did for...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Thank you for your love and prayers this past week. It has really meant alot to me. Hubby does not know that I posted asking for prayers, but if he did I know he'd appreciate it too. We were suppose to go to the doctor's yesterday, but he wasn't into it. I can understand that. Who want t...

Loupiness · Loupiness

As I have posted, I have kept my private life very private. Given my life as it is and where it appears to be headed, I know it has been a good decision for me thus far. In this small town I am in, the privacy really kept the chaos at bay and has allowed me to move forward at my own pace. Other than immediate fami...

notmywill · notmywill

Hi everyone, I new here and needed some feedback. I went to an open talk tonight, Al-Anon. It made me think about how similiar my life is compared to the A. When they are drinking, they make a lot of bad decisions. Well, I was looking back on my life and see how many bad decisions I've made. I have the same di...

charr · charr

just got back from our 3rd MT session, She said I still have to much anger at my ah, to keep comming back to the sessions, she said to my husband, can i do anything for you? I just walked out. Now i think he knows for sure i am crazy. All i do is just tare into him when i get there, i feel safe i don't confront him I am...

John · John

When we enter the world of recovery so many dynamics come into play. Life continues to unfold. We still experience saddness, disappointments, frustrations, anger and fear. Many of us don't know where we will end up from here. Where we will live, where we will work, how we will take care of our famil...

shawn306 · shawn306

Well I'm back. Things were looking good for a while for my AD. He quit drinking for about two weeks knowing that I was coming with my wife and kids and his brother and hit wife. The whole Memorial Day weekend was really good. I talked with my Mom and she was telling me about here alanon meetings and that my AD...

sadako · sadako

i guess i should spell out the situation a little bit first. i live in public housing, fairly nice actually, but we do have problems. there has been a guy about 20 hanging around here - after a trespassing charge and restraining order - he's preyed on ateenage girl in the building before, and the rumor is...

meagain · meagain

My son and I have been battling back and forth thru email-----I shouldn't say battling---they will not pick up the phone, or email. Well yesterday DS called me and I mean he was VERy mad--just yelling at me on the phone. A month ago their marriage was over---now its turned around and I am the big blame fo...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

so, I've watched this show from time to time and the relationship that Lauralei has with Rory, mother and daughter respectively, has been one I've often been jealous of. Here's why, Lauralei has this completely dysfunctional relationship with her own mother but she is a good mom in the show. Now, I kn...

nycbt · nycbt

I have an online sponsor. I went to the alanon online room and was in the chat alot. In fact I started with online before face to face. I got face to face sponsor she really didn't help me. I am not suggesting that face to face sponsor don't work I enjoy it, however there are some people that might do better wi...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, Today I got another doozie of an email from one of my bosses. He says his higher ups are making him do these things which involve changing the title of my job which was sanctioned by all these higher ups. I rang him back and was very direct. I told him I was insulted by the email and had not received a...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Been awhile since I posted. I have a beautiful baby grand daughter. She was born May 31, at 5:30 am. It was a little bitter sweet as I was thinking why couldn't my husband be here he would have been such a wonderful grandpap. Things for me have been pretty good, I still cry, I miss him. How...

deecee6565 · deecee6565

My AH that I am divorced from but have been living with for the past 3 years left under a rage, my interpretation, he felt guilty doing it in front of his family, his is that since his health is bad I have ignored him, wont help him financially for his meds and the kids get on his nerves. I use my tools everyday...

queenie105 · queenie105

Hi All, I'm new here, but I'm not new to Alanon, nor am I new to on-line support groups. Background: I've been with my AH for 23 years. When I was first w/him, he was actively drinking. I was a single mom of 3 kids, xh abandoned us and we haven't heard from him since, no child support, no nothing (and he wa...

belle1 · belle1

anyone seen 'blessed' around or if you can read this yourself could u please leave a message id like to get in touch again belle1

kitty · kitty

In the last few days, I've found out that (my step-dad) the A is vomitting blood daily, now. Not sure how long it's been happening. My mother mentioned it and it seems to have taken me a couple of days for it to really sink in. I knew he was bad, I know it's progressive. It is really sad to know he's at this s...

mamaof4angels · mamaof4angels

Hello everyone, So much has happened in my life since I was here last. Just to introduce myself to those of you who don't know me, I am a 34 yr old mother of 5 children and a wife to a wonderful man. I am also the daughter to a mother who is addicted to additions. Pills, alcohol, gambling, men, sex, internet, o...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Things have been mellow and good lately. A little snafu with the bank, and changing accounts but I'm hoping that will be resolved without too much chaos. Still don't know if daughter graduated middle school and apparently they won't tell us until everyone is gone for the summer which I take as a bad s...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

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Codependent · Codependent

Well, the A is still in jail and I am SLOWLY leaving him behind. I still talk to him, etc, but it is getting easier to not answer the phone. I am also seeing someone else. He is "healthy" in that he has a great job is respectful of me, etc. He pays a lot of attention to me, etc. He is recently di...

Beajour · Beajour

Hi all - My A has been drinking since he got out of treatment - first every couple months a relapse, then a month, two weeks, now the last two weekends in a row. I however feel fine (a major improvment). I don't even get mad anymore, I feel like "what's the use?". I know he's already beating hi...

Minnehaha · Minnehaha

Hello everyone. I have a situation with my adult step daughter that I cannot figure out. I have been married to her father for 10 years now and during that time she has consistently treated me like the family skunk. I have stayed out of her way so that I didn't become a barrier to her relationship with...

meagain · meagain

My 35yr. old son accused me via internet that over the years I have said he has a "dark soul" I don't even know what that means. Does anyone else know?? I tried calling him and emailing him about it, but as usual like my other discussions about our delimma he will not talk to me. I am totally at a l...

Codependent · Codependent

It is so good to be back here. I finally have a computer that works and internet at home so I feel fully connected! In my last post I mentioned that I am trying to detach from my A in jail by getting back in the dating world. That being said I do still talk to the A and at times tell him about my new dating life. ...

painthorse60 · painthorse60

This is my first post here, but I could use some insight into my problem. Husband is currently recovering and has 3 years of sobriety in. Good news BUT - he has recently started going to meetings with increased frequency - not a bad thing. However, he is taking a woman who is also in the program with hi...

maire rua · maire rua

Yes, its been one of those days. At present I am working on trying to recruit students to a good evening ba programme which will offer alternatives to studying entirely on campus. I have done a good job. Today my boss tell me my name is being mentioned too much and he has been advised to leave me out of repor...

Bettina · Bettina

I just wanted to say hello , I have been away from alanon online for about a year. This is a different group and appears very nice and not religious like the other group I was with. I have been married to the A 26 years, but Im not here to talk about him, I have done alanon for a number of years and I hope I can sti...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, Well, I received my son's report card today and I am not happy. So, I am typing out the grades to send to my AH and feeling kinda nasty. I've been so good (relatively speaking) in my actions and words and am just feeling the need to let my AH know I think he is a selfish b*****d. I want to tell him t...

ESH · ESH

I've been away for a while, but just got an invite (via e-mail from MIP) to come back!!! A while back someone said they were getting a new puppy. I cannot remember who it was, but I am wondering how it is going with the new baby? I am so happy to have been invited back... and anyone who hasn't yet tried the on...

GreenGem · GreenGem

but I got an email today from the group and thought I should pop my head in. I read a lot here on my journey with my A. I cried so many tears, fought so hard, loved unconditionally, tried so hard not to blame. He died, almost a year ago now. He was drinking again, lying about it - I caught him at it again.. told...

jdspencer · jdspencer

Too many stories to tell about how I got here, and I'm sure you've lived them all before, but this is the first time I'm seeking help. I do have a first appointment with a therapist next week, but something inside me can't wait. Long story short: My husband of 1 year is alcoholic. I guess he always has been,...

glad · glad

Sometimes HP gives us what we need, when we need it and we are not even aware. With my work I have recently encountered someone that is in charge of the system that pays me and makes referrals to me. I saw red flags the first meeting with him,instead of just walking away and not accepting business from his...

tma0413 · tma0413

Hello everyone!! AH is home from his stay in jail/work release. Has been since Saturday. He hasn't drank much, a couple beers the day he got home. Anyways, he tells me tonight "Just so you know, if I want to have a couple beers at night, I'm gonna." I tell him that I can't control what he d...

glad · glad

As previous post stated I told A B/F I could not live any longer with Active drinking without recovery program for both of us. Emotional distance. He stated he would go to AA and (sort of ) indicated he would try an AA related counseling program. ( I really didn't get a strong idea of what he thinks or feels...

paulaque · paulaque

Sooooo.....this is sobriety? I don't know that I like it! My A's still pushing my buttons(I'm letting him!) He's done four weeks of rehab, four weeks ago and now he knows it all!!! I need to get more ftf meetings in. He is seeing problems that have always been there for the first time and wading in to fix th...

connie marie · connie marie

i was married to my a for 17 pretty miserable years, cheating, lying, spending money, dui, etc. then he left me for another woman. when i filed for divorce he begged me to take him back. i prayed about it and felt thats what i should do. he went to aa, quit drinking, we went to church and got saved, hung out...

Cad · Cad

Hello, John sent me an email this morning and I decided to take him up on the offer. I have been in Al-Anon for about 23 years. I have held many service positions. Right now I am the District Rep. for my district. I was the DR. ten years ago, when there was a lot of people in the program and a lot more meetin...

meagain · meagain

I apparently have been in a conflict with my oldest son. His actions so remind me of my exA. He has shown me not much respect. I have detached...but have left a few messages, because I want to see my Gkids. No response....It has been over a month. This is not fair to the kids..we spent so much time together...

debbi · debbi

Hi everyone. I'm new to the board. My friend is 19 yrs clean and has been a godsend to me. So here's my story... Both my sons are 21 and 18. I'm in a second marriage on 4 years now to a wonderful and loving man. We were introduced by my oldest and his middle son. My oldest son Nick (now 21) has always been d...

QOD · QOD

So here I am again. It has been a LONG time since I have been on here. Some of you may remember me...some don't know me at all. History: I married my highschool sweetheart when I was 18 and pregnant in the 12th grade. We were married for 15 years. We had a son and daughter in that time, ages now 15 yo son in A...

maresie · maresie

I'm at a place not where I am more interested in what I did in the relationship(s) that what the A did. I'm saying that not to minimize what he did (obviously it was incredibly self destructive) but to look at what did I do. Overtime and reading I'm really seeing that when I was in rescue mode, in victim mod...

shawn306 · shawn306

I feel lost right now. I am the son of an A and I am sitting here watching a family fall apart and there is nothing I can do about it. My Father, who in hindsight probably was always an alcoholic but had always been able to put on the brakes when things started getting out of hand can't now. For the past 18 mo...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I had a rough week last week. Thus, I have been trying to make a conscious effort thie past few days, mostly by prayer, to get my emotions away from my AH and onto myself and my kids. Uhhh, and its just as difficult as I thought it would be. Now I am finding myself getting mad. What set me off first thing this...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family)))), Hubby and I could really use lots of prayers right now. It has nothing to do with his drinking (or not). He has some health issues and it doesn't look good right now. No one knows besides his Dad and myself. I found out yesterday. He's been carrying this around for almost 10 months...

kitty · kitty

... one word or a phrase can set me off by anyone that knows me. I am very emotional and most days, honestly am pretty reactive. So the days when I'm cool, calm, collected are the rare ones... and just b/c I don't outwardly say any thing, my brain is likely having a nutty conversation all by itself. Then...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi, thank you for all your support and words.I read them all over and over.The thoughts also come up in my head. Son called me, we had a nice normal conversation. I told him thank you for callind. He said if this is what it takes I will keep checking in. Was soooooo nice. Daughter apologised then went on to s...

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	family weekend (Preview) My husband, our son and his child, and I spent Father's Day weekend in a condo on a lovely beach. It was an attempt at celebrating a family holiday in a different way. My son continues to grieve over his now two-year old divorce...something he did not want but couldn't stop. His grief and depression...	joyoma	1	400	Jun 16, 2008 by Diva
	I find Father's Day a thoughtful time for me... (Preview) Hello All, I find Father's Day a thoughtful time for me because I am 'not' in contact with my father. I send photos of my son two times a year at Christmas and at his birthday. Since he is just two this year this is a fairly new idea I have had. I got the idea from someone in AA to send photos. Both my parents...	junehouse	2	469	Jun 16, 2008 by junehouse
	sons like fathers?? (Preview) As I was saying my son treats me like his A father did to me. I have told my some I am not afraid physcially-but mentainally an emotionally.I have not heard back from him in this regard---but no more playing tag on the internet with him. Enough already. I am really sticking to my boundaries....I am reall...	meagain	2	471	Jun 16, 2008 by Jerry F
	HAPPY FATHER'S DAY TO MIP DADS! (Preview) (((((MIP Dads))))), To my MIP Dads: HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! I thank you for all your love, strength and laughs you have given us. You are indeed a special bunch of men. I may tease you lots, but it comes from the . May your day be extra special filled with love and laughter. Do the things you and spend them...	Karilynn	2	627	Jun 16, 2008 by Jerry F
	What to do? (Preview) Hi, It is my first time posting. I am very concerned. I have been thinking of moving out of the house. But my A always changes my mind. Telling me that it is best for the family to stay together that it will hurt our 8 year old son, that it is best finanacially etc... However, I can't control my temper anymore...	China	7	495	Jun 16, 2008 by China
	The vultures fly (Preview) My A exhusband who I have been living with moved out a few weeks ago. He had been doing drugs instead of drinking because of an anklemonitor and really I think he left because he knew how bad he gets. I had noticed for the last few months he had been spending a sick amount of money and his cell rang at all hou...	deecee6565	1	459	Jun 15, 2008 by Jerry F
	Moms Surgery (Preview) As many of you may already know my mom found a lump on her breast and it was cancerous well today was day of surgery and a long one for my family, many prayers well wishes from so many people and from this family of mines also id just like to send many many thanks Surgery went well at night visit she was sitting...	belle1	5	359	Jun 15, 2008 by cookie1971
	I am back! (Preview) Well, I hope I was missed, HA! HA! Seriously I was forgetting to check in. I don't remember the last time I posted. I am doing pretty well.. I am enjoying the much needed sunshine. Lots of rain earlier. I am very sorry for all of you in areas of the country who have suffered from excessive heat, floodin...	Hoot Nanny	2	405	Jun 15, 2008 by cookie1971
	elephant paints portrait (Preview) and now for something completely different... I saw this elephant on Animal Planet and found it so moving & beautiful, I thought it would be nice to share with all of you. I have never seen such a happy elephant in captivity before, truly amazing! http://www.treehugger.com/files/2008/06/am...	kitty	0	380	Jun 15, 2008 by kitty
	HELLO GUYS.... (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) Was thinking about you all and i decided to drop by and say hi Hoping this finds everyone having the courage to change their lives into what they want it to be... Well the last three months i have had no Al-anon, i felt i needed some time to truely get to know myse...	ally	3	395	Jun 15, 2008 by Jen
	technical problems (Preview) I haven't posted in weeks due to technical problems I probably created all by myself. I haven't been able to log on at all. Finally, with John's e-mail of this week, I was able to make contact. Now it seems my screen name is "joyoma" rather than "omajoy"!!! Isn't that interes...	joyoma	3	439	Jun 15, 2008 by Jen
	HELP!! Can I get a sponsor online? (Preview) Hi, I really need a sponsor and I was wondering if I can get one online? Or do I have to go to a live meeting to get one. Please let me know. I do not have an alcoholic in my family but my father (who died in 1995) was a ragoholic. He is still haunting me. My biggest problem is my weight. He always made fun of m...	madonna	9	1233	Jun 15, 2008 by kitty
	yay!! (Preview) Hi! Today my daughter and I peeled and cut potatoes together and I enjoyed it! More importantly, I felt like an adult! I just thought I'd share. Later Danette	seekingserenity	1	335	Jun 15, 2008 by belle1
	HAPPY FATHERS DAY AND A "THANK YOU" TO MY DAD (Preview) Happy Fathers Day to all MIP Fathers. A day to sit back and reflect not on mistakes we might have made, or things we wish we had done differently, but be proud of the opportunity we had to shape the lives of the ones we hold so dear. It is also a day to remember our own Fathers and all the things they did for...	RLC	1	565	Jun 15, 2008 by Karilynn
	Update (Preview) ((((Family))), Thank you for your love and prayers this past week. It has really meant alot to me. Hubby does not know that I posted asking for prayers, but if he did I know he'd appreciate it too. We were suppose to go to the doctor's yesterday, but he wasn't into it. I can understand that. Who want t...	Karilynn	9	522	Jun 14, 2008 by leo
	getting thrown under the bus (Preview) As I have posted, I have kept my private life very private. Given my life as it is and where it appears to be headed, I know it has been a good decision for me thus far. In this small town I am in, the privacy really kept the chaos at bay and has allowed me to move forward at my own pace. Other than immediate fami...	Loupiness	5	670	Jun 14, 2008 by Leetle
	Lost Job (Preview) Hi everyone, I new here and needed some feedback. I went to an open talk tonight, Al-Anon. It made me think about how similiar my life is compared to the A. When they are drinking, they make a lot of bad decisions. Well, I was looking back on my life and see how many bad decisions I've made. I have the same di...	notmywill	3	408	Jun 14, 2008 by maire rua
	so angery and Marriage therapy (Preview) just got back from our 3rd MT session, She said I still have to much anger at my ah, to keep comming back to the sessions, she said to my husband, can i do anything for you? I just walked out. Now i think he knows for sure i am crazy. All i do is just tare into him when i get there, i feel safe i don't confront him I am...	charr	8	1528	Jun 14, 2008 by junehouse
	Variables of Recovery, Healing and Growth (Preview) When we enter the world of recovery so many dynamics come into play. Life continues to unfold. We still experience saddness, disappointments, frustrations, anger and fear. Many of us don't know where we will end up from here. Where we will live, where we will work, how we will take care of our famil...	John	5	480	Jun 14, 2008 by Andrea12
	We all got played (Preview) Well I'm back. Things were looking good for a while for my AD. He quit drinking for about two weeks knowing that I was coming with my wife and kids and his brother and hit wife. The whole Memorial Day weekend was really good. I talked with my Mom and she was telling me about here alanon meetings and that my AD...	shawn306	7	866	Jun 14, 2008 by Euoria
	A is out of control again, i feel scared (Preview) i guess i should spell out the situation a little bit first. i live in public housing, fairly nice actually, but we do have problems. there has been a guy about 20 hanging around here - after a trespassing charge and restraining order - he's preyed on ateenage girl in the building before, and the rumor is...	sadako	5	737	Jun 14, 2008 by sadako
	I really need your help.................. (Preview) My son and I have been battling back and forth thru email-----I shouldn't say battling---they will not pick up the phone, or email. Well yesterday DS called me and I mean he was VERy mad--just yelling at me on the phone. A month ago their marriage was over---now its turned around and I am the big blame fo...	meagain	4	701	Jun 14, 2008 by Jerry F
	Gilmore Girls (Preview) so, I've watched this show from time to time and the relationship that Lauralei has with Rory, mother and daughter respectively, has been one I've often been jealous of. Here's why, Lauralei has this completely dysfunctional relationship with her own mother but she is a good mom in the show. Now, I kn...	seekingserenity	2	337	Jun 13, 2008 by maresie
	having an online sponsor (Preview) I have an online sponsor. I went to the alanon online room and was in the chat alot. In fact I started with online before face to face. I got face to face sponsor she really didn't help me. I am not suggesting that face to face sponsor don't work I enjoy it, however there are some people that might do better wi...	nycbt	10	879	Jun 13, 2008 by madonna
	Excuses and Blame (Preview) Dear All, Today I got another doozie of an email from one of my bosses. He says his higher ups are making him do these things which involve changing the title of my job which was sanctioned by all these higher ups. I rang him back and was very direct. I told him I was insulted by the email and had not received a...	maire rua	2	600	Jun 13, 2008 by maresie
	I am a Grandma (Preview) Hello Friends, Been awhile since I posted. I have a beautiful baby grand daughter. She was born May 31, at 5:30 am. It was a little bitter sweet as I was thinking why couldn't my husband be here he would have been such a wonderful grandpap. Things for me have been pretty good, I still cry, I miss him. How...	Andrea12	9	519	Jun 13, 2008 by Mabeleileen
	He wants me to change. (Preview) My AH that I am divorced from but have been living with for the past 3 years left under a rage, my interpretation, he felt guilty doing it in front of his family, his is that since his health is bad I have ignored him, wont help him financially for his meds and the kids get on his nerves. I use my tools everyday...	deecee6565	8	753	Jun 12, 2008 by deecee6565
	I'm new and needing input (Preview) Hi All, I'm new here, but I'm not new to Alanon, nor am I new to on-line support groups. Background: I've been with my AH for 23 years. When I was first w/him, he was actively drinking. I was a single mom of 3 kids, xh abandoned us and we haven't heard from him since, no child support, no nothing (and he wa...	queenie105	11	687	Jun 12, 2008 by SOSAD
	looking for nick 'Blessed' (Preview) anyone seen 'blessed' around or if you can read this yourself could u please leave a message id like to get in touch again belle1	belle1	0	385	Jun 12, 2008 by belle1
	vomitting blood (Preview) In the last few days, I've found out that (my step-dad) the A is vomitting blood daily, now. Not sure how long it's been happening. My mother mentioned it and it seems to have taken me a couple of days for it to really sink in. I knew he was bad, I know it's progressive. It is really sad to know he's at this s...	kitty	5	526	Jun 12, 2008 by Jean4444
	Sorry it's been a while (Preview) Hello everyone, So much has happened in my life since I was here last. Just to introduce myself to those of you who don't know me, I am a 34 yr old mother of 5 children and a wife to a wonderful man. I am also the daughter to a mother who is addicted to additions. Pills, alcohol, gambling, men, sex, internet, o...	mamaof4angels	1	496	Jun 12, 2008 by queenie105
	Update... (Preview) Things have been mellow and good lately. A little snafu with the bank, and changing accounts but I'm hoping that will be resolved without too much chaos. Still don't know if daughter graduated middle school and apparently they won't tell us until everyone is gone for the summer which I take as a bad s...	carolinagirl	6	420	Jun 12, 2008 by carolinagirl
	everyday's a new adventure...:) (Preview) SHAWNEE, Kan. - George Chandler says he didn't know a 2 1/2-inch nail was driven into his skull until his buddy spotted it stuck through his cap. Chandler said he felt only a sting. "It never did really what you call hurt," the Shawnee man said Wednesday on NBC's "Today." ADVERTI...	Tiger2006	1	341	Jun 12, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Starting Over- Insecurity (Preview) Well, the A is still in jail and I am SLOWLY leaving him behind. I still talk to him, etc, but it is getting easier to not answer the phone. I am also seeing someone else. He is "healthy" in that he has a great job is respectful of me, etc. He pays a lot of attention to me, etc. He is recently di...	Codependent	4	514	Jun 12, 2008 by Bettina
	Am I being to passive? (Preview) Hi all - My A has been drinking since he got out of treatment - first every couple months a relapse, then a month, two weeks, now the last two weekends in a row. I however feel fine (a major improvment). I don't even get mad anymore, I feel like "what's the use?". I know he's already beating hi...	Beajour	8	778	Jun 12, 2008 by canadianguy
	guidance needed (Preview) Hello everyone. I have a situation with my adult step daughter that I cannot figure out. I have been married to her father for 10 years now and during that time she has consistently treated me like the family skunk. I have stayed out of her way so that I didn't become a barrier to her relationship with...	Minnehaha	10	467	Jun 12, 2008 by Minnehaha
	Meaning of..........?? (Preview) My 35yr. old son accused me via internet that over the years I have said he has a "dark soul" I don't even know what that means. Does anyone else know?? I tried calling him and emailing him about it, but as usual like my other discussions about our delimma he will not talk to me. I am totally at a l...	meagain	4	539	Jun 12, 2008 by debilyn
	So Good to Be Back- Question (Preview) It is so good to be back here. I finally have a computer that works and internet at home so I feel fully connected! In my last post I mentioned that I am trying to detach from my A in jail by getting back in the dating world. That being said I do still talk to the A and at times tell him about my new dating life. ...	Codependent	5	712	Jun 12, 2008 by round3
	Insight needed (Preview) This is my first post here, but I could use some insight into my problem. Husband is currently recovering and has 3 years of sobriety in. Good news BUT - he has recently started going to meetings with increased frequency - not a bad thing. However, he is taking a woman who is also in the program with hi...	painthorse60	7	508	Jun 12, 2008 by mags
	trust issues (Preview) Yes, its been one of those days. At present I am working on trying to recruit students to a good evening ba programme which will offer alternatives to studying entirely on campus. I have done a good job. Today my boss tell me my name is being mentioned too much and he has been advised to leave me out of repor...	maire rua	2	485	Jun 11, 2008 by Jerry F
	Back again (Preview) I just wanted to say hello , I have been away from alanon online for about a year. This is a different group and appears very nice and not religious like the other group I was with. I have been married to the A 26 years, but Im not here to talk about him, I have done alanon for a number of years and I hope I can sti...	Bettina	1	470	Jun 11, 2008 by Jerry F
	stop me before I shoot (a nasty email) (Preview) Hi Friends, Well, I received my son's report card today and I am not happy. So, I am typing out the grades to send to my AH and feeling kinda nasty. I've been so good (relatively speaking) in my actions and words and am just feeling the need to let my AH know I think he is a selfish b*****d. I want to tell him t...	Loupiness	8	782	Jun 11, 2008 by Jerry F
	Who got a new puppy recently? (Preview) I've been away for a while, but just got an invite (via e-mail from MIP) to come back!!! A while back someone said they were getting a new puppy. I cannot remember who it was, but I am wondering how it is going with the new baby? I am so happy to have been invited back... and anyone who hasn't yet tried the on...	ESH	3	466	Jun 11, 2008 by ESH
	It has been forever since I posted here (Preview) but I got an email today from the group and thought I should pop my head in. I read a lot here on my journey with my A. I cried so many tears, fought so hard, loved unconditionally, tried so hard not to blame. He died, almost a year ago now. He was drinking again, lying about it - I caught him at it again.. told...	GreenGem	4	553	Jun 11, 2008 by maresie
	new and scared (Preview) Too many stories to tell about how I got here, and I'm sure you've lived them all before, but this is the first time I'm seeking help. I do have a first appointment with a therapist next week, but something inside me can't wait. Long story short: My husband of 1 year is alcoholic. I guess he always has been,...	jdspencer	7	535	Jun 11, 2008 by Bettina
	Unaware even still HP is there! (Preview) Sometimes HP gives us what we need, when we need it and we are not even aware. With my work I have recently encountered someone that is in charge of the system that pays me and makes referrals to me. I saw red flags the first meeting with him,instead of just walking away and not accepting business from his...	glad	1	532	Jun 11, 2008 by Jen
	Should I say anything or not??? (Preview) Hello everyone!! AH is home from his stay in jail/work release. Has been since Saturday. He hasn't drank much, a couple beers the day he got home. Anyways, he tells me tonight "Just so you know, if I want to have a couple beers at night, I'm gonna." I tell him that I can't control what he d...	tma0413	11	801	Jun 11, 2008 by tma0413
	Half hearted answer. (Preview) As previous post stated I told A B/F I could not live any longer with Active drinking without recovery program for both of us. Emotional distance. He stated he would go to AA and (sort of ) indicated he would try an AA related counseling program. ( I really didn't get a strong idea of what he thinks or feels...	glad	6	512	Jun 11, 2008 by intothewoods
	Sobriety (Preview) Sooooo.....this is sobriety? I don't know that I like it! My A's still pushing my buttons(I'm letting him!) He's done four weeks of rehab, four weeks ago and now he knows it all!!! I need to get more ftf meetings in. He is seeing problems that have always been there for the first time and wading in to fix th...	paulaque	4	470	Jun 11, 2008 by Jerry F
	drinking again (Preview) i was married to my a for 17 pretty miserable years, cheating, lying, spending money, dui, etc. then he left me for another woman. when i filed for divorce he begged me to take him back. i prayed about it and felt thats what i should do. he went to aa, quit drinking, we went to church and got saved, hung out...	connie marie	4	585	Jun 10, 2008 by Tuggboat
	New online (Preview) Hello, John sent me an email this morning and I decided to take him up on the offer. I have been in Al-Anon for about 23 years. I have held many service positions. Right now I am the District Rep. for my district. I was the DR. ten years ago, when there was a lot of people in the program and a lot more meetin...	Cad	5	417	Jun 10, 2008 by SuSUN
	any grandmothers out there?? (Preview) I apparently have been in a conflict with my oldest son. His actions so remind me of my exA. He has shown me not much respect. I have detached...but have left a few messages, because I want to see my Gkids. No response....It has been over a month. This is not fair to the kids..we spent so much time together...	meagain	7	390	Jun 10, 2008 by adc3041
	It's all gone in an eye blink (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm new to the board. My friend is 19 yrs clean and has been a godsend to me. So here's my story... Both my sons are 21 and 18. I'm in a second marriage on 4 years now to a wonderful and loving man. We were introduced by my oldest and his middle son. My oldest son Nick (now 21) has always been d...	debbi	9	580	Jun 10, 2008 by Bettina
	I'm Back!!! And this isn't a good thing! (Preview) So here I am again. It has been a LONG time since I have been on here. Some of you may remember me...some don't know me at all. History: I married my highschool sweetheart when I was 18 and pregnant in the 12th grade. We were married for 15 years. We had a son and daughter in that time, ages now 15 yo son in A...	QOD	13	593	Jun 10, 2008 by Bettina
	how codependence distorted my reality (Preview) I'm at a place not where I am more interested in what I did in the relationship(s) that what the A did. I'm saying that not to minimize what he did (obviously it was incredibly self destructive) but to look at what did I do. Overtime and reading I'm really seeing that when I was in rescue mode, in victim mod...	maresie	6	1390	Jun 10, 2008 by maresie
	Hard Time Dealing (My Story) (Preview) I feel lost right now. I am the son of an A and I am sitting here watching a family fall apart and there is nothing I can do about it. My Father, who in hindsight probably was always an alcoholic but had always been able to put on the brakes when things started getting out of hand can't now. For the past 18 mo...	shawn306	9	639	Jun 10, 2008 by Cad
	changing the focus (Preview) I had a rough week last week. Thus, I have been trying to make a conscious effort thie past few days, mostly by prayer, to get my emotions away from my AH and onto myself and my kids. Uhhh, and its just as difficult as I thought it would be. Now I am finding myself getting mad. What set me off first thing this...	Loupiness	5	487	Jun 10, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Prayers please. (Preview) (((((Family)))), Hubby and I could really use lots of prayers right now. It has nothing to do with his drinking (or not). He has some health issues and it doesn't look good right now. No one knows besides his Dad and myself. I found out yesterday. He's been carrying this around for almost 10 months...	Karilynn	17	598	Jun 10, 2008 by lebe27
	I AM Nuts! (Preview) ... one word or a phrase can set me off by anyone that knows me. I am very emotional and most days, honestly am pretty reactive. So the days when I'm cool, calm, collected are the rare ones... and just b/c I don't outwardly say any thing, my brain is likely having a nutty conversation all by itself. Then...	kitty	4	515	Jun 10, 2008 by stariana
	small update (Preview) Hi, thank you for all your support and words.I read them all over and over.The thoughts also come up in my head. Son called me, we had a nice normal conversation. I told him thank you for callind. He said if this is what it takes I will keep checking in. Was soooooo nice. Daughter apologised then went on to s...	debilyn	3	385	Jun 10, 2008 by Rita G
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