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Prayers for Pipers Please
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(((((Family))))), On top of gieving for the loss of my beloved Tim, Pipers needs your prayers. She hasn't been eating and has been lethargic and coughing. I ran her down to the vets at the local PetSmart. Our vet lives 35 miles away, doesn't make house calls and I don't drive. She has a fever and they a...
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Karilynn
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He won't quit drinking and I can't live with it anymore
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He's going to therapy. He's "weaned" down to 1-2 drinks a day. While I'm around that is. This way he leaves the door open to binge when I'm not around. Last week I took the kids on vacation and he binged the whole time I was gone, and denied it of course. He's so proud that he's only drinking a...
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BK911
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lonely
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I have asked my AB to leave I have finally realised I am powerless and that I have a addiction I am a fixer, co dependent put everyones needs before my own. I am trying to concentrate on my life and I do believe in HP. However I am finding step 3 really hard I know I carnt change my AB, Iknow my life is a mess I try...
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Tracy
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situation with step mother and father
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Dear All, The situation with my step-mother's health has worsened. The initial lung cancer has now spread to the brain. She is coming home on Monday and I have managed to detach and realise that alcoholism is an illness like any other. I am going to do the taxiing, collecting her daughters at the airpor...
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maire rua
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It's all gone horribly wrong...LONG and PAINFUL
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Today has been the most vile day and it has all gone horribly wrong. The family is so used to being horrible to each other and now that mum is away it has not stopped. The two eldest, girls in the early teens are vile and the language is awful. against my daughters advice I allowed both girls to have friend...
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Suzannah
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The zoloft is working
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I was just thinking how greatful I am for zoloft. I had started to feel annoyed by my baby and just wanted everyone to leave me alone. I wanted to run away. Its been about 7 weeks now that I've been on zoloft and I have noticed I don't get automatically angry at everything. My patience with the baby is back li...
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StargazerLily
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standing up for myself
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After no communication with my Asober for 3 days since I took care of my car, I broke the silence. I asked him why he hasn't said a word to me, and mentioned that we hadn't done anything together in 3 weeks. He blamed me of course but I didn't take it. I told him to stop blaming everything on me. I stood up for my...
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buick23
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Oh so confused...feel like I'm addicted to him anyway...
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Well, I saw the A this weekend. Actually went out with him Friday night. Had my son go to my cousin's for the weekend so he wouldn't be in the mess. When I first saw the A, I thought I can handle this. I'm not even attracted to him at all anymore. Then it was like the more time I have spent with him- the mor...
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Codependent
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Does life ever just seem to hard?
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I find myself asking that question a lot lately. With bills, mortgage, responsiblites, kids, the things I do to self destruct-things to make myself feel better which only make me feel worse, stressful job, attempts to make friends and relationships, taking care of an elderly grandmother, feelin...
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Codependent
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doing beter an example
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I was not invited to a lunch at work. Who knows why. It is for someone I have been really closely involved with. I have helped the person since day 1, even now I am setting things up for them. Before I would have made a sarcastic remark. I would even have said something. I have told a friend (at work) that I am...
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maresie
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AH husband says I have no proof
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Hi All, After 10 months of Al Anon and gaining the strength I needed to leave my AH and take my daughter with me I have come into the wonderful world of the judicial system. When all I was hoping for is for him to get some help to stop drinking so he could have a healthy relationship with our daughter I got an AH...
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KimG143
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Do I Stick My Nose In
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My AH will be having surgery in two weeks. When he saw the surgeon, he lied on the paperwork and did not indicate how much he drinks every day. I noticed yesterday that he has the shakes whenever he goes without drinking. I'm a bit concerned with the upcoming surgery. I know by his not being honest with the...
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thetalady
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Binge Drinker
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I have been with my girlfriend since May 2007. She drinks intermittently and has had about 8 episodes (they last 7-14 days during which she drinks non-stop) since we got together, the last one started on Monday and she is still in the thick of it now. I spoke to her this morning and she promised me faithfu...
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Brizzle Gal
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Don't know what i should with him...
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Good morning to all, I didn't think being back on this board as life has been pretty quiet and good but life never stops to bring surprises (good or bad). I frequented a sober A (we were already friend from many years before) and after a year, we took the decision to stop it. It has been an hard decision as i...
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gaelle
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Here I go
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Okay so I am new to this, and I'm currently in the "wow I'm stupid...i'm not really alone" phase. My story goes back a few years, to the beginning of my relationship with my husband. We've known each other for years, since we were kids almost, but hadn't talked since high school. When we start...
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ImOnlyMe
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I'm new here and need some guidance....
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I will try and make my story short so here goes.... I met my BF 2 years ago. We started dating and he had said a few times how he like to take pills (downers mostly). I didn't really think anything of it. He was very functional and when we were together we had a good time. Well...a few months passed and I notice...
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suzim
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should i tell ?
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my close friend is a chronic alcoholic , however his family are not aware just how bad his drinking is or how mental depressed ans physically ill he is . his mother died when he was ten and his brother is ten years younger than him and he raised him. i emailed his brother and told him i was concerned about him...
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bunnyboiler
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Probation is over for son!!
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(((((((((((friends)))))))))))) Today is my son's last day of probation. It should have been five years, but because he violated his probation, it has been eight long years. He is working hard and doing well. He has been clean for 3 1/2 years. I just had to share the good news with you dear friends a...
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Lexie
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my day
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I had a car problem today. I called my Asober after I stopped the car and he started yelling at me. He told me to drive it home and he would take a look at it then. I was afraid to drive it home but did anyway. I got home and he started getting an attitude about having to look at my car. After a while he took a loo...
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buick23
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Strange days indeed
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In a previous post, I explained how my abf relapsed after 35 days. Part of the reason for his relapse, or his excuse for it anyway, is that he is facing demotion, he is currently a sargent in the Army National Guard. The reason he is facing demotion is because he has always been the party boy, and after 6...
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liljeannie
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A good day gone bad
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While I posted here last night, my abf went to blockbuster and got himself a pint. He came home barely able to stand and spent the better part of an hour face down on the living room floor. I have to say that though I was disappointed and shocked, I didnt react! I felt so proud of me. I simply went about m...
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liljeannie
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He's home from rehab - I'm getting depressed - esh please
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Hi All, Well I went upstate Thurs. nite to pick up AH on Friday a.m. from rehab. I was getting cold feet about him coming home on Thurs. nite, called him on my way up and told him that. He was sweet as pie, told me it was all gonna be good. Later that night, he called me, said he loved me and couldn't wait to s...
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queenie105
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I took care of it myself
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Well I took care of my car myself after him trying to give me guilttrips about it and waiting on him to do something about it. He has been in a bad mood for days now since he lost his job and has been taking it out on me. My car problem seemed to be just another reason for him to get upset. I was not sure if I would m...
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buick23
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prayers needed
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I'm on my way to a job interview. You all know I am in a finacial super sticky superglue mess because of living with an A for 7 years. A job, a real job, rather than a job which is really just another entanglement with an A is needed greatly. Please spare me a few prayers. I need to move onto another plateau s...
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maresie
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Disappointed, again
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My AH and I have been separated for almost 3 months. He's been living at a 1/2way house for 2 weeks 2 days. We spent the afternoon/evening together today and things were going well...until I found a couple of small flakes of weed on my bathroom floor. I was immediately taken aback from that discovery....
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AJ
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1 day at a time eventually adds up to 30.......
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Tomorrow will be my AH 30 days. Hi Five Hubby! What is different today than when he was drinking? He is sober. I am working on myself. I have been cooking and keeping the house up. He is working in the yard........ What is the same? We still don't talk much. We still aren't very inimate. We still do...
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Sincerely
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question...
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Hi All, I've been here reading and posting (sometimes) for over a year. I have a complicated situation and am looking for insight. My AH is sober for 26 months, and went through out patient recovery and then started attending 3 meetings a week, one is an AA meeting, one a recovery group meeting and th...
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cstwwt
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For my husband
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((((Family))))), I thank all of you for your love and prayers at this incredibly difficult time. It has meant the world to me to know how much you all cared about him as well as Pipers and I. We had the funeral on Friday in the Catskills. He was cremated and in the fall we will spread his ashes over his fav...
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Karilynn
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Thanks from the bottom of my heart!
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Thanks to all who read my grief-filled post. I am doing OK but still have to face the memorial service with his family. I am going to be fine though because I have faith in my Higher Power that He will get me through this loss. For those of you who didn't get a chance to read it, my dear friend, a 22 year winner...
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Hoot Nanny
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not so codependent...a learning process
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Today was a good day, seems that over the past few days, good is more prevalent than bad. I believe I have finally learned the true meaning of detachment, and for me, thats a huge and powerful thing. Sobriety has only been with us for 35 days, but already I am learning to bite my tongue when I feel my own tr...
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liljeannie
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New to this
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I've been in a relationship with an alchohlic for over 3 years now. Of course when we were only dating I did not know that drinking was a daily habit of his, it wasn't until several months into our relationahip that this became evedent. He knows he is an alchoholic but he is a self proclamed "f...
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buterfli13
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new shoes, a purse and some gum
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Yep, new shoes, a new purse and some gum, that is what I bought for myself yesterday. I know, sounds silly (or maybe not, thus this post), but it was eventful for me. I haven't bought new shoes in a very long time. Now, it is not like I walk around barefoot or in ratty shoes, but I got tired of the same 'ol sa...
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Loupiness
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Feeling a loss
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Today I am feeling a loss that I can't seem to shake. I guess it is still brand-new in my heart because it happened on Saturday. One of most trusted servants and loveable soul died. His spirit will live on. He was sober for 22 years. I was introduced to Al-anon that same year although I didn't meet him u...
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Hoot Nanny
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Feeling Blah
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Todays a tough day. Having thoughts about my ex way too much. He called me last night, and we talked for 2 minutes. He sounded good. He needed to let someone else use the phone and asked me to call him back. Well, I didnt. Then he called me this morning asking why I didnt call him back. I changed the su...
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HEARTBROKEN IN NJ
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well, he is on his way...not sure where his destination is yet.
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Well, his brother is going to get him from jail. It will be middle of the night when they get in so I shouldn't even have to think about it tonight. His mom went out of town today and told him she would see him Sunday. He said okay. She asked him if he was going to be at my house and he said yes. I am just taking...
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Codependent
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Blindsided
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After more than 6yrs with my abf, four of which we have been living together, all of which I had been accepted and made to feel a part of his family, I was deliberately excluded from a family occasion. I couldnt understand why, and when I asked him about it, he just mumbled a bunch of half hearted excuses a...
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liljeannie
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GOOD NEWS!!!!
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Hello "Family" Just wanted to share with all of you my excellent news: I am now employed at our local hospital in the medical records dept transcribing. I'm not sure how this will effect my relationship with my sober ABF. He has had some difficulties in the past few weeks dealing with him not...
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JenniferN
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I'm feeling lost
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This is my first post. My bf quit drinking 3 months ago, going to rehab, AA. I feel like I'm not a part of his life anymore and don't know how to deal with it. We hardly talk about anything, he is emotionally unavailable. I feel isolated from him and I don't know how to find the answers about what behaviour is...
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buick23
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Does anyone know how to stop hating the alcoholic in your life? I feel like a horrible person.
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Hi guys, My mother has struggled with alcohol since her teens to about 4 months ago (she's in her 50's now). To make a long story short, I thought how I grew up was normal, and that I was the abnormal one. I now know that it was quite the opposite! About 4 months ago my mother attempted AA (yet again). For the f...
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SammyQ
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Good or Bad I'm #1
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As I was just reading posts on MIP (11:35pm) I looked down and saw a piece of paper with my name at the top. Sometimes it is nothing wrong with being #1, especially with college football season approaching and all. Anyway-------------. Something make me think this list was left so I would see it. It was...
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RLC
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The UPS and downs
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My soon to be ex-AH is in intensive recovery, and has been for 9 months. He goes to 5 AA meetings a week, 2 professional groups, a relapse recovery program and personal counseling. I have done a really good job with detachment in regards to his recovery, but I know it is more a matter of my being forced out...
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Loupiness
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Do I want this relationship? Please share ESH
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Hi All, I have been w/my husband for over 23 years, 14 of which he was in recovery without a single relapse until a few years ago, and it was hell ever since. Lost his health, job and treated his family the typical way an alcoholic treats their family. In the beginning of July, I made AH leave our house a...
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queenie105
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Acceptance
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This is from a bookmark I got from MelloRon in Honolulu. Ron, if you are out there reading this, thank you for this piece that you gave me, it has gotten me through some very difficult times and leads me every single day. I do not know if it is an al anon thing or a Ron thing or something else but it sure works fo...
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Jean4444
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Alcoholism versus Cancer
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My chronic alcoholic step mother has been diagnosed with lung cancer in the last two months. It is slow growing but she has started to dehydrate and is falling down a lot. She has also been diagnosed with diabetes. Her daughters my half sisters know at this stage and though not as much in denial as what th...
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maire rua
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When to let go
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My first post here have gotten so much from reading everyone. My A is turning himself in for a 6 month jail term for his 3rd DUI. This gives me hope thinking maybe this is the bottom he needs to hit to make some positive changes in his life. It is hard being with someone and knowing they are not living up to the...
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suzip
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My Denial
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I have come to the conclusion that some of the reason that I have mixed feelings about the A getting out of jail is because while he is in jail I can pretend that he is what I want him to be. I can fantasize about the life I could have with him. When he gets out I have to deal with the man that he is and the life tha...
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Codependent
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Thanks for the responses-I am thinking...
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that you all are right that I obviously don't know yet what I want to do. I feel like I want to say no to some things, but fear that I won't be able to do this when the time comes. Like Jerry said maybe I am not convinced. Though I feel like I am convinced, just also that I am ashamed that I have not been able to,...
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Codependent
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About giving advice
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I'm curious why giving advice is discouraged in alanon. I've only been to one face to face meeting and part of what I didn't like about it was there was no feedback. I guess I just don't understand or haven't caught on yet.
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StargazerLily
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If I disappear for the weekend...
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It does look like he is going to get out tomorrow or Friday. His mom is going out of town and told me that she told his brother to bring him to my house. I told her I just wasn't really sure about that after giving it some thought. She went on to ask me just to "take care of him for the weekend" unti...
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Codependent
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Relieved
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I've spent much of the last year grieving, raging and remonstrating about the A's behavior. My life is pretty hard at the moment, working long hours, few resources. I feel like I am moving through molasses. I also have a lot of financial stress. At the same time no matter what the situation I feel jus...
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maresie
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Hi,I'm a newcomer
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Hi, as I said I'm new to this,my partner is a recovering alcoholic and I am finding things difficult.He tells me I don't like him being sober which is untrue,I just didn't expect it to be so difficult for me.I like a glass of wine from time to time,we no longer live together because of his disease,but I f...
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xjuliax
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still over reacting
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After 5 years with an active A destroying our lives I became very depressed. Fast forward another two years of learning the concepts of al anon and starting to put them in place I find I am less depressed. The problem for me is that I now find myself very annoyed with those who are. I don't let it out but I ha...
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maresie
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Cunning, Baffling and Powerful
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I haven't posted here in a while. But now life and other things are showing up again and I need some feedback. My ABF who I live with went out in June for two weeks. He finally started to going to meetings again and managed to put together 45 days. Then this last Friday drank again. Things had been going so gr...
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serenity041807
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How grateful can we be???
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((((((Family of choice)))))) I used to think how could anyone be grateful for the situation that we all face. I can truly say I am and this is why. When I arrived at the doors of Alanon I was numb, I didnt think it could get any worse. As I sat and listened to people share and would think they cant have it a...
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shadow1
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What are you filling yourself up with?
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(((((Family))))) It has been a while since I posted something on here myself, other than replies. I am here. I read daily. Today I felt moved to share something with you all. I was sitting in a meeting of my "Other" program this morning and the topic was one of those that truly seem to reach...
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david62
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Hello all!
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I just started this forum today, and already replied to a post before even saying hello to yall. So, I figured I might was well do it before it gets too late.
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J.R.
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quietly suffacating...
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..into my own madness here as my a is really just a huge pain in my ass but i can not get rid of her stifling i say and i am going to meetings and hopefully doing the right things and the trust is basically dead...and i am trying hard not to let her in my home...and i picked up the phone and its starting all over ag...
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charlescharles
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Thoughts
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Just some thoughts I'm having. I have posted a couple times. I have received responses, more than I was expecting. Some were overwhelming to me. I could not absorb the concepts that were being shared. I did get some things out of the responses though. I hope its ok. I was initially thinking I would post h...
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StargazerLily
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Detachment- I need some tips as quickly as possible. :)
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If you read my previous post you know that my A is getting out of jail this week- probably by Friday and he is "planning" to come to my house. These are tentative plans because we had spoken of it, but now that it is coming to a date I am getting nervous and I can tell he is as well. He offered to go t...
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Codependent
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My AH hit on my daughter!!!
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Just when I thought things were getting on track BOOM!! Off the track again. I have been working my program and it has been working. I have been in therapy, and have been feeling quite well. Then last night my 22 year old daughter informs me that when her and AH went out for drinks about a month ago, he hit on...
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wildthang86
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