Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

danz123 · danz123

August 9, 2009 (9 PM est) Business Meeting Agenda I. Review of July minutesII. Review of op meeting scheduleIII. Old business-new op liason committee member needed ...

Mattie · Mattie

Hi -- I'm a longtime lurker, and I'd appreciate some ES&H on my situation if you have any! My A is my ex-husband -- he's a very secretive drinker, so that it took me a long time to figure out what was really going on. For instance, I've never seen him drink, not once in more than 15 years. But some reall...

kristielaine · kristielaine

Thank you to everyone who has given me input. I don't think I would have survived without my online Al-Anon buddies and my supportive family. Today is a lot better than yesterday because I'm slowly coming to terms with looking at him for who he really is; which is a sick person. Plus I'm looking at myself...

xter · xter

last night in f2f, someone shared about this article in the NY Times. she said that it read like the woman who wrote the article was in program the key to the share was how the the wife responded to her husband telling her he didn't love her anymore. she said, "i don't buy it". it's a good stor...

Loveridden · Loveridden

Hi everyone, just wanted to share that I now have a sponsor!! Yesterday I went to one of my f2f meetings and a lady there offered to sponsor me!! I am so happy to finally have a sponsor and the guidance she will give me!!

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My nephew's baby was actually born! He was trying to mess with his mother or something. She told me what she knew about her son's experiences with having his baby with his girlfriend --he is a very sick boy. Yeah, a boy. He is almost 20 & maturity wise he is just a child. So, anyway, no worries abou...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok, Yesterday I did some searching to find the 12 Prayers to go with the 12 Steps... This is what I came up with... I Personally Laminated them so I can then carry them with me when I need them... If there is anything Differant of Wrong about them... I am sure I will be let know... :) Hope someone else can find...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I've noticed that since I have become single again, that for some reason the men seem to be crawling out of the woodwork so to speak:). I've been asked out more times than I can count and have several men I talk to currently, but have been very direct in where I am and what I am and am not looking for. It seem...

Overcome · Overcome

I was reminded today to use the slogan "Let Go and Let God" when I read today's reading in ODAAT in Al-Anon. (August 7, p. 220) I have been trying to do this since I found out that my husband may have esphageal varices and a life-threatening condition with his throat from drinking (see earlier...

buick23 · buick23

I have realized today that as long as I stay busy I am fine. When I have nothing to do and I'm by myself I start getting annoyed about my bf not being here. Today was the longest hours I've worked in a while and I'm so tired and sore. I am fine with being by myself right now. Maybe I'm just too tired to worry about...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Well, I got the draft of the divorce petition this week. HP intervened yesterday by not providing me with the opportunity or the privacy to discuss my questions about it with my lawyer. As a result, the opportunity to discuss my intent with my AH presented itself last night. He was (as usual) under t...

ticswife · ticswife

Thank you all for taking the time to pass on your wisdom...yesterday was a long day and it really helped to know there are people that have been where I am now and are willing to share about it. I packed up my A's stuff yesterday and put it in the shed where he can pick it up whenever hes ready I really didnt w...

Ness · Ness

Im finding the more Im learning the more contemplative and reflective Im becoming. I seem to be going through a period of quiet change.Things are tough going with my Ason for the last 3 weeks, so Im thankful that I heeded the wisdom of my MIP family and took myself to a f2f....the meeting is only once a wee...

maresie · maresie

My life with the ex A was completely chaotic. He had his own parade of charactors who also had their chaos. Every day was one long nightmare and I got used to dreading every moment. Right now I am in the place of working to simplify everything. Of course I want it all done tomorrow. I'm going to my storage...

katiecat · katiecat

I bought the book....we are working on step two so it's near the beginning which is great. And found out about another one closer to me from a member there so that will be good too. I'm so glad I found this site and my meeting....it has helped so much and I have so much to learn...but it's a beginning. Any...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Woke up this am and went straight to my am daily readers of which there are 3-lol! Not sure which one but one talked about Just for Today and how this 24 hour period was all I have to work with and all the wonderful ways I could enjoy it. I decided right then and there that that is just what I would do. No crazy...

Inpain · Inpain

I just wanted to say thanks to everyone here that comes on and takes time to respond to posts. For me, it has helped tremendously. I can't always get to F2F meetings, even though I prefer that, b/c I have little ones at home, and scheduling is difficult. This board is so helpful for those moments of exp...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), So sad once again the news this morning reported that the woman who killed 8 people in a car crash was drunk & high. What a waste. What will it take for people to wake up and realize that this is a disease? That people need help and that we owe it to future generations to educate, regul...

Inpain · Inpain

This statement sucks. I know it. I hate it but it's true. There was a day we had this discussion in a F2F meeting. If you're new to al-anon (as I am) our members suggested backup plans. So, one member had the expectation her husband would remain sober as they worked on cleaning out a house. He didn't...

Overcome · Overcome

I just got a call from my husband that he was coming back from the ER (we are seperated going through a divorce). He said that he went to open a beer and couldn't swallow it and new he was in trouble. He has no insurance, so after going to several hospitals he found one that would take him and he said they didn'...

ticswife · ticswife

Hello All, I am new here and not really sure where to even start...I am married to an A but I am sure I dont have to tell anyone here how our life together has went for the past 4 years because if there is an A in your life you know all about the lies, the stealing,the covering up, the disappointment, the tr...

kristielaine · kristielaine

Today is a really hard day. I'm very depressed and scared. I woke up crying because I feel so used and violated. I can hardly cope here at work. I just can't understand how someone can be such a horrible human being to treat anyone the way I was treated and have no remorse. I'm also depressed because I allow...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Good news! I got a job. I will be moving to Goodyear, AZ at the end of this month. I will be working with the forclosure sector and rehabilitating the neighborhoods that have melted in the forclosure fiasco. I need help. For the life of me, I can't find any contact information re meetings in the area. God k...

Princess8899 · Princess8899

Last month, after 5 long months of fighting and begging him to tell me who he was having an affair with, I threw my husband of 10 years out of the house. I quickly confirmed my worst fears that he had been cheating on me since February with a girl who shares his fairly recently discovered spiritual beliefs...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Boyfriend and I broke up, it's over for good he says... no explanation. One day he loved me with all his heart and two days later he didn't love me anymore - or so he says. So I'm trying to right myself again, realize that I leaned too hard on a rotten post and fell down again. I'm still brushing myself off...

Tracy · Tracy

Last night when my sober ABF went to his meeting I was on the computer and looked up co-dependency on you tube. It was like a cloud of denial was lifted. I found myself crying for all the pain I HAVE PUT MYSELF THROUGH. THE words self sacrificing jummped out at me. That is what I have done all my life put e...

Overcome · Overcome

Sponsorship was a topic for tonight's meeting and since no one shared on it, I thought I would post a topic on it. I have been doing a lot of reading in the ODAAT in Al-Anon and Courage to Change, mediation books on this topic. It is a very important one and one that shouldn't be taken lightly if you are asked...

ajay147 · ajay147

I can't think straight anymore. My head hurts! What are my choices? Me and my wife (an A in denial), are about to break up. She hasn't really spoken to me in 10 days now. Since she found out that I told our doctor that she's still drinking, even at almost 6 months pregnant. This is my problem: We have two kids...

sad4life · sad4life

I have posted before but under a different name, which I can't remember. Today I am distraught, as I was yesterday, last week, last year, two years ago. I have been 'hanging on' to a dry drunk who left my family, (we have a 5 year old son together) and moved countries. For the last 2 years I have wanted to b...

imasharm · imasharm

OK, this is new to me. I really don't know if my husband is an alcoholic. I know he drinks everyday and is so obnoxious i can't stand him when he is drinking. His drinking doesn't affect his work, he doesn't drink in the morning or anything like that. It is the same routine everyday. After work he stops for a...

kristielaine · kristielaine

Just as I thought I feel better, I'm back to being sad. I'm getting sick of myself at this point

Joanie · Joanie

Hi there- Im new to all of this so am getting my feet wet- glad to have found this board. My husband wants to save our family and get his drinking under control but it is a bumpy road and he has been in therapy about 6 weeks. We have a LOT of underlying stress (child with cancer) that has caused him to progre...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hello family, I made a boo-boo. In my post yesterday I said that it was page 174 in C2C, actually it is 74. That's what I get for quoting a page from a book when the book was home and I was not :) Yours in recovery, Mandy

Mariner · Mariner

Dear (((All))) My name is Carol and I'm codependant I was reading an earlier post by Tracy and was prompted to post the following 'check list' for codependancy. When I first read this list it was with great amazement. I could put a tick next to every statement I thought THATS ME! All of it applied to...

kristielaine · kristielaine

Thanks everyone. Slowly I'm starting see the light. I had a chat with a board member on the AA board, and started talking about how on our birthdays, this month he wanted to get a hotel room. well he wanted to invite this guy that I don't like, who is an alcoholic, and his friends girlfriend, and I remember...

kristielaine · kristielaine

Can you help me think my way through this please, because this is what keeps me lingering on this entire issue with my EAB because of the way he left it. This is what transpired the week leading to our breakup. That Tuesday before our breakup, he and his mother had some sort of big argument where she confir...

Inpain · Inpain

In my honest opinion, it's far easier said than done. For 8 months I've struggled with that. I might have a difference of opinion here to on the interpretation of "letting go" - but for me, it means letting go of HIS actions. The consequences to his actions are MY responsibility. For exam...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family)))) I just had a moment I have to tell about. I spent most of the day today in San Antonio playing. I had a great time and was pulling back into my hometown about 9 o'clock. I am tired, but was trying to decide if I wanted to pull into the video store near my house to rent a movie to "watch&...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all,I saw once again how working your program can really scare your A and just had to share. My addict husband went over to the neighbors Sunday night and came back and said he was going to walk up the little convenience store and buy the neighbor a beer for his birthday. I said ok and went about my busine...

Aloha · Aloha

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/02/fashion/02love.html

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Long after reading ODAT and C2C today, I realized that I had read the wrong date. Apparently, the error occurred yesterday when I skipped August 3 and went right to August 4. This may seem like a minor problem to most, but for me, it has me confused. Should I read August 3's reading tomorrow and then be...

malady · malady

My husband has been inactive for only 18 days for the first time in 35 years. I have only known him 10 years and during this time he has never gone any longer than 3 days without drinking. I realize now that the withdrawl symptoms were too much for him to bare so he went right back to it. He finally admitted h...

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

Is there NOTHING I can do? We've been separated for almost 11 months now but still communicate daily and see each other once or twice a week. I am now 5 and a half months sober. She knows she has a problem but is prejudiced against A.A. because she thinks she already knows everything about it (her dad is a...

beacheemom · beacheemom

When an A stops drinking, are they able to express their love for you better, or does that get worse? He thinks he is, even though I've expressed to him what I need from him, things dont change. You all know the dilemma on our sleeping situation, I've made several posts lately, and he emailed me and said it...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I remember the first time I read that I thought WOW! How can so few words hold soooo much insight. I remember coming here and being told if I didn't like the way I was feeling to try doing the opposite of what I had been doing and again thought WOW....pretty insightful. Today I am at a wall.......and I eithe...

katiecat · katiecat

Same old scenario with me and my sister. She gets drunk and I get worried and want to take care of her. She has two addictions alcohol and gambling. I don't even know how she's going to pay her rent. Oh and yes I had to drive over there(45 minutes) to see if she was alright and take her to lunch so that she...

debilyn · debilyn

I got up at five thirty, drove all the way there with no pain pills. Was all in a dress, did everything I could to my girl body to look ok. Everyone has to fill out an app. to visit someone in prison. Mine should have been done. Guess what, they screwed up. Typical eh? Administration is a joke. So I waited as th...

kristielaine · kristielaine

I text him and said "I hope to God that you are getting help - spare me with a violent response - goodbye". Now I feel bad and set myself up for the fact that he won't respond. I guess I'm just angry because everyone got to say what they needed to say but me. He said his peace, my family said what they...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I have made peace--sorta--with everything I'm gonna tell you. Right now I'm still processing through the feelings. But I'm alive, sober, living in the solution, and it's all b/c of y'all. After I lost the job in KS, there was 1 more interview I had: Baylor University, Waco, TX. After a 10 minute interv...

HG · HG

After 15 years together, my A and I have separated. His drinking didn't become a problem until the last 4 years, during which time he's logged a total of 120 days inpatient treatment (28 days program, then later, a 90-day transitional living program). He also went to 3 different outpatient treatme...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I'm grieving. One of our local 15 year old female died of apparent alcohol poisoning. I wanna scream and throw a tantrum!!!! I'll end up outside doing a chant to HP. HP knows. HP hears me. I don't need further proof. This is a grievable offense and so that is what happens with me. I've worked with t...

Jozie · Jozie

Welperz... Yesterday was the start of my Son's Practice for Soccer, and My SIL & I desided to make a go of it, and while they practiced we would "Walk" for a Healthier US... She too is in Al-anon Program... Well honestly I looked forward to it all day... We walked to her Aunts to find out wh...

Overcome · Overcome

Well it's 11:40 p.m. I guess it's still officially August 3, so I can share on what the C2C reading on Aug. 3th meant to me. I must start with the beginning sentence, "There was a time in my life when I furiously insisted that alcoholism did not exist in my family." I remember being at a Thanksgi...

ESH · ESH

A-bf has been in hospital x 4 weeks now... 2-weeks in ICU and 2-weeks on a floor. He had had so much alcohol and pain-killers in his body that his liver and kidneys shut down. He then went into heart failure; had pneumonia and 2 other infections. Has needed transfusions and dialysis. He is still very w...

Inpain · Inpain

No really. I've been recognizing when and how my life has been controlled and how I control. My AH-sober-dry drunk (not b/c he wants to but because he wants to stay with his family) decided after watching a reality show on baking cakes, that he wanted to bake one. I had to secrety laugh to myself but to...

newbelief · newbelief

Hi everyone, I don't really ever post on the board but that doesn't mean I don't work my program, I am often in online meetings, f2f, and do my daily readings, but have a really hard time sharing sometimes. Well, right now I really need some support, as I just came back from a week long business trip to Cal...

kristielaine · kristielaine

I want to call him so bad, I want him to know how much he hurt me, but I want to know he's not angry with me. What is wrong with me!! I'm shaking, crying, my stomach hurts. There is absolutely nothing positive to go back to him for but I need to hear his voice :(

Cashey100 · Cashey100

Hi... I posted earlier that I got blasted from my folks for losing my wallet. I appreciated all your support! Those of you who said that I shouldn't be giving my parents stuff to worry about-- you're right. I will try to stick to this and watch my speech around them. The way it goes is that anything tha...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

To update everyone, the new friend "M" of the EXABF emailed me today to let me know pretty much that she emailed EXABF last night and told him that she was sorry but wasn't ready to start dating right now and her daughters didn't want her too, and that there was to much drama in his life that she d...

Overcome · Overcome

In todays ODAAT in Al-Anon reading, August 1, it talks about how sometimes we think that by running away from our problems that all could be solved. I know I have tried this approach myself and can attest to the fact that it does not work. When I first married at 19 to an active drinker, I had no idea what alc...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	August 9th (9 PM EST) Business Meeting Agenda (Preview) August 9, 2009 (9 PM est) Business Meeting Agenda I. Review of July minutesII. Review of op meeting scheduleIII. Old business-new op liason committee member needed ...	danz123	1	561	Aug 8, 2009 by wp
	Any ESH on this? (Preview) Hi -- I'm a longtime lurker, and I'd appreciate some ES&H on my situation if you have any! My A is my ex-husband -- he's a very secretive drinker, so that it took me a long time to figure out what was really going on. For instance, I've never seen him drink, not once in more than 15 years. But some reall...	Mattie	6	509	Aug 8, 2009 by Jerry F
	Each day gets a little better (Preview) Thank you to everyone who has given me input. I don't think I would have survived without my online Al-Anon buddies and my supportive family. Today is a lot better than yesterday because I'm slowly coming to terms with looking at him for who he really is; which is a sick person. Plus I'm looking at myself...	kristielaine	3	424	Aug 8, 2009 by Tracy
	"i don't buy it" (Preview) last night in f2f, someone shared about this article in the NY Times. she said that it read like the woman who wrote the article was in program the key to the share was how the the wife responded to her husband telling her he didn't love her anymore. she said, "i don't buy it". it's a good stor...	xter	5	584	Aug 8, 2009 by lacewing
	Yay I have a sponsor now!! (Preview) Hi everyone, just wanted to share that I now have a sponsor!! Yesterday I went to one of my f2f meetings and a lady there offered to sponsor me!! I am so happy to finally have a sponsor and the guidance she will give me!!	Loveridden	2	496	Aug 7, 2009 by Mobirdie
	THE BABY WAS BORN AFTER ALL! (Preview) My nephew's baby was actually born! He was trying to mess with his mother or something. She told me what she knew about her son's experiences with having his baby with his girlfriend --he is a very sick boy. Yeah, a boy. He is almost 20 & maturity wise he is just a child. So, anyway, no worries abou...	Hoot Nanny	2	666	Aug 7, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	12 Prayers... (Preview) Ok, Yesterday I did some searching to find the 12 Prayers to go with the 12 Steps... This is what I came up with... I Personally Laminated them so I can then carry them with me when I need them... If there is anything Differant of Wrong about them... I am sure I will be let know... :) Hope someone else can find...	Jozie	3	2318	Aug 7, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Wondering why EXABF would tell me such a thing?Is it a program thing program or just him?? (Preview) I've noticed that since I have become single again, that for some reason the men seem to be crawling out of the woodwork so to speak:). I've been asked out more times than I can count and have several men I talk to currently, but have been very direct in where I am and what I am and am not looking for. It seem...	shellyj123	6	588	Aug 7, 2009 by Aloha
	Letting Go of my alcoholics medical condition and turning it over to God (Preview) I was reminded today to use the slogan "Let Go and Let God" when I read today's reading in ODAAT in Al-Anon. (August 7, p. 220) I have been trying to do this since I found out that my husband may have esphageal varices and a life-threatening condition with his throat from drinking (see earlier...	Overcome	2	423	Aug 7, 2009 by teddybearpoet
	my aha moment (Preview) I have realized today that as long as I stay busy I am fine. When I have nothing to do and I'm by myself I start getting annoyed about my bf not being here. Today was the longest hours I've worked in a while and I'm so tired and sore. I am fine with being by myself right now. Maybe I'm just too tired to worry about...	buick23	4	421	Aug 7, 2009 by katiecat
	Letting Go of the Outcome = Unexpected Results (Preview) Well, I got the draft of the divorce petition this week. HP intervened yesterday by not providing me with the opportunity or the privacy to discuss my questions about it with my lawyer. As a result, the opportunity to discuss my intent with my AH presented itself last night. He was (as usual) under t...	blender_girl	8	908	Aug 7, 2009 by katiecat
	Thank you All (Preview) Thank you all for taking the time to pass on your wisdom...yesterday was a long day and it really helped to know there are people that have been where I am now and are willing to share about it. I packed up my A's stuff yesterday and put it in the shed where he can pick it up whenever hes ready I really didnt w...	ticswife	3	423	Aug 7, 2009 by maresie
	Taking my time (Preview) Im finding the more Im learning the more contemplative and reflective Im becoming. I seem to be going through a period of quiet change.Things are tough going with my Ason for the last 3 weeks, so Im thankful that I heeded the wisdom of my MIP family and took myself to a f2f....the meeting is only once a wee...	Ness	3	434	Aug 7, 2009 by Ness
	Simplifying (Preview) My life with the ex A was completely chaotic. He had his own parade of charactors who also had their chaos. Every day was one long nightmare and I got used to dreading every moment. Right now I am in the place of working to simplify everything. Of course I want it all done tomorrow. I'm going to my storage...	maresie	3	329	Aug 6, 2009 by katiecat
	Went to my second meeting (Preview) I bought the book....we are working on step two so it's near the beginning which is great. And found out about another one closer to me from a member there so that will be good too. I'm so glad I found this site and my meeting....it has helped so much and I have so much to learn...but it's a beginning. Any...	katiecat	5	514	Aug 6, 2009 by sterling7
	Just for today~Just for me:) (Preview) Woke up this am and went straight to my am daily readers of which there are 3-lol! Not sure which one but one talked about Just for Today and how this 24 hour period was all I have to work with and all the wonderful ways I could enjoy it. I decided right then and there that that is just what I would do. No crazy...	shellyj123	9	552	Aug 6, 2009 by sterling7
	You guys give me strength (Preview) I just wanted to say thanks to everyone here that comes on and takes time to respond to posts. For me, it has helped tremendously. I can't always get to F2F meetings, even though I prefer that, b/c I have little ones at home, and scheduling is difficult. This board is so helpful for those moments of exp...	Inpain	4	419	Aug 6, 2009 by sterling7
	Really mad! (Preview) (((Family))), So sad once again the news this morning reported that the woman who killed 8 people in a car crash was drunk & high. What a waste. What will it take for people to wake up and realize that this is a disease? That people need help and that we owe it to future generations to educate, regul...	Karilynn	11	694	Aug 6, 2009 by maresie
	You CAN NOT rely on the alcoholic (Preview) This statement sucks. I know it. I hate it but it's true. There was a day we had this discussion in a F2F meeting. If you're new to al-anon (as I am) our members suggested backup plans. So, one member had the expectation her husband would remain sober as they worked on cleaning out a house. He didn't...	Inpain	6	925	Aug 6, 2009 by sterling7
	Husband has gone to ER (Preview) I just got a call from my husband that he was coming back from the ER (we are seperated going through a divorce). He said that he went to open a beer and couldn't swallow it and new he was in trouble. He has no insurance, so after going to several hospitals he found one that would take him and he said they didn'...	Overcome	6	529	Aug 6, 2009 by sterling7
	New here (Preview) Hello All, I am new here and not really sure where to even start...I am married to an A but I am sure I dont have to tell anyone here how our life together has went for the past 4 years because if there is an A in your life you know all about the lies, the stealing,the covering up, the disappointment, the tr...	ticswife	5	427	Aug 6, 2009 by Jen
	So many emotions (Preview) Today is a really hard day. I'm very depressed and scared. I woke up crying because I feel so used and violated. I can hardly cope here at work. I just can't understand how someone can be such a horrible human being to treat anyone the way I was treated and have no remorse. I'm also depressed because I allow...	kristielaine	7	464	Aug 6, 2009 by maresie
	Good news & need help (Preview) Good news! I got a job. I will be moving to Goodyear, AZ at the end of this month. I will be working with the forclosure sector and rehabilitating the neighborhoods that have melted in the forclosure fiasco. I need help. For the life of me, I can't find any contact information re meetings in the area. God k...	Tiger2006	6	492	Aug 6, 2009 by blender_girl
	Saying goodbye to a dry drunk and my husband of 10 years. (Preview) Last month, after 5 long months of fighting and begging him to tell me who he was having an affair with, I threw my husband of 10 years out of the house. I quickly confirmed my worst fears that he had been cheating on me since February with a girl who shares his fairly recently discovered spiritual beliefs...	Princess8899	7	3723	Aug 6, 2009 by maresie
	Heartbroken (Preview) Boyfriend and I broke up, it's over for good he says... no explanation. One day he loved me with all his heart and two days later he didn't love me anymore - or so he says. So I'm trying to right myself again, realize that I leaned too hard on a rotten post and fell down again. I'm still brushing myself off...	carolinagirl	8	889	Aug 6, 2009 by maresie
	SELF CARE (Preview) Last night when my sober ABF went to his meeting I was on the computer and looked up co-dependency on you tube. It was like a cloud of denial was lifted. I found myself crying for all the pain I HAVE PUT MYSELF THROUGH. THE words self sacrificing jummped out at me. That is what I have done all my life put e...	Tracy	6	876	Aug 6, 2009 by maresie
	Sponsorship (Preview) Sponsorship was a topic for tonight's meeting and since no one shared on it, I thought I would post a topic on it. I have been doing a lot of reading in the ODAAT in Al-Anon and Courage to Change, mediation books on this topic. It is a very important one and one that shouldn't be taken lightly if you are asked...	Overcome	2	773	Aug 6, 2009 by maresie
	This is tearing me apart (Preview) I can't think straight anymore. My head hurts! What are my choices? Me and my wife (an A in denial), are about to break up. She hasn't really spoken to me in 10 days now. Since she found out that I told our doctor that she's still drinking, even at almost 6 months pregnant. This is my problem: We have two kids...	ajay147	8	796	Aug 6, 2009 by maresie
	Oh so sad ... (Preview) I have posted before but under a different name, which I can't remember. Today I am distraught, as I was yesterday, last week, last year, two years ago. I have been 'hanging on' to a dry drunk who left my family, (we have a 5 year old son together) and moved countries. For the last 2 years I have wanted to b...	sad4life	4	463	Aug 6, 2009 by Rita G
	new here (Preview) OK, this is new to me. I really don't know if my husband is an alcoholic. I know he drinks everyday and is so obnoxious i can't stand him when he is drinking. His drinking doesn't affect his work, he doesn't drink in the morning or anything like that. It is the same routine everyday. After work he stops for a...	imasharm	3	666	Aug 6, 2009 by Inpain
	Freakin annoying........! (Preview) Just as I thought I feel better, I'm back to being sad. I'm getting sick of myself at this point	kristielaine	5	687	Aug 5, 2009 by kristielaine
	Newcome- logistical ?s about meetings (Preview) Hi there- Im new to all of this so am getting my feet wet- glad to have found this board. My husband wants to save our family and get his drinking under control but it is a bumpy road and he has been in therapy about 6 weeks. We have a LOT of underlying stress (child with cancer) that has caused him to progre...	Joanie	5	609	Aug 5, 2009 by Jerry F
	opps (Preview) Hello family, I made a boo-boo. In my post yesterday I said that it was page 174 in C2C, actually it is 74. That's what I get for quoting a page from a book when the book was home and I was not :) Yours in recovery, Mandy	Mandy123	1	292	Aug 5, 2009 by rtexas
	Codependant (Preview) Dear (((All))) My name is Carol and I'm codependant I was reading an earlier post by Tracy and was prompted to post the following 'check list' for codependancy. When I first read this list it was with great amazement. I could put a tick next to every statement I thought THATS ME! All of it applied to...	Mariner	2	704	Aug 5, 2009 by shellyj123
	An Epiphany (Preview) Thanks everyone. Slowly I'm starting see the light. I had a chat with a board member on the AA board, and started talking about how on our birthdays, this month he wanted to get a hotel room. well he wanted to invite this guy that I don't like, who is an alcoholic, and his friends girlfriend, and I remember...	kristielaine	1	593	Aug 5, 2009 by buick23
	How things transpired is what keeps me......... (Preview) Can you help me think my way through this please, because this is what keeps me lingering on this entire issue with my EAB because of the way he left it. This is what transpired the week leading to our breakup. That Tuesday before our breakup, he and his mother had some sort of big argument where she confir...	kristielaine	7	754	Aug 5, 2009 by buick23
	Letting go.. (Preview) In my honest opinion, it's far easier said than done. For 8 months I've struggled with that. I might have a difference of opinion here to on the interpretation of "letting go" - but for me, it means letting go of HIS actions. The consequences to his actions are MY responsibility. For exam...	Inpain	6	741	Aug 5, 2009 by Lotus
	....sugar and spice and everything nice. (Preview) Hi ((((Family)))) I just had a moment I have to tell about. I spent most of the day today in San Antonio playing. I had a great time and was pulling back into my hometown about 9 o'clock. I am tired, but was trying to decide if I wanted to pull into the video store near my house to rent a movie to "watch&...	david62	12	590	Aug 5, 2009 by Peggy7
	A good page in C2C, my humor, and potential disaster was diverted (Preview) Hi all,I saw once again how working your program can really scare your A and just had to share. My addict husband went over to the neighbors Sunday night and came back and said he was going to walk up the little convenience store and buy the neighbor a beer for his birthday. I said ok and went about my busine...	Mandy123	5	652	Aug 5, 2009 by canadianguy
	A fantastic read (Preview) http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/02/fashion/02love.html	Aloha	8	799	Aug 5, 2009 by Inpain
	Oops - skipped a page (Preview) Long after reading ODAT and C2C today, I realized that I had read the wrong date. Apparently, the error occurred yesterday when I skipped August 3 and went right to August 4. This may seem like a minor problem to most, but for me, it has me confused. Should I read August 3's reading tomorrow and then be...	N8SMOM	3	392	Aug 5, 2009 by teddybearpoet
	How do you deal with lie after lie after lie (Preview) My husband has been inactive for only 18 days for the first time in 35 years. I have only known him 10 years and during this time he has never gone any longer than 3 days without drinking. I realize now that the withdrawl symptoms were too much for him to bare so he went right back to it. He finally admitted h...	malady	18	2755	Aug 4, 2009 by Princess8899
	I don't want to just wait till my wife hits bottom (Preview) Is there NOTHING I can do? We've been separated for almost 11 months now but still communicate daily and see each other once or twice a week. I am now 5 and a half months sober. She knows she has a problem but is prejudiced against A.A. because she thinks she already knows everything about it (her dad is a...	FlyingSquirrel	11	989	Aug 4, 2009 by FlyingSquirrel
	what usually happens when A loves you, just can't show you (Preview) When an A stops drinking, are they able to express their love for you better, or does that get worse? He thinks he is, even though I've expressed to him what I need from him, things dont change. You all know the dilemma on our sleeping situation, I've made several posts lately, and he emailed me and said it...	beacheemom	10	764	Aug 4, 2009 by glad lee
	If nothing ever changes, nothing ever changes... (Preview) I remember the first time I read that I thought WOW! How can so few words hold soooo much insight. I remember coming here and being told if I didn't like the way I was feeling to try doing the opposite of what I had been doing and again thought WOW....pretty insightful. Today I am at a wall.......and I eithe...	shellyj123	5	832	Aug 4, 2009 by Inpain
	I did it again.... (Preview) Same old scenario with me and my sister. She gets drunk and I get worried and want to take care of her. She has two addictions alcohol and gambling. I don't even know how she's going to pay her rent. Oh and yes I had to drive over there(45 minutes) to see if she was alright and take her to lunch so that she...	katiecat	6	714	Aug 4, 2009 by Inpain
	update on the unvisit to prison (Preview) I got up at five thirty, drove all the way there with no pain pills. Was all in a dress, did everything I could to my girl body to look ok. Everyone has to fill out an app. to visit someone in prison. Mine should have been done. Guess what, they screwed up. Typical eh? Administration is a joke. So I waited as th...	debilyn	5	500	Aug 4, 2009 by debilyn
	Dumb me :( (Preview) I text him and said "I hope to God that you are getting help - spare me with a violent response - goodbye". Now I feel bad and set myself up for the fact that he won't respond. I guess I'm just angry because everyone got to say what they needed to say but me. He said his peace, my family said what they...	kristielaine	12	696	Aug 4, 2009 by Aloha
	This program works! (Preview) I have made peace--sorta--with everything I'm gonna tell you. Right now I'm still processing through the feelings. But I'm alive, sober, living in the solution, and it's all b/c of y'all. After I lost the job in KS, there was 1 more interview I had: Baylor University, Waco, TX. After a 10 minute interv...	Tiger2006	6	627	Aug 4, 2009 by maresie
	Separating from my A (Preview) After 15 years together, my A and I have separated. His drinking didn't become a problem until the last 4 years, during which time he's logged a total of 120 days inpatient treatment (28 days program, then later, a 90-day transitional living program). He also went to 3 different outpatient treatme...	HG	4	747	Aug 4, 2009 by maresie
	Letter to the Editor... (Preview) I'm grieving. One of our local 15 year old female died of apparent alcohol poisoning. I wanna scream and throw a tantrum!!!! I'll end up outside doing a chant to HP. HP knows. HP hears me. I don't need further proof. This is a grievable offense and so that is what happens with me. I've worked with t...	Jerry F	14	536	Aug 4, 2009 by barisax
	Newness... (Preview) Welperz... Yesterday was the start of my Son's Practice for Soccer, and My SIL & I desided to make a go of it, and while they practiced we would "Walk" for a Healthier US... She too is in Al-anon Program... Well honestly I looked forward to it all day... We walked to her Aunts to find out wh...	Jozie	1	547	Aug 4, 2009 by Tracy
	Looking back without staring (Preview) Well it's 11:40 p.m. I guess it's still officially August 3, so I can share on what the C2C reading on Aug. 3th meant to me. I must start with the beginning sentence, "There was a time in my life when I furiously insisted that alcoholism did not exist in my family." I remember being at a Thanksgi...	Overcome	2	741	Aug 4, 2009 by maresie
	I'm so sad and mad (Preview) A-bf has been in hospital x 4 weeks now... 2-weeks in ICU and 2-weeks on a floor. He had had so much alcohol and pain-killers in his body that his liver and kidneys shut down. He then went into heart failure; had pneumonia and 2 other infections. Has needed transfusions and dialysis. He is still very w...	ESH	5	882	Aug 3, 2009 by ESH
	Control can be a funny thing... (Preview) No really. I've been recognizing when and how my life has been controlled and how I control. My AH-sober-dry drunk (not b/c he wants to but because he wants to stay with his family) decided after watching a reality show on baking cakes, that he wanted to bake one. I had to secrety laugh to myself but to...	Inpain	5	634	Aug 3, 2009 by penelope
	Disappointed and exhausted (Preview) Hi everyone, I don't really ever post on the board but that doesn't mean I don't work my program, I am often in online meetings, f2f, and do my daily readings, but have a really hard time sharing sometimes. Well, right now I really need some support, as I just came back from a week long business trip to Cal...	newbelief	4	918	Aug 3, 2009 by newbelief
	Someone stop me please! (Preview) I want to call him so bad, I want him to know how much he hurt me, but I want to know he's not angry with me. What is wrong with me!! I'm shaking, crying, my stomach hurts. There is absolutely nothing positive to go back to him for but I need to hear his voice :(	kristielaine	10	743	Aug 3, 2009 by kristielaine
	Wallet and dysfunctional family update (Preview) Hi... I posted earlier that I got blasted from my folks for losing my wallet. I appreciated all your support! Those of you who said that I shouldn't be giving my parents stuff to worry about-- you're right. I will try to stick to this and watch my speech around them. The way it goes is that anything tha...	Cashey100	2	625	Aug 3, 2009 by Cashey100
	This too shall pass......Holding on and diggin in with all I have.... (Preview) To update everyone, the new friend "M" of the EXABF emailed me today to let me know pretty much that she emailed EXABF last night and told him that she was sorry but wasn't ready to start dating right now and her daughters didn't want her too, and that there was to much drama in his life that she d...	shellyj123	0	517	Aug 3, 2009 by shellyj123
	running away.... (Preview) In todays ODAAT in Al-Anon reading, August 1, it talks about how sometimes we think that by running away from our problems that all could be solved. I know I have tried this approach myself and can attest to the fact that it does not work. When I first married at 19 to an active drinker, I had no idea what alc...	Overcome	8	600	Aug 3, 2009 by sterling7
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