Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

TF · TF

I have heard alot lately about the book getting them sober by toby rice. i was just wondering if this book is a good read for families of recovery alcoholics or if it focuses on the active alcoholic. any feedback would be greatly appreciated. Tara

Tracy · Tracy

I have notice a lot lately how I react to what ever environment I am in or what people I am surrounded by. My boss talks about others, critising, judging I dont want to hear it but I am trying to be polite and I feel obliged to engage in the conversation. I always try and get her to see that other persons good p...

debilyn · debilyn

I am overwhelmed with all the people who took time to read my "lost" post. Also to all the ones who responded. I was so afraid my integrity was ruined but you all showed me the truth. It has been a HUGE lesson! thank you! Next time someone attacks my person, as we know in this world it happens too m...

maresie · maresie

I'm two years out from leaving the A. In fact this weekend is the 2nd anniverary of my taking the dogs from him. That was one of the parts of severing the tie. For me there was a long long road to leaving. The leaving went on long after I had left. In fact in so many ways I am still leaving that relationship...

Rita G · Rita G

5 years ago today - I walked into my first Al-Anon meeting. Scared, unsure of why I was going and how in the world could this thing called Al-Anon help me. I just knew that at that time in my life, I was separated from my husband, he was 6 months sober and I was still miserable, angry and wanting something to c...

Mariner · Mariner

Dear (((((All)))) Today is my MIP 1st birthday I dont recall how I found this place, I was distraught and my life had become unmanagble, obviously my HP brought me here. The one thing I do remember clearly is the feeling I got from the welcome I received. The responses to my original posts where amazin...

New member In need of advice · stigirl

Hi, I just signed up so this is my first post. My father has been fighting all sorts of addictions his whole life. He is on MMT and he continues to drink hard alcohol daily. He has been to rehab 3 times and says he will never go back. I live 30 minutes from my parents house and am at the point where I refu...

teddybearpoet · teddybearpoet

Some of you know I have had problems with depression for many years.. And have gone to the hospital for it as well.. The last couple of weeks I am back there.. I have talked to some in the room.. Ever shared about not being in a good place right now in meetings and in chat.. Friday i spoke to the doc and we are ho...

Inpain · Inpain

When I first came to al-anon, I could not even meet the eyes of the people in the room. I cried silently, in fear, and had so much resentment for even being there. I hit bottom. We talk about A's hitting bottom. I hit mine. At the time I hit the al-anon doorsteps, I didn't recognize who I had become. LI...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok, So here the last couple of days I have been doin some much needed soul searching, and it came to me from a Loving Friend, that I Love others with an open heart, but... Myself... Not so much... I was not offended by this, by no means... but it did bring up somethings that I just never thought about... I alw...

Moe · Moe

Went to my first meeting yesterday and OH Boy. I have/had no idea. I guess that most of us outsiders had no idea what a different life members lead. I got up explained my dilemma then listened to others talk, some were just like me when they started others were just like my girlfriend is/was. One thing I n...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I have been seeing a great guy for the past 2 mths. We have been going really slowly-at my request and his understanding of where I am, and where I have been, but the past two weeks I can see more in him than I wanted to see. He has so many good qualitites and seems genuine. He does drink on occassion but no...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Just wanted to wish you all who are here in the States a HAPPY LABOR DAY weekend. Enjoy the last traditional weekend of summer. I hope you get the kiddies off to school without loosing your mind! I have seen the glazed look on the parents' faces when they come in to buy sneakers. I hope...

Inpain · Inpain

Thank you to everyone to prayed for me last night. I went into the night with one situation in my mind making me VERY anxious. That situation turned out great. My A had strength last night. I know I can't expect anything for the future, but I am grateful for last night. It was interesting though becaus...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Thank you for all the wonderful advice. I took my daughter and her boyfriend to lunch today. I simple let it fly, I told my daughter that I love her and I will support her and her daughter until she finishes school. That promise I made to her 2 yrs ago and I intend to keep it. After all you a...

Dazzlingirl329 · Dazzlingirl329

I am 36 and have been married for 14 years. My husband and I have 1 teenage daughter. My husband is an alcoholic. I have just recently realized that - yes he is one. I can't go to Alanon meetings locally because of the time that the group meets and I can't keep going like I am with out help. I have alwa...

Moe · Moe

I've been dating a girl for years who used to be married to an abusive Alcoholic. She tried everything to get him to stop but that's in her past now. My problem is she lives thes courage to change books as if they are the Bible. I am everything her Ex. wasn't. We never argue, we never fight, we've never had a d...

maresie · maresie

Recently in the past few months I met a neighbor who told me he was sober and living in a clean and sober house. I made a point of not getting too chummy. After a while I noticed that he didn't have much together and always had money problems. That was a red flag. Last week I learned from him that he isn't r...

woopsadaisy · woopsadaisy

Hello Everyone, I am new here and joined the group because I was distraught over my fiance's addictions. It seems that the first two steps were big eye openers for me. They were what I needed to hear! I got the 12 step book, and have been reading it, and re-reading it. What it says about instincts is reall...

Inpain · Inpain

I'm in a bit of an anxious situation.. I knew I'd be anxious and I have to keep repeating, "I cannot control it..I cannot control it", and just pray myself. I'm really focussing on me, but this disease not only affects my A, but me as well. It's very difficult. My mind gets the best of me a LOT o...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok so as most of you know, I have been handling my Afathers affairs since he past last Nov. and it has been nothing short of an up hill battle, and thanks to the help of Al-anon/ACOA I have been moving along, working my program, doing my best, and welp... It dawned on me today that my last conversation with m...

kissers · kissers

I don't know whether to cry or scream. I just heard someone speak tonight who is in AA. It was like everything he did to other people is exactly what my family did to me. They sabotaged my efforts to go to college or lashed out at me. He told me that the reason they did this was because they were jealous. How co...

Bella333 · Bella333

Hello everyone. I want to report some recent progress dealing with my life thanks to Alanon. This past weekend I went to a wedding where my ex-boyfriend (who accompanied me as my platonic date as we are both friends with the bridal couple) threw me a huge curve ball. He got extremely drunk and started hi...

maresie · maresie

I am so glad I read Karilyn's post on resentments today. I have been in a slump, overwhelmed with life pains. I am poor, strapped for time, energy, motivation. I am lonely and isolated and know getting a ftf support group doesn't come overnight. I tried a group therapy for a few weeks and can't say I wil...

Denise · Denise

My husband has come to realize that he has an alcohol problem. He as of today has went to 2 meetings. He has had a problem for years now. Now that he is begining this new life I want to be there for him but I feel helpless and don't really know how to help him. I came from a family to drinkers and have been around i...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, I am truly at wits end here and I just need to vent a little. My daughter has a boyfriend who just seemed to move right on in and I don't like it at all. My daughter Samantha started college this fall, she has a beautiful daughter and a bright future ahead of her. However seems like she has fo...

Inpain · Inpain

I've done a lot of blaming of my father...he was a dry drunk, mean, angry, pissed off at the world, and never could say he loved me, never showed affection. It hurt. I could never figure it out. Now at almost 40 I've gotten it. I'm making peace. I get it. What's interesting is I've idolized my mom my w...

Kara · Kara

Hi Everyone, This is my first time visiting and posting to this forum, so I look forward to meeting all of you and reading your stories and advice. My question is: have any of you ever experienced the displacement, or transference, of anger (or another emotion)? Perhaps you have reacted with...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...Gather up some of those unsent prayers and fly them down this way for a Family Group member of ours whose wife is on life support. It isn't maintenance this is termination. Cunning, Powerful and Baffling, the disease owned her and for short periods of time she could and would go into a...

Earthwoman54 · Earthwoman54

Hello, I live in Texas and have been in Alanon for years and have not found a good sponsor. At the present time I have a temporary sponsor in which I did my 4th and 5th step with. I feel much better about myself since going on and taking the leap of a 4th and 5th step. I feel like the person who is my temp. sponso...

Dan · Dan

Hi - I'm a new guy. I have attended Alanon on and off for a few years now, but have never attempted to work the program. My brother has been an admitted alcoholic for 7 or more years now, and was in denial for probably 8-10 years before that. This summer, his long-suffering wife found out about an affair h...

mia883 · mia883

I would like to know why the number of men at each alanon meeting has been declining?. When I came in 1987 to the meetings they were two or three men per meeting. Going to assembly usually about 20 men in 1988. In 2009, 22 years laters only or 1 man per meeting and at assembly only 4 or 5 men. Can anyone expla...

Diva · Diva

after complete, total computer crash. Newly built, all new computer is now online, so I must get busy and read all the posts. I send best wishes, love, and joy to all of you. Diva

chezza · chezza

I'd like to share this wee video with you guys as it's approach is all about "stinking thinking" and replacing it with positivity = Gratitude. I have have GIVEN myself a tough 4 days due to resentment build up. I basically started t...

tkyater2003 · tkyater2003

im havng a real hard time real hard time just need a few freinds only beeen coming here for a few days. im havng hard time with that BIG E WORD ENABLING ANY ADVICE WOULD HELP AND DEATCHMENT ALOS IM JUST BEGINNG SO IM TRYING I REALLY AM BUT THERE IS SO MUCH I DONT KNOW. Please look for a Private Message fr...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

After all that stuff happened with my husband the other day (getting suspended from work, possibly driving drunk, spending the afternoon in a bar), his brother decided to take away the car he was loaning him. (My husband was in an accident back in July and totaled his car. His brother loaned him his ca...

journeygirl · journeygirl

Hi everyone. I have spent a great deal of time on this site in the past few days and have learned a great deal. I am planning on trying my first f2f meeting next week. Everything Al-Anon teaches makes perfect sense for the most part, and I am trying to take it all in. My AH is on his 4th day of a 28-day rehab stin...

Overcome · Overcome

In this week I've had two f2f meetings and at least one meeting on-line that were about resentments. I think my HP is wanting me to take a deeper look at some of the resentments that I have. I am working my 4th step again and had completed the "resentment" portion of the BluePrint for Progress W...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everyone, I've noticed something odd lately about myself. I've had a progressive vision loss over the last few years and when it reached the point of being legally blind I started having panic attacks in various places. It always seemed random and out of the blue, until one day at the hardware st...

maresie · maresie

Before al anon if an ex contacted me I felt I owed them a chance. This past week an ex from long before the ex A wrote me like some casual person saying hello. He did it through a social networking site thank goodness so I did not have to wonder how he got my email. For once I am clear on who I will speak to and w...

maire rua · maire rua

At the moment I need to detach from someone who is unable to mind their own business. I have just had an unpleasant telephone call from them. I find that when I have hung up from this person I am usually in receipt of information that I should not know, do not need to know and I get sucked in to a charade of a fri...

r1nn · r1nn

Hello! I'm Rinn and I'm new to this Alanon Online group. Some of you have seen me in the Alanon chatroom but for those who haven't (which is probably a lot) I'll tell you my story. I've been in Alanon since June of 2009. Currently my mom has been sober for 7 months. I was a codependent (and I guess now I'm a...

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

I'm 6 months sober and it became clear that I was a threat to my wife's chances of getting sober, just like she is a threat to my sobriety. I noticed her car outside the bar, went inside and she was with the guy whose window I threw a rock through a year ago. (I don't think she's actually cheating on me, but I...

peacewithin · peacewithin

I'm not a drinker but my dad was and so is my husband. Sometimes I feel like having one. Just to forget the pain. I know this is dangerous. Why do I feel this way. Last week my brother came over and we had a couple glasses of wine. Now I feel guility fior having them. I'm afarid alcohol. I'm afarid of being out...

Samsgram · Samsgram

Well, I`ll try to condense this. I use to attend Alanon meetings a couple years ago. My daughter has had a drug problem most of her life but I believe she has stopped using crack for about a year now or close to that. My issues are about her beautiful just 6 year old daughter. I love this child since the day sh...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Please allow this very proud Aunt to brag a little on her nieces. My oldest one starts college today. Where does the time go? She will be attending the same college where my beloved Tim & I went. It's where we met. This is the college where her grandma worked for over 20 years. S...

Jozie · Jozie

How Can I be Happy... I was sitting here typing, and posting on some of the shares on the boards, and I was typing to one about me NEEDING a place to go when one passes, and how I have always just needed "that Spot" to remember, and love, and embrace "MY" inner love for a person...And I...

danz123 · danz123

Because of the long Holiday weekend, we will not meet on the first Sunday of the month. The September business meeting will be held on Sunday September 13 at 9 pm est in the chat room. See you all there. Hope you all have a safe and peaceful holiday weekend. hugs, danz

Dale · Dale

Ok want to share something with you all........I have been doing some thinking. Growing up in an a home most things were not condusive to growing up feeling reasured and loved. Always expecting the unexpected, the other shoe to drop as it were. I believe I continued that thinking into my adult life. R...

kissers · kissers

It has taken me a long time to realize that there were times I was being used and I had no idea. Friends pretending to be friends. It must have been that little girl inside who thought the world was a good place. I now have no friends and that is okay. I was laid off last year. I was so stupid that I did not take ca...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Monday started out like any other day.Other than the fact that after being off the weekend I wasn't really ready to go back to work,I was ok.Or so I thought. I am the closer ( I work in retail) and that is because I asked for that shift.I am not a morning person.So usually when I get there on Monday there is a...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, I am passing on this little story, a circulating email that my mom sent to me. Of course, you can replace God with Higher Power, the message is the same. The last line says it all. Such a great reminder. Wishing everyone a good week. Lou When I was a little boy, my mom liked to make break...

masspedirn · masspedirn

I am writing this with a very heavy heart and just a feeling of defeat. My (supposedly sober)BF who just moved back in not 6 weeks ago after a year separation to "get clean and sober" was a little surprised when I walked in the door about 3 hrs earlier than expected. Well, as the title says, he wa...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello everyone! Since my time here at MIP I have learned so many things. You know what..today I am happy. My husband is drunk in the kitchen eating up everything and blowing up something in the microwave as we speak, but...i'm happy with me. I have a fresh cute new haircut, wear my new perfume to bed ev...

Inpain · Inpain

Yes. It's happening for both myself and my AH dry drunk. He said two weeks ago he was going to an AA meeting with a friend. That night, came home and decided to cut the lawn. I asked if he was going,(he was waiting for a friend who bailed out) as I needed to leave to get milk (we have small kids) He said no....

HC2007 · HC2007

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tkyater2003 · tkyater2003

how to get sonsor online and numbers u cna call anytime day or night when u ned to talk im new to this group but not new to it all im a 42 yr old mother of 4 and suffers from deoressin this is my third marrrriage but first one who drank yes i knew he drank whe i met him i did but still feel n love nd more just wwant som...

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

(We've been separated almost a year now). She didn't quit drinking after her DUI, in fact she has pretty much ramped it up. She decided to have people drive her around (most of the time) to try and prevent another DUI, and last night the guy who drove her home raped her in the car. I went there and stayed...

Eve55 · Eve55

So last night started poorly. Got home and H is not there. His bike is gone, so I know he's out with one of two people. In either case I know what he is up to. But still I was kind of surprised that he was out because we had been planning all week to go see Shakespeare in the Park that evening. So I decide to work...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I would venture to say the hardest yet. The ex boyfriend is not talking to me again and I just can't seem to get past it. I went to orientation to get started on my master's degree. I am nervous about the loans, the time commitment, the extra work. I just felt every bad emotion that I have in me all at once...

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	Question (Preview) I have heard alot lately about the book getting them sober by toby rice. i was just wondering if this book is a good read for families of recovery alcoholics or if it focuses on the active alcoholic. any feedback would be greatly appreciated. Tara	TF	6	558	Sep 8, 2009 by canadianguy
	control of self (Preview) I have notice a lot lately how I react to what ever environment I am in or what people I am surrounded by. My boss talks about others, critising, judging I dont want to hear it but I am trying to be polite and I feel obliged to engage in the conversation. I always try and get her to see that other persons good p...	Tracy	7	1888	Sep 8, 2009 by woopsadaisy
	Your support (Preview) I am overwhelmed with all the people who took time to read my "lost" post. Also to all the ones who responded. I was so afraid my integrity was ruined but you all showed me the truth. It has been a HUGE lesson! thank you! Next time someone attacks my person, as we know in this world it happens too m...	debilyn	4	516	Sep 8, 2009 by neshema2
	Getting to the nitty gritty. (Preview) I'm two years out from leaving the A. In fact this weekend is the 2nd anniverary of my taking the dogs from him. That was one of the parts of severing the tie. For me there was a long long road to leaving. The leaving went on long after I had left. In fact in so many ways I am still leaving that relationship...	maresie	5	652	Sep 8, 2009 by maresie
	Happy Recovery Birthday to ME!!! (Preview) 5 years ago today - I walked into my first Al-Anon meeting. Scared, unsure of why I was going and how in the world could this thing called Al-Anon help me. I just knew that at that time in my life, I was separated from my husband, he was 6 months sober and I was still miserable, angry and wanting something to c...	Rita G	12	659	Sep 8, 2009 by Rita G
	One Year On (Preview) Dear (((((All)))) Today is my MIP 1st birthday I dont recall how I found this place, I was distraught and my life had become unmanagble, obviously my HP brought me here. The one thing I do remember clearly is the feeling I got from the welcome I received. The responses to my original posts where amazin...	Mariner	8	603	Sep 7, 2009 by Suzannah
	New member In need of advice (Preview) Hi, I just signed up so this is my first post. My father has been fighting all sorts of addictions his whole life. He is on MMT and he continues to drink hard alcohol daily. He has been to rehab 3 times and says he will never go back. I live 30 minutes from my parents house and am at the point where I refu...	stigirl	8	703	Sep 7, 2009 by abbyal
	Prayer for depression (Preview) Some of you know I have had problems with depression for many years.. And have gone to the hospital for it as well.. The last couple of weeks I am back there.. I have talked to some in the room.. Ever shared about not being in a good place right now in meetings and in chat.. Friday i spoke to the doc and we are ho...	teddybearpoet	12	751	Sep 7, 2009 by teddybearpoet
	A newbie share.. (Preview) When I first came to al-anon, I could not even meet the eyes of the people in the room. I cried silently, in fear, and had so much resentment for even being there. I hit bottom. We talk about A's hitting bottom. I hit mine. At the time I hit the al-anon doorsteps, I didn't recognize who I had become. LI...	Inpain	4	572	Sep 7, 2009 by Peggy7
	Looking for insight & ESH... (Preview) Ok, So here the last couple of days I have been doin some much needed soul searching, and it came to me from a Loving Friend, that I Love others with an open heart, but... Myself... Not so much... I was not offended by this, by no means... but it did bring up somethings that I just never thought about... I alw...	Jozie	2	604	Sep 6, 2009 by maresie
	A-lAnon Killing our Relatioship (Update) (Preview) Went to my first meeting yesterday and OH Boy. I have/had no idea. I guess that most of us outsiders had no idea what a different life members lead. I got up explained my dilemma then listened to others talk, some were just like me when they started others were just like my girlfriend is/was. One thing I n...	Moe	11	867	Sep 6, 2009 by Tracy
	Does it ever just go away?? Completely?? In need of ESH...... (Preview) I have been seeing a great guy for the past 2 mths. We have been going really slowly-at my request and his understanding of where I am, and where I have been, but the past two weeks I can see more in him than I wanted to see. He has so many good qualitites and seems genuine. He does drink on occassion but no...	shellyj123	7	820	Sep 5, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	Happy Labor Day weekend! (Preview) ((((Family))), Just wanted to wish you all who are here in the States a HAPPY LABOR DAY weekend. Enjoy the last traditional weekend of summer. I hope you get the kiddies off to school without loosing your mind! I have seen the glazed look on the parents' faces when they come in to buy sneakers. I hope...	Karilynn	4	540	Sep 4, 2009 by bubbles1990
	Thank you. (Preview) Thank you to everyone to prayed for me last night. I went into the night with one situation in my mind making me VERY anxious. That situation turned out great. My A had strength last night. I know I can't expect anything for the future, but I am grateful for last night. It was interesting though becaus...	Inpain	1	488	Sep 4, 2009 by bubbles1990
	Taking Back Control of My Home (Preview) Hello Friends, Thank you for all the wonderful advice. I took my daughter and her boyfriend to lunch today. I simple let it fly, I told my daughter that I love her and I will support her and her daughter until she finishes school. That promise I made to her 2 yrs ago and I intend to keep it. After all you a...	Andrea12	12	751	Sep 4, 2009 by maresie
	Hi everyone. This is my first time here. Can I live like this and be happy? (Preview) I am 36 and have been married for 14 years. My husband and I have 1 teenage daughter. My husband is an alcoholic. I have just recently realized that - yes he is one. I can't go to Alanon meetings locally because of the time that the group meets and I can't keep going like I am with out help. I have alwa...	Dazzlingirl329	9	692	Sep 4, 2009 by maresie
	A-lAnon Killing our Relatioship (Preview) I've been dating a girl for years who used to be married to an abusive Alcoholic. She tried everything to get him to stop but that's in her past now. My problem is she lives thes courage to change books as if they are the Bible. I am everything her Ex. wasn't. We never argue, we never fight, we've never had a d...	Moe	19	900	Sep 4, 2009 by Moe
	Wrong attitude (Preview) Recently in the past few months I met a neighbor who told me he was sober and living in a clean and sober house. I made a point of not getting too chummy. After a while I noticed that he didn't have much together and always had money problems. That was a red flag. Last week I learned from him that he isn't r...	maresie	9	736	Sep 4, 2009 by maresie
	Hola (Preview) Hello Everyone, I am new here and joined the group because I was distraught over my fiance's addictions. It seems that the first two steps were big eye openers for me. They were what I needed to hear! I got the 12 step book, and have been reading it, and re-reading it. What it says about instincts is reall...	woopsadaisy	3	574	Sep 4, 2009 by woopsadaisy
	Please say a prayer for me tonight.. (Preview) I'm in a bit of an anxious situation.. I knew I'd be anxious and I have to keep repeating, "I cannot control it..I cannot control it", and just pray myself. I'm really focussing on me, but this disease not only affects my A, but me as well. It's very difficult. My mind gets the best of me a LOT o...	Inpain	6	695	Sep 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	Daddy-O Strikes again.... (Preview) Ok so as most of you know, I have been handling my Afathers affairs since he past last Nov. and it has been nothing short of an up hill battle, and thanks to the help of Al-anon/ACOA I have been moving along, working my program, doing my best, and welp... It dawned on me today that my last conversation with m...	Jozie	4	686	Sep 3, 2009 by Andrea12
	The truth has come out. (Preview) I don't know whether to cry or scream. I just heard someone speak tonight who is in AA. It was like everything he did to other people is exactly what my family did to me. They sabotaged my efforts to go to college or lashed out at me. He told me that the reason they did this was because they were jealous. How co...	kissers	7	729	Sep 3, 2009 by canadianguy
	Progress thanks to Alanon (Preview) Hello everyone. I want to report some recent progress dealing with my life thanks to Alanon. This past weekend I went to a wedding where my ex-boyfriend (who accompanied me as my platonic date as we are both friends with the bridal couple) threw me a huge curve ball. He got extremely drunk and started hi...	Bella333	3	417	Sep 3, 2009 by blender_girl
	Life on Life's Terms (Preview) I am so glad I read Karilyn's post on resentments today. I have been in a slump, overwhelmed with life pains. I am poor, strapped for time, energy, motivation. I am lonely and isolated and know getting a ftf support group doesn't come overnight. I tried a group therapy for a few weeks and can't say I wil...	maresie	6	822	Sep 3, 2009 by maresie
	How do I help my husband???? (Preview) My husband has come to realize that he has an alcohol problem. He as of today has went to 2 meetings. He has had a problem for years now. Now that he is begining this new life I want to be there for him but I feel helpless and don't really know how to help him. I came from a family to drinkers and have been around i...	Denise	12	811	Sep 3, 2009 by maresie
	At Wits End (Preview) Hello Friends, I am truly at wits end here and I just need to vent a little. My daughter has a boyfriend who just seemed to move right on in and I don't like it at all. My daughter Samantha started college this fall, she has a beautiful daughter and a bright future ahead of her. However seems like she has fo...	Andrea12	8	699	Sep 3, 2009 by maresie
	The blame game - my family of origin (Preview) I've done a lot of blaming of my father...he was a dry drunk, mean, angry, pissed off at the world, and never could say he loved me, never showed affection. It hurt. I could never figure it out. Now at almost 40 I've gotten it. I'm making peace. I get it. What's interesting is I've idolized my mom my w...	Inpain	3	1671	Sep 3, 2009 by Dazzlingirl329
	Have you ever had displaced anger? (Preview) Hi Everyone, This is my first time visiting and posting to this forum, so I look forward to meeting all of you and reading your stories and advice. My question is: have any of you ever experienced the displacement, or transference, of anger (or another emotion)? Perhaps you have reacted with...	Kara	7	4483	Sep 3, 2009 by RunnerChick
	Time to let some prayers fly... (Preview) Aloha Family...Gather up some of those unsent prayers and fly them down this way for a Family Group member of ours whose wife is on life support. It isn't maintenance this is termination. Cunning, Powerful and Baffling, the disease owned her and for short periods of time she could and would go into a...	Jerry F	22	1203	Sep 3, 2009 by Jozie
	Searching for a Sponsor (Preview) Hello, I live in Texas and have been in Alanon for years and have not found a good sponsor. At the present time I have a temporary sponsor in which I did my 4th and 5th step with. I feel much better about myself since going on and taking the leap of a 4th and 5th step. I feel like the person who is my temp. sponso...	Earthwoman54	2	732	Sep 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	Hello (Preview) Hi - I'm a new guy. I have attended Alanon on and off for a few years now, but have never attempted to work the program. My brother has been an admitted alcoholic for 7 or more years now, and was in denial for probably 8-10 years before that. This summer, his long-suffering wife found out about an affair h...	Dan	6	643	Sep 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	Number of men at each alanon meeting declining? Australia (Preview) I would like to know why the number of men at each alanon meeting has been declining?. When I came in 1987 to the meetings they were two or three men per meeting. Going to assembly usually about 20 men in 1988. In 2009, 22 years laters only or 1 man per meeting and at assembly only 4 or 5 men. Can anyone expla...	mia883	7	1174	Sep 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	I'm baaaaaack......... (Preview) after complete, total computer crash. Newly built, all new computer is now online, so I must get busy and read all the posts. I send best wishes, love, and joy to all of you. Diva	Diva	11	555	Sep 2, 2009 by bubbles1990
	Attitude = Gratitude (Preview) I'd like to share this wee video with you guys as it's approach is all about "stinking thinking" and replacing it with positivity = Gratitude. I have have GIVEN myself a tough 4 days due to resentment build up. I basically started t...	chezza	3	723	Sep 2, 2009 by tea2
	just need a few freinds if u would (Preview) im havng a real hard time real hard time just need a few freinds only beeen coming here for a few days. im havng hard time with that BIG E WORD ENABLING ANY ADVICE WOULD HELP AND DEATCHMENT ALOS IM JUST BEGINNG SO IM TRYING I REALLY AM BUT THERE IS SO MUCH I DONT KNOW. Please look for a Private Message fr...	tkyater2003	5	679	Sep 2, 2009 by Christy
	Do I Confront Him? (Preview) After all that stuff happened with my husband the other day (getting suspended from work, possibly driving drunk, spending the afternoon in a bar), his brother decided to take away the car he was loaning him. (My husband was in an accident back in July and totaled his car. His brother loaned him his ca...	N8SMOM	12	786	Sep 2, 2009 by Aloha
	New here and have a question about detachment... (Preview) Hi everyone. I have spent a great deal of time on this site in the past few days and have learned a great deal. I am planning on trying my first f2f meeting next week. Everything Al-Anon teaches makes perfect sense for the most part, and I am trying to take it all in. My AH is on his 4th day of a 28-day rehab stin...	journeygirl	6	658	Sep 2, 2009 by maresie
	Resentments (Preview) In this week I've had two f2f meetings and at least one meeting on-line that were about resentments. I think my HP is wanting me to take a deeper look at some of the resentments that I have. I am working my 4th step again and had completed the "resentment" portion of the BluePrint for Progress W...	Overcome	5	843	Sep 2, 2009 by Overcome
	Finding peace in panic situations (Preview) Hello Everyone, I've noticed something odd lately about myself. I've had a progressive vision loss over the last few years and when it reached the point of being legally blind I started having panic attacks in various places. It always seemed random and out of the blue, until one day at the hardware st...	Jennifer	5	853	Sep 2, 2009 by Jennifer
	no hesitation. (Preview) Before al anon if an ex contacted me I felt I owed them a chance. This past week an ex from long before the ex A wrote me like some casual person saying hello. He did it through a social networking site thank goodness so I did not have to wonder how he got my email. For once I am clear on who I will speak to and w...	maresie	2	485	Sep 2, 2009 by blender_girl
	people who can't mind their own business (Preview) At the moment I need to detach from someone who is unable to mind their own business. I have just had an unpleasant telephone call from them. I find that when I have hung up from this person I am usually in receipt of information that I should not know, do not need to know and I get sucked in to a charade of a fri...	maire rua	3	651	Sep 2, 2009 by RunnerChick
	introducing myself, woo (Preview) Hello! I'm Rinn and I'm new to this Alanon Online group. Some of you have seen me in the Alanon chatroom but for those who haven't (which is probably a lot) I'll tell you my story. I've been in Alanon since June of 2009. Currently my mom has been sober for 7 months. I was a codependent (and I guess now I'm a...	r1nn	5	723	Sep 2, 2009 by CJ
	I finally cut the cord after a year of being separated. (Preview) I'm 6 months sober and it became clear that I was a threat to my wife's chances of getting sober, just like she is a threat to my sobriety. I noticed her car outside the bar, went inside and she was with the guy whose window I threw a rock through a year ago. (I don't think she's actually cheating on me, but I...	FlyingSquirrel	5	745	Sep 1, 2009 by maresie
	Need Your Help. (Preview) I'm not a drinker but my dad was and so is my husband. Sometimes I feel like having one. Just to forget the pain. I know this is dangerous. Why do I feel this way. Last week my brother came over and we had a couple glasses of wine. Now I feel guility fior having them. I'm afarid alcohol. I'm afarid of being out...	peacewithin	4	542	Sep 1, 2009 by abbyal
	I`am new (Preview) Well, I`ll try to condense this. I use to attend Alanon meetings a couple years ago. My daughter has had a drug problem most of her life but I believe she has stopped using crack for about a year now or close to that. My issues are about her beautiful just 6 year old daughter. I love this child since the day sh...	Samsgram	2	516	Sep 1, 2009 by Mariner
	My Nieces (Preview) ((((Family))), Please allow this very proud Aunt to brag a little on her nieces. My oldest one starts college today. Where does the time go? She will be attending the same college where my beloved Tim & I went. It's where we met. This is the college where her grandma worked for over 20 years. S...	Karilynn	7	541	Sep 1, 2009 by maresie
	I did it alone, but not really... (Preview) How Can I be Happy... I was sitting here typing, and posting on some of the shares on the boards, and I was typing to one about me NEEDING a place to go when one passes, and how I have always just needed "that Spot" to remember, and love, and embrace "MY" inner love for a person...And I...	Jozie	4	793	Aug 31, 2009 by Jozie
	September Business Meeting (Preview) Because of the long Holiday weekend, we will not meet on the first Sunday of the month. The September business meeting will be held on Sunday September 13 at 9 pm est in the chat room. See you all there. Hope you all have a safe and peaceful holiday weekend. hugs, danz	danz123	0	411	Aug 31, 2009 by danz123
	ok here is a thought.........let go of the other shoe (Preview) Ok want to share something with you all........I have been doing some thinking. Growing up in an a home most things were not condusive to growing up feeling reasured and loved. Always expecting the unexpected, the other shoe to drop as it were. I believe I continued that thinking into my adult life. R...	Dale	6	652	Aug 31, 2009 by Mobirdie
	It's been a long time and I am not doing well. (Preview) It has taken me a long time to realize that there were times I was being used and I had no idea. Friends pretending to be friends. It must have been that little girl inside who thought the world was a good place. I now have no friends and that is okay. I was laid off last year. I was so stupid that I did not take ca...	kissers	5	617	Aug 30, 2009 by debilyn
	codependent crazies (Preview) Monday started out like any other day.Other than the fact that after being off the weekend I wasn't really ready to go back to work,I was ok.Or so I thought. I am the closer ( I work in retail) and that is because I asked for that shift.I am not a morning person.So usually when I get there on Monday there is a...	drucilla06	2	612	Aug 30, 2009 by debilyn
	Burnt Biscuits (Preview) Hi Friends, I am passing on this little story, a circulating email that my mom sent to me. Of course, you can replace God with Higher Power, the message is the same. The last line says it all. Such a great reminder. Wishing everyone a good week. Lou When I was a little boy, my mom liked to make break...	Loupiness	1	620	Aug 30, 2009 by debilyn
	came home early to find him drinking.....thought this was over (long) (Preview) I am writing this with a very heavy heart and just a feeling of defeat. My (supposedly sober)BF who just moved back in not 6 weeks ago after a year separation to "get clean and sober" was a little surprised when I walked in the door about 3 hrs earlier than expected. Well, as the title says, he wa...	masspedirn	6	718	Aug 30, 2009 by Inpain
	Nothing changes until "i" change (Preview) Hello everyone! Since my time here at MIP I have learned so many things. You know what..today I am happy. My husband is drunk in the kitchen eating up everything and blowing up something in the microwave as we speak, but...i'm happy with me. I have a fresh cute new haircut, wear my new perfume to bed ev...	Sincerely	7	705	Aug 30, 2009 by Dale
	Progress (Preview) Yes. It's happening for both myself and my AH dry drunk. He said two weeks ago he was going to an AA meeting with a friend. That night, came home and decided to cut the lawn. I asked if he was going,(he was waiting for a friend who bailed out) as I needed to leave to get milk (we have small kids) He said no....	Inpain	4	578	Aug 30, 2009 by Jerry F
	RE: I need advice... (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=30212857	HC2007	2	1085	Aug 29, 2009 by Jerry F
	how to (Preview) how to get sonsor online and numbers u cna call anytime day or night when u ned to talk im new to this group but not new to it all im a 42 yr old mother of 4 and suffers from deoressin this is my third marrrriage but first one who drank yes i knew he drank whe i met him i did but still feel n love nd more just wwant som...	tkyater2003	3	574	Aug 29, 2009 by tkyater2003
	Well my wife got raped last night. (Preview) (We've been separated almost a year now). She didn't quit drinking after her DUI, in fact she has pretty much ramped it up. She decided to have people drive her around (most of the time) to try and prevent another DUI, and last night the guy who drove her home raped her in the car. I went there and stayed...	FlyingSquirrel	14	8448	Aug 29, 2009 by tkyater2003
	Sometimes we find just what we need - In my case a troupe of jugglers! (Preview) So last night started poorly. Got home and H is not there. His bike is gone, so I know he's out with one of two people. In either case I know what he is up to. But still I was kind of surprised that he was out because we had been planning all week to go see Shakespeare in the Park that evening. So I decide to work...	Eve55	5	636	Aug 29, 2009 by sterling7
	yesterday was a really hard day (Preview) I would venture to say the hardest yet. The ex boyfriend is not talking to me again and I just can't seem to get past it. I went to orientation to get started on my master's degree. I am nervous about the loans, the time commitment, the extra work. I just felt every bad emotion that I have in me all at once...	carolinagirl	7	602	Aug 29, 2009 by HC2007
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