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RE: I need advice...
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http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=30212857
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how to
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how to get sonsor online and numbers u cna call anytime day or night when u ned to talk im new to this group but not new to it all im a 42 yr old mother of 4 and suffers from deoressin this is my third marrrriage but first one who drank yes i knew he drank whe i met him i did but still feel n love nd more just wwant som...
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Well my wife got raped last night.
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(We've been separated almost a year now). She didn't quit drinking after her DUI, in fact she has pretty much ramped it up. She decided to have people drive her around (most of the time) to try and prevent another DUI, and last night the guy who drove her home raped her in the car. I went there and stayed...
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Sometimes we find just what we need - In my case a troupe of jugglers!
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So last night started poorly. Got home and H is not there. His bike is gone, so I know he's out with one of two people. In either case I know what he is up to. But still I was kind of surprised that he was out because we had been planning all week to go see Shakespeare in the Park that evening. So I decide to work...
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yesterday was a really hard day
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I would venture to say the hardest yet. The ex boyfriend is not talking to me again and I just can't seem to get past it. I went to orientation to get started on my master's degree. I am nervous about the loans, the time commitment, the extra work. I just felt every bad emotion that I have in me all at once...
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I need advice...
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Been a long time since I have been here ... I need unbias opinions, DH 20 yrs + with addiction really begining to believe he is unable to be honest with self, very hard core user , found with no heart beat once by friend and brought back to life by EMT ect... rehab , yada yada.. family full of adicts and disfun...
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Fell off my wagon, rolled down the road, landed in a river, floated way too far off the path
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Higher Power I hunbly accept and admit to my addiction to attempting to fix other broken people for the comfort, rush .. high I get from it. I humbly accept and admit I use this as a way of avoiding taking care of myself. I humbly accept and admit I ignored every gut inscint, signs from you and let my tools la...
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I am lost
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Something very hurtful happened to me. I don't know how to deal with it or how to get comfort and get passed it. Someone I respected hurt me very badly. How does one heal from something like that? It has never happened to me before. Would appreciate your thoughts. I have been doing all I know how to do. But...
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thinking outloud
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Being in Al Anon I see it has made me think. In the past it gave me thoughts as to how to deal with A's. I sure don't always remember right away though. Anyway it still makes me think of ok how do I grow from this? What can I do better in how I handle things? So I come here and get a world of GREAT thoughts others sha...
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Homegrown Alanon
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I have heard about the "Greatest Generation", the generation that survived the Depression, and WW II, before social security, welfare, and other social services. The generation that just grinned and bore it when things got tough. And things were rough for most, breadwinners died, c...
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To all my MIP Family.....
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Thanks you all so much for all your wonderful comments.. Am sitting at work right now thinking of what is the next right step in my furture ahead... I am so happy and at peace when its just the kids and I but when he walks through the doors I just about loose all my peace because then I walk on eggshells never k...
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August Business Meeting Minutes
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August Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held August 9, 2009 Meeting opened with the serenity prayer Motion to accept July Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Chair Schedule is:AMMon Shimo/no altTue...
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Here we go again.........
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So AH is on his way home from being on a business trip for the week. He travels often for his job. I love it when he's gone. The house is so calm and peaceful. I notice that I nor the kids are tense....we just enjoy being with each other. WHen I know he's coming home, my stomach starts to turn. I am running...
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sad news today
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Last night my 2 granddaughters, Emily and Grace, watched as their dog ran into the street and got hit by a car. He had to be put down as he had many injuries. He was running to them on the other side of the street. I am feeling so sad for their little broken hearts. They are coming to my house tomorrow for the we...
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back online
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Just wanted to let everyone know we recently moved and it took over a week to get the internet fixed so I'm back online now. I missed this board so much.
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New
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Hi! I'm new here. I am looking for support as my mother is an alcoholic. I have just gotten back from paying her last three months rent. I have taken over her money and am buying what she needs to survive and not allowing her money. I've also told her she needs to satrt going to AA and I'll take her. This...
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Control
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It's been a very hectic few weeks for me. My mom had seizures and ended up in the hospital. The doctors think it is just stress but I'm still worried it might be something more. Then a friend passed away a week ago. Which, has been very hard on me because I don't have many friends or people I'm close to. I then...
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AlAnon clarity/confusion.....just a share.....
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For some reason the past few days I have been thinking somewhat about the program itself as I continue to work it. And I'm thinking if I could have some confusion as much time off and on as I've spent in it-so could others. I'd love to hear some ESH:) I realize that AlAnon is a program that doesn't focus on...
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Three Days out in the desert!!
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Aloha All!! For three days I couldn't even find the link to MIP eventually running over the entire list of bizarre "could bes" and then finding my way back into acceptance and letting my HP work it out. Now here you all are again. Happy it wasn't a blackout. LOL (((((hugs))))) Welco...
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Newly divorced
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Well I made it through 'D day with out any major pitfalls, except I couldn't get into MIP message board or chat room...ughhh! I finally got into the message board today, so thought I would let everyone know that I survived! I met the lawyer at 8:15 a.m. yesterday morning and we took the block walk up to the...
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Addiction to Misery
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** Addiction to Misery **Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D. I have often reflected on why some people stay stuck in being miserable. No matter what life presented them, they would pick out certain variables to show that once again life was against them. This pattern went beyond your basic garden negativit...
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What a Day
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Got a call from my sister-in-law this afternoon. Apparently my husband was suspended from work today and was at the bar drinking for 4 hours. The only reason we know this is because he called his Dad and she lives with her Dad. So I had to go pick my husband up from the bar. I still don't know what really...
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addicted to truth?
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I got the 12 step/ 12 traditions book and read most of it in one read. Good book!~ I am working on the moral inventory step at this point, and I wonder how far back I need to go, and if when it comes time to make ammends, if I need to just tell ANYONE, or if I need to tell the person... There are a couple things, ri...
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Have a Question....
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Why are there Little Tags... Next to my post... Anyone..... Thanks Jozie
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Fantasy/ Illusions
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I was driving in the car with my aunt the other day. She wanted to take a trip for work related thing. I told her I did not want to go. She started screaming at me and bullied me into say yes. I know I did not need to let her affect my emotions like that but I did allow it. She has a way of getting to me for some reason...
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Amazing How HP works
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This is a true story. It happened to me about three months ago: One night after my Tuesday night f2f meeting I was talking to a lady in our group outside. We talked for 10 or 15 minutes. After I left I forgot that I had left my "Courage To Change" book on top of my car. It was 9:00 pm so I did not notic...
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His Martyrdom, My Anger
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I simply don't get it. Why does someone else's martyrdom make me soooo angry. First I want to at least give myself a pat on the back for at least recognizing the insanity - which took reassurance from my sponsor. But why do i bother letting it get to me. My AH lost his license due to DUI. After a few weeks of...
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At a f2f mtg last night...
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As some of you may know, I don't always find myself to be working the program well. Lots of times I feel like I am off track. There are times when I feel great sadness, anger and fear of my situation, which I have to intentionally work through, in order to resurface with a better attitude. I was paid the mo...
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Just a test drive - Whats your thoughts?
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Struggling with control....
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Hi all-- This is my first post! I have been lurking here for several months and have been attending f2f meetings for 2 months now. My alcoholic husband is sober 2 months too, following a 5 day stay in detox and a successfully completed IOP. I am struggling so much these days with trying to control him and h...
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So.....today is his birthday....
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Well, I got through the day ok. Did alot for myself. Worked on some projects along with school work. But all the while, in the very back of my mind, I couldn't help but think that today is my exbf's birthday. It was difficult to let this day go by without sending him a card, an email or making a call. Bu...
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Java still down...but here is an option that might work to get into our chat
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Hello all, Just wanted to let everyone know that Java seems to still be not responding. I have an option for anyone if they are a little computer savvy...it is another IRC chat program. I downloaded it quite awhile ago before I started using MIRC. It seems to be quite user friendly and easy to set up. ...
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JAVA is tormenting me
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Please oh please Mr. Java , get your act together ? wp
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Am Back .... And starting all over again.....
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Well, here I am in the glass box that I started out in 6 years ago when I first started Al anon!! I could see out but no one could see in!! I was in there alone dealing with my sickness feeling as thou I had no hope for survival But then I was introduced to Ala non by my mother in law who has been in the program for so...
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Learning lots about me and the meeting room is unavailable11111
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Hi everyone...sure wish I could get into the meeting. I have been under alot of stress and my blood pressure is extremely low. This I am reading can cause anxiety, depression, and other ailments. I am very concerned and I have apt with doc on Wednesday. I went to the health food store and got some nat...
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Attitude
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you cannot tailor make your situation in life, but you can tailor make your attitudes to fit those situations. Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said that, andhe was profoundly right. How you shape your attitude is nota small part of how you shape your life..it is the only part. Christy
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What is it like for the sobering up alcoholic? Any advice appreciated!
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My partner and I of a year and a half have a wonderful relationship. Now we do. The first year was ROUGH but for six months he has been sober! Since he has stopped drinking I have grown to know this AMAZING man who has will power beyond comprehension. His heart is golden and when I think back to the person he U...
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Tomorrow is D day.
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Tomorrow morning I am getting my divorce from alcoholic husband. I have very many mixed feelings about this; sadness, relief, anger, justification, ambievalence, fear, apathy, a virtual cornacopia of emotions. I think my biggest struggle right now is with fear. Walking into that courtroom with...
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Java is not responding...
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Monday Night - August 24th Just wanted to let everyone know that Connecting to the chat room or trying to come to the message board by way of the Home page...through JAVA - is not working. Seems as though no one can get into the chat or message board...all day long. If you have been trying to get in...ke...
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Interesting where the brain tries to shift blame.
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In October, I'm going to be flying to Kauai for our Hawaii Al-Anon fall assembly. Neither my AH nor I have been to Kauai yet, so I thought it would maybe be fun to take a couple extra days padded around the fall assembly weekend to spend visiting the island with my AH. He was excited to go and made plans to joi...
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Having a hard time going to face to face meetings
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Hello. I have been going to Alanon face to face meetings about three times per week since January 2009. I looked forward to meetings, shared fairly often, read a lot of literature, found a sponsor and started to talk with a woman from the group fairly often. Unfortunately I have not enjoyed going to me...
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What to do......
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My daughter recently had her first baby so my 7 yr old and I went to visit for the summer. We were gone for 2 months. My alcoholic husband knew that this time was going to be used to evaluate where our marriage/relationship was going. He stayed drunk. He did take one big step and admitted to his supervi...
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New here and looking for support and hope...
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Good evening everyone... I have been a lurker here and read so many stories. You all inspire me to believe that there is a road to recovery out there, all we need to do to find it is put one foot on it, and give the rest to God. My ABF is what I would call a 'functioning' alcoholic. He is financially responsibl...
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New here
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Hi this is my first time posting on this site. My ah and i have been married for almost 11 years, 1 year 5 months of it he has been sober. Although he is not actively working the program he attends therapy once a week and has been since he came home from rehab last year. things have gotten better but he sees...
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Feeling really down~What to do when amends just aren't enough?? ESH needed
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The guy I have been dating the past 5 weeks and I had plans to take my son and his kids to the state park Sat for our first "day trip". I was all excited and looking forward to my day off after a LONG hard week, and spending time with everyone. I normally like to leave early when I plan a day trip, bu...
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I think I've turned the corner
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I am finally feeling like me again instead of an us missing one and being miserable all the time. I'm at the point now where I think he can't have me back even if he wanted me. I was too good for him. Sure took a while for self respect to kick in though. It has taken several weeks for me to get to the point tha...
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How will I feel tomorrow?
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Hi All, It's been a while since I posted. I try but nothing will come out that makes sense! So I end up deleting a page of dribble after writing it for hours. Even at f2f meetings I can't string two words together that make sense to me or anyone else. I am in a "zombie zone" or something. W...
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Nightmares
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Hi all, Little by little I am gaining understanding of what happened with my A ex-bf. I no longer feel the guilt for breaking up with him. I no longer accept his words of blame. And although I still miss him, I feel the progress of peace and healing. I do, however, relive some of the moments over the last...
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Frustration....
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I still live life on such a survival thread. A check I am due is lost and it will take probably about 2 weeks to catch up. I'm devastated. I don't see it as a lesson learning to live on less. I am full of frustration, anger and impotence. There is no way I am not going to get the check but I can't see any goo...
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Why Can't I Let This Go???
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I know that I am supposed to keep the focus on myself and that I have to let go of things that I cannot control...but I am so terribly terribly stuck... I don't understand myself ...or what is happening....and I don't want to keep doing this and I don't want this pain to go on anymore. I am trying to work my pr...
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New to this.....Breakup with my alcoholic boyfriend.....
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Very recently I had to push away my HFA boyfriend - the man I love more than anything in this world - because of his drinking problem. Although I feel the path this addiction is taking him down is tragic and it breaks my heart, his behavior was unacceptable to me and I broke up with him in the middle of our va...
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I'm new and dealing with a dry drunk
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Hi everyone, I'm new to this site. I've been here once before really quickly to just read but after another "dysfunctional" episode with my BF last Sunday, I returned to this site and signed up I don't even know where to begin telling my story, but I can say that from reading non stop here...
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I hate that.......
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I hate that D~ is my last thought before falling asleep and the first thought as I wake up. I don't want it to be that way and it's frustrating. When will it just go away?
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Amazed at the clarity HP sent my way tonight
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Literally drug myself, covered in sweat and bug spray (from Soccer practice) to my F2F meeting tonight. It took everything I had to get there because honestly, all I wanted to do was come home from practice and sleep. I prayed on the way there for HP to speak to me through that room and those people. I pr...
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Good and bad life happens
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The good thing is that I am now 3 sizes down and still shrinking. The bad things are where I am living, how I am living, isolation and lots of balls up in the air. I never could manage life with good and bad. Now I am having to and don't have much experience of being sucessful at it. Maresie.
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Proud..
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of mysef. I had a mini setback. My AH-dry drunk didn't go to AA last night. He had opportunity everywhere and didn't take it. He waited and waited for a friend to go with whom couldn't go, and when that person fell through, he used it as an excuse and bailed. There were several meetings he could have g...
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Confused about boundaries
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First off I want to start by saying how grateful I am for this board and all the help I have gotten from Alanon as a whole. My problem is very difficult for me .... maybe even more difficult that the drinking. My husband has been sober for 20 months. I started alanon before he went to rehab so we pretty much...
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The emotional hurt is what it is...
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he's been in a foul mood for a while but not taking his inventory, just ducking to miss the shards coming by way. Now, I'm glad I'm not there with him! Do I really want that? Altho, I miss him so much, just not this side of him. i'm going to a meeting this weekend... accepting the things I cannot cha...
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New to Al-Anon, but familiar with the problems.
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Hello everyone, I am an eighteen year old female. I have a father who seems like he never stops drinking. To make things worse, my parents always fight about it, and my grandmother (his mother) makes up excuses for him. I heard her say once, "he's not drunk, he's just tired". It made me wonder...
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"My Life Has Become Unmangable"....
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After some "board Poke'n" and reading around, I have realized that i am missing out on wonderful things, I am missing out on others growth, and friends sharing amungst themselves, moving forward, keeping it real... I have finally realized my problem is ME!!! (Ok I'm sure You All knew that...
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