Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

tkyater2003 · tkyater2003

im havng a real hard time real hard time just need a few freinds only beeen coming here for a few days. im havng hard time with that BIG E WORD ENABLING ANY ADVICE WOULD HELP AND DEATCHMENT ALOS IM JUST BEGINNG SO IM TRYING I REALLY AM BUT THERE IS SO MUCH I DONT KNOW. Please look for a Private Message fr...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

After all that stuff happened with my husband the other day (getting suspended from work, possibly driving drunk, spending the afternoon in a bar), his brother decided to take away the car he was loaning him. (My husband was in an accident back in July and totaled his car. His brother loaned him his ca...

journeygirl · journeygirl

Hi everyone. I have spent a great deal of time on this site in the past few days and have learned a great deal. I am planning on trying my first f2f meeting next week. Everything Al-Anon teaches makes perfect sense for the most part, and I am trying to take it all in. My AH is on his 4th day of a 28-day rehab stin...

Overcome · Overcome

In this week I've had two f2f meetings and at least one meeting on-line that were about resentments. I think my HP is wanting me to take a deeper look at some of the resentments that I have. I am working my 4th step again and had completed the "resentment" portion of the BluePrint for Progress W...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everyone, I've noticed something odd lately about myself. I've had a progressive vision loss over the last few years and when it reached the point of being legally blind I started having panic attacks in various places. It always seemed random and out of the blue, until one day at the hardware st...

maresie · maresie

Before al anon if an ex contacted me I felt I owed them a chance. This past week an ex from long before the ex A wrote me like some casual person saying hello. He did it through a social networking site thank goodness so I did not have to wonder how he got my email. For once I am clear on who I will speak to and w...

maire rua · maire rua

At the moment I need to detach from someone who is unable to mind their own business. I have just had an unpleasant telephone call from them. I find that when I have hung up from this person I am usually in receipt of information that I should not know, do not need to know and I get sucked in to a charade of a fri...

r1nn · r1nn

Hello! I'm Rinn and I'm new to this Alanon Online group. Some of you have seen me in the Alanon chatroom but for those who haven't (which is probably a lot) I'll tell you my story. I've been in Alanon since June of 2009. Currently my mom has been sober for 7 months. I was a codependent (and I guess now I'm a...

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

I'm 6 months sober and it became clear that I was a threat to my wife's chances of getting sober, just like she is a threat to my sobriety. I noticed her car outside the bar, went inside and she was with the guy whose window I threw a rock through a year ago. (I don't think she's actually cheating on me, but I...

peacewithin · peacewithin

I'm not a drinker but my dad was and so is my husband. Sometimes I feel like having one. Just to forget the pain. I know this is dangerous. Why do I feel this way. Last week my brother came over and we had a couple glasses of wine. Now I feel guility fior having them. I'm afarid alcohol. I'm afarid of being out...

Samsgram · Samsgram

Well, I`ll try to condense this. I use to attend Alanon meetings a couple years ago. My daughter has had a drug problem most of her life but I believe she has stopped using crack for about a year now or close to that. My issues are about her beautiful just 6 year old daughter. I love this child since the day sh...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Please allow this very proud Aunt to brag a little on her nieces. My oldest one starts college today. Where does the time go? She will be attending the same college where my beloved Tim & I went. It's where we met. This is the college where her grandma worked for over 20 years. S...

Jozie · Jozie

How Can I be Happy... I was sitting here typing, and posting on some of the shares on the boards, and I was typing to one about me NEEDING a place to go when one passes, and how I have always just needed "that Spot" to remember, and love, and embrace "MY" inner love for a person...And I...

danz123 · danz123

Because of the long Holiday weekend, we will not meet on the first Sunday of the month. The September business meeting will be held on Sunday September 13 at 9 pm est in the chat room. See you all there. Hope you all have a safe and peaceful holiday weekend. hugs, danz

Dale · Dale

Ok want to share something with you all........I have been doing some thinking. Growing up in an a home most things were not condusive to growing up feeling reasured and loved. Always expecting the unexpected, the other shoe to drop as it were. I believe I continued that thinking into my adult life. R...

kissers · kissers

It has taken me a long time to realize that there were times I was being used and I had no idea. Friends pretending to be friends. It must have been that little girl inside who thought the world was a good place. I now have no friends and that is okay. I was laid off last year. I was so stupid that I did not take ca...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Monday started out like any other day.Other than the fact that after being off the weekend I wasn't really ready to go back to work,I was ok.Or so I thought. I am the closer ( I work in retail) and that is because I asked for that shift.I am not a morning person.So usually when I get there on Monday there is a...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, I am passing on this little story, a circulating email that my mom sent to me. Of course, you can replace God with Higher Power, the message is the same. The last line says it all. Such a great reminder. Wishing everyone a good week. Lou When I was a little boy, my mom liked to make break...

masspedirn · masspedirn

I am writing this with a very heavy heart and just a feeling of defeat. My (supposedly sober)BF who just moved back in not 6 weeks ago after a year separation to "get clean and sober" was a little surprised when I walked in the door about 3 hrs earlier than expected. Well, as the title says, he wa...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello everyone! Since my time here at MIP I have learned so many things. You know what..today I am happy. My husband is drunk in the kitchen eating up everything and blowing up something in the microwave as we speak, but...i'm happy with me. I have a fresh cute new haircut, wear my new perfume to bed ev...

Inpain · Inpain

Yes. It's happening for both myself and my AH dry drunk. He said two weeks ago he was going to an AA meeting with a friend. That night, came home and decided to cut the lawn. I asked if he was going,(he was waiting for a friend who bailed out) as I needed to leave to get milk (we have small kids) He said no....

HC2007 · HC2007

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=30212857

tkyater2003 · tkyater2003

how to get sonsor online and numbers u cna call anytime day or night when u ned to talk im new to this group but not new to it all im a 42 yr old mother of 4 and suffers from deoressin this is my third marrrriage but first one who drank yes i knew he drank whe i met him i did but still feel n love nd more just wwant som...

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

(We've been separated almost a year now). She didn't quit drinking after her DUI, in fact she has pretty much ramped it up. She decided to have people drive her around (most of the time) to try and prevent another DUI, and last night the guy who drove her home raped her in the car. I went there and stayed...

Eve55 · Eve55

So last night started poorly. Got home and H is not there. His bike is gone, so I know he's out with one of two people. In either case I know what he is up to. But still I was kind of surprised that he was out because we had been planning all week to go see Shakespeare in the Park that evening. So I decide to work...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I would venture to say the hardest yet. The ex boyfriend is not talking to me again and I just can't seem to get past it. I went to orientation to get started on my master's degree. I am nervous about the loans, the time commitment, the extra work. I just felt every bad emotion that I have in me all at once...

HC2007 · HC2007

Been a long time since I have been here ... I need unbias opinions, DH 20 yrs + with addiction really begining to believe he is unable to be honest with self, very hard core user , found with no heart beat once by friend and brought back to life by EMT ect... rehab , yada yada.. family full of adicts and disfun...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Higher Power I hunbly accept and admit to my addiction to attempting to fix other broken people for the comfort, rush .. high I get from it. I humbly accept and admit I use this as a way of avoiding taking care of myself. I humbly accept and admit I ignored every gut inscint, signs from you and let my tools la...

debilyn · debilyn

Something very hurtful happened to me. I don't know how to deal with it or how to get comfort and get passed it. Someone I respected hurt me very badly. How does one heal from something like that? It has never happened to me before. Would appreciate your thoughts. I have been doing all I know how to do. But...

debilyn · debilyn

Being in Al Anon I see it has made me think. In the past it gave me thoughts as to how to deal with A's. I sure don't always remember right away though. Anyway it still makes me think of ok how do I grow from this? What can I do better in how I handle things? So I come here and get a world of GREAT thoughts others sha...

MaryPoppins · MaryPoppins

I have heard about the "Greatest Generation", the generation that survived the Depression, and WW II, before social security, welfare, and other social services. The generation that just grinned and bore it when things got tough. And things were rough for most, breadwinners died, c...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Thanks you all so much for all your wonderful comments.. Am sitting at work right now thinking of what is the next right step in my furture ahead... I am so happy and at peace when its just the kids and I but when he walks through the doors I just about loose all my peace because then I walk on eggshells never k...

ernie · ernie

August Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held August 9, 2009 Meeting opened with the serenity prayer Motion to accept July Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Chair Schedule is:AMMon Shimo/no altTue...

need lots of help · need lots of help

So AH is on his way home from being on a business trip for the week. He travels often for his job. I love it when he's gone. The house is so calm and peaceful. I notice that I nor the kids are tense....we just enjoy being with each other. WHen I know he's coming home, my stomach starts to turn. I am running...

Gailey · Gailey

Last night my 2 granddaughters, Emily and Grace, watched as their dog ran into the street and got hit by a car. He had to be put down as he had many injuries. He was running to them on the other side of the street. I am feeling so sad for their little broken hearts. They are coming to my house tomorrow for the we...

buick23 · buick23

Just wanted to let everyone know we recently moved and it took over a week to get the internet fixed so I'm back online now. I missed this board so much.

SuzanneM · SuzanneM

Hi! I'm new here. I am looking for support as my mother is an alcoholic. I have just gotten back from paying her last three months rent. I have taken over her money and am buying what she needs to survive and not allowing her money. I've also told her she needs to satrt going to AA and I'll take her. This...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

It's been a very hectic few weeks for me. My mom had seizures and ended up in the hospital. The doctors think it is just stress but I'm still worried it might be something more. Then a friend passed away a week ago. Which, has been very hard on me because I don't have many friends or people I'm close to. I then...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

For some reason the past few days I have been thinking somewhat about the program itself as I continue to work it. And I'm thinking if I could have some confusion as much time off and on as I've spent in it-so could others. I'd love to hear some ESH:) I realize that AlAnon is a program that doesn't focus on...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All!! For three days I couldn't even find the link to MIP eventually running over the entire list of bizarre "could bes" and then finding my way back into acceptance and letting my HP work it out. Now here you all are again. Happy it wasn't a blackout. LOL (((((hugs))))) Welco...

Overcome · Overcome

Well I made it through 'D day with out any major pitfalls, except I couldn't get into MIP message board or chat room...ughhh! I finally got into the message board today, so thought I would let everyone know that I survived! I met the lawyer at 8:15 a.m. yesterday morning and we took the block walk up to the...

Gailey · Gailey

** Addiction to Misery **Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D. I have often reflected on why some people stay stuck in being miserable. No matter what life presented them, they would pick out certain variables to show that once again life was against them. This pattern went beyond your basic garden negativit...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Got a call from my sister-in-law this afternoon. Apparently my husband was suspended from work today and was at the bar drinking for 4 hours. The only reason we know this is because he called his Dad and she lives with her Dad. So I had to go pick my husband up from the bar. I still don't know what really...

woopsadaisy · woopsadaisy

I got the 12 step/ 12 traditions book and read most of it in one read. Good book!~ I am working on the moral inventory step at this point, and I wonder how far back I need to go, and if when it comes time to make ammends, if I need to just tell ANYONE, or if I need to tell the person... There are a couple things, ri...

Jozie · Jozie

Why are there Little Tags... Next to my post... Anyone..... Thanks Jozie

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I was driving in the car with my aunt the other day. She wanted to take a trip for work related thing. I told her I did not want to go. She started screaming at me and bullied me into say yes. I know I did not need to let her affect my emotions like that but I did allow it. She has a way of getting to me for some reason...

RLC · RLC

This is a true story. It happened to me about three months ago: One night after my Tuesday night f2f meeting I was talking to a lady in our group outside. We talked for 10 or 15 minutes. After I left I forgot that I had left my "Courage To Change" book on top of my car. It was 9:00 pm so I did not notic...

Ash · Ash

I simply don't get it. Why does someone else's martyrdom make me soooo angry. First I want to at least give myself a pat on the back for at least recognizing the insanity - which took reassurance from my sponsor. But why do i bother letting it get to me. My AH lost his license due to DUI. After a few weeks of...

Rora · Rora

As some of you may know, I don't always find myself to be working the program well. Lots of times I feel like I am off track. There are times when I feel great sadness, anger and fear of my situation, which I have to intentionally work through, in order to resurface with a better attitude. I was paid the mo...

John · John

3littlekittens · 3littlekittens

Hi all-- This is my first post! I have been lurking here for several months and have been attending f2f meetings for 2 months now. My alcoholic husband is sober 2 months too, following a 5 day stay in detox and a successfully completed IOP. I am struggling so much these days with trying to control him and h...

Hawk120025 · Hawk120025

Well, I got through the day ok. Did alot for myself. Worked on some projects along with school work. But all the while, in the very back of my mind, I couldn't help but think that today is my exbf's birthday. It was difficult to let this day go by without sending him a card, an email or making a call. Bu...

lacewing · lacewing

Hello all, Just wanted to let everyone know that Java seems to still be not responding. I have an option for anyone if they are a little computer savvy...it is another IRC chat program. I downloaded it quite awhile ago before I started using MIRC. It seems to be quite user friendly and easy to set up. ...

wp · wp

Please oh please Mr. Java , get your act together ? wp

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Well, here I am in the glass box that I started out in 6 years ago when I first started Al anon!! I could see out but no one could see in!! I was in there alone dealing with my sickness feeling as thou I had no hope for survival But then I was introduced to Ala non by my mother in law who has been in the program for so...

Jeanann · Jeanann

Hi everyone...sure wish I could get into the meeting. I have been under alot of stress and my blood pressure is extremely low. This I am reading can cause anxiety, depression, and other ailments. I am very concerned and I have apt with doc on Wednesday. I went to the health food store and got some nat...

Christy · Christy

you cannot tailor make your situation in life, but you can tailor make your attitudes to fit those situations. Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said that, andhe was profoundly right. How you shape your attitude is nota small part of how you shape your life..it is the only part. Christy

EminMT · EminMT

My partner and I of a year and a half have a wonderful relationship. Now we do. The first year was ROUGH but for six months he has been sober! Since he has stopped drinking I have grown to know this AMAZING man who has will power beyond comprehension. His heart is golden and when I think back to the person he U...

Overcome · Overcome

Tomorrow morning I am getting my divorce from alcoholic husband. I have very many mixed feelings about this; sadness, relief, anger, justification, ambievalence, fear, apathy, a virtual cornacopia of emotions. I think my biggest struggle right now is with fear. Walking into that courtroom with...

lacewing · lacewing

Monday Night - August 24th Just wanted to let everyone know that Connecting to the chat room or trying to come to the message board by way of the Home page...through JAVA - is not working. Seems as though no one can get into the chat or message board...all day long. If you have been trying to get in...ke...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	just need a few freinds if u would (Preview) im havng a real hard time real hard time just need a few freinds only beeen coming here for a few days. im havng hard time with that BIG E WORD ENABLING ANY ADVICE WOULD HELP AND DEATCHMENT ALOS IM JUST BEGINNG SO IM TRYING I REALLY AM BUT THERE IS SO MUCH I DONT KNOW. Please look for a Private Message fr...	tkyater2003	5	596	Sep 2, 2009 by Christy
	Do I Confront Him? (Preview) After all that stuff happened with my husband the other day (getting suspended from work, possibly driving drunk, spending the afternoon in a bar), his brother decided to take away the car he was loaning him. (My husband was in an accident back in July and totaled his car. His brother loaned him his ca...	N8SMOM	12	707	Sep 2, 2009 by Aloha
	New here and have a question about detachment... (Preview) Hi everyone. I have spent a great deal of time on this site in the past few days and have learned a great deal. I am planning on trying my first f2f meeting next week. Everything Al-Anon teaches makes perfect sense for the most part, and I am trying to take it all in. My AH is on his 4th day of a 28-day rehab stin...	journeygirl	6	574	Sep 2, 2009 by maresie
	Resentments (Preview) In this week I've had two f2f meetings and at least one meeting on-line that were about resentments. I think my HP is wanting me to take a deeper look at some of the resentments that I have. I am working my 4th step again and had completed the "resentment" portion of the BluePrint for Progress W...	Overcome	5	762	Sep 2, 2009 by Overcome
	Finding peace in panic situations (Preview) Hello Everyone, I've noticed something odd lately about myself. I've had a progressive vision loss over the last few years and when it reached the point of being legally blind I started having panic attacks in various places. It always seemed random and out of the blue, until one day at the hardware st...	Jennifer	5	769	Sep 2, 2009 by Jennifer
	no hesitation. (Preview) Before al anon if an ex contacted me I felt I owed them a chance. This past week an ex from long before the ex A wrote me like some casual person saying hello. He did it through a social networking site thank goodness so I did not have to wonder how he got my email. For once I am clear on who I will speak to and w...	maresie	2	410	Sep 2, 2009 by blender_girl
	people who can't mind their own business (Preview) At the moment I need to detach from someone who is unable to mind their own business. I have just had an unpleasant telephone call from them. I find that when I have hung up from this person I am usually in receipt of information that I should not know, do not need to know and I get sucked in to a charade of a fri...	maire rua	3	559	Sep 2, 2009 by RunnerChick
	introducing myself, woo (Preview) Hello! I'm Rinn and I'm new to this Alanon Online group. Some of you have seen me in the Alanon chatroom but for those who haven't (which is probably a lot) I'll tell you my story. I've been in Alanon since June of 2009. Currently my mom has been sober for 7 months. I was a codependent (and I guess now I'm a...	r1nn	5	641	Sep 2, 2009 by CJ
	I finally cut the cord after a year of being separated. (Preview) I'm 6 months sober and it became clear that I was a threat to my wife's chances of getting sober, just like she is a threat to my sobriety. I noticed her car outside the bar, went inside and she was with the guy whose window I threw a rock through a year ago. (I don't think she's actually cheating on me, but I...	FlyingSquirrel	5	655	Sep 1, 2009 by maresie
	Need Your Help. (Preview) I'm not a drinker but my dad was and so is my husband. Sometimes I feel like having one. Just to forget the pain. I know this is dangerous. Why do I feel this way. Last week my brother came over and we had a couple glasses of wine. Now I feel guility fior having them. I'm afarid alcohol. I'm afarid of being out...	peacewithin	4	460	Sep 1, 2009 by abbyal
	I`am new (Preview) Well, I`ll try to condense this. I use to attend Alanon meetings a couple years ago. My daughter has had a drug problem most of her life but I believe she has stopped using crack for about a year now or close to that. My issues are about her beautiful just 6 year old daughter. I love this child since the day sh...	Samsgram	2	434	Sep 1, 2009 by Mariner
	My Nieces (Preview) ((((Family))), Please allow this very proud Aunt to brag a little on her nieces. My oldest one starts college today. Where does the time go? She will be attending the same college where my beloved Tim & I went. It's where we met. This is the college where her grandma worked for over 20 years. S...	Karilynn	7	455	Sep 1, 2009 by maresie
	I did it alone, but not really... (Preview) How Can I be Happy... I was sitting here typing, and posting on some of the shares on the boards, and I was typing to one about me NEEDING a place to go when one passes, and how I have always just needed "that Spot" to remember, and love, and embrace "MY" inner love for a person...And I...	Jozie	4	717	Aug 31, 2009 by Jozie
	September Business Meeting (Preview) Because of the long Holiday weekend, we will not meet on the first Sunday of the month. The September business meeting will be held on Sunday September 13 at 9 pm est in the chat room. See you all there. Hope you all have a safe and peaceful holiday weekend. hugs, danz	danz123	0	333	Aug 31, 2009 by danz123
	ok here is a thought.........let go of the other shoe (Preview) Ok want to share something with you all........I have been doing some thinking. Growing up in an a home most things were not condusive to growing up feeling reasured and loved. Always expecting the unexpected, the other shoe to drop as it were. I believe I continued that thinking into my adult life. R...	Dale	6	567	Aug 31, 2009 by Mobirdie
	It's been a long time and I am not doing well. (Preview) It has taken me a long time to realize that there were times I was being used and I had no idea. Friends pretending to be friends. It must have been that little girl inside who thought the world was a good place. I now have no friends and that is okay. I was laid off last year. I was so stupid that I did not take ca...	kissers	5	535	Aug 30, 2009 by debilyn
	codependent crazies (Preview) Monday started out like any other day.Other than the fact that after being off the weekend I wasn't really ready to go back to work,I was ok.Or so I thought. I am the closer ( I work in retail) and that is because I asked for that shift.I am not a morning person.So usually when I get there on Monday there is a...	drucilla06	2	533	Aug 30, 2009 by debilyn
	Burnt Biscuits (Preview) Hi Friends, I am passing on this little story, a circulating email that my mom sent to me. Of course, you can replace God with Higher Power, the message is the same. The last line says it all. Such a great reminder. Wishing everyone a good week. Lou When I was a little boy, my mom liked to make break...	Loupiness	1	537	Aug 30, 2009 by debilyn
	came home early to find him drinking.....thought this was over (long) (Preview) I am writing this with a very heavy heart and just a feeling of defeat. My (supposedly sober)BF who just moved back in not 6 weeks ago after a year separation to "get clean and sober" was a little surprised when I walked in the door about 3 hrs earlier than expected. Well, as the title says, he wa...	masspedirn	6	633	Aug 30, 2009 by Inpain
	Nothing changes until "i" change (Preview) Hello everyone! Since my time here at MIP I have learned so many things. You know what..today I am happy. My husband is drunk in the kitchen eating up everything and blowing up something in the microwave as we speak, but...i'm happy with me. I have a fresh cute new haircut, wear my new perfume to bed ev...	Sincerely	7	620	Aug 30, 2009 by Dale
	Progress (Preview) Yes. It's happening for both myself and my AH dry drunk. He said two weeks ago he was going to an AA meeting with a friend. That night, came home and decided to cut the lawn. I asked if he was going,(he was waiting for a friend who bailed out) as I needed to leave to get milk (we have small kids) He said no....	Inpain	4	504	Aug 30, 2009 by Jerry F
	RE: I need advice... (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=30212857	HC2007	2	978	Aug 29, 2009 by Jerry F
	how to (Preview) how to get sonsor online and numbers u cna call anytime day or night when u ned to talk im new to this group but not new to it all im a 42 yr old mother of 4 and suffers from deoressin this is my third marrrriage but first one who drank yes i knew he drank whe i met him i did but still feel n love nd more just wwant som...	tkyater2003	3	476	Aug 29, 2009 by tkyater2003
	Well my wife got raped last night. (Preview) (We've been separated almost a year now). She didn't quit drinking after her DUI, in fact she has pretty much ramped it up. She decided to have people drive her around (most of the time) to try and prevent another DUI, and last night the guy who drove her home raped her in the car. I went there and stayed...	FlyingSquirrel	14	8100	Aug 29, 2009 by tkyater2003
	Sometimes we find just what we need - In my case a troupe of jugglers! (Preview) So last night started poorly. Got home and H is not there. His bike is gone, so I know he's out with one of two people. In either case I know what he is up to. But still I was kind of surprised that he was out because we had been planning all week to go see Shakespeare in the Park that evening. So I decide to work...	Eve55	5	557	Aug 29, 2009 by sterling7
	yesterday was a really hard day (Preview) I would venture to say the hardest yet. The ex boyfriend is not talking to me again and I just can't seem to get past it. I went to orientation to get started on my master's degree. I am nervous about the loans, the time commitment, the extra work. I just felt every bad emotion that I have in me all at once...	carolinagirl	7	526	Aug 29, 2009 by HC2007
	I need advice... (Preview) Been a long time since I have been here ... I need unbias opinions, DH 20 yrs + with addiction really begining to believe he is unable to be honest with self, very hard core user , found with no heart beat once by friend and brought back to life by EMT ect... rehab , yada yada.. family full of adicts and disfun...	HC2007	8	887	Aug 29, 2009 by HC2007
	Fell off my wagon, rolled down the road, landed in a river, floated way too far off the path (Preview) Higher Power I hunbly accept and admit to my addiction to attempting to fix other broken people for the comfort, rush .. high I get from it. I humbly accept and admit I use this as a way of avoiding taking care of myself. I humbly accept and admit I ignored every gut inscint, signs from you and let my tools la...	Jennifer	4	547	Aug 29, 2009 by debilyn
	I am lost (Preview) Something very hurtful happened to me. I don't know how to deal with it or how to get comfort and get passed it. Someone I respected hurt me very badly. How does one heal from something like that? It has never happened to me before. Would appreciate your thoughts. I have been doing all I know how to do. But...	debilyn	18	756	Aug 29, 2009 by debilyn
	thinking outloud (Preview) Being in Al Anon I see it has made me think. In the past it gave me thoughts as to how to deal with A's. I sure don't always remember right away though. Anyway it still makes me think of ok how do I grow from this? What can I do better in how I handle things? So I come here and get a world of GREAT thoughts others sha...	debilyn	1	472	Aug 29, 2009 by Overcome
	Homegrown Alanon (Preview) I have heard about the "Greatest Generation", the generation that survived the Depression, and WW II, before social security, welfare, and other social services. The generation that just grinned and bore it when things got tough. And things were rough for most, breadwinners died, c...	MaryPoppins	4	545	Aug 29, 2009 by Peggy7
	To all my MIP Family..... (Preview) Thanks you all so much for all your wonderful comments.. Am sitting at work right now thinking of what is the next right step in my furture ahead... I am so happy and at peace when its just the kids and I but when he walks through the doors I just about loose all my peace because then I walk on eggshells never k...	bubbles1990	3	574	Aug 29, 2009 by david62
	August Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) August Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held August 9, 2009 Meeting opened with the serenity prayer Motion to accept July Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Chair Schedule is:AMMon Shimo/no altTue...	ernie	0	926	Aug 29, 2009 by ernie
	Here we go again......... (Preview) So AH is on his way home from being on a business trip for the week. He travels often for his job. I love it when he's gone. The house is so calm and peaceful. I notice that I nor the kids are tense....we just enjoy being with each other. WHen I know he's coming home, my stomach starts to turn. I am running...	need lots of help	4	550	Aug 28, 2009 by Jerry F
	sad news today (Preview) Last night my 2 granddaughters, Emily and Grace, watched as their dog ran into the street and got hit by a car. He had to be put down as he had many injuries. He was running to them on the other side of the street. I am feeling so sad for their little broken hearts. They are coming to my house tomorrow for the we...	Gailey	11	604	Aug 28, 2009 by debilyn
	back online (Preview) Just wanted to let everyone know we recently moved and it took over a week to get the internet fixed so I'm back online now. I missed this board so much.	buick23	1	469	Aug 28, 2009 by debilyn
	New (Preview) Hi! I'm new here. I am looking for support as my mother is an alcoholic. I have just gotten back from paying her last three months rent. I have taken over her money and am buying what she needs to survive and not allowing her money. I've also told her she needs to satrt going to AA and I'll take her. This...	SuzanneM	3	567	Aug 28, 2009 by debilyn
	Control (Preview) It's been a very hectic few weeks for me. My mom had seizures and ended up in the hospital. The doctors think it is just stress but I'm still worried it might be something more. Then a friend passed away a week ago. Which, has been very hard on me because I don't have many friends or people I'm close to. I then...	christinajeanne	2	633	Aug 28, 2009 by debilyn
	AlAnon clarity/confusion.....just a share..... (Preview) For some reason the past few days I have been thinking somewhat about the program itself as I continue to work it. And I'm thinking if I could have some confusion as much time off and on as I've spent in it-so could others. I'd love to hear some ESH:) I realize that AlAnon is a program that doesn't focus on...	shellyj123	7	1487	Aug 28, 2009 by serendipity
	Three Days out in the desert!! (Preview) Aloha All!! For three days I couldn't even find the link to MIP eventually running over the entire list of bizarre "could bes" and then finding my way back into acceptance and letting my HP work it out. Now here you all are again. Happy it wasn't a blackout. LOL (((((hugs))))) Welco...	Jerry F	6	754	Aug 28, 2009 by Suzannah
	Newly divorced (Preview) Well I made it through 'D day with out any major pitfalls, except I couldn't get into MIP message board or chat room...ughhh! I finally got into the message board today, so thought I would let everyone know that I survived! I met the lawyer at 8:15 a.m. yesterday morning and we took the block walk up to the...	Overcome	4	499	Aug 27, 2009 by nmike
	Addiction to Misery (Preview) Addiction to Misery Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D. I have often reflected on why some people stay stuck in being miserable. No matter what life presented them, they would pick out certain variables to show that once again life was against them. This pattern went beyond your basic garden negativit...	Gailey	2	872	Aug 27, 2009 by nmike
	What a Day (Preview) Got a call from my sister-in-law this afternoon. Apparently my husband was suspended from work today and was at the bar drinking for 4 hours. The only reason we know this is because he called his Dad and she lives with her Dad. So I had to go pick my husband up from the bar. I still don't know what really...	N8SMOM	3	472	Aug 27, 2009 by abbyal
	addicted to truth? (Preview) I got the 12 step/ 12 traditions book and read most of it in one read. Good book!~ I am working on the moral inventory step at this point, and I wonder how far back I need to go, and if when it comes time to make ammends, if I need to just tell ANYONE, or if I need to tell the person... There are a couple things, ri...	woopsadaisy	5	467	Aug 27, 2009 by woopsadaisy
	Have a Question.... test (Preview) Why are there Little Tags... Next to my post... Anyone..... Thanks Jozie	Jozie	3	591	Aug 27, 2009 by tea2
	Fantasy/ Illusions (Preview) I was driving in the car with my aunt the other day. She wanted to take a trip for work related thing. I told her I did not want to go. She started screaming at me and bullied me into say yes. I know I did not need to let her affect my emotions like that but I did allow it. She has a way of getting to me for some reason...	christinajeanne	2	1348	Aug 27, 2009 by christinajeanne
	Amazing How HP works (Preview) This is a true story. It happened to me about three months ago: One night after my Tuesday night f2f meeting I was talking to a lady in our group outside. We talked for 10 or 15 minutes. After I left I forgot that I had left my "Courage To Change" book on top of my car. It was 9:00 pm so I did not notic...	RLC	7	590	Aug 27, 2009 by Jerry F
	His Martyrdom, My Anger (Preview) I simply don't get it. Why does someone else's martyrdom make me soooo angry. First I want to at least give myself a pat on the back for at least recognizing the insanity - which took reassurance from my sponsor. But why do i bother letting it get to me. My AH lost his license due to DUI. After a few weeks of...	Ash	3	601	Aug 27, 2009 by Loupiness
	At a f2f mtg last night... (Preview) As some of you may know, I don't always find myself to be working the program well. Lots of times I feel like I am off track. There are times when I feel great sadness, anger and fear of my situation, which I have to intentionally work through, in order to resurface with a better attitude. I was paid the mo...	Rora	2	575	Aug 26, 2009 by LG
	Just a test drive - Whats your thoughts? (Preview)	John	11	728	Aug 26, 2009 by Rita G
	Struggling with control.... (Preview) Hi all-- This is my first post! I have been lurking here for several months and have been attending f2f meetings for 2 months now. My alcoholic husband is sober 2 months too, following a 5 day stay in detox and a successfully completed IOP. I am struggling so much these days with trying to control him and h...	3littlekittens	2	570	Aug 26, 2009 by canadianguy
	So.....today is his birthday.... (Preview) Well, I got through the day ok. Did alot for myself. Worked on some projects along with school work. But all the while, in the very back of my mind, I couldn't help but think that today is my exbf's birthday. It was difficult to let this day go by without sending him a card, an email or making a call. Bu...	Hawk120025	2	393	Aug 26, 2009 by Loupiness
	Java still down...but here is an option that might work to get into our chat (Preview) Hello all, Just wanted to let everyone know that Java seems to still be not responding. I have an option for anyone if they are a little computer savvy...it is another IRC chat program. I downloaded it quite awhile ago before I started using MIRC. It seems to be quite user friendly and easy to set up. ...	lacewing	1	511	Aug 26, 2009 by kitty
	JAVA is tormenting me (Preview) Please oh please Mr. Java , get your act together ? wp	wp	3	425	Aug 26, 2009 by belle1
	Am Back .... And starting all over again..... (Preview) Well, here I am in the glass box that I started out in 6 years ago when I first started Al anon!! I could see out but no one could see in!! I was in there alone dealing with my sickness feeling as thou I had no hope for survival But then I was introduced to Ala non by my mother in law who has been in the program for so...	bubbles1990	6	535	Aug 25, 2009 by shadow1
	Learning lots about me and the meeting room is unavailable11111 (Preview) Hi everyone...sure wish I could get into the meeting. I have been under alot of stress and my blood pressure is extremely low. This I am reading can cause anxiety, depression, and other ailments. I am very concerned and I have apt with doc on Wednesday. I went to the health food store and got some nat...	Jeanann	3	452	Aug 25, 2009 by wp
	Attitude (Preview) you cannot tailor make your situation in life, but you can tailor make your attitudes to fit those situations. Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said that, andhe was profoundly right. How you shape your attitude is nota small part of how you shape your life..it is the only part. Christy	Christy	7	526	Aug 25, 2009 by Aloha
	What is it like for the sobering up alcoholic? Any advice appreciated! libido intimacy boyfriend (Preview) My partner and I of a year and a half have a wonderful relationship. Now we do. The first year was ROUGH but for six months he has been sober! Since he has stopped drinking I have grown to know this AMAZING man who has will power beyond comprehension. His heart is golden and when I think back to the person he U...	EminMT	4	7413	Aug 25, 2009 by redfred
	Tomorrow is D day. (Preview) Tomorrow morning I am getting my divorce from alcoholic husband. I have very many mixed feelings about this; sadness, relief, anger, justification, ambievalence, fear, apathy, a virtual cornacopia of emotions. I think my biggest struggle right now is with fear. Walking into that courtroom with...	Overcome	3	467	Aug 25, 2009 by redfred
	Java is not responding... (Preview) Monday Night - August 24th Just wanted to let everyone know that Connecting to the chat room or trying to come to the message board by way of the Home page...through JAVA - is not working. Seems as though no one can get into the chat or message board...all day long. If you have been trying to get in...ke...	lacewing	3	579	Aug 25, 2009 by teddybearpoet
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