Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

peacewithin · peacewithin

I'm not a drinker but my dad was and so is my husband. Sometimes I feel like having one. Just to forget the pain. I know this is dangerous. Why do I feel this way. Last week my brother came over and we had a couple glasses of wine. Now I feel guility fior having them. I'm afarid alcohol. I'm afarid of being out...

Samsgram · Samsgram

Well, I`ll try to condense this. I use to attend Alanon meetings a couple years ago. My daughter has had a drug problem most of her life but I believe she has stopped using crack for about a year now or close to that. My issues are about her beautiful just 6 year old daughter. I love this child since the day sh...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Please allow this very proud Aunt to brag a little on her nieces. My oldest one starts college today. Where does the time go? She will be attending the same college where my beloved Tim & I went. It's where we met. This is the college where her grandma worked for over 20 years. S...

Jozie · Jozie

How Can I be Happy... I was sitting here typing, and posting on some of the shares on the boards, and I was typing to one about me NEEDING a place to go when one passes, and how I have always just needed "that Spot" to remember, and love, and embrace "MY" inner love for a person...And I...

danz123 · danz123

Because of the long Holiday weekend, we will not meet on the first Sunday of the month. The September business meeting will be held on Sunday September 13 at 9 pm est in the chat room. See you all there. Hope you all have a safe and peaceful holiday weekend. hugs, danz

Dale · Dale

Ok want to share something with you all........I have been doing some thinking. Growing up in an a home most things were not condusive to growing up feeling reasured and loved. Always expecting the unexpected, the other shoe to drop as it were. I believe I continued that thinking into my adult life. R...

kissers · kissers

It has taken me a long time to realize that there were times I was being used and I had no idea. Friends pretending to be friends. It must have been that little girl inside who thought the world was a good place. I now have no friends and that is okay. I was laid off last year. I was so stupid that I did not take ca...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Monday started out like any other day.Other than the fact that after being off the weekend I wasn't really ready to go back to work,I was ok.Or so I thought. I am the closer ( I work in retail) and that is because I asked for that shift.I am not a morning person.So usually when I get there on Monday there is a...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, I am passing on this little story, a circulating email that my mom sent to me. Of course, you can replace God with Higher Power, the message is the same. The last line says it all. Such a great reminder. Wishing everyone a good week. Lou When I was a little boy, my mom liked to make break...

masspedirn · masspedirn

I am writing this with a very heavy heart and just a feeling of defeat. My (supposedly sober)BF who just moved back in not 6 weeks ago after a year separation to "get clean and sober" was a little surprised when I walked in the door about 3 hrs earlier than expected. Well, as the title says, he wa...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello everyone! Since my time here at MIP I have learned so many things. You know what..today I am happy. My husband is drunk in the kitchen eating up everything and blowing up something in the microwave as we speak, but...i'm happy with me. I have a fresh cute new haircut, wear my new perfume to bed ev...

Inpain · Inpain

Yes. It's happening for both myself and my AH dry drunk. He said two weeks ago he was going to an AA meeting with a friend. That night, came home and decided to cut the lawn. I asked if he was going,(he was waiting for a friend who bailed out) as I needed to leave to get milk (we have small kids) He said no....

HC2007 · HC2007

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=30212857

tkyater2003 · tkyater2003

how to get sonsor online and numbers u cna call anytime day or night when u ned to talk im new to this group but not new to it all im a 42 yr old mother of 4 and suffers from deoressin this is my third marrrriage but first one who drank yes i knew he drank whe i met him i did but still feel n love nd more just wwant som...

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

(We've been separated almost a year now). She didn't quit drinking after her DUI, in fact she has pretty much ramped it up. She decided to have people drive her around (most of the time) to try and prevent another DUI, and last night the guy who drove her home raped her in the car. I went there and stayed...

Eve55 · Eve55

So last night started poorly. Got home and H is not there. His bike is gone, so I know he's out with one of two people. In either case I know what he is up to. But still I was kind of surprised that he was out because we had been planning all week to go see Shakespeare in the Park that evening. So I decide to work...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I would venture to say the hardest yet. The ex boyfriend is not talking to me again and I just can't seem to get past it. I went to orientation to get started on my master's degree. I am nervous about the loans, the time commitment, the extra work. I just felt every bad emotion that I have in me all at once...

HC2007 · HC2007

Been a long time since I have been here ... I need unbias opinions, DH 20 yrs + with addiction really begining to believe he is unable to be honest with self, very hard core user , found with no heart beat once by friend and brought back to life by EMT ect... rehab , yada yada.. family full of adicts and disfun...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Higher Power I hunbly accept and admit to my addiction to attempting to fix other broken people for the comfort, rush .. high I get from it. I humbly accept and admit I use this as a way of avoiding taking care of myself. I humbly accept and admit I ignored every gut inscint, signs from you and let my tools la...

debilyn · debilyn

Something very hurtful happened to me. I don't know how to deal with it or how to get comfort and get passed it. Someone I respected hurt me very badly. How does one heal from something like that? It has never happened to me before. Would appreciate your thoughts. I have been doing all I know how to do. But...

debilyn · debilyn

Being in Al Anon I see it has made me think. In the past it gave me thoughts as to how to deal with A's. I sure don't always remember right away though. Anyway it still makes me think of ok how do I grow from this? What can I do better in how I handle things? So I come here and get a world of GREAT thoughts others sha...

MaryPoppins · MaryPoppins

I have heard about the "Greatest Generation", the generation that survived the Depression, and WW II, before social security, welfare, and other social services. The generation that just grinned and bore it when things got tough. And things were rough for most, breadwinners died, c...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Thanks you all so much for all your wonderful comments.. Am sitting at work right now thinking of what is the next right step in my furture ahead... I am so happy and at peace when its just the kids and I but when he walks through the doors I just about loose all my peace because then I walk on eggshells never k...

ernie · ernie

August Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held August 9, 2009 Meeting opened with the serenity prayer Motion to accept July Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Chair Schedule is:AMMon Shimo/no altTue...

need lots of help · need lots of help

So AH is on his way home from being on a business trip for the week. He travels often for his job. I love it when he's gone. The house is so calm and peaceful. I notice that I nor the kids are tense....we just enjoy being with each other. WHen I know he's coming home, my stomach starts to turn. I am running...

Gailey · Gailey

Last night my 2 granddaughters, Emily and Grace, watched as their dog ran into the street and got hit by a car. He had to be put down as he had many injuries. He was running to them on the other side of the street. I am feeling so sad for their little broken hearts. They are coming to my house tomorrow for the we...

buick23 · buick23

Just wanted to let everyone know we recently moved and it took over a week to get the internet fixed so I'm back online now. I missed this board so much.

SuzanneM · SuzanneM

Hi! I'm new here. I am looking for support as my mother is an alcoholic. I have just gotten back from paying her last three months rent. I have taken over her money and am buying what she needs to survive and not allowing her money. I've also told her she needs to satrt going to AA and I'll take her. This...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

It's been a very hectic few weeks for me. My mom had seizures and ended up in the hospital. The doctors think it is just stress but I'm still worried it might be something more. Then a friend passed away a week ago. Which, has been very hard on me because I don't have many friends or people I'm close to. I then...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

For some reason the past few days I have been thinking somewhat about the program itself as I continue to work it. And I'm thinking if I could have some confusion as much time off and on as I've spent in it-so could others. I'd love to hear some ESH:) I realize that AlAnon is a program that doesn't focus on...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All!! For three days I couldn't even find the link to MIP eventually running over the entire list of bizarre "could bes" and then finding my way back into acceptance and letting my HP work it out. Now here you all are again. Happy it wasn't a blackout. LOL (((((hugs))))) Welco...

Overcome · Overcome

Well I made it through 'D day with out any major pitfalls, except I couldn't get into MIP message board or chat room...ughhh! I finally got into the message board today, so thought I would let everyone know that I survived! I met the lawyer at 8:15 a.m. yesterday morning and we took the block walk up to the...

Gailey · Gailey

** Addiction to Misery **Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D. I have often reflected on why some people stay stuck in being miserable. No matter what life presented them, they would pick out certain variables to show that once again life was against them. This pattern went beyond your basic garden negativit...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Got a call from my sister-in-law this afternoon. Apparently my husband was suspended from work today and was at the bar drinking for 4 hours. The only reason we know this is because he called his Dad and she lives with her Dad. So I had to go pick my husband up from the bar. I still don't know what really...

woopsadaisy · woopsadaisy

I got the 12 step/ 12 traditions book and read most of it in one read. Good book!~ I am working on the moral inventory step at this point, and I wonder how far back I need to go, and if when it comes time to make ammends, if I need to just tell ANYONE, or if I need to tell the person... There are a couple things, ri...

Jozie · Jozie

Why are there Little Tags... Next to my post... Anyone..... Thanks Jozie

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I was driving in the car with my aunt the other day. She wanted to take a trip for work related thing. I told her I did not want to go. She started screaming at me and bullied me into say yes. I know I did not need to let her affect my emotions like that but I did allow it. She has a way of getting to me for some reason...

RLC · RLC

This is a true story. It happened to me about three months ago: One night after my Tuesday night f2f meeting I was talking to a lady in our group outside. We talked for 10 or 15 minutes. After I left I forgot that I had left my "Courage To Change" book on top of my car. It was 9:00 pm so I did not notic...

Ash · Ash

I simply don't get it. Why does someone else's martyrdom make me soooo angry. First I want to at least give myself a pat on the back for at least recognizing the insanity - which took reassurance from my sponsor. But why do i bother letting it get to me. My AH lost his license due to DUI. After a few weeks of...

Rora · Rora

As some of you may know, I don't always find myself to be working the program well. Lots of times I feel like I am off track. There are times when I feel great sadness, anger and fear of my situation, which I have to intentionally work through, in order to resurface with a better attitude. I was paid the mo...

John · John

3littlekittens · 3littlekittens

Hi all-- This is my first post! I have been lurking here for several months and have been attending f2f meetings for 2 months now. My alcoholic husband is sober 2 months too, following a 5 day stay in detox and a successfully completed IOP. I am struggling so much these days with trying to control him and h...

Hawk120025 · Hawk120025

Well, I got through the day ok. Did alot for myself. Worked on some projects along with school work. But all the while, in the very back of my mind, I couldn't help but think that today is my exbf's birthday. It was difficult to let this day go by without sending him a card, an email or making a call. Bu...

lacewing · lacewing

Hello all, Just wanted to let everyone know that Java seems to still be not responding. I have an option for anyone if they are a little computer savvy...it is another IRC chat program. I downloaded it quite awhile ago before I started using MIRC. It seems to be quite user friendly and easy to set up. ...

wp · wp

Please oh please Mr. Java , get your act together ? wp

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Well, here I am in the glass box that I started out in 6 years ago when I first started Al anon!! I could see out but no one could see in!! I was in there alone dealing with my sickness feeling as thou I had no hope for survival But then I was introduced to Ala non by my mother in law who has been in the program for so...

Jeanann · Jeanann

Hi everyone...sure wish I could get into the meeting. I have been under alot of stress and my blood pressure is extremely low. This I am reading can cause anxiety, depression, and other ailments. I am very concerned and I have apt with doc on Wednesday. I went to the health food store and got some nat...

Christy · Christy

you cannot tailor make your situation in life, but you can tailor make your attitudes to fit those situations. Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said that, andhe was profoundly right. How you shape your attitude is nota small part of how you shape your life..it is the only part. Christy

EminMT · EminMT

My partner and I of a year and a half have a wonderful relationship. Now we do. The first year was ROUGH but for six months he has been sober! Since he has stopped drinking I have grown to know this AMAZING man who has will power beyond comprehension. His heart is golden and when I think back to the person he U...

Overcome · Overcome

Tomorrow morning I am getting my divorce from alcoholic husband. I have very many mixed feelings about this; sadness, relief, anger, justification, ambievalence, fear, apathy, a virtual cornacopia of emotions. I think my biggest struggle right now is with fear. Walking into that courtroom with...

lacewing · lacewing

Monday Night - August 24th Just wanted to let everyone know that Connecting to the chat room or trying to come to the message board by way of the Home page...through JAVA - is not working. Seems as though no one can get into the chat or message board...all day long. If you have been trying to get in...ke...

Aloha · Aloha

In October, I'm going to be flying to Kauai for our Hawaii Al-Anon fall assembly. Neither my AH nor I have been to Kauai yet, so I thought it would maybe be fun to take a couple extra days padded around the fall assembly weekend to spend visiting the island with my AH. He was excited to go and made plans to joi...

Bella333 · Bella333

Hello. I have been going to Alanon face to face meetings about three times per week since January 2009. I looked forward to meetings, shared fairly often, read a lot of literature, found a sponsor and started to talk with a woman from the group fairly often. Unfortunately I have not enjoyed going to me...

LuLu73 · LuLu73

My daughter recently had her first baby so my 7 yr old and I went to visit for the summer. We were gone for 2 months. My alcoholic husband knew that this time was going to be used to evaluate where our marriage/relationship was going. He stayed drunk. He did take one big step and admitted to his supervi...

ljluvskc · ljluvskc

Good evening everyone... I have been a lurker here and read so many stories. You all inspire me to believe that there is a road to recovery out there, all we need to do to find it is put one foot on it, and give the rest to God. My ABF is what I would call a 'functioning' alcoholic. He is financially responsibl...

TF · TF

Hi this is my first time posting on this site. My ah and i have been married for almost 11 years, 1 year 5 months of it he has been sober. Although he is not actively working the program he attends therapy once a week and has been since he came home from rehab last year. things have gotten better but he sees...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

The guy I have been dating the past 5 weeks and I had plans to take my son and his kids to the state park Sat for our first "day trip". I was all excited and looking forward to my day off after a LONG hard week, and spending time with everyone. I normally like to leave early when I plan a day trip, bu...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am finally feeling like me again instead of an us missing one and being miserable all the time. I'm at the point now where I think he can't have me back even if he wanted me. I was too good for him. Sure took a while for self respect to kick in though. It has taken several weeks for me to get to the point tha...

silver brumby · silver brumby

Hi All, It's been a while since I posted. I try but nothing will come out that makes sense! So I end up deleting a page of dribble after writing it for hours. Even at f2f meetings I can't string two words together that make sense to me or anyone else. I am in a "zombie zone" or something. W...

Hawk120025 · Hawk120025

Hi all, Little by little I am gaining understanding of what happened with my A ex-bf. I no longer feel the guilt for breaking up with him. I no longer accept his words of blame. And although I still miss him, I feel the progress of peace and healing. I do, however, relive some of the moments over the last...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Need Your Help. (Preview) I'm not a drinker but my dad was and so is my husband. Sometimes I feel like having one. Just to forget the pain. I know this is dangerous. Why do I feel this way. Last week my brother came over and we had a couple glasses of wine. Now I feel guility fior having them. I'm afarid alcohol. I'm afarid of being out...	peacewithin	4	445	Sep 1, 2009 by abbyal
	I`am new (Preview) Well, I`ll try to condense this. I use to attend Alanon meetings a couple years ago. My daughter has had a drug problem most of her life but I believe she has stopped using crack for about a year now or close to that. My issues are about her beautiful just 6 year old daughter. I love this child since the day sh...	Samsgram	2	419	Sep 1, 2009 by Mariner
	My Nieces (Preview) ((((Family))), Please allow this very proud Aunt to brag a little on her nieces. My oldest one starts college today. Where does the time go? She will be attending the same college where my beloved Tim & I went. It's where we met. This is the college where her grandma worked for over 20 years. S...	Karilynn	7	433	Sep 1, 2009 by maresie
	I did it alone, but not really... (Preview) How Can I be Happy... I was sitting here typing, and posting on some of the shares on the boards, and I was typing to one about me NEEDING a place to go when one passes, and how I have always just needed "that Spot" to remember, and love, and embrace "MY" inner love for a person...And I...	Jozie	4	701	Aug 31, 2009 by Jozie
	September Business Meeting (Preview) Because of the long Holiday weekend, we will not meet on the first Sunday of the month. The September business meeting will be held on Sunday September 13 at 9 pm est in the chat room. See you all there. Hope you all have a safe and peaceful holiday weekend. hugs, danz	danz123	0	297	Aug 31, 2009 by danz123
	ok here is a thought.........let go of the other shoe (Preview) Ok want to share something with you all........I have been doing some thinking. Growing up in an a home most things were not condusive to growing up feeling reasured and loved. Always expecting the unexpected, the other shoe to drop as it were. I believe I continued that thinking into my adult life. R...	Dale	6	549	Aug 31, 2009 by Mobirdie
	It's been a long time and I am not doing well. (Preview) It has taken me a long time to realize that there were times I was being used and I had no idea. Friends pretending to be friends. It must have been that little girl inside who thought the world was a good place. I now have no friends and that is okay. I was laid off last year. I was so stupid that I did not take ca...	kissers	5	522	Aug 30, 2009 by debilyn
	codependent crazies (Preview) Monday started out like any other day.Other than the fact that after being off the weekend I wasn't really ready to go back to work,I was ok.Or so I thought. I am the closer ( I work in retail) and that is because I asked for that shift.I am not a morning person.So usually when I get there on Monday there is a...	drucilla06	2	519	Aug 30, 2009 by debilyn
	Burnt Biscuits (Preview) Hi Friends, I am passing on this little story, a circulating email that my mom sent to me. Of course, you can replace God with Higher Power, the message is the same. The last line says it all. Such a great reminder. Wishing everyone a good week. Lou When I was a little boy, my mom liked to make break...	Loupiness	1	522	Aug 30, 2009 by debilyn
	came home early to find him drinking.....thought this was over (long) (Preview) I am writing this with a very heavy heart and just a feeling of defeat. My (supposedly sober)BF who just moved back in not 6 weeks ago after a year separation to "get clean and sober" was a little surprised when I walked in the door about 3 hrs earlier than expected. Well, as the title says, he wa...	masspedirn	6	619	Aug 30, 2009 by Inpain
	Nothing changes until "i" change (Preview) Hello everyone! Since my time here at MIP I have learned so many things. You know what..today I am happy. My husband is drunk in the kitchen eating up everything and blowing up something in the microwave as we speak, but...i'm happy with me. I have a fresh cute new haircut, wear my new perfume to bed ev...	Sincerely	7	606	Aug 30, 2009 by Dale
	Progress (Preview) Yes. It's happening for both myself and my AH dry drunk. He said two weeks ago he was going to an AA meeting with a friend. That night, came home and decided to cut the lawn. I asked if he was going,(he was waiting for a friend who bailed out) as I needed to leave to get milk (we have small kids) He said no....	Inpain	4	489	Aug 30, 2009 by Jerry F
	RE: I need advice... (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=30212857	HC2007	2	959	Aug 29, 2009 by Jerry F
	how to (Preview) how to get sonsor online and numbers u cna call anytime day or night when u ned to talk im new to this group but not new to it all im a 42 yr old mother of 4 and suffers from deoressin this is my third marrrriage but first one who drank yes i knew he drank whe i met him i did but still feel n love nd more just wwant som...	tkyater2003	3	461	Aug 29, 2009 by tkyater2003
	Well my wife got raped last night. (Preview) (We've been separated almost a year now). She didn't quit drinking after her DUI, in fact she has pretty much ramped it up. She decided to have people drive her around (most of the time) to try and prevent another DUI, and last night the guy who drove her home raped her in the car. I went there and stayed...	FlyingSquirrel	14	8014	Aug 29, 2009 by tkyater2003
	Sometimes we find just what we need - In my case a troupe of jugglers! (Preview) So last night started poorly. Got home and H is not there. His bike is gone, so I know he's out with one of two people. In either case I know what he is up to. But still I was kind of surprised that he was out because we had been planning all week to go see Shakespeare in the Park that evening. So I decide to work...	Eve55	5	539	Aug 29, 2009 by sterling7
	yesterday was a really hard day (Preview) I would venture to say the hardest yet. The ex boyfriend is not talking to me again and I just can't seem to get past it. I went to orientation to get started on my master's degree. I am nervous about the loans, the time commitment, the extra work. I just felt every bad emotion that I have in me all at once...	carolinagirl	7	512	Aug 29, 2009 by HC2007
	I need advice... (Preview) Been a long time since I have been here ... I need unbias opinions, DH 20 yrs + with addiction really begining to believe he is unable to be honest with self, very hard core user , found with no heart beat once by friend and brought back to life by EMT ect... rehab , yada yada.. family full of adicts and disfun...	HC2007	8	869	Aug 29, 2009 by HC2007
	Fell off my wagon, rolled down the road, landed in a river, floated way too far off the path (Preview) Higher Power I hunbly accept and admit to my addiction to attempting to fix other broken people for the comfort, rush .. high I get from it. I humbly accept and admit I use this as a way of avoiding taking care of myself. I humbly accept and admit I ignored every gut inscint, signs from you and let my tools la...	Jennifer	4	533	Aug 29, 2009 by debilyn
	I am lost (Preview) Something very hurtful happened to me. I don't know how to deal with it or how to get comfort and get passed it. Someone I respected hurt me very badly. How does one heal from something like that? It has never happened to me before. Would appreciate your thoughts. I have been doing all I know how to do. But...	debilyn	18	738	Aug 29, 2009 by debilyn
	thinking outloud (Preview) Being in Al Anon I see it has made me think. In the past it gave me thoughts as to how to deal with A's. I sure don't always remember right away though. Anyway it still makes me think of ok how do I grow from this? What can I do better in how I handle things? So I come here and get a world of GREAT thoughts others sha...	debilyn	1	458	Aug 29, 2009 by Overcome
	Homegrown Alanon (Preview) I have heard about the "Greatest Generation", the generation that survived the Depression, and WW II, before social security, welfare, and other social services. The generation that just grinned and bore it when things got tough. And things were rough for most, breadwinners died, c...	MaryPoppins	4	525	Aug 29, 2009 by Peggy7
	To all my MIP Family..... (Preview) Thanks you all so much for all your wonderful comments.. Am sitting at work right now thinking of what is the next right step in my furture ahead... I am so happy and at peace when its just the kids and I but when he walks through the doors I just about loose all my peace because then I walk on eggshells never k...	bubbles1990	3	553	Aug 29, 2009 by david62
	August Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) August Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held August 9, 2009 Meeting opened with the serenity prayer Motion to accept July Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Chair Schedule is:AMMon Shimo/no altTue...	ernie	0	906	Aug 29, 2009 by ernie
	Here we go again......... (Preview) So AH is on his way home from being on a business trip for the week. He travels often for his job. I love it when he's gone. The house is so calm and peaceful. I notice that I nor the kids are tense....we just enjoy being with each other. WHen I know he's coming home, my stomach starts to turn. I am running...	need lots of help	4	536	Aug 28, 2009 by Jerry F
	sad news today (Preview) Last night my 2 granddaughters, Emily and Grace, watched as their dog ran into the street and got hit by a car. He had to be put down as he had many injuries. He was running to them on the other side of the street. I am feeling so sad for their little broken hearts. They are coming to my house tomorrow for the we...	Gailey	11	589	Aug 28, 2009 by debilyn
	back online (Preview) Just wanted to let everyone know we recently moved and it took over a week to get the internet fixed so I'm back online now. I missed this board so much.	buick23	1	452	Aug 28, 2009 by debilyn
	New (Preview) Hi! I'm new here. I am looking for support as my mother is an alcoholic. I have just gotten back from paying her last three months rent. I have taken over her money and am buying what she needs to survive and not allowing her money. I've also told her she needs to satrt going to AA and I'll take her. This...	SuzanneM	3	551	Aug 28, 2009 by debilyn
	Control (Preview) It's been a very hectic few weeks for me. My mom had seizures and ended up in the hospital. The doctors think it is just stress but I'm still worried it might be something more. Then a friend passed away a week ago. Which, has been very hard on me because I don't have many friends or people I'm close to. I then...	christinajeanne	2	582	Aug 28, 2009 by debilyn
	AlAnon clarity/confusion.....just a share..... (Preview) For some reason the past few days I have been thinking somewhat about the program itself as I continue to work it. And I'm thinking if I could have some confusion as much time off and on as I've spent in it-so could others. I'd love to hear some ESH:) I realize that AlAnon is a program that doesn't focus on...	shellyj123	7	1469	Aug 28, 2009 by serendipity
	Three Days out in the desert!! (Preview) Aloha All!! For three days I couldn't even find the link to MIP eventually running over the entire list of bizarre "could bes" and then finding my way back into acceptance and letting my HP work it out. Now here you all are again. Happy it wasn't a blackout. LOL (((((hugs))))) Welco...	Jerry F	6	730	Aug 28, 2009 by Suzannah
	Newly divorced (Preview) Well I made it through 'D day with out any major pitfalls, except I couldn't get into MIP message board or chat room...ughhh! I finally got into the message board today, so thought I would let everyone know that I survived! I met the lawyer at 8:15 a.m. yesterday morning and we took the block walk up to the...	Overcome	4	484	Aug 27, 2009 by nmike
	Addiction to Misery (Preview) Addiction to Misery Kathleen DesMaisons, Ph.D. I have often reflected on why some people stay stuck in being miserable. No matter what life presented them, they would pick out certain variables to show that once again life was against them. This pattern went beyond your basic garden negativit...	Gailey	2	856	Aug 27, 2009 by nmike
	What a Day (Preview) Got a call from my sister-in-law this afternoon. Apparently my husband was suspended from work today and was at the bar drinking for 4 hours. The only reason we know this is because he called his Dad and she lives with her Dad. So I had to go pick my husband up from the bar. I still don't know what really...	N8SMOM	3	460	Aug 27, 2009 by abbyal
	addicted to truth? (Preview) I got the 12 step/ 12 traditions book and read most of it in one read. Good book!~ I am working on the moral inventory step at this point, and I wonder how far back I need to go, and if when it comes time to make ammends, if I need to just tell ANYONE, or if I need to tell the person... There are a couple things, ri...	woopsadaisy	5	453	Aug 27, 2009 by woopsadaisy
	Have a Question.... test (Preview) Why are there Little Tags... Next to my post... Anyone..... Thanks Jozie	Jozie	3	577	Aug 27, 2009 by tea2
	Fantasy/ Illusions (Preview) I was driving in the car with my aunt the other day. She wanted to take a trip for work related thing. I told her I did not want to go. She started screaming at me and bullied me into say yes. I know I did not need to let her affect my emotions like that but I did allow it. She has a way of getting to me for some reason...	christinajeanne	2	1336	Aug 27, 2009 by christinajeanne
	Amazing How HP works (Preview) This is a true story. It happened to me about three months ago: One night after my Tuesday night f2f meeting I was talking to a lady in our group outside. We talked for 10 or 15 minutes. After I left I forgot that I had left my "Courage To Change" book on top of my car. It was 9:00 pm so I did not notic...	RLC	7	576	Aug 27, 2009 by Jerry F
	His Martyrdom, My Anger (Preview) I simply don't get it. Why does someone else's martyrdom make me soooo angry. First I want to at least give myself a pat on the back for at least recognizing the insanity - which took reassurance from my sponsor. But why do i bother letting it get to me. My AH lost his license due to DUI. After a few weeks of...	Ash	3	588	Aug 27, 2009 by Loupiness
	At a f2f mtg last night... (Preview) As some of you may know, I don't always find myself to be working the program well. Lots of times I feel like I am off track. There are times when I feel great sadness, anger and fear of my situation, which I have to intentionally work through, in order to resurface with a better attitude. I was paid the mo...	Rora	2	559	Aug 26, 2009 by LG
	Just a test drive - Whats your thoughts? (Preview)	John	11	702	Aug 26, 2009 by Rita G
	Struggling with control.... (Preview) Hi all-- This is my first post! I have been lurking here for several months and have been attending f2f meetings for 2 months now. My alcoholic husband is sober 2 months too, following a 5 day stay in detox and a successfully completed IOP. I am struggling so much these days with trying to control him and h...	3littlekittens	2	554	Aug 26, 2009 by canadianguy
	So.....today is his birthday.... (Preview) Well, I got through the day ok. Did alot for myself. Worked on some projects along with school work. But all the while, in the very back of my mind, I couldn't help but think that today is my exbf's birthday. It was difficult to let this day go by without sending him a card, an email or making a call. Bu...	Hawk120025	2	379	Aug 26, 2009 by Loupiness
	Java still down...but here is an option that might work to get into our chat (Preview) Hello all, Just wanted to let everyone know that Java seems to still be not responding. I have an option for anyone if they are a little computer savvy...it is another IRC chat program. I downloaded it quite awhile ago before I started using MIRC. It seems to be quite user friendly and easy to set up. ...	lacewing	1	495	Aug 26, 2009 by kitty
	JAVA is tormenting me (Preview) Please oh please Mr. Java , get your act together ? wp	wp	3	411	Aug 26, 2009 by belle1
	Am Back .... And starting all over again..... (Preview) Well, here I am in the glass box that I started out in 6 years ago when I first started Al anon!! I could see out but no one could see in!! I was in there alone dealing with my sickness feeling as thou I had no hope for survival But then I was introduced to Ala non by my mother in law who has been in the program for so...	bubbles1990	6	523	Aug 25, 2009 by shadow1
	Learning lots about me and the meeting room is unavailable11111 (Preview) Hi everyone...sure wish I could get into the meeting. I have been under alot of stress and my blood pressure is extremely low. This I am reading can cause anxiety, depression, and other ailments. I am very concerned and I have apt with doc on Wednesday. I went to the health food store and got some nat...	Jeanann	3	435	Aug 25, 2009 by wp
	Attitude (Preview) you cannot tailor make your situation in life, but you can tailor make your attitudes to fit those situations. Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said that, andhe was profoundly right. How you shape your attitude is nota small part of how you shape your life..it is the only part. Christy	Christy	7	511	Aug 25, 2009 by Aloha
	What is it like for the sobering up alcoholic? Any advice appreciated! libido intimacy boyfriend (Preview) My partner and I of a year and a half have a wonderful relationship. Now we do. The first year was ROUGH but for six months he has been sober! Since he has stopped drinking I have grown to know this AMAZING man who has will power beyond comprehension. His heart is golden and when I think back to the person he U...	EminMT	4	7046	Aug 25, 2009 by redfred
	Tomorrow is D day. (Preview) Tomorrow morning I am getting my divorce from alcoholic husband. I have very many mixed feelings about this; sadness, relief, anger, justification, ambievalence, fear, apathy, a virtual cornacopia of emotions. I think my biggest struggle right now is with fear. Walking into that courtroom with...	Overcome	3	454	Aug 25, 2009 by redfred
	Java is not responding... (Preview) Monday Night - August 24th Just wanted to let everyone know that Connecting to the chat room or trying to come to the message board by way of the Home page...through JAVA - is not working. Seems as though no one can get into the chat or message board...all day long. If you have been trying to get in...ke...	lacewing	3	561	Aug 25, 2009 by teddybearpoet
	Interesting where the brain tries to shift blame. (Preview) In October, I'm going to be flying to Kauai for our Hawaii Al-Anon fall assembly. Neither my AH nor I have been to Kauai yet, so I thought it would maybe be fun to take a couple extra days padded around the fall assembly weekend to spend visiting the island with my AH. He was excited to go and made plans to joi...	Aloha	2	2201	Aug 25, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Having a hard time going to face to face meetings (Preview) Hello. I have been going to Alanon face to face meetings about three times per week since January 2009. I looked forward to meetings, shared fairly often, read a lot of literature, found a sponsor and started to talk with a woman from the group fairly often. Unfortunately I have not enjoyed going to me...	Bella333	3	470	Aug 25, 2009 by abbyal
	What to do...... (Preview) My daughter recently had her first baby so my 7 yr old and I went to visit for the summer. We were gone for 2 months. My alcoholic husband knew that this time was going to be used to evaluate where our marriage/relationship was going. He stayed drunk. He did take one big step and admitted to his supervi...	LuLu73	7	712	Aug 25, 2009 by LuLu73
	New here and looking for support and hope... (Preview) Good evening everyone... I have been a lurker here and read so many stories. You all inspire me to believe that there is a road to recovery out there, all we need to do to find it is put one foot on it, and give the rest to God. My ABF is what I would call a 'functioning' alcoholic. He is financially responsibl...	ljluvskc	5	505	Aug 24, 2009 by ljluvskc
	New here (Preview) Hi this is my first time posting on this site. My ah and i have been married for almost 11 years, 1 year 5 months of it he has been sober. Although he is not actively working the program he attends therapy once a week and has been since he came home from rehab last year. things have gotten better but he sees...	TF	5	773	Aug 24, 2009 by TF
	Feeling really down~What to do when amends just aren't enough?? ESH needed (Preview) The guy I have been dating the past 5 weeks and I had plans to take my son and his kids to the state park Sat for our first "day trip". I was all excited and looking forward to my day off after a LONG hard week, and spending time with everyone. I normally like to leave early when I plan a day trip, bu...	shellyj123	5	613	Aug 24, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	I think I've turned the corner (Preview) I am finally feeling like me again instead of an us missing one and being miserable all the time. I'm at the point now where I think he can't have me back even if he wanted me. I was too good for him. Sure took a while for self respect to kick in though. It has taken several weeks for me to get to the point tha...	carolinagirl	5	472	Aug 24, 2009 by Hawk120025
	How will I feel tomorrow? (Preview) Hi All, It's been a while since I posted. I try but nothing will come out that makes sense! So I end up deleting a page of dribble after writing it for hours. Even at f2f meetings I can't string two words together that make sense to me or anyone else. I am in a "zombie zone" or something. W...	silver brumby	2	594	Aug 24, 2009 by Hawk120025
	Nightmares (Preview) Hi all, Little by little I am gaining understanding of what happened with my A ex-bf. I no longer feel the guilt for breaking up with him. I no longer accept his words of blame. And although I still miss him, I feel the progress of peace and healing. I do, however, relive some of the moments over the last...	Hawk120025	0	316	Aug 24, 2009 by Hawk120025
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