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I am finally feeling like me again instead of an us missing one and being miserable all the time. I'm at the point now where I think he can't have me back even if he wanted me. I was too good for him. Sure took a while for self respect to kick in though. It has taken several weeks for me to get to the point that I feel like I might be able to have SOME joy in my life again and I don't NEED him to give it to me. What a relief, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my body and my heart. I hope this is the end of the road and not just another up to be followed by sadness and missing him. Otherwise things are going fairly well on the homefront. I have been working on making friends. It's so hard to find people that you want to be friends with that are also looking for more friends. I think my negative attitude and feeling sorry for myself the past few weeks really isn't helping the situation. Maybe now that I feel like I've turned the corner I can attract some new friends.
So glad to hear that you've turned the corner and are heading back home to you! I too am feeling as though I have turned a corner of sorts with my divorce (which is next Tues) I have finally let go and quit corresponding (answering phone calls) from husband. I have started a Divorce Care class and feel like I will make some new friends in this class. I have also started reaching out to old friends and am trying not to isolate myself so much.
It does seem like it takes a while for self-respect to kick in doesn't it? I don't know why that is, but I think for me it was just learning to detach from the alcoholic and not "taking in" his "stuff". Even if this isn't "the end of the road and not just another up to be followed by sadness and missing him." remember DABDA (Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance- the 5 stages of Grief), it just takes time.
Love in Recovery, Overcome
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I can Overcome all things through my HP who strengthens me.
I hope that you can hang on to (for life) that you are whole all by yourself. That happiness comes from within, not given to you by anyone else.
I know you know this, and I also know how easy it is to slip if you don't work it daily. I'm glad you came out of this smiling. Take your power back and run with it!!
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
Some of My Dearest Friends CURRANTLY I have met has been at F2F meeting, I didn't have to seek them out, We just found each other... You'll get were you need to be... Just take it ONE DAY AT A TIME.... Your Doing Great...
