Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

KLotus · KLotus

Hello again everyone! I have a couple of questions: I am working on trying to set boundaries with my alcoholic husband, particularly regarding the way he talks to me so unkindly. A counselor challenged me to do this, and said that there need to be consequences as a result. However, as in the past, my h...

AnnieMar · AnnieMar

Hi, everybody.. My husband of 22 years has been sober for 18 years. But lately, although I fully believe him that he hasn't taken a drink, his behavior is unpredictable. I discovered that he is still in the habit of lying. I found out that on several occasions he went to dinner with a female friend and...

rara avis · rara avis

Hello Alanon forum goers, First off, thank you VERY much Al Anon and folks for existing, the Alanon literature has been very helpful and I have cruised various forums for info, ideas, etc...I appreciate the anonymous help!! It is so needed. Excuse the long story, but for those who can read the whol...

Crazy Frog · Crazy Frog

We had topic day at our meeting and the topic was anger. Very appropriate. One of the member talked about his anger and at one point of his sharing he said i always look at my part. it struck a nerve in me, big time. 2 weeks ago we told our teenage daughter we were separating, it was probably the most difficu...

Lyne · Lyne

OK so here we are again. A is so upset at my distance and changed mode that of course now she will go for professional help, at least with a CASAC/LCSW. Do you know how many times we have been at this point? Do you know how many times I believed her? I have no faith in her to accomplish dealing with her mult...

Pushka · Pushka

This whole thing with the DUI just stirs up a whole lot of anger for me. I have a right to be angry. I have to remind myself healthy people would be angry. It's what and how I choose to handle my anger that separates me from where I was a year ago and where I am now. Filter from brain to mouth first, stop and t...

lovecats · lovecats

hello. i'm new to this forum, and pretty new to al-anon--i've been going to meetings for about 5 months now and recently started working with a sponsor. i've been trying to use program tools to get through the last couple of days, but i'm so anxious and overcome with worry right now. my husband has had bo...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

I'm amazed. Amazed at myself for my recent attitude. I've talked to ABF several times the past few days. The first conversation involved the "I'm Sorry"...my response... "thank you" - "I've signed up for a program in jail".... my response.. "hope you get...

Lizabelle123 · Lizabelle123

I'm very new to Al-Anon and have just started going to meetings and working the steps. What I'm realizing right now is how angry I am at my AH, angry for all the verbal abuse, angry with the fact that his drinking has put us in debt, angry because I have no friends because I've been so isolated, angry about...

blender_girl · blender_girl

I'm in a class for work and will not be available to chair this morning's meeting. I'm sooo sorry for the late notice and hope someone can step in for me! hugs, bg

Corgi2 · Corgi2

So I am feeling guilty for living my life...isn't that insane!!!!! My ex keeps calling and texting and emailing, which is somewhat funny because he never did that when we were together! I can't shake the feeling of guilt though...not just because I met someone else and Im having a good time just laughi...

Doozy · Doozy

Hi y'all! This is my first post in this wonderful forum. I have been reading posts almost every day for a couple weeks now and have found so much wisdom and strength from reading here. I feel like I already know some of you and already have so much appreciation for your honesty, humor and support dealing w...

odaat · odaat

Looking back I have been on and off this board for many years... I know what I need to do and don't understand why I just can't do it. My AH has made it crystal clear that he has no intention of giving up his drinking and claims he does not have a problem. According to him people don't want to do anything wit...

canadianguy · canadianguy

A number of post-ers ask questions from the perspective of an ACOA, and I must humbly admit that I have very little knowledge around ACOA-specific issues. I asked the question of Toby Rice Drews, and here is her response, that I thought I would pass along, for those looking at good reading material in...

Nervousguy · Nervousguy

Maybe I need more reassurance than advice but I have been stressing. Background about me I've been single for 4 years and Celibate for almost 2, because I've been waiting for the right girl. I met her 2 weeks ago and it was the most amazing feeling Ive ever felt in my life. True Love at First Sight. We had 2 d...

Pushka · Pushka

K, love your avatar picture and wanted to share my sunflower picture from last year. We had giant sunflowers in the garden .. lol. Anyway, your avatar made me think of this picture. :)

youfoundme · youfoundme

A friendly Canadian guy on this very board has offered me some information that after reading and re-reading it I felt I needed to offer a piece of it here and share about it... From Toby Rice Drews: "When we feel that he holds all the cards....... when we feel that there is no way that we can make it wi...

Ashley1723 · Ashley1723

My Brother started drinking when he was in high school "casually," and then turned into a weekend and night time partier after he graduated. About five years ago his wife left him unexpectedly and started dating his friend, which made him turn to alcohol. He drank from the time he got off wo...

Betterfuture · Betterfuture

So my AH texted me today saying "I don't drink around our daughter and you know when my days off are you are keeping her away from me" He wanted to pick her up yesterday so he called yesterday and left a message I ignored him but later texted him back saying that he should call ahead of time when he...

KLotus · KLotus

Hi Everyone, Happy Summer :). I hope you are all doing well. Several months ago I moved out of my home with my 10 month old baby. Two months later my husband went to an inpatient treatment center for alcoholism. Today is four weeks since his release from that program. He is attending outpatient trea...

Freya · Freya

I just had a call from an alcoholic relative telling me they have a week to leave their home due to being evicted for not paying the rent, and then breaking a court agreement to pay the arrears in installments. This in the week after she spent hundreds on birthday presents for her son and for his school pr...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Aaarrgh! I struggle with understanding if I am detaching, or being a flaky parent. My son will turn 18 at the end of the month, and has made it clear that he intends to move out. While I got him home a few months ago, he pretty much just holed himself up in his room, and gradually separated himself so that h...

respect · respect

Well, I took the alcohol questionaire like you all suggested and the results were as I predicted. A wrecked car, infidelity, and a sad heart told me the answer before I even had to ask. I told my husband today about my infidelity. He took it rather well. He is still in rehab for pain pills so it was over the...

Katy · Katy

Good morning Mip, Our son is still making his own way in life, we do get updtaes, I believe he is living in a third residence now, my husband had the pleasure of him yesterday he went to see his dad as requested to sort out a mobile phone contract he has got in a mess with, I have declined to not get involved, hu...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I am just keeping honest here, so I want to say this now. My bf last week starting Wednesday gave me his debit and credit cards to hold on to so he wouldn't buy alcohol during the day. At first I hestitated because I thought "I don't need to babysit his cards so he won't drink" but then I felt th...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Just was reminded by another MIP member that I had not yet shared here what I shared on the other board the other day...After a buncha us guys and gals got together to console ourselves about the passing of my friend Leonard F I got a Facebook and more from others that LEONARD WAS ALIVE!! Visions of the m...

pessimisticallyoptimistic · pessimisticallyoptimistic

Hi:) Okay, so my DH has been sober for 11 months now. I'm 9 months pregnant. He was raised by his Mom & Step-Dad. I believe all his depression/addiction issues originated with the absence of his birth father. He desperately wanted to know him. His Mom left with him when he was a baby. Accordin...

Keel Man · Keel Man

Hi All, I am new to this so please have patience with me. My wife is an A and has been sober for 1/2 year. She has a sponsor (F) who is real nice, I have met her and she has this "Mentor" (M) who we will call Bob. she and Bob spend sometimes several hrs on the phone and many texts back and forth almost ev...

chinup · chinup

going to my 12 step meetings every tues nite,working out of my 12 step workbook,going out to learn how to line dance,going to some open aa meetings with some freinds,visiting neighbor next door young couple with 4 youngins and a 3 mth old i get to feed and hold,cutting my freinds hair ,paying bills wor...

likemyheart · likemyheart

I had a long conversation with a neighbor friend about this topic last night - he has never been truly alone, facing the tremendous weight of life by himself - even when not hooked up with someone, he had family and friends he lived with, helped take care of even - so he doesn't understand the deep lonelin...

Lyne · Lyne

So I saw a health professional today and he thinks I am very depressed. I guess I am, but I think I am grieving the loss of the relationship I used to have, wanted to have, and trying to accept that I may likely never have it again. My marriage started out fun, healthy I thought, and both of us were clear and...

Rora · Rora

I wanted to begin this post and address all the things that are difficult for me in this life journey. Man, life is hitting hard these days. And, as I was going over some of that in my head yesterday, I thought "ugh..let's shift that to gratitude instead." Being scared and worried and over...

fish out of water · fish out of water

My abf of 13yrs died in March 2011. I was lucky enough to have separated from him a year ago when I asked him to move out after being fired for drinking on the job. I couldn't, refused to watch him drink himself to death. Although not together, he was my best friend we spoke daily. I did get to say I love you to h...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

My final divorce hearing is on July 19th and as that day approaches I am getting so much more irritable and emotional. I know I am doing the right thing and have lived on my own for the last year. I struggle because I work 6 days a week with only Saturday's off to watch my 13 year old play her soccer games. I...

clep · clep

Recently I had a client try to blackmail me to get a good sum of money out of me. Legally they were not entitled to the money via the contract we have, so they used other pressure tactics to get me to give it to them. In the past I would have been irate and started the whole agressive approach. It would have be...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

I really need some guidance, opions, examples.... how do I know what to do? Just talked to ABF for the first time in 11 days. Turns out he decided not to do his 3 months in lieu of probation and he could be out any day. There were NO questions asked on my part about his future plans. He told me he WANTS to be s...

MDK · MDK

My husband has been on a pill binger for almost two weeks now. I have noticed changes within myself. Instead of screaming or slamming the door I am starting to feel peaceful because I am taking care of myself and children first. I feel so sorry for him because he is going down a path that will eventually le...

Loupiness · Loupiness

My exAH has been in recovery and working a strict program for almost 4 yrs now, and we finally became officially divorced in Jan. Still a lot of pain around it, but for the most part, the crazy insane part of it all is over. I have come to accept what I cannot change (even though I do not like it) and try t...

Melissa Exhausted · Melissa Exhausted

I am new to al-anon, and I was recommended to check the group out to begin to heal, and revert back to my old, happy, positive self. I have been dating an alcoholic for 6 years. At first, I didn't know the extent of his disease, but when I moved in with him a couple of years ago, I figured it out. He wakes up in th...

Tracy · Tracy

I have been with my abf for over six years, i have been in al anon for nearly 4. ou journey has been a bumpy one thanks to alcoholism. he was sober for 6 months then relapesed over 6 months hit rock bottom went to a 6 month rehab then a three months dry house and was doing great. I understood he was sick and...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have been future-tripping lately--someday in the future my MOM is going to permanately move down to CA w/ my sister. Every time I think of it I get anxiety & somewhat depressed. Now I know that she is going to go there in a few years I still think about it & feel so awful especially when she mentio...

odalis · odalis

You guys have been awesome in sharing. I have a few more questions, although I know you can't tell me what to do, but please share what your experience have been please! So, I'm trying to ignore the drinking behavior of my AH. He comes home today and after saying hello to me and the girls, he grabs a beer and...

Rora · Rora

I am doing quite well these days with detaching. I by no means wish my A harm, but I also don't wish to engage him either. Yesterday, after weeks of not engaging or responding to his ridiculousness, in response to a hurt he caused my son, I text him telling him just what I thought. Never a good idea, I know...

ifa · ifa

I will take a chance and post about this. I think the main reason I left alanon meetings for a while was because of my mother. I did not leave the ideas of the program or the 12 steps, or my HP. I did not feel generally worse off, and I did not become isolated. I found other spiritual connections and things to j...

vizslame · vizslame

Being new is so damned confusing. I have so much crap in my life

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

Well, court for the dismissal of the restraining order was this morning. I was so stressed I swear I was gonna be sick right there in the courtroom. They called me up, ABF was brought in from his holding cell and sat at a table to my left. I was afraid to look at him. I didn't know what my reaction would be o...

chinup · chinup

im under lots of stress which usually causes me to run back into my abf arms but no i havent and cant thanks to alanon and all the posts here has really helped me to know which direction i want to stay in....one day at a time still having problems with loneliness,but each and everyday does make a diff. in my t...

Pushka · Pushka

Well, we FINALLY got some news about the DUI stuff and it's a mixed blessing. 10 months has been forever!! Until I see it in writing though I won't know for sure, as I really don't believe what my AH says to me. I would say more now than I did a year ago for sure. The lawyer called him at work and let him know...

Jeff · Jeff

Probably a stupid question....... Im sure my AW is drinking....but can an addict stop substance abuse but still be in denial? Im to blame for everthing from her cheating on me, I caused the pending divorce, caused her to try to kill herself, caused her to lose custody of the kids, and likely the cuase of...

chinup · chinup

right after i left the post on wanting to slip i checked my email and lo and behold he did answer me back with whats up with u girl,sarcastic i took it,i answered him back with a kind words but i know this is all im doing here is because im sooo lonely and he is and was always availableat any given time,lol i do...

Ruby · Ruby

Wondering why I have the need to justify and rationalize to my A/A dr. about why I'm not co-signing for her to get an apt. she lost her previous condo because she cursed and made terrorist threats to the manger, went to jail and had a restraining order against her. I'm not sure yet what condition she l...

chinup · chinup

i know well in my heart that the life i had before with my a/bf didnt and wasnt gonna ever work so did he so we r now separated completely havent heard or seen him in over a month im beginning to miss him sooo very much and wanting to c him agin=mistake,thats my slip,i loved him soo much even though he done me so...

HarleyRyder · HarleyRyder

My wife is currently in a facility for the abuse of prescription pain meds as well as muscle relaxers, she is also a recovering Alcholic (sober 10 years). I work away from home and we keep in contact by phone while I'm away on business. About 5 weeks ago I had tried calling her and the phone went to voice ma...

respect · respect

Hi. This is my first post here. I am in the middle of a life I want to run away from and just needed to let some stuff out. My husband is in a rehab facility for the next 30 days for an addiction to pain meds. It's been on and off for years but in the last 8 months his addiction grew to a level I never thought possibl...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I have a chance of a wonderful oppurtunity that could bring great joy and adventure to my life. Then my cycle starts Day 1 - excitement and gusto Day 2 - reservation and hesitancy Day 3 - wishy washy ... maybe and usually on Day 4 I feel the full impact of the old familiar DOOM bubble return because I have bee...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Alls cool here. Well very sunny and warm for days now! River keeps asking me to hop in! I don't know what is making me do so but I am thinking of ex AH a lot. Just him, his face is all. Its ok. I am waiting to see if I feel I need to go see him, to check on him for me. This morn was normal,waking up to birds, chipmunks a...

Betterfuture · Betterfuture

So its Friday night and I spent it studying w/ my bestfriend. It was good I got alot done but afterwards I wanted to go out and do something. I realized that I have disconnected with all my friends that I barely have any left No one calls me to hang out on the weekends or to do anything. I feel kind of alone ton...

Kristi136188 · Kristi136188

Ok, so do any Al-anon members still enjoy a drink or two without their A around? I do. I don't do it often, but I have the "luxury" of my husband being a trucker and being able to do things without him seeing me with alcohol in my system or seeing my friends drinking or smelling it. Like I said, I do...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...taking some time to remember a friend in recovery who just past. I'm not sad; I am grateful that he and I met and continued our relationship in recovery. I met Leonard F in 1995 when I took a mutually agreed 5 month look into working for a local alcohol and substance abuse program. We wo...

amm · amm

Hi, So... I'll explain. I've never been to a meeting or to anything really. I guess because i was embarrased about my mom and her drinking. I've been lurking around her for a while and finally decided to post. So here's my story, sorry if its long... My mom started drinking when i was 17. She had never drin...

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	Boundaries, sponsors, etc... (Preview) Hello again everyone! I have a couple of questions: I am working on trying to set boundaries with my alcoholic husband, particularly regarding the way he talks to me so unkindly. A counselor challenged me to do this, and said that there need to be consequences as a result. However, as in the past, my h...	KLotus	17	738	Jul 15, 2011 by ELEKTRAWMN
	So confused (Preview) Hi, everybody.. My husband of 22 years has been sober for 18 years. But lately, although I fully believe him that he hasn't taken a drink, his behavior is unpredictable. I discovered that he is still in the habit of lying. I found out that on several occasions he went to dinner with a female friend and...	AnnieMar	3	460	Jul 15, 2011 by AnnieMar
	Suggestions, please; A beloved, recovering boyfriend neglecting self care and being mean (Preview) Hello Alanon forum goers, First off, thank you VERY much Al Anon and folks for existing, the Alanon literature has been very helpful and I have cruised various forums for info, ideas, etc...I appreciate the anonymous help!! It is so needed. Excuse the long story, but for those who can read the whol...	rara avis	8	871	Jul 15, 2011 by rara avis
	What is my part? (Preview) We had topic day at our meeting and the topic was anger. Very appropriate. One of the member talked about his anger and at one point of his sharing he said i always look at my part. it struck a nerve in me, big time. 2 weeks ago we told our teenage daughter we were separating, it was probably the most difficu...	Crazy Frog	5	707	Jul 15, 2011 by flopadopilus
	spouse promises change again (Preview) OK so here we are again. A is so upset at my distance and changed mode that of course now she will go for professional help, at least with a CASAC/LCSW. Do you know how many times we have been at this point? Do you know how many times I believed her? I have no faith in her to accomplish dealing with her mult...	Lyne	10	779	Jul 15, 2011 by ELEKTRAWMN
	Little slips (Preview) This whole thing with the DUI just stirs up a whole lot of anger for me. I have a right to be angry. I have to remind myself healthy people would be angry. It's what and how I choose to handle my anger that separates me from where I was a year ago and where I am now. Filter from brain to mouth first, stop and t...	Pushka	11	849	Jul 15, 2011 by Pushka
	feel like i'm losing my mind (Preview) hello. i'm new to this forum, and pretty new to al-anon--i've been going to meetings for about 5 months now and recently started working with a sponsor. i've been trying to use program tools to get through the last couple of days, but i'm so anxious and overcome with worry right now. my husband has had bo...	lovecats	8	848	Jul 15, 2011 by lovecats
	One step forward or two steps back? (Preview) I'm amazed. Amazed at myself for my recent attitude. I've talked to ABF several times the past few days. The first conversation involved the "I'm Sorry"...my response... "thank you" - "I've signed up for a program in jail".... my response.. "hope you get...	ELEKTRAWMN	8	599	Jul 15, 2011 by youfoundme
	I'm so angry... (Preview) I'm very new to Al-Anon and have just started going to meetings and working the steps. What I'm realizing right now is how angry I am at my AH, angry for all the verbal abuse, angry with the fact that his drinking has put us in debt, angry because I have no friends because I've been so isolated, angry about...	Lizabelle123	11	1462	Jul 15, 2011 by odalis
	Sorry for the late notice - need a chair for Friday 7/15 morning meeting! (Preview) I'm in a class for work and will not be available to chair this morning's meeting. I'm sooo sorry for the late notice and hope someone can step in for me! hugs, bg	blender_girl	0	250	Jul 15, 2011 by blender_girl
	Guilt has set in (Preview) So I am feeling guilty for living my life...isn't that insane!!!!! My ex keeps calling and texting and emailing, which is somewhat funny because he never did that when we were together! I can't shake the feeling of guilt though...not just because I met someone else and Im having a good time just laughi...	Corgi2	8	649	Jul 15, 2011 by Doozy
	Grateful newbie and article share (Preview) Hi y'all! This is my first post in this wonderful forum. I have been reading posts almost every day for a couple weeks now and have found so much wisdom and strength from reading here. I feel like I already know some of you and already have so much appreciation for your honesty, humor and support dealing w...	Doozy	11	707	Jul 15, 2011 by bethlibart
	Here Again... (Preview) Looking back I have been on and off this board for many years... I know what I need to do and don't understand why I just can't do it. My AH has made it crystal clear that he has no intention of giving up his drinking and claims he does not have a problem. According to him people don't want to do anything wit...	odaat	4	599	Jul 14, 2011 by xeno59
	ACOA Books (Preview) A number of post-ers ask questions from the perspective of an ACOA, and I must humbly admit that I have very little knowledge around ACOA-specific issues. I asked the question of Toby Rice Drews, and here is her response, that I thought I would pass along, for those looking at good reading material in...	canadianguy	5	4421	Jul 14, 2011 by Red Hawk
	Have Relationship Cold Feet. Was Single 4 years. Help! Share Stories relationship single new cold feet anxiety scared commitment (Preview) Maybe I need more reassurance than advice but I have been stressing. Background about me I've been single for 4 years and Celibate for almost 2, because I've been waiting for the right girl. I met her 2 weeks ago and it was the most amazing feeling Ive ever felt in my life. True Love at First Sight. We had 2 d...	Nervousguy	6	4388	Jul 14, 2011 by Debilyn
	YouFoundMe (Preview) K, love your avatar picture and wanted to share my sunflower picture from last year. We had giant sunflowers in the garden .. lol. Anyway, your avatar made me think of this picture. :)	Pushka	6	526	Jul 14, 2011 by youfoundme
	You gotta want it...more than anything (Preview) A friendly Canadian guy on this very board has offered me some information that after reading and re-reading it I felt I needed to offer a piece of it here and share about it... From Toby Rice Drews: "When we feel that he holds all the cards....... when we feel that there is no way that we can make it wi...	youfoundme	10	923	Jul 14, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Newbie....a few questions. (Preview) My Brother started drinking when he was in high school "casually," and then turned into a weekend and night time partier after he graduated. About five years ago his wife left him unexpectedly and started dating his friend, which made him turn to alcohol. He drank from the time he got off wo...	Ashley1723	5	755	Jul 14, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Runaway (Preview) So my AH texted me today saying "I don't drink around our daughter and you know when my days off are you are keeping her away from me" He wanted to pick her up yesterday so he called yesterday and left a message I ignored him but later texted him back saying that he should call ahead of time when he...	Betterfuture	7	673	Jul 14, 2011 by Betterfuture
	Recovering and tattooing (Preview) Hi Everyone, Happy Summer :). I hope you are all doing well. Several months ago I moved out of my home with my 10 month old baby. Two months later my husband went to an inpatient treatment center for alcoholism. Today is four weeks since his release from that program. He is attending outpatient trea...	KLotus	6	3549	Jul 14, 2011 by KLotus
	Need a bit of ESH (Preview) I just had a call from an alcoholic relative telling me they have a week to leave their home due to being evicted for not paying the rent, and then breaking a court agreement to pay the arrears in installments. This in the week after she spent hundreds on birthday presents for her son and for his school pr...	Freya	12	633	Jul 14, 2011 by Freya
	the limbo is killing me (Preview) Aaarrgh! I struggle with understanding if I am detaching, or being a flaky parent. My son will turn 18 at the end of the month, and has made it clear that he intends to move out. While I got him home a few months ago, he pretty much just holed himself up in his room, and gradually separated himself so that h...	Loupiness	9	869	Jul 13, 2011 by Jerry F
	alcohol qestionaire/told husband (Preview) Well, I took the alcohol questionaire like you all suggested and the results were as I predicted. A wrecked car, infidelity, and a sad heart told me the answer before I even had to ask. I told my husband today about my infidelity. He took it rather well. He is still in rehab for pain pills so it was over the...	respect	8	735	Jul 13, 2011 by Jerry F
	I am more than my worries! (Preview) Good morning Mip, Our son is still making his own way in life, we do get updtaes, I believe he is living in a third residence now, my husband had the pleasure of him yesterday he went to see his dad as requested to sort out a mobile phone contract he has got in a mess with, I have declined to not get involved, hu...	Katy	6	769	Jul 13, 2011 by Debilyn
	Staying honest and keeping off the pity pot (Preview) I am just keeping honest here, so I want to say this now. My bf last week starting Wednesday gave me his debit and credit cards to hold on to so he wouldn't buy alcohol during the day. At first I hestitated because I thought "I don't need to babysit his cards so he won't drink" but then I felt th...	youfoundme	15	2237	Jul 13, 2011 by youfoundme
	Another funny lesson in humility.... (Preview) Just was reminded by another MIP member that I had not yet shared here what I shared on the other board the other day...After a buncha us guys and gals got together to console ourselves about the passing of my friend Leonard F I got a Facebook and more from others that LEONARD WAS ALIVE!! Visions of the m...	Jerry F	9	807	Jul 13, 2011 by Jozie
	New with a question... (Preview) Hi:) Okay, so my DH has been sober for 11 months now. I'm 9 months pregnant. He was raised by his Mom & Step-Dad. I believe all his depression/addiction issues originated with the absence of his birth father. He desperately wanted to know him. His Mom left with him when he was a baby. Accordin...	pessimisticallyoptimistic	11	712	Jul 13, 2011 by youfoundme
	Newbie Dying Inside (Preview) Hi All, I am new to this so please have patience with me. My wife is an A and has been sober for 1/2 year. She has a sponsor (F) who is real nice, I have met her and she has this "Mentor" (M) who we will call Bob. she and Bob spend sometimes several hrs on the phone and many texts back and forth almost ev...	Keel Man	14	1187	Jul 13, 2011 by ifa
	plans for staying busy busy (Preview) going to my 12 step meetings every tues nite,working out of my 12 step workbook,going out to learn how to line dance,going to some open aa meetings with some freinds,visiting neighbor next door young couple with 4 youngins and a 3 mth old i get to feed and hold,cutting my freinds hair ,paying bills wor...	chinup	6	554	Jul 13, 2011 by alexmaui
	Loneliness (Preview) I had a long conversation with a neighbor friend about this topic last night - he has never been truly alone, facing the tremendous weight of life by himself - even when not hooked up with someone, he had family and friends he lived with, helped take care of even - so he doesn't understand the deep lonelin...	likemyheart	6	4796	Jul 12, 2011 by Pushka
	grieving the loss (Preview) So I saw a health professional today and he thinks I am very depressed. I guess I am, but I think I am grieving the loss of the relationship I used to have, wanted to have, and trying to accept that I may likely never have it again. My marriage started out fun, healthy I thought, and both of us were clear and...	Lyne	10	783	Jul 12, 2011 by Lyne
	Choosing to feel thankful instead... (Preview) I wanted to begin this post and address all the things that are difficult for me in this life journey. Man, life is hitting hard these days. And, as I was going over some of that in my head yesterday, I thought "ugh..let's shift that to gratitude instead." Being scared and worried and over...	Rora	7	713	Jul 12, 2011 by Jerry F
	What to do with my feelings (Preview) My abf of 13yrs died in March 2011. I was lucky enough to have separated from him a year ago when I asked him to move out after being fired for drinking on the job. I couldn't, refused to watch him drink himself to death. Although not together, he was my best friend we spoke daily. I did get to say I love you to h...	fish out of water	7	610	Jul 12, 2011 by fish out of water
	Beyond tired (Preview) My final divorce hearing is on July 19th and as that day approaches I am getting so much more irritable and emotional. I know I am doing the right thing and have lived on my own for the last year. I struggle because I work 6 days a week with only Saturday's off to watch my 13 year old play her soccer games. I...	flopadopilus	7	686	Jul 12, 2011 by youfoundme
	Al-anon has changed me so much (Preview) Recently I had a client try to blackmail me to get a good sum of money out of me. Legally they were not entitled to the money via the contract we have, so they used other pressure tactics to get me to give it to them. In the past I would have been irate and started the whole agressive approach. It would have be...	clep	6	555	Jul 12, 2011 by youfoundme
	Help? (Preview) I really need some guidance, opions, examples.... how do I know what to do? Just talked to ABF for the first time in 11 days. Turns out he decided not to do his 3 months in lieu of probation and he could be out any day. There were NO questions asked on my part about his future plans. He told me he WANTS to be s...	ELEKTRAWMN	14	719	Jul 12, 2011 by xeno59
	What the program has done for me............ (Preview) My husband has been on a pill binger for almost two weeks now. I have noticed changes within myself. Instead of screaming or slamming the door I am starting to feel peaceful because I am taking care of myself and children first. I feel so sorry for him because he is going down a path that will eventually le...	MDK	8	736	Jul 12, 2011 by Pushka
	won't enter the ring for another round... (Preview) My exAH has been in recovery and working a strict program for almost 4 yrs now, and we finally became officially divorced in Jan. Still a lot of pain around it, but for the most part, the crazy insane part of it all is over. I have come to accept what I cannot change (even though I do not like it) and try t...	Loupiness	5	682	Jul 12, 2011 by Loupiness
	New to Al-Anon, and desperately need it! (Preview) I am new to al-anon, and I was recommended to check the group out to begin to heal, and revert back to my old, happy, positive self. I have been dating an alcoholic for 6 years. At first, I didn't know the extent of his disease, but when I moved in with him a couple of years ago, I figured it out. He wakes up in th...	Melissa Exhausted	9	656	Jul 12, 2011 by tommyecat
	need al anon strength. (Preview) I have been with my abf for over six years, i have been in al anon for nearly 4. ou journey has been a bumpy one thanks to alcoholism. he was sober for 6 months then relapesed over 6 months hit rock bottom went to a 6 month rehab then a three months dry house and was doing great. I understood he was sick and...	Tracy	7	521	Jul 12, 2011 by tommyecat
	yikes! future tripping (Preview) I have been future-tripping lately--someday in the future my MOM is going to permanately move down to CA w/ my sister. Every time I think of it I get anxiety & somewhat depressed. Now I know that she is going to go there in a few years I still think about it & feel so awful especially when she mentio...	Hoot Nanny	3	896	Jul 12, 2011 by tommyecat
	more questions (Preview) You guys have been awesome in sharing. I have a few more questions, although I know you can't tell me what to do, but please share what your experience have been please! So, I'm trying to ignore the drinking behavior of my AH. He comes home today and after saying hello to me and the girls, he grabs a beer and...	odalis	3	705	Jul 11, 2011 by RLC
	Mush brain... (Preview) I am doing quite well these days with detaching. I by no means wish my A harm, but I also don't wish to engage him either. Yesterday, after weeks of not engaging or responding to his ridiculousness, in response to a hurt he caused my son, I text him telling him just what I thought. Never a good idea, I know...	Rora	6	837	Jul 11, 2011 by Rora
	my mother (Preview) I will take a chance and post about this. I think the main reason I left alanon meetings for a while was because of my mother. I did not leave the ideas of the program or the 12 steps, or my HP. I did not feel generally worse off, and I did not become isolated. I found other spiritual connections and things to j...	ifa	11	714	Jul 11, 2011 by Jerry F
	being new (Preview) Being new is so damned confusing. I have so much crap in my life	vizslame	11	702	Jul 11, 2011 by vizslame
	I survived....barely (Preview) Well, court for the dismissal of the restraining order was this morning. I was so stressed I swear I was gonna be sick right there in the courtroom. They called me up, ABF was brought in from his holding cell and sat at a table to my left. I was afraid to look at him. I didn't know what my reaction would be o...	ELEKTRAWMN	4	510	Jul 11, 2011 by Mattie
	trying to stay busy busy to keep mind off things (Preview) im under lots of stress which usually causes me to run back into my abf arms but no i havent and cant thanks to alanon and all the posts here has really helped me to know which direction i want to stay in....one day at a time still having problems with loneliness,but each and everyday does make a diff. in my t...	chinup	2	673	Jul 11, 2011 by hotrod
	Got News .. (Preview) Well, we FINALLY got some news about the DUI stuff and it's a mixed blessing. 10 months has been forever!! Until I see it in writing though I won't know for sure, as I really don't believe what my AH says to me. I would say more now than I did a year ago for sure. The lawyer called him at work and let him know...	Pushka	7	493	Jul 11, 2011 by Pushka
	Not Drinking but Still Denial?? (Preview) Probably a stupid question....... Im sure my AW is drinking....but can an addict stop substance abuse but still be in denial? Im to blame for everthing from her cheating on me, I caused the pending divorce, caused her to try to kill herself, caused her to lose custody of the kids, and likely the cuase of...	Jeff	4	687	Jul 11, 2011 by Jeff
	so far no slip,thank gosh (Preview) right after i left the post on wanting to slip i checked my email and lo and behold he did answer me back with whats up with u girl,sarcastic i took it,i answered him back with a kind words but i know this is all im doing here is because im sooo lonely and he is and was always availableat any given time,lol i do...	chinup	5	689	Jul 11, 2011 by Pushka
	Just say "NO" (Preview) Wondering why I have the need to justify and rationalize to my A/A dr. about why I'm not co-signing for her to get an apt. she lost her previous condo because she cursed and made terrorist threats to the manger, went to jail and had a restraining order against her. I'm not sure yet what condition she l...	Ruby	5	546	Jul 11, 2011 by Otie
	finding myself wanting to slip (Preview) i know well in my heart that the life i had before with my a/bf didnt and wasnt gonna ever work so did he so we r now separated completely havent heard or seen him in over a month im beginning to miss him sooo very much and wanting to c him agin=mistake,thats my slip,i loved him soo much even though he done me so...	chinup	4	469	Jul 11, 2011 by All I can be
	Prescription Pain Meds (Preview) My wife is currently in a facility for the abuse of prescription pain meds as well as muscle relaxers, she is also a recovering Alcholic (sober 10 years). I work away from home and we keep in contact by phone while I'm away on business. About 5 weeks ago I had tried calling her and the phone went to voice ma...	HarleyRyder	4	999	Jul 11, 2011 by Otie
	My life is a mess (Preview) Hi. This is my first post here. I am in the middle of a life I want to run away from and just needed to let some stuff out. My husband is in a rehab facility for the next 30 days for an addiction to pain meds. It's been on and off for years but in the last 8 months his addiction grew to a level I never thought possibl...	respect	5	771	Jul 11, 2011 by flopadopilus
	I see my sickness surfacing (Preview) I have a chance of a wonderful oppurtunity that could bring great joy and adventure to my life. Then my cycle starts Day 1 - excitement and gusto Day 2 - reservation and hesitancy Day 3 - wishy washy ... maybe and usually on Day 4 I feel the full impact of the old familiar DOOM bubble return because I have bee...	Jennifer	5	655	Jul 10, 2011 by Debilyn
	saturday morn (Preview) Alls cool here. Well very sunny and warm for days now! River keeps asking me to hop in! I don't know what is making me do so but I am thinking of ex AH a lot. Just him, his face is all. Its ok. I am waiting to see if I feel I need to go see him, to check on him for me. This morn was normal,waking up to birds, chipmunks a...	Debilyn	8	709	Jul 10, 2011 by Debilyn
	Reconnection (Preview) So its Friday night and I spent it studying w/ my bestfriend. It was good I got alot done but afterwards I wanted to go out and do something. I realized that I have disconnected with all my friends that I barely have any left No one calls me to hang out on the weekends or to do anything. I feel kind of alone ton...	Betterfuture	9	610	Jul 10, 2011 by Betterfuture
	an interesting question (Preview) Ok, so do any Al-anon members still enjoy a drink or two without their A around? I do. I don't do it often, but I have the "luxury" of my husband being a trucker and being able to do things without him seeing me with alcohol in my system or seeing my friends drinking or smelling it. Like I said, I do...	Kristi136188	11	671	Jul 10, 2011 by Otie
	Leonard F has left the room.... (Preview) Aloha Family...taking some time to remember a friend in recovery who just past. I'm not sad; I am grateful that he and I met and continued our relationship in recovery. I met Leonard F in 1995 when I took a mutually agreed 5 month look into working for a local alcohol and substance abuse program. We wo...	Jerry F	14	696	Jul 10, 2011 by Ness
	Hi, I'm new and I have questions (Preview) Hi, So... I'll explain. I've never been to a meeting or to anything really. I guess because i was embarrased about my mom and her drinking. I've been lurking around her for a while and finally decided to post. So here's my story, sorry if its long... My mom started drinking when i was 17. She had never drin...	amm	10	636	Jul 10, 2011 by amm
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