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coffeegrounds · coffeegrounds

Well my bipolar AH went into detox today. He will have what I believe is a solid recovery program when he gets out. AA, outpatient rehab program and a psychosocial rehab specialist. So why don't I feel relief? He has been to a 30 day live in rehab program last June was sober for 10months, then decide...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

If it keeps getting & better I don't know what I am going to do! I just keep remembering that it has gotten so bad over the years that I have to focus on TODAY! I am still reminiscing on the past too much. Just the other day, I was trying to remember something from the Past w/ my ex-AH. I just wanted to reliv...

NaomiMarie · NaomiMarie

I finally got mad at him. it always seemed like I would be mad while he was gone for the week of drinking but as soon as he was home again I couldn't stay mad. I always said I understood and made excuses, lied to myself and let him continue lying to me and himself. what finally tipped me over was he came to my fat...

Tracy · Tracy

I ended my relationship with my ABf a couple of weeks ago after he broke a boundary went missingfor days partin with other girls. I told him I could not have contact as it hurts. He sent odd text about silly stuff but I stuck to guns need to move on. Then when I never heard from him for a couple of days I star...

Becki67 · Becki67

I'm going to apologize up front for the length of this post. I've been living with an alcoholic for about 6 years now. He was my first crush when I was 13...we got together 20 years later. I love him but I don't like him much anymore. We have a home together and he has two kids (50% of the time) and I have c...

Pushka · Pushka

to say that everything is so good why bother going to alanon. I could easily pretend that everything is going to be fine and I can stop and take a break. After all I'm cured and he's cured .. (you all can stop laughing now ) This is me and my defunct thinking. Knowing my defunct thinking is sitting at the s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just want to say that isn't it funny how memories can bring us to a different place. I just recently got a new FB friend that picked on me in Jr. High. She probably doesn't even remember bullying me. I don't even remember why she did! I just think it is funny that we can be friends even though sometimes the fr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Occasionally I vent on this forum. Today I just want to say that it is a good day & I don't need to vent after a pretty good weekend! My husband & I got a lot accomplished. It seems like when we work together we can get a lot done! What a concept! My mom & I also enjoyed the weekend together--every...

kris10 · kris10

My god! Up until now... Im going to be really honest right here and say that I really didn't think I was a part of the problem.. I've honestly always thought... I'm right, of course I'M right because I'M NOT the one with the problem....If they would just LISTEN to me and do things MY WAY, the way I WANT it (th...

amills4294 · amills4294

I haven't posted in a few days. My husband and I are trying a trial back together in our home for 30 days. I will admit that the emotional tug of war is nice to have stopped but I still feel a lot of anger inside. He seems very happy and content to be back in our home. I have to admit I miss my space. I walk int...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

IT TOOK ME 27 YEARS. I WAS RAISED CATHOLIC AND HAVE ALWAYS WORRIED AND FELT BAD ABOUT NOT FEELING IT.. NOT FEELING RELIGION IN GENERAL. I HAVE ALWAYS BELIEVED IN GOD I JUST NEVER FELT A TRUE CONNECTION TO IT.. UNTIL NOW. I HAVE REALLY LET GO.. AND AM LETTING GO MORE AND MORE EVERY DAY, LITERALY SAYING OU...

rehprof · rehprof

My AH and I are divorcing. long story short we still have a joint checking account to pay loans that are joint (autopay)...inclyuding the mortgage (which I have paid ALONE since june) and a snowmobile loan. In february,( we had been separated for 3 months then) I asked him for his debit card because he...

Sponge6819 · Sponge6819

Hi. I am new to this forum and am a little nervous and embarrassed to post here. I've been going to ala non meetings for quite a while and feel like I keep getting sucked back into my babies fathers negative alcoholic mess. I seem to be strong for a few HOURS and then lose it again. I fall back into defending m...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I have learned so much through my Alanon weekly meetings, my sponsor, Alanon literature, and my counselor; and I am so thankful for the tools I have gained these past couple of years. Just to catch you up again, I moved out of our home a little over 6 months ago so that I could both mentally AND physically d...

Becki67 · Becki67

I have so much to talk about...I may post 50 times today...just kidding. I just asked this question to someone who emailed me on here and I wanted to ask you guys. Is it possible to live with an alcoholic and be fulfilled or am I just postponing the inevitable? Half of me asks myself...is this really how y...

Diva · Diva

It is true I haven't been here for several months....Doesn't mean I haven't had all of you in my positive thoughts and prayers. Doesn't mean I haven't wanted to tell some of you what I think...good or bad...I send great love and caring all around, and when this move is complete, I'll be back to get the pl...

helpmeplease · helpmeplease

help me please. My husband is in complete and absolute denial that he has a problem with drinking. He is blaming me and my anger for his reason to drink. He states that he just wants to enjoy life, but my life is being affected by him choosing alcohol over his wife and his son. He has said he would stop dr...

Baby_Steps · Baby_Steps

I'm so happy to find this forum. I have been trying to find support groups in my area, but proving difficult. I will find support eventually, and look forward to being active on this board and making many dear friends. For now, I would greatly appreciate immediate advice for my situation. My husba...

mslouise · mslouise

Hi everyone. Just wanted to say thank you to everyone on this board, and the board in general for being such a great support. I am moving and don't think I will have internet for a while if at all. To sum up what Al-Anon did for me : Here is a girl from a A household, that walked in to another A's life when o...

atheos · atheos

Over the last few days, my head has been full of: "I need to lose 20-30 pounds, I have hair growing in places a woman should not have hair, I have cystic acne that nothing seems to cure, disgustingly saggy b**bs, and all the natural grace of a bull in a china shop. I can't dance, I look like a dork with gl...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

We went to a concert on Sunday night (cold chisel, an Aussie band.... very famous, not sure how much so overseas).. anyhoooo. It is very unusual to have live concerts where I live because its so 'far away' from everything and a small population so to see an iconic band which I have loved since my preteens...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone would like your thoughts I wwent to my first area meeting as a alternative group representative yesterdat and loved it. I enjoyed learnin more about al anon. One of the topics on our agenda was al ateen England does have some al ateen groups but it is not as strong as it shouls be and our area l...

Jenn · Jenn

I'm the eighteen year old daughter of a raging alcoholic. Currently, I'm a sophomore at a college over 200 miles from home. I have two little brothers and a dad, all three of whom are great, and a dog named Penny. She's my anchor. I'm new at talking about this, so I think I'll just give you all my background...

orchidlover · orchidlover

I was reading a bio/interview on the internet yesterday and the alcholic (not in recovery) said they felt their (husband) stayed with them as a way of punishing themselves. I think that would explain why I stuck it out so long in my last relationship and why I've found it so hard to extricate myself fro...

KeepingFaith · KeepingFaith

I'm sad tonight. At work so sorry for short post but feel like hell. Saw my xAb at a stop light. Amazing how much love I could still see between us. He texted me to ask how i was. It makes me miss him even more. And all I want is our life together :( But that can't be until he does the work he needs for himself. ...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

Something I've found, and for whatever reason it helps, is that I'm not the only one who sees that life and progress are often 3 steps forward and 2 steps back or 2 steps forward and 3 back or some variation of this pattern. Yesterday morning my AH shocked me by showing up with baby girl (his daughter) to c...

John · John

A lesson based on personal experience!When trying to move up the ladder of life be very careful. The closer you get to the top...the futher the fall.Violet took this picture at hospital before we knew the wrist in sling was also fractured. i guess the shock kept the pain in it at bay longer than my righ...

Jules1011 · Jules1011

I shared last week that i had asked my ex to leave which he did, initially he continually contacted me asking me to reconsider but I had been on a merry-go-round for so long it was time I jumped off. He is coming down to get the rest of his stuff today, I feel okay about it, but Im worried that when I see him I wil...

Pushka · Pushka

Ok .. you guys .. LOL .. I don't know what God is trying to tell me, however I just have had the oddest morning. I have shared that mama had her kittens in the back of the truck .. lol .. poor truck. Well, we had talked about moving them all inside or something the weather is horribly cold as in not normal for t...

GreenerGrass · GreenerGrass

Hi, new here, just wanted to share more of what I'm feeling. I went to my first alanon meeting, kids in tow because I have nobody to watch them. My AH took a job out of state, against my wishes, is renting a room there until our house sells here. So, basically am in this town(have lived here two years) and onl...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so proud of my AH--He is celebrating his 5th AA birthday today! For those of you who don't know what that means, He has 5 years of sobriety! I don't think any of you don't know what that means though really. I am so happy that we have been through the last years of his recovery. I am grateful too. God is so g...

rehprof · rehprof

so...I messaged my new bfs daughter on facebook and she didn't respond...yet I can see she is online.. I immediately jump to all these conclusions.."she doesn't like me" "OMG, she hates me and that will affect my relationship with her dad.." I'm in total reaction mode and want...

GreenerGrass · GreenerGrass

Hi all, well I think I practiced self care for the first time today. This morning I was trying to be cheerful and redress AH a cute pic of our boy, but no reply. About an hour later I called him and he was acting all moody and like he was busy and mad at me. So that got me mad. Later, I was trying to do the checkbook...

atheos · atheos

I've just been to an ACA meeting, which made me feel worse instead of better because all the shares were full of problems and even the people who've been in the program for a while seemed to have lots of pain and very little progress... I think I need to stay away from ACA, I only ever seem to feel worse when I...

mdkm0726 · mdkm0726

My daughter is an active addict. She is currently living alone with 3 of her young children ages 4, 5 and 5. She has periods of time when she uses less but lately has been really bad. Child protection gets involved for short periods of time but long enough for her to make permanent changes. I am always...

John · John

i am whinning. A ladder i was on slipped 20ft down a wall and landed on a concrete driveway. it happened so fast i couldnt do anything at all, not even let go of it. as a result i broke both of my wrist and fractured my left elbow. in a lot of pain.

downdenise · downdenise

So, my other half came back home after rehab at the end of May. Most of our relationship was heart breaking because of his hidden addictions. Since August he has not really worked and has been going back to some familiar issues. He began spending entire days out of the home with lies about what he is doi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Last night went well...the cake was the best cake I have had in a long time but...that wasn't the best part of the night! It was so nice to share my H.'s sobriety w/ him & all his AA friends. Some members even came just for the occasion. One guy said he hardly ever comes on Fri. but he wanted to be there for...

orchidlover · orchidlover

I would like to wish John a speedy recovery from his recent accident on a ladder. He has broken bones. I hope you will all join me in praying he is on the mend really soon. Orchidlover(aka Maresie)

Mcjprr · Mcjprr

Hi, i was just wondering if yous could help me. My dad has been an alcoholic for many many decades and he's wanting to quit drinking. He won't go to AA as he doesn't feel he's that bad. I know i can't make him so i was wondering how i could help him along the way, as i know it will be really hard for him, especiall...

pineapple · pineapple

I'm not looking for any answers here, I don't think there are any. But I have to get this out and since I have no one to talk to, I come here. A has been back to drinking every day/all day for a while now. I hate it but I've come to accept it it. Most of the time. At 10 this morning I knocked on his door. When he answe...

Not Alone · Not Alone

Hi! I am new here and right now I guess I'm pretty confused. The last week has been crazy to say the least. I have lived with my fiance for just over a year. It was shortly after he moved in that I realized the extent of his drinking. As I'm sure you've all experienced - I got the promises of him attempting to...

youfoundme · youfoundme

With my business partner, things are falling apart quickly and she is with-holding information on an upcoming wedding until the last minute...she does not like that I emailed her an amends for not telling her up front two years ago a couple of things, and says I should not have emailed her an amends. O...

GreenerGrass · GreenerGrass

Hi everyone, I've been reading the posts for about a week now, and really enjoying learning from you all. I went to my first alanon meeting on Tuesday and I'm embarrassed that I cried the way I did. They were super nice, but I don't even know how to talk about my situation without crying. My husband is an al...

Pushka · Pushka

I had a lovely smile this AM when I heard that dang rust bucket of a truck start up .. lol. I'm really happy for my AH we talked about chapters closing last night and this is another closed chapter in the DUI saga. It's funny, because now I'm thinking oh boy .. LOL .. I'm going to have to put my program talk wh...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Hi guys Thanks for putting up with me. AFter all that about going fishing this weekend or not..... he has not made any decision. Ithought it was all decided. I think I got what you guys were saying... just forget about the smoking bit. If I love him that I love both of them. Learn to live with it in my lif...

pamommy · pamommy

AH was attending AA or counseling every night since Thanksgiving, but we knew two or three weeks ago he started drinking again, and I suspected in the last week or so he was driving home from work drunk and going to his meetings drunk. He finally got caught Monday night- thank God before he hurt someone...

jmanning · jmanning

This is going to be long.... Well I woke up in a good mood, was studying for my test. My AH son calls me and tell sme not to visit my AH cause he was going to. In county visitation is only mon-wed and only one visit per day. Well i asked him to wait til I got out of class at 9 and we can visit together. Well he didnt wa...

amills4294 · amills4294

We've been separated for about 14 months. He wants to know where we stand and what needs to be done to get us back "on track" or on a trial living under the same roof. We've been to this point before many times. I'm trying to not get anxious about the conversation. I know what he wants or at le...

rosielee · rosielee

as you know my mum and me have difficult communication- and i am finding this same prblem- even my son is saying- why does she keep doing this? she doesnt phone to ask to meet me- or she will phone once- i dont make it to the phone- and then the nxt thing i know she is on my doort step knocking at my door- at a tim...

Doozy · Doozy

Well, I haven't created my own post here in quite a while. So I guess I'll make up for it with a post that's super long! Hah! Overall, I think I'm doing really well and making a lot of progress in my own growth towards a really happy, healthy future. I feel much more relaxed, more peace of mind and confidence...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

I know I should be writing a gratitude list. But, sometimes I have to vent off the anti-gratitude to make room for the gratitude. What I hate: I hate when my anger and pain crashes over me like a wave and brings me to my knees. I hate when I need to hide in the bathroom and cry until the moment passes. I hate tha...

Cupcake · Cupcake

I am trying to be positive and gentle with myself these last two weeks as it has been both my anniversary and my birthday. My husband and I haven't been doing all that well since I blew up and told him he had to leave. I have since started going to AlAnon and have apologized but he's having a hard time deali...

amills4294 · amills4294

OK, I've learned a lot in the past couple of months. I've got a long way to go. I've shared my turmoils in my marriage. The other day I told my husband I could not be the wife HE wanted me to be, be the best mother I can be and take care of me all at the same time. I just don't have the energy. When he gets hurt he...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Anyone believe that dreams and nightmares are our subconscious talking to us??? It may not sound like an Al Anon post, but it is in so much as what we are processing in our minds and how we 'think' things. I noticed a dream post the other day that was very positive. I have always had nightmares. Terrify...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

So thankful I found this board. So disappointed to find out that while I thought my AH had not been drinking whiskey and only the occasional glass of wine it turns out he's been drinking this whole time. I know that I can't change it, can't cure it can't control it. I know that I have to let go of it. I know tha...

daisy31 · daisy31

I have been becoming more aware of a friendship that is not supportive to me anymore. I have tried and tried to stay in it but no longer can stand the blindness. Her and I would go to starbucks coffee together and she would douse me with her problems and I had no room for me at all. Her husband is breakin...

Pushka · Pushka

It's Driving Day tomorrow woo hoo. Actually I have a LOT of relief going on right now. I no longer am responsible for driving my AH to and from places. I feel so free. I am chuckling a little because I just found out that I still have one more pick up time tonight. I think AH is having a little harder time...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

I really appreciate those of you who follow my goings on... thankyou. I don't always agree but I do listen and try to open my mind to all the input. This morning I woke up with feelings of intense anger. I was yelling and arguing with him in my head. He was sound asleep next to me..... snug as a bug etc. I ju...

soulhavoc · soulhavoc

Hello, I just assumed I should introduce myself and state my reason for being here. I made the classic girl's mistake. I was raised by an alcholic father and then I married a man just like my daddy. I have been married to hm for 15 years and with him for 17. We do not have children together but he has been the f...

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	AH went to detox today,need to vent (Preview) Well my bipolar AH went into detox today. He will have what I believe is a solid recovery program when he gets out. AA, outpatient rehab program and a psychosocial rehab specialist. So why don't I feel relief? He has been to a 30 day live in rehab program last June was sober for 10months, then decide...	coffeegrounds	14	713	Oct 26, 2011 by pinkchip
	If it keeps getting better & better! (Preview) If it keeps getting & better I don't know what I am going to do! I just keep remembering that it has gotten so bad over the years that I have to focus on TODAY! I am still reminiscing on the past too much. Just the other day, I was trying to remember something from the Past w/ my ex-AH. I just wanted to reliv...	Hoot Nanny	3	508	Oct 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	I finally got mad... (Preview) I finally got mad at him. it always seemed like I would be mad while he was gone for the week of drinking but as soon as he was home again I couldn't stay mad. I always said I understood and made excuses, lied to myself and let him continue lying to me and himself. what finally tipped me over was he came to my fat...	NaomiMarie	9	529	Oct 25, 2011 by Pushka
	seperate recoveries (Preview) I ended my relationship with my ABf a couple of weeks ago after he broke a boundary went missingfor days partin with other girls. I told him I could not have contact as it hurts. He sent odd text about silly stuff but I stuck to guns need to move on. Then when I never heard from him for a couple of days I star...	Tracy	3	470	Oct 25, 2011 by DadtoCandE
	Newbie here...so confused (Preview) I'm going to apologize up front for the length of this post. I've been living with an alcoholic for about 6 years now. He was my first crush when I was 13...we got together 20 years later. I love him but I don't like him much anymore. We have a home together and he has two kids (50% of the time) and I have c...	Becki67	12	680	Oct 25, 2011 by flopadopilus
	It would be so easy .. (Preview) to say that everything is so good why bother going to alanon. I could easily pretend that everything is going to be fine and I can stop and take a break. After all I'm cured and he's cured .. (you all can stop laughing now ) This is me and my defunct thinking. Knowing my defunct thinking is sitting at the s...	Pushka	5	588	Oct 25, 2011 by Jennifer
	Isn't it funny... (Preview) Just want to say that isn't it funny how memories can bring us to a different place. I just recently got a new FB friend that picked on me in Jr. High. She probably doesn't even remember bullying me. I don't even remember why she did! I just think it is funny that we can be friends even though sometimes the fr...	Hoot Nanny	4	470	Oct 25, 2011 by Debilyn
	glad to have this to vent! (Preview) Occasionally I vent on this forum. Today I just want to say that it is a good day & I don't need to vent after a pretty good weekend! My husband & I got a lot accomplished. It seems like when we work together we can get a lot done! What a concept! My mom & I also enjoyed the weekend together--every...	Hoot Nanny	2	400	Oct 25, 2011 by Debilyn
	5th step troubles (Preview) My god! Up until now... Im going to be really honest right here and say that I really didn't think I was a part of the problem.. I've honestly always thought... I'm right, of course I'M right because I'M NOT the one with the problem....If they would just LISTEN to me and do things MY WAY, the way I WANT it (th...	kris10	14	1165	Oct 25, 2011 by Michelle814
	struggling a bit (Preview) I haven't posted in a few days. My husband and I are trying a trial back together in our home for 30 days. I will admit that the emotional tug of war is nice to have stopped but I still feel a lot of anger inside. He seems very happy and content to be back in our home. I have to admit I miss my space. I walk int...	amills4294	5	561	Oct 25, 2011 by Pushka
	I AM FINALLY FINDING FAITH LET GO AND LET GOD (Preview) IT TOOK ME 27 YEARS. I WAS RAISED CATHOLIC AND HAVE ALWAYS WORRIED AND FELT BAD ABOUT NOT FEELING IT.. NOT FEELING RELIGION IN GENERAL. I HAVE ALWAYS BELIEVED IN GOD I JUST NEVER FELT A TRUE CONNECTION TO IT.. UNTIL NOW. I HAVE REALLY LET GO.. AND AM LETTING GO MORE AND MORE EVERY DAY, LITERALY SAYING OU...	Michelle814	6	1993	Oct 25, 2011 by Michelle814
	Will it ever be done? (Preview) My AH and I are divorcing. long story short we still have a joint checking account to pay loans that are joint (autopay)...inclyuding the mortgage (which I have paid ALONE since june) and a snowmobile loan. In february,( we had been separated for 3 months then) I asked him for his debit card because he...	rehprof	11	713	Oct 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	Feel like iwill never escape this (Preview) Hi. I am new to this forum and am a little nervous and embarrassed to post here. I've been going to ala non meetings for quite a while and feel like I keep getting sucked back into my babies fathers negative alcoholic mess. I seem to be strong for a few HOURS and then lose it again. I fall back into defending m...	Sponge6819	9	608	Oct 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	I Visited Crazytown Last Night- Thank God I Decided Not to Stay! Crazytown detachment (Preview) I have learned so much through my Alanon weekly meetings, my sponsor, Alanon literature, and my counselor; and I am so thankful for the tools I have gained these past couple of years. Just to catch you up again, I moved out of our home a little over 6 months ago so that I could both mentally AND physically d...	Green Eyes	19	11235	Oct 25, 2011 by tommyecat
	Bet you're sorry you told me to keep posting! LOL (Preview) I have so much to talk about...I may post 50 times today...just kidding. I just asked this question to someone who emailed me on here and I wanted to ask you guys. Is it possible to live with an alcoholic and be fulfilled or am I just postponing the inevitable? Half of me asks myself...is this really how y...	Becki67	18	726	Oct 25, 2011 by maryjane
	Hello All! (Preview) It is true I haven't been here for several months....Doesn't mean I haven't had all of you in my positive thoughts and prayers. Doesn't mean I haven't wanted to tell some of you what I think...good or bad...I send great love and caring all around, and when this move is complete, I'll be back to get the pl...	Diva	6	437	Oct 25, 2011 by Jennifer
	husband in complete denial (Preview) help me please. My husband is in complete and absolute denial that he has a problem with drinking. He is blaming me and my anger for his reason to drink. He states that he just wants to enjoy life, but my life is being affected by him choosing alcohol over his wife and his son. He has said he would stop dr...	helpmeplease	8	425	Oct 24, 2011 by Hot Chicka
	New Member - In a Foreign Land with Relapsed Husband - So Scared (Preview) I'm so happy to find this forum. I have been trying to find support groups in my area, but proving difficult. I will find support eventually, and look forward to being active on this board and making many dear friends. For now, I would greatly appreciate immediate advice for my situation. My husba...	Baby_Steps	8	693	Oct 24, 2011 by flopadopilus
	A Wonderful Happy Farm Ending, and thanks for life lessons in boundries!!!! (Preview) Hi everyone. Just wanted to say thank you to everyone on this board, and the board in general for being such a great support. I am moving and don't think I will have internet for a while if at all. To sum up what Al-Anon did for me : Here is a girl from a A household, that walked in to another A's life when o...	mslouise	7	585	Oct 24, 2011 by flopadopilus
	I need mental shields! (Preview) Over the last few days, my head has been full of: "I need to lose 20-30 pounds, I have hair growing in places a woman should not have hair, I have cystic acne that nothing seems to cure, disgustingly saggy b**bs, and all the natural grace of a bull in a china shop. I can't dance, I look like a dork with gl...	atheos	8	508	Oct 24, 2011 by flopadopilus
	sunday (Preview) We went to a concert on Sunday night (cold chisel, an Aussie band.... very famous, not sure how much so overseas).. anyhoooo. It is very unusual to have live concerts where I live because its so 'far away' from everything and a small population so to see an iconic band which I have loved since my preteens...	Lindaoakford	6	413	Oct 24, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Al ateen (Preview) Hi everyone would like your thoughts I wwent to my first area meeting as a alternative group representative yesterdat and loved it. I enjoyed learnin more about al anon. One of the topics on our agenda was al ateen England does have some al ateen groups but it is not as strong as it shouls be and our area l...	Tracy	2	933	Oct 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	New here. My mother's an abusive alcoholic, and I'm only recently trying to seek help for myself. Hi. alcoholic mother college lost (Preview) I'm the eighteen year old daughter of a raging alcoholic. Currently, I'm a sophomore at a college over 200 miles from home. I have two little brothers and a dad, all three of whom are great, and a dog named Penny. She's my anchor. I'm new at talking about this, so I think I'll just give you all my background...	Jenn	11	8662	Oct 24, 2011 by Jenny29
	Punishing ourselves (Preview) I was reading a bio/interview on the internet yesterday and the alcholic (not in recovery) said they felt their (husband) stayed with them as a way of punishing themselves. I think that would explain why I stuck it out so long in my last relationship and why I've found it so hard to extricate myself fro...	orchidlover	5	737	Oct 24, 2011 by Jenny29
	Saw my xAb at a stop light (Preview) I'm sad tonight. At work so sorry for short post but feel like hell. Saw my xAb at a stop light. Amazing how much love I could still see between us. He texted me to ask how i was. It makes me miss him even more. And all I want is our life together :( But that can't be until he does the work he needs for himself. ...	KeepingFaith	4	552	Oct 24, 2011 by pineapple
	those steps forward and backward (Preview) Something I've found, and for whatever reason it helps, is that I'm not the only one who sees that life and progress are often 3 steps forward and 2 steps back or 2 steps forward and 3 back or some variation of this pattern. Yesterday morning my AH shocked me by showing up with baby girl (his daughter) to c...	Jackie11	3	420	Oct 24, 2011 by Pushka
	Securing yourself**** (Preview) A lesson based on personal experience!When trying to move up the ladder of life be very careful. The closer you get to the top...the futher the fall.Violet took this picture at hospital before we knew the wrist in sling was also fractured. i guess the shock kept the pain in it at bay longer than my righ...	John	11	2777	Oct 24, 2011 by hawaiilover
	facing my ex today....feel strong but scared he manipulates me (Preview) I shared last week that i had asked my ex to leave which he did, initially he continually contacted me asking me to reconsider but I had been on a merry-go-round for so long it was time I jumped off. He is coming down to get the rest of his stuff today, I feel okay about it, but Im worried that when I see him I wil...	Jules1011	11	565	Oct 23, 2011 by Pushka
	OT - Weird, wonderful and sad .. (Preview) Ok .. you guys .. LOL .. I don't know what God is trying to tell me, however I just have had the oddest morning. I have shared that mama had her kittens in the back of the truck .. lol .. poor truck. Well, we had talked about moving them all inside or something the weather is horribly cold as in not normal for t...	Pushka	14	623	Oct 23, 2011 by tommyecat
	puzzle peices (Preview) Hi, new here, just wanted to share more of what I'm feeling. I went to my first alanon meeting, kids in tow because I have nobody to watch them. My AH took a job out of state, against my wishes, is renting a room there until our house sells here. So, basically am in this town(have lived here two years) and onl...	GreenerGrass	11	689	Oct 23, 2011 by tommyecat
	5th AA birthday--so proud! (Preview) I am so proud of my AH--He is celebrating his 5th AA birthday today! For those of you who don't know what that means, He has 5 years of sobriety! I don't think any of you don't know what that means though really. I am so happy that we have been through the last years of his recovery. I am grateful too. God is so g...	Hoot Nanny	9	710	Oct 23, 2011 by tommyecat
	Jumping to conclusions (Preview) so...I messaged my new bfs daughter on facebook and she didn't respond...yet I can see she is online.. I immediately jump to all these conclusions.."she doesn't like me" "OMG, she hates me and that will affect my relationship with her dad.." I'm in total reaction mode and want...	rehprof	13	649	Oct 23, 2011 by tommyecat
	first time practicing self care (Preview) Hi all, well I think I practiced self care for the first time today. This morning I was trying to be cheerful and redress AH a cute pic of our boy, but no reply. About an hour later I called him and he was acting all moody and like he was busy and mad at me. So that got me mad. Later, I was trying to do the checkbook...	GreenerGrass	5	468	Oct 23, 2011 by tommyecat
	I am feeling too broken to fix (Preview) I've just been to an ACA meeting, which made me feel worse instead of better because all the shares were full of problems and even the people who've been in the program for a while seemed to have lots of pain and very little progress... I think I need to stay away from ACA, I only ever seem to feel worse when I...	atheos	13	755	Oct 23, 2011 by tommyecat
	Intoxicated Daughter with 3 young kids (Preview) My daughter is an active addict. She is currently living alone with 3 of her young children ages 4, 5 and 5. She has periods of time when she uses less but lately has been really bad. Child protection gets involved for short periods of time but long enough for her to make permanent changes. I am always...	mdkm0726	12	776	Oct 23, 2011 by mdkm0726
	literally broken :( (Preview) i am whinning. A ladder i was on slipped 20ft down a wall and landed on a concrete driveway. it happened so fast i couldnt do anything at all, not even let go of it. as a result i broke both of my wrist and fractured my left elbow. in a lot of pain.	John	12	646	Oct 23, 2011 by xeno59
	Rough Month (Preview) So, my other half came back home after rehab at the end of May. Most of our relationship was heart breaking because of his hidden addictions. Since August he has not really worked and has been going back to some familiar issues. He began spending entire days out of the home with lies about what he is doi...	downdenise	21	594	Oct 23, 2011 by downdenise
	It went well! (Preview) Last night went well...the cake was the best cake I have had in a long time but...that wasn't the best part of the night! It was so nice to share my H.'s sobriety w/ him & all his AA friends. Some members even came just for the occasion. One guy said he hardly ever comes on Fri. but he wanted to be there for...	Hoot Nanny	3	657	Oct 23, 2011 by pineapple
	wishing john a speedy recovery (Preview) I would like to wish John a speedy recovery from his recent accident on a ladder. He has broken bones. I hope you will all join me in praying he is on the mend really soon. Orchidlover(aka Maresie)	orchidlover	4	608	Oct 23, 2011 by tommyecat
	Help for going about quitting without AA (Preview) Hi, i was just wondering if yous could help me. My dad has been an alcoholic for many many decades and he's wanting to quit drinking. He won't go to AA as he doesn't feel he's that bad. I know i can't make him so i was wondering how i could help him along the way, as i know it will be really hard for him, especiall...	Mcjprr	18	843	Oct 22, 2011 by White Rabbit
	vent (Preview) I'm not looking for any answers here, I don't think there are any. But I have to get this out and since I have no one to talk to, I come here. A has been back to drinking every day/all day for a while now. I hate it but I've come to accept it it. Most of the time. At 10 this morning I knocked on his door. When he answe...	pineapple	13	612	Oct 22, 2011 by Christy
	New and Confused (Preview) Hi! I am new here and right now I guess I'm pretty confused. The last week has been crazy to say the least. I have lived with my fiance for just over a year. It was shortly after he moved in that I realized the extent of his drinking. As I'm sure you've all experienced - I got the promises of him attempting to...	Not Alone	14	817	Oct 22, 2011 by Jerry F
	How to stand up for myself? (Preview) With my business partner, things are falling apart quickly and she is with-holding information on an upcoming wedding until the last minute...she does not like that I emailed her an amends for not telling her up front two years ago a couple of things, and says I should not have emailed her an amends. O...	youfoundme	16	749	Oct 22, 2011 by Doozy
	New to Alanon, my story (Preview) Hi everyone, I've been reading the posts for about a week now, and really enjoying learning from you all. I went to my first alanon meeting on Tuesday and I'm embarrassed that I cried the way I did. They were super nice, but I don't even know how to talk about my situation without crying. My husband is an al...	GreenerGrass	15	704	Oct 22, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Hope and Faith :) (Preview) I had a lovely smile this AM when I heard that dang rust bucket of a truck start up .. lol. I'm really happy for my AH we talked about chapters closing last night and this is another closed chapter in the DUI saga. It's funny, because now I'm thinking oh boy .. LOL .. I'm going to have to put my program talk wh...	Pushka	8	937	Oct 22, 2011 by flopadopilus
	upcoming weekend (Preview) Hi guys Thanks for putting up with me. AFter all that about going fishing this weekend or not..... he has not made any decision. Ithought it was all decided. I think I got what you guys were saying... just forget about the smoking bit. If I love him that I love both of them. Learn to live with it in my lif...	Lindaoakford	8	474	Oct 22, 2011 by Cupcake
	Mr. Recovery got a DUI (Preview) AH was attending AA or counseling every night since Thanksgiving, but we knew two or three weeks ago he started drinking again, and I suspected in the last week or so he was driving home from work drunk and going to his meetings drunk. He finally got caught Monday night- thank God before he hurt someone...	pamommy	16	1109	Oct 22, 2011 by pamommy
	Another bad day......just need to vent (Preview) This is going to be long.... Well I woke up in a good mood, was studying for my test. My AH son calls me and tell sme not to visit my AH cause he was going to. In county visitation is only mon-wed and only one visit per day. Well i asked him to wait til I got out of class at 9 and we can visit together. Well he didnt wa...	jmanning	12	619	Oct 21, 2011 by Debilyn
	facing my spouse in about 45 mins (Preview) We've been separated for about 14 months. He wants to know where we stand and what needs to be done to get us back "on track" or on a trial living under the same roof. We've been to this point before many times. I'm trying to not get anxious about the conversation. I know what he wants or at le...	amills4294	19	680	Oct 21, 2011 by Pushka
	its hard to communicate with a BPD person (Preview) as you know my mum and me have difficult communication- and i am finding this same prblem- even my son is saying- why does she keep doing this? she doesnt phone to ask to meet me- or she will phone once- i dont make it to the phone- and then the nxt thing i know she is on my doort step knocking at my door- at a tim...	rosielee	6	905	Oct 21, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Update and classic slip... oh, he'll change! (Preview) Well, I haven't created my own post here in quite a while. So I guess I'll make up for it with a post that's super long! Hah! Overall, I think I'm doing really well and making a lot of progress in my own growth towards a really happy, healthy future. I feel much more relaxed, more peace of mind and confidence...	Doozy	14	580	Oct 21, 2011 by glad lee
	My anti-gratitude list (Preview) I know I should be writing a gratitude list. But, sometimes I have to vent off the anti-gratitude to make room for the gratitude. What I hate: I hate when my anger and pain crashes over me like a wave and brings me to my knees. I hate when I need to hide in the bathroom and cry until the moment passes. I hate tha...	Very Very Tired	14	2225	Oct 21, 2011 by 1911A1
	Positive thinking (Preview) I am trying to be positive and gentle with myself these last two weeks as it has been both my anniversary and my birthday. My husband and I haven't been doing all that well since I blew up and told him he had to leave. I have since started going to AlAnon and have apologized but he's having a hard time deali...	Cupcake	10	727	Oct 21, 2011 by youfoundme
	3 steps forward 4 steps back?? (Preview) OK, I've learned a lot in the past couple of months. I've got a long way to go. I've shared my turmoils in my marriage. The other day I told my husband I could not be the wife HE wanted me to be, be the best mother I can be and take care of me all at the same time. I just don't have the energy. When he gets hurt he...	amills4294	4	605	Oct 21, 2011 by nyc018
	nightmares (Preview) Anyone believe that dreams and nightmares are our subconscious talking to us??? It may not sound like an Al Anon post, but it is in so much as what we are processing in our minds and how we 'think' things. I noticed a dream post the other day that was very positive. I have always had nightmares. Terrify...	Lindaoakford	7	745	Oct 21, 2011 by youfoundme
	Turns out (Preview) So thankful I found this board. So disappointed to find out that while I thought my AH had not been drinking whiskey and only the occasional glass of wine it turns out he's been drinking this whole time. I know that I can't change it, can't cure it can't control it. I know that I have to let go of it. I know tha...	Jackie11	13	748	Oct 21, 2011 by Jackie11
	I ended our unhealthy friendship...it is bitter sweet. (Preview) I have been becoming more aware of a friendship that is not supportive to me anymore. I have tried and tried to stay in it but no longer can stand the blindness. Her and I would go to starbucks coffee together and she would douse me with her problems and I had no room for me at all. Her husband is breakin...	daisy31	4	1481	Oct 21, 2011 by Pushka
	D day is tomorrow .. (Preview) It's Driving Day tomorrow woo hoo. Actually I have a LOT of relief going on right now. I no longer am responsible for driving my AH to and from places. I feel so free. I am chuckling a little because I just found out that I still have one more pick up time tonight. I think AH is having a little harder time...	Pushka	5	614	Oct 21, 2011 by youfoundme
	update - long post as per usual for me (Preview) I really appreciate those of you who follow my goings on... thankyou. I don't always agree but I do listen and try to open my mind to all the input. This morning I woke up with feelings of intense anger. I was yelling and arguing with him in my head. He was sound asleep next to me..... snug as a bug etc. I ju...	Lindaoakford	29	838	Oct 21, 2011 by kris10
	Hello New Guest (Preview) Hello, I just assumed I should introduce myself and state my reason for being here. I made the classic girl's mistake. I was raised by an alcholic father and then I married a man just like my daddy. I have been married to hm for 15 years and with him for 17. We do not have children together but he has been the f...	soulhavoc	10	873	Oct 20, 2011 by flopadopilus
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