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Lindaoakford · ~*Service Worker*~

nightmares

Doozy · Senior Member

Linda,

It is SO interesting to me that you post this right now because I have been thinking A LOT about this over the week and even considered posting about it too! I had a TERRIBLE nightmare early this week and it has upset me all week. Big time.

Myself, I do believe that many/most of our dreams can be important messages about our minds and our lives. I think that our minds continue processing in a most creative way while we sleep and that we can learn from them and gain information and wisdom about our subconscious from dreams.

I have a cousin who has a counseling practice and specializes in dream work. You might do a little research and maybe see if there are any professionals in your area with that expertise.

I do hope your dreams tonight will be good ones!

Doozy

likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

I used to have a nightmare where I was chased around a dark room full of appliances by a bear, scared out of my wits - once I figured out what my subconscious was trying to tell me, the dream stopped. when I was a kid, the house we lived in had a big (to me) dark dank basement; there were appliances - hot water heater, washer, dryer, old fridges, etc. and the bear chasing me around the basement was my father - i was terrified of him; one day I KNEW beyond a shadow of a doubt that I was going to die and didn't, confusing especially to a 10 year old. I have since explored any dream i have to try to figure out what the hidden me is trying to tell the rest of me. Recently I had a dream of my ex and the gist of the dream is his lies - him lying to me - and I knew it, and in real life, I KNEW he was lying but let it be. I think that dream was telling me that I already knew he was lying.

and Wow Linda, your dream - Now, like last night, I dream of torture to my husband (perhaps your view of what the pot is doing to him?). He is being hurt by things out of my control (his smoking) of which I am petrified (that the smoking will take him away from you?).

Last night he led me into water (I have a fear of water) and he said everything will be ok (his point of view is everything will be ok) but there were these most horrible monster/an9imals (your point of view) in the water andthey were attacking us and trying to get into our 'box'. I was holding onto a rope and screaming and screaming. He was all good, tellingme to stop stressing (let go). Eventually one of the animals (a jellyfish type mutant) got me, he came to help me and it turned on him (because he doesn't understand how bad his smoking is for him???). there was a look of sheer terror and fear on his face and thenthe mutant attacked him and swallowed him whole and dragged him down into the water (the addiction winning perhaps) and I screamed and screamed and knew he was so scared... then I woke up hyperventilating

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha Sis...You've found my album and you know about the subconscious connection and do you know that the pictures are metaphorical...representations of what we have experienced and fear and who we are. I've learned its all metaphorical and that has helped alot. I also learned an acronym for FEAR which I have mentioned here alot.

F = false E = Evidence A = Appearing R = Real. It is all in my head and my head is believing it is real but its not. Oh God...now I can relax a bit and not have soooo many dream reactions. Then I learned to dream read from the information I learned about dreams and when I did I could make out the pictures and the meanings and learn the story another way.

I rarely have nightmares now. When I do it is some stressor coming at me and looking for solution. I read the dream and go back to sleep. I'm highly impressionalble and that isn't a help. I have a very overactive technicolor imagination and in the past that didn't help either until the nightmares reduced and now I can even laugh in my sleep. Yaaahooooo!!

In support ... ((((hugs)))) smile

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I am going to pm you, I have a thing about nightmares and have done lots of talking them out for others, and have interpreted them for years.

I too have had them lots in my life. Once i tell someone that is that for that one. Now i have no one to tell so it has been very hard on me.

hugs,deb

rosielee · Senior Member

yes i have them too- i was thinking today- my teeth havent fallen out in my dream for ages....im not being funny- but you may find not eating fr a couple of hours before you go to bed can help- and to stay away from caffeine etc. im sure there is lots of info on google about ding things to avoid these dreams too. they arent pleasant i agree.

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Linda, I always had the same dream when I was having relatiionship problems. I would be trying to call the person in dream and the phone would be broke, the line would be dead, the buttons wouldn't press....I would get all frantic in the dream. It was totally just a sign of how I was feeling at the time in those relationships (that the other person wasn't there for me and I couldn't reach them and make them available to meet my needs). Whenever I had this dream about someone I was dating, I wound up breaking up with them. I am not huge into dream analysis, but obviously there's some validity to it.

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Linda, I have had a house dream similar to yours for years and years. Its usually a large white farm house set in the middle of a field, and I am usually fine going up the big porch steps, going through the front door, looking around the first floor and then heading to the second floor. For some reason every time I try to go into the attic door and head up the attic stairs, I freak out and can't make it and end up waking up breathing hard... I was told the house is me and that there are things in my memories, stored in the attic that I don't want to see or feel and that is why I am so scared... I like your interpretation of your dream... cool :) I have to say, my post the other day was positive, but it was really scarey and hard and I cried the whole time I wrote out my pains and fears... that wasn't so positive...but it worked out well in the end... as do all things :) Take care of you

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