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likemyheart · likemyheart

Aren't they? I mean, before you know how much danger they foretell, red flags are just waving in the wind, fluttering in the breeze, ignored because we are so used to seeing things like that, that we don't really focus on what they are trying to tell us. We don't REALLY understand the warnings because we...

Martiglg · Martiglg

I am the mother of a 30-year old alcoholic daughter. She has 2 children and managed almost 6 years of sobriety then started drinking again about a year ago. I only found out this past Sunday. Apparently she had gone far enough that she confided in several other people in the past week, but didn't te...

Lyne · Lyne

So when or how can I work on detachment? I am on Step 1 and that is great. I don't think there is a step for detachment. At the moment I feel calmer and hopeful, although my sleep is still awful. I'm wanting to feel fine but underneath is a blender churning. I'm not calling my A from work as I used to and...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Is there a bizzaro alanon MIP universe or something? Parallel but equal? Seems like a glitch again.

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

Tonight my dad and I went to our first F2F meeting together tonight. We both enjoyed it. I could relate to what the topic was which was living in the moment. Everyone was very nice and friendly...we plan to go back next week.

hotrod · hotrod

Pushka I've been trying to venture into talking to the opposite sex .. lol .. it's been an adventure and a bit of a bumpy ride. I've discovered I have sooo much more work to do on myself as I struggle through the ends and outs of what is "normal" probably a better word is what is "healthy&q...

lnc12 · lnc12

I haven't updated in a while after my last post. AH is in detox right now. We never went to court, as he made the decision to go on his own. The only problem now is that the state rehabilitation facility only takes 5 people per month who can't pay while funds last, and they won't take him unless he proves to th...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi All, just wanted to express that I am just about to start step 8 and I am little upset and hurt with the reality of the way I have treated myself. Thanks to Al anon and Coda I am realising I am a person as important as any other infact I should be the most important person in my life. I have been a care giver fo...

tortuga · tortuga

when you feel lonely but often tend to isolate yourself, when you finally figured out a lot of things in your mind, managed to become honest with yourself, but feel you are doing other people wrong when you want to share but you can't when you want to become active, but you are tired when you know the job yo...

CrazyMother · CrazyMother

This is my first post EVER on any of these forums... I come here often to feel like I'm not the only one in the world living a crazy nightmare. Background: I'm sober 4.5 years, hit my bottom and found recovery. In the rooms of AA, I met my fiance (of course, at 6 months of sobrity...oops, he had 1 yr). Anyway...

dponlyme · dponlyme

Realized she was drinking after my adult stepdaughter took her to the grocery store. First thought was "ughh"... but then thought "ok she is drinking... what are you going to do" I decided to look at her and realize the mental pain she is trying to numb and the disease she is suffe...

Loubelou · Loubelou

I live in Uganda, and as far as I know there are no face to face groups in the country, or at least nowhere close enough that I could get to regularly. I come to online groups on and off, but I'm not very committed to my programme. I'm from the UK, where I've only been to 3 or 4 f2f groups when home. Essentially,...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning Had a not so good weekend. I picked up my ODAT, reading the days I have missed this last week and pg: 103 says: Depair - how many of us suffer from it. Yet we do not realize that it is purely the absence of faith. We cannot despair as long as we are willing to turn to HP for help in our extremity....

Tyler76 · Tyler76

A good evening to you all. I'm a 37-year-old alcoholic, and I want to stop. I've managed to fly under many radars the last few years by avoiding relationships (friendly, romantic, etc.). I'm able to function most of the time, even at my worst, though I've also invented a "migraine headache"...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Shortly after my Husband returned home from his IOP meeting, he took a deep breath and said, i have to determine 3 ways I am controlling or trying to have control and write a paper about it before my next meeting tomorrow night. I took a deep breath and said, BOO. He said, HOLD ON, i gotta do this, i'm JUST SA...

Rinn · Rinn

I am feeling really hurt and let down and disillusioned. I think part of me hadn't really accepted the idea that I can't change him, I thought deep down he would quit for me, that he loved me enough to do it. I know I felt that way when his addiction first became a par tof our marrige and I struggled when i ask...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My sponsor has ear trouble, lost some of her hearing & is just over 40. I really feel for her. She went to the doctor today & has been diagnosed. I think that it will ge better---I hope so. It looks like she has a tumor. I hope there is no cancer. She is one of the most special women in my life. I don't kn...

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

Just read this on facebook and had to share, hope that's ok: "The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem." - Captain Jack Sparrow He he he......sounds like something I need to hear. Hope everyone's having a happy Monday. :)

PP · PP

Good morning all, I wanted to let you all know I will be gone for a week..am happily travelling to be welcome a new grandson to our family. Tomorrow is his birth day. I will miss participating in this valuable forum and wallowing in the inspiration it provides. Blessings to all.

el-cee · el-cee

I have now been a member of Alanon for 1 year. I am so grateful I found this amazing programme. It has given me back a few things that I lost as a direct result of living with alcoholism, I would like to share with you. 1. My ability to see the truth instead of choosing to live in a world of denial. This denial ke...

John · John

Emotions are a lot like being in water. When your emotions are overwhelming sometimes you feel like you are so helpless to do anything. You drown in the despair, the anger, the sadness, it pulls you under and you lose sight of the sun.You don't have to drown. Sometimes it's enough to just be still, to fl...

beckon11 · beckon11

Hi friends, I have a older sister that can wreck havic with my self esteem. Lucky she lives out of state.While visiting the family.She managed to do it again. Sum me up! Label me! Attack my very being. I have a fatel flaw!I only think about myself! I dont live in the real world/Just a world of emotion...

forestfairy · forestfairy

Just got back home today with my son. Big reunion with our dog. My spouse got a moving truck this morning and moved to a two bedroom apt. about 5 minutes away by car. It took the intervention of friends who helped him find someplace and then helped him move, and just talk sanity to him. We spent weeks in the...

John · John

It was 1998. I had been sober myself for almost 10 years. I called my AA sponsor one morning. My agf was missing in action again. I told him I called all the hospitals, the city and county jails, drove around in the early morning hours, checking her "spots" where she might be, looking for her car, I had...

dponlyme · dponlyme

I want to thank all of you here for making me not feel so all alone. I want to thank you so much for the inspiration and hope for my own recovery which you give. Woke up today feeling just terrible but thanks to reading the posts on here and some prayer I am feeling so much better. One day at a time.

JamesUK · JamesUK

I ask this question because of some of the posts ive read in here from other people who've had problems with their A's since they went into treatment, and my own experience of AA which has ruined my family basically. Since my A started recovery she has changed completely....but not in a nice...

Sincerely · Sincerely

My husband is home from inpatient treatment 6 days now. He's doing IOP & meetings daily. Only thing, I'm worried. He hasn't called his temporary sponsor that was arranged in treatment. He tried once, that's it. should I encourage him to try again? im not sure.

itsthatkellygirl · itsthatkellygirl

So the truth is...I am new here - I am so crowded and so alone. A little me background - In the past I have abused drugs and alcohol, to try to get out of my own head - to try to feel ok - to try to exist. Alcohol was never my thing, my alcoholic husband calls me one drink Lulu, I have ended up with alcohol poisoni...

rainlax · rainlax

My partner (3+ years sober) goes through periods that last about a week where he says he doesn't know what he wants in our relationship... as in, he doesn't know if he wants to be in it. This has happened just twice so far (since last year) and he tends to get over these "phases" just as suddenly...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

Years ago when my AB used to drink and do drugs I was very grateful to be in another state whilst in college. (He's been clean for 4 years now). My AM has been drinking for 2 years and its gotten to hthe point where I'd much rather be anywhere (the gym

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am actually not working this Saturday morning so I am trying the new and easier to join 9 am morning MIP meeting and I got right in. Wow this is exciting for me and well I hope people like me who had issues getting in before will try it again. Thanks John for making it better and more accessible. I have the at...

shyrose · shyrose

Hi all, This is my first post here, and I'm curious to hear what you think. I've been in a steady relationship with a sober alcholic for around 9 months. She's got 3 years sober, including from marijuana, painkillers and of course alcohol. I don't drink, have quit smoking, and have given up smoking m...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

Anyone have some slogans/Al-anon sayings that have stuck or helped them. I am trying to write up a bunch of them and put in a couple handy places to remind me to stay on track. Any and all are welcome.

1976love · 1976love

Last night my husband had to pull an nighter at work. After the kids were asleep I watched Iyanla Vanzant fix my life with rapper DMX. I could see his disease of addiction all over him. The way his eye's would roll when talking, the tears of how everyone hurt him, the anger and no room for love in his soul...

blondie99 · blondie99

Met with my boss today and she and the interview team chose to give the job to someone else rather than to give it to me as a promotion. I expressed that sure, I was disappointed, but the woman who got the job is a former colleague of mine and has been doing the work for the last two years, compared to my less th...

Sincerely · Sincerely

my strength and courage definately comes from my HP but recently, its also come from my aa husband. Before family weekend I've never really been good at speaking in front of a crowd. So fear of speaking at family day at in patient treatment was pretty high. As well as, speaking at a face to face alanon m...

texasgal · texasgal

My A has been going through a whirlwind of mess of his own making. I have pretty much left him alone since he relapsed and continued with my own life. A detective from the police station came looking for him. I just said I didn't know where he was (which is true cuz i never know where he is) and I gave him my A's...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have posted this before. I guess I tend to repeat myself. I am concerned about the future & the money I might spend. Maybe I need a financial consultant. I am usually pretty wise when it comes to big things but huge things I have a hard time w/. So, now that I got that out of the way, I am doing A-OK. I have...

lorraine · lorraine

im new to this but goin through a lot of s*** that i hope someone out there understands. i met my boyfriend 18 months ago when we were both in treatment for alcohol abuse. i have been sober since but hes not been so lucky. we were just friends to start andhe started to drink and i distanced myself from him the...

Jerry F · Jerry F

for never have making this suggestion. Where the hell was my thinking. For the years I have been on this board and for the years that I have been the literature person in my home group and otheres; for the years that I have sat and listened to the subject of what alcoholism is doing to my marriage and fa...

4kidsmama · 4kidsmama

My AH has been sober for 6 months and things have been 10 times better. Except for one thing. He just will not lay off with the snide and hurtful comments directed at me. My cooking, my cleaning, my driving, my kids, my pets, my job. Whenever he has a bad week at work or isn't feeling good, he reverts b...

John · John

"In homes where relationship trauma or addiction is present, behavior may be inconsistent. The rules that apply one day don't always carry over to the next. The same rules that are laid down on Monday may no longer apply on Tuesday and then suddenly on Friday, Mondays rules may be applied as though t...

el-cee · el-cee

I think it's amazing that this program actually exists and works. I mean it is common sense really in lots of ways but for it to be so straight forward and clear. Did the people who wrote the steps and traditions know what an impact they would make? Also, it doesn't get enough credit. I know lots of people w...

atheos · atheos

I know that in general, "moving on" and "not letting others' behavior cause you unhappiness" are considered good steps towards recovery. But I don't think I'm ready for that part yet -- I think before you can move on from pain and anger, you have to be able to have them first! That...

Iman · Iman

I have been struggling for months with the decision on weather or not I need to leave my husband due to his addiction. I know marriage is supposed to be forever, however, i feel that when we married, part of the truth was left out. now we have small children that i need to put first, and it doesnt seem right t...

Temple · Temple

A few of the quotes from Iyanla Vanzant that I copied for me off the Internet this morning: "The only thing that goes on in your life is what you allow (underscored--I don't know how to do that) to go on in your life." "You gotta own your stuff, baby girl. You gotta own your stuff. It's no...

blondie99 · blondie99

I'm enjoying some time to myself today...was able to work from home in my PJ's and got dressed just long enough to go to a lunchtime AlAnon meeting. It was a good one - there was an older couple there who were newcomers. They look like they had been hit by a train. Lordy, do I remember looking and feeling tha...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

My mom's best friend was telling me this morning that she and my AM were talking on the phone, my AM apologized for what she did and how she's been acting lately...my AM says she's too embarrassed to go to an AA meeting....maybe it's me being neive but what's there to be embarrassed about?! everyone in AA...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Words can not express how good my heart feels right now. I went & shared at a Face to Face Meeting today. This was the 3rd meeting i've been to in 12 years. The first one: 12 years ago, I could not speak, only cry. The second one: a few years ago, i was angry and i didn't need alanon, i needed to dump th...

NicoleDiver · NicoleDiver

I just saw this in a job posting on Craigslist (of course, I'm looking for my AH) and thought it was funny, and quite suiting when I think about my day: AH calls me at work from probation office this morning to say he failed the drug test (shocker - he was supposed to go yesterday but re-scheduled out of fea...

gigi1 · gigi1

Ok. I am almost new to this site..have been coming faithfully for over a month. But my demons are starting to kick in. All part of my dysfunction. Am I ok? Am I offending anyone. Are people starting to not like me. When I log on in the middle of the day and someone logs off as soon as my name appears, is it becau...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Not a he...a she. I didn't obey the rules and requirements when I first got here so when they said men on men and women on women I did exactly what was then expected of me...you got it. Her name is anonymous because that's how it works but her works helped save my mind and spirit, emotions and body. She...

gigi1 · gigi1

Last night at my F2F i learned something amazing.. We were reading from a daily devotions book and it was talking about us falsely feeling that we are the "victims". I realized and expressed that I am the victim- because I want to be. It is the dance I am used to!! Then i realized that it means-...

Number30 · Number30

Hello all. These past few days since AH entered rehab (Sat night) have been horrible, but I'm still alive! :) I've had panic attacks (first in YEARS), nightmares, crying fits, etc. etc., but last night was the first I've felt anger in a while. And it was GOOD! AH called Monday night, then didn't again un...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am struggling trying to remember what I said last time I posted on here. Oh well...I know I mentioned that I am trying to get eye surgery w/o insurance & w/ the money that we got from selling my dad & mom's house in March. It is going to be 3000 dollars an eye; one at a time. It is like cataract surger...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. The alcoholic that qualifies me for al-anon is my father. I just received a very interesting phone call from him that I feel is a breakthrough in both of our recoveries. I'll backtrack a bit. A few months ago my father was diagnosed with earl...

Alias · Alias

Hi. I am in need and uncomfortable discussing this with anyone in our community. I am not sure my situation is appropriate for this board so I apologize if it is out of place. My wedding dress is hanging right here in this room, which is locked because my fiancé is passed out drunk in the living room. W...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Hi guys, quick question. I have been with my sponsor for about 9 months now. I'm slowly working step 4 right now. I constantly have a hard time reaching her. I know she has a lot of people she sponsors(probably around 10, at least) and I know her time is limited but I find that I can go weeks without get...

Lupo · Lupo

This may seem odd but I have been very disconnected spiritually for a long time. I was hoping someone might be able to recommend a book preferably a non denominational one that could help me to learn to pray and meditate. Thanks

stephaniej · stephaniej

After the wretched weekend I had recently (and thank you all again, for all your ESH on all of THAT), I am fighting hard for my serenity. The writing was definitely on the wall after my AH's last escapade. Now, as I formulate my exit strategy, my AH is in the midst of a lot of uncertainty. His union is pre...

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	Red Flags are like Rattlesnakes (Preview) Aren't they? I mean, before you know how much danger they foretell, red flags are just waving in the wind, fluttering in the breeze, ignored because we are so used to seeing things like that, that we don't really focus on what they are trying to tell us. We don't REALLY understand the warnings because we...	likemyheart	5	542	Apr 18, 2013 by el-cee
	New and need tips to deal with other family members...please! (Preview) I am the mother of a 30-year old alcoholic daughter. She has 2 children and managed almost 6 years of sobriety then started drinking again about a year ago. I only found out this past Sunday. Apparently she had gone far enough that she confided in several other people in the past week, but didn't te...	Martiglg	8	379	Apr 18, 2013 by Martiglg
	detachment (Preview) So when or how can I work on detachment? I am on Step 1 and that is great. I don't think there is a step for detachment. At the moment I feel calmer and hopeful, although my sleep is still awful. I'm wanting to feel fine but underneath is a blender churning. I'm not calling my A from work as I used to and...	Lyne	5	335	Apr 18, 2013 by canadianguy
	Why are there like 2 separate boards going on here? (Preview) Is there a bizzaro alanon MIP universe or something? Parallel but equal? Seems like a glitch again.	pinkchip	10	328	Apr 18, 2013 by Breakingfree
	My dad and I went to our first F2F meeting together tonight (Preview) Tonight my dad and I went to our first F2F meeting together tonight. We both enjoyed it. I could relate to what the topic was which was living in the moment. Everyone was very nice and friendly...we plan to go back next week.	phoenixmagicgirl	5	278	Apr 18, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
	Pushka's Message Reposted from another Board (Preview) Pushka I've been trying to venture into talking to the opposite sex .. lol .. it's been an adventure and a bit of a bumpy ride. I've discovered I have sooo much more work to do on myself as I struggle through the ends and outs of what is "normal" probably a better word is what is "healthy&q...	hotrod	12	468	Apr 18, 2013 by blondie99
	Detox (Preview) I haven't updated in a while after my last post. AH is in detox right now. We never went to court, as he made the decision to go on his own. The only problem now is that the state rehabilitation facility only takes 5 people per month who can't pay while funds last, and they won't take him unless he proves to th...	lnc12	1	163	Apr 17, 2013 by Sincerely
	relationship with self (Preview) Hi All, just wanted to express that I am just about to start step 8 and I am little upset and hurt with the reality of the way I have treated myself. Thanks to Al anon and Coda I am realising I am a person as important as any other infact I should be the most important person in my life. I have been a care giver fo...	Tracy	1	268	Apr 17, 2013 by DavidG
	do you know that feeling... (Preview) when you feel lonely but often tend to isolate yourself, when you finally figured out a lot of things in your mind, managed to become honest with yourself, but feel you are doing other people wrong when you want to share but you can't when you want to become active, but you are tired when you know the job yo...	tortuga	6	411	Apr 17, 2013 by ilovedogs
	I'm Lost and Alone (Preview) This is my first post EVER on any of these forums... I come here often to feel like I'm not the only one in the world living a crazy nightmare. Background: I'm sober 4.5 years, hit my bottom and found recovery. In the rooms of AA, I met my fiance (of course, at 6 months of sobrity...oops, he had 1 yr). Anyway...	CrazyMother	4	484	Apr 17, 2013 by Tracy
	AW drinks last night (Preview) Realized she was drinking after my adult stepdaughter took her to the grocery store. First thought was "ughh"... but then thought "ok she is drinking... what are you going to do" I decided to look at her and realize the mental pain she is trying to numb and the disease she is suffe...	dponlyme	8	299	Apr 17, 2013 by pinkchip
	Support needed to start a group (Preview) I live in Uganda, and as far as I know there are no face to face groups in the country, or at least nowhere close enough that I could get to regularly. I come to online groups on and off, but I'm not very committed to my programme. I'm from the UK, where I've only been to 3 or 4 f2f groups when home. Essentially,...	Loubelou	5	574	Apr 17, 2013 by Jerry F
	It doesn't take much to lose your way (Preview) Good Morning Had a not so good weekend. I picked up my ODAT, reading the days I have missed this last week and pg: 103 says: Depair - how many of us suffer from it. Yet we do not realize that it is purely the absence of faith. We cannot despair as long as we are willing to turn to HP for help in our extremity....	Cathyinaz	10	564	Apr 16, 2013 by dponlyme
	A friendly hello (Preview) A good evening to you all. I'm a 37-year-old alcoholic, and I want to stop. I've managed to fly under many radars the last few years by avoiding relationships (friendly, romantic, etc.). I'm able to function most of the time, even at my worst, though I've also invented a "migraine headache"...	Tyler76	8	391	Apr 16, 2013 by hotrod
	Follow up to My Hubby and His Sponsor (his busines, i know, kinda) (Preview) Shortly after my Husband returned home from his IOP meeting, he took a deep breath and said, i have to determine 3 ways I am controlling or trying to have control and write a paper about it before my next meeting tomorrow night. I took a deep breath and said, BOO. He said, HOLD ON, i gotta do this, i'm JUST SA...	Sincerely	2	258	Apr 16, 2013 by NicoleDiver
	I really thought I could change him.... (Preview) I am feeling really hurt and let down and disillusioned. I think part of me hadn't really accepted the idea that I can't change him, I thought deep down he would quit for me, that he loved me enough to do it. I know I felt that way when his addiction first became a par tof our marrige and I struggled when i ask...	Rinn	14	463	Apr 16, 2013 by debhud
	my sponsor has ear trouble(prayers needed) (Preview) My sponsor has ear trouble, lost some of her hearing & is just over 40. I really feel for her. She went to the doctor today & has been diagnosed. I think that it will ge better---I hope so. It looks like she has a tumor. I hope there is no cancer. She is one of the most special women in my life. I don't kn...	Hoot Nanny	2	243	Apr 16, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Captain Jack Sparrow quote: (Preview) Just read this on facebook and had to share, hope that's ok: "The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem." - Captain Jack Sparrow He he he......sounds like something I need to hear. Hope everyone's having a happy Monday. :)	NicoleDiver	5	2634	Apr 16, 2013 by Peggy7
	Will be Gone for a Week (Preview) Good morning all, I wanted to let you all know I will be gone for a week..am happily travelling to be welcome a new grandson to our family. Tomorrow is his birth day. I will miss participating in this valuable forum and wallowing in the inspiration it provides. Blessings to all.	PP	13	323	Apr 16, 2013 by tortuga
	1 year down the line (Preview) I have now been a member of Alanon for 1 year. I am so grateful I found this amazing programme. It has given me back a few things that I lost as a direct result of living with alcoholism, I would like to share with you. 1. My ability to see the truth instead of choosing to live in a world of denial. This denial ke...	el-cee	16	422	Apr 15, 2013 by el-cee
	Emotional Self Care.... (Preview) Emotions are a lot like being in water. When your emotions are overwhelming sometimes you feel like you are so helpless to do anything. You drown in the despair, the anger, the sadness, it pulls you under and you lose sight of the sun.You don't have to drown. Sometimes it's enough to just be still, to fl...	John	5	367	Apr 15, 2013 by milkwood
	my sister delivers more creul emotional attacks!! (Preview) Hi friends, I have a older sister that can wreck havic with my self esteem. Lucky she lives out of state.While visiting the family.She managed to do it again. Sum me up! Label me! Attack my very being. I have a fatel flaw!I only think about myself! I dont live in the real world/Just a world of emotion...	beckon11	5	421	Apr 15, 2013 by Sincerely
	home again (Preview) Just got back home today with my son. Big reunion with our dog. My spouse got a moving truck this morning and moved to a two bedroom apt. about 5 minutes away by car. It took the intervention of friends who helped him find someplace and then helped him move, and just talk sanity to him. We spent weeks in the...	forestfairy	8	433	Apr 15, 2013 by forestfairy
	Just remembering.... (Preview) It was 1998. I had been sober myself for almost 10 years. I called my AA sponsor one morning. My agf was missing in action again. I told him I called all the hospitals, the city and county jails, drove around in the early morning hours, checking her "spots" where she might be, looking for her car, I had...	John	9	413	Apr 15, 2013 by milkwood
	Thank you all for being here with me (Preview) I want to thank all of you here for making me not feel so all alone. I want to thank you so much for the inspiration and hope for my own recovery which you give. Woke up today feeling just terrible but thanks to reading the posts on here and some prayer I am feeling so much better. One day at a time.	dponlyme	4	262	Apr 15, 2013 by milkwood
	Is AA worth really worth all the hassle?..it has destroyed my family as i knew it. (Preview) I ask this question because of some of the posts ive read in here from other people who've had problems with their A's since they went into treatment, and my own experience of AA which has ruined my family basically. Since my A started recovery she has changed completely....but not in a nice...	JamesUK	26	7577	Apr 15, 2013 by bryan
	My AA Hubby & his sponsor (his business, I know, well sorta) (Preview) My husband is home from inpatient treatment 6 days now. He's doing IOP & meetings daily. Only thing, I'm worried. He hasn't called his temporary sponsor that was arranged in treatment. He tried once, that's it. should I encourage him to try again? im not sure.	Sincerely	3	261	Apr 15, 2013 by PP
	Crowded and Alone (Preview) So the truth is...I am new here - I am so crowded and so alone. A little me background - In the past I have abused drugs and alcohol, to try to get out of my own head - to try to feel ok - to try to exist. Alcohol was never my thing, my alcoholic husband calls me one drink Lulu, I have ended up with alcohol poisoni...	itsthatkellygirl	4	418	Apr 15, 2013 by PP
	How to handle A's feelings? (Preview) My partner (3+ years sober) goes through periods that last about a week where he says he doesn't know what he wants in our relationship... as in, he doesn't know if he wants to be in it. This has happened just twice so far (since last year) and he tends to get over these "phases" just as suddenly...	rainlax	3	267	Apr 15, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Is it strange to do this? (Preview) Years ago when my AB used to drink and do drugs I was very grateful to be in another state whilst in college. (He's been clean for 4 years now). My AM has been drinking for 2 years and its gotten to hthe point where I'd much rather be anywhere (the gym	phoenixmagicgirl	7	246	Apr 15, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
	Meeting this morning (MIP style) my first one (Preview) I am actually not working this Saturday morning so I am trying the new and easier to join 9 am morning MIP meeting and I got right in. Wow this is exciting for me and well I hope people like me who had issues getting in before will try it again. Thanks John for making it better and more accessible. I have the at...	Breakingfree	3	190	Apr 15, 2013 by Breakingfree
	chronic pain, medical marijuana and confusion (Preview) Hi all, This is my first post here, and I'm curious to hear what you think. I've been in a steady relationship with a sober alcholic for around 9 months. She's got 3 years sober, including from marijuana, painkillers and of course alcohol. I don't drink, have quit smoking, and have given up smoking m...	shyrose	3	353	Apr 15, 2013 by shyrose
	Slogans and sayings- need some (Preview) Anyone have some slogans/Al-anon sayings that have stuck or helped them. I am trying to write up a bunch of them and put in a couple handy places to remind me to stay on track. Any and all are welcome.	flopadopilus	14	8595	Apr 14, 2013 by John
	what a show. (Preview) Last night my husband had to pull an nighter at work. After the kids were asleep I watched Iyanla Vanzant fix my life with rapper DMX. I could see his disease of addiction all over him. The way his eye's would roll when talking, the tears of how everyone hurt him, the anger and no room for love in his soul...	1976love	3	307	Apr 14, 2013 by Jerry F
	Ugh...didn't get the promotion :( (Preview) Met with my boss today and she and the interview team chose to give the job to someone else rather than to give it to me as a promotion. I expressed that sure, I was disappointed, but the woman who got the job is a former colleague of mine and has been doing the work for the last two years, compared to my less th...	blondie99	5	251	Apr 14, 2013 by likemyheart
	Strength & Courage (Preview) my strength and courage definately comes from my HP but recently, its also come from my aa husband. Before family weekend I've never really been good at speaking in front of a crowd. So fear of speaking at family day at in patient treatment was pretty high. As well as, speaking at a face to face alanon m...	Sincerely	4	209	Apr 14, 2013 by ilovedogs
	making the right decision for me (Preview) My A has been going through a whirlwind of mess of his own making. I have pretty much left him alone since he relapsed and continued with my own life. A detective from the police station came looking for him. I just said I didn't know where he was (which is true cuz i never know where he is) and I gave him my A's...	texasgal	10	350	Apr 14, 2013 by pinkchip
	where do I go from here(Part Two) (Preview) I have posted this before. I guess I tend to repeat myself. I am concerned about the future & the money I might spend. Maybe I need a financial consultant. I am usually pretty wise when it comes to big things but huge things I have a hard time w/. So, now that I got that out of the way, I am doing A-OK. I have...	Hoot Nanny	3	247	Apr 14, 2013 by tiredtonite
	hes at it again and i need to walk away (Preview) im new to this but goin through a lot of s*** that i hope someone out there understands. i met my boyfriend 18 months ago when we were both in treatment for alcohol abuse. i have been sober since but hes not been so lucky. we were just friends to start andhe started to drink and i distanced myself from him the...	lorraine	7	502	Apr 14, 2013 by John
	I apologize (Preview) for never have making this suggestion. Where the hell was my thinking. For the years I have been on this board and for the years that I have been the literature person in my home group and otheres; for the years that I have sat and listened to the subject of what alcoholism is doing to my marriage and fa...	Jerry F	6	348	Apr 14, 2013 by el-cee
	Is he a alcoholic or just an 'xxxx'? (Preview) My AH has been sober for 6 months and things have been 10 times better. Except for one thing. He just will not lay off with the snide and hurtful comments directed at me. My cooking, my cleaning, my driving, my kids, my pets, my job. Whenever he has a bad week at work or isn't feeling good, he reverts b...	4kidsmama	12	2132	Apr 14, 2013 by John
	Emotional Sobriety (Preview) "In homes where relationship trauma or addiction is present, behavior may be inconsistent. The rules that apply one day don't always carry over to the next. The same rules that are laid down on Monday may no longer apply on Tuesday and then suddenly on Friday, Mondays rules may be applied as though t...	John	9	4028	Apr 14, 2013 by forestfairy
	the founders of alanon (Preview) I think it's amazing that this program actually exists and works. I mean it is common sense really in lots of ways but for it to be so straight forward and clear. Did the people who wrote the steps and traditions know what an impact they would make? Also, it doesn't get enough credit. I know lots of people w...	el-cee	3	503	Apr 13, 2013 by PP
	How do you self-vaidate pain/anger? (Preview) I know that in general, "moving on" and "not letting others' behavior cause you unhappiness" are considered good steps towards recovery. But I don't think I'm ready for that part yet -- I think before you can move on from pain and anger, you have to be able to have them first! That...	atheos	5	421	Apr 13, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Legal options for separation (Preview) I have been struggling for months with the decision on weather or not I need to leave my husband due to his addiction. I know marriage is supposed to be forever, however, i feel that when we married, part of the truth was left out. now we have small children that i need to put first, and it doesnt seem right t...	Iman	11	408	Apr 13, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Iyanla Vanzant Quotes (Preview) A few of the quotes from Iyanla Vanzant that I copied for me off the Internet this morning: "The only thing that goes on in your life is what you allow (underscored--I don't know how to do that) to go on in your life." "You gotta own your stuff, baby girl. You gotta own your stuff. It's no...	Temple	4	2219	Apr 13, 2013 by John
	Quiet time (Preview) I'm enjoying some time to myself today...was able to work from home in my PJ's and got dressed just long enough to go to a lunchtime AlAnon meeting. It was a good one - there was an older couple there who were newcomers. They look like they had been hit by a train. Lordy, do I remember looking and feeling tha...	blondie99	8	513	Apr 13, 2013 by michael p
	my AM says she's too embarrassed to go to an AA meeting... (Preview) My mom's best friend was telling me this morning that she and my AM were talking on the phone, my AM apologized for what she did and how she's been acting lately...my AM says she's too embarrassed to go to an AA meeting....maybe it's me being neive but what's there to be embarrassed about?! everyone in AA...	phoenixmagicgirl	12	398	Apr 13, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
	1st Share @ Face to Face Meeting :-) AMEN! (Preview) Words can not express how good my heart feels right now. I went & shared at a Face to Face Meeting today. This was the 3rd meeting i've been to in 12 years. The first one: 12 years ago, I could not speak, only cry. The second one: a few years ago, i was angry and i didn't need alanon, i needed to dump th...	Sincerely	6	332	Apr 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	Leave your drama with your mama (Preview) I just saw this in a job posting on Craigslist (of course, I'm looking for my AH) and thought it was funny, and quite suiting when I think about my day: AH calls me at work from probation office this morning to say he failed the drug test (shocker - he was supposed to go yesterday but re-scheduled out of fea...	NicoleDiver	9	2677	Apr 13, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Me and my confusion with life (Preview) Ok. I am almost new to this site..have been coming faithfully for over a month. But my demons are starting to kick in. All part of my dysfunction. Am I ok? Am I offending anyone. Are people starting to not like me. When I log on in the middle of the day and someone logs off as soon as my name appears, is it becau...	gigi1	9	463	Apr 13, 2013 by Breakingfree
	First Sponsor coming into town... (Preview) Not a he...a she. I didn't obey the rules and requirements when I first got here so when they said men on men and women on women I did exactly what was then expected of me...you got it. Her name is anonymous because that's how it works but her works helped save my mind and spirit, emotions and body. She...	Jerry F	6	365	Apr 12, 2013 by Temple
	Victim (Preview) Last night at my F2F i learned something amazing.. We were reading from a daily devotions book and it was talking about us falsely feeling that we are the "victims". I realized and expressed that I am the victim- because I want to be. It is the dance I am used to!! Then i realized that it means-...	gigi1	4	401	Apr 12, 2013 by tortuga
	The good in anger (Preview) Hello all. These past few days since AH entered rehab (Sat night) have been horrible, but I'm still alive! :) I've had panic attacks (first in YEARS), nightmares, crying fits, etc. etc., but last night was the first I've felt anger in a while. And it was GOOD! AH called Monday night, then didn't again un...	Number30	8	369	Apr 12, 2013 by pinkchip
	what did I say last time? (Preview) I am struggling trying to remember what I said last time I posted on here. Oh well...I know I mentioned that I am trying to get eye surgery w/o insurance & w/ the money that we got from selling my dad & mom's house in March. It is going to be 3000 dollars an eye; one at a time. It is like cataract surger...	Hoot Nanny	1	238	Apr 12, 2013 by el-cee
	My Alcoholic has revealed something about his past. (Preview) Hi, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. The alcoholic that qualifies me for al-anon is my father. I just received a very interesting phone call from him that I feel is a breakthrough in both of our recoveries. I'll backtrack a bit. A few months ago my father was diagnosed with earl...	slogan_jim	6	321	Apr 12, 2013 by lgnutah
	Getting married this summer (Preview) Hi. I am in need and uncomfortable discussing this with anyone in our community. I am not sure my situation is appropriate for this board so I apologize if it is out of place. My wedding dress is hanging right here in this room, which is locked because my fiancé is passed out drunk in the living room. W...	Alias	15	369	Apr 12, 2013 by Auntyaya
	Question about sponsors (Preview) Hi guys, quick question. I have been with my sponsor for about 9 months now. I'm slowly working step 4 right now. I constantly have a hard time reaching her. I know she has a lot of people she sponsors(probably around 10, at least) and I know her time is limited but I find that I can go weeks without get...	ilovedogs	6	411	Apr 12, 2013 by Jerry F
	Book for meditation and prayer. (Preview) This may seem odd but I have been very disconnected spiritually for a long time. I was hoping someone might be able to recommend a book preferably a non denominational one that could help me to learn to pray and meditate. Thanks	Lupo	4	382	Apr 12, 2013 by Lupo
	Turning it over to my HP (Preview) After the wretched weekend I had recently (and thank you all again, for all your ESH on all of THAT), I am fighting hard for my serenity. The writing was definitely on the wall after my AH's last escapade. Now, as I formulate my exit strategy, my AH is in the midst of a lot of uncertainty. His union is pre...	stephaniej	4	424	Apr 12, 2013 by Pushka
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