So my recovering AH is having a hard time sleeping because of all the household noises.  The last two nights he has gone downstairs to sleep because "I" was snoring.  Then when he goes downstairs the dog bothers him or he can hear our son's tv on, etc etc.  So last night I fell asleep before he came home from his AA meeting.  I guess it was around 10pm ish when I awoke to him throwing a little temper tantrum because I was coughing and it was keeping him awake.  Before alanon I seriously would have apologized for me upsetting him and making him uncomfortable. That would have lead up to me not being able to sleep because in my mind I would be thinking is he mad at me, will he go downstairs and be a raging alcoholic or am I going to get the silent treatment for a couple days because I made his night uncomfortable.  So last night when he was ranting on how he couldn't sleep, still groggy I said, "Are you having a bad time?"  and promptly shut my eyes again and let him own his foolishness.  None of the chasing fears in my mind of what the repercussions would be because I coughed or snored.  The more I think about it...I can not count the sleepless nights I have had worried sick over him...the countless nights he would pass out and nothing on God's creation would wake him.  Now that he is sober this is something people deal with on a normal basis. In the morning when he was leaving for work, not a mention out of my mouth on how was your sleep, did I do something to keep you awake...Now my attitude has changed to you can deal with it.  Not my problem, it is his journey to figure out what the people around him do and act when he is sober.  Sometimes it's frustrating living with a man that really doesn't know how to act sober when I have been living sober and dealing with everyday life the whole time.  The good news is, I woke up this morning feeling refreshed and blessed.  Much love to the MIP family today!