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grateful2be · grateful2be

As I drove - okay call it slid - out of my icy neighborhood yesterday and onto the main thoroughfare edged on each side by huge piles of plowed dirty snow and ice, I saw a blue jay flying from tree to tree. Although the weather predictions for this week call for extreme cold and more snow, the winging blue j...

Turricane · Turricane

I will do my best to condense this "novel". My spouse (wife) of 30+ years has been addicted to alcohol for 15+ years, and prescription pain meds and sedatives for 5+ years. I started attending Al-Anon 15 years ago and did so for several years, but never really "got it". I am an admi...

eddieunger · eddieunger

My mother (~65 years old) is suffering from severe alcoholism and doesn't have any intentions of quitting. She is drinking vodka at all hours and recently finished a fifth in under 24 hours, extremely dangerous for someone that is 95 pounds. I am working to understand the concept of detachment, and t...

bud · bud

Thank you all for support today! First, I met with my Aunt and had an opportunity to make amends, which I did. I'm sure there is more to the dynamics than what's on the surface, but my Aunt said she felt terribly offended. What was the cause? My isolation. I guess while I was trying to survive, she too...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Spent the day testing at the COPD clinic and saw the doctor about all the tests I took. I'm at healthy as a horse ( BIG horse ) ...just can't breath that well. He said for me to ask my doctor to send me to ??? a breathing therapist, a lung clinic?? I don't know but a place where they exercise your lungs and...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I keep getting so stuck in the grief junk. I realized I have never had time from one death to another to heal. NO wonder I am mostly not happy. I kept looking back, not at today. So I changed the thought in my head, when I start to get shakey, feel off balance, my head says,"This is your life." So I l...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I heard that in a meeting last night. Sick is easy Yep, it sure it!

bud · bud

My Aunt said that my parents have been relocated to an end stage facility. They're now in separate rooms. My Aunt and Uncle are emptying their assisted living facility apartment, as my parents will not be returning. My Aunt said that my sister is there today with a truck taking things and asked me wh...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

I'm at a complete, total loss. Had given up hope AH would show a glimmer of changing, was preparing to move at end of school year (had baby in fall and under teacher contract is why the wait). We've been married 13years, the last 6 he's been drinking heavily. Things came to yet another head late November a...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I was talking to my sponsor last night about a few issues I'm having: namely the fact that my AH signed up for a dating website and how I snooped to find out about it. We talked about ME and MY behavior obviously and my responsibilities to myself, etc. She said that many years ago her sponsor had all sponse...

kwas911 · kwas911

I am new to the Al-Anon community. My wife is an alcoholic. For the past several years her drinking, while consistent and excessive, has been open and not life altering. I am not a fan of the "High Functioning Alcoholic" label, but for lack of a better description, that was my wife. She o...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Sorry I haven't been around in meetings lately however, I had to have a double bypass last Monday. Things are going as well as can be expected. It was one of the darkest and scariest moments of my life. So my message to you all is do not let the stress get to you. Stress is a killer. Take it...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

Hiya guys and gals, I am coming off a crazy week of chaos (courtesy my AH). 1. Suicide attempt w/ booze and pills----went to ER 2. released from ER zonked out on meds (sent home in cab and then he drove----crashed his car) 3.DWI 4.released from DWI hold, threatened suicide---went to crisis center 5....

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...yes we also get to have "hangovers" and I have one now. I didn't remind myself of the outcome before we (my wife and I) listened to and talked with my grand-daughter. Her dad, my eldest son, has relapsed and pretty well nuked as many family members as he could in the proces...

Mimi3 · Mimi3

It was just there I always asked myself what was meant by " A Spiritual Awakening."I was so curious but nobody in Al-Anon could tell me about it. And then one day it happened in my life; my spiritual awakening was there! I don't know where it came from and I don't know how it came. It was just...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

I'm up again. It's after 4 am. It's been like this for a year now. I stopped my anti depressants last January, got off birth control and separated from my parents all within a span of 30 days. Some nights I would lie in bed terrified that someone was trying to kill me. In the spring I had a sleep paralysis epi...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Tonight, an al-anon friend invited me over as we were going to go to a movie, to celebrate my birthday, which was yesterday. I got on the road and they were so slippery that my tires were spinning. It would have been an hour before I go...

AmyK · AmyK

Its been a few weeks since I've been on here, I've finally been able to get to f2f meetings but havnt been in a while since we just got back from vacation. Anyways, Last night my Husband and I got into a disagreement about finances, it did not escalate into an argument but it sure did leave him in a bad mood....

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Im tired of believing and trusting what my AH tells "Ill be back"! I know that he is not, and he knows that I hate when he lies, and he tells me every times "trust me"! I'm so tired of those words! Thursday I came home from work he was not home, and Friday morning on my way to work, I tex...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

While this is not from CAL, I think it aligns well with the spirit of Al Anon and MIP and taking care of ourselves. If a dog was the teacher you would learn things like: When loved ones come home, always run to greet them; Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride; Allow the experience of fresh air an...

Hope2000 · Hope2000

So last night I went out with friends from work. Had a great time, laughed so hard my stomach hurt a few times. I did have a few drinks. I didn't think once about what my AH was doing. He knew I wa going, I planned other arrangements for my kids since I can't depend on him. Came home, great mood, he of course had...

Snowflake74 · Snowflake74

To begin, I am dating someone who clearly has an addiction to alcohol. When we met two years ago I knew that he was a widower and he mentioned that when his wife passed away he took 6 months off from life and temporarily lost custody of his daughter. He said it wasn't like he was an alcoholic, he just self me...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Finally understood what I have been trying to do for so long, and why it didn't work. And why I have been so freaking tired and sad for so long. See, I had accepted my powerlessness over someone else's drinking, gambling, whatever. I really had. Drink, gamble, whatever buddy. Do what you like. But I rea...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Note that she now has her head OUT OF THE SAND and is standing near the water, LOL!

tortuga · tortuga

just checking in I'm walking steady. After beating myself up and reaching a very personal LOW last week, i stood up, worked hard on forgiving myself. Then I took the advice given here, and taking care of myself. Eating well, enjoying the process of cooking and tasting

. Sleeping well, enjoying the...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

I dont get how some wives of AH, can say " I just deal with my AH"! It just pisses me off, when I hear that! The wife of the guy my husband spend days at time at there home, lets her AH drink every single day and spend the money he makes on booze, that they dont have cable, or internet and no car. How is t...

Lost72 · Lost72

I am new to this forum and i am trying to find online Alanon meetings that fit my time...i live in Italy, work at a military base as a teacher... My AH just returned from his second trip to rehab In the last year...he went in this second time almost a year to the day of his admission last year...this time arou...

mccr · mccr

Here's another question...I am at an interesting spot in my AH's addiction process and all these things are coming up I have not dealt with before due to the progression of his disease. How do you tell him, without causing a fight, that you hesitate to be social with old friends bc he will get drunk and em...

neshema2 · neshema2

Sorry I haven't been around much of this past few days...Called my bio mom's sister who favored me since I was born...She rescued me many times from her "sister" and her abuse, locking me in crates, My mama Aunt Helen would "free" me, change my filthy diapers, feed me, hold me an...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

I found this video on a dry drunk because I did not no if my A sober husband was this so I figure I post it for others to see http://youtu.be/hhZ2HFFuASY

barbaralewis · barbaralewis

we ( me, husband, adult A Dtr who is 6 months sober) would like to help our adult A son get into a state run rehab program. he is in denial, total denial, as his life is spiraling down the drain. no one in the family is enabling him financially. He lives in another state, and will soon be without a phone, has n...

OT71 · OT71

Is there any way to flag a topic I want to return to when I sign on again as on other sites?

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Last night, I was at work and knew that I had some things to do before I went to my therapy with my therapist at 7pm. I was talking to my one of my four doctors I work for, and have grown to be very close to him and see hime as a father figure. I have told him the struggles Im having to deal and cope with my husband al...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hello today is like any other day just when I saw how happy and good my husband 1 year sober how the house had peace then 2 months ago the house became sick again , I think I had something to do with it . I have been staying away from my husband he has been not supporting me during my time of needs with other issue...

mccr · mccr

Hello, New to this forum. I have a sex question. My alcoholic husband has been pestering me and been verbally abusive about not 'performing wifely duties' regularly for a few months. Problem is, I can't bring myself to do this when he is drunk. I just disgusts me. I have told him (when sober) that this i...

lenii263 · lenii263

My youngest daughter(47) is an alcoholic. She has hidden it over the years well, but in the last few years, it is evident. I finally confronted her last summer. She still calls me and pretends. I just can't do it anymore. I am getting too old(74), and have other rather stressful things going on with othe...

hopes314 · hopes314

I was sleeping and then a nightmare woke me up. I wish my mindwasn't so active. This is when I say the senerity prayer to calm me down to sleep. I was thinking to start a gratitude thread to put healthy ideas in my head before I try to go back to bed. So thankful FOR Alnon friends and program For my wee kids wh...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of Al-Anon. I am feeling very blessed today. The other day, I was feeling very low on myself because of my inflated ego and arrogant sense of self-worth. I was upset that I could have been doing more....making more....why me? blah blah. Then,...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Yesterday, I was at my home group meeting and I left feeling very special. After the meeting concluded, one of the members had made cupcakes for my upcoming birthday. We all sat down and enjoyed them and it was truly a great feeling...

John · John

While at a meeting last night, I put my keys, phone and cup of coffee under the seat I was sitting in. A woman sitting behind me, quietly took my keys and left the meeting. No one in the meeting thought anything of it. I went outside about half way through it, not knowing my keys had been taken... walked int...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning my family I have been saying the serenity prayer for a hour now. We here at work and have a co-worker that is driving us crazy. She is good at what she does......ONLY when she does it. Most of the time she fiddle farts around until the last few hours of the day and then she is SO SO busy she can'...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

It was a mixed emotion type of weekend, alternating exhilaration over getting myself a little car, and buyer's remorse when I discovered several repairs that will not be cheap, plus the registration, emissions and insurance all due this week. There are a couple of things wrong with the car that...

Rose50 · Rose50

I haven't posted in a while - been feeling out of sorts. I'm very unhappy with my job. It's not the work - it's the micro-manager boss who loves to point out any little mistake. I am tired of her snide remarks. Being pro-active and taking my time looking for something - being careful this time so as not to ma...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am trying to sit in these terrible high chairs at the library! It is going to be hard from now on to write on this site. I am not being negative but I feel that the library is making it harder for me to sit here for the full hour they allow us daily. I have a really hard time writing on here on my tablet as I have s...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Deep inside of me , I want to write my AH a letter stating how I feel about his relaps, but another part of me tells me "NO, TAKE CARE OF YOUR EMOTIONS HE DONT CARE"!

neshema2 · neshema2

TWELVE years in recovery on Feb 15th....I looked it up, my first ever , afraid, post on this old site that is still open, but i had to ask the owner who is my dear dear friend..."hey what is my date..I know its in Feb. around the middle and he told me....he remembered b/c I came in his "room"...

Beatrice · Beatrice

"The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, But on building the new." Socrates

Melly1248 · Melly1248

I really need prayers. Things have turned ugly here, so bad that I don't even want to share the details. Lets just say ABF went on a rampage. Or a bender I guess. he hurt us, terrified us. He hurt my girl. She cried in my arms, mum can we please leave him. OK. I sent her away to stay with a friend. Im missing her s...

neshema2 · neshema2

I told you all about I have 2 daughters...older one treats me great....younger one was mentally abusive to me., oh no she never touched me b/c even tho I am the older "lioness" I could still best her in a confrontation....but the mental/emotional abuse, the rollar coaster rides she had pu...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

My face to face meeting was canceled tonight due to the bad snow storm we are having, and I wish I was able to go to my second face to face meeting but I'm home alone again. Im getting to the point as if Im a single women and not a married women. To come home and clean the house, let the dogs out, feed the dogs, was...

ssilver · ssilver

Hi. I understand this is not an advice seeking forum, but I could really use some ESH and any other insight you guys might have. I don't post often, but visit regularly and do respect the thoughtful and loving responses I read here. I go to f2f meetings (started in Jan) where there is no crosstalk, so spec...

John · John

I have a little pressure washing and painting business. I enjoy making things appear new again, refreshing them. And I'm good at it. It's how I make a living. This winter has been rough. Winters always are in this kind of business, but this year seems to be the slowest I have ever seen. I haven't ha...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Yes. I have 6 pets and a fiancee. -- Edited by pinkchip on Friday 14th of February 2014 07:25:35 PM

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

My anxiety was up some today .. the kids went on their visitation today. It was good. I'm glad .. it was a good time in terms of just long enough. He's dry drunking it .. even if he's not drinking .. he's definitely got behavior attached. Typical stuff with him asking questions and not listening to th...

sadsusie · sadsusie

My Active Alcoholic Husband keeps telling me that he wants my support....proceed with the sob story of how hard life is.....How he has worked so hard for US....would DIE for me....meanwhile he has been out all night it is now 9am, and he is obviously loaded. I told him that I do not have the capacity to kn...

ladee · ladee

Awareness changes everything... I have endured anxiety my entire life.... and right now, my level of anxiety is very high in regard to a work situation.... as my day progressed, and I stayed busy with things needing to be done around my home... I was aware of feeling a 'tug' to contact my AS..... I have c...

el-cee · el-cee

I went to a meeting out of town today. It was really good but I can't shake this kind of brain numb feeling, nothing will penetrate today, all the lovely wisdom in the room and I couldn't really really listen. I'm feeling sad and a bit lonely. Decided to visit an Art Gallery and thought I would cheer myself...

neshema2 · neshema2

Anthony de Mello told a story about an eagle... A man found an eagles nest w/an abandoned egg...he took that egg and put it in the chicken coop where the chickens were free roaming, but had their "nesting place" he put the egg in one of the nests and sure enough a loving fat hen began to lay on t...

mm830 · mm830

I just need a friend today. It's been about a month since I really started standing up for myself with the A and it actually got better, or so I thought. Last night we were supposed to celebrate Valentine's Day I get this beautiful card and dinner. Well dinner went terrible. He started getting angry with...

hopes314 · hopes314

I know marriages are not prefect with and without an alcoholic in the picture. I am going to see a lawyer to find out if I can survive on my own with 3 kids. I don't even have the money for the divorce. that does suck. I think I will have to wait until I get a job. Alnon does promise that we can be happy with the...

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	Spring (Preview) As I drove - okay call it slid - out of my icy neighborhood yesterday and onto the main thoroughfare edged on each side by huge piles of plowed dirty snow and ice, I saw a blue jay flying from tree to tree. Although the weather predictions for this week call for extreme cold and more snow, the winging blue j...	grateful2be	16	304	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Very conflicted... (Preview) I will do my best to condense this "novel". My spouse (wife) of 30+ years has been addicted to alcohol for 15+ years, and prescription pain meds and sedatives for 5+ years. I started attending Al-Anon 15 years ago and did so for several years, but never really "got it". I am an admi...	Turricane	11	615	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Seeking suggestions (Preview) My mother (~65 years old) is suffering from severe alcoholism and doesn't have any intentions of quitting. She is drinking vodka at all hours and recently finished a fifth in under 24 hours, extremely dangerous for someone that is 95 pounds. I am working to understand the concept of detachment, and t...	eddieunger	13	335	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	He tried to attack me- I'm shaken, but ok (Preview) Thank you all for support today! First, I met with my Aunt and had an opportunity to make amends, which I did. I'm sure there is more to the dynamics than what's on the surface, but my Aunt said she felt terribly offended. What was the cause? My isolation. I guess while I was trying to survive, she too...	bud	23	607	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	I'm Healthy (Preview) Spent the day testing at the COPD clinic and saw the doctor about all the tests I took. I'm at healthy as a horse ( BIG horse ) ...just can't breath that well. He said for me to ask my doctor to send me to ??? a breathing therapist, a lung clinic?? I don't know but a place where they exercise your lungs and...	Cathyinaz	13	1313	Feb 24, 2014 by Tasha
	working at it....in neutral (Preview) I keep getting so stuck in the grief junk. I realized I have never had time from one death to another to heal. NO wonder I am mostly not happy. I kept looking back, not at today. So I changed the thought in my head, when I start to get shakey, feel off balance, my head says,"This is your life." So I l...	Debilyn	7	434	Feb 24, 2014 by el-cee
	Sick is easy (Preview) I heard that in a meeting last night. Sick is easy Yep, it sure it!	ilovedogs	35	792	Feb 24, 2014 by grateful2be
	Much less than the afterthought :-( (Preview) My Aunt said that my parents have been relocated to an end stage facility. They're now in separate rooms. My Aunt and Uncle are emptying their assisted living facility apartment, as my parents will not be returning. My Aunt said that my sister is there today with a truck taking things and asked me wh...	bud	25	574	Feb 24, 2014 by bud
	At a complete loss (Preview) I'm at a complete, total loss. Had given up hope AH would show a glimmer of changing, was preparing to move at end of school year (had baby in fall and under teacher contract is why the wait). We've been married 13years, the last 6 he's been drinking heavily. Things came to yet another head late November a...	Kerrymom	7	402	Feb 24, 2014 by Breakingfree
	The FIVE C's (Preview) I was talking to my sponsor last night about a few issues I'm having: namely the fact that my AH signed up for a dating website and how I snooped to find out about it. We talked about ME and MY behavior obviously and my responsibilities to myself, etc. She said that many years ago her sponsor had all sponse...	ilovedogs	6	2603	Feb 23, 2014 by Lyne
	Living with alcoholic spouse vs leaving (Preview) I am new to the Al-Anon community. My wife is an alcoholic. For the past several years her drinking, while consistent and excessive, has been open and not life altering. I am not a fan of the "High Functioning Alcoholic" label, but for lack of a better description, that was my wife. She o...	kwas911	12	3814	Feb 23, 2014 by MeTwo2
	Open Heart Surgery (Preview) Hello Friends, Sorry I haven't been around in meetings lately however, I had to have a double bypass last Monday. Things are going as well as can be expected. It was one of the darkest and scariest moments of my life. So my message to you all is do not let the stress get to you. Stress is a killer. Take it...	Andrea12	7	282	Feb 23, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Okay that was one CRAZY week (Preview) Hiya guys and gals, I am coming off a crazy week of chaos (courtesy my AH). 1. Suicide attempt w/ booze and pills----went to ER 2. released from ER zonked out on meds (sent home in cab and then he drove----crashed his car) 3.DWI 4.released from DWI hold, threatened suicide---went to crisis center 5....	jillybean1	7	339	Feb 23, 2014 by Breakingfree
	The hangover... (Preview) Aloha Family...yes we also get to have "hangovers" and I have one now. I didn't remind myself of the outcome before we (my wife and I) listened to and talked with my grand-daughter. Her dad, my eldest son, has relapsed and pretty well nuked as many family members as he could in the proces...	Jerry F	12	454	Feb 23, 2014 by Breakingfree
	SUNDAY MORNING SPIRITUAL MEETING 10 A.M. (EST) TOPIC IS: WHAT UNEXPECTED BLESSINGS HAVE I RECEIVED IN AL-ANON? (Preview) It was just there I always asked myself what was meant by " A Spiritual Awakening."I was so curious but nobody in Al-Anon could tell me about it. And then one day it happened in my life; my spiritual awakening was there! I don't know where it came from and I don't know how it came. It was just...	Mimi3	0	168	Feb 23, 2014 by Mimi3
	Awake again...share (Preview) I'm up again. It's after 4 am. It's been like this for a year now. I stopped my anti depressants last January, got off birth control and separated from my parents all within a span of 30 days. Some nights I would lie in bed terrified that someone was trying to kill me. In the spring I had a sleep paralysis epi...	StargazerLily	2	355	Feb 23, 2014 by Jerry F
	I feel like such a An..... (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Tonight, an al-anon friend invited me over as we were going to go to a movie, to celebrate my birthday, which was yesterday. I got on the road and they were so slippery that my tires were spinning. It would have been an hour before I go...	slogan_jim	16	1486	Feb 22, 2014 by wp
	Called police on husband last night now feeling conflicted. vent? (Preview) Its been a few weeks since I've been on here, I've finally been able to get to f2f meetings but havnt been in a while since we just got back from vacation. Anyways, Last night my Husband and I got into a disagreement about finances, it did not escalate into an argument but it sure did leave him in a bad mood....	AmyK	16	632	Feb 22, 2014 by AmyK
	Why do I bother to believe him! (Preview) Im tired of believing and trusting what my AH tells "Ill be back"! I know that he is not, and he knows that I hate when he lies, and he tells me every times "trust me"! I'm so tired of those words! Thursday I came home from work he was not home, and Friday morning on my way to work, I tex...	NavySealWife	10	692	Feb 22, 2014 by OT71
	What we could learn from our dogs (Preview) While this is not from CAL, I think it aligns well with the spirit of Al Anon and MIP and taking care of ourselves. If a dog was the teacher you would learn things like: When loved ones come home, always run to greet them; Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride; Allow the experience of fresh air an...	KennyFenderjazz	8	224	Feb 22, 2014 by BassetHoundMommy
	Strange (Preview) So last night I went out with friends from work. Had a great time, laughed so hard my stomach hurt a few times. I did have a few drinks. I didn't think once about what my AH was doing. He knew I wa going, I planned other arrangements for my kids since I can't depend on him. Came home, great mood, he of course had...	Hope2000	6	343	Feb 22, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Hi I'm new here and pretty confused (Preview) To begin, I am dating someone who clearly has an addiction to alcohol. When we met two years ago I knew that he was a widower and he mentioned that when his wife passed away he took 6 months off from life and temporarily lost custody of his daughter. He said it wasn't like he was an alcoholic, he just self me...	Snowflake74	8	469	Feb 21, 2014 by Snowflake74
	Ohh. That's what i wasn't seeing. (Preview) Finally understood what I have been trying to do for so long, and why it didn't work. And why I have been so freaking tired and sad for so long. See, I had accepted my powerlessness over someone else's drinking, gambling, whatever. I really had. Drink, gamble, whatever buddy. Do what you like. But I rea...	Melly1248	19	801	Feb 21, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Here's my ostrich (Preview) Note that she now has her head OUT OF THE SAND and is standing near the water, LOL!	ilovedogs	19	430	Feb 21, 2014 by grateful2be
	update.. (Preview) just checking in I'm walking steady. After beating myself up and reaching a very personal LOW last week, i stood up, worked hard on forgiving myself. Then I took the advice given here, and taking care of myself. Eating well, enjoying the process of cooking and tasting . Sleeping well, enjoying the...	tortuga	4	291	Feb 21, 2014 by Jerry F
	Relax, but annoyed! (Preview) I dont get how some wives of AH, can say " I just deal with my AH"! It just pisses me off, when I hear that! The wife of the guy my husband spend days at time at there home, lets her AH drink every single day and spend the money he makes on booze, that they dont have cable, or internet and no car. How is t...	NavySealWife	6	396	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Spinning in circles... (Preview) I am new to this forum and i am trying to find online Alanon meetings that fit my time...i live in Italy, work at a military base as a teacher... My AH just returned from his second trip to rehab In the last year...he went in this second time almost a year to the day of his admission last year...this time arou...	Lost72	3	357	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Social Settings (Preview) Here's another question...I am at an interesting spot in my AH's addiction process and all these things are coming up I have not dealt with before due to the progression of his disease. How do you tell him, without causing a fight, that you hesitate to be social with old friends bc he will get drunk and em...	mccr	4	398	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	preparing for a death of a loved one (Preview) Sorry I haven't been around much of this past few days...Called my bio mom's sister who favored me since I was born...She rescued me many times from her "sister" and her abuse, locking me in crates, My mama Aunt Helen would "free" me, change my filthy diapers, feed me, hold me an...	neshema2	12	451	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Dry drunk (Preview) I found this video on a dry drunk because I did not no if my A sober husband was this so I figure I post it for others to see http://youtu.be/hhZ2HFFuASY	Wisdom67	2	258	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Please give input on intervention (Preview) we ( me, husband, adult A Dtr who is 6 months sober) would like to help our adult A son get into a state run rehab program. he is in denial, total denial, as his life is spiraling down the drain. no one in the family is enabling him financially. He lives in another state, and will soon be without a phone, has n...	barbaralewis	12	530	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Question About Return To Site (Preview) Is there any way to flag a topic I want to return to when I sign on again as on other sites?	OT71	1	203	Feb 21, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Its it normal that I dont care if he comes home or not? (Preview) Last night, I was at work and knew that I had some things to do before I went to my therapy with my therapist at 7pm. I was talking to my one of my four doctors I work for, and have grown to be very close to him and see hime as a father figure. I have told him the struggles Im having to deal and cope with my husband al...	NavySealWife	8	599	Feb 21, 2014 by OT71
	Sad sad diease (Preview) Hello today is like any other day just when I saw how happy and good my husband 1 year sober how the house had peace then 2 months ago the house became sick again , I think I had something to do with it . I have been staying away from my husband he has been not supporting me during my time of needs with other issue...	Wisdom67	6	502	Feb 21, 2014 by PP
	INTIMACY QUESTION (Preview) Hello, New to this forum. I have a sex question. My alcoholic husband has been pestering me and been verbally abusive about not 'performing wifely duties' regularly for a few months. Problem is, I can't bring myself to do this when he is drunk. I just disgusts me. I have told him (when sober) that this i...	mccr	14	541	Feb 21, 2014 by mccr
	Can't do it anymore (Preview) My youngest daughter(47) is an alcoholic. She has hidden it over the years well, but in the last few years, it is evident. I finally confronted her last summer. She still calls me and pretends. I just can't do it anymore. I am getting too old(74), and have other rather stressful things going on with othe...	lenii263	9	400	Feb 21, 2014 by Grace7
	why oh why i cant sleep (Preview) I was sleeping and then a nightmare woke me up. I wish my mindwasn't so active. This is when I say the senerity prayer to calm me down to sleep. I was thinking to start a gratitude thread to put healthy ideas in my head before I try to go back to bed. So thankful FOR Alnon friends and program For my wee kids wh...	hopes314	5	308	Feb 20, 2014 by Beatrice
	First World Problems....feeling blessed today (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of Al-Anon. I am feeling very blessed today. The other day, I was feeling very low on myself because of my inflated ego and arrogant sense of self-worth. I was upset that I could have been doing more....making more....why me? blah blah. Then,...	slogan_jim	2	171	Feb 20, 2014 by Jerry F
	Great meeting yesterday but still feeling low. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Yesterday, I was at my home group meeting and I left feeling very special. After the meeting concluded, one of the members had made cupcakes for my upcoming birthday. We all sat down and enjoyed them and it was truly a great feeling...	slogan_jim	5	316	Feb 20, 2014 by Breakingfree
	My car stolen in a Meeting!! (Preview) While at a meeting last night, I put my keys, phone and cup of coffee under the seat I was sitting in. A woman sitting behind me, quietly took my keys and left the meeting. No one in the meeting thought anything of it. I went outside about half way through it, not knowing my keys had been taken... walked int...	John	11	637	Feb 20, 2014 by Breakingfree
	God Please help me to keep my mouth shut (Preview) Good Morning my family I have been saying the serenity prayer for a hour now. We here at work and have a co-worker that is driving us crazy. She is good at what she does......ONLY when she does it. Most of the time she fiddle farts around until the last few hours of the day and then she is SO SO busy she can'...	Cathyinaz	11	742	Feb 20, 2014 by milkwood
	darn potholes (Preview) It was a mixed emotion type of weekend, alternating exhilaration over getting myself a little car, and buyer's remorse when I discovered several repairs that will not be cheap, plus the registration, emissions and insurance all due this week. There are a couple of things wrong with the car that...	Raven Juniper	5	325	Feb 19, 2014 by ilovedogs
	Hanging in there (Preview) I haven't posted in a while - been feeling out of sorts. I'm very unhappy with my job. It's not the work - it's the micro-manager boss who loves to point out any little mistake. I am tired of her snide remarks. Being pro-active and taking my time looking for something - being careful this time so as not to ma...	Rose50	9	392	Feb 19, 2014 by el-cee
	these doggone high chairs! (Preview) I am trying to sit in these terrible high chairs at the library! It is going to be hard from now on to write on this site. I am not being negative but I feel that the library is making it harder for me to sit here for the full hour they allow us daily. I have a really hard time writing on here on my tablet as I have s...	Hoot Nanny	5	184	Feb 19, 2014 by cwya
	Deep inside of me wants me to write him a letter...... (Preview) Deep inside of me , I want to write my AH a letter stating how I feel about his relaps, but another part of me tells me "NO, TAKE CARE OF YOUR EMOTIONS HE DONT CARE"!	NavySealWife	11	368	Feb 18, 2014 by Jerry F
	Happy anniversary to me (Preview) TWELVE years in recovery on Feb 15th....I looked it up, my first ever , afraid, post on this old site that is still open, but i had to ask the owner who is my dear dear friend..."hey what is my date..I know its in Feb. around the middle and he told me....he remembered b/c I came in his "room"...	neshema2	11	852	Feb 18, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Good ole Socrates (Preview) "The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, But on building the new." Socrates	Beatrice	1	185	Feb 18, 2014 by hotrod
	Ugly stuff. (Preview) I really need prayers. Things have turned ugly here, so bad that I don't even want to share the details. Lets just say ABF went on a rampage. Or a bender I guess. he hurt us, terrified us. He hurt my girl. She cried in my arms, mum can we please leave him. OK. I sent her away to stay with a friend. Im missing her s...	Melly1248	24	664	Feb 18, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	I REALLY moved on (Preview) I told you all about I have 2 daughters...older one treats me great....younger one was mentally abusive to me., oh no she never touched me b/c even tho I am the older "lioness" I could still best her in a confrontation....but the mental/emotional abuse, the rollar coaster rides she had pu...	neshema2	9	468	Feb 18, 2014 by el-cee
	Coming home to a empty house (Preview) My face to face meeting was canceled tonight due to the bad snow storm we are having, and I wish I was able to go to my second face to face meeting but I'm home alone again. Im getting to the point as if Im a single women and not a married women. To come home and clean the house, let the dogs out, feed the dogs, was...	NavySealWife	5	744	Feb 18, 2014 by MeTwo2
	Church with my A (Preview) Hi. I understand this is not an advice seeking forum, but I could really use some ESH and any other insight you guys might have. I don't post often, but visit regularly and do respect the thoughtful and loving responses I read here. I go to f2f meetings (started in Jan) where there is no crosstalk, so spec...	ssilver	14	477	Feb 17, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	A rough winter! (Preview) I have a little pressure washing and painting business. I enjoy making things appear new again, refreshing them. And I'm good at it. It's how I make a living. This winter has been rough. Winters always are in this kind of business, but this year seems to be the slowest I have ever seen. I haven't ha...	John	9	475	Feb 17, 2014 by Jen61
	pet photo shoot! (Preview) Yes. I have 6 pets and a fiancee. -- Edited by pinkchip on Friday 14th of February 2014 07:25:35 PM	pinkchip	14	545	Feb 17, 2014 by MorningGlory
	We all survived .. lol (Preview) My anxiety was up some today .. the kids went on their visitation today. It was good. I'm glad .. it was a good time in terms of just long enough. He's dry drunking it .. even if he's not drinking .. he's definitely got behavior attached. Typical stuff with him asking questions and not listening to th...	SerenityRUS	2	367	Feb 17, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	My active AH wants my "support" because he is in so much pain yadda yadda (Preview) My Active Alcoholic Husband keeps telling me that he wants my support....proceed with the sob story of how hard life is.....How he has worked so hard for US....would DIE for me....meanwhile he has been out all night it is now 9am, and he is obviously loaded. I told him that I do not have the capacity to kn...	sadsusie	9	469	Feb 17, 2014 by SpiderArcana
	Something I became aware of today.. (Preview) Awareness changes everything... I have endured anxiety my entire life.... and right now, my level of anxiety is very high in regard to a work situation.... as my day progressed, and I stayed busy with things needing to be done around my home... I was aware of feeling a 'tug' to contact my AS..... I have c...	ladee	12	572	Feb 17, 2014 by MeTwo2
	Feeling sad tonight. (Preview) I went to a meeting out of town today. It was really good but I can't shake this kind of brain numb feeling, nothing will penetrate today, all the lovely wisdom in the room and I couldn't really really listen. I'm feeling sad and a bit lonely. Decided to visit an Art Gallery and thought I would cheer myself...	el-cee	14	398	Feb 17, 2014 by PP
	I used to be that eagle... (Preview) Anthony de Mello told a story about an eagle... A man found an eagles nest w/an abandoned egg...he took that egg and put it in the chicken coop where the chickens were free roaming, but had their "nesting place" he put the egg in one of the nests and sure enough a loving fat hen began to lay on t...	neshema2	6	386	Feb 17, 2014 by mm830
	Ugh (Preview) I just need a friend today. It's been about a month since I really started standing up for myself with the A and it actually got better, or so I thought. Last night we were supposed to celebrate Valentine's Day I get this beautiful card and dinner. Well dinner went terrible. He started getting angry with...	mm830	10	347	Feb 17, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	alnon long termer - seek wisdom (Preview) I know marriages are not prefect with and without an alcoholic in the picture. I am going to see a lawyer to find out if I can survive on my own with 3 kids. I don't even have the money for the divorce. that does suck. I think I will have to wait until I get a job. Alnon does promise that we can be happy with the...	hopes314	11	519	Feb 17, 2014 by jillybean1
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