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Katy · Katy

When I first came to alanon, my whole being and life was engulfed in and by my alchoholic, my mood my happiness my sence of who I was, all of it was in my mind dependent on him and his behavours, hand on my heart I did not believe alanon or anything come to that matter could show me a way to live any differently...

Gaby · Gaby

The week is early. Lots of fear.. But I pray and pray for me and my son..! I have to always say to me self he makes his own choices!! I can not control him.. I can not cure him and I am not the cause of this ugly disease !! He knows I love him but this is his addiction .. I do not have to allow it to consume my life!! It'...

lookingup · lookingup

i finally find out the truth that he had been hiding his drinking all along,I confronted him 3x then he told me he drank margerittas instead of beer but still changed his behavior when he ,he being my a b/f, came in after work,he called me from work and humbly apologized for his behavior and he went on to sa...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Hi all. Time for an update. I've come on here a few times over the last week and a half, started to write something, read over it, sighed, deleted it...who'd have thought, me with nothing to write? lol. I just haven't had much...I dunno...spirit or something. That first week was horrible. I didn't spe...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Hi Everyone. When I wake up in the morning sometimes, before I've had coffee, everything is very clear. Coffee hides my feelings. Without it it, I see so clearly that I have to clean up some things from the last several years. I'm not talking about amends (I do those too.) I'm talking about setting bound...

tortuga · tortuga

I stumbled over a movie by coincidence (or faith) last night ..'' 'Thanks for sharing' with Tim Robbins, Gwyneth Paltrow et al. very interesting to see life's stories in a movie, not overdone, not exaggerated, not minimized. I found it interesting to feel both sides of the streets in a more detached w...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I just wanted to post to you all how much I appreciate each and every one of you. My AH has been gone now since Dec. 27. It has been a LONG, bitterly cold winter here in northern Minnesota. This site has helped me so much, on so many different levels this winter. I don't always post after reading, because you...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Lots of thoughts have sprung into my mind lately...there's hasn't been much going on around here, at least not on the surface. But I've been learning everyday and for that I'm very grateful. It truly is about Progress, Not Perfection, isn't it? I started likening living with my A to being at one of t...

marieanne · marieanne

Hi all, I never thought I would join a message board for alcoholics. My 25 yr old daughter is an alcoholic. I don't know what to do. She has admitted the fact that she is an alcoholic, went to 1 meeting, and said all the people there were weird/crazy..not for her. I suggested counseling. No go. The ot...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

Just wanted to check in. Things have been shockingly quiet here. AH seems to have really taken to heart everything I've said, and has been very, very mindful about his actions. He helps with things without me asking, is trying to cook more for us and eat healthier, more exercise, etc. I truly hope i...

el-cee · el-cee

I hate the drama this disease causes. The noise and chaos, Its very difficult to find and keep serenity when it continues on and on. The manipulation used to keep it alive is draining. I think Im beginning to realise that Im no match, I cant keep one step ahead anymore and maybe I never ever was. Actually I...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

You know that addicts and alcoholics let you down, so I learned to take care of myself and not rely on them. I got on the system in order to work only part time so I can go back to school full time in order to get a career and be totally self supporting in my future. Now I am slowing school down to part time th...

Dee F · Dee F

Hello. I was recently asked to sponsor someone. This would be my first experience as a sponsor. I am thrilled and at the same time, a bit nervous. I have read the 2014-2017 Service Manual, Courage to Change and Hope For Today regarding sponsorship. Also, I have the "What Sponsorship Is and W...

jodiee34 · jodiee34

My wife is my A. We married last July after it became legal for us. I was just wondering if there were any others on here other than me. :) Would be happy to chat to just share experiences.

barbaralewis · barbaralewis

good news! my daughter starts her job today.....first "real" job in the field she used to be in (as in, not working in our family biz) since she changed her life after she unsuccessfully tried to take it 6 months ago. there is a lot to be thankful for....i'm going to quit worrying about what i...

el-cee · el-cee

Dear Alcoholism You are a thief, a taker of good and a giver of bad. You are a monster and are in nightmares. You are toxic and pollute families with fumes that poison the minds of everyone you touch. You steal peace of mind and in its place put fear. You take hold with an iron grip and don't let go. You are bl...

Inrecovery · Inrecovery

I'm new to typing. I was in the chatroom this morn at 9:00 and then all of a sudden it comes up that the MIP site is currently unavailable an I can't get in anymore. Do I have to do something that I'm unaware of or what???

hopes314 · hopes314

I started reading AA life stories. Why? I wanted to understand and I sort of have a better picture. I see how they think --unbelievable. They do not want to be alcoholics and I wish there were not either. My heart breaks to see their struggle yo overcome the urge to drink. It is insane to do something th...

CKCS · CKCS

Hi I've attended 2 Al-Anon meetings and I finally feel I've made the right decission. My situation isn't easy. My ex-partner and I split up 2 weeks ago, he's an alcoholic. He admitted cheating and I asked him to leave our home. It's very tough and I'm very confused. I miss him, I love him, he was the love o...

Inrecovery · Inrecovery

I'm never posted here before, but I've been reading here the last month or so. Have been getting so much from keeping up on this board since I can't do as many f2f mtgs as I'd like. Have been going to Alanon mtgs 4 about 4.5 yrs but during these cold winter mon it's been a challenge to get to mtgs more then one...

kickstart77 · kickstart77

I have 3 children. My oldest is almost 18, and has gone a long time without contact with his father, because his father thought our son deserved a dad. So my husband (now ex) took over. You never think the last time would be the last time. We spoke just a couple months ago. I can still hear his voice. We buri...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So my daughter and I have been having a lot of dialog over the past few years about labels. There is something about this generation that is bleeding over into other generations, however I see it most prevalent in the younger kids. Some of the catalyst was because my son came home from a sleepover and h...

Gaby · Gaby

I'm praying for strength .. I dislike this feeling of waking up feeling depressed over some one else's choices and decisions that I allow it to consume my life. I can only pray for my son.. I know gods with us all. Have a blessed day..

el-cee · el-cee

mm830 · mm830

I have been sifting through so much lately. Hold on, let go, it's hard to put into words but it's different, I feel like I have had a breakthrough in my relationship with HP. I am healing, it's through the absolute grace of HP and I could not be more grateful. It's almost on a cellular level, this is maybe cr...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello Family.... I have been Going thru Some Major Hurdles Here of Late, and tho I'm still Making My Meetings, and Doing My Work, there are still Times of Great SINKING & back sliding! Thank Goodness for HP, HOPE, FAITH, & The Love of this Program... I Do ask if you have a Second this Thurs. that y...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

My son texted me about stolen property. It's OK not to say anything. It's OK....... I don't want to get into anything with him now. Let go let God.....

Gaby · Gaby

Hello all.. I have not been on here for a while.. I have been a bit lost.. I have been attending cross roads and celebrating recovery. I go to church reach out to many people. I am tired of being tired. And I believe my A son just caught his second wind. I know I can not do nothing no more. It's all up to him!! I pr...

BassetHoundMommy · BassetHoundMommy

Without writing a book - Here's where I'm at My husband is an alcoholic. On January 20th, he was drunk and tried to smother me with a pillow. I put him in jail. My husband has NEVER layed a hand on me before (very verbal abusive when drinking though). He has not had a drink since that day. We went to court wher...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

You know sometimes I really miss living in a house out in the country away from the dysfunction of other people!!!!! A place that illegal things are not a normal occurrence that police have to be regular visitors around my neighboring apartments for. Just makes me want to work harder to get my dreams ac...

grateful2be · grateful2be

As I drove - okay call it slid - out of my icy neighborhood yesterday and onto the main thoroughfare edged on each side by huge piles of plowed dirty snow and ice, I saw a blue jay flying from tree to tree. Although the weather predictions for this week call for extreme cold and more snow, the winging blue j...

Turricane · Turricane

I will do my best to condense this "novel". My spouse (wife) of 30+ years has been addicted to alcohol for 15+ years, and prescription pain meds and sedatives for 5+ years. I started attending Al-Anon 15 years ago and did so for several years, but never really "got it". I am an admi...

eddieunger · eddieunger

My mother (~65 years old) is suffering from severe alcoholism and doesn't have any intentions of quitting. She is drinking vodka at all hours and recently finished a fifth in under 24 hours, extremely dangerous for someone that is 95 pounds. I am working to understand the concept of detachment, and t...

bud · bud

Thank you all for support today! First, I met with my Aunt and had an opportunity to make amends, which I did. I'm sure there is more to the dynamics than what's on the surface, but my Aunt said she felt terribly offended. What was the cause? My isolation. I guess while I was trying to survive, she too...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Spent the day testing at the COPD clinic and saw the doctor about all the tests I took. I'm at healthy as a horse ( BIG horse ) ...just can't breath that well. He said for me to ask my doctor to send me to ??? a breathing therapist, a lung clinic?? I don't know but a place where they exercise your lungs and...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I keep getting so stuck in the grief junk. I realized I have never had time from one death to another to heal. NO wonder I am mostly not happy. I kept looking back, not at today. So I changed the thought in my head, when I start to get shakey, feel off balance, my head says,"This is your life." So I l...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I heard that in a meeting last night. Sick is easy Yep, it sure it!

bud · bud

My Aunt said that my parents have been relocated to an end stage facility. They're now in separate rooms. My Aunt and Uncle are emptying their assisted living facility apartment, as my parents will not be returning. My Aunt said that my sister is there today with a truck taking things and asked me wh...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

I'm at a complete, total loss. Had given up hope AH would show a glimmer of changing, was preparing to move at end of school year (had baby in fall and under teacher contract is why the wait). We've been married 13years, the last 6 he's been drinking heavily. Things came to yet another head late November a...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I was talking to my sponsor last night about a few issues I'm having: namely the fact that my AH signed up for a dating website and how I snooped to find out about it. We talked about ME and MY behavior obviously and my responsibilities to myself, etc. She said that many years ago her sponsor had all sponse...

kwas911 · kwas911

I am new to the Al-Anon community. My wife is an alcoholic. For the past several years her drinking, while consistent and excessive, has been open and not life altering. I am not a fan of the "High Functioning Alcoholic" label, but for lack of a better description, that was my wife. She o...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Sorry I haven't been around in meetings lately however, I had to have a double bypass last Monday. Things are going as well as can be expected. It was one of the darkest and scariest moments of my life. So my message to you all is do not let the stress get to you. Stress is a killer. Take it...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

Hiya guys and gals, I am coming off a crazy week of chaos (courtesy my AH). 1. Suicide attempt w/ booze and pills----went to ER 2. released from ER zonked out on meds (sent home in cab and then he drove----crashed his car) 3.DWI 4.released from DWI hold, threatened suicide---went to crisis center 5....

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...yes we also get to have "hangovers" and I have one now. I didn't remind myself of the outcome before we (my wife and I) listened to and talked with my grand-daughter. Her dad, my eldest son, has relapsed and pretty well nuked as many family members as he could in the proces...

Mimi3 · Mimi3

It was just there I always asked myself what was meant by " A Spiritual Awakening."I was so curious but nobody in Al-Anon could tell me about it. And then one day it happened in my life; my spiritual awakening was there! I don't know where it came from and I don't know how it came. It was just...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

I'm up again. It's after 4 am. It's been like this for a year now. I stopped my anti depressants last January, got off birth control and separated from my parents all within a span of 30 days. Some nights I would lie in bed terrified that someone was trying to kill me. In the spring I had a sleep paralysis epi...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Tonight, an al-anon friend invited me over as we were going to go to a movie, to celebrate my birthday, which was yesterday. I got on the road and they were so slippery that my tires were spinning. It would have been an hour before I go...

AmyK · AmyK

Its been a few weeks since I've been on here, I've finally been able to get to f2f meetings but havnt been in a while since we just got back from vacation. Anyways, Last night my Husband and I got into a disagreement about finances, it did not escalate into an argument but it sure did leave him in a bad mood....

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Im tired of believing and trusting what my AH tells "Ill be back"! I know that he is not, and he knows that I hate when he lies, and he tells me every times "trust me"! I'm so tired of those words! Thursday I came home from work he was not home, and Friday morning on my way to work, I tex...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

While this is not from CAL, I think it aligns well with the spirit of Al Anon and MIP and taking care of ourselves. If a dog was the teacher you would learn things like: When loved ones come home, always run to greet them; Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride; Allow the experience of fresh air an...

Hope2000 · Hope2000

So last night I went out with friends from work. Had a great time, laughed so hard my stomach hurt a few times. I did have a few drinks. I didn't think once about what my AH was doing. He knew I wa going, I planned other arrangements for my kids since I can't depend on him. Came home, great mood, he of course had...

Snowflake74 · Snowflake74

To begin, I am dating someone who clearly has an addiction to alcohol. When we met two years ago I knew that he was a widower and he mentioned that when his wife passed away he took 6 months off from life and temporarily lost custody of his daughter. He said it wasn't like he was an alcoholic, he just self me...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Finally understood what I have been trying to do for so long, and why it didn't work. And why I have been so freaking tired and sad for so long. See, I had accepted my powerlessness over someone else's drinking, gambling, whatever. I really had. Drink, gamble, whatever buddy. Do what you like. But I rea...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Note that she now has her head OUT OF THE SAND and is standing near the water, LOL!

tortuga · tortuga

just checking in I'm walking steady. After beating myself up and reaching a very personal LOW last week, i stood up, worked hard on forgiving myself. Then I took the advice given here, and taking care of myself. Eating well, enjoying the process of cooking and tasting

. Sleeping well, enjoying the...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

I dont get how some wives of AH, can say " I just deal with my AH"! It just pisses me off, when I hear that! The wife of the guy my husband spend days at time at there home, lets her AH drink every single day and spend the money he makes on booze, that they dont have cable, or internet and no car. How is t...

Lost72 · Lost72

I am new to this forum and i am trying to find online Alanon meetings that fit my time...i live in Italy, work at a military base as a teacher... My AH just returned from his second trip to rehab In the last year...he went in this second time almost a year to the day of his admission last year...this time arou...

mccr · mccr

Here's another question...I am at an interesting spot in my AH's addiction process and all these things are coming up I have not dealt with before due to the progression of his disease. How do you tell him, without causing a fight, that you hesitate to be social with old friends bc he will get drunk and em...

neshema2 · neshema2

Sorry I haven't been around much of this past few days...Called my bio mom's sister who favored me since I was born...She rescued me many times from her "sister" and her abuse, locking me in crates, My mama Aunt Helen would "free" me, change my filthy diapers, feed me, hold me an...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

I found this video on a dry drunk because I did not no if my A sober husband was this so I figure I post it for others to see http://youtu.be/hhZ2HFFuASY

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	The Difference in me now! (Preview) When I first came to alanon, my whole being and life was engulfed in and by my alchoholic, my mood my happiness my sence of who I was, all of it was in my mind dependent on him and his behavours, hand on my heart I did not believe alanon or anything come to that matter could show me a way to live any differently...	Katy	4	532	Feb 28, 2014 by Jerry F
	I'm taking it second by second.. (Preview) The week is early. Lots of fear.. But I pray and pray for me and my son..! I have to always say to me self he makes his own choices!! I can not control him.. I can not cure him and I am not the cause of this ugly disease !! He knows I love him but this is his addiction .. I do not have to allow it to consume my life!! It'...	Gaby	9	493	Feb 28, 2014 by jillybean1
	Here I am again (Preview) i finally find out the truth that he had been hiding his drinking all along,I confronted him 3x then he told me he drank margerittas instead of beer but still changed his behavior when he ,he being my a b/f, came in after work,he called me from work and humbly apologized for his behavior and he went on to sa...	lookingup	6	477	Feb 28, 2014 by jillybean1
	Rambly update. (Preview) Hi all. Time for an update. I've come on here a few times over the last week and a half, started to write something, read over it, sighed, deleted it...who'd have thought, me with nothing to write? lol. I just haven't had much...I dunno...spirit or something. That first week was horrible. I didn't spe...	Melly1248	15	579	Feb 28, 2014 by hotrod
	Picking My Battles (Preview) Hi Everyone. When I wake up in the morning sometimes, before I've had coffee, everything is very clear. Coffee hides my feelings. Without it it, I see so clearly that I have to clean up some things from the last several years. I'm not talking about amends (I do those too.) I'm talking about setting bound...	WorkingThroughIt	10	468	Feb 28, 2014 by WorkingThroughIt
	the movie 'Thanks for sharing' (Preview) I stumbled over a movie by coincidence (or faith) last night ..'' 'Thanks for sharing' with Tim Robbins, Gwyneth Paltrow et al. very interesting to see life's stories in a movie, not overdone, not exaggerated, not minimized. I found it interesting to feel both sides of the streets in a more detached w...	tortuga	6	338	Feb 27, 2014 by tortuga
	Gratitude (Preview) I just wanted to post to you all how much I appreciate each and every one of you. My AH has been gone now since Dec. 27. It has been a LONG, bitterly cold winter here in northern Minnesota. This site has helped me so much, on so many different levels this winter. I don't always post after reading, because you...	Sweet Stanley	9	394	Feb 27, 2014 by hotrod
	I bought this ticket... (Preview) Lots of thoughts have sprung into my mind lately...there's hasn't been much going on around here, at least not on the surface. But I've been learning everyday and for that I'm very grateful. It truly is about Progress, Not Perfection, isn't it? I started likening living with my A to being at one of t...	Raven Juniper	2	392	Feb 27, 2014 by hotrod
	New here...worried about my daughter (Preview) Hi all, I never thought I would join a message board for alcoholics. My 25 yr old daughter is an alcoholic. I don't know what to do. She has admitted the fact that she is an alcoholic, went to 1 meeting, and said all the people there were weird/crazy..not for her. I suggested counseling. No go. The ot...	marieanne	12	391	Feb 27, 2014 by marieanne
	All quiet (Preview) Just wanted to check in. Things have been shockingly quiet here. AH seems to have really taken to heart everything I've said, and has been very, very mindful about his actions. He helps with things without me asking, is trying to cook more for us and eat healthier, more exercise, etc. I truly hope i...	SpiderArcana	6	286	Feb 27, 2014 by mccr
	Cant stick the drama. (Preview) I hate the drama this disease causes. The noise and chaos, Its very difficult to find and keep serenity when it continues on and on. The manipulation used to keep it alive is draining. I think Im beginning to realise that Im no match, I cant keep one step ahead anymore and maybe I never ever was. Actually I...	el-cee	6	481	Feb 27, 2014 by Nightingale
	Not good at relying on other people..... (Preview) You know that addicts and alcoholics let you down, so I learned to take care of myself and not rely on them. I got on the system in order to work only part time so I can go back to school full time in order to get a career and be totally self supporting in my future. Now I am slowing school down to part time th...	Breakingfree	11	487	Feb 27, 2014 by bud
	First Time Sponsorship? (Preview) Hello. I was recently asked to sponsor someone. This would be my first experience as a sponsor. I am thrilled and at the same time, a bit nervous. I have read the 2014-2017 Service Manual, Courage to Change and Hope For Today regarding sponsorship. Also, I have the "What Sponsorship Is and W...	Dee F	4	496	Feb 26, 2014 by Dee F
	Gay or Lesbian's out there? (closed) (Preview) My wife is my A. We married last July after it became legal for us. I was just wondering if there were any others on here other than me. :) Would be happy to chat to just share experiences.	jodiee34	8	1923	Feb 26, 2014 by John
	good news! (Preview) good news! my daughter starts her job today.....first "real" job in the field she used to be in (as in, not working in our family biz) since she changed her life after she unsuccessfully tried to take it 6 months ago. there is a lot to be thankful for....i'm going to quit worrying about what i...	barbaralewis	7	361	Feb 26, 2014 by Jerry F
	Dear A (Preview) Dear Alcoholism You are a thief, a taker of good and a giver of bad. You are a monster and are in nightmares. You are toxic and pollute families with fumes that poison the minds of everyone you touch. You steal peace of mind and in its place put fear. You take hold with an iron grip and don't let go. You are bl...	el-cee	4	323	Feb 26, 2014 by Jerry F
	Help with online mtgs (Preview) I'm new to typing. I was in the chatroom this morn at 9:00 and then all of a sudden it comes up that the MIP site is currently unavailable an I can't get in anymore. Do I have to do something that I'm unaware of or what???	Inrecovery	3	262	Feb 26, 2014 by mercedes1959
	Light of compassion (Preview) I started reading AA life stories. Why? I wanted to understand and I sort of have a better picture. I see how they think --unbelievable. They do not want to be alcoholics and I wish there were not either. My heart breaks to see their struggle yo overcome the urge to drink. It is insane to do something th...	hopes314	5	312	Feb 26, 2014 by OT71
	I'm new (Preview) Hi I've attended 2 Al-Anon meetings and I finally feel I've made the right decission. My situation isn't easy. My ex-partner and I split up 2 weeks ago, he's an alcoholic. He admitted cheating and I asked him to leave our home. It's very tough and I'm very confused. I miss him, I love him, he was the love o...	CKCS	11	344	Feb 26, 2014 by CKCS
	New to MIP (Preview) I'm never posted here before, but I've been reading here the last month or so. Have been getting so much from keeping up on this board since I can't do as many f2f mtgs as I'd like. Have been going to Alanon mtgs 4 about 4.5 yrs but during these cold winter mon it's been a challenge to get to mtgs more then one...	Inrecovery	6	301	Feb 26, 2014 by Debilyn
	My son's father, and my children's dad (not the same person) (Preview) I have 3 children. My oldest is almost 18, and has gone a long time without contact with his father, because his father thought our son deserved a dad. So my husband (now ex) took over. You never think the last time would be the last time. We spoke just a couple months ago. I can still hear his voice. We buri...	kickstart77	2	240	Feb 26, 2014 by Tracy
	Labels and the damage they can do .. (Preview) So my daughter and I have been having a lot of dialog over the past few years about labels. There is something about this generation that is bleeding over into other generations, however I see it most prevalent in the younger kids. Some of the catalyst was because my son came home from a sleepover and h...	SerenityRUS	12	643	Feb 26, 2014 by Mari1978
	Praying !! (Preview) I'm praying for strength .. I dislike this feeling of waking up feeling depressed over some one else's choices and decisions that I allow it to consume my life. I can only pray for my son.. I know gods with us all. Have a blessed day..	Gaby	9	313	Feb 26, 2014 by ilovedogs
	Its coming soon! (Preview)	el-cee	13	739	Feb 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	Healing (Preview) I have been sifting through so much lately. Hold on, let go, it's hard to put into words but it's different, I feel like I have had a breakthrough in my relationship with HP. I am healing, it's through the absolute grace of HP and I could not be more grateful. It's almost on a cellular level, this is maybe cr...	mm830	3	299	Feb 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	Becareful what you ask HP For :) (Preview) Hello Family.... I have been Going thru Some Major Hurdles Here of Late, and tho I'm still Making My Meetings, and Doing My Work, there are still Times of Great SINKING & back sliding! Thank Goodness for HP, HOPE, FAITH, & The Love of this Program... I Do ask if you have a Second this Thurs. that y...	Jozie	2	313	Feb 25, 2014 by hotrod
	Texting (Preview) My son texted me about stolen property. It's OK not to say anything. It's OK....... I don't want to get into anything with him now. Let go let God.....	Cathyinaz	13	451	Feb 25, 2014 by Debilyn
	I have to work on me !! (Preview) Hello all.. I have not been on here for a while.. I have been a bit lost.. I have been attending cross roads and celebrating recovery. I go to church reach out to many people. I am tired of being tired. And I believe my A son just caught his second wind. I know I can not do nothing no more. It's all up to him!! I pr...	Gaby	6	527	Feb 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	New and confused (Preview) Without writing a book - Here's where I'm at My husband is an alcoholic. On January 20th, he was drunk and tried to smother me with a pillow. I put him in jail. My husband has NEVER layed a hand on me before (very verbal abusive when drinking though). He has not had a drink since that day. We went to court wher...	BassetHoundMommy	9	476	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Under age drinking next door, fighting bf and gf all hours and apartment living oh my...... (Preview) You know sometimes I really miss living in a house out in the country away from the dysfunction of other people!!!!! A place that illegal things are not a normal occurrence that police have to be regular visitors around my neighboring apartments for. Just makes me want to work harder to get my dreams ac...	Breakingfree	7	525	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Spring (Preview) As I drove - okay call it slid - out of my icy neighborhood yesterday and onto the main thoroughfare edged on each side by huge piles of plowed dirty snow and ice, I saw a blue jay flying from tree to tree. Although the weather predictions for this week call for extreme cold and more snow, the winging blue j...	grateful2be	16	341	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Very conflicted... (Preview) I will do my best to condense this "novel". My spouse (wife) of 30+ years has been addicted to alcohol for 15+ years, and prescription pain meds and sedatives for 5+ years. I started attending Al-Anon 15 years ago and did so for several years, but never really "got it". I am an admi...	Turricane	11	663	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Seeking suggestions (Preview) My mother (~65 years old) is suffering from severe alcoholism and doesn't have any intentions of quitting. She is drinking vodka at all hours and recently finished a fifth in under 24 hours, extremely dangerous for someone that is 95 pounds. I am working to understand the concept of detachment, and t...	eddieunger	13	376	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	He tried to attack me- I'm shaken, but ok (Preview) Thank you all for support today! First, I met with my Aunt and had an opportunity to make amends, which I did. I'm sure there is more to the dynamics than what's on the surface, but my Aunt said she felt terribly offended. What was the cause? My isolation. I guess while I was trying to survive, she too...	bud	23	645	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	I'm Healthy (Preview) Spent the day testing at the COPD clinic and saw the doctor about all the tests I took. I'm at healthy as a horse ( BIG horse ) ...just can't breath that well. He said for me to ask my doctor to send me to ??? a breathing therapist, a lung clinic?? I don't know but a place where they exercise your lungs and...	Cathyinaz	13	1647	Feb 24, 2014 by Tasha
	working at it....in neutral (Preview) I keep getting so stuck in the grief junk. I realized I have never had time from one death to another to heal. NO wonder I am mostly not happy. I kept looking back, not at today. So I changed the thought in my head, when I start to get shakey, feel off balance, my head says,"This is your life." So I l...	Debilyn	7	484	Feb 24, 2014 by el-cee
	Sick is easy (Preview) I heard that in a meeting last night. Sick is easy Yep, it sure it!	ilovedogs	35	828	Feb 24, 2014 by grateful2be
	Much less than the afterthought :-( (Preview) My Aunt said that my parents have been relocated to an end stage facility. They're now in separate rooms. My Aunt and Uncle are emptying their assisted living facility apartment, as my parents will not be returning. My Aunt said that my sister is there today with a truck taking things and asked me wh...	bud	25	615	Feb 24, 2014 by bud
	At a complete loss (Preview) I'm at a complete, total loss. Had given up hope AH would show a glimmer of changing, was preparing to move at end of school year (had baby in fall and under teacher contract is why the wait). We've been married 13years, the last 6 he's been drinking heavily. Things came to yet another head late November a...	Kerrymom	7	443	Feb 24, 2014 by Breakingfree
	The FIVE C's (Preview) I was talking to my sponsor last night about a few issues I'm having: namely the fact that my AH signed up for a dating website and how I snooped to find out about it. We talked about ME and MY behavior obviously and my responsibilities to myself, etc. She said that many years ago her sponsor had all sponse...	ilovedogs	6	2746	Feb 23, 2014 by Lyne
	Living with alcoholic spouse vs leaving (Preview) I am new to the Al-Anon community. My wife is an alcoholic. For the past several years her drinking, while consistent and excessive, has been open and not life altering. I am not a fan of the "High Functioning Alcoholic" label, but for lack of a better description, that was my wife. She o...	kwas911	12	4440	Feb 23, 2014 by MeTwo2
	Open Heart Surgery (Preview) Hello Friends, Sorry I haven't been around in meetings lately however, I had to have a double bypass last Monday. Things are going as well as can be expected. It was one of the darkest and scariest moments of my life. So my message to you all is do not let the stress get to you. Stress is a killer. Take it...	Andrea12	7	326	Feb 23, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Okay that was one CRAZY week (Preview) Hiya guys and gals, I am coming off a crazy week of chaos (courtesy my AH). 1. Suicide attempt w/ booze and pills----went to ER 2. released from ER zonked out on meds (sent home in cab and then he drove----crashed his car) 3.DWI 4.released from DWI hold, threatened suicide---went to crisis center 5....	jillybean1	7	374	Feb 23, 2014 by Breakingfree
	The hangover... (Preview) Aloha Family...yes we also get to have "hangovers" and I have one now. I didn't remind myself of the outcome before we (my wife and I) listened to and talked with my grand-daughter. Her dad, my eldest son, has relapsed and pretty well nuked as many family members as he could in the proces...	Jerry F	12	493	Feb 23, 2014 by Breakingfree
	SUNDAY MORNING SPIRITUAL MEETING 10 A.M. (EST) TOPIC IS: WHAT UNEXPECTED BLESSINGS HAVE I RECEIVED IN AL-ANON? (Preview) It was just there I always asked myself what was meant by " A Spiritual Awakening."I was so curious but nobody in Al-Anon could tell me about it. And then one day it happened in my life; my spiritual awakening was there! I don't know where it came from and I don't know how it came. It was just...	Mimi3	0	201	Feb 23, 2014 by Mimi3
	Awake again...share (Preview) I'm up again. It's after 4 am. It's been like this for a year now. I stopped my anti depressants last January, got off birth control and separated from my parents all within a span of 30 days. Some nights I would lie in bed terrified that someone was trying to kill me. In the spring I had a sleep paralysis epi...	StargazerLily	2	388	Feb 23, 2014 by Jerry F
	I feel like such a An..... (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Tonight, an al-anon friend invited me over as we were going to go to a movie, to celebrate my birthday, which was yesterday. I got on the road and they were so slippery that my tires were spinning. It would have been an hour before I go...	slogan_jim	16	1555	Feb 22, 2014 by wp
	Called police on husband last night now feeling conflicted. vent? (Preview) Its been a few weeks since I've been on here, I've finally been able to get to f2f meetings but havnt been in a while since we just got back from vacation. Anyways, Last night my Husband and I got into a disagreement about finances, it did not escalate into an argument but it sure did leave him in a bad mood....	AmyK	16	673	Feb 22, 2014 by AmyK
	Why do I bother to believe him! (Preview) Im tired of believing and trusting what my AH tells "Ill be back"! I know that he is not, and he knows that I hate when he lies, and he tells me every times "trust me"! I'm so tired of those words! Thursday I came home from work he was not home, and Friday morning on my way to work, I tex...	NavySealWife	10	741	Feb 22, 2014 by OT71
	What we could learn from our dogs (Preview) While this is not from CAL, I think it aligns well with the spirit of Al Anon and MIP and taking care of ourselves. If a dog was the teacher you would learn things like: When loved ones come home, always run to greet them; Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride; Allow the experience of fresh air an...	KennyFenderjazz	8	261	Feb 22, 2014 by BassetHoundMommy
	Strange (Preview) So last night I went out with friends from work. Had a great time, laughed so hard my stomach hurt a few times. I did have a few drinks. I didn't think once about what my AH was doing. He knew I wa going, I planned other arrangements for my kids since I can't depend on him. Came home, great mood, he of course had...	Hope2000	6	380	Feb 22, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Hi I'm new here and pretty confused (Preview) To begin, I am dating someone who clearly has an addiction to alcohol. When we met two years ago I knew that he was a widower and he mentioned that when his wife passed away he took 6 months off from life and temporarily lost custody of his daughter. He said it wasn't like he was an alcoholic, he just self me...	Snowflake74	8	511	Feb 21, 2014 by Snowflake74
	Ohh. That's what i wasn't seeing. (Preview) Finally understood what I have been trying to do for so long, and why it didn't work. And why I have been so freaking tired and sad for so long. See, I had accepted my powerlessness over someone else's drinking, gambling, whatever. I really had. Drink, gamble, whatever buddy. Do what you like. But I rea...	Melly1248	19	852	Feb 21, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Here's my ostrich (Preview) Note that she now has her head OUT OF THE SAND and is standing near the water, LOL!	ilovedogs	19	463	Feb 21, 2014 by grateful2be
	update.. (Preview) just checking in I'm walking steady. After beating myself up and reaching a very personal LOW last week, i stood up, worked hard on forgiving myself. Then I took the advice given here, and taking care of myself. Eating well, enjoying the process of cooking and tasting . Sleeping well, enjoying the...	tortuga	4	325	Feb 21, 2014 by Jerry F
	Relax, but annoyed! (Preview) I dont get how some wives of AH, can say " I just deal with my AH"! It just pisses me off, when I hear that! The wife of the guy my husband spend days at time at there home, lets her AH drink every single day and spend the money he makes on booze, that they dont have cable, or internet and no car. How is t...	NavySealWife	6	435	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Spinning in circles... (Preview) I am new to this forum and i am trying to find online Alanon meetings that fit my time...i live in Italy, work at a military base as a teacher... My AH just returned from his second trip to rehab In the last year...he went in this second time almost a year to the day of his admission last year...this time arou...	Lost72	3	389	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Social Settings (Preview) Here's another question...I am at an interesting spot in my AH's addiction process and all these things are coming up I have not dealt with before due to the progression of his disease. How do you tell him, without causing a fight, that you hesitate to be social with old friends bc he will get drunk and em...	mccr	4	434	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	preparing for a death of a loved one (Preview) Sorry I haven't been around much of this past few days...Called my bio mom's sister who favored me since I was born...She rescued me many times from her "sister" and her abuse, locking me in crates, My mama Aunt Helen would "free" me, change my filthy diapers, feed me, hold me an...	neshema2	12	534	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Dry drunk (Preview) I found this video on a dry drunk because I did not no if my A sober husband was this so I figure I post it for others to see http://youtu.be/hhZ2HFFuASY	Wisdom67	2	293	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
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