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SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

Just wanted to check in. Things have been shockingly quiet here. AH seems to have really taken to heart everything I've said, and has been very, very mindful about his actions. He helps with things without me asking, is trying to cook more for us and eat healthier, more exercise, etc. I truly hope i...

el-cee · el-cee

I hate the drama this disease causes. The noise and chaos, Its very difficult to find and keep serenity when it continues on and on. The manipulation used to keep it alive is draining. I think Im beginning to realise that Im no match, I cant keep one step ahead anymore and maybe I never ever was. Actually I...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

You know that addicts and alcoholics let you down, so I learned to take care of myself and not rely on them. I got on the system in order to work only part time so I can go back to school full time in order to get a career and be totally self supporting in my future. Now I am slowing school down to part time th...

Dee F · Dee F

Hello. I was recently asked to sponsor someone. This would be my first experience as a sponsor. I am thrilled and at the same time, a bit nervous. I have read the 2014-2017 Service Manual, Courage to Change and Hope For Today regarding sponsorship. Also, I have the "What Sponsorship Is and W...

jodiee34 · jodiee34

My wife is my A. We married last July after it became legal for us. I was just wondering if there were any others on here other than me. :) Would be happy to chat to just share experiences.

barbaralewis · barbaralewis

good news! my daughter starts her job today.....first "real" job in the field she used to be in (as in, not working in our family biz) since she changed her life after she unsuccessfully tried to take it 6 months ago. there is a lot to be thankful for....i'm going to quit worrying about what i...

el-cee · el-cee

Dear Alcoholism You are a thief, a taker of good and a giver of bad. You are a monster and are in nightmares. You are toxic and pollute families with fumes that poison the minds of everyone you touch. You steal peace of mind and in its place put fear. You take hold with an iron grip and don't let go. You are bl...

Inrecovery · Inrecovery

I'm new to typing. I was in the chatroom this morn at 9:00 and then all of a sudden it comes up that the MIP site is currently unavailable an I can't get in anymore. Do I have to do something that I'm unaware of or what???

hopes314 · hopes314

I started reading AA life stories. Why? I wanted to understand and I sort of have a better picture. I see how they think --unbelievable. They do not want to be alcoholics and I wish there were not either. My heart breaks to see their struggle yo overcome the urge to drink. It is insane to do something th...

CKCS · CKCS

Hi I've attended 2 Al-Anon meetings and I finally feel I've made the right decission. My situation isn't easy. My ex-partner and I split up 2 weeks ago, he's an alcoholic. He admitted cheating and I asked him to leave our home. It's very tough and I'm very confused. I miss him, I love him, he was the love o...

Inrecovery · Inrecovery

I'm never posted here before, but I've been reading here the last month or so. Have been getting so much from keeping up on this board since I can't do as many f2f mtgs as I'd like. Have been going to Alanon mtgs 4 about 4.5 yrs but during these cold winter mon it's been a challenge to get to mtgs more then one...

kickstart77 · kickstart77

I have 3 children. My oldest is almost 18, and has gone a long time without contact with his father, because his father thought our son deserved a dad. So my husband (now ex) took over. You never think the last time would be the last time. We spoke just a couple months ago. I can still hear his voice. We buri...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So my daughter and I have been having a lot of dialog over the past few years about labels. There is something about this generation that is bleeding over into other generations, however I see it most prevalent in the younger kids. Some of the catalyst was because my son came home from a sleepover and h...

Gaby · Gaby

I'm praying for strength .. I dislike this feeling of waking up feeling depressed over some one else's choices and decisions that I allow it to consume my life. I can only pray for my son.. I know gods with us all. Have a blessed day..

el-cee · el-cee

mm830 · mm830

I have been sifting through so much lately. Hold on, let go, it's hard to put into words but it's different, I feel like I have had a breakthrough in my relationship with HP. I am healing, it's through the absolute grace of HP and I could not be more grateful. It's almost on a cellular level, this is maybe cr...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello Family.... I have been Going thru Some Major Hurdles Here of Late, and tho I'm still Making My Meetings, and Doing My Work, there are still Times of Great SINKING & back sliding! Thank Goodness for HP, HOPE, FAITH, & The Love of this Program... I Do ask if you have a Second this Thurs. that y...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

My son texted me about stolen property. It's OK not to say anything. It's OK....... I don't want to get into anything with him now. Let go let God.....

Gaby · Gaby

Hello all.. I have not been on here for a while.. I have been a bit lost.. I have been attending cross roads and celebrating recovery. I go to church reach out to many people. I am tired of being tired. And I believe my A son just caught his second wind. I know I can not do nothing no more. It's all up to him!! I pr...

BassetHoundMommy · BassetHoundMommy

Without writing a book - Here's where I'm at My husband is an alcoholic. On January 20th, he was drunk and tried to smother me with a pillow. I put him in jail. My husband has NEVER layed a hand on me before (very verbal abusive when drinking though). He has not had a drink since that day. We went to court wher...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

You know sometimes I really miss living in a house out in the country away from the dysfunction of other people!!!!! A place that illegal things are not a normal occurrence that police have to be regular visitors around my neighboring apartments for. Just makes me want to work harder to get my dreams ac...

grateful2be · grateful2be

As I drove - okay call it slid - out of my icy neighborhood yesterday and onto the main thoroughfare edged on each side by huge piles of plowed dirty snow and ice, I saw a blue jay flying from tree to tree. Although the weather predictions for this week call for extreme cold and more snow, the winging blue j...

Turricane · Turricane

I will do my best to condense this "novel". My spouse (wife) of 30+ years has been addicted to alcohol for 15+ years, and prescription pain meds and sedatives for 5+ years. I started attending Al-Anon 15 years ago and did so for several years, but never really "got it". I am an admi...

eddieunger · eddieunger

My mother (~65 years old) is suffering from severe alcoholism and doesn't have any intentions of quitting. She is drinking vodka at all hours and recently finished a fifth in under 24 hours, extremely dangerous for someone that is 95 pounds. I am working to understand the concept of detachment, and t...

bud · bud

Thank you all for support today! First, I met with my Aunt and had an opportunity to make amends, which I did. I'm sure there is more to the dynamics than what's on the surface, but my Aunt said she felt terribly offended. What was the cause? My isolation. I guess while I was trying to survive, she too...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Spent the day testing at the COPD clinic and saw the doctor about all the tests I took. I'm at healthy as a horse ( BIG horse ) ...just can't breath that well. He said for me to ask my doctor to send me to ??? a breathing therapist, a lung clinic?? I don't know but a place where they exercise your lungs and...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I keep getting so stuck in the grief junk. I realized I have never had time from one death to another to heal. NO wonder I am mostly not happy. I kept looking back, not at today. So I changed the thought in my head, when I start to get shakey, feel off balance, my head says,"This is your life." So I l...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I heard that in a meeting last night. Sick is easy Yep, it sure it!

bud · bud

My Aunt said that my parents have been relocated to an end stage facility. They're now in separate rooms. My Aunt and Uncle are emptying their assisted living facility apartment, as my parents will not be returning. My Aunt said that my sister is there today with a truck taking things and asked me wh...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

I'm at a complete, total loss. Had given up hope AH would show a glimmer of changing, was preparing to move at end of school year (had baby in fall and under teacher contract is why the wait). We've been married 13years, the last 6 he's been drinking heavily. Things came to yet another head late November a...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I was talking to my sponsor last night about a few issues I'm having: namely the fact that my AH signed up for a dating website and how I snooped to find out about it. We talked about ME and MY behavior obviously and my responsibilities to myself, etc. She said that many years ago her sponsor had all sponse...

kwas911 · kwas911

I am new to the Al-Anon community. My wife is an alcoholic. For the past several years her drinking, while consistent and excessive, has been open and not life altering. I am not a fan of the "High Functioning Alcoholic" label, but for lack of a better description, that was my wife. She o...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Sorry I haven't been around in meetings lately however, I had to have a double bypass last Monday. Things are going as well as can be expected. It was one of the darkest and scariest moments of my life. So my message to you all is do not let the stress get to you. Stress is a killer. Take it...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

Hiya guys and gals, I am coming off a crazy week of chaos (courtesy my AH). 1. Suicide attempt w/ booze and pills----went to ER 2. released from ER zonked out on meds (sent home in cab and then he drove----crashed his car) 3.DWI 4.released from DWI hold, threatened suicide---went to crisis center 5....

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...yes we also get to have "hangovers" and I have one now. I didn't remind myself of the outcome before we (my wife and I) listened to and talked with my grand-daughter. Her dad, my eldest son, has relapsed and pretty well nuked as many family members as he could in the proces...

Mimi3 · Mimi3

It was just there I always asked myself what was meant by " A Spiritual Awakening."I was so curious but nobody in Al-Anon could tell me about it. And then one day it happened in my life; my spiritual awakening was there! I don't know where it came from and I don't know how it came. It was just...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

I'm up again. It's after 4 am. It's been like this for a year now. I stopped my anti depressants last January, got off birth control and separated from my parents all within a span of 30 days. Some nights I would lie in bed terrified that someone was trying to kill me. In the spring I had a sleep paralysis epi...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Tonight, an al-anon friend invited me over as we were going to go to a movie, to celebrate my birthday, which was yesterday. I got on the road and they were so slippery that my tires were spinning. It would have been an hour before I go...

AmyK · AmyK

Its been a few weeks since I've been on here, I've finally been able to get to f2f meetings but havnt been in a while since we just got back from vacation. Anyways, Last night my Husband and I got into a disagreement about finances, it did not escalate into an argument but it sure did leave him in a bad mood....

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Im tired of believing and trusting what my AH tells "Ill be back"! I know that he is not, and he knows that I hate when he lies, and he tells me every times "trust me"! I'm so tired of those words! Thursday I came home from work he was not home, and Friday morning on my way to work, I tex...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

While this is not from CAL, I think it aligns well with the spirit of Al Anon and MIP and taking care of ourselves. If a dog was the teacher you would learn things like: When loved ones come home, always run to greet them; Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride; Allow the experience of fresh air an...

Hope2000 · Hope2000

So last night I went out with friends from work. Had a great time, laughed so hard my stomach hurt a few times. I did have a few drinks. I didn't think once about what my AH was doing. He knew I wa going, I planned other arrangements for my kids since I can't depend on him. Came home, great mood, he of course had...

Snowflake74 · Snowflake74

To begin, I am dating someone who clearly has an addiction to alcohol. When we met two years ago I knew that he was a widower and he mentioned that when his wife passed away he took 6 months off from life and temporarily lost custody of his daughter. He said it wasn't like he was an alcoholic, he just self me...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Finally understood what I have been trying to do for so long, and why it didn't work. And why I have been so freaking tired and sad for so long. See, I had accepted my powerlessness over someone else's drinking, gambling, whatever. I really had. Drink, gamble, whatever buddy. Do what you like. But I rea...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Note that she now has her head OUT OF THE SAND and is standing near the water, LOL!

tortuga · tortuga

just checking in I'm walking steady. After beating myself up and reaching a very personal LOW last week, i stood up, worked hard on forgiving myself. Then I took the advice given here, and taking care of myself. Eating well, enjoying the process of cooking and tasting

. Sleeping well, enjoying the...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

I dont get how some wives of AH, can say " I just deal with my AH"! It just pisses me off, when I hear that! The wife of the guy my husband spend days at time at there home, lets her AH drink every single day and spend the money he makes on booze, that they dont have cable, or internet and no car. How is t...

Lost72 · Lost72

I am new to this forum and i am trying to find online Alanon meetings that fit my time...i live in Italy, work at a military base as a teacher... My AH just returned from his second trip to rehab In the last year...he went in this second time almost a year to the day of his admission last year...this time arou...

mccr · mccr

Here's another question...I am at an interesting spot in my AH's addiction process and all these things are coming up I have not dealt with before due to the progression of his disease. How do you tell him, without causing a fight, that you hesitate to be social with old friends bc he will get drunk and em...

neshema2 · neshema2

Sorry I haven't been around much of this past few days...Called my bio mom's sister who favored me since I was born...She rescued me many times from her "sister" and her abuse, locking me in crates, My mama Aunt Helen would "free" me, change my filthy diapers, feed me, hold me an...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

I found this video on a dry drunk because I did not no if my A sober husband was this so I figure I post it for others to see http://youtu.be/hhZ2HFFuASY

barbaralewis · barbaralewis

we ( me, husband, adult A Dtr who is 6 months sober) would like to help our adult A son get into a state run rehab program. he is in denial, total denial, as his life is spiraling down the drain. no one in the family is enabling him financially. He lives in another state, and will soon be without a phone, has n...

OT71 · OT71

Is there any way to flag a topic I want to return to when I sign on again as on other sites?

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Last night, I was at work and knew that I had some things to do before I went to my therapy with my therapist at 7pm. I was talking to my one of my four doctors I work for, and have grown to be very close to him and see hime as a father figure. I have told him the struggles Im having to deal and cope with my husband al...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hello today is like any other day just when I saw how happy and good my husband 1 year sober how the house had peace then 2 months ago the house became sick again , I think I had something to do with it . I have been staying away from my husband he has been not supporting me during my time of needs with other issue...

mccr · mccr

Hello, New to this forum. I have a sex question. My alcoholic husband has been pestering me and been verbally abusive about not 'performing wifely duties' regularly for a few months. Problem is, I can't bring myself to do this when he is drunk. I just disgusts me. I have told him (when sober) that this i...

lenii263 · lenii263

My youngest daughter(47) is an alcoholic. She has hidden it over the years well, but in the last few years, it is evident. I finally confronted her last summer. She still calls me and pretends. I just can't do it anymore. I am getting too old(74), and have other rather stressful things going on with othe...

hopes314 · hopes314

I was sleeping and then a nightmare woke me up. I wish my mindwasn't so active. This is when I say the senerity prayer to calm me down to sleep. I was thinking to start a gratitude thread to put healthy ideas in my head before I try to go back to bed. So thankful FOR Alnon friends and program For my wee kids wh...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of Al-Anon. I am feeling very blessed today. The other day, I was feeling very low on myself because of my inflated ego and arrogant sense of self-worth. I was upset that I could have been doing more....making more....why me? blah blah. Then,...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Yesterday, I was at my home group meeting and I left feeling very special. After the meeting concluded, one of the members had made cupcakes for my upcoming birthday. We all sat down and enjoyed them and it was truly a great feeling...

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	All quiet (Preview) Just wanted to check in. Things have been shockingly quiet here. AH seems to have really taken to heart everything I've said, and has been very, very mindful about his actions. He helps with things without me asking, is trying to cook more for us and eat healthier, more exercise, etc. I truly hope i...	SpiderArcana	6	267	Feb 27, 2014 by mccr
	Cant stick the drama. (Preview) I hate the drama this disease causes. The noise and chaos, Its very difficult to find and keep serenity when it continues on and on. The manipulation used to keep it alive is draining. I think Im beginning to realise that Im no match, I cant keep one step ahead anymore and maybe I never ever was. Actually I...	el-cee	6	457	Feb 27, 2014 by Nightingale
	Not good at relying on other people..... (Preview) You know that addicts and alcoholics let you down, so I learned to take care of myself and not rely on them. I got on the system in order to work only part time so I can go back to school full time in order to get a career and be totally self supporting in my future. Now I am slowing school down to part time th...	Breakingfree	11	464	Feb 27, 2014 by bud
	First Time Sponsorship? (Preview) Hello. I was recently asked to sponsor someone. This would be my first experience as a sponsor. I am thrilled and at the same time, a bit nervous. I have read the 2014-2017 Service Manual, Courage to Change and Hope For Today regarding sponsorship. Also, I have the "What Sponsorship Is and W...	Dee F	4	477	Feb 26, 2014 by Dee F
	Gay or Lesbian's out there? (closed) (Preview) My wife is my A. We married last July after it became legal for us. I was just wondering if there were any others on here other than me. :) Would be happy to chat to just share experiences.	jodiee34	8	1874	Feb 26, 2014 by John
	good news! (Preview) good news! my daughter starts her job today.....first "real" job in the field she used to be in (as in, not working in our family biz) since she changed her life after she unsuccessfully tried to take it 6 months ago. there is a lot to be thankful for....i'm going to quit worrying about what i...	barbaralewis	7	342	Feb 26, 2014 by Jerry F
	Dear A (Preview) Dear Alcoholism You are a thief, a taker of good and a giver of bad. You are a monster and are in nightmares. You are toxic and pollute families with fumes that poison the minds of everyone you touch. You steal peace of mind and in its place put fear. You take hold with an iron grip and don't let go. You are bl...	el-cee	4	304	Feb 26, 2014 by Jerry F
	Help with online mtgs (Preview) I'm new to typing. I was in the chatroom this morn at 9:00 and then all of a sudden it comes up that the MIP site is currently unavailable an I can't get in anymore. Do I have to do something that I'm unaware of or what???	Inrecovery	3	243	Feb 26, 2014 by mercedes1959
	Light of compassion (Preview) I started reading AA life stories. Why? I wanted to understand and I sort of have a better picture. I see how they think --unbelievable. They do not want to be alcoholics and I wish there were not either. My heart breaks to see their struggle yo overcome the urge to drink. It is insane to do something th...	hopes314	5	296	Feb 26, 2014 by OT71
	I'm new (Preview) Hi I've attended 2 Al-Anon meetings and I finally feel I've made the right decission. My situation isn't easy. My ex-partner and I split up 2 weeks ago, he's an alcoholic. He admitted cheating and I asked him to leave our home. It's very tough and I'm very confused. I miss him, I love him, he was the love o...	CKCS	11	319	Feb 26, 2014 by CKCS
	New to MIP (Preview) I'm never posted here before, but I've been reading here the last month or so. Have been getting so much from keeping up on this board since I can't do as many f2f mtgs as I'd like. Have been going to Alanon mtgs 4 about 4.5 yrs but during these cold winter mon it's been a challenge to get to mtgs more then one...	Inrecovery	6	284	Feb 26, 2014 by Debilyn
	My son's father, and my children's dad (not the same person) (Preview) I have 3 children. My oldest is almost 18, and has gone a long time without contact with his father, because his father thought our son deserved a dad. So my husband (now ex) took over. You never think the last time would be the last time. We spoke just a couple months ago. I can still hear his voice. We buri...	kickstart77	2	223	Feb 26, 2014 by Tracy
	Labels and the damage they can do .. (Preview) So my daughter and I have been having a lot of dialog over the past few years about labels. There is something about this generation that is bleeding over into other generations, however I see it most prevalent in the younger kids. Some of the catalyst was because my son came home from a sleepover and h...	SerenityRUS	12	622	Feb 26, 2014 by Mari1978
	Praying !! (Preview) I'm praying for strength .. I dislike this feeling of waking up feeling depressed over some one else's choices and decisions that I allow it to consume my life. I can only pray for my son.. I know gods with us all. Have a blessed day..	Gaby	9	296	Feb 26, 2014 by ilovedogs
	Its coming soon! (Preview)	el-cee	13	717	Feb 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	Healing (Preview) I have been sifting through so much lately. Hold on, let go, it's hard to put into words but it's different, I feel like I have had a breakthrough in my relationship with HP. I am healing, it's through the absolute grace of HP and I could not be more grateful. It's almost on a cellular level, this is maybe cr...	mm830	3	278	Feb 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	Becareful what you ask HP For :) (Preview) Hello Family.... I have been Going thru Some Major Hurdles Here of Late, and tho I'm still Making My Meetings, and Doing My Work, there are still Times of Great SINKING & back sliding! Thank Goodness for HP, HOPE, FAITH, & The Love of this Program... I Do ask if you have a Second this Thurs. that y...	Jozie	2	298	Feb 25, 2014 by hotrod
	Texting (Preview) My son texted me about stolen property. It's OK not to say anything. It's OK....... I don't want to get into anything with him now. Let go let God.....	Cathyinaz	13	433	Feb 25, 2014 by Debilyn
	I have to work on me !! (Preview) Hello all.. I have not been on here for a while.. I have been a bit lost.. I have been attending cross roads and celebrating recovery. I go to church reach out to many people. I am tired of being tired. And I believe my A son just caught his second wind. I know I can not do nothing no more. It's all up to him!! I pr...	Gaby	6	509	Feb 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	New and confused (Preview) Without writing a book - Here's where I'm at My husband is an alcoholic. On January 20th, he was drunk and tried to smother me with a pillow. I put him in jail. My husband has NEVER layed a hand on me before (very verbal abusive when drinking though). He has not had a drink since that day. We went to court wher...	BassetHoundMommy	9	459	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Under age drinking next door, fighting bf and gf all hours and apartment living oh my...... (Preview) You know sometimes I really miss living in a house out in the country away from the dysfunction of other people!!!!! A place that illegal things are not a normal occurrence that police have to be regular visitors around my neighboring apartments for. Just makes me want to work harder to get my dreams ac...	Breakingfree	7	500	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Spring (Preview) As I drove - okay call it slid - out of my icy neighborhood yesterday and onto the main thoroughfare edged on each side by huge piles of plowed dirty snow and ice, I saw a blue jay flying from tree to tree. Although the weather predictions for this week call for extreme cold and more snow, the winging blue j...	grateful2be	16	323	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Very conflicted... (Preview) I will do my best to condense this "novel". My spouse (wife) of 30+ years has been addicted to alcohol for 15+ years, and prescription pain meds and sedatives for 5+ years. I started attending Al-Anon 15 years ago and did so for several years, but never really "got it". I am an admi...	Turricane	11	641	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	Seeking suggestions (Preview) My mother (~65 years old) is suffering from severe alcoholism and doesn't have any intentions of quitting. She is drinking vodka at all hours and recently finished a fifth in under 24 hours, extremely dangerous for someone that is 95 pounds. I am working to understand the concept of detachment, and t...	eddieunger	13	359	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	He tried to attack me- I'm shaken, but ok (Preview) Thank you all for support today! First, I met with my Aunt and had an opportunity to make amends, which I did. I'm sure there is more to the dynamics than what's on the surface, but my Aunt said she felt terribly offended. What was the cause? My isolation. I guess while I was trying to survive, she too...	bud	23	626	Feb 25, 2014 by bud
	I'm Healthy (Preview) Spent the day testing at the COPD clinic and saw the doctor about all the tests I took. I'm at healthy as a horse ( BIG horse ) ...just can't breath that well. He said for me to ask my doctor to send me to ??? a breathing therapist, a lung clinic?? I don't know but a place where they exercise your lungs and...	Cathyinaz	13	1519	Feb 24, 2014 by Tasha
	working at it....in neutral (Preview) I keep getting so stuck in the grief junk. I realized I have never had time from one death to another to heal. NO wonder I am mostly not happy. I kept looking back, not at today. So I changed the thought in my head, when I start to get shakey, feel off balance, my head says,"This is your life." So I l...	Debilyn	7	457	Feb 24, 2014 by el-cee
	Sick is easy (Preview) I heard that in a meeting last night. Sick is easy Yep, it sure it!	ilovedogs	35	808	Feb 24, 2014 by grateful2be
	Much less than the afterthought :-( (Preview) My Aunt said that my parents have been relocated to an end stage facility. They're now in separate rooms. My Aunt and Uncle are emptying their assisted living facility apartment, as my parents will not be returning. My Aunt said that my sister is there today with a truck taking things and asked me wh...	bud	25	595	Feb 24, 2014 by bud
	At a complete loss (Preview) I'm at a complete, total loss. Had given up hope AH would show a glimmer of changing, was preparing to move at end of school year (had baby in fall and under teacher contract is why the wait). We've been married 13years, the last 6 he's been drinking heavily. Things came to yet another head late November a...	Kerrymom	7	423	Feb 24, 2014 by Breakingfree
	The FIVE C's (Preview) I was talking to my sponsor last night about a few issues I'm having: namely the fact that my AH signed up for a dating website and how I snooped to find out about it. We talked about ME and MY behavior obviously and my responsibilities to myself, etc. She said that many years ago her sponsor had all sponse...	ilovedogs	6	2706	Feb 23, 2014 by Lyne
	Living with alcoholic spouse vs leaving (Preview) I am new to the Al-Anon community. My wife is an alcoholic. For the past several years her drinking, while consistent and excessive, has been open and not life altering. I am not a fan of the "High Functioning Alcoholic" label, but for lack of a better description, that was my wife. She o...	kwas911	12	4140	Feb 23, 2014 by MeTwo2
	Open Heart Surgery (Preview) Hello Friends, Sorry I haven't been around in meetings lately however, I had to have a double bypass last Monday. Things are going as well as can be expected. It was one of the darkest and scariest moments of my life. So my message to you all is do not let the stress get to you. Stress is a killer. Take it...	Andrea12	7	303	Feb 23, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Okay that was one CRAZY week (Preview) Hiya guys and gals, I am coming off a crazy week of chaos (courtesy my AH). 1. Suicide attempt w/ booze and pills----went to ER 2. released from ER zonked out on meds (sent home in cab and then he drove----crashed his car) 3.DWI 4.released from DWI hold, threatened suicide---went to crisis center 5....	jillybean1	7	355	Feb 23, 2014 by Breakingfree
	The hangover... (Preview) Aloha Family...yes we also get to have "hangovers" and I have one now. I didn't remind myself of the outcome before we (my wife and I) listened to and talked with my grand-daughter. Her dad, my eldest son, has relapsed and pretty well nuked as many family members as he could in the proces...	Jerry F	12	476	Feb 23, 2014 by Breakingfree
	SUNDAY MORNING SPIRITUAL MEETING 10 A.M. (EST) TOPIC IS: WHAT UNEXPECTED BLESSINGS HAVE I RECEIVED IN AL-ANON? (Preview) It was just there I always asked myself what was meant by " A Spiritual Awakening."I was so curious but nobody in Al-Anon could tell me about it. And then one day it happened in my life; my spiritual awakening was there! I don't know where it came from and I don't know how it came. It was just...	Mimi3	0	183	Feb 23, 2014 by Mimi3
	Awake again...share (Preview) I'm up again. It's after 4 am. It's been like this for a year now. I stopped my anti depressants last January, got off birth control and separated from my parents all within a span of 30 days. Some nights I would lie in bed terrified that someone was trying to kill me. In the spring I had a sleep paralysis epi...	StargazerLily	2	371	Feb 23, 2014 by Jerry F
	I feel like such a An..... (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Tonight, an al-anon friend invited me over as we were going to go to a movie, to celebrate my birthday, which was yesterday. I got on the road and they were so slippery that my tires were spinning. It would have been an hour before I go...	slogan_jim	16	1520	Feb 22, 2014 by wp
	Called police on husband last night now feeling conflicted. vent? (Preview) Its been a few weeks since I've been on here, I've finally been able to get to f2f meetings but havnt been in a while since we just got back from vacation. Anyways, Last night my Husband and I got into a disagreement about finances, it did not escalate into an argument but it sure did leave him in a bad mood....	AmyK	16	656	Feb 22, 2014 by AmyK
	Why do I bother to believe him! (Preview) Im tired of believing and trusting what my AH tells "Ill be back"! I know that he is not, and he knows that I hate when he lies, and he tells me every times "trust me"! I'm so tired of those words! Thursday I came home from work he was not home, and Friday morning on my way to work, I tex...	NavySealWife	10	719	Feb 22, 2014 by OT71
	What we could learn from our dogs (Preview) While this is not from CAL, I think it aligns well with the spirit of Al Anon and MIP and taking care of ourselves. If a dog was the teacher you would learn things like: When loved ones come home, always run to greet them; Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride; Allow the experience of fresh air an...	KennyFenderjazz	8	243	Feb 22, 2014 by BassetHoundMommy
	Strange (Preview) So last night I went out with friends from work. Had a great time, laughed so hard my stomach hurt a few times. I did have a few drinks. I didn't think once about what my AH was doing. He knew I wa going, I planned other arrangements for my kids since I can't depend on him. Came home, great mood, he of course had...	Hope2000	6	359	Feb 22, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Hi I'm new here and pretty confused (Preview) To begin, I am dating someone who clearly has an addiction to alcohol. When we met two years ago I knew that he was a widower and he mentioned that when his wife passed away he took 6 months off from life and temporarily lost custody of his daughter. He said it wasn't like he was an alcoholic, he just self me...	Snowflake74	8	493	Feb 21, 2014 by Snowflake74
	Ohh. That's what i wasn't seeing. (Preview) Finally understood what I have been trying to do for so long, and why it didn't work. And why I have been so freaking tired and sad for so long. See, I had accepted my powerlessness over someone else's drinking, gambling, whatever. I really had. Drink, gamble, whatever buddy. Do what you like. But I rea...	Melly1248	19	827	Feb 21, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Here's my ostrich (Preview) Note that she now has her head OUT OF THE SAND and is standing near the water, LOL!	ilovedogs	19	448	Feb 21, 2014 by grateful2be
	update.. (Preview) just checking in I'm walking steady. After beating myself up and reaching a very personal LOW last week, i stood up, worked hard on forgiving myself. Then I took the advice given here, and taking care of myself. Eating well, enjoying the process of cooking and tasting . Sleeping well, enjoying the...	tortuga	4	307	Feb 21, 2014 by Jerry F
	Relax, but annoyed! (Preview) I dont get how some wives of AH, can say " I just deal with my AH"! It just pisses me off, when I hear that! The wife of the guy my husband spend days at time at there home, lets her AH drink every single day and spend the money he makes on booze, that they dont have cable, or internet and no car. How is t...	NavySealWife	6	415	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Spinning in circles... (Preview) I am new to this forum and i am trying to find online Alanon meetings that fit my time...i live in Italy, work at a military base as a teacher... My AH just returned from his second trip to rehab In the last year...he went in this second time almost a year to the day of his admission last year...this time arou...	Lost72	3	377	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Social Settings (Preview) Here's another question...I am at an interesting spot in my AH's addiction process and all these things are coming up I have not dealt with before due to the progression of his disease. How do you tell him, without causing a fight, that you hesitate to be social with old friends bc he will get drunk and em...	mccr	4	414	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	preparing for a death of a loved one (Preview) Sorry I haven't been around much of this past few days...Called my bio mom's sister who favored me since I was born...She rescued me many times from her "sister" and her abuse, locking me in crates, My mama Aunt Helen would "free" me, change my filthy diapers, feed me, hold me an...	neshema2	12	516	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Dry drunk (Preview) I found this video on a dry drunk because I did not no if my A sober husband was this so I figure I post it for others to see http://youtu.be/hhZ2HFFuASY	Wisdom67	2	277	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Please give input on intervention (Preview) we ( me, husband, adult A Dtr who is 6 months sober) would like to help our adult A son get into a state run rehab program. he is in denial, total denial, as his life is spiraling down the drain. no one in the family is enabling him financially. He lives in another state, and will soon be without a phone, has n...	barbaralewis	12	551	Feb 21, 2014 by Debilyn
	Question About Return To Site (Preview) Is there any way to flag a topic I want to return to when I sign on again as on other sites?	OT71	1	219	Feb 21, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Its it normal that I dont care if he comes home or not? (Preview) Last night, I was at work and knew that I had some things to do before I went to my therapy with my therapist at 7pm. I was talking to my one of my four doctors I work for, and have grown to be very close to him and see hime as a father figure. I have told him the struggles Im having to deal and cope with my husband al...	NavySealWife	8	617	Feb 21, 2014 by OT71
	Sad sad diease (Preview) Hello today is like any other day just when I saw how happy and good my husband 1 year sober how the house had peace then 2 months ago the house became sick again , I think I had something to do with it . I have been staying away from my husband he has been not supporting me during my time of needs with other issue...	Wisdom67	6	520	Feb 21, 2014 by PP
	INTIMACY QUESTION (Preview) Hello, New to this forum. I have a sex question. My alcoholic husband has been pestering me and been verbally abusive about not 'performing wifely duties' regularly for a few months. Problem is, I can't bring myself to do this when he is drunk. I just disgusts me. I have told him (when sober) that this i...	mccr	14	559	Feb 21, 2014 by mccr
	Can't do it anymore (Preview) My youngest daughter(47) is an alcoholic. She has hidden it over the years well, but in the last few years, it is evident. I finally confronted her last summer. She still calls me and pretends. I just can't do it anymore. I am getting too old(74), and have other rather stressful things going on with othe...	lenii263	9	419	Feb 21, 2014 by Grace7
	why oh why i cant sleep (Preview) I was sleeping and then a nightmare woke me up. I wish my mindwasn't so active. This is when I say the senerity prayer to calm me down to sleep. I was thinking to start a gratitude thread to put healthy ideas in my head before I try to go back to bed. So thankful FOR Alnon friends and program For my wee kids wh...	hopes314	5	331	Feb 20, 2014 by Beatrice
	First World Problems....feeling blessed today (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of Al-Anon. I am feeling very blessed today. The other day, I was feeling very low on myself because of my inflated ego and arrogant sense of self-worth. I was upset that I could have been doing more....making more....why me? blah blah. Then,...	slogan_jim	2	187	Feb 20, 2014 by Jerry F
	Great meeting yesterday but still feeling low. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Yesterday, I was at my home group meeting and I left feeling very special. After the meeting concluded, one of the members had made cupcakes for my upcoming birthday. We all sat down and enjoyed them and it was truly a great feeling...	slogan_jim	5	337	Feb 20, 2014 by Breakingfree
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