The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
A man found an eagles nest w/an abandoned egg...he took that egg and put it in the chicken coop where the chickens were free roaming, but had their "nesting place" he put the egg in one of the nests and sure enough a loving fat hen began to lay on that egg along w/her own and they all hatched....eagle chick and the baby chicks....
the eagle played w/his "brothers and sisters" and all his life, he did what the chickens did...he scratched and pecked for worms, he cackled and clucked and he would flap his wings and fly a few feet and "plop" down back on the ground...isn't this what the other chickens did????
Years go by and eagle is getting old...one day he looks up and sees this magnificent bird, far above him, flying effortlessly in the air, soaring, and gliding with ease through the air.....
the old eagle looking at him asked his neighbor "who is THAT???"
neighbor told him "oh thats an eagle...don't give it another thought...we are different then him"
So the eagle never gave it another thought....He died , thinking he was a backyard chicken
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all my life I was told I had no wings...I had no majesty....i had no beauty...I had no intelligence, no worth, i was even lower then the chicken...in my FOO, at least OUR chickens were fed, petted, valued as egg providers, and had some worth....I did not...My "wings" were clipped down to the bone, I never could fly...not a bit......
I don't want to grow old, thinking I am a born reject, failure, jerk, stupid broad, liability, good for only one thing (his outlet), a beast of burden, really, in that when i was not his mistress, I was HER babysitter and keeper of the home......but told all the while i had no value...so I didn't give ME another thought....
Now I do...Now I want to fly...Now I know that they (FOO) were WRONG.....I am not doing this recovery to "show" anyone....I am doing it so I can be the eagle I was born to be....I am doing this for me............
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
I know this is not alanon, however I shared this b/c we are often taught as children the falsities of "what we are---who we are---what our worth is" and so we gravitate to that belief in bad relationships, jobs, situations, etc, for the rest of our lives...pecking and scratching when we really were built to fly....
I shared this to shed some light via a story on perhaps all of our stories...
embrace what you want....toss the rest...
-- Edited by neshema2 on Saturday 15th of February 2014 11:07:12 AM
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Thanks Neshema, that creates a powerful image for me.
I used to say about AH 'I want to be there when he gets better; I want to be there when he soars'. Then I learnt to say it for myself instead
