Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

kabbie · kabbie

Since my daughter has been in rehab, I've been trying hard to be a good listener. Sometimes I say things that don't make sense to her, and she calls me on it..thought I'd share - I took alot away from it. When my mom and I were visiting with her on Sat, we each told her that "you don't have to drink to h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

In one of my buddist medatatives, the teacher challenges his students, "If one says incorrect things about our practices, the correct path is to take each idea and unravel it. Say 'This, this, is incorrect based on this reality.' Say, 'This, this is correct based on this reality.' Take each st...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am very proud. I told him that he was not going to stay here this weekend because I didn't feel comfortable about the lying in regard to stealing my son's codiene cough syrup and putting in lemon water instead. Then he showed up smelling like alcohol.... It was hard it's in the 30's tonight and the o...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))), I posted a couple of months ago about the serenity I felt in the woods with hubby. I hadn't felt that way in so long. I'm feeling that same way today. I am on vacation this week and even got an extra hour of it thanks to the time change. Hubby woke me up early this...

kabbie · kabbie

My daughter is 22 and in inpatient rehab - been there almost 30 days now. I visit it her on the weekends. I'm starting to resent having to take her out during my visits for personal supplies etc. She has no money, and is relying right now on my husband and I for financial support. I'm in Alanon, and I know I ha...

albertarose · albertarose

Hello, I'm new to this forum as well as Alanon. I have attended 4 meetings in my home home town and I find it very interesting. After the first meeting that I went to I realized I should have been going for years but I was too shy and scared. I am married to an Alcoholic and I have found my life turned upside dow...

hersh · hersh

(((Rtexas))) Just wondering how you are coping. Always sending prayers your way, and hope you had a good weekend... keep us posted on your life.... HeidiXXXX

Phil · Phil

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I was up last night thinking alot about things in my life. I faced a fear this weekend one that made me feel fear, anxiety, hurt, unworthiness. I knew it was time to face what I was feeling inside but had to get to the point of wanting to do it for me. I am glad I did. I am more at peace with myself today. I am relax...

jeeves · jeeves

Good morning everyone, I have considered a trial separation from the a wife. All she wants is a place to drink and smoke without any intrusion. Her efforts at getting a job are less than sincere and she refuses to go back to detox, rehab. She is certainly in the final stages of al...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family)))))))))), Good morning! I just received my daily reading from the Hazelden Foundation (www.hazelden.org) this morning and it's a perfect way to start off my vacation. Wanted to share it with you. "Miracles are instantaneuos. They cannot be summoned, b...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, It is my birthday today. I am 57. I made decision to have a good birth day. I am realizing that I have a choice to suffer or not. And I have made alot of progress in my recovery program but I am not quite there. So, I decided that I would take the Alanon slogan of fake it until you make it or act as i...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

Hi everyone! I thank God everyday for sending my guardian angel as a comforting angel as well. See he (my angel) was there for me when I had to deal with my mothers drinking. When I had to deal with being estranged cause she wants to spend her life drinking. He helped me to realize th...

ella · ella

i have a home-group but never signed in for the online group. its very early, and i have non one to call. i am realizing that i am married (for 20 years) to someone who cannot be there for me emotionaly. i just gave up hope that it will get better. he is coming up on his one year clean, and he has a sponser, but...

peewee · peewee

I liked that gratitude alphabet, as usual :) a animals and attitudes b bats and beatitudes c cats and courage d dogs and delights e elephants and esh f frogs and fresh air g gorillas and gumption h hamsters and hello's i ...

ragingchild · ragingchild

Well, hubby and I had a nice vacation paid for by my dad (an anniversary/birthday gift) except for food and whatever we wanted to do down there. We went to Myrtle Beach and had lots of fun. We had our 8th anniversary together (married), been together for 11 yrs, and I am now 26 yrs old!...

maresie2 · maresie2

I come home today from one job to go to another job. I will only have a few hours to rest. I will be working all night long at a very very stressful job. I am tired, I am cranky I am worn out. I do not need to have another plateful of stress. The A has crashed so many cars. He has two ca...

Mindy · Mindy

Today in the chatroom we were talking about the progression of the disease and where our A's are on it. So i thought I would post it here to shar with everyone

http://www.gannett.com/go/difference/greatfalls/pages/part2/progression.html

debilyn · debilyn

I went out to, well cannot remember now. But was in my tshirt as usual. thru on my sweatshirt though. The horse were in rare form. All this food is paying off! Elgin would pretent to bite Glaes, Glaes would pretend to kick Elgin. this went on and on, then Glaes would paw at Elgin...

Phil · Phil

As a recovering alcoholic and a grateful member of Alanon...I have one question.. Are you going to stay stuck? With hope that things will change? We all know that unless the practicing alcoholic hits a bottom or realization, of some kind, that absolutely nothing is going to change.. Yet we h...

laurab · laurab

Today has been a long long lonely day. My husband is away for 11 days. My 3 older children are busy with their families and far from here, the weather is cold and rainy, I have eaten way too much and I am trying so hard to understand detach with love from my A son. How will he know I love him, if I stay far a...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello (((Everyone))) Downs ... (I'd rather end on a up note) My birthday was earlier this week it started with this ... I found out I am a prostitute according to my A to his friends, am disowned from a second family in one lifetime, and sold the short sale negoitating rights to my house for 10....

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Dear Friends, I was just sitting here thinking this morning about how we just follow along in life sometimes....how easy it is to get so caught up in making everything seem perfect that you can't see what is right in front of you.....get so use to just going along.....we forget how to get on wi...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

I am still greiving over the loss of my friend who "ditched me". I could feel the pain of my mother becoming a drunk and dropping our dear friendship/mother and daughter relationship. As I was crying and asking the Lord why this was happening to me. When I ask Him why my friend deserted me li...

Maria123 · Maria123

Having a Higher Power in our life is like being a pumpkin.

He lifts you up, takes you in, and washes all the dirt off of you. He opens you up, touches you deep inside and scoops out all the yucky stuff-- including the seeds of doubt, hate, greed, etc. Then He carves you a new smiling face and pu...

bob6502 · bob6502

Can I just say that today is a good day.

I don't have an active alcoholic in my life, and I am not dealing with any adversity. Of course I have my whiney complaints, my life isn't perfect, but HP and this program have given me the gift of some wonderful friends, and the ability to recogn...

hersh · hersh

(((Good morning everyone))) From snowy Colorado. It is pretty. I just wanted to see if anyone had some ESH on the Alcoholic playing the victim, or if that is what this is.... I have been going out almost every night, to an Alanon or AA meeting, because I HAVE to for my sanity. I do...

gardengal · gardengal

For years,,,when the insanity of my husbands drinking was progressing, I wanted friends and family to feel sorry for me. Oh woe is me! Sitting on the pity pot waiting for something good to happen. Somebody do something,,somebody stop all of this, somebody help me,,,,,etc,,,etc. Even when I started...

arty · arty

I went away with my a this past weekend to a beach house. just the two of us. He knows when we do things like that there is no point in him drinking, coz if he does there is no point in us having a romantic weekend. And it was beautiful. He used to drink all the time, thinking it was his only enjoyment. These...

maresie2 · maresie2

Well it looks like my plans for the holidays are on hold. I am not working enough to take time off so I will probably be working at the hotel. That will give me some respite. I will go out on the evening of New Years Eve to not have to deal with the fireworks. The bangs and the bombs and what...

greta · greta

An old Arab, whose tent was pitched next to a company of whirling dervishes was asked, "Don't they bother you?" "No!" was his answer. "What do you do about them?" "I let them whirl." Wouldn't that be easier? Instead of trying to control a whirlwind? Probably any one of us can get along with pe...

Becky1 · Becky1

In Jan. of 2004, my drunk AH and I were in our home, he became belligerant, and gesturing his arms around wildly, and hit me in the nose. What followed is greater than my greatest nightmare ever was. I already have PTSSD, so everything was magnified. I wtnt o his mother's who took m...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Hey (((((((((Josey)))))))))) Happy Birthday! Hope you have a wonderful wonderful day!! Luv ya!! Kis

sparkette · sparkette

Today is another new day. For a really long time I was focused on new beginnings needing to be some grand large change or shift. I am in the middle of a divorce right now and my daughters and I moved into our new apt on Wednesday. That is a big change, a big shift. What occurs to me that through these past few mo...

twinkie · twinkie

I don't understand all the lies - why? Not lies to cover up drinking - he is not actively drinking right now - but lies about so many other things - whether he is going to AA meetings, if he called - we started out the relationship with deceit - he told me so many things which were untrue - broke the trus...

Noni · Noni

Is there a way already, or would it be possible, to include a feature on the board where any user can see only the posts that they have posted (authored or posted within)? Thanks.

Becky1 · Becky1

Just got home from walmart. Poor me! (I LOVE Walmart!) Hubby is in his usual place, across the street, helping decorate for a Halloween party tomorrow night. His friends. I'm going to my friends party while he goes to his. This is different for us, we usually go together w...

twinkie · twinkie

I have to bite my tongue and need some detachment. My A just had a major relapse a few months ago - he went on a 12 day binge - his mother rescued him, took him to the hospital, cleaned up his apartment, etc etc. (enabler!) I moved out. As a result of his relapse his son's mother filed a cus...

laurab · laurab

I haven't spoken to my son in over 24 hours. I don't know where he is, if he still has his job, or if he is sober today. I know the 3 Cs. I know that if I call him and all I hear is terrible stuff, I will be miserable all night. I know what I have to do for myself, meetings, detach etc. But all I want is to know that he is...

hersh · hersh

((((Happy Friday))) Everyone... Thought I would share a gratitude list - a lady at a meeting the other night said that she recited one in her head from A-Z so she could sleep at night... what a great idea! I did it last night and it actually worked. A- Alanon and AA B - Birds, breathing C - Co...

purplebutterfly · purplebutterfly

I went to the mall with my daughter today . My dry A got mad I spent money on as my A says " junk". I bought her a necklace a pencil holder that had 4 things in it. and 2 lip glossess. We had a nice time together. Im having trouble letting go of guilt i dont deserve. Then my dry A says when home then im g...

Becky1 · Becky1

I posted earlier about how my husband burned his camo sweatshirt jacket that I had worn. I used to always try to be nice about things, and try to smooth things over with him, but ever since I went off my antidepressants, I have just cut loose. It may be a good thing, or not. Hard to say. B...

athena12 · athena12

I have severe nearsightedness. Several years before my father died, he offered me $6000 to have the operation to get my eyes fixed. I was surprised by the offer, but declined it right away. Anyway, I was sort of touched by my fath...

purplebutterfly · purplebutterfly

I'm proably asking a crazy question. Why is that my dry A has all these wild things that I may be doing and im not doing it. I dont like being accused of things i havent done. ie--- said saw me sneak "my money" to my daughter. (which didnt happen) saying i sent someone pics i didn't Its driv...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Talked to the A just now and he was happy and calm and I caught myself getting a little upset. I was so stressed out last night in large part because of his words and now today it's like nothing ever happened. He is better and I am still holding a grudge. ERRRRRRR!!!! I would like to tu...

kabbie · kabbie

My mom is here, visiting from out of town. She's making me my favorite dinner tonight. She and I will go tommorrow to visit my daughter at her rehab facility. Daughter is off restriction so we will see a matinee, have dinner, pretty good chance we'll end up at Walmart. I have really leaned on my m...

marmare · marmare

Well I went on my ride along yesterday. It seems as the job will fit me very nicely. I can only find one draw back and that is the time I would be done. I got home around 8:30. Of course my A and 15 yr old had an argument before I was home and the 15 yr old called my cell phone. On m...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

Hi everyone! As some of you know I am new to here! I am also new to this. First I would like to express how I got here. Well I am seeing a counselor bout self esteem issues. On my second session she advised me to check out Al anon groups here locally. Well I do have to admit I am very shy to that so I thought I woul...

laurab · laurab

I went to my first AlAnon meeting last night. It was very kind and loving and gracious and welcoming. But, I felt like my life is a nightmare of waiting for the next phone call police car jail blackout coke deal loss tears etc, while everyone there was so calm and optimistic. I of course realize tha...

kabbie · kabbie

Just wanted to take a minute and speak to the positive side of recovery. At 37 days sober, my daughter is saying please and thank you, asking about family members, telling me to drive carefully in bad weather, hugging and holding hands with her dad and I, taking NO for an answer, sharing her feelings....

debilyn · debilyn

the photo page? we have one don't we? thanks love,debilyn

Newme · Newme

Dear ALL, Hello. I am new to this site,new to Al-Anon and trying to find the new me...being the daughter of a drug addict and not too long married to an A without knowing it from day one makes me feel lost with mixed feelings and low self confident...I feel I am living my mother's life and it bother...

bev · bev

i want to thank the few people who sent prayers and kind words,to me after the death of my dear father in law..it has been a rough month few weeks..first off i went on my cruise oct 8,on oct 9 my daughter who is 7 and half months pregnant went into premature,and was in the hospital for 2 days she is now on semi b...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

Hi again. I wanted to share my story. My user name says it all... I am sensitive. VERY sensitive. As is my mother who is the alcholic in the family. She was bout 10 years older than I when she started to drink. (I am 32) and she was really upset bout work and then thought the booze would he...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Today has been the worst day! My A came over last weekend and I believe he drank my son's codeine cough syrup and then watered it down. It was the consistency of honey and now it's like water. I am tired of questioning myself. He has every possible story in the book and swears up and down he didn't do it and I s...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Ok so last night was a miserable night. Today is better. Last night I talked to my neice who is 20 and told her about the cough syrup dilemma. She just kept saying that she couldn't believe that he would steal medicine from a baby. I don't know why I found that amusing. I didn't even care that he took it I...

Phil · Phil

"I loved my husband. I thought I couldn't live without him," said Nancy L. "But I also hated him. I hated that he wasn't the husband or father I knew he could be." At first, Nancy didn't recognize that her husband was drinking heavily and using marijuana and cocaine. However, she realiz...

Juster · Juster

I have been reading all of the postings about how the A's always seem to have an excuse or a reason to drink. Most of them sound fairly absurd - and really are just excuses. My AW has never said why she feels like she has to drink, but I have a suspicion that I might know one of the main reasons. ...

Christy · Christy

I came across this analogy of Letting Go vs. Giving up and thought I'd share. In Thailand, they trap monkeys by tethering a coconut shell to a stake in the ground. They cut a hole in the shell just big enough for a monkey's hand and then put a piece of fruit in the shell. Then they hide and wait. A monkey w...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Yes,I was in a horrible car accident today at about 605pm.It was the scariest thing that has ever ever happened to me. I literally saw my life flash right before my eyes. Ok I was getting onto the fwy and there was a red light as I got on I saw a puddle of water from a nearby sprinkler I went over the water and...

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	Saying the right thing (Preview) Since my daughter has been in rehab, I've been trying hard to be a good listener. Sometimes I say things that don't make sense to her, and she calls me on it..thought I'd share - I took alot away from it. When my mom and I were visiting with her on Sat, we each told her that "you don't have to drink to h...	kabbie	4	330	Oct 30, 2006 by maresie2
	"Unraveling Incorrect Ideas" (Preview) In one of my buddist medatatives, the teacher challenges his students, "If one says incorrect things about our practices, the correct path is to take each idea and unravel it. Say 'This, this, is incorrect based on this reality.' Say, 'This, this is correct based on this reality.' Take each st...	Tiger2006	2	461	Oct 30, 2006 by hudsond
	I made him go home (Preview) I am very proud. I told him that he was not going to stay here this weekend because I didn't feel comfortable about the lying in regard to stealing my son's codiene cough syrup and putting in lemon water instead. Then he showed up smelling like alcohol.... It was hard it's in the 30's tonight and the o...	carolinagirl	5	335	Oct 30, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Serenity II (Preview) ((((((Family))))), I posted a couple of months ago about the serenity I felt in the woods with hubby. I hadn't felt that way in so long. I'm feeling that same way today. I am on vacation this week and even got an extra hour of it thanks to the time change. Hubby woke me up early this...	Karilynn	5	291	Oct 30, 2006 by chris52
	Mom is angry about money (Preview) My daughter is 22 and in inpatient rehab - been there almost 30 days now. I visit it her on the weekends. I'm starting to resent having to take her out during my visits for personal supplies etc. She has no money, and is relying right now on my husband and I for financial support. I'm in Alanon, and I know I ha...	kabbie	2	366	Oct 30, 2006 by Tiger2006
	New to forum (Preview) Hello, I'm new to this forum as well as Alanon. I have attended 4 meetings in my home home town and I find it very interesting. After the first meeting that I went to I realized I should have been going for years but I was too shy and scared. I am married to an Alcoholic and I have found my life turned upside dow...	albertarose	6	485	Oct 30, 2006 by shadow1
	RTexas??? (Preview) (((Rtexas))) Just wondering how you are coping. Always sending prayers your way, and hope you had a good weekend... keep us posted on your life.... HeidiXXXX	hersh	1	246	Oct 30, 2006 by rtexas
	Letting Go Takes Love... (Preview) To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...	Phil	7	407	Oct 30, 2006 by kabbie
	Serenity (Preview) I was up last night thinking alot about things in my life. I faced a fear this weekend one that made me feel fear, anxiety, hurt, unworthiness. I knew it was time to face what I was feeling inside but had to get to the point of wanting to do it for me. I am glad I did. I am more at peace with myself today. I am relax...	DoN4me	1	219	Oct 30, 2006 by Karilynn
	Should she stay or should she go? (Preview) Good morning everyone, I have considered a trial separation from the a wife. All she wants is a place to drink and smoke without any intrusion. Her efforts at getting a job are less than sincere and she refuses to go back to detox, rehab. She is certainly in the final stages of al...	jeeves	6	471	Oct 30, 2006 by Noni
	Grateful for recovery (Preview) ((((((((Family)))))))))), Good morning! I just received my daily reading from the Hazelden Foundation (www.hazelden.org) this morning and it's a perfect way to start off my vacation. Wanted to share it with you. *"Miracles are instantaneuos. They cannot be summoned, b...*	Karilynn	1	365	Oct 30, 2006 by Andrea12
	I am acting as if today.... (Preview) Hi Alanoners, It is my birthday today. I am 57. I made decision to have a good birth day. I am realizing that I have a choice to suffer or not. And I have made alot of progress in my recovery program but I am not quite there. So, I decided that I would take the Alanon slogan of fake it until you make it or act as i...	nmike	9	598	Oct 30, 2006 by Barbara
	My guardian angels was there to help me!! (Preview) Hi everyone! I thank God everyday for sending my guardian angel as a comforting angel as well. See he (my angel) was there for me when I had to deal with my mothers drinking. When I had to deal with being estranged cause she wants to spend her life drinking. He helped me to realize th...	sensitive1	3	551	Oct 30, 2006 by Jerry F
	new to onlinealaon (Preview) i have a home-group but never signed in for the online group. its very early, and i have non one to call. i am realizing that i am married (for 20 years) to someone who cannot be there for me emotionaly. i just gave up hope that it will get better. he is coming up on his one year clean, and he has a sponser, but...	ella	4	355	Oct 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Gratitude fever (Preview) I liked that gratitude alphabet, as usual :) a animals and attitudes b bats and beatitudes c cats and courage d dogs and delights e elephants and esh f frogs and fresh air g gorillas and gumption h hamsters and hello's i ...	peewee	4	381	Oct 29, 2006 by peewee
	Long Rough Week (Preview) Well, hubby and I had a nice vacation paid for by my dad (an anniversary/birthday gift) except for food and whatever we wanted to do down there. We went to Myrtle Beach and had lots of fun. We had our 8th anniversary together (married), been together for 11 yrs, and I am now 26 yrs old!...	ragingchild	4	353	Oct 29, 2006 by ragingchild
	totally worn out from stress (Preview) I come home today from one job to go to another job. I will only have a few hours to rest. I will be working all night long at a very very stressful job. I am tired, I am cranky I am worn out. I do not need to have another plateful of stress. The A has crashed so many cars. He has two ca...	maresie2	6	418	Oct 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Disease Progession Diagram of alcoholics (Preview) Today in the chatroom we were talking about the progression of the disease and where our A's are on it. So i thought I would post it here to shar with everyone http://www.gannett.com/go/difference/greatfalls/pages/part2/progression.html	Mindy	0	359	Oct 29, 2006 by Mindy
	frosty and fiesty at Eden (Preview) I went out to, well cannot remember now. But was in my tshirt as usual. thru on my sweatshirt though. The horse were in rare form. All this food is paying off! Elgin would pretent to bite Glaes, Glaes would pretend to kick Elgin. this went on and on, then Glaes would paw at Elgin...	debilyn	3	308	Oct 29, 2006 by Karilynn
	Life Is Short (Preview) As a recovering alcoholic and a grateful member of Alanon...I have one question.. Are you going to stay stuck? With hope that things will change? We all know that unless the practicing alcoholic hits a bottom or realization, of some kind, that absolutely nothing is going to change.. Yet we h...	Phil	10	518	Oct 29, 2006 by Karilynn
	must get a life (Preview) Today has been a long long lonely day. My husband is away for 11 days. My 3 older children are busy with their families and far from here, the weather is cold and rainy, I have eaten way too much and I am trying so hard to understand detach with love from my A son. How will he know I love him, if I stay far a...	laurab	5	364	Oct 29, 2006 by danz123
	Ups & Downs (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))) Downs ... (I'd rather end on a up note) My birthday was earlier this week it started with this ... I found out I am a prostitute according to my A to his friends, am disowned from a second family in one lifetime, and sold the short sale negoitating rights to my house for 10....	Jennifer	3	340	Oct 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	A Ray of Hope (Preview) Hello Dear Friends, I was just sitting here thinking this morning about how we just follow along in life sometimes....how easy it is to get so caught up in making everything seem perfect that you can't see what is right in front of you.....get so use to just going along.....we forget how to get on wi...	Andrea12	6	290	Oct 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Cried really hard tonight! (Preview) I am still greiving over the loss of my friend who "ditched me". I could feel the pain of my mother becoming a drunk and dropping our dear friendship/mother and daughter relationship. As I was crying and asking the Lord why this was happening to me. When I ask Him why my friend deserted me li...	sensitive1	4	347	Oct 28, 2006 by maresie2
	Happy Autumn (Preview) Having a Higher Power in our life is like being a pumpkin. He lifts you up, takes you in, and washes all the dirt off of you. He opens you up, touches you deep inside and scoops out all the yucky stuff-- including the seeds of doubt, hate, greed, etc. Then He carves you a new smiling face and pu...	Maria123	7	317	Oct 28, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Today is a good day (Preview) Can I just say that today is a good day. I don't have an active alcoholic in my life, and I am not dealing with any adversity. Of course I have my whiney complaints, my life isn't perfect, but HP and this program have given me the gift of some wonderful friends, and the ability to recogn...	bob6502	4	268	Oct 28, 2006 by Maria123
	Playing the Victim??? (Preview) (((Good morning everyone))) From snowy Colorado. It is pretty. I just wanted to see if anyone had some ESH on the Alcoholic playing the victim, or if that is what this is.... I have been going out almost every night, to an Alanon or AA meeting, because I HAVE to for my sanity. I do...	hersh	8	544	Oct 28, 2006 by Karilynn
	DO YOU STEER CLEAR OF GETTING OTHERS TO FEEL SORRY FOR YOU? (Preview) For years,,,when the insanity of my husbands drinking was progressing, I wanted friends and family to feel sorry for me. Oh woe is me! Sitting on the pity pot waiting for something good to happen. Somebody do something,,somebody stop all of this, somebody help me,,,,,etc,,,etc. Even when I started...	gardengal	5	1050	Oct 28, 2006 by Karilynn
	does it always get worse? (Preview) I went away with my a this past weekend to a beach house. just the two of us. He knows when we do things like that there is no point in him drinking, coz if he does there is no point in us having a romantic weekend. And it was beautiful. He used to drink all the time, thinking it was his only enjoyment. These...	arty	6	412	Oct 28, 2006 by arty
	When will it be my party (Preview) Well it looks like my plans for the holidays are on hold. I am not working enough to take time off so I will probably be working at the hotel. That will give me some respite. I will go out on the evening of New Years Eve to not have to deal with the fireworks. The bangs and the bombs and what...	maresie2	2	408	Oct 28, 2006 by Andrea12
	Let 'em whirl! (Preview) An old Arab, whose tent was pitched next to a company of whirling dervishes was asked, "Don't they bother you?" "No!" was his answer. "What do you do about them?" "I let them whirl." Wouldn't that be easier? Instead of trying to control a whirlwind? Probably any one of us can get along with pe...	greta	4	4433	Oct 28, 2006 by twinkie
	I Want to Let Go, He Won't (Preview) In Jan. of 2004, my drunk AH and I were in our home, he became belligerant, and gesturing his arms around wildly, and hit me in the nose. What followed is greater than my greatest nightmare ever was. I already have PTSSD, so everything was magnified. I wtnt o his mother's who took m...	Becky1	11	346	Oct 28, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Happy Birthday JrtJosey!! (Preview) Hey (((((((((Josey)))))))))) Happy Birthday! Hope you have a wonderful wonderful day!! Luv ya!! Kis	kismetstrand	12	454	Oct 28, 2006 by bubbles1990
	a new beginning (lovette) (Preview) Today is another new day. For a really long time I was focused on new beginnings needing to be some grand large change or shift. I am in the middle of a divorce right now and my daughters and I moved into our new apt on Wednesday. That is a big change, a big shift. What occurs to me that through these past few mo...	sparkette	5	419	Oct 28, 2006 by bubbles1990
	lies! so much lying...why? (Preview) I don't understand all the lies - why? Not lies to cover up drinking - he is not actively drinking right now - but lies about so many other things - whether he is going to AA meetings, if he called - we started out the relationship with deceit - he told me so many things which were untrue - broke the trus...	twinkie	5	455	Oct 28, 2006 by twinkie
	MIP Board Technical Question (Preview) Is there a way already, or would it be possible, to include a feature on the board where any user can see only the posts that they have posted (authored or posted within)? Thanks.	Noni	1	302	Oct 28, 2006 by Jennifer
	Tiring and Weird Week (Preview) Just got home from walmart. Poor me! (I LOVE Walmart!) Hubby is in his usual place, across the street, helping decorate for a Halloween party tomorrow night. His friends. I'm going to my friends party while he goes to his. This is different for us, we usually go together w...	Becky1	1	250	Oct 28, 2006 by lin0606
	so hard to detach (Preview) I have to bite my tongue and need some detachment. My A just had a major relapse a few months ago - he went on a 12 day binge - his mother rescued him, took him to the hospital, cleaned up his apartment, etc etc. (enabler!) I moved out. As a result of his relapse his son's mother filed a cus...	twinkie	2	337	Oct 28, 2006 by nmike
	I haven't phoned in 24 hours (Preview) I haven't spoken to my son in over 24 hours. I don't know where he is, if he still has his job, or if he is sober today. I know the 3 Cs. I know that if I call him and all I hear is terrible stuff, I will be miserable all night. I know what I have to do for myself, meetings, detach etc. But all I want is to know that he is...	laurab	3	379	Oct 28, 2006 by nmike
	Friday Gratitude List.... (Preview) ((((Happy Friday))) Everyone... Thought I would share a gratitude list - a lady at a meeting the other night said that she recited one in her head from A-Z so she could sleep at night... what a great idea! I did it last night and it actually worked. A- Alanon and AA B - Birds, breathing C - Co...	hersh	6	292	Oct 27, 2006 by peewee
	feeling guilt from a mall trip (Preview) I went to the mall with my daughter today . My dry A got mad I spent money on as my A says " junk". I bought her a necklace a pencil holder that had 4 things in it. and 2 lip glossess. We had a nice time together. Im having trouble letting go of guilt i dont deserve. Then my dry A says when home then im g...	purplebutterfly	3	280	Oct 27, 2006 by peewee
	Raging about Alcohol (Preview) I posted earlier about how my husband burned his camo sweatshirt jacket that I had worn. I used to always try to be nice about things, and try to smooth things over with him, but ever since I went off my antidepressants, I have just cut loose. It may be a good thing, or not. Hard to say. B...	Becky1	5	382	Oct 27, 2006 by Becky1
	IRRATIONAL THINKING NOT SOLELY A CHARACTERISTIC OF ALCOHOLICS (Preview) I have severe nearsightedness. Several years before my father died, he offered me $6000 to have the operation to get my eyes fixed. I was surprised by the offer, but declined it right away. Anyway, I was sort of touched by my fath...	athena12	3	370	Oct 27, 2006 by Tiger2006
	dry A craziness (Preview) I'm proably asking a crazy question. Why is that my dry A has all these wild things that I may be doing and im not doing it. I dont like being accused of things i havent done. ie--- said saw me sneak "my money" to my daughter. (which didnt happen) saying i sent someone pics i didn't Its driv...	purplebutterfly	5	380	Oct 27, 2006 by purplebutterfly
	On from here with optimism (Preview) Talked to the A just now and he was happy and calm and I caught myself getting a little upset. I was so stressed out last night in large part because of his words and now today it's like nothing ever happened. He is better and I am still holding a grudge. ERRRRRRR!!!! I would like to tu...	carolinagirl	1	375	Oct 27, 2006 by Tiger2006
	My mom is visiting (Preview) My mom is here, visiting from out of town. She's making me my favorite dinner tonight. She and I will go tommorrow to visit my daughter at her rehab facility. Daughter is off restriction so we will see a matinee, have dinner, pretty good chance we'll end up at Walmart. I have really leaned on my m...	kabbie	2	225	Oct 27, 2006 by hersh
	New Job? (Preview) Well I went on my ride along yesterday. It seems as the job will fit me very nicely. I can only find one draw back and that is the time I would be done. I got home around 8:30. Of course my A and 15 yr old had an argument before I was home and the 15 yr old called my cell phone. On m...	marmare	4	230	Oct 27, 2006 by isabela40
	Feeling worthless! (Preview) Hi everyone! As some of you know I am new to here! I am also new to this. First I would like to express how I got here. Well I am seeing a counselor bout self esteem issues. On my second session she advised me to check out Al anon groups here locally. Well I do have to admit I am very shy to that so I thought I woul...	sensitive1	7	469	Oct 27, 2006 by isabela40
	I went to an AlAnon meeting (Preview) I went to my first AlAnon meeting last night. It was very kind and loving and gracious and welcoming. But, I felt like my life is a nightmare of waiting for the next phone call police car jail blackout coke deal loss tears etc, while everyone there was so calm and optimistic. I of course realize tha...	laurab	7	357	Oct 27, 2006 by Rita G
	Grateful (Preview) Just wanted to take a minute and speak to the positive side of recovery. At 37 days sober, my daughter is saying please and thank you, asking about family members, telling me to drive carefully in bad weather, hugging and holding hands with her dad and I, taking NO for an answer, sharing her feelings....	kabbie	3	224	Oct 27, 2006 by Rita G
	Where is (Preview) the photo page? we have one don't we? thanks love,debilyn	debilyn	2	322	Oct 27, 2006 by Lauren ashley
	I am confused... (Preview) Dear ALL, Hello. I am new to this site,new to Al-Anon and trying to find the new me...being the daughter of a drug addict and not too long married to an A without knowing it from day one makes me feel lost with mixed feelings and low self confident...I feel I am living my mother's life and it bother...	Newme	3	268	Oct 27, 2006 by Lauren ashley
	to everyone who responded to my post (Preview) i want to thank the few people who sent prayers and kind words,to me after the death of my dear father in law..it has been a rough month few weeks..first off i went on my cruise oct 8,on oct 9 my daughter who is 7 and half months pregnant went into premature,and was in the hospital for 2 days she is now on semi b...	bev	2	361	Oct 27, 2006 by Christy
	Taking advil PM to relax.... HELP! (Preview) Hi again. I wanted to share my story. My user name says it all... I am sensitive. VERY sensitive. As is my mother who is the alcholic in the family. She was bout 10 years older than I when she started to drink. (I am 32) and she was really upset bout work and then thought the booze would he...	sensitive1	7	1443	Oct 27, 2006 by sensitive1
	Miserable Day! (Preview) Today has been the worst day! My A came over last weekend and I believe he drank my son's codeine cough syrup and then watered it down. It was the consistency of honey and now it's like water. I am tired of questioning myself. He has every possible story in the book and swears up and down he didn't do it and I s...	carolinagirl	5	279	Oct 27, 2006 by hersh
	Perspective (Preview) Ok so last night was a miserable night. Today is better. Last night I talked to my neice who is 20 and told her about the cough syrup dilemma. She just kept saying that she couldn't believe that he would steal medicine from a baby. I don't know why I found that amusing. I didn't even care that he took it I...	carolinagirl	1	229	Oct 27, 2006 by rtexas
	Family members can untangle from a loved one's addiction (Preview) "I loved my husband. I thought I couldn't live without him," said Nancy L. "But I also hated him. I hated that he wasn't the husband or father I knew he could be." At first, Nancy didn't recognize that her husband was drinking heavily and using marijuana and cocaine. However, she realiz...	Phil	1	444	Oct 27, 2006 by JulieLynn
	Maybe Some Do Have a Reason (Preview) I have been reading all of the postings about how the A's always seem to have an excuse or a reason to drink. Most of them sound fairly absurd - and really are just excuses. My AW has never said why she feels like she has to drink, but I have a suspicion that I might know one of the main reasons. ...	Juster	6	472	Oct 27, 2006 by Juster
	Difference of Letting Go vs. Giving up (Preview) I came across this analogy of Letting Go vs. Giving up and thought I'd share. In Thailand, they trap monkeys by tethering a coconut shell to a stake in the ground. They cut a hole in the shell just big enough for a monkey's hand and then put a piece of fruit in the shell. Then they hide and wait. A monkey w...	Christy	2	381	Oct 27, 2006 by greta
	I almost died tonight (Preview) Yes,I was in a horrible car accident today at about 605pm.It was the scariest thing that has ever ever happened to me. I literally saw my life flash right before my eyes. Ok I was getting onto the fwy and there was a red light as I got on I saw a puddle of water from a nearby sprinkler I went over the water and...	Lauren ashley	18	579	Oct 27, 2006 by leo
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