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I found this today... I know I have read it before, but I really like it and wanted to share it with you.
Take care of you!
Life is attitude
We create our reality through our perceptions and our way of being. I found a text which reflects perfectly what I believe about that. This is really what I experiment every day.
"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude to me is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than success, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, gift, or skill. It will make or break a company...a church...a home.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10 percent what happens to me and 90 percent how I react to it. And so it is with you...we are in charge of our attitudes."
- Charles Swindoll -
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
Funny story tx--I got this for my birthday when I was like 13 or some nonsense. Things were of course spiraling out of control at home, right? So my parents were convinced the real problem was my attitude. They gave me this. On a poster. And said that if I changed my attitude things would get better.
It was the worst birthday gift I ever got. Haven't forgotten it.
Trying to keep that good attitude is easier with reminders of why it's good for me. That reminder in there about attitude being the make or break of situations gives me incentive.
Hope everything is going well with you and your family. Take care.
I am so sorry to stir up those old resentments. Just out of curiosity, what do the words mean to you today?
Do you think that in any way that poster that you hated might have helped you think independant of your situation at all? I am not trying to pry into your mind... (mine is cluttered up enough already LOL) but I have some things that I want to post around the house, and I don't know what my kids reactions will be to them.
Small sayings about life and truth.
Just curious? Most meaningful saying posted in my house right now says " Our aim is to keep this place clean, your aim will help" My grandmother painted it on a plaque and it is in my son's bathroom. LOL
Take care of you!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
Thanks rtexas.....I agree. I know when my attitude gets screwed up, my whole life gets out of balance, and one thing leads to another to another, and before you know it, I hate everything. I just did this yesterday. I was upset because the house was a mess, then I got mad because I knocked over a box of small beads. Then the pipe in the bathroom was leaking. The cat wouldn't leave me alone while I was trying to pick up the beads. I was making mountains out of molehills. My AH said he had to go help a friend for about 30 minutes, and he'd be home and we'd go do something together. That was the last straw. I went into the bedroom and just bawled my eyes out. My husband came in "are you sick???Do you need me to get you something??? Do you want some water???Some Pepto-Bismol??? etc. etc." He kept wanting to know what was wrong with me, what was I supposed to say "My ATTITUDE SUCKS!" That would have been the truth. The more frustrated I had become, the more things happened to make me frustrated. It was a never ending cycle. Guess that's why they call it "stinkin' thinkin."
((((Tiger)))) Your parents, maybe deep down, knew their attitudes sucked, and it was affecting you, and YOUR attitude. If YOU changed YOUR attitude, then it would be easy for them. THEY wouldn't have to change THEIRS. It's a lot easier when someone else does all the footwork!
Thanks again for the thoughts, rtexas. Keep up that positive attitude!
That was great and so true. We just came back from the surgeon regarding hubby's feet. News wasn't good, but his attitude is just amazing. So I know all will be well.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
So very, very true. As many of you have read in my posts, everything started changing sooo much for the better when my attitude with my A changed. It was the single, most important thing for me in how to cope with his alcoholism!!! Still is, very much. Thanks for the HUGE gift rt :)
Not at all! I need people to pry in my mind (I pay a therapist for the purpose! LOL!)
No, today I prefer to take a more Buddist approach to looking at my attitude. Where are my beliefs destructing my spirit to serve? Where are my beliefs destructing your spirit? Why? How can I change my beliefs? I also embrace the idea of destiny--as in the acceptance paragraph details, "Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake." That took me awhile to really embrace because I thought God was saying "Yeah, it's okay, we'll let Sarah live in abdject poverty for her whole life, with a neurotic mother..." NO! Not so much! I embrace the idea that it allows me to talk with people honestly--like you! to share myself honestly and with honesty maybe the BEST thing that comes out of my life. And if that is ALL that comes out of my life--that's alot!
I look at my life today with the reality that, if nothing else, god's plan is infinitely planned in love. Love first, last, and always. And it's okay that I look at the heavens and screech, scream and wail. That's okay. Today, I know my attitude is shaped more by my prospective on my situations than my actual situations.
