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i have a home-group but never signed in for the online group.
its very early, and i have non one to call. i am realizing that i am married (for 20 years) to someone who cannot be there for me emotionaly. i just gave up hope that it will get better. he is coming up on his one year clean, and he has a sponser, but he is not doing the step work.
it is just very lonely.
i used to have hope that things will get better, but these days, i am seeing reality more clearly, and it breaks my heart.
I am so glad that you found us. This is an awesome site. I would like to encourage you to join our chat room also. It is open 24/7. Just follow the link on this page. We have 2 meetings each day. Remeber that "just for today you have a program".
i think that at another time i will check out the chat room.
for now, its nice to know that there is someone out there that listens. although my group is tomorrow, i might go to a meeting tonight,as things feel like they are spining out of control faster and faster. i think that because of my growth i am in touch with the feeling that my emotional needs are not being met, before my fear of abndonment was so great, that i would not let myself feel the other pain.
Hello Ella , and welcome . I know it's hard to watch our A's recover cause they arent doing what they should be doing . hehe Truth is I don't have the right to say that my a isn't doing what he should be doing , He is sober that has to be enough for now . sometimes all they can do is NOT DRINK . He is only one yr clean and sober so he is still Stark Raving Sober .
Keep going to your meetings and keep the focus on you and your needs he will get around to the steps eventually . And Ella remember that SOBER IS BETTER THAN DRUNK ANYDAY . Don't miss the good days by focusing on what he isn't doing , focus on what he is doing.
