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Phil · Phil

Each of us struggles with pain and its repercussions; some of us more than others. At times pain seems unending. Sometimes we hang onto the pain in our lives, maybe because we fear even more what's on the other side. The unknown so easily controls us. Right at this moment, each of us can look back on other...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Hi (((((((friends)))))) I am soooooo MAD. This morning it all came to the surface and pouring out.I am angry that I have to give up my house and everything I have worked for.I am angry that I will have to live in an apartment and listen to noisey neighbors.That I will have to buy a better car and pay for...

shadow1 · shadow1

I have been told that I have a very strong program but right now, I really don’t think I do. I can talk the talk but walking the walk seems to be a different story with me. I’m falling deeper and deeper into a depression. Everything seems to be crashing down around me. I can’t seem to get my feelings...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

How Things came to be.. My whole world is torn apart because you left me with a broken heart I thought you loved me, I thought you cared I knew that you despised me from the look you gave me,and the way you stared Do you ever wonder about me? Or how things came to be? Well, I am older now and I truly cannot thank...

hersh · hersh

(((Everyone))) Trying to move forward, WAS trying to focus on me after AH's third DUI last weekend. Well, I slipped and what did I do, looked at the cell phone bill again. I was deliberately not looking at it because AH had been talking to someone this year when we separated and thought t...

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gardengal · gardengal

Living with active alcoholism challenges us daily to deal with disappointment time and time again. Our expectations of another seem to toss us into dispair when it does not go according to what we think is right. We get sick. We lose faith in ourselves to help another and our self esteem plummet...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, As I sit here thinking about the craziness I have been thru these past days and weeks and months....and if I think about it these years......anyway, I am thankful.....I have two great kids....a beautiful 16 yr old daughter who loves life and is full of sunshine.....a wonderful so...

Powerless · Powerless

I have been worried a lot lately and a saw a sign on a church as I was driving to a F2F meeting. "Don't fear tomorrow. God is already there." I didn't want to offend anyone so I changed God to HP. Anyway. I am six months pregnant now and looking forward to the birth of our daughter. My ex returned...

Gailey · Gailey

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ShelBell · ShelBell

My AH will have 3 months sober tomorrow, the 9th. It has been quite an adjustment for me, as for a long time I couldn't see why I needed this program. All the reasons people told me I should be here didn't seem to apply, as I didn't blame myself or have low self-esteem and a myriad...

mama_nz · mama_nz

Hi, My 18mo old son's father and I are separated, and last weekend he invited me over for dinner and when I got there he was completely drunk (I posted a couple days ago about that). He has our son on the weekends and because of my concerns about his behaviour when he drinks I have a parentin...

marmare · marmare

Months ago before taking care of mom, I gave my work # to one on my husbands buddies. He called me at work and wanted my email and other phone #'s. I gave him my email. We exchange pretty explict emails for a couple months and then not for a while, then a bit more. He is always wanti...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well today was the day from HELL. A called all night and I didn't answer and then started up again this morning. Answered the 2nd call and made up an excuse about the battery being dead... He seemed ok. Then later he called and I was busy and he said I am filing for divorce and I want joint custody and I'm not p...

serendipity · serendipity

i suppose i am choosing to be miserable. i am letting my ex ah knock down all of my boundries and that feels really awful. it just occured to me today that my father is never comming back (he died in may and i was there, it was cancer and not exactly sudden). but until today i think i really believed he was just...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I attended a committee meeting yesterday for a retreat and one of the women shared something that made so much sense to me. "Recovery takes a very long time, it's like being kicked to death by a rabbit".

mama_nz · mama_nz

Hi, new here so sorry if I cover any old ground or anything like that.. I have a dillemma, and would appreciate some advice please! My partner is the drinker. We have been separated for the last 10 months, and have an 18 mo old son who is in my day-to-day care. It was my birthday on Friday and my...

Diva · Diva

So many times I attempt to have a discussion with my A about how I am feeling, how he is feeling, etc. The minute I begin to talk about inner feelings, he changes the subject. I mean REALLY changes the subject!! He will answer with something like, "Look how the dog is lying on his bed with all his feet in the a...

lilms · lilms

Tex, Just wondering if you are okay, ya know with the sacrificing live chickens and turtles butts stuff....

lilms

shauna27 · shauna27

My A will not go to meetings or call on sober people if he is drinking. He says it is a respect issue. I don't know AA's stance on this. Those I've spoken to say it is a personal choice. He stops drinking, goes to meetings but doesn't do the work, and eventually starts drinking agai...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

I think I am onto something today.. I have just two choices...accept the fact that my husband is an alcoholic which means I will never come first and at any time he will decide not to come home, that I need to detach and not take it personal OR end the marriage. Seems so simple...I think my pro...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) When you are doing things, for yourself, to satisfy your needs .... do they? Are you satisfied when you are done? Do you get that sigh of relief and feel grateful for it? Over the last few months, I have done things "for me", but what that meant was in spite of...

shauna27 · shauna27

Hi, I'm Shauna and I'm new here. I've been with my A for 3 years but we've known each other forever. He's been going to AA for years but never does the work and hasn't managed to stay sober for more than a month. We've split several times as a result of the chaos. The last time was t...

Phil · Phil

When I "Let Go and Let God," I think more clearly and wisely. Without having to think about it, I quickly let go of things that cause me immediate pain and discomfort. Because I find it hard to let go of the kind of worrisome thoughts and attitudes that cause me immense anguish, all I need do during those ti...

horselover58 · horselover58

It's been almost 2 weeks since hubby had a beer! Oct. 26, I had a good day. Had my appt with my C.H.A.D. counselor (Confidential help for alcohol & drugs it is an agency that offers professional outpatient counseling for addicts and thier families) Then went to work for 1/2 a night, left...

ZMrE2Me · ZMrE2Me

I found your Web site a few weeks ago, and have attended a few meetings now. At first I felt really awkward and out of place (I am a newcomer to Al-Anon), but that changed during yesterday morning's meeting. For whatever reason, the people in that room were suddenly transformed from anonymous words on a...

marmare · marmare

Last night my A and I had a disagreement. He is still drinking but not using cocaine, I don't think he has used in months. He has changed. He doesn't know within himself what has caused the change; I don't try to figure it out. I thought maybe it was my mother's death, or that I...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Hubby just called. He is number 90 something on the standby list. His ticket date is for 12/04/06. The problem is that he is on a tiny island, Dutch Harbor, and he isn't the only fisherman/crabber waiting to get home. And to top it off, there aren't alot of flights coing in and outa Dutch daily...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Family))) Its been a while since I've posted anything, just been reading posts and responding when I feel I have something to contribute. Sometimes I feel like I need to just watch, listen, and observe so that growth or understanding can happen. Lately things have been good ev...

kicky · kicky

My A has been out of my home for 3 weeks today. I asked him to go to detox, rehab and begin a sober life Or move out. So, he went to live with a fellow A while his wife was away on business. Well she came back yesterday and behold my A just misses me so much! He called yesterday and said he needed to see the do...

kabbie · kabbie

i am powerless over this disease. there. i said it.

Orchid Lady · Orchid Lady

Hello all, These really early mornings are difficult - dark, sleepy, not truly rested I've never been a morning person and since "this" started mornings are even harder. But this morning I ironed fabric and cut pieces for a quilt I have planned, been quite a while since I've tried to be creative, h...

Gailey · Gailey

My co-worker just found out a web site that you could access that is for public knoweledge. She put her son's name in there. Her son does not have any problems that she knows of. Married, 3 children, nice home and good job. Lo and behold...he was arrested for dui in April. I wanted to put my A son's name in so...

krusland · krusland

I knew this was going to be a tough day, but I really am having a hard time. He just came out of a 28 day program, and is really freaking out about being on his own. He went out to a meeting a few minutes ago, but really couldn't calm down until he left. I don't know if he doubts his willpower, or if it is totally no...

Tammy · Tammy

Peace, Love, calm in the storm, happiness, a content feeling, and hopeful... This has been an terrible week.. My husband of nearly 20 years and I have been seperated for over 7 weeks and it isnt getting easier. Since I kicked him out he got a DUI and is not drinking ( thats good, right ??) Well, It is...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I keep thinking about my perspective ever since I was young I was always afraid I was going to miss something. I carry that now when living off sheer hope that the A will get better. I see now it's the same thing. I want my brain to realize that the only thing I'm missing is more of the sam...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am looking for a new sponsor. I want to believe the steps will help me out of the stuff I am in. I have good days and tremendously bad days. I also have a resolve that I will not allow the A's addiction to destroy me. I know it has come close. I hope someone will volunteer. I could even go with a tempor...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The A came over on Friday stayed the nite and then left Sat. I think he's been out drinking since but don't know. I started to get irritated. I don't like not knowing what's going on and having him not answer the phone. Why can't I just stop caring about what he does and not see it as my problem. I realize my fi...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((((Everyone))))) My day started with thinking that my cat had peed on my dogs blanket in revenge. I was so mad as I was cleaning it up. Then I felt a drip hit the back of my head. I have a leak in the roof -- here is where I should have stayed on my knees and just prayed. I d...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Folks.... the good of this site FAR outweighs any of the bad. For all of our sakes, can we please get the focus back onto recovery, supporting each other, and loving and caring for one another. Choosing sides in personal fights do us NO good, and they take away from the primary aim and goal o...

thinkstoomuch · thinkstoomuch

So, for years, I stuffed my feelings - practically a prerequisite to being in Alanon. I didn't even really understand that feeling wasn't the same as thinking. I'm slowly starting to learn different. When my A got sober 2½ years ago, and I then got into Alanon, I often just bit my tongue because I co...

Phil · Phil

Denial Ain't a River in Egypt. Denial is the PRIMARY psychological symptom of addiction. It is an automatic and unconscious component of addictions. Addicts are often the last to recognize their disease, pursuing their addictions into the gates of insanity, the collapse of health and ul...

Phil · Phil

Deep meaningLiving a life with deep passion means living a life with deep meaning. It may very well be those precise areas of your life where you have endured great hardship, and became determined to turn it around, that you find you can share the same with others. Then you are a beacon of hop...

Idealsummerluv · Idealsummerluv

Hello, Grateful member of alanon. What concerns me right now is my 14 year old daughter. Last year she ended up in counselling due to a prank at school. It went thru the court system. She had to meet with a probation officer and was ordered counselli...

Robinks · Robinks

come back, can't believe i missed you, I am in the chat room

omajoy · omajoy

Trouble and turmoil always happen to me on Saturday or Sunday. Today was no exception. My personal calendar is full of the letter "T" on many many dates....a symbol of problems with my son. I am trying so hard to detach with love. I have set boundaries which he does not respect. I have repeatedly told him...

lumin · lumin

I'm just coming to terms with the fact that my husband is an alcoholic. He had a DUI four years ago, dealt with it (apparently), but drove home drunk last week. He admitted later that he's been drinking without my knowledge for quite some time. He went to AA and seems to be doing and saying the right things...

maresie2 · maresie2

This week I was with the A as he drove one of his cars which he has destroyed in his rage athon driving craziness. It is a new car. He has destroyed the steering by crashing it into a hill, he has destroyed the transmission in record time. He cant afford to have it fixed. When he fi...

ShelBell · ShelBell

Do I have to re-register to use the step work board? My log-in is not being accepted. Thanks Michelle

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

When someone asks me how many siblings I have, I say 1 sister and 3 brothers. My brothers are my half brothers from previous marriages of my parents. My sister and I did not grow up with them. Periodically, two of them would come live us. My youngest brother...what I think is m...

Jill · Jill

Hi TT - in an earlier post you said you like hearing that you have helped. Oh my! One night I was fussing about my A and how AWFUL he talks to his Dad, and you said you used to have the same reaction to your A and how he spoke to his father. Then one time your FIL didn’t know you were there, and he sp...

Phil · Phil

One of the most frustrating stages of acceptance is the bargaining stage. In denial, there is bliss. In anger, there is some sense of power. In barraging, we vacillate between believing there is something we can do to change things and realizing there isn't. We may get our hopes up again and again, o...

marmare · marmare

Okay so I got a letter from the Candy Company, I didn't get the job. I started thinking about this last week and decided that Alanon helps in more than just dealing with my A. I thought about "what if I don't get this job?" "I really want this job" "I should have this job" then I realized what...

nmike · nmike

Hi friends, My son, the soldier, is home from a year overseas. I am so happy and relieved. This was his third time in combat. He asked that we not travel to his homecoming. As difficult as that was we honored his request. He called last night. Let's say he didn't call from a "church". He sounded so happy a...

jaja · jaja

........... Is it better to make amends verbally? I can list the people I feel I need to make amends to but am leery about saying anything to them especially because I am good at not saying what I mean the right way. So far, I feel better just being a better person, being kinder to these...

Newme · Newme

Hello...I had one the worst nights of my life last night...I was cleaning and cooking...I really love cooking and enjoy it so much..I was doing fine on my own...suddenly my A husband showed up with so much love and passion and was insisting to take me out (of course he had drinks bef...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I spoke with hubby on Monday and he asked me to find him a flight home because he was breaking contract and wanted to come home. At the time he told me that it was becasue the company lied to him about the ammount of income he was bringing in. I couldn't find him a flight home, all the flights leavi...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I have been drafted into doing a workshop on the God Box this next year. I have never been to a workshop on this so I can use all the input I can get. Do you have one? How did you make it? Have you ever attended a workshop on this and if so please share with me how it was done. I appreciate...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am sick to my stomach the A is missing. He took off with the truck. No one has seen him or so they say. He is upset over numerous issues. So am I. In some ways I hate to say this I feel like he is dead already. He doesn't care about anything or anyone or his actions. He may ha...

nycbt · nycbt

My husband has found out that he has Hepatitis C, and yesterday I had to get tested. Can some of the people out here if u have experience what this is like can u pls give me some information. At this time I am very nervous about what the test are going to say. I doubt i have it is a slim chance however i am still...

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	Pain (Preview) Each of us struggles with pain and its repercussions; some of us more than others. At times pain seems unending. Sometimes we hang onto the pain in our lives, maybe because we fear even more what's on the other side. The unknown so easily controls us. Right at this moment, each of us can look back on other...	Phil	2	388	Nov 8, 2006 by Lunamoth
	I am sooo angry...can't stop crying (Preview) Hi (((((((friends)))))) I am soooooo MAD. This morning it all came to the surface and pouring out.I am angry that I have to give up my house and everything I have worked for.I am angry that I will have to live in an apartment and listen to noisey neighbors.That I will have to buy a better car and pay for...	drucilla06	15	648	Nov 8, 2006 by Jill
	Help I have fallen and I can't get up (Preview) I have been told that I have a very strong program but right now, I really don’t think I do. I can talk the talk but walking the walk seems to be a different story with me. I’m falling deeper and deeper into a depression. Everything seems to be crashing down around me. I can’t seem to get my feelings...	shadow1	15	652	Nov 8, 2006 by shadow1
	How things came to be... (Preview) How Things came to be.. My whole world is torn apart because you left me with a broken heart I thought you loved me, I thought you cared I knew that you despised me from the look you gave me,and the way you stared Do you ever wonder about me? Or how things came to be? Well, I am older now and I truly cannot thank...	Lauren ashley	7	489	Nov 8, 2006 by Rita G
	Not my business???... (Preview) (((Everyone))) Trying to move forward, WAS trying to focus on me after AH's third DUI last weekend. Well, I slipped and what did I do, looked at the cell phone bill again. I was deliberately not looking at it because AH had been talking to someone this year when we separated and thought t...	hersh	4	423	Nov 8, 2006 by Rita G
	Slowly but surely.... (Preview)     I	afmom03	1	345	Nov 8, 2006 by Rita G
	HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH DISAPPOINTMENT? (Preview) Living with active alcoholism challenges us daily to deal with disappointment time and time again. Our expectations of another seem to toss us into dispair when it does not go according to what we think is right. We get sick. We lose faith in ourselves to help another and our self esteem plummet...	gardengal	10	1805	Nov 8, 2006 by Rita G
	Getting Thru (Preview) Hello Friends, As I sit here thinking about the craziness I have been thru these past days and weeks and months....and if I think about it these years......anyway, I am thankful.....I have two great kids....a beautiful 16 yr old daughter who loves life and is full of sunshine.....a wonderful so...	Andrea12	10	388	Nov 8, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Don't fear tomorrow...HP is already there! (Preview) I have been worried a lot lately and a saw a sign on a church as I was driving to a F2F meeting. "Don't fear tomorrow. God is already there." I didn't want to offend anyone so I changed God to HP. Anyway. I am six months pregnant now and looking forward to the birth of our daughter. My ex returned...	Powerless	5	485	Nov 8, 2006 by maire rua
	From C2C - November 7 (Preview) -- Edited by tea2 at 00:15, 2006-11-08	Gailey	6	517	Nov 8, 2006 by tea2
	Feeling good (Preview) My AH will have 3 months sober tomorrow, the 9th. It has been quite an adjustment for me, as for a long time I couldn't see why I needed this program. All the reasons people told me I should be here didn't seem to apply, as I didn't blame myself or have low self-esteem and a myriad...	ShelBell	2	280	Nov 8, 2006 by kabbie
	Afraid (Preview) Hi, My 18mo old son's father and I are separated, and last weekend he invited me over for dinner and when I got there he was completely drunk (I posted a couple days ago about that). He has our son on the weekends and because of my concerns about his behaviour when he drinks I have a parentin...	mama_nz	7	343	Nov 8, 2006 by Gailey
	Owning up to my mistakes.... (Preview) Months ago before taking care of mom, I gave my work # to one on my husbands buddies. He called me at work and wanted my email and other phone #'s. I gave him my email. We exchange pretty explict emails for a couple months and then not for a while, then a bit more. He is always wanti...	marmare	5	477	Nov 8, 2006 by hudsond
	Really REally Really bad day! (Preview) Well today was the day from HELL. A called all night and I didn't answer and then started up again this morning. Answered the 2nd call and made up an excuse about the battery being dead... He seemed ok. Then later he called and I was busy and he said I am filing for divorce and I want joint custody and I'm not p...	carolinagirl	8	437	Nov 8, 2006 by Powerless
	i am miserable (Preview) i suppose i am choosing to be miserable. i am letting my ex ah knock down all of my boundries and that feels really awful. it just occured to me today that my father is never comming back (he died in may and i was there, it was cancer and not exactly sudden). but until today i think i really believed he was just...	serendipity	6	395	Nov 8, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Recovery (Preview) I attended a committee meeting yesterday for a retreat and one of the women shared something that made so much sense to me. "Recovery takes a very long time, it's like being kicked to death by a rabbit".	Mobirdie	2	333	Nov 7, 2006 by peewee
	New here -Is walking out enabling them? (Preview) Hi, new here so sorry if I cover any old ground or anything like that.. I have a dillemma, and would appreciate some advice please! My partner is the drinker. We have been separated for the last 10 months, and have an 18 mo old son who is in my day-to-day care. It was my birthday on Friday and my...	mama_nz	8	484	Nov 7, 2006 by mama_nz
	Are they all so inwardly involved? (Preview) So many times I attempt to have a discussion with my A about how I am feeling, how he is feeling, etc. The minute I begin to talk about inner feelings, he changes the subject. I mean REALLY changes the subject!! He will answer with something like, "Look how the dog is lying on his bed with all his feet in the a...	Diva	15	652	Nov 7, 2006 by athena12
	RTexas??? (Preview) Tex, Just wondering if you are okay, ya know with the sacrificing live chickens and turtles butts stuff.... lilms	lilms	1	312	Nov 7, 2006 by rtexas
	AA and active drinking (Preview) My A will not go to meetings or call on sober people if he is drinking. He says it is a respect issue. I don't know AA's stance on this. Those I've spoken to say it is a personal choice. He stops drinking, goes to meetings but doesn't do the work, and eventually starts drinking agai...	shauna27	7	443	Nov 7, 2006 by barisax
	Just two choices (Preview) I think I am onto something today.. I have just two choices...accept the fact that my husband is an alcoholic which means I will never come first and at any time he will decide not to come home, that I need to detach and not take it personal OR end the marriage. Seems so simple...I think my pro...	Elizabeth M	11	589	Nov 7, 2006 by freyja
	Do you do things for you.... really? (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) When you are doing things, for yourself, to satisfy your needs .... do they? Are you satisfied when you are done? Do you get that sigh of relief and feel grateful for it? Over the last few months, I have done things "for me", but what that meant was in spite of...	rtexas	7	545	Nov 7, 2006 by Barbara
	Newbie (Preview) Hi, I'm Shauna and I'm new here. I've been with my A for 3 years but we've known each other forever. He's been going to AA for years but never does the work and hasn't managed to stay sober for more than a month. We've split several times as a result of the chaos. The last time was t...	shauna27	12	434	Nov 7, 2006 by nycbt
	A Borrow and Share (Preview) When I "Let Go and Let God," I think more clearly and wisely. Without having to think about it, I quickly let go of things that cause me immediate pain and discomfort. Because I find it hard to let go of the kind of worrisome thoughts and attitudes that cause me immense anguish, all I need do during those ti...	Phil	2	348	Nov 7, 2006 by kabbie
	Hubby not drinking (for now) (Preview) It's been almost 2 weeks since hubby had a beer! Oct. 26, I had a good day. Had my appt with my C.H.A.D. counselor (Confidential help for alcohol & drugs it is an agency that offers professional outpatient counseling for addicts and thier families) Then went to work for 1/2 a night, left...	horselover58	2	391	Nov 7, 2006 by horselover58
	Something of an introduction (Preview) I found your Web site a few weeks ago, and have attended a few meetings now. At first I felt really awkward and out of place (I am a newcomer to Al-Anon), but that changed during yesterday morning's meeting. For whatever reason, the people in that room were suddenly transformed from anonymous words on a...	ZMrE2Me	6	509	Nov 7, 2006 by nycbt
	A different way (Preview) Last night my A and I had a disagreement. He is still drinking but not using cocaine, I don't think he has used in months. He has changed. He doesn't know within himself what has caused the change; I don't try to figure it out. I thought maybe it was my mother's death, or that I...	marmare	3	383	Nov 7, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Ummmmm, how much to buy my own plane? (Preview) Hi all, Hubby just called. He is number 90 something on the standby list. His ticket date is for 12/04/06. The problem is that he is on a tiny island, Dutch Harbor, and he isn't the only fisherman/crabber waiting to get home. And to top it off, there aren't alot of flights coing in and outa Dutch daily...	Dolphin123	6	472	Nov 7, 2006 by ally
	An Update (Preview) (((MIP Family))) Its been a while since I've posted anything, just been reading posts and responding when I feel I have something to contribute. Sometimes I feel like I need to just watch, listen, and observe so that growth or understanding can happen. Lately things have been good ev...	twinmom2	4	322	Nov 7, 2006 by Lauren ashley
	A's are so cunning yet predictable (Preview) My A has been out of my home for 3 weeks today. I asked him to go to detox, rehab and begin a sober life Or move out. So, he went to live with a fellow A while his wife was away on business. Well she came back yesterday and behold my A just misses me so much! He called yesterday and said he needed to see the do...	kicky	8	500	Nov 6, 2006 by Noni
	can't turn the tears off today (Preview) i am powerless over this disease. there. i said it.	kabbie	8	536	Nov 6, 2006 by Noni
	Missing the way it was (Preview) Hello all, These really early mornings are difficult - dark, sleepy, not truly rested I've never been a morning person and since "this" started mornings are even harder. But this morning I ironed fabric and cut pieces for a quilt I have planned, been quite a while since I've tried to be creative, h...	Orchid Lady	6	380	Nov 6, 2006 by nmike
	A test of really staying out of his business (Preview) My co-worker just found out a web site that you could access that is for public knoweledge. She put her son's name in there. Her son does not have any problems that she knows of. Married, 3 children, nice home and good job. Lo and behold...he was arrested for dui in April. I wanted to put my A son's name in so...	Gailey	7	499	Nov 6, 2006 by lin0606
	husband home from rehab today (Preview) I knew this was going to be a tough day, but I really am having a hard time. He just came out of a 28 day program, and is really freaking out about being on his own. He went out to a meeting a few minutes ago, but really couldn't calm down until he left. I don't know if he doubts his willpower, or if it is totally no...	krusland	7	457	Nov 6, 2006 by hudsond
	Desperately seeking...... (Preview) Peace, Love, calm in the storm, happiness, a content feeling, and hopeful... This has been an terrible week.. My husband of nearly 20 years and I have been seperated for over 7 weeks and it isnt getting easier. Since I kicked him out he got a DUI and is not drinking ( thats good, right ??) Well, It is...	Tammy	4	345	Nov 6, 2006 by Rita G
	His Loss (Preview) I keep thinking about my perspective ever since I was young I was always afraid I was going to miss something. I carry that now when living off sheer hope that the A will get better. I see now it's the same thing. I want my brain to realize that the only thing I'm missing is more of the sam...	carolinagirl	4	386	Nov 6, 2006 by Tiger2006
	looking for a sponsor (Preview) I am looking for a new sponsor. I want to believe the steps will help me out of the stuff I am in. I have good days and tremendously bad days. I also have a resolve that I will not allow the A's addiction to destroy me. I know it has come close. I hope someone will volunteer. I could even go with a tempor...	maresie2	2	322	Nov 6, 2006 by nycbt
	So So Weekend (Preview) The A came over on Friday stayed the nite and then left Sat. I think he's been out drinking since but don't know. I started to get irritated. I don't like not knowing what's going on and having him not answer the phone. Why can't I just stop caring about what he does and not see it as my problem. I realize my fi...	carolinagirl	3	330	Nov 6, 2006 by Rita G
	Small pleasures (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) My day started with thinking that my cat had peed on my dogs blanket in revenge. I was so mad as I was cleaning it up. Then I felt a drip hit the back of my head. I have a leak in the roof -- here is where I should have stayed on my knees and just prayed. I d...	Lunamoth	6	329	Nov 6, 2006 by Rita G
	Please - let's all focus on recovery (Preview) Folks.... the good of this site FAR outweighs any of the bad. For all of our sakes, can we please get the focus back onto recovery, supporting each other, and loving and caring for one another. Choosing sides in personal fights do us NO good, and they take away from the primary aim and goal o...	canadianguy	7	558	Nov 6, 2006 by thinkstoomuch
	speak up, or keep quiet w/ sober A? (Preview) So, for years, I stuffed my feelings - practically a prerequisite to being in Alanon. I didn't even really understand that feeling wasn't the same as thinking. I'm slowly starting to learn different. When my A got sober 2½ years ago, and I then got into Alanon, I often just bit my tongue because I co...	thinkstoomuch	8	633	Nov 6, 2006 by thinkstoomuch
	A Share From The AA Board (Preview) Denial Ain't a River in Egypt. Denial is the PRIMARY psychological symptom of addiction. It is an automatic and unconscious component of addictions. Addicts are often the last to recognize their disease, pursuing their addictions into the gates of insanity, the collapse of health and ul...	Phil	3	550	Nov 6, 2006 by carosie
	Have a good day.... (Preview) Deep meaningLiving a life with deep passion means living a life with deep meaning. It may very well be those precise areas of your life where you have endured great hardship, and became determined to turn it around, that you find you can share the same with others. Then you are a beacon of hop...	Phil	0	371	Nov 6, 2006 by Phil
	Realization (Preview) Hello, Grateful member of alanon. What concerns me right now is my 14 year old daughter. Last year she ended up in counselling due to a prank at school. It went thru the court system. She had to meet with a probation officer and was ordered counselli...	Idealsummerluv	6	405	Nov 6, 2006 by Idealsummerluv
	Lani (Preview) come back, can't believe i missed you, I am in the chat room	Robinks	0	298	Nov 6, 2006 by Robinks
	turmoil/indecision (Preview) Trouble and turmoil always happen to me on Saturday or Sunday. Today was no exception. My personal calendar is full of the letter "T" on many many dates....a symbol of problems with my son. I am trying so hard to detach with love. I have set boundaries which he does not respect. I have repeatedly told him...	omajoy	8	502	Nov 6, 2006 by omajoy
	New at This (Preview) I'm just coming to terms with the fact that my husband is an alcoholic. He had a DUI four years ago, dealt with it (apparently), but drove home drunk last week. He admitted later that he's been drinking without my knowledge for quite some time. He went to AA and seems to be doing and saying the right things...	lumin	10	415	Nov 5, 2006 by lumin
	Seeing my part (Preview) This week I was with the A as he drove one of his cars which he has destroyed in his rage athon driving craziness. It is a new car. He has destroyed the steering by crashing it into a hill, he has destroyed the transmission in record time. He cant afford to have it fixed. When he fi...	maresie2	0	414	Nov 5, 2006 by tiredtonite
	I have a ????? (Preview) Do I have to re-register to use the step work board? My log-in is not being accepted. Thanks Michelle	ShelBell	1	317	Nov 5, 2006 by Diva
	Long Lost Brother Surfaces (Preview) When someone asks me how many siblings I have, I say 1 sister and 3 brothers. My brothers are my half brothers from previous marriages of my parents. My sister and I did not grow up with them. Periodically, two of them would come live us. My youngest brother...what I think is m...	ZiggyDoodles	3	527	Nov 5, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	TiredTonight (Preview) Hi TT - in an earlier post you said you like hearing that you have helped. Oh my! One night I was fussing about my A and how AWFUL he talks to his Dad, and you said you used to have the same reaction to your A and how he spoke to his father. Then one time your FIL didn’t know you were there, and he sp...	Jill	0	344	Nov 5, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Sharing part of an article on Acceptance (Preview) One of the most frustrating stages of acceptance is the bargaining stage. In denial, there is bliss. In anger, there is some sense of power. In barraging, we vacillate between believing there is something we can do to change things and realizing there isn't. We may get our hopes up again and again, o...	Phil	5	396	Nov 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	Didn't get the job (Preview) Okay so I got a letter from the Candy Company, I didn't get the job. I started thinking about this last week and decided that Alanon helps in more than just dealing with my A. I thought about "what if I don't get this job?" "I really want this job" "I should have this job" then I realized what...	marmare	8	560	Nov 5, 2006 by tiredtonite
	My son is home! (Preview) Hi friends, My son, the soldier, is home from a year overseas. I am so happy and relieved. This was his third time in combat. He asked that we not travel to his homecoming. As difficult as that was we honored his request. He called last night. Let's say he didn't call from a "church". He sounded so happy a...	nmike	8	385	Nov 5, 2006 by Mobirdie
	question about amends (Preview) ........... Is it better to make amends verbally? I can list the people I feel I need to make amends to but am leery about saying anything to them especially because I am good at not saying what I mean the right way. So far, I feel better just being a better person, being kinder to these...	jaja	5	592	Nov 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	My Sad weekend (Preview) Hello...I had one the worst nights of my life last night...I was cleaning and cooking...I really love cooking and enjoy it so much..I was doing fine on my own...suddenly my A husband showed up with so much love and passion and was insisting to take me out (of course he had drinks bef...	Newme	9	497	Nov 5, 2006 by twinkie
	Hubby Coming home, he could have lost his life (Preview) Hi all, I spoke with hubby on Monday and he asked me to find him a flight home because he was breaking contract and wanted to come home. At the time he told me that it was becasue the company lied to him about the ammount of income he was bringing in. I couldn't find him a flight home, all the flights leavi...	Dolphin123	7	497	Nov 5, 2006 by ET
	God Box (Preview) I have been drafted into doing a workshop on the God Box this next year. I have never been to a workshop on this so I can use all the input I can get. Do you have one? How did you make it? Have you ever attended a workshop on this and if so please share with me how it was done. I appreciate...	Mobirdie	4	1253	Nov 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	sick to my stomach (Preview) I am sick to my stomach the A is missing. He took off with the truck. No one has seen him or so they say. He is upset over numerous issues. So am I. In some ways I hate to say this I feel like he is dead already. He doesn't care about anything or anyone or his actions. He may ha...	maresie2	10	622	Nov 5, 2006 by Idealsummerluv
	about me (Preview) My husband has found out that he has Hepatitis C, and yesterday I had to get tested. Can some of the people out here if u have experience what this is like can u pls give me some information. At this time I am very nervous about what the test are going to say. I doubt i have it is a slim chance however i am still...	nycbt	10	377	Nov 5, 2006 by ally
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