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Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((((Everyone))))) My day started with thinking that my cat had peed on my dogs blanket in revenge. I was so mad as I was cleaning it up. Then I felt a drip hit the back of my head. I have a leak in the roof -- here is where I should have stayed on my knees and just prayed. I d...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Folks.... the good of this site FAR outweighs any of the bad. For all of our sakes, can we please get the focus back onto recovery, supporting each other, and loving and caring for one another. Choosing sides in personal fights do us NO good, and they take away from the primary aim and goal o...

thinkstoomuch · thinkstoomuch

So, for years, I stuffed my feelings - practically a prerequisite to being in Alanon. I didn't even really understand that feeling wasn't the same as thinking. I'm slowly starting to learn different. When my A got sober 2½ years ago, and I then got into Alanon, I often just bit my tongue because I co...

Phil · Phil

Denial Ain't a River in Egypt. Denial is the PRIMARY psychological symptom of addiction. It is an automatic and unconscious component of addictions. Addicts are often the last to recognize their disease, pursuing their addictions into the gates of insanity, the collapse of health and ul...

Phil · Phil

Deep meaningLiving a life with deep passion means living a life with deep meaning. It may very well be those precise areas of your life where you have endured great hardship, and became determined to turn it around, that you find you can share the same with others. Then you are a beacon of hop...

Idealsummerluv · Idealsummerluv

Hello, Grateful member of alanon. What concerns me right now is my 14 year old daughter. Last year she ended up in counselling due to a prank at school. It went thru the court system. She had to meet with a probation officer and was ordered counselli...

Robinks · Robinks

come back, can't believe i missed you, I am in the chat room

omajoy · omajoy

Trouble and turmoil always happen to me on Saturday or Sunday. Today was no exception. My personal calendar is full of the letter "T" on many many dates....a symbol of problems with my son. I am trying so hard to detach with love. I have set boundaries which he does not respect. I have repeatedly told him...

lumin · lumin

I'm just coming to terms with the fact that my husband is an alcoholic. He had a DUI four years ago, dealt with it (apparently), but drove home drunk last week. He admitted later that he's been drinking without my knowledge for quite some time. He went to AA and seems to be doing and saying the right things...

maresie2 · maresie2

This week I was with the A as he drove one of his cars which he has destroyed in his rage athon driving craziness. It is a new car. He has destroyed the steering by crashing it into a hill, he has destroyed the transmission in record time. He cant afford to have it fixed. When he fi...

ShelBell · ShelBell

Do I have to re-register to use the step work board? My log-in is not being accepted. Thanks Michelle

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

When someone asks me how many siblings I have, I say 1 sister and 3 brothers. My brothers are my half brothers from previous marriages of my parents. My sister and I did not grow up with them. Periodically, two of them would come live us. My youngest brother...what I think is m...

Jill · Jill

Hi TT - in an earlier post you said you like hearing that you have helped. Oh my! One night I was fussing about my A and how AWFUL he talks to his Dad, and you said you used to have the same reaction to your A and how he spoke to his father. Then one time your FIL didn’t know you were there, and he sp...

Phil · Phil

One of the most frustrating stages of acceptance is the bargaining stage. In denial, there is bliss. In anger, there is some sense of power. In barraging, we vacillate between believing there is something we can do to change things and realizing there isn't. We may get our hopes up again and again, o...

marmare · marmare

Okay so I got a letter from the Candy Company, I didn't get the job. I started thinking about this last week and decided that Alanon helps in more than just dealing with my A. I thought about "what if I don't get this job?" "I really want this job" "I should have this job" then I realized what...

nmike · nmike

Hi friends, My son, the soldier, is home from a year overseas. I am so happy and relieved. This was his third time in combat. He asked that we not travel to his homecoming. As difficult as that was we honored his request. He called last night. Let's say he didn't call from a "church". He sounded so happy a...

jaja · jaja

........... Is it better to make amends verbally? I can list the people I feel I need to make amends to but am leery about saying anything to them especially because I am good at not saying what I mean the right way. So far, I feel better just being a better person, being kinder to these...

Newme · Newme

Hello...I had one the worst nights of my life last night...I was cleaning and cooking...I really love cooking and enjoy it so much..I was doing fine on my own...suddenly my A husband showed up with so much love and passion and was insisting to take me out (of course he had drinks bef...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I spoke with hubby on Monday and he asked me to find him a flight home because he was breaking contract and wanted to come home. At the time he told me that it was becasue the company lied to him about the ammount of income he was bringing in. I couldn't find him a flight home, all the flights leavi...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I have been drafted into doing a workshop on the God Box this next year. I have never been to a workshop on this so I can use all the input I can get. Do you have one? How did you make it? Have you ever attended a workshop on this and if so please share with me how it was done. I appreciate...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am sick to my stomach the A is missing. He took off with the truck. No one has seen him or so they say. He is upset over numerous issues. So am I. In some ways I hate to say this I feel like he is dead already. He doesn't care about anything or anyone or his actions. He may ha...

nycbt · nycbt

My husband has found out that he has Hepatitis C, and yesterday I had to get tested. Can some of the people out here if u have experience what this is like can u pls give me some information. At this time I am very nervous about what the test are going to say. I doubt i have it is a slim chance however i am still...

twinkie · twinkie

The attorney investigating my As child custody case just left... I answered his questions honestly and from the heart but so wanted to share more and kept my mouth shut when he said the A hasn't drank in 3 years besides the relapse in August (when I knew he had been drinking a weekend in April as well.&nbs...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

In my 9th step, I learned how to apologize. I learned how to voice exactly what it was I was apologizing for. I was dishonest with you in the fact that I told you this……but, yet did this instead. I was inconsiderate of your feelings in order to gain……for myself. &nb...

John · John

"Not every decision is a good one, just because I made it" "What is most important, the intentions someone has or the results that materialize?" These are quotes from my sponsor who I spoke with at length today. I remember the first time I sat in front of what was then called a Computer. It w...

hersh · hersh

(((Happy Friday Everyone)))) I have been kind of in a calm place lately after a chaotic weekend, and thinking about what makes me happy and calm. I would love to see all of your joys, whether they be memories or something in the present. Here are a few of mine (I guess they ended up being mo...

athena12 · athena12

Dear MIP friends, John's post down below reminded me of this quote. " Why is it that the takers of this world always seem to find the givers?" These wise words were said by a dear friend of mine many years ago when we both worked together at a center for survivors of domestic violenc...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Want an example of a strange 24 hours. Starting at 5:30pm yesterday I had a conversation with my AW. We are seperated for 2 weeks now and she is getting a little beligerant about how it is not right that we are apart. That I am doing this to her and she is pissed that...

Barbara · Barbara

I hate them! I get like this every year and I hate them!

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Another weekend dawns, and I found myself singing (badly) my song for the weekend. 70 MPH on the freeway on the way to work... windows down, drowning out the sound of the other cars and trucks.... Thought you might want to sing along .... Take care of you! "It's My Life...

Christy · Christy

lilms!!!!!! Happy 6 mo. birthday to you...Happy 6 mo. birthday to youuuuu.. Hope you have a wonderful day!! Christy -- Edited by Christy at 18:20, 2006-11-03

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

A Promise I would do anything to prove my love to you I would climb a mountain or even change my name if it would just take away your pain I love you mom with all of my heart I just cannot understand why you would intentionally tear us apart I only wanted a mom Someone to tell me everythi...

Noni · Noni

Even though I have distanced myself from the active As in my life...I realized that all my life I have been not really living. I've been watching the world go by, because I have always put my life on hold because I didn't know what the members of my sick family were going to do. I find that I'm always waiti...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I have had a few bumps in my road this week. So I put them on paper, was going to keep it for me but felt the need to share it: My recovery by DO When I entered this program I felt alone, lost and afraid. I knew something inside me had finally frayed. I felt the world around me become d...

Phil · Phil

You seek comfort by hiding away, but all you get is loneliness. You seek comfort by judging and criticizing others, but all you get is resentment. You seek comfort by striving and acquiring, but all you get is the insecurity of knowing that those things you have will not last. You seek comfort...

twinkie · twinkie

So yesterday I post how I did the right thing and then.....my emotions are all over the place last night. I spoke to the A and was telling him about it and then I went off on an uncontrollable tyriad of how serious this is and he needs to get to AA and I know he's not going like he should and on and on I went naggin...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Every few days, I talk with my 11 year old Son about what is going on with my seperation from his mom. Of course the topic last night was patience. Patience, since Mom is not really doing anything towards her sobriety, but that doesn't mean she won't. Patienc...

lilms · lilms

Good afternoon alanon family, I just wanted to post a note thanking you all for being a part of my "Miracle In progress". Tomorrow is my six month anniversary in alanon, started right here on this page. How cool is that

I have learned much in six months but not nearly enough.&nbs...

kabbie · kabbie

I am sometimes sad and ashamed. I am sometimes afraid or glad. But I am not angry. I am not angry at my A for all the pain she causes, or at myself for how I react. She has a disease. She is doing what she can today to recover from that disease. I am doing what I can today to support her...

Rita G · Rita G

Al-Anon's Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions pg. 15. "Accepting disappointments, often unrelated to alcoholism, with calm poise, saved wear and tear on the nerves, as well as demonstrating our confidence that things ultimately worked out as they were meant to. This was by no means wea...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))), Last year John came up with the wonderful idea of sending Holiday Cards to our MIP family members in the recovery house. It was an incredibly wonderful, magical and loving thing to do for them. I for one felt so good about sending a bit of cheer to some total strang...

serendipity · serendipity

i am not sure what has been going on here while i was on vacation. i knew it....i turn my head for one week and everything gets crazy!!! lol it is so difficult being responsible for the whole world!!! but honestly, this site has been a god send. there have been so many nights when i was so lonely and sad and i c...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Today is my Al-Anon Birthday...i'm graduating from the Terrible Two's into the Tyrannical Three's (teehee). Sooooo.... I wanted to post and pass out some "gifts"... mainly thank you's. Firstly, a big thank you to John for having created this site. 3 years ago when I began my search I needed to ta...

Phil · Phil

Rage is an advanced form of anger, just as panic is to fear, a state in which we are even less in control of our words and behavior. Hate is a condition in which we think very badly of someone, avoid contact with him, and probably wish the worst for him, perhaps even hoping that he might experience a tragedy...

hersh · hersh

(((Hi all))) Tonite AH may or may not go to his 2nd AA meeting - I am going to divert my worrying and my thinking and obsessing about if he is or is not going, what he got out of it, etc. to the following: I am free to do whatever I want tonite I may just go home and watch a movie; I may buy myself some dinne...

Orchid Lady · Orchid Lady

I got really sick 4 months ago - my spirit and mind ganged up on my body and forced me to confront the problems with my marriage. I was swimming in the denial river for quite awhile. H is in midlife crisis and deals with his problems by drinking, staying out to all hours, coming home smelling o...

Gailey · Gailey

think back to last week, last month, last year at what you were doing. ....Last year...Oh my!!! ...I was riding past bars where I thought my A son hung out to see if his car was parked anywhere around them on my way to work in the morning. I would also do that after work. ....

Noni · Noni

I read somewhere - don't remember where - that guilt is a type of fear: of being afraid of living up to someone else's expectations. With that said - I feel guilty that I have no desire to be in touch with my immediate family members anymore (my mother, brother & sister). The guilt came on whe...

Christy · Christy

I recently purchased a video called "The Secret". Right now it can only be purchased on the net. This video is very powerful and is sweeping the internet along with a forum of the same name. This is directly from the CNN Larry King website Thursday's show Change your mind to change your...

Diva · Diva

that sobriety is never forever. This lifelong addiction can be kept at bay for years and years; my own A was sober for 25 years. Sooner or later it will reappear to the devastation of all concerned with the A. My partner is sober today, but he has had several relapses in the past four years. AFTER 25 YEARS S...

butterfly6 · butterfly6

I have been attending meetings sporadically for a little while. The first meetings I think I was drug, kicking and screaming to. Not literally, but I really didn't think I needed it, nor did I have time for it. So, I've been to a few meetings now and am beginning to let g...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

My local newspaper has an article in it's LIFE section about codependency, along with a checklist and some recommended authors and books. I don't know if they'll ask for email and such like that--if so, you may just get to know what's going on in Dayton, OH!

www.daytondailynews.c...

Gailey · Gailey

Loving someone with this illness is the worst thing I have ever gone through I so agree and knowing I am not alone in feeling this way is what is keeping me sane today. (((Heidi)))..thank you! Love.....Gail p.s. There's a special place in heaven fo...

lilms · lilms

Good afternoon my friends, Just a reminder that we are all human first. Disagreements arise, misunderstandings happen yet we all belong to the same family. On that note, I celebrate you all, a part of my family. lilms

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

So my AH came home last night after a week of golf with his buddies. The night before he left for his vacation he came in at 4 AM. Not much of a goodbye for me or our daughter. Well he arrived home on time but not a word about how hurtful his actions were before he left. I was polite an...

allnamesrtaken · allnamesrtaken

How's that for a subject title? I do not know who I am more ticked at right now... myself... or the alcoholic in my life. some history......... My A has been on and off the wagon so much I swear the axles are going to break. He's 36 yrs old... and me being the one who picks up everyones peices and puts them...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi Everyone, Today I am so sad and just need to talk it out really. Last weekend my Abf went on another crazy binge. I was so worried. I tried not to be, but I knew he could end up in real trouble. I worried and I missed him so much. Eventually, he came back full of remorse. I told him I could not live this way any m...

ally · ally

Good Morning People Just a quick reminder of why people come into this chat room. We are all at different stages in our Recovery, No-one is any different in here. Some people can gather the strength quicker than others. But We must ALWAYS remember that this disease causes great pain to everyone...

kabbie · kabbie

We were almost "snowed" by A daughter in rehab. She has been negotiating for a weekend pass, which was granted for upcoming wkend. Started bullying me for rides to and from, money for train, etc. I put my foot down - no train money, and I wasn't ready for her to come home. Meanwhile, she recieved some mone...

barisax · barisax

I mentioned taking an art class when I was going through my divorce... something to throw myself into, new, stimulating. I thought I'd share this funny little story of my first feeling of independence. I pulled up in the parking lot the evening of my class, and called home to check my voice mail. Th...

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	Small pleasures (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) My day started with thinking that my cat had peed on my dogs blanket in revenge. I was so mad as I was cleaning it up. Then I felt a drip hit the back of my head. I have a leak in the roof -- here is where I should have stayed on my knees and just prayed. I d...	Lunamoth	6	256	Nov 6, 2006 by Rita G
	Please - let's all focus on recovery (Preview) Folks.... the good of this site FAR outweighs any of the bad. For all of our sakes, can we please get the focus back onto recovery, supporting each other, and loving and caring for one another. Choosing sides in personal fights do us NO good, and they take away from the primary aim and goal o...	canadianguy	7	489	Nov 6, 2006 by thinkstoomuch
	speak up, or keep quiet w/ sober A? (Preview) So, for years, I stuffed my feelings - practically a prerequisite to being in Alanon. I didn't even really understand that feeling wasn't the same as thinking. I'm slowly starting to learn different. When my A got sober 2½ years ago, and I then got into Alanon, I often just bit my tongue because I co...	thinkstoomuch	8	562	Nov 6, 2006 by thinkstoomuch
	A Share From The AA Board (Preview) Denial Ain't a River in Egypt. Denial is the PRIMARY psychological symptom of addiction. It is an automatic and unconscious component of addictions. Addicts are often the last to recognize their disease, pursuing their addictions into the gates of insanity, the collapse of health and ul...	Phil	3	470	Nov 6, 2006 by carosie
	Have a good day.... (Preview) Deep meaningLiving a life with deep passion means living a life with deep meaning. It may very well be those precise areas of your life where you have endured great hardship, and became determined to turn it around, that you find you can share the same with others. Then you are a beacon of hop...	Phil	0	296	Nov 6, 2006 by Phil
	Realization (Preview) Hello, Grateful member of alanon. What concerns me right now is my 14 year old daughter. Last year she ended up in counselling due to a prank at school. It went thru the court system. She had to meet with a probation officer and was ordered counselli...	Idealsummerluv	6	329	Nov 6, 2006 by Idealsummerluv
	Lani (Preview) come back, can't believe i missed you, I am in the chat room	Robinks	0	223	Nov 6, 2006 by Robinks
	turmoil/indecision (Preview) Trouble and turmoil always happen to me on Saturday or Sunday. Today was no exception. My personal calendar is full of the letter "T" on many many dates....a symbol of problems with my son. I am trying so hard to detach with love. I have set boundaries which he does not respect. I have repeatedly told him...	omajoy	8	428	Nov 6, 2006 by omajoy
	New at This (Preview) I'm just coming to terms with the fact that my husband is an alcoholic. He had a DUI four years ago, dealt with it (apparently), but drove home drunk last week. He admitted later that he's been drinking without my knowledge for quite some time. He went to AA and seems to be doing and saying the right things...	lumin	10	339	Nov 5, 2006 by lumin
	Seeing my part (Preview) This week I was with the A as he drove one of his cars which he has destroyed in his rage athon driving craziness. It is a new car. He has destroyed the steering by crashing it into a hill, he has destroyed the transmission in record time. He cant afford to have it fixed. When he fi...	maresie2	0	338	Nov 5, 2006 by tiredtonite
	I have a ????? (Preview) Do I have to re-register to use the step work board? My log-in is not being accepted. Thanks Michelle	ShelBell	1	240	Nov 5, 2006 by Diva
	Long Lost Brother Surfaces (Preview) When someone asks me how many siblings I have, I say 1 sister and 3 brothers. My brothers are my half brothers from previous marriages of my parents. My sister and I did not grow up with them. Periodically, two of them would come live us. My youngest brother...what I think is m...	ZiggyDoodles	3	443	Nov 5, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	TiredTonight (Preview) Hi TT - in an earlier post you said you like hearing that you have helped. Oh my! One night I was fussing about my A and how AWFUL he talks to his Dad, and you said you used to have the same reaction to your A and how he spoke to his father. Then one time your FIL didn’t know you were there, and he sp...	Jill	0	276	Nov 5, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Sharing part of an article on Acceptance (Preview) One of the most frustrating stages of acceptance is the bargaining stage. In denial, there is bliss. In anger, there is some sense of power. In barraging, we vacillate between believing there is something we can do to change things and realizing there isn't. We may get our hopes up again and again, o...	Phil	5	325	Nov 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	Didn't get the job (Preview) Okay so I got a letter from the Candy Company, I didn't get the job. I started thinking about this last week and decided that Alanon helps in more than just dealing with my A. I thought about "what if I don't get this job?" "I really want this job" "I should have this job" then I realized what...	marmare	8	494	Nov 5, 2006 by tiredtonite
	My son is home! (Preview) Hi friends, My son, the soldier, is home from a year overseas. I am so happy and relieved. This was his third time in combat. He asked that we not travel to his homecoming. As difficult as that was we honored his request. He called last night. Let's say he didn't call from a "church". He sounded so happy a...	nmike	8	313	Nov 5, 2006 by Mobirdie
	question about amends (Preview) ........... Is it better to make amends verbally? I can list the people I feel I need to make amends to but am leery about saying anything to them especially because I am good at not saying what I mean the right way. So far, I feel better just being a better person, being kinder to these...	jaja	5	498	Nov 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	My Sad weekend (Preview) Hello...I had one the worst nights of my life last night...I was cleaning and cooking...I really love cooking and enjoy it so much..I was doing fine on my own...suddenly my A husband showed up with so much love and passion and was insisting to take me out (of course he had drinks bef...	Newme	9	419	Nov 5, 2006 by twinkie
	Hubby Coming home, he could have lost his life (Preview) Hi all, I spoke with hubby on Monday and he asked me to find him a flight home because he was breaking contract and wanted to come home. At the time he told me that it was becasue the company lied to him about the ammount of income he was bringing in. I couldn't find him a flight home, all the flights leavi...	Dolphin123	7	426	Nov 5, 2006 by ET
	God Box (Preview) I have been drafted into doing a workshop on the God Box this next year. I have never been to a workshop on this so I can use all the input I can get. Do you have one? How did you make it? Have you ever attended a workshop on this and if so please share with me how it was done. I appreciate...	Mobirdie	4	1034	Nov 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	sick to my stomach (Preview) I am sick to my stomach the A is missing. He took off with the truck. No one has seen him or so they say. He is upset over numerous issues. So am I. In some ways I hate to say this I feel like he is dead already. He doesn't care about anything or anyone or his actions. He may ha...	maresie2	10	545	Nov 5, 2006 by Idealsummerluv
	about me (Preview) My husband has found out that he has Hepatitis C, and yesterday I had to get tested. Can some of the people out here if u have experience what this is like can u pls give me some information. At this time I am very nervous about what the test are going to say. I doubt i have it is a slim chance however i am still...	nycbt	10	304	Nov 5, 2006 by ally
	I did the right thing.. (Preview) The attorney investigating my As child custody case just left... I answered his questions honestly and from the heart but so wanted to share more and kept my mouth shut when he said the A hasn't drank in 3 years besides the relapse in August (when I knew he had been drinking a weekend in April as well.&nbs...	twinkie	4	364	Nov 4, 2006 by Jerry F
	What my 9&10 step taught me about amends. (Preview) In my 9th step, I learned how to apologize. I learned how to voice exactly what it was I was apologizing for. I was dishonest with you in the fact that I told you this……but, yet did this instead. I was inconsiderate of your feelings in order to gain……for myself. &nb...	ZiggyDoodles	3	493	Nov 4, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Thoughts and Feelings (Preview) "Not every decision is a good one, just because I made it" "What is most important, the intentions someone has or the results that materialize?" These are quotes from my sponsor who I spoke with at length today. I remember the first time I sat in front of what was then called a Computer. It w...	John	24	1266	Nov 4, 2006 by Becky1
	Things that make you happy.... (Preview) (((Happy Friday Everyone)))) I have been kind of in a calm place lately after a chaotic weekend, and thinking about what makes me happy and calm. I would love to see all of your joys, whether they be memories or something in the present. Here are a few of mine (I guess they ended up being mo...	hersh	20	682	Nov 4, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Givers and Takers (Preview) Dear MIP friends, John's post down below reminded me of this quote. " Why is it that the takers of this world always seem to find the givers?" These wise words were said by a dear friend of mine many years ago when we both worked together at a center for survivors of domestic violenc...	athena12	4	577	Nov 4, 2006 by Jennifer
	You are not alone... (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Want an example of a strange 24 hours. Starting at 5:30pm yesterday I had a conversation with my AW. We are seperated for 2 weeks now and she is getting a little beligerant about how it is not right that we are apart. That I am doing this to her and she is pissed that...	rtexas	6	461	Nov 4, 2006 by Jennifer
	anyone else wish it was Jan and holidays were over? (Preview) I hate them! I get like this every year and I hate them!	Barbara	12	436	Nov 4, 2006 by Idealsummerluv
	It's my life (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Another weekend dawns, and I found myself singing (badly) my song for the weekend. 70 MPH on the freeway on the way to work... windows down, drowning out the sound of the other cars and trucks.... Thought you might want to sing along .... Take care of you! "It's My Life...	rtexas	6	395	Nov 4, 2006 by Jennifer
	HAPPY 6 mo. Alanon B-day to.... (Preview) lilms!!!!!! Happy 6 mo. birthday to you...Happy 6 mo. birthday to youuuuu.. Hope you have a wonderful day!! Christy -- Edited by Christy at 18:20, 2006-11-03	Christy	3	332	Nov 4, 2006 by Idealsummerluv
	a poem (Preview) A Promise I would do anything to prove my love to you I would climb a mountain or even change my name if it would just take away your pain I love you mom with all of my heart I just cannot understand why you would intentionally tear us apart I only wanted a mom Someone to tell me everythi...	Lauren ashley	5	247	Nov 4, 2006 by Andrea12
	Watching the world go by (Preview) Even though I have distanced myself from the active As in my life...I realized that all my life I have been not really living. I've been watching the world go by, because I have always put my life on hold because I didn't know what the members of my sick family were going to do. I find that I'm always waiti...	Noni	7	464	Nov 4, 2006 by Noni
	Graditude (Preview) I have had a few bumps in my road this week. So I put them on paper, was going to keep it for me but felt the need to share it: My recovery by DO When I entered this program I felt alone, lost and afraid. I knew something inside me had finally frayed. I felt the world around me become d...	DoN4me	1	226	Nov 4, 2006 by rtexas
	Take Comfort (Preview) You seek comfort by hiding away, but all you get is loneliness. You seek comfort by judging and criticizing others, but all you get is resentment. You seek comfort by striving and acquiring, but all you get is the insecurity of knowing that those things you have will not last. You seek comfort...	Phil	2	350	Nov 3, 2006 by nmike
	struggling today (Preview) So yesterday I post how I did the right thing and then.....my emotions are all over the place last night. I spoke to the A and was telling him about it and then I went off on an uncontrollable tyriad of how serious this is and he needs to get to AA and I know he's not going like he should and on and on I went naggin...	twinkie	5	367	Nov 3, 2006 by Jerry F
	Talk is cheap (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Every few days, I talk with my 11 year old Son about what is going on with my seperation from his mom. Of course the topic last night was patience. Patience, since Mom is not really doing anything towards her sobriety, but that doesn't mean she won't. Patienc...	rtexas	10	401	Nov 3, 2006 by barisax
	6 Month Anniversary (Preview) Good afternoon alanon family, I just wanted to post a note thanking you all for being a part of my "Miracle In progress". Tomorrow is my six month anniversary in alanon, started right here on this page. How cool is that I have learned much in six months but not nearly enough.&nbs...	lilms	6	328	Nov 3, 2006 by Karilynn
	I am not angry (Preview) I am sometimes sad and ashamed. I am sometimes afraid or glad. But I am not angry. I am not angry at my A for all the pain she causes, or at myself for how I react. She has a disease. She is doing what she can today to recover from that disease. I am doing what I can today to support her...	kabbie	3	259	Nov 3, 2006 by hersh
	Calm Poise (Preview) Al-Anon's Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions pg. 15. "Accepting disappointments, often unrelated to alcoholism, with calm poise, saved wear and tear on the nerves, as well as demonstrating our confidence that things ultimately worked out as they were meant to. This was by no means wea...	Rita G	2	324	Nov 3, 2006 by rtexas
	MIP Holiday Cards (Preview) ((((((((Family))))), Last year John came up with the wonderful idea of sending Holiday Cards to our MIP family members in the recovery house. It was an incredibly wonderful, magical and loving thing to do for them. I for one felt so good about sending a bit of cheer to some total strang...	Karilynn	8	422	Nov 3, 2006 by Becky1
	just some gratitude (Preview) i am not sure what has been going on here while i was on vacation. i knew it....i turn my head for one week and everything gets crazy!!! lol it is so difficult being responsible for the whole world!!! but honestly, this site has been a god send. there have been so many nights when i was so lonely and sad and i c...	serendipity	2	245	Nov 3, 2006 by hersh
	Al-Anon Birthday Gifts (Preview) Today is my Al-Anon Birthday...i'm graduating from the Terrible Two's into the Tyrannical Three's (teehee). Sooooo.... I wanted to post and pass out some "gifts"... mainly thank you's. Firstly, a big thank you to John for having created this site. 3 years ago when I began my search I needed to ta...	kismetstrand	11	506	Nov 3, 2006 by tea2
	Anyone going through rage and anger? (Preview) Rage is an advanced form of anger, just as panic is to fear, a state in which we are even less in control of our words and behavior. Hate is a condition in which we think very badly of someone, avoid contact with him, and probably wish the worst for him, perhaps even hoping that he might experience a tragedy...	Phil	4	427	Nov 3, 2006 by carosie
	Healthy thinking.... (Preview) (((Hi all))) Tonite AH may or may not go to his 2nd AA meeting - I am going to divert my worrying and my thinking and obsessing about if he is or is not going, what he got out of it, etc. to the following: I am free to do whatever I want tonite I may just go home and watch a movie; I may buy myself some dinne...	hersh	6	396	Nov 3, 2006 by annmarie
	Dealing with my physical problems also (Preview) I got really sick 4 months ago - my spirit and mind ganged up on my body and forced me to confront the problems with my marriage. I was swimming in the denial river for quite awhile. H is in midlife crisis and deals with his problems by drinking, staying out to all hours, coming home smelling o...	Orchid Lady	7	363	Nov 3, 2006 by Noni
	when you think you are not recovering.... (Preview) think back to last week, last month, last year at what you were doing. ....Last year...Oh my!!! ...I was riding past bars where I thought my A son hung out to see if his car was parked anywhere around them on my way to work in the morning. I would also do that after work. ....	Gailey	6	349	Nov 3, 2006 by Noni
	Guilt (Preview) I read somewhere - don't remember where - that guilt is a type of fear: of being afraid of living up to someone else's expectations. With that said - I feel guilty that I have no desire to be in touch with my immediate family members anymore (my mother, brother & sister). The guilt came on whe...	Noni	4	262	Nov 3, 2006 by Noni
	Positive Thinking (Preview) I recently purchased a video called "The Secret". Right now it can only be purchased on the net. This video is very powerful and is sweeping the internet along with a forum of the same name. This is directly from the CNN Larry King website Thursday's show Change your mind to change your...	Christy	3	306	Nov 2, 2006 by just me
	Iam convinced... (Preview) that sobriety is never forever. This lifelong addiction can be kept at bay for years and years; my own A was sober for 25 years. Sooner or later it will reappear to the devastation of all concerned with the A. My partner is sober today, but he has had several relapses in the past four years. AFTER 25 YEARS S...	Diva	12	594	Nov 2, 2006 by snoopy
	Recovery (Preview) I have been attending meetings sporadically for a little while. The first meetings I think I was drug, kicking and screaming to. Not literally, but I really didn't think I needed it, nor did I have time for it. So, I've been to a few meetings now and am beginning to let g...	butterfly6	8	436	Nov 2, 2006 by butterfly6
	Codependcy article (Preview) My local newspaper has an article in it's LIFE section about codependency, along with a checklist and some recommended authors and books. I don't know if they'll ask for email and such like that--if so, you may just get to know what's going on in Dayton, OH! www.daytondailynews.c...	Tiger2006	4	334	Nov 2, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Heidi wrote....................... (Preview) Loving someone with this illness is the worst thing I have ever gone through I so agree and knowing I am not alone in feeling this way is what is keeping me sane today. (((Heidi)))..thank you! Love.....Gail p.s. There's a special place in heaven fo...	Gailey	1	283	Nov 2, 2006 by hersh
	Human First (Preview) Good afternoon my friends, Just a reminder that we are all human first. Disagreements arise, misunderstandings happen yet we all belong to the same family. On that note, I celebrate you all, a part of my family. lilms	lilms	1	330	Nov 2, 2006 by canadianguy
	Back from vacation (Preview) So my AH came home last night after a week of golf with his buddies. The night before he left for his vacation he came in at 4 AM. Not much of a goodbye for me or our daughter. Well he arrived home on time but not a word about how hurtful his actions were before he left. I was polite an...	Elizabeth M	3	248	Nov 2, 2006 by Lunamoth
	So the ambulance just left... (Preview) How's that for a subject title? I do not know who I am more ticked at right now... myself... or the alcoholic in my life. some history......... My A has been on and off the wagon so much I swear the axles are going to break. He's 36 yrs old... and me being the one who picks up everyones peices and puts them...	allnamesrtaken	12	453	Nov 2, 2006 by hersh
	wisdom to know the difference (Preview) Hi Everyone, Today I am so sad and just need to talk it out really. Last weekend my Abf went on another crazy binge. I was so worried. I tried not to be, but I knew he could end up in real trouble. I worried and I missed him so much. Eventually, he came back full of remorse. I told him I could not live this way any m...	annmarie	6	377	Nov 2, 2006 by hersh
	PLEASE REMEMBER PEOPLE ARE HURTING (Preview) Good Morning People Just a quick reminder of why people come into this chat room. We are all at different stages in our Recovery, No-one is any different in here. Some people can gather the strength quicker than others. But We must ALWAYS remember that this disease causes great pain to everyone...	ally	5	389	Nov 2, 2006 by shadow1
	Snowed (Preview) We were almost "snowed" by A daughter in rehab. She has been negotiating for a weekend pass, which was granted for upcoming wkend. Started bullying me for rides to and from, money for train, etc. I put my foot down - no train money, and I wasn't ready for her to come home. Meanwhile, she recieved some mone...	kabbie	9	467	Nov 2, 2006 by kabbie
	A moment when I first took care of myself (Preview) I mentioned taking an art class when I was going through my divorce... something to throw myself into, new, stimulating. I thought I'd share this funny little story of my first feeling of independence. I pulled up in the parking lot the evening of my class, and called home to check my voice mail. Th...	barisax	3	333	Nov 2, 2006 by Noni
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