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Rebecca · Rebecca

im posting here again lately and feel ashamed and angry at mysef for doing so. even though posting here is probably keeping me sane. i allowed myself to fall into the same pattern of being the doormat where my ex "A" was concerned. after swearing to myself that i wuld not allow any other man to treat me t...

Fifi · Fifi

so i can't sleep either while my A boyfriend is away at rehab...i get up with my mind racing on negative codependant thoughts.....am i visiting too much(each weekend)?does he reallywant me to visit?i want time with him,not all his new addict friends?what about me?would he be driving 2 hours to see me...

snoopy · snoopy

Dr. Laura Schlessinger talks about the three A's, any of which is an impediment to a functional marriage -- and those are adultery, addiction, and abuse. Well, guess what boys and girls-- I got to endure all 3 of them by my A husband. What a guy!!! How did I get so lucky? I firmly believe that...

mookie · mookie

How do I deal with my hubby? He's gone back to drinking again. I don't know what to do.

mon123 · mon123

I have a friend here in England who has never mastered the English language. Her first language is Cantonese. Second language Manderin. She's really struggling here. As you will all know living with active alcoholism is isolating at the best of times but with a language barrier this is compounded...

serendipity · serendipity

i grew up in an alcoholic home. denile was what our family was based on. my uncle was the drunk, died of the disease. he would be stinking drunk, falling down the stairs and my mother would look me right in the eye and say he wasn't drunk. so, when i grew up and married an alcoholic/crack addict and he said he...

confused · confused

Be careful what you ask for, because when you find out you might just have to do something about it. I just wanted to know for sure and now I do. A quick update... my AH and I reconciled 6 months ago after he had been clean and sober and working a program. Sometime this past fall that nagging feeling bega...

confused · confused

If I had to get a 24 hour coin for every time I relapsed, what a collection I would have. What a great reminder to me that sobriety is one day at a time, for me and my alcoholic husband. As I slip in my own recovery, why am I so obsessed with whether or not he is slipping in his? Why am I focusing on him and not on mys...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))))) I'm finding It really hard just now with things In my life. I think I have hit a rock bottom the last few days. I am crying all the time, feeling sorry for Ally. So I think the best think I can do Is spend some time with just me. Try to work through some of...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

I took the chance to go see my orignal sponsor while my bf was here visiting at Xmas. My orignal sponsor was AA and went back to drinking. It was a sad sight to see him in such bad shape. This man who was my sponsor was once about a good 275 and now he is skin and bones. What w...

meagain · meagain

: i guess over the years-I have turned into a people pleaser. I think living with in the past and having a A brother and X husband-I was always trying to keep the peace. Well now as I am older and perhaps tired (lol) I no longer can do that. My DIL leaves her kids with me for 2 weeks during working...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

I've been struggling with letting something go. When I first met my A I was 18 and in College working for a resturaunt. He came in to see an old girlfriend and there began my relationship w/ my A. Now what I'm struggling with is the anger I have about the lie... the lie that set me to beli...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

Okay, I should have offered you all some cheese to go with my last post as it was a very big whine LOL. We've had the flu here and I've had tooooo much time to lay around and think -- stinking thinking. One thing I've always been asked is "Do you really think your A sits and thinks about you as much as y...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I am going to explain the blow out my A and I had last night, but now all his shit is piled in bags all over my living room. He keeps blaming me. I can't lay down right at night like him. My mind is always open. I stay up until I am ready to sleep. Sometimes sleep doesn't come for a long time. H...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

Ziggy is a very happy girl today!!!! I will be happy dancing all night long...getting my groove going!!!!!!!!!! My BF who lives 500 miles away called this afternoon to ask if he could come stay a while with me......"Uh Hello? This is me you are talking to! Staying with me is a GIVE...

jewely · jewely

I WOKE UP THIS MORNING FEELING LIKE I HAD SLIVERS IN MY BRAIN AND DAGGERS IN MY BACK. christmas is over, and, it was so HARD. throughout the holiday, i justkept coming to my computer and typing whatever my brain told my fingers to do. i would look back on what i wrote and think.........., "uh...

mac57 · mac57

Hi all, I have my friend working on my house in the mornings, with me as his helper/runner/employer; then I work at night. It's been a bit grueling, and this is a tired boy. My friend is dear, funny and kind, as well as a professional, and an active A. I couldn't have imagined how tiresome dealing with th...

snoopy · snoopy

My husband who is divorcing me told our family doctor that I am at fault for his raging, his anger, his abuse, his cheating and I guess all his other problems. He said that I make him crazy and that is why he broke his hand pounding on the chair. I made him rag...

Spiritually Calm · Spiritually Calm

So this morning my AH needs money to buy alchohol. (He drinks at least 5 days/wk) Lately my concern has been the amount of money that he spends on it. I have told him that he can drink all he wants if he can afford it. We are married and consider the money "ours". However, I...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey guys its 12 o clock midnight here in Ireland, wind is howling and rain lashing off the window.. im sitting in my bedroom with C.S.I Miami on in the background and a steaming mug of hot chocolate... im just after a phonecall with my ex "A"... he had rang earlier in the day saying he was visiti...

Tammy · Tammy

It has been a while since I have posted, why I am not sure.. I have read posts just havent posted myself. It has been almost 4 months since my seperation from my husband. He is still living in the camper at a campground across town while the kids and I are in the house. While we are seperated we talk sever... >>

jaja · jaja

He was trying to draw me into a stupid game with the phone and it didn't work. The next day he called me and waited for the reaction from me that he hoped for - angry, yelling,etc. - so he could tell me I had a problem. Take things off him and put it on me....

marmare · marmare

I found this quote a couple days ago and decided that I had to share....I will write more when time allows, work, home, and grandkids keeping this girl busy, but still read the posts here and am working my program! Love ya all!!! Hugs Mary “I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adj...

mama_nz · mama_nz

..Juliette leans longingly over the balcony. "Romeo, Romeo, wherefore art thou Romeo?" Romeo tumbles into her balcony and staggers over to her, and breathily whispers to her in hot boozy breath "hey bebe, sorry I'm late, but you know how it is, mama. Howzz about a kuss.."...

bear · bear

Well, he finally made it through the doors of the detox centre. He was scarred - yes most definately but before he went he tipped the last of his vodka bottle out. It is just me and my son now for the next two weeks. I'm not silly in my expectation that when he gets out he will be cured and all wi...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello ((Everyone)) I've been having judgemental and uncharitable thoughts towards my As family lately. For years now they have held the belief that I kept him from being around them, participating in activities. i admit sometimes I did try to, for the most part though while my A was trying to stay s...

lmt123 · lmt123

Ok, I do need ESH here. I did take the high road regarding my A's EX at his family's Christmas morning breakfast and gift-giving. I have never spoken ill of her to his daughter, nor have I spoken cross to her in any way...always nice, always positive. Christmas morning...I saw her when w...

maresie2 · maresie2

For the last 6 years or so the A has spent every Christmas with his mother. I used to be so filled with jealousy and abandonment about it. I had some kind of fantasy that if he were around he would be "there". Well this year I got to experience a Christmas with the a. He had tantrums,...

Gailey · Gailey

I told awhile ago of my plan to give my A son money and hold his car until he could buy it back. Well, it didn't happen right away but has finally about 2 weeks ago. Anyway, he is at my home this week because his daughters are spending the week with us. He had a cyst under his arm which had become infected. H...

debilyn · debilyn

I am very ok now. I woke up today and decided to get some pictures together for my adoptive mom. After three nights in a row of my loved ones dieing, the ones who are dead, Richard M Tyson/an actor falling in love with me and wow can he kiss. I was telling him I could not sleep with him until we wer...

Fifi · Fifi

Hello. This is my first time reaching out on line or in any way. I fell in love with an alchoholic a year ago - just brought him to detox 2 weeks ago - pick him up tomorrow. I am scared,confused, don't know where to start over, don't know how to hold onto me, am afraid of doing the wrong thing, afraid of not be...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

This is a reading from a little perpetual inspiration calendar my dear friend gave me before she died last year. She died December 29, 2005. The Mountanins are God's thoughts piled up.

The ocean is God's thoughts spread out.

The flowers are God's thoughts in...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I am feeling like I am losing my mind. I spoke to my A and he was supposed to be be on his way home, which he knew I was against, and brought his little twin clan of partyers with him. this is MY Apartment. How do I put my foot down? Now I am getting scared.

Fifi · Fifi

hi so any advice on how to handle the time away from a boyfriend who is in rehab for the next few weeks? i am trying to take care of me - but even that seems to revolve around handling my emotions about him - fielding heavy interactions from his extended family - etc. i am a single mom with two kids and them an...

lovette · lovette

Dear Family, Since this is the twelfth month of the year, a lot of face to face groups focus on the twelfth step and twelfth tradition. When I first came into the program I was always kind of insulted when people addressed the traditions as something the newcomer cannot possibly understand...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello everyone I've been around here, reading all your posts, just haven't posted much lately. I had to go to court last week. My attorney had my AH appear before the judge. He violated a court order freezing all assets by cashing in his retirement account. It was the first time I've seen my AH sin...

John · John

For all members of Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums, I and Rose designed a small Christmas web page for you to view. It has music on it, so turn your speakers on or off, whichever you prefer as you view it. http://www.12stepforums.net/christmas/index.html

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

I doubt you all remember me but I'll introduce myself again. I'm the mother to three children ages 6,5,5. My husband is our alcoholic. He went off the deep end about six months ago and almost died and decided to turn his life around. He went to church, got saved, moved home and things were great. Now........

hersh · hersh

(((Hi Everyone))) I wanted to let any newcomers know that this program really does work. I came to this board this year in April. So shattered, so heartbroken, so obsessed. All I could think about was what my alcoholic husband was doing and when he would stop drinking. ...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi ya'll, well my sis in Md. and her husband demanded to pay for my phone and intenet connection. I did my best to talk her out of it, husband got on the phone with his bossy voice.....you are doing it for me, I need to be able to work on your computer. We are doing it.... He is a big softie. so nice. He c...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello (((((((((friends)))))), Well got a new job today......just called and I am so excited....same kind of job but it is 2.50 more an hour..woooooohoooooooo.......and I am happy to be making a change... Sometimes life throws punches and sometimes kisses... Anyway, just haveing a...

ally · ally

(((((ROOMIES))))))) Medication Is something we find ourselves needing from time to time. I sat at a meeting one night, and I said to my members. OMG I'm on anti-depressants again, and I was told. "Al-Anon does recognise the need for outside help", We are not against that. I also suffere...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello ((((((((((friends)))))))), Well where shall I begin..with me....lol....went on a date...lol....and had great time....I met this guy a couple of months ago and he called me yesterday and asked me out ...I said what the hell why not....so I went....we went dancing...man he likes to danc...

debilyn · debilyn

Gayle in response to a post I made on my hp, did I not just read you saying you do not want to talk to someone who is on medication?????!!!! "We are not doctors. We are 12 step members. I can't help someone who is on medication.....that is the doctor's job. I shouldn't even be responding to someone who is b...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I had the best time this afternoon and evening because I was able to do something I haven't done in a a few years--haven't been invited--long story, gave my parents hell growing up and then some, but.... Right before my dad came to get me I was informed that I was invited for Christmas Dinner. One thi...

irish54 · irish54

Hi all! Thought I would share this poem that my al-anoner cousin wrote. lol It really makes sense to me as an al-anon .... not conference approved..but good for thought. I hid my sorrow, and I hid my pain.... 'til I forgot I was out there.... in the rain. I've no idea where I'm going...

jaja · jaja

Well, whatever, I don't want stuff to ruin the holiday and, by the way, I did mean to wish you and yours a holiday. I hope we make it through with peace at least for a little while!...I'm trying not to let things get to me but I sure am feeling like fool now! Here I am thinking there...

afmom03 · afmom03

Hey!! I have the book "One Day at a Time in Al-Anon if you want it! It's yours!! Just send your address to me at korinne48@yahoo.com and I'll get er' in the mail either today or tomorrow! I am so happy just to help you out, since I am leaving my AH and I don't need it any longer. OK? It is a GREAT book too. I almost...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Pleases Stop being so harsh and let others share there feelings... You may not like what others are doing but that is not your place to judge them... We are all here learning and growing together..... I grew up with alcoholic parents who sound like you do and it really bothers me!!!! I...

jaja · jaja

.......as gayle put it in her response to my last post. I know full well I'm co-dependant and have fallen for a lot of my A's stuff. I think he and I are sick in our own ways in relation to the disease of alcoholism. I read an excerpt from another site that, using dif...

mama_nz · mama_nz

After telling my ex (A), the father of my son, it's over for good for good for good and not talking for the last couple of weeks and not spending Xmas together, today I get a phone call and he wanted me to meet with him to talk. He said he still felt like there was something there, and it's not really over.&n...

Fifi · Fifi

Thank you so much to all of you! I can't tell you how strange it is to hear such understanding and supportive words....I have never been a much of a reacher outer, so to do it once and get all this care back sorta rocks my world view...other people care about others as much as I do! I will keep on contacting/r...

debilyn · debilyn

Thank you all for your comments. It really helped me so much and Fifi thanks for the laugh you turkey! lol I do feel better, lots. Have found that the harder the stuff, the pain and confusion, the neater it is when you find your conclusion. well did not mean to rhyme that...geez Want to make it clear...

maire rua · maire rua

Gayle, I respect your obvious knowledge of alanon and how it work, however I would appreciate it if you could show more respect for other members here, your responses can be very hurtful. -- Edited by maire rua at 10:11, 2006-12-26

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

When I first arrived, whenever I posted it said "newbie" now it says veteran member. I see others as senior member, service worker, etc. What does that mean? That I am now considered a veteran member. I know Ihave been in and out and and around 12 step programs since I was 17 years old and now I am 36 has not t...

CJ · CJ

a small list of thanks to my HP Thank you HP for: -A warm house, most all conveniences of life, my health, my ability to choose my path -My friends and support group, these amazing people on this board and alanon, those that choose to stand by me in need and in sincerety of love and care -My family, for tho...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Every Christmas I hope for the best but expect the worst. --Adult child group member As bells ring out and carols echo everywhere, we should not be surprised if our spirits take a nosedive. It isn't that we don't understand the meaning of Christmas, or that we reject it, but rather that the idealiz...

mmerlino · mmerlino

To My Fellows; Children, Parents, Families of addicts and alcoholics. I am requesting stories in the following categories. I am seeking those shares for a book called: “Please Understand.” The reason for I am writing this book is for those in our lives that...

lmt123 · lmt123

For some reason, my security on my computer is blocking me from getting into chat. Sometimes when it would do this, if I kept trying, I could eventually get in. But since yesterday, after my nephew was online, I tried to log in and the chat main page came up completely black in place of where...

Becky1 · Becky1

I am in Kansas, flew here from my home in Ohio, to visit with Mom, sister, and nephew. My AH is left at home taking care of the cats, I hope. He was spending Christmas day with his A-friend couple, who I don't care much for, but the guy and my AH have been friends since 1st grade. Actually...

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	Ashamed to be like a newcomer again.. (Preview) im posting here again lately and feel ashamed and angry at mysef for doing so. even though posting here is probably keeping me sane. i allowed myself to fall into the same pattern of being the doormat where my ex "A" was concerned. after swearing to myself that i wuld not allow any other man to treat me t...	Rebecca	7	386	Dec 30, 2006 by marmare
	restless mind (Preview) so i can't sleep either while my A boyfriend is away at rehab...i get up with my mind racing on negative codependant thoughts.....am i visiting too much(each weekend)?does he reallywant me to visit?i want time with him,not all his new addict friends?what about me?would he be driving 2 hours to see me...	Fifi	5	249	Dec 30, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Addiction, adultry, and abuse-- an impediment to a functional marriage (Preview) Dr. Laura Schlessinger talks about the three A's, any of which is an impediment to a functional marriage -- and those are adultery, addiction, and abuse. Well, guess what boys and girls-- I got to endure all 3 of them by my A husband. What a guy!!! How did I get so lucky? I firmly believe that...	snoopy	12	645	Dec 29, 2006 by ShelBell
	What do I do? (Preview) How do I deal with my hubby? He's gone back to drinking again. I don't know what to do.	mookie	7	359	Dec 29, 2006 by Mobirdie
	Can anyone give me a little info (Preview) I have a friend here in England who has never mastered the English language. Her first language is Cantonese. Second language Manderin. She's really struggling here. As you will all know living with active alcoholism is isolating at the best of times but with a language barrier this is compounded...	mon123	4	462	Dec 29, 2006 by mon123
	a very gross story (Preview) i grew up in an alcoholic home. denile was what our family was based on. my uncle was the drunk, died of the disease. he would be stinking drunk, falling down the stairs and my mother would look me right in the eye and say he wasn't drunk. so, when i grew up and married an alcoholic/crack addict and he said he...	serendipity	9	515	Dec 29, 2006 by maire rua
	be careful what you ask for (Preview) Be careful what you ask for, because when you find out you might just have to do something about it. I just wanted to know for sure and now I do. A quick update... my AH and I reconciled 6 months ago after he had been clean and sober and working a program. Sometime this past fall that nagging feeling bega...	confused	6	375	Dec 29, 2006 by danz123
	Today I am a newcomer - humility... (Preview) If I had to get a 24 hour coin for every time I relapsed, what a collection I would have. What a great reminder to me that sobriety is one day at a time, for me and my alcoholic husband. As I slip in my own recovery, why am I so obsessed with whether or not he is slipping in his? Why am I focusing on him and not on mys...	confused	6	387	Dec 29, 2006 by CJ
	IM TAKING TIME OUT OF CHATROOM (Preview) ((((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))))))) I'm finding It really hard just now with things In my life. I think I have hit a rock bottom the last few days. I am crying all the time, feeling sorry for Ally. So I think the best think I can do Is spend some time with just me. Try to work through some of...	ally	18	683	Dec 29, 2006 by doxie
	Cannot Sleep (Preview) I took the chance to go see my orignal sponsor while my bf was here visiting at Xmas. My orignal sponsor was AA and went back to drinking. It was a sad sight to see him in such bad shape. This man who was my sponsor was once about a good 275 and now he is skin and bones. What w...	ZiggyDoodles	4	271	Dec 29, 2006 by CJ
	Feeling used (Preview) : i guess over the years-I have turned into a people pleaser. I think living with in the past and having a A brother and X husband-I was always trying to keep the peace. Well now as I am older and perhaps tired (lol) I no longer can do that. My DIL leaves her kids with me for 2 weeks during working...	meagain	4	448	Dec 29, 2006 by CJ
	Anger & letting go (Preview) I've been struggling with letting something go. When I first met my A I was 18 and in College working for a resturaunt. He came in to see an old girlfriend and there began my relationship w/ my A. Now what I'm struggling with is the anger I have about the lie... the lie that set me to beli...	Lunamoth	10	1328	Dec 29, 2006 by thinkstoomuch
	So I blew a gasket earlier LOL (Preview) Okay, I should have offered you all some cheese to go with my last post as it was a very big whine LOL. We've had the flu here and I've had tooooo much time to lay around and think -- stinking thinking. One thing I've always been asked is "Do you really think your A sits and thinks about you as much as y...	Lunamoth	7	486	Dec 29, 2006 by twinkie
	WE HAD A BLOWOUT FIGHT HE IS PACKED UP... NOW WHAT? (Preview) I am going to explain the blow out my A and I had last night, but now all his shit is piled in bags all over my living room. He keeps blaming me. I can't lay down right at night like him. My mind is always open. I stay up until I am ready to sleep. Sometimes sleep doesn't come for a long time. H...	hippietrippiechick	2	397	Dec 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Come on Happy Dance With Me (Preview) Ziggy is a very happy girl today!!!! I will be happy dancing all night long...getting my groove going!!!!!!!!!! My BF who lives 500 miles away called this afternoon to ask if he could come stay a while with me......"Uh Hello? This is me you are talking to! Staying with me is a GIVE...	ZiggyDoodles	5	399	Dec 29, 2006 by Rita G
	SLIVERS AND DAGGERS (Preview) I WOKE UP THIS MORNING FEELING LIKE I HAD SLIVERS IN MY BRAIN AND DAGGERS IN MY BACK. christmas is over, and, it was so HARD. throughout the holiday, i justkept coming to my computer and typing whatever my brain told my fingers to do. i would look back on what i wrote and think.........., "uh...	jewely	9	390	Dec 29, 2006 by ally
	busy mac57 (Preview) Hi all, I have my friend working on my house in the mornings, with me as his helper/runner/employer; then I work at night. It's been a bit grueling, and this is a tired boy. My friend is dear, funny and kind, as well as a professional, and an active A. I couldn't have imagined how tiresome dealing with th...	mac57	11	572	Dec 29, 2006 by mel123
	Husband says his anger is my fault (Preview) My husband who is divorcing me told our family doctor that I am at fault for his raging, his anger, his abuse, his cheating and I guess all his other problems. He said that I make him crazy and that is why he broke his hand pounding on the chair. I made him rag...	snoopy	35	2004	Dec 29, 2006 by mama_nz
	When is enuf, enuf and ok for me to express my needs? (Preview) So this morning my AH needs money to buy alchohol. (He drinks at least 5 days/wk) Lately my concern has been the amount of money that he spends on it. I have told him that he can drink all he wants if he can afford it. We are married and consider the money "ours". However, I...	Spiritually Calm	5	380	Dec 29, 2006 by Spiritually Calm
	weird and confusing (Preview) hey guys its 12 o clock midnight here in Ireland, wind is howling and rain lashing off the window.. im sitting in my bedroom with C.S.I Miami on in the background and a steaming mug of hot chocolate... im just after a phonecall with my ex "A"... he had rang earlier in the day saying he was visiti...	Rebecca	2	298	Dec 28, 2006 by nmike
	So what happens next ???? (Preview) It has been a while since I have posted, why I am not sure.. I have read posts just havent posted myself. It has been almost 4 months since my seperation from my husband. He is still living in the camper at a campground across town while the kids and I are in the house. While we are seperated we talk sever... >>	Tammy	7	609	Dec 28, 2006 by nmike
	Here it comes, I think (Preview) He was trying to draw me into a stupid game with the phone and it didn't work. The next day he called me and waited for the reaction from me that he hoped for - angry, yelling,etc. - so he could tell me I had a problem. Take things off him and put it on me....	jaja	4	346	Dec 28, 2006 by Maria123
	Had to share (Preview) I found this quote a couple days ago and decided that I had to share....I will write more when time allows, work, home, and grandkids keeping this girl busy, but still read the posts here and am working my program! Love ya all!!! Hugs Mary “I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adj...	marmare	1	266	Dec 28, 2006 by emma
	A love story (Preview) ..Juliette leans longingly over the balcony. "Romeo, Romeo, wherefore art thou Romeo?" Romeo tumbles into her balcony and staggers over to her, and breathily whispers to her in hot boozy breath "hey bebe, sorry I'm late, but you know how it is, mama. Howzz about a kuss.."...	mama_nz	4	360	Dec 28, 2006 by mama_nz
	He made it to detox/rehab yesterday... (Preview) Well, he finally made it through the doors of the detox centre. He was scarred - yes most definately but before he went he tipped the last of his vodka bottle out. It is just me and my son now for the next two weeks. I'm not silly in my expectation that when he gets out he will be cured and all wi...	bear	6	364	Dec 28, 2006 by lin0606
	Feeling anger .. a vent (Preview) Hello ((Everyone)) I've been having judgemental and uncharitable thoughts towards my As family lately. For years now they have held the belief that I kept him from being around them, participating in activities. i admit sometimes I did try to, for the most part though while my A was trying to stay s...	Jennifer	3	411	Dec 28, 2006 by twinkie
	I took the high road, but it still hurts (Preview) Ok, I do need ESH here. I did take the high road regarding my A's EX at his family's Christmas morning breakfast and gift-giving. I have never spoken ill of her to his daughter, nor have I spoken cross to her in any way...always nice, always positive. Christmas morning...I saw her when w...	lmt123	9	572	Dec 28, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Be careful what you wish for (Preview) For the last 6 years or so the A has spent every Christmas with his mother. I used to be so filled with jealousy and abandonment about it. I had some kind of fantasy that if he were around he would be "there". Well this year I got to experience a Christmas with the a. He had tantrums,...	maresie2	4	427	Dec 28, 2006 by hersh
	I think I took a step backwards (Preview) I told awhile ago of my plan to give my A son money and hold his car until he could buy it back. Well, it didn't happen right away but has finally about 2 weeks ago. Anyway, he is at my home this week because his daughters are spending the week with us. He had a cyst under his arm which had become infected. H...	Gailey	8	416	Dec 28, 2006 by Rita G
	Another tough learning experience. Help...... (Preview) I am very ok now. I woke up today and decided to get some pictures together for my adoptive mom. After three nights in a row of my loved ones dieing, the ones who are dead, Richard M Tyson/an actor falling in love with me and wow can he kiss. I was telling him I could not sleep with him until we wer...	debilyn	9	597	Dec 28, 2006 by maresie2
	my first time here (Preview) Hello. This is my first time reaching out on line or in any way. I fell in love with an alchoholic a year ago - just brought him to detox 2 weeks ago - pick him up tomorrow. I am scared,confused, don't know where to start over, don't know how to hold onto me, am afraid of doing the wrong thing, afraid of not be...	Fifi	13	516	Dec 28, 2006 by hippietrippiechick
	Thought for Today (Preview) *This is a reading from a little perpetual inspiration calendar my dear friend gave me before she died last year. She died December 29, 2005.* The Mountanins are God's thoughts piled up. The ocean is God's thoughts spread out. The flowers are God's thoughts in...	hippietrippiechick	0	250	Dec 28, 2006 by hippietrippiechick
	oh God he came back. Why did I let him and his clan in? (Preview) I am feeling like I am losing my mind. I spoke to my A and he was supposed to be be on his way home, which he knew I was against, and brought his little twin clan of partyers with him. this is MY Apartment. How do I put my foot down? Now I am getting scared.	hippietrippiechick	24	598	Dec 28, 2006 by hippietrippiechick
	detox days (Preview) hi so any advice on how to handle the time away from a boyfriend who is in rehab for the next few weeks? i am trying to take care of me - but even that seems to revolve around handling my emotions about him - fielding heavy interactions from his extended family - etc. i am a single mom with two kids and them an...	Fifi	4	249	Dec 28, 2006 by ally
	principles above personalities (Preview) Dear Family, Since this is the twelfth month of the year, a lot of face to face groups focus on the twelfth step and twelfth tradition. When I first came into the program I was always kind of insulted when people addressed the traditions as something the newcomer cannot possibly understand...	lovette	4	594	Dec 28, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	an Artygirl update (Preview) Hello everyone I've been around here, reading all your posts, just haven't posted much lately. I had to go to court last week. My attorney had my AH appear before the judge. He violated a court order freezing all assets by cashing in his retirement account. It was the first time I've seen my AH sin...	artygirl	7	376	Dec 28, 2006 by debilyn
	A Christmas Gift for Everyone! (Preview) For all members of Miracles In Progress 12 Step Recovery Forums, I and Rose designed a small Christmas web page for you to view. It has music on it, so turn your speakers on or off, whichever you prefer as you view it. http://www.12stepforums.net/christmas/index.html	John	2	347	Dec 27, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	I'm sad to say I'm back :( (Preview) I doubt you all remember me but I'll introduce myself again. I'm the mother to three children ages 6,5,5. My husband is our alcoholic. He went off the deep end about six months ago and almost died and decided to turn his life around. He went to church, got saved, moved home and things were great. Now........	Friendofyours	8	541	Dec 27, 2006 by CJ
	Grateful - this really works.... (Preview) (((Hi Everyone))) I wanted to let any newcomers know that this program really does work. I came to this board this year in April. So shattered, so heartbroken, so obsessed. All I could think about was what my alcoholic husband was doing and when he would stop drinking. ...	hersh	2	319	Dec 27, 2006 by ally
	hp strikes again.... (Preview) Hi ya'll, well my sis in Md. and her husband demanded to pay for my phone and intenet connection. I did my best to talk her out of it, husband got on the phone with his bossy voice.....you are doing it for me, I need to be able to work on your computer. We are doing it.... He is a big softie. so nice. He c...	debilyn	18	599	Dec 27, 2006 by lilms
	Today is a Good Day (Preview) Hello (((((((((friends)))))), Well got a new job today......just called and I am so excited....same kind of job but it is 2.50 more an hour..woooooohoooooooo.......and I am happy to be making a change... Sometimes life throws punches and sometimes kisses... Anyway, just haveing a...	Andrea12	6	275	Dec 27, 2006 by hersh
	MEDICATION (Preview) (((((ROOMIES))))))) Medication Is something we find ourselves needing from time to time. I sat at a meeting one night, and I said to my members. OMG I'm on anti-depressants again, and I was told. "Al-Anon does recognise the need for outside help", We are not against that. I also suffere...	ally	4	369	Dec 27, 2006 by debilyn
	Stuck to my guns....... (Preview) Hello ((((((((((friends)))))))), Well where shall I begin..with me....lol....went on a date...lol....and had great time....I met this guy a couple of months ago and he called me yesterday and asked me out ...I said what the hell why not....so I went....we went dancing...man he likes to danc...	Andrea12	27	800	Dec 27, 2006 by Andrea12
	Gayle! (Preview) Gayle in response to a post I made on my hp, did I not just read you saying you do not want to talk to someone who is on medication?????!!!! "We are not doctors. We are 12 step members. I can't help someone who is on medication.....that is the doctor's job. I shouldn't even be responding to someone who is b...	debilyn	7	457	Dec 27, 2006 by debilyn
	Something positive finally! (Preview) I had the best time this afternoon and evening because I was able to do something I haven't done in a a few years--haven't been invited--long story, gave my parents hell growing up and then some, but.... Right before my dad came to get me I was informed that I was invited for Christmas Dinner. One thi...	hippietrippiechick	1	238	Dec 27, 2006 by greta
	Living in the moment (Preview) Hi all! Thought I would share this poem that my al-anoner cousin wrote. lol It really makes sense to me as an al-anon .... not conference approved..but good for thought. I hid my sorrow, and I hid my pain.... 'til I forgot I was out there.... in the rain. I've no idea where I'm going...	irish54	4	814	Dec 27, 2006 by Lunamoth
	What kind of fool am I??? (Preview) Well, whatever, I don't want stuff to ruin the holiday and, by the way, I did mean to wish you and yours a holiday. I hope we make it through with peace at least for a little while!...I'm trying not to let things get to me but I sure am feeling like fool now! Here I am thinking there...	jaja	7	494	Dec 27, 2006 by gayle
	hippietippiechick! Read this!! (Preview) Hey!! I have the book "One Day at a Time in Al-Anon if you want it! It's yours!! Just send your address to me at korinne48@yahoo.com and I'll get er' in the mail either today or tomorrow! I am so happy just to help you out, since I am leaving my AH and I don't need it any longer. OK? It is a GREAT book too. I almost...	afmom03	14	562	Dec 27, 2006 by lin0606
	Gayle (Preview) Pleases Stop being so harsh and let others share there feelings... You may not like what others are doing but that is not your place to judge them... We are all here learning and growing together..... I grew up with alcoholic parents who sound like you do and it really bothers me!!!! I...	bubbles1990	0	241	Dec 27, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Never thought of myself exactly as a doormat (Preview) .......as gayle put it in her response to my last post. I know full well I'm co-dependant and have fallen for a lot of my A's stuff. I think he and I are sick in our own ways in relation to the disease of alcoholism. I read an excerpt from another site that, using dif...	jaja	3	451	Dec 27, 2006 by CJ
	I'm with Stupid (Preview) After telling my ex (A), the father of my son, it's over for good for good for good and not talking for the last couple of weeks and not spending Xmas together, today I get a phone call and he wanted me to meet with him to talk. He said he still felt like there was something there, and it's not really over.&n...	mama_nz	1	294	Dec 27, 2006 by CJ
	THANK YOU! (Preview) Thank you so much to all of you! I can't tell you how strange it is to hear such understanding and supportive words....I have never been a much of a reacher outer, so to do it once and get all this care back sorta rocks my world view...other people care about others as much as I do! I will keep on contacting/r...	Fifi	2	238	Dec 27, 2006 by CJ
	grateful and kinda like ya'll (Preview) Thank you all for your comments. It really helped me so much and Fifi thanks for the laugh you turkey! lol I do feel better, lots. Have found that the harder the stuff, the pain and confusion, the neater it is when you find your conclusion. well did not mean to rhyme that...geez Want to make it clear...	debilyn	3	257	Dec 27, 2006 by jewely
	Gayle & Al-anon meetings (Preview) Gayle, I respect your obvious knowledge of alanon and how it work, however I would appreciate it if you could show more respect for other members here, your responses can be very hurtful. -- Edited by maire rua at 10:11, 2006-12-26	maire rua	3	1019	Dec 27, 2006 by tea2
	labels (Preview) When I first arrived, whenever I posted it said "newbie" now it says veteran member. I see others as senior member, service worker, etc. What does that mean? That I am now considered a veteran member. I know Ihave been in and out and and around 12 step programs since I was 17 years old and now I am 36 has not t...	hippietrippiechick	6	285	Dec 27, 2006 by hippietrippiechick
	Gratitude (Preview) a small list of thanks to my HP Thank you HP for: -A warm house, most all conveniences of life, my health, my ability to choose my path -My friends and support group, these amazing people on this board and alanon, those that choose to stand by me in need and in sincerety of love and care -My family, for tho...	CJ	6	354	Dec 26, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	Christmas (or Holiday) memories (Preview) *Every Christmas I hope for the best but expect the worst. --Adult child group member* As bells ring out and carols echo everywhere, we should not be surprised if our spirits take a nosedive. It isn't that we don't understand the meaning of Christmas, or that we reject it, but rather that the idealiz...	Tiger2006	4	360	Dec 26, 2006 by itsgot2bgd
	Shares for a New Book (Preview) To My Fellows; Children, Parents, Families of addicts and alcoholics. I am requesting stories in the following categories. I am seeking those shares for a book called: “Please Understand.” The reason for I am writing this book is for those in our lives that...	mmerlino	2	377	Dec 26, 2006 by tea2
	stinking computer won't let me into chat (Preview) For some reason, my security on my computer is blocking me from getting into chat. Sometimes when it would do this, if I kept trying, I could eventually get in. But since yesterday, after my nephew was online, I tried to log in and the chat main page came up completely black in place of where...	lmt123	5	373	Dec 26, 2006 by Karilynn
	From the Merry Old Land of Oz (Preview) I am in Kansas, flew here from my home in Ohio, to visit with Mom, sister, and nephew. My AH is left at home taking care of the cats, I hope. He was spending Christmas day with his A-friend couple, who I don't care much for, but the guy and my AH have been friends since 1st grade. Actually...	Becky1	0	214	Dec 26, 2006 by Becky1
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