The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
he went over to our daughter's house for the evening. about midnight i heard his vehicle coming up the drive. i really didn't expect him home, i did expect that sickening sweet smell of "one is one too many and a thousand is not enough". i was watching TV and dozing, you know that place in between sleep and awake, when he came in.
no smell of alcohol.
he got ready to turn in for the night and crawled in bed beside me. i asked him if the TV volume would bother him. he said no. i continued to watch my show and ALL OF A SUDDEN he turns over, abruptly, shoves his empty ice cream bowl in front of my face and says " IN THE BOWL !" i looked at him in stunned disbelief and said as intelligently as i could at about one in the morning........ "HUH?" [ i am laughing out loud as i write this] he says "THE GUM, THE GUM !!! you can have the TV as loud as you want for as long as you want that doesn't bother me, but get rid of THAT GUM!". to my surprise [and his] laughter burst from somewhere inside of me, it was so full i could feel it fill the room. i threw my arms around him and i choked out [i really was choking becauses i was laughing so hard] "thank you for telling me. i prefer to know instead of having you stuff how you feel deep down inside of your self and resenting me for the rest of the night because my gum chewing is bothering you." i was still laughing at this time and i gasped out "oh ken after 20 some years together you finally tell me, my gum chewing is bugging you." he looked up and smiled at me as i tossed my gum in the bowl . he went to sleep and i watch my favorite shows until three in the morning.
the gum thing is funny because i am an aggressive gum chewer. i pop it, twist it, snap it, blow bubbles...........,i often ask him if my gum chewing is bothering him. he always says no. i rarely chew gum in public because if i get lost in thought, i can get really annoying with my it.
i feel like you are all a part of my LOL,
and,
for that reason i wanted to share my EXPERIENCE[LOL], hope and strength with you.
it has to be a breath of fresh air (no gum-pun intended) to make strides toward that open and honest communication with your hub. brightest blessings in the new year!!! with love, always cj
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
