Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Rora · Rora

What is the difference for you between loving someone and being detached from them vs not loving them?

Melissa21 · Melissa21

So my sons father is supposedly in treatment. He says he's doing it so when court comes and I bring up his past habits it wont matter anymore. Or is it really court ordered from his DUI in Sept that he insists was dropped weeks later after a piss test showed his level below the limit? Last night on my way home...

supermom · supermom

So here I am again on this same topic. I have been married to my recovering A for 6 years. In those 6 years it has always been our house rule that there is no smoking in our house. In the last week, I came hoe to find a cigarette butt floating in the toilet. I told AH that it was unacceptable. I don't want ou...

John · John

A few weeks back I asked the members of Miracles In Progress for financial help so the needs of the newcomer into the MIP Recovery Homes could be better met by Rose and I during such a trying economic time. I believe in accountability and transparency in such matters. To say the very least, I was absolut...

montrose · montrose

I've thought about joining al-anon several times, but could never get up enough courage to take that first step. this should be the happiest time of my life. After 6 years of fertility treatments, I finally brought home a beautiful daughter 2 weeks ago. But I'm married to a functional alcoholic. H...

ARSK · ARSK

I am sort of relapsing I guess. I have this Step Sister. Her personality type as I see it is of convinces. When I am in town everything is great, everyone is family. When I leave town, the phone calls stop and its like the visit never happened. I always feel a bit burnt after leaving. This situation o...

Angels Dream · Angels Dream

Glad to meet everyone, Im from Ohio Just found the online site, Trying to get back into the local meetings been out for while so much going on with my son. Nice meeting you all

Gailey · Gailey

We are expecting around 2 feet of snow today and tomorrow.. I will be stuck in the house all weekend but I am being positive about it. I have some new Wii games to learn how to play, lots of Alanon literature to read and of course there is always Lifetime tv. I wanted to share that I got to see my granddaughter...

Codependent · Codependent

So...The A's Sister in Law told me last night that his roommate is apparently an active addict per the A and that the roommate is bringing two girls down to visit this weekend. Anyway, the assumption was made that my A is also using again, etc. I don't know as I have not spoke to him since Sat since his tat...

maresie · maresie

For once this year Valentine's day does not hover over me like a neon sign that I am not loved. I spent many a year feeling like I was undeserving if I did not have someone to give me a valentines. The ex A did under duress but never spontaneously. I settled for so little in the name of having someone, someo...

GlamMetalBunny · GlamMetalBunny

well here i am looking for help on the internet ...i dont even know if why i am here is worthing complaining about..i have read other post and mine seems so petty compared to others. i met a man 5 years ago who is 11 years older than i am i fell in love with him at his worst. He drank alot and did drugs well that al...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

We found out today that my AH will be having his driver's license suspended for 3 years because of his DUI. There's a chance that he can get a special license in 90 days to drive himself to/from work, but he will have an ignition lock device on his vehicle for the 3 years plus 2 years after he gets his licens...

Codependent · Codependent

Are there any sites that are dedicated just to codependents? I know a lot of my stuff is alanon, but some of it is straight codependency sickness...? Just can't seem to find a site that is anywhere near what we have here. :)

moemoe · moemoe

I will be attending my first al-anon meeting tomorrow night. I'm really looking forward to it. Because I haven't been to a meeting yet, I don't know much about enabling, trying to control an alcoholic's drinking, codependency, etc. I'm really freaking out and need some advice until I can get to a me...

Codependent · Codependent

I texted the A tonight...just real casual...couldn't stand it...hadn't talked to him in a week. He didn't respond and now I feel weak and bad that I gave in.

Gailey · Gailey

After I do that...then what? I have been spending a lot of time alone just thinking about what I want for the rest of my life. Can you accept that you cannot change something but not accept that it cannot be changed? I don't even know if that sounds right. I can accept that I cannot change certain things bu...

glad · glad

I've always been proud the fact that I don't try to control my children. Now 26 and 21 I felt I encouraged them to make their own decisions they are both great! Well long story short as possible my youngest was invited to live with the couple she works for at a small but successful retail store in our town 3 y...

miss lucy · miss lucy

hi all. not sure how i am feeling at the moment. some relief, some sadness i guess! its been a bad day of sorts but one that i have been expecting since i left AH 1 month ago today. we have been spending quite a bit of time together recently and i really thought he was changing for the better. today AH kill...

Criket · Criket

Hello All, I am new here and am asking for help. I can not attend f2f meetings due to being almost completely homebound/ car accident, back injury. Can someone help me to get started here?

pineapple · pineapple

We are having some work done in our house using cement. Days ago we picked the color it was going to be. Yesterday A went into town to buy the tint for the cement. He usually volunteers to go into town for anyhting we need because he can buy himself a bottle there. He had not had a drink in two days and I hated to...

BatonRougian · BatonRougian

Im just looking for some reality from those of you who left the true love of your life because of the hurt and mistrust of active drug/alcohol addiction. How long before you didnt feel so attatched? How long before you felt like you werent in love anymore? Whats the process like? I know I have to move on bu...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Lord give me grace to slow down my pace, for you said you would walk with me~not race!:) thanks Jozie:)

nala · nala

My boyfriend and I separated 4 months ago, he left me after having had an emotional affair and deciding he wanted to quit drinking. He thought he could only do it alone, and alone he is, he has moved into the mountains, cut off his phone, etc. He has not been to a meeting. Now he has been sober a month and we...

Helpless-Hopeless · Helpless-Hopeless

I am currently living in a relationship that has gotten much worse over the past few years due to alcholism. Of course, I am the only one who thinks he has a problem. He continually denies it and yet I am always the one left feeling angry, hurt, helpless, hopeless. I need help and support.

Jerry F · Jerry F

and I'm hoping that this time someone takes home my "blamer". This tool hasn't ever worked since I got into Al-Anon and I've not been able to get rid of it either. I picked it up today and tried to use it and it still wouldn't work. When I tried to put in back in the back of the tool cabinet it didn...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Just this morning my copy of "News & Views" (The monthly magazine of the Al-Anon Family Group in the UK and Eire), dropped through my letter box, and in it was this little gem: Thought for the month Let not my thinking become confused by listening to too many opinions, but let me consider...

Jozie · Jozie

I just wanted to say HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MS. SHELLYJ123 :O) Love & Prayers for a Wonderful Day... :o-) Jozie

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

I just need someone to reel me in off this ledge. In my head I know I can no longer stay with my Abf I'm just waiting for my heart to catch up. He's NEVER going to change. He is always going to do what he can to manipulate situations, always stay selfish and put me through hell. At the end of an argument I feel...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

Hi all--I found a percocet (my A does use pills too) and while I keep to myself about the alcohol, I am not sure what to do about this...any thoughts. I found it on the floor...put it back? Throw it out? Hand it to him? Take it myself and wash it down with a shot (j/k). Anyway, I'm not by any stretch tortured b...

BostonFern · BostonFern

I have a lot of emotional pain and I thought it would be good for me to find a sponsor to work on it. A woman in a meeting said her strength is compassion and empathy, so I asked her to be a sponsor to work out my pain. I didn't really know her that well. We had one hour of phone conversation. During the con...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

HI everyone! I am doing OK today--just want to check in! Life is good; don't take it for granted & keep the faith always or you might end up like I did right after I joined Alanon. Now I can see where I went wrong but it still gets me. Even after 24 years, I am still remember & sometimes relive my past...

SheWolf · SheWolf

I am finding myself in quite a position. My A has been home now for almost a week, after being gone for 4 months (3 months in treatment). It is so uncomfortable in the house. I tend to be sensitive to negative energy, and you could slice the tension in the air. I have been continuing to try to do my own thing...

Suzi1965 · Suzi1965

I read something in todays Courage to Change that really struck me, and I wanted to share it with yall and hopefully any newcomers because I have found it to be so true. on page 33/Feb. 2nd it says (in part): When I came to Al-Anon, I found alot of people who had decided to climb down from their ladders into a...

Tracy · Tracy

Something I have noticed the more I focus on me my life , my problems and hand everyone else over to HP the better my life becomes. My problems are I can not stand to see people in pain or struggling with problems. But we have to struggle sometimes to learn.. All the pain I have been through has lead to me com...

smartkat · smartkat

I am looking for something to spark a conversation with my nieces. Their mother is the alcholic but the father is just as dysfunctional.

brightmommy · brightmommy

I am going through a divorce. He has cheated multiple times on me throughout our marriage. Now that we are separated he accuses me of cheating anytime I leave comments on a facebook page of the opposite sex. How can I stop reacting to his actions. I say rotten things that I normally would not say when...

Jellybean1707 · Jellybean1707

hi, i posted a topic earlier in the week called 'somewhere to vent'. my mum had gone off the rails once again and had nearly killed herself. However since that day she's been sober, she tells me she really scared herself and desn't want t put us through it anymore and eventhough its only been 3 days i want t...

smartkat · smartkat

I'm not talking about slogans in the book. I am talking about things like "Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!"

jasobel · jasobel

I have so much going on at once in my life- I am overwhelmed with grief. My ex A boyfriend who left me 3 months ago for another woman pops in and out of my life; my good friend is of dying of cancer; my ex-husband isn't paying support, and the list goes on and on. I feel like I am drowning in a sea of emotions and f...

jasobel · jasobel

My friend is in AA and recovery and has been unemployed since 2/09. He is in school which ends in two weeks. However he is divorced and pays a hefty part of his unemployment to his ex-wife. He has been alternating between living with his parents and living with a girlfriend who is not a good friend in recov...

roxygirl · roxygirl

My son is mean and rotten to the core! I hate to sound so mean but, it's true! He has no respect for me and I'm the one who has always been there for him. We had this hugh blowout argument with name calling and swearing at each other! I'm to the point to where I don't care anymore about him and his selfish dis...

SheWolf · SheWolf

Thank you all for you kinds words which i have received, especially in my last post. I think I really didn't understand what being "powerless" and "unmanageable" really meant until I read your responses. I have read about it, listened to it at my f2f meetings, but didn't rea...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Cannot sleep. Touch deprivation. It is so hard to live with. I talk and talk to hp to no avail for years. Miss a man in my life so much. Am much better about the grieving my family etc. Am ok most the time with this aloness. My heart hurts, can tell I am aging. You know how people don't live as long if hey do not ha...

intothewoods · intothewoods

Hey, MIP family! Need to vent a little tonight about the Limbo that is my life. I'm still 90% sure that I'm leaving my AH husband in May, after I finish my Bachelor's degree. Living with him is hard because we both know that our marriage is falling apart. We had a vague sort of conversation today about the s...

ally · ally

Guys I've been trying to get into the chatroom via mirc and cannot remember how to add the chatroom. Can anyone help. Regards Ally xx

Jellybean1707 · Jellybean1707

Hi, This is probably going to end up more likey life story than a vent but i swear if i don't get this out my head is literally going to explode!!! I got a call from my alcoholic mother this morning because today would have been my dad's 56 birthday and a year since his death...understandably she was really...

SheWolf · SheWolf

I am having difficulty determining if i am really accepting of Step 1, or if I am having trouble trusting my own instincts. I have self-esteem issues, and trying to understand my own emotions can be trying some times. I think I believe that my life has become unmanageable; having to take over everythi...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Today my AH and I went to church with my father-in-law. While we were over at his house, my AH went into the kitchen and I heard one of the cabinets open. As I walked into the kitchen, I saw him shoving something in his pocket. I asked him what it was and he said, "I didn't put anything in my pocket.&q...

Wolfie · Wolfie

Earlier tonight, during the meeting I touched upon the topic of love. I told a condensed version of this story. It was too long to share in the meeting so I thought I would post it here. When I fell in love with Nancy, I forgot to ask her if she had children. Well, she had told me she was married twice before an...

Codependent · Codependent

The A calls and texts me periodically. It is so interesting. Because he will text and I will text back, etc. Then it is like he will stop without answering the last question I asked. Just no response. I let it go. But, it always bothers me- does he think I annoy him with questions, etc? My self-doub...

Jerry F · Jerry F

to ask that the family list the names (or family status) of those who have or are suffering from the disease of alcoholism for the purpose of taking these names to our HP and asking for intervention and special consideration. Here are a few of mine; Bob, James, Todd, Tanya, Troy, Teresa, Phil, R...

Suzannah · Suzannah

...and I shared it with my daughter. It does not matter what it was about as what does matter is this. For some reason I really felt it important to share however, I did not know why and what would come out of it. It was playing on my mind and I could not make sense of it. Now these things normally do not both...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good evening MIP friends. I sit here, and again - have a heavy heart. My heart is heavy from guilt ... which I know I should not feel but I do and it's so real. I also ache in my heart as my ASon is back in treatment. Why - oh - why does this disease make lovely people into such monsters? I LOVE my son but I HATE...

Codependent · Codependent

Tomorrow is my birthday. Gotta cold and dont' feel well. Supposed to snow. Haven't called the A since he asked for money and he asked contacted me. Just kinda down.

grammie · grammie

Grammie here, there is a drunk in the chat room and we cant kick him cause there is no op here. thanks in advance love in recovery, grammie

hotblackink · hotblackink

Hello. I'm new here. I am angry at the moment - but as you all probably know, tomorrow will be completely different (at least for a few hours here or there). And I am paranoid about what to tell you all to call me because I was subconsciously raised to be paranoid. Which does come in handy when I do crazy thin...

Gailey · Gailey

My son has one on his truck for a dui. His truck is old and some of the lights on his running board don't go out right away. It is an electrical problem that he really doesn't have the money to get fixed. Anyway...a lot of the time he has to jump start it with mine or hubby's car. The battery finally died and wou...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

My AH and I have been once again separated and now in the process of getting either a legal separation or divorce. His drivers license has been suspended for a year. Therefore, when I need something from him, such as copies of documents, I must drive out to where he now lives : in the country with his sin...

babysteps · babysteps

I need to have a short pity party or I won't be able to get on with my day/life. My AH and I are separated and not speaking. We are trying to figure out our divorce settlement, but that is made difficult by his refusal to communicate. He hasn't paid any child support, I don't know if I will get to keep my house,...

miss lucy · miss lucy

i have had just the greatest day!!! i just want to shout from the roof tops but i live in a mobile home so i will shout here instead..... the car passed its MOT without needing any work doing on it - 12 months hassle free motoring!!!!!! my dog lucy learnt to Sit and Wait at a gate today and i performed a two dog S...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	A question ... (Preview) What is the difference for you between loving someone and being detached from them vs not loving them?	Rora	11	957	Feb 6, 2010 by RLC
	He says he's in treatment? (Preview) So my sons father is supposedly in treatment. He says he's doing it so when court comes and I bring up his past habits it wont matter anymore. Or is it really court ordered from his DUI in Sept that he insists was dropped weeks later after a piss test showed his level below the limit? Last night on my way home...	Melissa21	11	926	Feb 6, 2010 by Mattie
	unacceptable behavior - again (Preview) So here I am again on this same topic. I have been married to my recovering A for 6 years. In those 6 years it has always been our house rule that there is no smoking in our house. In the last week, I came hoe to find a cigarette butt floating in the toilet. I told AH that it was unacceptable. I don't want ou...	supermom	4	1172	Feb 6, 2010 by Mattie
	You know who you are... A simple Thank You. (Preview) A few weeks back I asked the members of Miracles In Progress for financial help so the needs of the newcomer into the MIP Recovery Homes could be better met by Rose and I during such a trying economic time. I believe in accountability and transparency in such matters. To say the very least, I was absolut...	John	0	712	Feb 6, 2010 by John
	Am I expecting too much (Preview) I've thought about joining al-anon several times, but could never get up enough courage to take that first step. this should be the happiest time of my life. After 6 years of fertility treatments, I finally brought home a beautiful daughter 2 weeks ago. But I'm married to a functional alcoholic. H...	montrose	7	775	Feb 6, 2010 by Festfan
	Extended Family (Preview) I am sort of relapsing I guess. I have this Step Sister. Her personality type as I see it is of convinces. When I am in town everything is great, everyone is family. When I leave town, the phone calls stop and its like the visit never happened. I always feel a bit burnt after leaving. This situation o...	ARSK	3	881	Feb 6, 2010 by Iamhere
	Newbie Here from Ohio (Preview) Glad to meet everyone, Im from Ohio Just found the online site, Trying to get back into the local meetings been out for while so much going on with my son. Nice meeting you all	Angels Dream	8	933	Feb 6, 2010 by Iamhere
	waiting for the snowstorm (Preview) We are expecting around 2 feet of snow today and tomorrow.. I will be stuck in the house all weekend but I am being positive about it. I have some new Wii games to learn how to play, lots of Alanon literature to read and of course there is always Lifetime tv. I wanted to share that I got to see my granddaughter...	Gailey	7	941	Feb 6, 2010 by Iamhere
	I think he is using in rehab...I do nothing right? (Preview) So...The A's Sister in Law told me last night that his roommate is apparently an active addict per the A and that the roommate is bringing two girls down to visit this weekend. Anyway, the assumption was made that my A is also using again, etc. I don't know as I have not spoke to him since Sat since his tat...	Codependent	18	1292	Feb 5, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Valentines Day (Preview) For once this year Valentine's day does not hover over me like a neon sign that I am not loved. I spent many a year feeling like I was undeserving if I did not have someone to give me a valentines. The ex A did under duress but never spontaneously. I settled for so little in the name of having someone, someo...	maresie	12	1011	Feb 5, 2010 by ARSK
	Confused not Convinced (Preview) well here i am looking for help on the internet ...i dont even know if why i am here is worthing complaining about..i have read other post and mine seems so petty compared to others. i met a man 5 years ago who is 11 years older than i am i fell in love with him at his worst. He drank alot and did drugs well that al...	GlamMetalBunny	5	976	Feb 5, 2010 by GlamMetalBunny
	I'm So Angry (Preview) We found out today that my AH will be having his driver's license suspended for 3 years because of his DUI. There's a chance that he can get a special license in 90 days to drive himself to/from work, but he will have an ignition lock device on his vehicle for the 3 years plus 2 years after he gets his licens...	N8SMOM	8	915	Feb 5, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Codependency Groups (Preview) Are there any sites that are dedicated just to codependents? I know a lot of my stuff is alanon, but some of it is straight codependency sickness...? Just can't seem to find a site that is anywhere near what we have here. :)	Codependent	4	1086	Feb 5, 2010 by canadianguy
	Question for everyone (Preview) I will be attending my first al-anon meeting tomorrow night. I'm really looking forward to it. Because I haven't been to a meeting yet, I don't know much about enabling, trying to control an alcoholic's drinking, codependency, etc. I'm really freaking out and need some advice until I can get to a me...	moemoe	7	857	Feb 5, 2010 by kitty
	Need Reassurance... (Preview) I texted the A tonight...just real casual...couldn't stand it...hadn't talked to him in a week. He didn't respond and now I feel weak and bad that I gave in.	Codependent	5	1027	Feb 5, 2010 by nmike
	accept the things I cannot change (Preview) After I do that...then what? I have been spending a lot of time alone just thinking about what I want for the rest of my life. Can you accept that you cannot change something but not accept that it cannot be changed? I don't even know if that sounds right. I can accept that I cannot change certain things bu...	Gailey	6	3646	Feb 5, 2010 by Festfan
	About my daughter (Preview) I've always been proud the fact that I don't try to control my children. Now 26 and 21 I felt I encouraged them to make their own decisions they are both great! Well long story short as possible my youngest was invited to live with the couple she works for at a small but successful retail store in our town 3 y...	glad	6	840	Feb 4, 2010 by maresie
	the party is over (Preview) hi all. not sure how i am feeling at the moment. some relief, some sadness i guess! its been a bad day of sorts but one that i have been expecting since i left AH 1 month ago today. we have been spending quite a bit of time together recently and i really thought he was changing for the better. today AH kill...	miss lucy	7	1088	Feb 4, 2010 by maresie
	Hello I am new to this and Alanon (Preview) Hello All, I am new here and am asking for help. I can not attend f2f meetings due to being almost completely homebound/ car accident, back injury. Can someone help me to get started here?	Criket	6	931	Feb 4, 2010 by Criket
	small victory (Preview) We are having some work done in our house using cement. Days ago we picked the color it was going to be. Yesterday A went into town to buy the tint for the cement. He usually volunteers to go into town for anyhting we need because he can buy himself a bottle there. He had not had a drink in two days and I hated to...	pineapple	4	797	Feb 4, 2010 by Iamhere
	Ever Left the Love of Your Life? (Preview) Im just looking for some reality from those of you who left the true love of your life because of the hurt and mistrust of active drug/alcohol addiction. How long before you didnt feel so attatched? How long before you felt like you werent in love anymore? Whats the process like? I know I have to move on bu...	BatonRougian	6	1468	Feb 4, 2010 by carolinagirl
	I abolutely LOVE this!~ it is me to a T! (Preview) Lord give me grace to slow down my pace, for you said you would walk with me~not race!:) thanks Jozie:)	shellyj123	4	904	Feb 3, 2010 by White Rabbit
	obsessive thinking... (Preview) My boyfriend and I separated 4 months ago, he left me after having had an emotional affair and deciding he wanted to quit drinking. He thought he could only do it alone, and alone he is, he has moved into the mountains, cut off his phone, etc. He has not been to a meeting. Now he has been sober a month and we...	nala	6	2265	Feb 3, 2010 by nala
	I am new to this site or any like it! (Preview) I am currently living in a relationship that has gotten much worse over the past few years due to alcholism. Of course, I am the only one who thinks he has a problem. He continually denies it and yet I am always the one left feeling angry, hurt, helpless, hopeless. I need help and support.	Helpless-Hopeless	12	964	Feb 3, 2010 by Helpless-Hopeless
	Gonna have another garage sale... (Preview) and I'm hoping that this time someone takes home my "blamer". This tool hasn't ever worked since I got into Al-Anon and I've not been able to get rid of it either. I picked it up today and tried to use it and it still wouldn't work. When I tried to put in back in the back of the tool cabinet it didn...	Jerry F	10	1043	Feb 3, 2010 by Jerry F
	Sorting the wheat from the chaff.... (Preview) Just this morning my copy of "News & Views" (The monthly magazine of the Al-Anon Family Group in the UK and Eire), dropped through my letter box, and in it was this little gem: Thought for the month Let not my thinking become confused by listening to too many opinions, but let me consider...	Suzannah	1	852	Feb 3, 2010 by pineapple
	Birthday Wishes... (Preview) I just wanted to say HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MS. SHELLYJ123 :O) Love & Prayers for a Wonderful Day... :o-) Jozie	Jozie	7	878	Feb 3, 2010 by shellyj123
	Help me please! (Preview) I just need someone to reel me in off this ledge. In my head I know I can no longer stay with my Abf I'm just waiting for my heart to catch up. He's NEVER going to change. He is always going to do what he can to manipulate situations, always stay selfish and put me through hell. At the end of an argument I feel...	lizzakiss	6	825	Feb 3, 2010 by ythannah
	Found a pill...what should I do? (Preview) Hi all--I found a percocet (my A does use pills too) and while I keep to myself about the alcohol, I am not sure what to do about this...any thoughts. I found it on the floor...put it back? Throw it out? Hand it to him? Take it myself and wash it down with a shot (j/k). Anyway, I'm not by any stretch tortured b...	SerenityGirl	9	1059	Feb 3, 2010 by blender_girl
	Deeply wounded by a sponsor (Preview) I have a lot of emotional pain and I thought it would be good for me to find a sponsor to work on it. A woman in a meeting said her strength is compassion and empathy, so I asked her to be a sponsor to work out my pain. I didn't really know her that well. We had one hour of phone conversation. During the con...	BostonFern	17	1331	Feb 3, 2010 by carolinagirl
	JUST WANT TO SAY HI! (Preview) HI everyone! I am doing OK today--just want to check in! Life is good; don't take it for granted & keep the faith always or you might end up like I did right after I joined Alanon. Now I can see where I went wrong but it still gets me. Even after 24 years, I am still remember & sometimes relive my past...	Hoot Nanny	3	668	Feb 2, 2010 by Jerry F
	I don't have a sponsor yet...I need some help...please respond (Preview) I am finding myself in quite a position. My A has been home now for almost a week, after being gone for 4 months (3 months in treatment). It is so uncomfortable in the house. I tend to be sensitive to negative energy, and you could slice the tension in the air. I have been continuing to try to do my own thing...	SheWolf	7	843	Feb 2, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Something I wanted to share with you... (Preview) I read something in todays Courage to Change that really struck me, and I wanted to share it with yall and hopefully any newcomers because I have found it to be so true. on page 33/Feb. 2nd it says (in part): When I came to Al-Anon, I found alot of people who had decided to climb down from their ladders into a...	Suzi1965	4	1005	Feb 2, 2010 by White Rabbit
	focusing on me. (Preview) Something I have noticed the more I focus on me my life , my problems and hand everyone else over to HP the better my life becomes. My problems are I can not stand to see people in pain or struggling with problems. But we have to struggle sometimes to learn.. All the pain I have been through has lead to me com...	Tracy	1	639	Feb 2, 2010 by Suzi1965
	Can you think of any moviies that have a "moral" that would be helpful in illustrating a 12 principle? (Preview) I am looking for something to spark a conversation with my nieces. Their mother is the alcholic but the father is just as dysfunctional.	smartkat	11	1190	Feb 2, 2010 by Hoot Nanny
	how do i stop reacting (Preview) I am going through a divorce. He has cheated multiple times on me throughout our marriage. Now that we are separated he accuses me of cheating anytime I leave comments on a facebook page of the opposite sex. How can I stop reacting to his actions. I say rotten things that I normally would not say when...	brightmommy	8	1024	Feb 2, 2010 by glad lee
	dare i believe it? (Preview) hi, i posted a topic earlier in the week called 'somewhere to vent'. my mum had gone off the rails once again and had nearly killed herself. However since that day she's been sober, she tells me she really scared herself and desn't want t put us through it anymore and eventhough its only been 3 days i want t...	Jellybean1707	5	883	Feb 2, 2010 by abbyal
	What are you favorite PERSONAL slogans? (Preview) I'm not talking about slogans in the book. I am talking about things like "Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!"	smartkat	16	1216	Feb 2, 2010 by Rita G
	desperate for relief - don't know how to find peace (Preview) I have so much going on at once in my life- I am overwhelmed with grief. My ex A boyfriend who left me 3 months ago for another woman pops in and out of my life; my good friend is of dying of cancer; my ex-husband isn't paying support, and the list goes on and on. I feel like I am drowning in a sea of emotions and f...	jasobel	7	985	Feb 2, 2010 by Tracy
	Need help/ideas for recovering AA friend (Preview) My friend is in AA and recovery and has been unemployed since 2/09. He is in school which ends in two weeks. However he is divorced and pays a hefty part of his unemployment to his ex-wife. He has been alternating between living with his parents and living with a girlfriend who is not a good friend in recov...	jasobel	4	930	Feb 2, 2010 by Tracy
	I CAN'T STAND MY SON & HIS ALCOHOLISM! (Preview) My son is mean and rotten to the core! I hate to sound so mean but, it's true! He has no respect for me and I'm the one who has always been there for him. We had this hugh blowout argument with name calling and swearing at each other! I'm to the point to where I don't care anymore about him and his selfish dis...	roxygirl	7	1000	Feb 2, 2010 by Diva
	Thank you! (Preview) Thank you all for you kinds words which i have received, especially in my last post. I think I really didn't understand what being "powerless" and "unmanageable" really meant until I read your responses. I have read about it, listened to it at my f2f meetings, but didn't rea...	SheWolf	4	833	Feb 2, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Same O obstacle (Preview) Cannot sleep. Touch deprivation. It is so hard to live with. I talk and talk to hp to no avail for years. Miss a man in my life so much. Am much better about the grieving my family etc. Am ok most the time with this aloness. My heart hurts, can tell I am aging. You know how people don't live as long if hey do not ha...	Debilyn	4	662	Feb 1, 2010 by search41
	An Update from Limbo (Preview) Hey, MIP family! Need to vent a little tonight about the Limbo that is my life. I'm still 90% sure that I'm leaving my AH husband in May, after I finish my Bachelor's degree. Living with him is hard because we both know that our marriage is falling apart. We had a vague sort of conversation today about the s...	intothewoods	3	912	Feb 1, 2010 by Iamhere
	Chatroom (Preview) Guys I've been trying to get into the chatroom via mirc and cannot remember how to add the chatroom. Can anyone help. Regards Ally xx	ally	2	671	Feb 1, 2010 by ally
	Somewhere to vent (Preview) Hi, This is probably going to end up more likey life story than a vent but i swear if i don't get this out my head is literally going to explode!!! I got a call from my alcoholic mother this morning because today would have been my dad's 56 birthday and a year since his death...understandably she was really...	Jellybean1707	5	1940	Feb 1, 2010 by Ness
	How does it feel when you know you are past Step 1? (Preview) I am having difficulty determining if i am really accepting of Step 1, or if I am having trouble trusting my own instincts. I have self-esteem issues, and trying to understand my own emotions can be trying some times. I think I believe that my life has become unmanageable; having to take over everythi...	SheWolf	8	972	Feb 1, 2010 by SheWolf
	Staying in today (Preview) Today my AH and I went to church with my father-in-law. While we were over at his house, my AH went into the kitchen and I heard one of the cabinets open. As I walked into the kitchen, I saw him shoving something in his pocket. I asked him what it was and he said, "I didn't put anything in my pocket.&q...	White Rabbit	6	886	Feb 1, 2010 by blender_girl
	Wolf Medicine (Preview) Earlier tonight, during the meeting I touched upon the topic of love. I told a condensed version of this story. It was too long to share in the meeting so I thought I would post it here. When I fell in love with Nancy, I forgot to ask her if she had children. Well, she had told me she was married twice before an...	Wolfie	8	993	Feb 1, 2010 by Wolfie
	Feedback (Preview) The A calls and texts me periodically. It is so interesting. Because he will text and I will text back, etc. Then it is like he will stop without answering the last question I asked. Just no response. I let it go. But, it always bothers me- does he think I annoy him with questions, etc? My self-doub...	Codependent	1	662	Feb 1, 2010 by Festfan
	Its time again... (Preview) to ask that the family list the names (or family status) of those who have or are suffering from the disease of alcoholism for the purpose of taking these names to our HP and asking for intervention and special consideration. Here are a few of mine; Bob, James, Todd, Tanya, Troy, Teresa, Phil, R...	Jerry F	17	1343	Feb 1, 2010 by Jerry F
	I had a dream... (Preview) ...and I shared it with my daughter. It does not matter what it was about as what does matter is this. For some reason I really felt it important to share however, I did not know why and what would come out of it. It was playing on my mind and I could not make sense of it. Now these things normally do not both...	Suzannah	2	870	Feb 1, 2010 by Jerry F
	I LOVE my SON - I HATE this disease (Preview) Good evening MIP friends. I sit here, and again - have a heavy heart. My heart is heavy from guilt ... which I know I should not feel but I do and it's so real. I also ache in my heart as my ASon is back in treatment. Why - oh - why does this disease make lovely people into such monsters? I LOVE my son but I HATE...	Iamhere	10	1059	Jan 31, 2010 by Iamhere
	Down tonight (Preview) Tomorrow is my birthday. Gotta cold and dont' feel well. Supposed to snow. Haven't called the A since he asked for money and he asked contacted me. Just kinda down.	Codependent	11	1139	Jan 31, 2010 by Festfan
	op needed in the chat room..asap please (Preview) Grammie here, there is a drunk in the chat room and we cant kick him cause there is no op here. thanks in advance love in recovery, grammie	grammie	4	928	Jan 31, 2010 by kitty
	New here. You're gonna get a mouthful. (Preview) Hello. I'm new here. I am angry at the moment - but as you all probably know, tomorrow will be completely different (at least for a few hours here or there). And I am paranoid about what to tell you all to call me because I was subconsciously raised to be paranoid. Which does come in handy when I do crazy thin...	hotblackink	8	1084	Jan 31, 2010 by maresie
	INTERLOCKING BREATHALYZER (Preview) My son has one on his truck for a dui. His truck is old and some of the lights on his running board don't go out right away. It is an electrical problem that he really doesn't have the money to get fixed. Anyway...a lot of the time he has to jump start it with mine or hubby's car. The battery finally died and wou...	Gailey	1	1314	Jan 31, 2010 by Charlie
	Wanted to "rescue" but didn't (Preview) My AH and I have been once again separated and now in the process of getting either a legal separation or divorce. His drivers license has been suspended for a year. Therefore, when I need something from him, such as copies of documents, I must drive out to where he now lives : in the country with his sin...	GailMichelle	6	1070	Jan 31, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Pity party (Preview) I need to have a short pity party or I won't be able to get on with my day/life. My AH and I are separated and not speaking. We are trying to figure out our divorce settlement, but that is made difficult by his refusal to communicate. He hasn't paid any child support, I don't know if I will get to keep my house,...	babysteps	3	858	Jan 31, 2010 by Iamhere
	what a great day!!!!! (Preview) i have had just the greatest day!!! i just want to shout from the roof tops but i live in a mobile home so i will shout here instead..... the car passed its MOT without needing any work doing on it - 12 months hassle free motoring!!!!!! my dog lucy learnt to Sit and Wait at a gate today and i performed a two dog S...	miss lucy	4	903	Jan 31, 2010 by Jerry F
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