The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Something I have noticed the more I focus on me my life , my problems and hand everyone else over to HP the better my life becomes. My problems are I can not stand to see people in pain or struggling with problems. But we have to struggle sometimes to learn.. All the pain I have been through has lead to me coming to Al non slowly learning about me and the things I need to change to improve my life. I step into other lives and try and become involved in their life lessons but they are theirs not mine. The more I leave alone the healthier I am feeling. I still find it very hard but I am going to try and keep the focus on me. My A is living in his mums we see each other twice a week. He is attending AA and working a programme it is hard but I have to try and keep my nose out of this. I want us both to be better today. But Now I see his recovery and probs are his All I can change is me with the help of my HP. So still a work in progress and realise that none of us are perfect all only human. takes a bit of the pressure off.
hugs
-- Edited by Tracy on Tuesday 2nd of February 2010 01:25:46 PM
yes it does take the pressure off and I hope to continue to learn to live the way you describe because sometimes its not very easy to do. Ty for sharing your es&h!