Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Suffice it to say my wife is a dry drunk as well as an ACA. She exhibits all the behaviors of an alcoholic. Today, due to my work schedule, I couldn't take my daughter to a show she wanted to see badly. I asked my wife who I knew was free this evening and received an "I dont' know"....I asked, wh...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Former Alanon and ACA participant....50 years old, miserable marriage and feeling the most unhappy I've ever felt in my life. Divorce is NOT an option at the moment, may be in a few years (I'll explain some other time). My problem is I've lost my happiness and my hope. (I do like what I read from someb...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi all I have been in Al-Anon for about three months. When I started I was in England as a student. I went home to Norway almost three weeks ago and was very nervous about going to a Norwegian meeting. The only meeting I knew of in my area was a meeting especially for adult children of alcoholics. I didnt go...

LarryWhiteford · LarryWhiteford

Can anyone get into the acoa and alanon chatrooms? I am not able to get in wondering if anyone else was able to get in. thanks

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

My AH and I had a very good talk last night about patience (one of my favorite topics - NOT) and forcing things to work that don't. I know that I definitely want what I want when I want it. Period. And there have been so many times that when I didn't get what I wanted when I wanted it, I figured out a way to man...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I'm hurt and its my own fault. No I didn't do a quicky abandon my spouse and capture another alcoholic for a quick attempt at altering but maybe what I did was...is just as crazy. Any of you out there go to those punch, kick, dance and jump around high energy exercise classes? Okay now you know why I'm h...

mackey dee · mackey dee

Taking to AD last evening she sounded soo down.Talking so about her situation.Wanted so much to fly up there wrap her in a nice soft baby blanket and bring her home and tuck her in. Always rescued her cant do it anymore.This time it is up to her.She said the last time she was thinking her and ex would get bac...

okwitt · okwitt

As usual when I came here a few weeks ago I was looking for a magic fix for my A adult son. So far when I post on the board your so disappointethat I don't go to no f2f meetings. I appreciated all the responses on the board. Im reading the brochures, sayings and all. when I go to the online meetings, I don't fe...

stopandchat · stopandchat

Hi all, I'm working the steps - without a sponsor. I do plan to finish my work on steps 4, 5, 6 with a sponsor though. Anyway, I've been kind of skipping around. For instance, I've been making direct amends, but, haven't completed previous steps. Is this detrimental? Thanks!

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

I did a google search and saw some out there, but none that seemed suitable for my daughter. She tried Ala-Teen and didn't like it. She didn't even think I was an alcoholic, so she initially resisted all of this and I think right now she still doesn't really know what to think. I really just want to try a...

New Member Question · mrphunny

Hello. I'm looking for some help and advice. My wife is an alcoholic and I knew nothing of this disease growing up. No one in my family suffered from it. So as I've been with her, I've come to learn all about the lying, the suspicion, the pain, the embaressment, etc. I didn't know what to do except try to be a...

speck31 · speck31

So I haven't posted in awhile - but I still read as much as I can and am going to f2f meetings when I am in town. I asked my exAB for one month of no contact after dating for over a year - off and on. He is a binger and can go for long periods of time without any alcohol/drugs but when he starts he goes for awhile. I...

Jennifer · Jennifer

This morning when I woke up and looked out the window I saw my neighbor had a tarp that had been covering a leaking skylight flapping inthe wind hanging down the side of her house. I watched it flap for awhile thinking of how it reminded me of the pictures of Christo's artistic events like draping fabric...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

IF IT KEEPS GETTIN' BETTER, I DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M GONNA DO! I AM GETTING BACK ON TRACK & SLEEPING PRETTY WELL! FOR ALL OF THOSE WHO DON'T KNOW ME, I AM AN INSOMNIAC & HAVE TROUBLE SLEEPING. BUT TODAY I AM DOING GREAT! IT IS NICE TO SIT AT THE COMPUTER & HAVE SOMETHING POSITIVE TO SAY. MY RELA...

Nicki · Nicki

My boyfriend came back from treatment in April of this year. After his return he was sober (and still is), but things between us changed as well. for the last three months he never gave me the feeling I was genuinely loved, he doesn't return my calls, there is no quality time and he just sits in the house fe...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi Everyone, I have not posted in a couple of months my computer is down. I am doing this in work do not worry it is the end of my day. I miss posting so much and I know my recovery is not what is was, I will have to make it a priority to get my computer fixed. Hope to be back soon please keep me in your prayer as I wi...

Adabnu · Adabnu

For those who don't know me. I am the one who broke up with my AH fiancée a month ago. After so many calls from him since the break up, he finally stop calling me. It has been more than a week now, no contacts at all. I should feel relieved, right? No, actually, I feel I become weaker and weaker, I start missing...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha MIP family...I'm following up on the suggestion of a former Al-Anon sponsor who in response to my comisserating about a problem in my life offered the title. This post is also an update on an earlier post about "Wanting my brother (in recovery) back". My Sponsor's suggestion was...

Dash · Dash

I am the mother of an addict. I am also fairly new to al-anon, so I hope you will be patient with me as I learn. The chaos of this disease is overwhelming at times. But we are working on taking care of ourselves now. For so long we let his addiction dictate our feelings and household. If he was doing well,...

Ri · Ri

Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending - Carl Bard This is what I'm looking forward to with my ABF who is 95 days sober! Just thought I would share!

sduff · sduff

Dont know what to do or how to handle this ...Married a man who was an alcoholic and started drinking again. He says he loves me with all his heart and I try to believe that but in MY heart I know he loves the bottle more than me! I feel like I am fighting a ghost that I cant hit......He told me he knows he has a p...

Acatnip · Acatnip

I read a recent post from someone new to here and it struck me to reply. I could see myself in the original poster and I felt the need to offer some support. Then it struck me that I have neglected to thank those who were a lifeline in what has to be described as the worse time in my life. And there was one thing I...

maire rua · maire rua

Hi All, One of my A-brothers has turned up well and is working, so good news, there had been no word off him for a good few months so I am glad his HP is looking out for him. Today I handed it over. My father is pissed at me because I will not ring him. I have had to detach from this situation for a number of reasons...

stopandchat · stopandchat

Hi, I am a member of Al-Anon, however, new to this board. My husband is the alcoholic who brought me to the program. He was pretty much on a 2 year bender, and has been sober for almost 8 months now. We've only been married for a little over a year, and got married in the midst of active alcoholism I know - mist...

kablisnow · kablisnow

My husband just came home from rehab, he has been sober 44 days. Today I suspected him of drinking or lyeing. Pretty sure he was doing one or the other or both. I tried to talk to him and assure him that I just wanted the truth and no matter what we would get through it together but that didnt seem to get me any...

buick23 · buick23

One of my closest friends mom died today. She overdosed on pills. Very sad day. Please say some prayers for my friend and her family. thx buick

Loupiness · Loupiness

I have really been struggling with my relationship with my 17 yr old son lately. He is not an A, just a teenager, but shares so many characteristics of my exAh, that it is difficult at times to separate myself. So, is an A like a teen or a teen like an A? Hard to know, all I know is that I am easily triggered a...

petpal · petpal

Hi all, in case no one has asked you today, I will, So how was your day My husband who is in essential services came in today and told me how many lives he saved and how many fights he stopped, having a real hard and stressful day. When he had vented he looked at me and said, I should go for a ride just to vent...

petpal · petpal

Does anyone know why I cant get in All it says is java chat denied.... thanks for all info petpal xxx

Samsgram · Samsgram

Well I haven`t been here in a number of months. This had been my only source of support since I had no way of getting to outside meetings w/ health issues and babysitting much too much. My health has since improved and I`am now trying to get to meetings and take better care of myself. I say I want to detatch f...

stepmom · stepmom

Hi, I'm new to this site and new to the condition of alcoholism. I have three step-children ages 19, 17 and 11. Their mother will be going in for residential treatment in a week for 30 days. During that time they will be living with me and their father full time. (We normally have them every other week...

Greenvalleygal · Greenvalleygal

I have that old sick feeling that I fight so hard to not have. Alcoholic son is suppose to work today but has been on a three day drunk during his time off. I have not talked to him but normally I give him a ride to and from work if his brother is not available. I have texted him and asked if he needed a ride and...

okwitt · okwitt

I went to deliver basics my adult A Son needed from grocery store. Drove up- he came out ranting and raving demanding his truck keys(truck and insurance in my husbands name) Called him he said give him his keys. I did. He cursed and called me everything bad. I know on this probation, he is most likely goin...

MotherTeresa · MotherTeresa

Hi Guys, My alcoholic son lives with us in a basement bedroom and the last couple of nights I heard voices. coming from down there at 3:30 in the morning. He was moving around down there, swearing, and ranting, sounding very angry. It was scary, he is usually quite mild mannered and sweet even when dru...

QOD · QOD

My exah/bf has the worst luck. When it rains, it pours with him. He was making his 1st pizza delivery last night and got a flat tire. He put on the spare and that went flat too! I picked him up & brought him back to my house so his mom could pick him up from there and he could take his tire to a friend's ho...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), On this day President Ronald Reagan declared it NATIONAL ICE CREAM DAY! Now I would have thought he would have found some way to declare it National Jelly Bean Day, as we all know about his love of jelly beans. Now I think we should honor this man, plus help out all the dairy farmers b...

Diva · Diva

I could use a vacation. It is too hot here to get outside to play, and I am feeling a bit resentful and angry on top of that. One of these days I will get myself together, but it won't be this morning. Loving one minute and hating the next is not good for one's mind or heart. Thanks for listening. Perhaps I'...

Jill · Jill

As a child, I would be anxious until my alcoholic dad was safely home. (Even then, who knew what would happen when he got home? ) I would look throughout the big house as a little kid, ending at the garage. If his car were not in the garage, I knew he wasn't in. Then I figured out to go first to the garage....

pineapple · pineapple

After more than a year from hell my Ah finally quit drinking. For awhile. He went over three months sober but this past week I've noticed he's been drinking a couple of times. Not drunk, just silly like he gets after a couple of drinks. He says he can have a drink or two now and then and he's fine with that....

Katy · Katy

Well I am going to be nice and smiley, and going to be the opposite of what I always blamed my hubby, for turning me into, with a wrong word, a wrong look, body language, there are just tooooooo many people in this relationship, and I am half of them, so just for today I am going to be just ONE SMILEY FACED PER...

buick23 · buick23

So he says if there is no tea i might have to drink a beer. I would have freaked out about that years ago and now I can just think to myself, if u wanna beer have a beer. whatever. I see the blaming me here again. if you don't make tea, I blame you for drinking a beer. Really I can laugh about it and I'm not falling f...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Hi. Haven't been in for a while. Have been very stressed both at work and home. AH has been very ill - finally got him into hospital where they de-toxed him got him eating again, did numerous tests which all pointed to his symptoms being the result of his alcool intake (at least 1/2 bottle brandy a day). It...

brb446 · brb446

AH is coming off of a pretty bad binge...I think b/c there is no more alcohol in the house...I've asked him to go back to program a lot of these last 6 -12 months. (He binges a few days- gets sick- gets sober for a while then binges again). Tonight he came into the room and said he was sorry ( as he was detoxin...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

Was in the supermarket today. It is always a scene, as the one near us is also right in the middle of some heavy drinking bars. There's also a heavy bunch of heroin and methadone use in my area. The scene: I hear a young girl 12 or 13, screaming her head off in the most angry, hateful way to her Mom across the en...

Patience With Sober Family Members · White Rabbit

I've probably posted about patience before - or my lack of it. :) I've noticed in my recovery that I am able to be much more patient with the alcoholics in my life. I'm able, at least for today, to understand that they are spiritually sick and when they do things that hurt themselves, they hurt themsel...

miss_carol · miss_carol

I have currently made a decision to stay right where I am at. I am using some of my tools I have learned from alanon and other literature I have read. I still have to continue dealing with that anger that comes out when I start thinking he is just using/drinking to get me. It has nothing to do with me. Althoug...

oscarmom · oscarmom

background- my husband was forced to rehab by his boss. drinking was so bad he was passing out at work and drinking in the car.of course he lied about all of this. when i asked him before he went to rehab I got these answers: How much were you drinking in the car? answer was 12 ounces. who answers like that...

miss_carol · miss_carol

I am checking in and trying to settle my brain to a contented quiet. I can't tell if I am shut down. I cried for months and now I am just telling myself it's ok and I don't have to decide right now.I feel sort of numb and dazed.(nothing new there lol) Except for the fact that I get so angry when I see my a/h acting...

littlemamasheart · littlemamasheart

Hi my name is Mary D.I go to the just 4 today group in my home town of Newberry Mi Friday nights 7 pm.I am alternating weekends here is Sault Ste marie Mi.So I dont get to meetings like I should.My other half has been in the AA program 29 years July 7.We have been together 15 years July 1.I am telling you this be...

Nalina · Nalina

My ABF who I have left behind, 600 miles away, may possibly be showing signs that he is close to his bottom and in a round-about way, asking for help. He says,"Things are getting worse for me up without you and I don't see them getting better, I only see things getting worse. I am getting worse witho...

Katy · Katy

Humour lol instead of anger, I am starting to swap it, it is not my job to sort out the insanity of another, I can turn that frown upside down , and think to myself you are so funny, I am glad I am not you and very glad I am me katyx

DreamXL · DreamXL

Ok its friday am and I cant get into the meeting room and man I am going wild here. I know I need these meetings but since I cant get in the room I am reminded of how much I need these meetings and how critical they are to starting my day with the right frame of mind...god im trying every which way to get in and ca...

Katy · Katy

I have been thinking lol OH NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, yes sorry, and I thought of all the people in this world who have I hurt most? And I think it is myself, this thing we live with is so cunning it makes us think we are telepathic, and majicians, we take it upon ourselves to try and do for others what they should be d...

pineapple · pineapple

I was looking forward to the meeting this morning but for some reason can't get into the room. I've been going there for 6 months but this morning got a message about "security concerns". I tried to copy the whole message to post here but was unable to. Can someone help me with this or point me i...

clementine · clementine

Hey has anyone had experience with the vivatrol "pellet"? My boyfriend got it today and is sick--like withdrawl he says. Any idea how long this lasts? Could it be from residual "stuff" in his system still? Anyone know if these withdrawl symptoms will go away once his body ha...

buick23 · buick23

I am heartbroken today. The only thing that keeps me going I think are the slogans I keep telling myself. Keeping my side of the street clean, I'm not given more to deal with than I can handle, even though this is hard, and that hp has some kind of plan. My furry friend is keeping me company though. He lets me...

renee26 · renee26

Hi everyone- I just found this forum as I was looking for what ever help I could find. Iv been reading and its so nice to know there are others out there that are feeling the same as I am. I have been with my AH off and on for 19 yrs. I left him and took our kids for 4 of it, at that point he stopped drinking, started...

Katy · Katy

yourself!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ie78VtBtwBI

Katy · Katy

Put off until tomorrow what you can do today, why? because tomorrow might be really busy and will heap more pressure on you, and tomorrow never comes x KKKKKKKKKKKaty x

bluerose79 · bluerose79

Giving up control and not taking it personally are for me the hardest things i'm struggling with in my relationship with my sober ABF. He does not express many emotions about how he feels about me, except when i have tried to leave. So i stay, thinking this time things will be better ( I know) and usually...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Angry with wife....trying to let it go.... (Preview) Suffice it to say my wife is a dry drunk as well as an ACA. She exhibits all the behaviors of an alcoholic. Today, due to my work schedule, I couldn't take my daughter to a show she wanted to see badly. I asked my wife who I knew was free this evening and received an "I dont' know"....I asked, wh...	mjhyankees	5	939	Jul 23, 2010 by maresie
	When will I feel better??? (Preview) Former Alanon and ACA participant....50 years old, miserable marriage and feeling the most unhappy I've ever felt in my life. Divorce is NOT an option at the moment, may be in a few years (I'll explain some other time). My problem is I've lost my happiness and my hope. (I do like what I read from someb...	mjhyankees	12	946	Jul 23, 2010 by ythannah
	I finally found the courage to attend a meeting in my own country (Preview) Hi all I have been in Al-Anon for about three months. When I started I was in England as a student. I went home to Norway almost three weeks ago and was very nervous about going to a Norwegian meeting. The only meeting I knew of in my area was a meeting especially for adult children of alcoholics. I didnt go...	Cosmos	3	861	Jul 23, 2010 by Katy
	Chatroom (Preview) Can anyone get into the acoa and alanon chatrooms? I am not able to get in wondering if anyone else was able to get in. thanks	LarryWhiteford	2	648	Jul 22, 2010 by abbyal
	Forcing things that don't work (Preview) My AH and I had a very good talk last night about patience (one of my favorite topics - NOT) and forcing things to work that don't. I know that I definitely want what I want when I want it. Period. And there have been so many times that when I didn't get what I wanted when I wanted it, I figured out a way to man...	White Rabbit	6	1196	Jul 22, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Reality Check.... (Preview) I'm hurt and its my own fault. No I didn't do a quicky abandon my spouse and capture another alcoholic for a quick attempt at altering but maybe what I did was...is just as crazy. Any of you out there go to those punch, kick, dance and jump around high energy exercise classes? Okay now you know why I'm h...	Jerry F	14	1485	Jul 21, 2010 by Andrea12
	accepting (Preview) Taking to AD last evening she sounded soo down.Talking so about her situation.Wanted so much to fly up there wrap her in a nice soft baby blanket and bring her home and tuck her in. Always rescued her cant do it anymore.This time it is up to her.She said the last time she was thinking her and ex would get bac...	mackey dee	3	791	Jul 21, 2010 by Rocky38
	I expected a miracle! (Preview) As usual when I came here a few weeks ago I was looking for a magic fix for my A adult son. So far when I post on the board your so disappointethat I don't go to no f2f meetings. I appreciated all the responses on the board. Im reading the brochures, sayings and all. when I go to the online meetings, I don't fe...	okwitt	12	1129	Jul 21, 2010 by nmike
	How to work the 12 steps (Preview) Hi all, I'm working the steps - without a sponsor. I do plan to finish my work on steps 4, 5, 6 with a sponsor though. Anyway, I've been kind of skipping around. For instance, I've been making direct amends, but, haven't completed previous steps. Is this detrimental? Thanks!	stopandchat	7	2836	Jul 21, 2010 by stopandchat
	Books for Teenage Children of Alcoholics? (Preview) I did a google search and saw some out there, but none that seemed suitable for my daughter. She tried Ala-Teen and didn't like it. She didn't even think I was an alcoholic, so she initially resisted all of this and I think right now she still doesn't really know what to think. I really just want to try a...	FlyingSquirrel	4	1140	Jul 21, 2010 by FlyingSquirrel
	New Member Question (Preview) Hello. I'm looking for some help and advice. My wife is an alcoholic and I knew nothing of this disease growing up. No one in my family suffered from it. So as I've been with her, I've come to learn all about the lying, the suspicion, the pain, the embaressment, etc. I didn't know what to do except try to be a...	mrphunny	15	1025	Jul 21, 2010 by Aloha
	4 months no contact (Preview) So I haven't posted in awhile - but I still read as much as I can and am going to f2f meetings when I am in town. I asked my exAB for one month of no contact after dating for over a year - off and on. He is a binger and can go for long periods of time without any alcohol/drugs but when he starts he goes for awhile. I...	speck31	8	1557	Jul 21, 2010 by speck31
	Flapping in the wind (Preview) This morning when I woke up and looked out the window I saw my neighbor had a tarp that had been covering a leaking skylight flapping inthe wind hanging down the side of her house. I watched it flap for awhile thinking of how it reminded me of the pictures of Christo's artistic events like draping fabric...	Jennifer	5	903	Jul 21, 2010 by Karilynn
	If it keeps gettin' better... (Preview) IF IT KEEPS GETTIN' BETTER, I DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M GONNA DO! I AM GETTING BACK ON TRACK & SLEEPING PRETTY WELL! FOR ALL OF THOSE WHO DON'T KNOW ME, I AM AN INSOMNIAC & HAVE TROUBLE SLEEPING. BUT TODAY I AM DOING GREAT! IT IS NICE TO SIT AT THE COMPUTER & HAVE SOMETHING POSITIVE TO SAY. MY RELA...	Hoot Nanny	5	706	Jul 21, 2010 by Karilynn
	loving someone sometimes means letting go, but this really hurts (Preview) My boyfriend came back from treatment in April of this year. After his return he was sober (and still is), but things between us changed as well. for the last three months he never gave me the feeling I was genuinely loved, he doesn't return my calls, there is no quality time and he just sits in the house fe...	Nicki	9	1629	Jul 21, 2010 by Nicki
	Missing the board (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have not posted in a couple of months my computer is down. I am doing this in work do not worry it is the end of my day. I miss posting so much and I know my recovery is not what is was, I will have to make it a priority to get my computer fixed. Hope to be back soon please keep me in your prayer as I wi...	Tracy	4	699	Jul 21, 2010 by lyndebi
	Need advice (Preview) For those who don't know me. I am the one who broke up with my AH fiancée a month ago. After so many calls from him since the break up, he finally stop calling me. It has been more than a week now, no contacts at all. I should feel relieved, right? No, actually, I feel I become weaker and weaker, I start missing...	Adabnu	4	663	Jul 21, 2010 by lyndebi
	Bring it out to the light of the Serenity Prayer... (Preview) Aloha MIP family...I'm following up on the suggestion of a former Al-Anon sponsor who in response to my comisserating about a problem in my life offered the title. This post is also an update on an earlier post about "Wanting my brother (in recovery) back". My Sponsor's suggestion was...	Jerry F	10	1051	Jul 20, 2010 by buick23
	New Here (Preview) I am the mother of an addict. I am also fairly new to al-anon, so I hope you will be patient with me as I learn. The chaos of this disease is overwhelming at times. But we are working on taking care of ourselves now. For so long we let his addiction dictate our feelings and household. If he was doing well,...	Dash	8	969	Jul 20, 2010 by buick23
	Read a great quote today...... (Preview) Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending - Carl Bard This is what I'm looking forward to with my ABF who is 95 days sober! Just thought I would share!	Ri	4	687	Jul 20, 2010 by buick23
	ready to give up....so angry!!! (Preview) Dont know what to do or how to handle this ...Married a man who was an alcoholic and started drinking again. He says he loves me with all his heart and I try to believe that but in MY heart I know he loves the bottle more than me! I feel like I am fighting a ghost that I cant hit......He told me he knows he has a p...	sduff	6	1040	Jul 20, 2010 by maresie
	And I have neglect those that helped (Preview) I read a recent post from someone new to here and it struck me to reply. I could see myself in the original poster and I felt the need to offer some support. Then it struck me that I have neglected to thank those who were a lifeline in what has to be described as the worse time in my life. And there was one thing I...	Acatnip	6	811	Jul 20, 2010 by maresie
	Dealing with A-brothers and A father, (Preview) Hi All, One of my A-brothers has turned up well and is working, so good news, there had been no word off him for a good few months so I am glad his HP is looking out for him. Today I handed it over. My father is pissed at me because I will not ring him. I have had to detach from this situation for a number of reasons...	maire rua	3	675	Jul 20, 2010 by maresie
	Alcoholic husband moved out while I was at work (Preview) Hi, I am a member of Al-Anon, however, new to this board. My husband is the alcoholic who brought me to the program. He was pretty much on a 2 year bender, and has been sober for almost 8 months now. We've only been married for a little over a year, and got married in the midst of active alcoholism I know - mist...	stopandchat	11	2851	Jul 20, 2010 by Rita G
	Just came home from 6 wk program.... (Preview) My husband just came home from rehab, he has been sober 44 days. Today I suspected him of drinking or lyeing. Pretty sure he was doing one or the other or both. I tried to talk to him and assure him that I just wanted the truth and no matter what we would get through it together but that didnt seem to get me any...	kablisnow	7	1025	Jul 20, 2010 by abbyal
	death (Preview) One of my closest friends mom died today. She overdosed on pills. Very sad day. Please say some prayers for my friend and her family. thx buick	buick23	15	861	Jul 19, 2010 by miss_carol
	Learning how "to be"... (Preview) I have really been struggling with my relationship with my 17 yr old son lately. He is not an A, just a teenager, but shares so many characteristics of my exAh, that it is difficult at times to separate myself. So, is an A like a teen or a teen like an A? Hard to know, all I know is that I am easily triggered a...	Loupiness	5	766	Jul 19, 2010 by nmike
	And how was your day!!!! (Preview) Hi all, in case no one has asked you today, I will, So how was your day My husband who is in essential services came in today and told me how many lives he saved and how many fights he stopped, having a real hard and stressful day. When he had vented he looked at me and said, I should go for a ride just to vent...	petpal	9	922	Jul 19, 2010 by petpal
	cant get in to chat boards..... (Preview) Does anyone know why I cant get in All it says is java chat denied.... thanks for all info petpal xxx	petpal	3	510	Jul 19, 2010 by jitsuka
	Its Been Awhile... (Preview) Well I haven`t been here in a number of months. This had been my only source of support since I had no way of getting to outside meetings w/ health issues and babysitting much too much. My health has since improved and I`am now trying to get to meetings and take better care of myself. I say I want to detatch f...	Samsgram	4	1039	Jul 19, 2010 by Samsgram
	My step-children's mom going to rehab for 30 days...help! children alcoholic step-parent (Preview) Hi, I'm new to this site and new to the condition of alcoholism. I have three step-children ages 19, 17 and 11. Their mother will be going in for residential treatment in a week for 30 days. During that time they will be living with me and their father full time. (We normally have them every other week...	stepmom	4	8567	Jul 19, 2010 by xeno59
	Sick Feeling (Preview) I have that old sick feeling that I fight so hard to not have. Alcoholic son is suppose to work today but has been on a three day drunk during his time off. I have not talked to him but normally I give him a ride to and from work if his brother is not available. I have texted him and asked if he needed a ride and...	Greenvalleygal	19	987	Jul 19, 2010 by Greenvalleygal
	feeling terrible (Preview) I went to deliver basics my adult A Son needed from grocery store. Drove up- he came out ranting and raving demanding his truck keys(truck and insurance in my husbands name) Called him he said give him his keys. I did. He cursed and called me everything bad. I know on this probation, he is most likely goin...	okwitt	6	969	Jul 19, 2010 by Greenvalleygal
	Scary "blackout" ranting (Preview) Hi Guys, My alcoholic son lives with us in a basement bedroom and the last couple of nights I heard voices. coming from down there at 3:30 in the morning. He was moving around down there, swearing, and ranting, sounding very angry. It was scary, he is usually quite mild mannered and sweet even when dru...	MotherTeresa	3	1054	Jul 19, 2010 by sirpher
	He has rotten luck (Preview) My exah/bf has the worst luck. When it rains, it pours with him. He was making his 1st pizza delivery last night and got a flat tire. He put on the spare and that went flat too! I picked him up & brought him back to my house so his mom could pick him up from there and he could take his tire to a friend's ho...	QOD	8	683	Jul 19, 2010 by QOD
	National Ice Cream Day (Preview) ((((Family)))), On this day President Ronald Reagan declared it NATIONAL ICE CREAM DAY! Now I would have thought he would have found some way to declare it National Jelly Bean Day, as we all know about his love of jelly beans. Now I think we should honor this man, plus help out all the dairy farmers b...	Karilynn	8	747	Jul 19, 2010 by RLC
	This morning I have awakened, "mad at the world." (Preview) I could use a vacation. It is too hot here to get outside to play, and I am feeling a bit resentful and angry on top of that. One of these days I will get myself together, but it won't be this morning. Loving one minute and hating the next is not good for one's mind or heart. Thanks for listening. Perhaps I'...	Diva	7	632	Jul 19, 2010 by tlcate
	MyProgress Milestone (Preview) As a child, I would be anxious until my alcoholic dad was safely home. (Even then, who knew what would happen when he got home? ) I would look throughout the big house as a little kid, ending at the garage. If his car were not in the garage, I knew he wasn't in. Then I figured out to go first to the garage....	Jill	2	867	Jul 18, 2010 by hotrod
	boundaries? (Preview) After more than a year from hell my Ah finally quit drinking. For awhile. He went over three months sober but this past week I've noticed he's been drinking a couple of times. Not drunk, just silly like he gets after a couple of drinks. He says he can have a drink or two now and then and he's fine with that....	pineapple	5	761	Jul 18, 2010 by pineapple
	Who are you coming as today? KKKKKKKKKaty, (Preview) Well I am going to be nice and smiley, and going to be the opposite of what I always blamed my hubby, for turning me into, with a wrong word, a wrong look, body language, there are just tooooooo many people in this relationship, and I am half of them, so just for today I am going to be just ONE SMILEY FACED PER...	Katy	9	753	Jul 18, 2010 by All I can be
	tea or beer (Preview) So he says if there is no tea i might have to drink a beer. I would have freaked out about that years ago and now I can just think to myself, if u wanna beer have a beer. whatever. I see the blaming me here again. if you don't make tea, I blame you for drinking a beer. Really I can laugh about it and I'm not falling f...	buick23	6	903	Jul 18, 2010 by All I can be
	So furious - need a rant! (Preview) Hi. Haven't been in for a while. Have been very stressed both at work and home. AH has been very ill - finally got him into hospital where they de-toxed him got him eating again, did numerous tests which all pointed to his symptoms being the result of his alcool intake (at least 1/2 bottle brandy a day). It...	Tattyhead	8	1125	Jul 18, 2010 by Bettina
	Says he's going back to program (Preview) AH is coming off of a pretty bad binge...I think b/c there is no more alcohol in the house...I've asked him to go back to program a lot of these last 6 -12 months. (He binges a few days- gets sick- gets sober for a while then binges again). Tonight he came into the room and said he was sorry ( as he was detoxin...	brb446	6	759	Jul 18, 2010 by xeno59
	But fo rthe Grace of my HIgher Power (Preview) Was in the supermarket today. It is always a scene, as the one near us is also right in the middle of some heavy drinking bars. There's also a heavy bunch of heroin and methadone use in my area. The scene: I hear a young girl 12 or 13, screaming her head off in the most angry, hateful way to her Mom across the en...	alanonicScotland	2	1265	Jul 18, 2010 by xeno59
	Patience With Sober Family Members (Preview) I've probably posted about patience before - or my lack of it. :) I've noticed in my recovery that I am able to be much more patient with the alcoholics in my life. I'm able, at least for today, to understand that they are spiritually sick and when they do things that hurt themselves, they hurt themsel...	White Rabbit	1	610	Jul 18, 2010 by Rocky38
	Finally breathing easier ( at least for today) (Preview) I have currently made a decision to stay right where I am at. I am using some of my tools I have learned from alanon and other literature I have read. I still have to continue dealing with that anger that comes out when I start thinking he is just using/drinking to get me. It has nothing to do with me. Althoug...	miss_carol	2	717	Jul 18, 2010 by Karilynn
	we could all use some humor (Preview) background- my husband was forced to rehab by his boss. drinking was so bad he was passing out at work and drinking in the car.of course he lied about all of this. when i asked him before he went to rehab I got these answers: How much were you drinking in the car? answer was 12 ounces. who answers like that...	oscarmom	4	1144	Jul 18, 2010 by Bettina
	Not believing my excuses for staying, it's probably really fear. (Preview) I am checking in and trying to settle my brain to a contented quiet. I can't tell if I am shut down. I cried for months and now I am just telling myself it's ok and I don't have to decide right now.I feel sort of numb and dazed.(nothing new there lol) Except for the fact that I get so angry when I see my a/h acting...	miss_carol	4	699	Jul 17, 2010 by brb446
	New to on line al-anon but not to al-anon itself. (Preview) Hi my name is Mary D.I go to the just 4 today group in my home town of Newberry Mi Friday nights 7 pm.I am alternating weekends here is Sault Ste marie Mi.So I dont get to meetings like I should.My other half has been in the AA program 29 years July 7.We have been together 15 years July 1.I am telling you this be...	littlemamasheart	4	732	Jul 17, 2010 by david62
	Possible cry for help (Preview) My ABF who I have left behind, 600 miles away, may possibly be showing signs that he is close to his bottom and in a round-about way, asking for help. He says,"Things are getting worse for me up without you and I don't see them getting better, I only see things getting worse. I am getting worse witho...	Nalina	7	895	Jul 17, 2010 by canadianguy
	Saturday awareness! (Preview) Humour lol instead of anger, I am starting to swap it, it is not my job to sort out the insanity of another, I can turn that frown upside down , and think to myself you are so funny, I am glad I am not you and very glad I am me katyx	Katy	2	732	Jul 17, 2010 by hotrod
	Oh my God !!! (Preview) Ok its friday am and I cant get into the meeting room and man I am going wild here. I know I need these meetings but since I cant get in the room I am reminded of how much I need these meetings and how critical they are to starting my day with the right frame of mind...god im trying every which way to get in and ca...	DreamXL	9	1050	Jul 17, 2010 by DreamXL
	Friday thoughts! (Preview) I have been thinking lol OH NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, yes sorry, and I thought of all the people in this world who have I hurt most? And I think it is myself, this thing we live with is so cunning it makes us think we are telepathic, and majicians, we take it upon ourselves to try and do for others what they should be d...	Katy	4	740	Jul 17, 2010 by Katy
	can't get into online meetings (Preview) I was looking forward to the meeting this morning but for some reason can't get into the room. I've been going there for 6 months but this morning got a message about "security concerns". I tried to copy the whole message to post here but was unable to. Can someone help me with this or point me i...	pineapple	6	534	Jul 16, 2010 by pineapple
	Vivatrol Pellet (Preview) Hey has anyone had experience with the vivatrol "pellet"? My boyfriend got it today and is sick--like withdrawl he says. Any idea how long this lasts? Could it be from residual "stuff" in his system still? Anyone know if these withdrawl symptoms will go away once his body ha...	clementine	2	1115	Jul 16, 2010 by White Rabbit
	heartbroken (Preview) I am heartbroken today. The only thing that keeps me going I think are the slogans I keep telling myself. Keeping my side of the street clean, I'm not given more to deal with than I can handle, even though this is hard, and that hp has some kind of plan. My furry friend is keeping me company though. He lets me...	buick23	11	1472	Jul 16, 2010 by tlcate
	Lost, frustrated and holding on to whatever is left.. (Preview) Hi everyone- I just found this forum as I was looking for what ever help I could find. Iv been reading and its so nice to know there are others out there that are feeling the same as I am. I have been with my AH off and on for 19 yrs. I left him and took our kids for 4 of it, at that point he stopped drinking, started...	renee26	7	778	Jul 16, 2010 by tlcate
	Song of the day? (Preview) yourself!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ie78VtBtwBI	Katy	2	466	Jul 16, 2010 by Northof60
	Tip of the day! DON'T? (Preview) Put off until tomorrow what you can do today, why? because tomorrow might be really busy and will heap more pressure on you, and tomorrow never comes x KKKKKKKKKKKaty x	Katy	0	513	Jul 16, 2010 by Katy
	Giving up control/Not taking it personally (Preview) Giving up control and not taking it personally are for me the hardest things i'm struggling with in my relationship with my sober ABF. He does not express many emotions about how he feels about me, except when i have tried to leave. So i stay, thinking this time things will be better ( I know) and usually...	bluerose79	3	1141	Jul 16, 2010 by clementine
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