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Internet Anonymity????
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C'on people... Databases at Banks are hacked, Sony's database of xbox and PS3 purchasers was hacked... military and government databases are hacked... And yet, we expect we will throw our full names, addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, place of employment.. blah, blah, blah, into cybers...
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About my brother (new here)
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Never been too good at lurking, I prefer to jump right in. So here goes. My brother started drinking when he was 14, that was 20 years ago. My parents have both been sober and in AA for over 20 years, and my methods for dealing with my brother come from what they have tought me. They moved out of state a few...
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anybody everflown air canada experience
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my 1st time to ever fly so, my daughter in england calls me wit saying she is getting me a ticket round trip at a fdecent price,ill get on a plane in memphis and fly out to canada,then from canada onto england my daughter has never been to canada so doesnt know how it is,we r trying to find out how big the airpo...
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Newcomer
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Hello, I am new to MIP but I have been in Alanon for 3 years. I am married to a recovering alcoholic and he completed rehab 3 years ago and has not had a drop of alcohol since then, but he has smoked pot, stole my medication (adderall), and bought pills (benzos). I have found this to become stressful althoug...
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Dealing with Guilt
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I have been in Al-Anon for about 2 years and have decided to divorce my AH. I spent a great deal of time making sure my motives were seeking a divorce were honest and not out of frustration, spite, or control. We are still living in the same house and I have been fairly ok with everything, but for the past 2 da...
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daughter giving me a hard time
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says if my depression is that bad then maybe i should go check myself into the hospital,and she came online to ask me if i could make arrangements to come,that she was ver hurt over all this i told her i was even more hurt over it,then i thought about getting some antidepressants from my dr samples so i got m...
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chinup
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update ,of why i didnt go to england
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i woke up 3am crying ,id been obsessing over and over about it and would wake up scared,but,the real reason for my not going is my depression hasnt gotten worse along with anxiety im having problems getting my right meds and daughter sprung this on me all in one min.i typed her a really long letter of reas...
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Otie's Confession
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I admit that for the past few days I have been wandering into the AA message board of MIP. At first I felt a little odd (guilty, I guess) as if I was evesdropping on private conversations----but, apparently we are free to do so. I know that there are some members of this board who are dual members. I alwa...
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My husband is an alcoholic in denial
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I am so sick to my stomach. Yesterday was our 6 month mark for being married. We're still newly weds. I have noticed that my husband drinks alot when he drinks. He does not think that he does, the problem is though he hides how much he drinks. He will drink wine in front of me but then hide the vodka he dr...
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He Seems to be "Getting It" This Time
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A little update.... The day I told the ex that I would not take a polygraph test, the rehab's social told him that he needed to go to the sober living house after his 28-day stay. In addition, his counselor had advised him that he needs to be evaluated by a psychiatrist for his delusions. It was all too mu...
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GailMichelle
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Attemping to Moving Forward...
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Well as Most know I have been Seriously struggling with Juggling everyday life here of late, and I was saying that i needed just a Small 'time out' to feel strong enough to go on... Well I ask, and I Recieved in Full This past week has been nothing short of stressful, But on the Up side of things, this past we...
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How to set boundaries when family isn't on board
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My husband's uncle is an alcoholic. He has been in and out of rehab the past few years. He refuses to follow reccomendations and just last Friday left a treatment facility after doing 3 days of detox. He says he doesn't want to do treatment, doesn't need AA, can do it on his own, blah, blah, blah.....
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Marisa
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Trying to Keep my head on straight..
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Well, today was a pretty stressful day.. My A brother is getting worse and worse as time goes by. He is in pretty rough shape at age 50 and my mother who has breast cancer has been crippling him forever. She babies him to no end. It is absolutely sickening to watch. I have mentioned Alanon but for her she say...
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On Part of Otie's Post/Detachment
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"I had/have a big fear of losing my compassion thru detachment. I am beginning to understand, though, that my first concepts of detachment were erroneous. It seems that it doesn't make sense (completely) until you actually start practicing it." It does seem confusing Otie, I have be...
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Just Tired...
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Did ya Ever get so Tired ya Just forgot Who & What you were and are suppose to be heading tords? I got my Calendar out, and in the last 6 WEEKS.... there has been 2 days that I did not Have Something on the Schedule to do after, putting in my 40hr work wk... I keep thinking what can I cut? and Honestly can't c...
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Jozie
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never flown or ever been away from home here in 30 yrs
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i need lots of encouragement on flying and being so far away from home in england and im here in mississippi.everytime i go to sleep and wake up i keep having these horible dreams about flying and everything untill i come to reality,im somewhat ok right now.but daughter has to have an answer by tomorrow...
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AL-ANON MTG JUNE 13 & JUNE 27
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I am having a series of tests at the hospital that began last Monday morning, June 6 and continues tomorrow morning June 13, and the morning of June 27. I am unable to chair my regularly scheduled Monday meetings for these dates. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks.
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Heartbrokem beyond belief
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I don't know what to do right now other then come to Al Anon friends. My ABF of 3 years has been actively drinking again and has not talked to me for the past couple days. Facebook is an awful thing because I have to see every picture he puts up of him drinking and he's also hanging out in groups where there ar...
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He doesn't want me...
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So my ABF and I have been taking some time apart the past few months...we were living together, but I recently moved back home and we see each other 2 or 3 times a week. In the past few weeks he has been calling less, doesn't call before bed. His phone "dies" all the time. I try to be understanding...
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Damaged
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My ah is a functional drinker who drinks beer after work. He normally just drinks and he is pleasant .Two nights ago he drunk 3/4 of a bottle of straight JD. For some reason I brought up something in the past that was upsetting me , he then brought up an incident from the past where I was raped (I usually know...
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Question about non CAL being brought into meetings
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Hi all, I wasn't sure how active this board is but would like some input and wasn't sure where else I should post this topic. I began attending Alanon meetings early this year and have had profound changes in my personal and work life through the program. I have a wonderful sponsor who has been in the p...
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Google is making this board not private!
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Help! What do I need to do to fix this.....a friend told me if you google my name it's showing all my posts on this Al-anon website, and sure enough, I googled my name and it shows everything I'm posting on this site! What do I need to do to fix this, anyone know? I already removed my name from the settings...
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Reality Can Be Harsh
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Last night was another Family Meeting Night at the rehab facility. Before the meeting, we met with his counselor privately to discusshis on-going obsession of me having a fling. We got no where with him. I did state that I would not take a polygraph. I told him that it's his job to work it out. That...
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Working HARD to maintain my serenity...
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It's been awhile since I've checked in, MIPers, but I do try to come on the board periodically to see how folks are doing. Some of you may recall that my AH was working several hundred miles away, and we were seeing him about one weekend a month. While the arrangement meant I was functionally a single mot...
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Overwhelmed times 10!
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I was going to go see my exAH tonight, but before I got over there he has called me a few times and in each conversation he is talking down to me and not being nice at all. He is try to make me admit things that make no sense to me and trying to tell me I have never built him up or given him compliments and I am just ne...
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flopadopilus
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I lost it at 2am
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I came home yesterday and he was already drunk. Didn't matter at that point, but my fear interjected and on the way to get the kids, he brought a glass of wine with him. When I say glass, I say a large water glass...anyway, it ended up being thrown out of the car window while I lashed out at him on the way to g...
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Need a chair for Friday June 17 morning meeting
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Hello family - I will be unavailable to chair next Friday morning's meeting - I hope someone will be able to step in and run the meeting! Love you all, bg
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safety issues
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It has been a few weeks since I posted and things have improved some days and others it has not. I have been reading the Al-Anon book and have just ordered the daily reader and an Al-Ateen book for my oldest daughter. I have been following the advice and guidelines of dealing with my AW using detachment...
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A Miracle in Progress
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Just got home from the Wednesday Turning Point meeting and watching another Miracle in Progress. The chair for the meeting is a relative newbie who has been clawing for serenity from day one. Mostly she would weep and LOL had already gone thru a box or two of tissues which the meeting supplies. Toni...
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I back and ready to find my serenity!
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Well I am back! I only posted one other time, about a year ago. But I found my way back. reading your post today I feel encouraged and know that if I work the program I too can find the serenity I so long for. My story: Well 1 year ago my AH went into rehab for a month, at that time I was so relieved that he was...
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No that is a naked girl!
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This darling cutie is my Skinny Pig, a hairless guinea pig! Her name is mazylou. I just love her! She is about 5 weeks old. feels like a sorta thicker ballon. lol When ya hold her she kinda sticks to your hands! I tell people she kept falling asleep during her photo shoot. she is very affectionate and like...
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So much hurt
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Hello! I believe I need Al-anon in my life but not sure how to do it at this point because I am mostly in a single parent role. I would like to discuss a lot of the hardships I have been though over the past 3 years but for now would like to discuss my most recent dailys. The man I love is an addict in so many for...
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downdenise
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One day at a time, another f2f under my belt and happy
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My f2f tonight was awesome! It wasn't a step meeting and to be honest I think a few of us were a little confused on the exact topic in the begining lol. However it seemed everyones HP had a hand in it tonight! I know mine did!! A copy of The Forum with a highlighted paragraph ended up in front of me to read. The E...
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Impulse to Resent
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I do not yet have a sponsor, yet I think it is important to share my thoughts with others seeking or in recovery to gain insight from their experience, hope and strength. I just finished this journal entry after reading today's ODAT. Reasoning resentment away!? What is my motive, my reason for getti...
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WAJess
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I am HALT
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I am getting a divorce so I am usually angry or sad about the realtionship. I am lonesome, because I want to fastforward to a loving healthy relationship at times. I didn't get a good nights sleep and I am trying to lose weight so not eating much. So I am HUNGRY, ANGRY, LONELY AND TIRED. Not a good mix today...
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flopadopilus
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The more things change, the more they stay the same.
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It's been a while since I've visited this website. I've been rolling along in my life, concentrating on getting my teenage son through a court ordered drug program. Dealing w/my teenager and his legal issues is how I've spent the last few years. In the process of coping with him, I got back together...
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Newbie has a question - re: bipolar and substance abuse issues
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H in inpatient rehab. He was diagnosed as bipolar I with co-morbid substance abuse issues. I have a question. He's commented that the people there are in their teens and 20's, most with court ordered rehab. He's 54. He feels as though there is no relating going on in either direction. I didn't re...
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hyacinth
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Now He is Requesting I take a Polygraph Test
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My ex is still in rehab. Today is day 8. He stopped taking detox meds just yesterday. Today, he phoned to tell me that he feels good physically; however, he feels very depressed because he still believes that one of his brothers and I spent time together. He now wants me to take a polygraph test. He s...
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GailMichelle
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"Let someone else handle things for awhile..."
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They were words said to me. Their meaning didn't hit me until the conversation ended and I was driving home. It was one of those HP lightening bolt moments. I'm struggling with control. I have a tremendous opportunity to do something I have only dreamed of doing, but it means leaving my AH alone wit...
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Very Very Tired
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my a says he is as healthy as can be
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ok, so he says how can one tell,he works 7 days a week hard labor work carpentry,roofing,concrete,jack of all trades but he works all them days and lives with his boss and his family,his past shot dilaudas alot of his life,drank vodka everyday for who kows how long drinks today every day he has got hipa...
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chinup
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ESH please before "it" hits the fan- I'm ashamed and embarrassed
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Ok Im sure I shouldn't worry about tomorrow and what not but I know it's coming sobi want to be prepared. Here is my situation. When ABF went to jail his A mom blamed me, all the bs that goes with that and sent me some pretty nasty emails. Well I reacted. This of course wa before I found my program so it wasn't n...
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Newcomer here........
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Hey! I'm new to the boards but not new to AA/Alanon. I've been married to my AH for over 20 yrs. I'm at a bit of a crossroads in my life and have been praying for guidance. I think my prayers may have led me to this board because I'm truly not getting an answer as to what I should do at this point. I'm trying...
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I am still here...
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I haven't started a topic for a long time. I just wanted you to know that "yes, Tom" I am still lurking around this site. I usually read the topics and responses several times a week, read my daily meditations, and am still attending my F2F meetings weekly. Things in my life are going prett...
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Sweet Stanley
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needing some ESH, Trying to move on.....
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Well here I am, after leaving my home town (which I Hate, very small) after a year and a half, Back in town!!! Living with my daughter, no vehicle, no job. Things were just getting worse and worse with Ab/f of nine years. Big blow up, walked out on my job and out of his life. I knew that it was what I needed to pr...
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Debilyn is that a hairless rat on your profile pic?
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I just absolutely love your posts and your ESH. I used to have 1 when I was in high school. The picture made me laugh and wonder if my eyes were seeing this right??? I just love you!!!!! You rock!
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flopadopilus
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Forgetting how good we are.
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Today I drove a bus of 8th graders over a hundred miles to a mall for a shopping experience. I went to the new pirate movie, enjoyed lunch and browsing some of the shops (and got paid for my time, egads, i love this job!). I started driving bus this last year, its fun and brings me in contact with a lot of reall...
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She wants to go back :)
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I still struggle with the concept of aism being a family disease. My exAH's aism/addiction was convert and hidden even from me until about 48 hrs before he went to rehab. Obviously a lot of denial, coping and survival skills were in place for me. My daughter was 10 when our family blew up. Initally...
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Letting go
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I've been thinking a lot about my biggest fear when I got here - which was letting go. I thought that letting go was a sign of defeat, and I was so scared of what would happen if I did it. I was mostly afraid that if I let go, I'd lose my AH. As bad as his drinking was, I thought it would be worse without my help...
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White Rabbit
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I said something terribly mean... :(
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I am here to be honest right? Well last night, my bf had to go to a DUI thing. In this state, they have people take these once a week classes inorder to get their license back. Anyway, he drank 4 nips of vodka before the class, over a period of a few hours. I tried super hard to stay on my own side of the stree...
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Miss independent here finally asking for help :)
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Yep, tyipical first born, type A, perfectionist who tried to handle it on my own for so long. I just became angry and bitter at all the betrayal, hurt and pain my husband was causing me because of his drinking. We have been together for 17 years..married for almost 12 of those years. College sweethea...
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VENT: His grand master plan is....do nothing!!
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So my husband is getting ready to go on diversion for his recent DUI. He will not be able to drink for 1 year and will have to submit to pee tests. THAT'S how he plans to deal with his alcohol issues. As for his depression, anxiety, anger, stress problems, he's decided to go off his Effexor (depression me...
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I miss my recovering A.
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Today in church I just broke down and cried. My A burned his AA book a while ago and then went back to the program. The recovery didn't last long and I noticed on Friday tha he hasn't gone to meetings in over a month I think. I don't really remember. I notice him obsessing over our pets, over becoming a b...
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Al-Anon life changing experience
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I had coffee with a friend of mine this morning and we were catching up on news. I told her i had been attending al-anon meetings since October and how much progress I have made already. She told me one of her best friend said al-anon is a life changing experience. I let that statement sync in but I have to a...
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I want to share a feel good moment
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I just talked to my friend. I gave her to low down on ABF and what all happened when I told him he couldn't live here and so on.
This one of the same friends that told me if I stayed with ABF she wouldn't have anything to do with me anymore.
I've shared with her many things that have learned in my recover and...
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devlynn
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I am responsible
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"I came to Al-Anon confused about what was and was not my responsibility. Today, after lots of Step work, I believe I am responsible for the following: to be loyal to my values to please myself first to rid myself of anger and resentment to express my ideas and feelings instead of stuffing them to a...
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Numb, confused and at a loss right now
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Wow...I feel "blank" right now. I can feel so many emotions getting ready to surface but they are fighting over which one is going to surface first.
I just talked to my ABF who is in jail. His emotions have been flop flopping all over the place when I talk to him. Part of being I guess, can't co...
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devlynn
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It was just a stupid phonecall...
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I had a nightmare, which left me feeling pretty shaken. I wanted to hear a voice on the other end of the phone, and my sister usually gets up at 5 AM (it was 7 AM), so I thought it was OK to call her. But it turns out she'd gone to bed late, so I woke her up early. Only getting two hours of sleep is really not a good th...
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atheos
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Just curious/confused
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Another post here really got me thinking. For those of you that have attended alanon for a long time and have seen people move through the program, I am wondering if people usually stay with their partners who are active alcoholics or wind up leaving? I can't help but think the inevitable result of fo...
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pinkchip
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I don't know why it took me so long...
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I don't know why it took me so long to realize that the tolerance that I offered my exaH over the years, (the OVER tolerance), was all about ME, not HIM. At one time I thought I was loving him, offering him the support and understanding he needed and deserved. I thought I was not turning my back on him. I w...
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Rora
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Delusions from Withdrawals
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I was wondering if anyone has had experiences with an alcoholic that had delusions. I have been searching on the Internet for information regarding delusions. Like everything else, I suspect the delusions can become more frequent and their nature more bizarre with time. I'm very concerned about...
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GailMichelle
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