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Wow, that was... new. And nice!
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The co-worker who yelled at me yesterday apologized today. A *real* apology, not an "I'm feeling guilty so I'll say I'm sorry, but here's why it was your fault I yelled at you". I'm not sure I've *ever* gotten a real apology from someone who's blown up at me before. I wish it was acceptable to t...
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Bad day getting worse
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I really don't know where to begin, but the day started out rough not will my 22 yr old AS just things in general. Not much food in the house, (my husband has been layed off of work for the last year) truck wouldn't start for me. So I had to call my sister in law for a ride. Work was tough! I guess in the back of my m...
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Step Two on Step Work Board! Join us!
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We're on Step Two! Join us on the StepWork Board atstepwork.activeboard.comJust click on your group's step two area, read the chairpersons lead on the step, the responses/replies to it and then share your own experience, strength and hope on it.We will start on Step ThreeSunday, Dec. 25th, 2011...
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Recovering Alcoholic Husband
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I am currently seperated-3 months- from my RAH. He is 3 yrs sober. Drinking-wise he's not touched it..but his hateful, resentful personality stills lingers. When he's not complaining or passing judgement upon someone or telling me what i'm doing wrong..he doesn't say anything...totally diseng...
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new beginings
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I'm new to this forum. I'm actually new to this hole concept of al-anon. I've never been to a meeting, I've been to scared. I just read adult children of alcoholics.I could relate to that book better then I've ever related to a person. so i hope to find support and safe place to start my recovery.
I just en...
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I am home from Cali and.....
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I didn't want to leave. It was the first time I have visited my Mom and brother since I started Al-anon and it made all the difference. I can't believe how well it went. My Mom and I were able to hang out and take my girls to the aquarium together. I spent a day with my brother, his wife and kids and we even went w...
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Memories, History and thoughts....
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Hi everyone, I'm not sure why I'm posting this, or if it will get me what I need in the end, but I have to share it and get it out of me. In 1999, ten years sober, I walked into my first Al-Anon meeting... I was sober, but a mess. Al-Anon helped restore me to sanity during this time. I also started Miracless In...
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Progressive Alright!
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I remember the 1st time i ever read the 4 types of alcholics out of the Blue Book. I remember thinking and even saying outloud to my cousler, oh, my husband will never be type 3 or 4. That was 7 years ago. Well, he was right! Alcholism is a disease that is Progressive and w/o treatment it only worsens. T...
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Christmas gifts
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When I was a teenager I ended up in a children's home because my mother couldnt' take care of me as I had a serious illness. The children's home, a huge mansion in the middle of nowhere, was a mix of all kinds of children who basically had no one. We were all ages, all races, some of us handicapped, and the...
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booze in the bushes
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So I take the trash out today and I see something in the base of my lilac bush. Winter here so there are no leaves. It's a big bottle of wiskey. Almost empty. So this is why it takes AH unreasonably long to take out the trash. Hmm. It sort of pissed me off, like oh I'm so bad to go to bed with, you have to have some l...
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Hitting a big low after committing to Al-Anon
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Ugh, I don't know what my problem is. In the past I have gone to some Al-Anon meetings, felt a little better and then stopped going. Then things get bad and I go back. In the meantime, I can see now I've been depressed for a while now, my AH has been an alcoholic for a long time and struggled with sobriety ove...
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90/90 - day five
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(To break my pattern of isolation, I am doing 90 social activities in 90 days. Mostly Al-Anon meetings for now, but my sponsor says we can start counting other activities too once I'm ready for them.) Made it to day five... I am absolutely exhausted. I don't know how people with busy social lives find th...
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atheos
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update.....
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Had to send the man I love to jail this morning hardest thing I've EVER had to do.... So yesterday after the cops told him to leave he ended up coming back around 8 at night... I had my little brother here so he only grabed some clothes and left... He then went to his mothers home, cusing her out looking th...
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Benefits of Journal Writing?
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Tonight, I found an old USB and plugged it into my laptop. I didn't know what was stored in it. To my surprise, I found journal entries on an assortment of topics. It was from a year or more ago. It was so beneficial to read. I'll spare ya the details as to why But me being me, I wondered if there had been a...
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GailMichelle
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Old man grumpy syndrome...
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((((MIP))))...LOL...yes it's real and I've gotta raise my hand that I have or own it also. I have a contract in my business which includes having to come in contact with a "mini" or "maxi" me depending on who's feeling more farty than the other. The "other" for me i...
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working the second step and trying to figure out how to complete it
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I saw these questions someone had posted. I'm not sure if they are from a work book or something, but I think answering these will help me really get through with the 2nd step, or at least guide me in the direction to complete it.
Do I sense spiritual guidance in my life? How?
I believe now and have alwa...
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untitled
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I have called this untitled cos I couldn't think what to title it. I have been doing some writing work for my psychologist. Dealing with situations and writing my thoughts, actions and impulses and consequences. I decided to try to write about an event that happened a long time ago. I see part of my pr...
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My long journey back
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Hello everyone, I posted several days ago about a major melt down I had concerning my grandson and told you I would be back to share my story...Well here goes. My 19 year old grandson lives with me and has a big problem with drinking one night he had been drinking and was out of control and I wouldn't let him...
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kydee
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AH, work, and ACOA
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Last night I went to another meeting. I also think my husband picked a fight with me beforehand, because he knew I was going. I got angry, and we argued (it took a while if him pushing my buttons though). It was hard, but I think I did my best last night, and I was really happy that I went! The Jekyll and Hy...
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My Abf opened up - now patience and pray?
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Hi there :) I've been seeking the wisdom of experience from members on the MIP AA board. Their shares i have really appreciated. Everyone's feedback has helped me so much. More than simple words can begin to express. Im determined to learn as much as I can from your and their experiences as it helps me gr...
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life is sooo good--live it!
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I sometimes wish I didn't have so much to say! Today I am very stoked as we used to say in the 80s. I have more to offer sometimes than I realized. You all have shown me that I am worthy of all things even if I don't work for them. My life is great even though my ah is not receptive sometimes--he married a 33 year o...
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Broken
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So, dealing with the ABF - who is currently out of town of training. It seems to be going...okay. He is home on weekends and I know he's drinking then. I can't stand the smell. I still don't know where I want the relationship to go. I'm tired of the blame he lays and moodiness but am I tired enough yet? I don't...
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Not Alone
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remember to take a NAP!
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Just saying that if you need a nap, take one! I am a believer that rest keeps me going! Today I can't take a bath so I improvize. My bathtub leaks w/ cracks & it is ridiculous. I am hoping for a miracle in that department. Just sayin' y'all. Love ya, Kathleen
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I'm new and I'm lonely
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My baby is due in 7 weeks and after 9 months of being sober my husband of nearly two years is out drinking again. It's killing me. Our history...(if anyone cares) We have been together for nearly 5 or 6 years now. I fell in love with him before I realised that he had a problem and it's been so hard to leave hi...
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Serenity is..
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In Hope For Today on December 25th there is a beautiful page that reads all the explanations of serenity. My favorite is where it says that the character defects are not something "bad in us but traits that we no longer find "useful" and we are ready to remove them so that the more usefu...
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magical music
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I am in awe of the individuals God chooses to send his greatest messages through - when I think of angels singing on high - this kind of voice rises above the rest.
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Cops got involved:-(
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He wasnt wanting to leave but he wa being very rude.. Name calling, blaming, and even telling my son that santa wasnt real... The cops got called.. Not by me. The made him leave. His mother came and got most of his things. Him and her are coming to get the rest soon.. She told me to set them outside.. Things a...
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Question for A's
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In a recent post, Never going back said this: he ruined every holiday, every vacation, every important moment for years, made his family live in fear of his next outburst, and HE doesn't even realize or admit it. My ex denies any wrong doing at all - everything was all my fault; I yelled too so we were both...
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thats that....
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I woke up from my nap and found that he blocked me on facebook....childish but he always does... And he put that he is single... Guess that just helped me out!!! So, I told him he needs to leave... He left but didn't take anything so he will be back... He doesn't have anywhere to go so I'm sure he will try to st...
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How do YOU handle the blame game??
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Me AGAIN... Ugh... Got off the phone with my Abfs(or ex) mother.. So to make that clear ....his mother. Anyways, of corse he went right to her work after he left here mad today.. ( still hasnt came back for his stuff i packed) i think I explained that in another post.. Sorry so many. So let me remind u that he...
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sobriety v active drinking
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wow this is definatley a cunning and baffling disease. I have been with my partner for nearly 7 years I have been in al non for 4 and he has been in AA for 2 and a half. I have learnt so much yet know this is only the tip of the iceberg. We seperated after his last slip my boundary I will not be part of his active...
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Old information
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I find that God (my HP) has fed me enough information at the right time. Originally when I thought I wanted all of the information about last year, I wasn't ready and God sure did know better than me. It was one of those things of I did get tired of being spoon fed, in this case ripping off the bandage would...
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Worst holiday season so far
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Hi, I used to frequent this board and al anon meetings but at some point I felt 'okay again' and dropped off. Last september-january my abf was in a residential treatment center, and things were great for both of us. After he got out and we were living together again, it was great for another month and a ha...
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On days when "A" could stand for a couple things....
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I'm finding that my Abf can be a real A when it comes to me standing up for myself and sticking to my boundries.... (and i'm not talking about Addict if you get my drift) So, I'm going to vent a little... He's pissed that I keep saying NO when he wants to take MY CAR, that he doesn't put any gas in.. I just say, &q...
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Just at a Loss
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Yea Know... Sometimes Life Just SUCKS... Last Night I Went to a Meeting because I had something On my Mind I was Hoping to release... (Which happened AFTER the meeting) but instead I found myself at a loss once more... Found out that a Dear Sweet Recovery Friend is Ill, and it seems that the Doctors don't...
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Confused about attending a wine party
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I'm feeling lost. I'm supposed to attend a party with my girlfriend where there will be a lot of wine consumed. My girlfriend is going to have a couple of drinks, and let me know that if I was going to get worked up about it that I shouldn't attend because it would get her feeling anxious about how I was feeli...
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Life
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I have still been attending weekly alanon meetings. I love my Monday home group! I am finding that I truly need to shop around to find the meetings that work for/speak to me. Unfortunately last week I was only able to attend one meeting - but it was kind of nice to miss it, and know how much I value alanon...
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Every positive moment is a gift from God...
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This past weekend was horrible...my wife has bottomed out with her depression. She was basically non-functional and I was a single parent all weekend, which was somehow made harder by the fact that she was physically there, watching me struggle with our 2 kids, but completely unable to help. The kid...
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is it that time again?
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Is it that time again? Yep! It is MONDAY & time(afternoon) to update everyone on how my weekend went. Could almost not have been better w/a few scrapes but not a big deal. I went to a very nice but crowded Shrimp Peel for our snowriders community fundraiser. It was a funraiser if you like that sort of t...
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New upset member
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Hey everyone, It's nice to know there are alot of people like me out there. I have been living with my A for 4 and a half years. We have 2 and a half year old son and I am in nursing school. I am almost done with school...May 2012. I have no money because I quit my job to finish school. I have tried everythi...
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I handed it over
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I am so thankful for the experience that everyone here shares! Friday night I arrived home and my AH was super frustrated over the internet and trying to get a movie to play and the pauses. He called the help desk and another help desk and the first call was ok the second I cringed. I was in the kitchen makin...
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Jackie11
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Tuesday Night Alanon Meeting in MIP Chat...
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I am unable to chair my regular Tuesday Night Alanon Meeting in our Alanon Chat room for this Tuesday (December 13th) and next Tuesday (December 20th). I am hoping someone will be gracious and step up for me so our Holidays Needs are met. After The Christmas Rush is over, I will be able to get back in the s...
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lacewing
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How do I keep my kids safe?
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So..my soon to be exA has been drinking for the last 3 years, and for the last year living with his sister (since I asked him to leave). When my 15 and 9 yo boys go to him on the weekend, I know there are other influences in the home to keep them safe. Saturday he calls me and tells me that he and his best friend...
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momma bear syndrom.....grrrrr
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I have been doing good at not reacting lately if I do say so myself... But there is a line you just DON'T cross with a mother... Lastnight it was the usual "can I have a cigarette" I say no and he takes them anyways when I fall asleep for 2 seconds.... Not worth my breath.... I say no you can't take t...
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kris10
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Three months = a new habit
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My sponsor and I have agreed that for three months, I will not spend an evening at home alone. It's not totally a 90/90, because some evenings will be activities other than meetings, but the idea is to break this habit of isolating and replace it with a feeling that being around people is normal. This wil...
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atheos
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Door left unlocked
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So my AH drank last night after I went to sleep (which is when he has been doing his drinking lately--frankly this is a relief for me), and he left our apt patio door unlocked. He is constantly reminding me to lock the door, since we are on the first floor off of a busy street. If he hadn't been drinking, he...
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danni
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might as well be A
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My bf has diabetes and -- not everyone knows this -- they can have the same kind of unpredictable moodiness as an A. My ex h was an A, and he would go into sudden rages and say whatever he could think of to make me feel bad. Bf stopped by today, in the midst of a blood sugar crash. I stupidly forgot that he can't t...
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Thank you HP
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With all the miserable job stress in my life these days, I still have reasons to thank my HP. I had a wonderful time today, and by "coinciidence" met some people who are going through similar experiences at work. We are in our late 50s and are much older than our co-workers. We feel excluded, a...
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ifa
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**Christmas Card Request**
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Hello and Happy Holiday Season,Every December I ask everyone who is listed on the Miracles In Progress message boards to help me bring a awesomely memoriable Holiday to the many newcomers in the Miracles In Progress Recovery Houses by simply sending each house member a Holiday Card, and signing it w...
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John
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Kid stuff
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I am finding that I have problems with reacting to my kids. I take too many things personally that are just the way kids are. I also tend to want them to act older than they are for my convenience. That is not fair to them. They are just kids. They dont mean anything when they complain about a meal or get into...
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I have a tree
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I have a mulberry tree in my backyard. It grows fast and when it does it is over my neighbours fence a fair way. At times I love the tree.. the food and shelter and protection it can give the birds. It brings the birds around my home and it provides for them in a natural way. At times I have cut the tree back, whe...
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Don't Need to Be Right- Just Need to Be Happy
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Hello Family, I am grateful to be able to come here in safety, trusting that I will receive objective and healthy feedback. I am facing a dilemma right now in my present relationship and cannot sit in denial any longer. My bf is a recovering A who has a back injury for which he takes prescription drugs for...
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Degrees of love
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I had a big breakthrough yesterday in realising that I now want a different kind of relationship if I ever get into one again. Since I have not dated much at all (no dates this year thus far)... At one time I wanted an all encompassing love, a love that took up all my time and which my life rotated around. I...
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I feel like exploding
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I don't know how to deal with things today. I'm separated from AH. He's been sober over 3 mos after a series of binges that drove him insane and made him lose his job. He's now in AA and working with a sponsor, but has a long way to go emotionally.He visits me and our son every weekend. Some days are better t...
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Alcoholic Husband doesn't know when to stop
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I am very unhappy now. I am sitting at work, it's 10:57pm on Friday. He just called he's drunk, doesn't know when he got home or how. Unless he passes out, he will continue to call me. I don't want to be home right now. Because he will begin to put me down, and blame me for everything. My girls go stay at friend...
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The beginning of the end
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enter your safe world as a fledgling out of my 6 year
chaos. I just want to say thank you. Because of this forum online I have successfully broken communication with my A now for nearly 2 whole days. I find myself reading over everyone's posts and finding the truth and strength to resist relapse back int...
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Knowing the problem helps!
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I've been doing a lot of thinking (or navel-gazing) recently about why I am having so much trouble with the end of step 3 and beginning of step 4, and I think I finally found the root of that -- I don't believe my mistakes will be forgiven. I have a hard time trusting people because I know I will eventually ma...
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atheos
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Step 2 on the Step Work Board
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Hi Everyone As you know we are doing a Step every 2 weeks on the Step Work Board. Today we have started to share on the Second Step Please join us so we can all learn and grow http://stepwork.activeboard.com -- Edited by hotrod on Sunday 11th of December 2011 08:15:22 PM
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Grinning from Ear to Ear
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It's a good day to be me. Some AA guys tried to tell me I was not "keeping it simple enough" because I was talking of my spiritual awakenings. The beautiful thing about Al-Anon is that it taught me that it's okay to just live and let live. They can disagree with me, I will simply stop talking a...
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Wondering...
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Hi. I've been on here before about a year and a half ago...things with my son were not good and then started to get better. They were really on the upswing...long story so I'll just leave it at that. He is now 19 years old. He graduated from High School (a great day)...and was really making choiced to ge...
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