Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

serenityseeker1 · serenityseeker1

Hi all, I am new to this site and even alanon. I am an ex alcoholic myself, but I wouldn't say I was a recovering one as I have not been involved or used any sort of program,just been gripping on to get by. My sobriarty date is 13.06.2008. My bf is an addict and when we met he was in recovery. Last year my world ca...

debbiems · debbiems

My AS moved back into our house after 6 months of TX, he hasn't lived with us of 3 yrs. I failed by not setting boundries , our th house rules, what ever you want to call it before he moved back home. There are a few things that have came to our attention and now I am backed into a corner and heed to communicate...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

All I can say is that people need to LISTEN & LEARN! I am so grateful that I am becoming a better listener but today I just need to be heard. I am even unable to type what I am thinking! I just want to say that everyone should remember the reason for this season no matter what you believe. This time of year i...

LostMama31 · LostMama31

I've always gotten along with my husband's family. However, since I left, I feel like I get jabs by their statuses through Facebook all the time. I've gotten to where I don't even go on FB anymore because I can't take any more stress than I'm already under. I guess I shouldn't be all that surprised. It is h...

kael1539 · kael1539

My AH relapsed last night - he is not home and has been gone all night. I knew it was going to happen and did OK yesterday, spent a great day and night with the kids. AH tried to called twice and I could tell he was drinking. The first time I told him I couldn't talk bc I was getting the kids to bed. The 2nd call cam...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

When my AH was in rehab I had all the time in the world to work on myself. Now that he is out I find myself focusing on him far too often. It's a slippery slope I'm traveling down. I suppose I need to get reading some Al-Anon literature asap. I have to work late tonight so I can't go to a meeting. The more time I...

tired of trying · tired of trying

Does anyone have any experience with antidepressants-can the effects on the person taking have a similar effect as alcohol. MY AH just started taking for first time and the other day I though he was acting like he had been drinking (not drunk) but grinning and a little silly. Found no other signs that h...

confused76 · confused76

Three weeks ago we got the call we had all been dreading. We knew that our 16 year old son had been getting high we had tried everything but nothing worked. The call came from his school, he was found in school with drugs, this is when we had hit our bottom, by the next day we were on our way to take his to an impa...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha family...just gonna put out some thoughts and feelings I'm having at the moment. I'm edgy and anxious. Tomorrow starts the beginning of the "courting" dances I will be going thru until the problem with the police assault is done. I've been left alone with my thoughts and also ha...

Generic Writer · Generic Writer

My 16-year-old son was about to return home for his first visit from his residential treatment center (RTC). It had been a very long and difficult road for him. Like a bucking bronco, he fought every bit of the way. And continues. His defiance, like with most addicts, can best be summed up by Henny Y...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Here's some good food for thought, from Thought for Today's website: Something to strive for Remember, progress not perfection as you read. Working on Rebuilding Relationships Its easy to speak negatively when we do not like something about someone. We often react without thinking and beco...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

My AH and I attend the Saturday night service at our church. Every week we sit in about the same place. Last night I was picking my niece up from kid church and the man who always sits behind us introduced himself. He gave me a card addressed to the couple who always sits in front of me and told me not to lose it...

kris10 · kris10

Ok my head is going crazy with... Where is he? Is he ok? Is he alive? Is he sleeping on the street freezing to death?? He only has what is on his back... I feel the need to call every single one of his friends and just see if he is ok... I wanna scream..................

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I've lost so many people that I cared for in the past year it seems....my best grade school pal, my uncle, then a month ago my mom who was my mom, my dad and my best friend. There isn't five minutes that pass that I don't think about her. Everyone keeps saying it'll get easier with time, and every day gets h...

kris10 · kris10

I was looking threw papers that I had just piled up on my table... Bunch of old mail and school work from my son that I hadn't even looked at, or maybe just skimed threw... When I come across this home made thanksgiving book my son made in school... I was looking at all his little drawings he made in it... Tur...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I can't get on here very often so I will just say that I have so much more to say that I have to say! I am so frustrated w/ my mom. I love her & respect but my tolerance level is still very low. I am so in need of more meetings w/o her there. I went to two meetings that she wasn't at that I felt so much better when I...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I have been to many AA meetings and been here before. Thanks to God and 12-Step Meetings, my husband is in recovery. However I know someone who has a relative that has been an alcoholic for many years with short recovery periods. He has been to hospitals, rehab, AA and therapy. Unfortunately, as we a...

debbiems · debbiems

so angry today at myself more than my 22 yrs old son. Yesterday started out great my son actually attended his first AA meeting after 6 months in treatment. I was so happy for him. then it all changed, he got a call from one of his "old" friends, asked for a ride to town ( we live out in the country)...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yes, there are times when people get to me but they still have many reasons to rock! I am so grateful I want to cry! My life is so much richer & I am so blessed. I may be finalically blessed & that makes a difference but the truth is I am mostly blessed by the prescence of the good no great people that I h...

oldergal · oldergal

I wake up in the morning and have this precious time to ponder the days beginnings. My HP has graced me with the peace to be able to think freely in the quiet of the morning. These thoughts are deep and help me remember what is really important in life and to those I touch. I am grateful for that gift of quiet t...

oldergal · oldergal

"CIP" "Care in Progress. People are so caring and sincere on this website. No one can solve your issues, but they certainly hang in there with you and give you real encouragement to keep on moving and growing until you can see some light. I thank everyone for taking the time to respond...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

I wish they had meetings here on Saturday nights.. why don't they? Its the number 1 drinking night. haha. Writing it out will suffice. I am in a good position but my husband is doing so well I find myself thinking about him far too much. When he talks about his progress and how he's doing in the program it r...

Bargee · Bargee

Why is it that every time this happens I'm surprised? Surprised how much it hurts, surprised how disipointed I am, surprised at how lonely I feel, how angry I feel, but most of all just how much it hurts? Will it hurt this much every time? Or do I become numb to it? Why does his drinking kill me so much? Is i...

Pushka · Pushka

I just really wanted to share this documentary movie by the name of "Buck", it's actually about the guy who Robert Redford based his character in "The Horse Whisperer" on. I can't remember the guy who wrote the book, however he spent a LOT of time with him as well, and the charact...

tired of trying · tired of trying

Ok-I'm pretty sure my AH who had been sober and going to meetings for the last month after another relaspe was drinking yesterday. In the past I have either ignored or confronted-both unsuccessful-from reading this board it appears I should act like nothing has happened-but to me that feels like den...

Corgi2 · Corgi2

Hi all. It's been too long. I've been without my computer for quite some time. I have been going to about one face to face meeting a week, definately not enough. Things were going pretty well for a while when I was concentrating whole heartedly on myself...then I got back into my disease and started focu...

bud · bud

Today, I came across this saying: "follow your heart, but take your brain with you". The dichotomy is striking; another exercise in simple, but not easy. I sat here running it through all situations, pinpointing the struggle to fear. For me it is an exercise in giving myself permissi...

12stepinKristi · 12stepinKristi

There are so many times that I wonder if I should be with my husband. He is sober and not abusive in any way. I just get so angry with his actions from the past. I know I need to -really- forgive him, and there are times when I think I have, but I just can't forget. He has lied to me so much during our dating and eve...

John · John

**Please note: I do not propose to endorse nor oppose any religious belief or religious value in my writings. Having researched and studied this subject of FAITH in somewhat depth, it is my belief based on this research that I could utilize any world religion to support and validate what I write. I...

atheos · atheos

During a discussion of how to handle a minor task at work, I disagreed with a co-worker and he started raising his voice and sounding angry with me... I spent the next half-hour in the bathroom crying. I *hate* that I'm so fragile stupid little things like this can set me off. I was really glad I was meetin...

Rematch-- · Rematch--

I'm codependant. My spouse of 2 yrs and 54 yrs old is divorcing me due to an irrational belief--a delusion that I was/am stalking her. She is menopausal, has depression, alcohol dependence, thinks now that we married too soon after her suicide attempt and sobriety. Her family used to like me and l...

debbiems · debbiems

So I am sicker than I thought. Now that I know I can not control my 22 yrs old AS. I am trying to control the way my husband deals with him. What in the heck is my problem. I never thought I was a control freak, wow I am alot sicker than I thought I was. So I am trying to take a good look at myself and see where this com...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

Michelle posted about relapse. Last night I tried to walk away and I was in the car and he absolutely would not let me leave. Yesterday was such a great day, I worked a 1/2 day then met my parents for lunch. I was able to get to the Tag office to change the registration on my car (6months later) and then got a te...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

So last night and this morning I completely lost my serenity. This morning I flipped out of my AH; yelling, telling him I hate him, wallowing in self pity over the fact that I married an addict/alcoholic, and telling him I wish I had never met him. Am I proud? I am so ashamed. But this slip has actually sh...

atheos · atheos

The co-worker who yelled at me yesterday apologized today. A *real* apology, not an "I'm feeling guilty so I'll say I'm sorry, but here's why it was your fault I yelled at you". I'm not sure I've *ever* gotten a real apology from someone who's blown up at me before. I wish it was acceptable to t...

debbiems · debbiems

I really don't know where to begin, but the day started out rough not will my 22 yr old AS just things in general. Not much food in the house, (my husband has been layed off of work for the last year) truck wouldn't start for me. So I had to call my sister in law for a ride. Work was tough! I guess in the back of my m...

John · John

We're on Step Two! Join us on the StepWork Board atstepwork.activeboard.comJust click on your group's step two area, read the chairpersons lead on the step, the responses/replies to it and then share your own experience, strength and hope on it.We will start on Step ThreeSunday, Dec. 25th, 2011...

Debi4vols · Debi4vols

I am currently seperated-3 months- from my RAH. He is 3 yrs sober. Drinking-wise he's not touched it..but his hateful, resentful personality stills lingers. When he's not complaining or passing judgement upon someone or telling me what i'm doing wrong..he doesn't say anything...totally diseng...

gg1123 · gg1123

I'm new to this forum. I'm actually new to this hole concept of al-anon. I've never been to a meeting, I've been to scared. I just read adult children of alcoholics.I could relate to that book better then I've ever related to a person. so i hope to find support and safe place to start my recovery. I just en...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I didn't want to leave. It was the first time I have visited my Mom and brother since I started Al-anon and it made all the difference. I can't believe how well it went. My Mom and I were able to hang out and take my girls to the aquarium together. I spent a day with my brother, his wife and kids and we even went w...

John · John

Hi everyone, I'm not sure why I'm posting this, or if it will get me what I need in the end, but I have to share it and get it out of me. In 1999, ten years sober, I walked into my first Al-Anon meeting... I was sober, but a mess. Al-Anon helped restore me to sanity during this time. I also started Miracless In...

Sincerely · Sincerely

I remember the 1st time i ever read the 4 types of alcholics out of the Blue Book. I remember thinking and even saying outloud to my cousler, oh, my husband will never be type 3 or 4. That was 7 years ago. Well, he was right! Alcholism is a disease that is Progressive and w/o treatment it only worsens. T...

orchidlover · orchidlover

When I was a teenager I ended up in a children's home because my mother couldnt' take care of me as I had a serious illness. The children's home, a huge mansion in the middle of nowhere, was a mix of all kinds of children who basically had no one. We were all ages, all races, some of us handicapped, and the...

GreenerGrass · GreenerGrass

So I take the trash out today and I see something in the base of my lilac bush. Winter here so there are no leaves. It's a big bottle of wiskey. Almost empty. So this is why it takes AH unreasonably long to take out the trash. Hmm. It sort of pissed me off, like oh I'm so bad to go to bed with, you have to have some l...

kael1539 · kael1539

Ugh, I don't know what my problem is. In the past I have gone to some Al-Anon meetings, felt a little better and then stopped going. Then things get bad and I go back. In the meantime, I can see now I've been depressed for a while now, my AH has been an alcoholic for a long time and struggled with sobriety ove...

atheos · atheos

(To break my pattern of isolation, I am doing 90 social activities in 90 days. Mostly Al-Anon meetings for now, but my sponsor says we can start counting other activities too once I'm ready for them.) Made it to day five... I am absolutely exhausted. I don't know how people with busy social lives find th...

kris10 · kris10

Had to send the man I love to jail this morning

hardest thing I've EVER had to do.... So yesterday after the cops told him to leave he ended up coming back around 8 at night... I had my little brother here so he only grabed some clothes and left... He then went to his mothers home, cusing her out looking th...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Tonight, I found an old USB and plugged it into my laptop. I didn't know what was stored in it. To my surprise, I found journal entries on an assortment of topics. It was from a year or more ago. It was so beneficial to read. I'll spare ya the details as to why But me being me, I wondered if there had been a...

Jerry F · Jerry F

((((MIP))))...LOL...yes it's real and I've gotta raise my hand that I have or own it also. I have a contract in my business which includes having to come in contact with a "mini" or "maxi" me depending on who's feeling more farty than the other. The "other" for me i...

12stepinKristi · 12stepinKristi

I saw these questions someone had posted. I'm not sure if they are from a work book or something, but I think answering these will help me really get through with the 2nd step, or at least guide me in the direction to complete it. Do I sense spiritual guidance in my life? How? I believe now and have alwa...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

I have called this untitled cos I couldn't think what to title it. I have been doing some writing work for my psychologist. Dealing with situations and writing my thoughts, actions and impulses and consequences. I decided to try to write about an event that happened a long time ago. I see part of my pr...

kydee · kydee

Hello everyone, I posted several days ago about a major melt down I had concerning my grandson and told you I would be back to share my story...Well here goes. My 19 year old grandson lives with me and has a big problem with drinking one night he had been drinking and was out of control and I wouldn't let him...

KLotus · KLotus

Last night I went to another meeting. I also think my husband picked a fight with me beforehand, because he knew I was going. I got angry, and we argued (it took a while if him pushing my buttons though). It was hard, but I think I did my best last night, and I was really happy that I went! The Jekyll and Hy...

KeepingFaith · KeepingFaith

Hi there :) I've been seeking the wisdom of experience from members on the MIP AA board. Their shares i have really appreciated. Everyone's feedback has helped me so much. More than simple words can begin to express. Im determined to learn as much as I can from your and their experiences as it helps me gr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I sometimes wish I didn't have so much to say! Today I am very stoked as we used to say in the 80s. I have more to offer sometimes than I realized. You all have shown me that I am worthy of all things even if I don't work for them. My life is great even though my ah is not receptive sometimes--he married a 33 year o...

Not Alone · Not Alone

So, dealing with the ABF - who is currently out of town of training. It seems to be going...okay. He is home on weekends and I know he's drinking then. I can't stand the smell. I still don't know where I want the relationship to go. I'm tired of the blame he lays and moodiness but am I tired enough yet? I don't...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just saying that if you need a nap, take one! I am a believer that rest keeps me going! Today I can't take a bath so I improvize. My bathtub leaks w/ cracks & it is ridiculous. I am hoping for a miracle in that department. Just sayin' y'all. Love ya, Kathleen

Bargee · Bargee

My baby is due in 7 weeks and after 9 months of being sober my husband of nearly two years is out drinking again. It's killing me. Our history...(if anyone cares) We have been together for nearly 5 or 6 years now. I fell in love with him before I realised that he had a problem and it's been so hard to leave hi...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

In Hope For Today on December 25th there is a beautiful page that reads all the explanations of serenity. My favorite is where it says that the character defects are not something "bad in us but traits that we no longer find "useful" and we are ready to remove them so that the more usefu...

likemyheart · likemyheart

I am in awe of the individuals God chooses to send his greatest messages through - when I think of angels singing on high - this kind of voice rises above the rest.

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	newbie needing some direction!! (Preview) Hi all, I am new to this site and even alanon. I am an ex alcoholic myself, but I wouldn't say I was a recovering one as I have not been involved or used any sort of program,just been gripping on to get by. My sobriarty date is 13.06.2008. My bf is an addict and when we met he was in recovery. Last year my world ca...	serenityseeker1	5	571	Dec 20, 2011 by orchidlover
	Setting Boundries??? (Preview) My AS moved back into our house after 6 months of TX, he hasn't lived with us of 3 yrs. I failed by not setting boundries , our th house rules, what ever you want to call it before he moved back home. There are a few things that have came to our attention and now I am backed into a corner and heed to communicate...	debbiems	5	546	Dec 20, 2011 by orchidlover
	WHY CAN'T PEOPLE JUST LISTEN? (Preview) All I can say is that people need to LISTEN & LEARN! I am so grateful that I am becoming a better listener but today I just need to be heard. I am even unable to type what I am thinking! I just want to say that everyone should remember the reason for this season no matter what you believe. This time of year i...	Hoot Nanny	3	457	Dec 20, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	Dealing with family (Preview) I've always gotten along with my husband's family. However, since I left, I feel like I get jabs by their statuses through Facebook all the time. I've gotten to where I don't even go on FB anymore because I can't take any more stress than I'm already under. I guess I shouldn't be all that surprised. It is h...	LostMama31	10	541	Dec 20, 2011 by LostMama31
	How to detach correctly with relapse incident (Preview) My AH relapsed last night - he is not home and has been gone all night. I knew it was going to happen and did OK yesterday, spent a great day and night with the kids. AH tried to called twice and I could tell he was drinking. The first time I told him I couldn't talk bc I was getting the kids to bed. The 2nd call cam...	kael1539	9	829	Dec 20, 2011 by tired of trying
	Not Doing Too Well in the Moment (Preview) When my AH was in rehab I had all the time in the world to work on myself. Now that he is out I find myself focusing on him far too often. It's a slippery slope I'm traveling down. I suppose I need to get reading some Al-Anon literature asap. I have to work late tonight so I can't go to a meeting. The more time I...	Michelle814	14	652	Dec 20, 2011 by Breakingfree
	antidepressants (Preview) Does anyone have any experience with antidepressants-can the effects on the person taking have a similar effect as alcohol. MY AH just started taking for first time and the other day I though he was acting like he had been drinking (not drunk) but grinning and a little silly. Found no other signs that h...	tired of trying	7	602	Dec 20, 2011 by tired of trying
	New and very confused (Preview) Three weeks ago we got the call we had all been dreading. We knew that our 16 year old son had been getting high we had tried everything but nothing worked. The call came from his school, he was found in school with drugs, this is when we had hit our bottom, by the next day we were on our way to take his to an impa...	confused76	6	537	Dec 20, 2011 by pinkchip
	Its on my mind.... (Preview) Aloha family...just gonna put out some thoughts and feelings I'm having at the moment. I'm edgy and anxious. Tomorrow starts the beginning of the "courting" dances I will be going thru until the problem with the police assault is done. I've been left alone with my thoughts and also ha...	Jerry F	18	1048	Dec 20, 2011 by pinkchip
	Parent’s Handbook To Stop Home Visit AWOLs: Part II (Preview) My 16-year-old son was about to return home for his first visit from his residential treatment center (RTC). It had been a very long and difficult road for him. Like a bucking bronco, he fought every bit of the way. And continues. His defiance, like with most addicts, can best be summed up by Henny Y...	Generic Writer	3	575	Dec 20, 2011 by 12stepinKristi
	Thought for Today (Preview) Here's some good food for thought, from Thought for Today's website: Something to strive for Remember, progress not perfection as you read. Working on Rebuilding Relationships Its easy to speak negatively when we do not like something about someone. We often react without thinking and beco...	GailMichelle	5	4305	Dec 19, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Encouragement (Preview) My AH and I attend the Saturday night service at our church. Every week we sit in about the same place. Last night I was picking my niece up from kid church and the man who always sits behind us introduced himself. He gave me a card addressed to the couple who always sits in front of me and told me not to lose it...	Jackie11	8	408	Dec 19, 2011 by hotrod
	need ESH.... (Preview) Ok my head is going crazy with... Where is he? Is he ok? Is he alive? Is he sleeping on the street freezing to death?? He only has what is on his back... I feel the need to call every single one of his friends and just see if he is ok... I wanna scream..................	kris10	12	463	Dec 19, 2011 by sookie
	Ticked at my HP but sure He can take it...prayer request (Preview) I've lost so many people that I cared for in the past year it seems....my best grade school pal, my uncle, then a month ago my mom who was my mom, my dad and my best friend. There isn't five minutes that pass that I don't think about her. Everyone keeps saying it'll get easier with time, and every day gets h...	shellyj123	7	614	Dec 19, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Sometimes my HP slaps me in the face when I need it..... (Preview) I was looking threw papers that I had just piled up on my table... Bunch of old mail and school work from my son that I hadn't even looked at, or maybe just skimed threw... When I come across this home made thanksgiving book my son made in school... I was looking at all his little drawings he made in it... Tur...	kris10	6	404	Dec 19, 2011 by youfoundme
	so much more to say! (Preview) I can't get on here very often so I will just say that I have so much more to say that I have to say! I am so frustrated w/ my mom. I love her & respect but my tolerance level is still very low. I am so in need of more meetings w/o her there. I went to two meetings that she wasn't at that I felt so much better when I...	Hoot Nanny	2	480	Dec 19, 2011 by Jen
	HEALTHY RESPONSE??? (Preview) I have been to many AA meetings and been here before. Thanks to God and 12-Step Meetings, my husband is in recovery. However I know someone who has a relative that has been an alcoholic for many years with short recovery periods. He has been to hospitals, rehab, AA and therapy. Unfortunately, as we a...	wifeofalcoholic	5	630	Dec 18, 2011 by LostMama31
	Has all the tools for Sobriety (Preview) so angry today at myself more than my 22 yrs old son. Yesterday started out great my son actually attended his first AA meeting after 6 months in treatment. I was so happy for him. then it all changed, he got a call from one of his "old" friends, asked for a ride to town ( we live out in the country)...	debbiems	6	545	Dec 18, 2011 by LostMama31
	PEOPLE ROCK! (Preview) Yes, there are times when people get to me but they still have many reasons to rock! I am so grateful I want to cry! My life is so much richer & I am so blessed. I may be finalically blessed & that makes a difference but the truth is I am mostly blessed by the prescence of the good no great people that I h...	Hoot Nanny	3	449	Dec 18, 2011 by pineapple
	Grateful (Preview) I wake up in the morning and have this precious time to ponder the days beginnings. My HP has graced me with the peace to be able to think freely in the quiet of the morning. These thoughts are deep and help me remember what is really important in life and to those I touch. I am grateful for that gift of quiet t...	oldergal	3	378	Dec 18, 2011 by pineapple
	If I Could Rename This Site It Would Be (Preview) "CIP" "Care in Progress. People are so caring and sincere on this website. No one can solve your issues, but they certainly hang in there with you and give you real encouragement to keep on moving and growing until you can see some light. I thank everyone for taking the time to respond...	oldergal	5	409	Dec 18, 2011 by pineapple
	Quiet Saturday Night (Preview) I wish they had meetings here on Saturday nights.. why don't they? Its the number 1 drinking night. haha. Writing it out will suffice. I am in a good position but my husband is doing so well I find myself thinking about him far too much. When he talks about his progress and how he's doing in the program it r...	Michelle814	4	517	Dec 18, 2011 by Michelle814
	Why am I surprised? (Preview) Why is it that every time this happens I'm surprised? Surprised how much it hurts, surprised how disipointed I am, surprised at how lonely I feel, how angry I feel, but most of all just how much it hurts? Will it hurt this much every time? Or do I become numb to it? Why does his drinking kill me so much? Is i...	Bargee	13	578	Dec 18, 2011 by likemyheart
	Buck - OT (Preview) I just really wanted to share this documentary movie by the name of "Buck", it's actually about the guy who Robert Redford based his character in "The Horse Whisperer" on. I can't remember the guy who wrote the book, however he spent a LOT of time with him as well, and the charact...	Pushka	3	502	Dec 18, 2011 by Jen
	relaspe ESH (Preview) Ok-I'm pretty sure my AH who had been sober and going to meetings for the last month after another relaspe was drinking yesterday. In the past I have either ignored or confronted-both unsuccessful-from reading this board it appears I should act like nothing has happened-but to me that feels like den...	tired of trying	12	457	Dec 18, 2011 by tired of trying
	Good to be back (Preview) Hi all. It's been too long. I've been without my computer for quite some time. I have been going to about one face to face meeting a week, definately not enough. Things were going pretty well for a while when I was concentrating whole heartedly on myself...then I got back into my disease and started focu...	Corgi2	5	533	Dec 17, 2011 by ythannah
	"Follow your heart, but take your brain with you" (Preview) Today, I came across this saying: "follow your heart, but take your brain with you". The dichotomy is striking; another exercise in simple, but not easy. I sat here running it through all situations, pinpointing the struggle to fear. For me it is an exercise in giving myself permissi...	bud	5	1216	Dec 17, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Venting my grief (Preview) There are so many times that I wonder if I should be with my husband. He is sober and not abusive in any way. I just get so angry with his actions from the past. I know I need to -really- forgive him, and there are times when I think I have, but I just can't forget. He has lied to me so much during our dating and eve...	12stepinKristi	3	452	Dec 17, 2011 by abbyal
	The Umbrella of Faith (Part III) (Preview) **Please note: I do not propose to endorse nor oppose any religious belief or religious value in my writings. Having researched and studied this subject of FAITH in somewhat depth, it is my belief based on this research that I could utilize any world religion to support and validate what I write. I...	John	4	478	Dec 17, 2011 by bud
	Bad day (better after a meeting) (Preview) During a discussion of how to handle a minor task at work, I disagreed with a co-worker and he started raising his voice and sounding angry with me... I spent the next half-hour in the bathroom crying. I hate that I'm so fragile stupid little things like this can set me off. I was really glad I was meetin...	atheos	7	643	Dec 17, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	Delusional disorder and dry drunk--need a sponsor mental illness persecutory delusion delusional disorder menopause fear of intimacy sponsor. (Preview) I'm codependant. My spouse of 2 yrs and 54 yrs old is divorcing me due to an irrational belief--a delusion that I was/am stalking her. She is menopausal, has depression, alcohol dependence, thinks now that we married too soon after her suicide attempt and sobriety. Her family used to like me and l...	Rematch--	18	1688	Dec 17, 2011 by Rematch--
	Sicker Than I Thought (Preview) So I am sicker than I thought. Now that I know I can not control my 22 yrs old AS. I am trying to control the way my husband deals with him. What in the heck is my problem. I never thought I was a control freak, wow I am alot sicker than I thought I was. So I am trying to take a good look at myself and see where this com...	debbiems	6	597	Dec 17, 2011 by Michelle814
	Writing it out (Preview) Michelle posted about relapse. Last night I tried to walk away and I was in the car and he absolutely would not let me leave. Yesterday was such a great day, I worked a 1/2 day then met my parents for lunch. I was able to get to the Tag office to change the registration on my car (6months later) and then got a te...	Jackie11	7	534	Dec 17, 2011 by Michelle814
	Relapsed (Preview) So last night and this morning I completely lost my serenity. This morning I flipped out of my AH; yelling, telling him I hate him, wallowing in self pity over the fact that I married an addict/alcoholic, and telling him I wish I had never met him. Am I proud? I am so ashamed. But this slip has actually sh...	Michelle814	10	556	Dec 17, 2011 by Michelle814
	Wow, that was... new. And nice! (Preview) The co-worker who yelled at me yesterday apologized today. A real apology, not an "I'm feeling guilty so I'll say I'm sorry, but here's why it was your fault I yelled at you". I'm not sure I've ever gotten a real apology from someone who's blown up at me before. I wish it was acceptable to t...	atheos	2	383	Dec 17, 2011 by Pushka
	Bad day getting worse (Preview) I really don't know where to begin, but the day started out rough not will my 22 yr old AS just things in general. Not much food in the house, (my husband has been layed off of work for the last year) truck wouldn't start for me. So I had to call my sister in law for a ride. Work was tough! I guess in the back of my m...	debbiems	8	674	Dec 17, 2011 by debbiems
	Step Two on Step Work Board! Join us! (Preview) We're on Step Two! Join us on the StepWork Board atstepwork.activeboard.comJust click on your group's step two area, read the chairpersons lead on the step, the responses/replies to it and then share your own experience, strength and hope on it.We will start on Step ThreeSunday, Dec. 25th, 2011...	John	0	379	Dec 17, 2011 by John
	Recovering Alcoholic Husband (Preview) I am currently seperated-3 months- from my RAH. He is 3 yrs sober. Drinking-wise he's not touched it..but his hateful, resentful personality stills lingers. When he's not complaining or passing judgement upon someone or telling me what i'm doing wrong..he doesn't say anything...totally diseng...	Debi4vols	10	712	Dec 17, 2011 by 12stepinKristi
	new beginings (Preview) I'm new to this forum. I'm actually new to this hole concept of al-anon. I've never been to a meeting, I've been to scared. I just read adult children of alcoholics.I could relate to that book better then I've ever related to a person. so i hope to find support and safe place to start my recovery. I just en...	gg1123	4	501	Dec 16, 2011 by pineapple
	I am home from Cali and..... (Preview) I didn't want to leave. It was the first time I have visited my Mom and brother since I started Al-anon and it made all the difference. I can't believe how well it went. My Mom and I were able to hang out and take my girls to the aquarium together. I spent a day with my brother, his wife and kids and we even went w...	Breakingfree	6	413	Dec 16, 2011 by pineapple
	Memories, History and thoughts.... (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm not sure why I'm posting this, or if it will get me what I need in the end, but I have to share it and get it out of me. In 1999, ten years sober, I walked into my first Al-Anon meeting... I was sober, but a mess. Al-Anon helped restore me to sanity during this time. I also started Miracless In...	John	10	469	Dec 16, 2011 by bud
	Progressive Alright! (Preview) I remember the 1st time i ever read the 4 types of alcholics out of the Blue Book. I remember thinking and even saying outloud to my cousler, oh, my husband will never be type 3 or 4. That was 7 years ago. Well, he was right! Alcholism is a disease that is Progressive and w/o treatment it only worsens. T...	Sincerely	3	396	Dec 15, 2011 by GailMichelle
	Christmas gifts (Preview) When I was a teenager I ended up in a children's home because my mother couldnt' take care of me as I had a serious illness. The children's home, a huge mansion in the middle of nowhere, was a mix of all kinds of children who basically had no one. We were all ages, all races, some of us handicapped, and the...	orchidlover	8	667	Dec 15, 2011 by Jen
	booze in the bushes (Preview) So I take the trash out today and I see something in the base of my lilac bush. Winter here so there are no leaves. It's a big bottle of wiskey. Almost empty. So this is why it takes AH unreasonably long to take out the trash. Hmm. It sort of pissed me off, like oh I'm so bad to go to bed with, you have to have some l...	GreenerGrass	21	704	Dec 15, 2011 by GreenerGrass
	Hitting a big low after committing to Al-Anon (Preview) Ugh, I don't know what my problem is. In the past I have gone to some Al-Anon meetings, felt a little better and then stopped going. Then things get bad and I go back. In the meantime, I can see now I've been depressed for a while now, my AH has been an alcoholic for a long time and struggled with sobriety ove...	kael1539	8	668	Dec 15, 2011 by kael1539
	90/90 - day five (Preview) (To break my pattern of isolation, I am doing 90 social activities in 90 days. Mostly Al-Anon meetings for now, but my sponsor says we can start counting other activities too once I'm ready for them.) Made it to day five... I am absolutely exhausted. I don't know how people with busy social lives find th...	atheos	8	518	Dec 15, 2011 by atheos
	update..... (Preview) Had to send the man I love to jail this morning hardest thing I've EVER had to do.... So yesterday after the cops told him to leave he ended up coming back around 8 at night... I had my little brother here so he only grabed some clothes and left... He then went to his mothers home, cusing her out looking th...	kris10	14	583	Dec 15, 2011 by youfoundme
	Benefits of Journal Writing? (Preview) Tonight, I found an old USB and plugged it into my laptop. I didn't know what was stored in it. To my surprise, I found journal entries on an assortment of topics. It was from a year or more ago. It was so beneficial to read. I'll spare ya the details as to why But me being me, I wondered if there had been a...	GailMichelle	10	1180	Dec 15, 2011 by tommyecat
	Old man grumpy syndrome... (Preview) ((((MIP))))...LOL...yes it's real and I've gotta raise my hand that I have or own it also. I have a contract in my business which includes having to come in contact with a "mini" or "maxi" me depending on who's feeling more farty than the other. The "other" for me i...	Jerry F	4	561	Dec 15, 2011 by tommyecat
	working the second step and trying to figure out how to complete it (Preview) I saw these questions someone had posted. I'm not sure if they are from a work book or something, but I think answering these will help me really get through with the 2nd step, or at least guide me in the direction to complete it. Do I sense spiritual guidance in my life? How? I believe now and have alwa...	12stepinKristi	5	1107	Dec 15, 2011 by tommyecat
	untitled (Preview) I have called this untitled cos I couldn't think what to title it. I have been doing some writing work for my psychologist. Dealing with situations and writing my thoughts, actions and impulses and consequences. I decided to try to write about an event that happened a long time ago. I see part of my pr...	Lindaoakford	8	607	Dec 15, 2011 by GailMichelle
	My long journey back (Preview) Hello everyone, I posted several days ago about a major melt down I had concerning my grandson and told you I would be back to share my story...Well here goes. My 19 year old grandson lives with me and has a big problem with drinking one night he had been drinking and was out of control and I wouldn't let him...	kydee	5	526	Dec 14, 2011 by hotrod
	AH, work, and ACOA (Preview) Last night I went to another meeting. I also think my husband picked a fight with me beforehand, because he knew I was going. I got angry, and we argued (it took a while if him pushing my buttons though). It was hard, but I think I did my best last night, and I was really happy that I went! The Jekyll and Hy...	KLotus	3	491	Dec 14, 2011 by orchidlover
	My Abf opened up - now patience and pray? (Preview) Hi there :) I've been seeking the wisdom of experience from members on the MIP AA board. Their shares i have really appreciated. Everyone's feedback has helped me so much. More than simple words can begin to express. Im determined to learn as much as I can from your and their experiences as it helps me gr...	KeepingFaith	8	613	Dec 14, 2011 by KeepingFaith
	life is sooo good--live it! (Preview) I sometimes wish I didn't have so much to say! Today I am very stoked as we used to say in the 80s. I have more to offer sometimes than I realized. You all have shown me that I am worthy of all things even if I don't work for them. My life is great even though my ah is not receptive sometimes--he married a 33 year o...	Hoot Nanny	1	460	Dec 14, 2011 by Michelle814
	Broken (Preview) So, dealing with the ABF - who is currently out of town of training. It seems to be going...okay. He is home on weekends and I know he's drinking then. I can't stand the smell. I still don't know where I want the relationship to go. I'm tired of the blame he lays and moodiness but am I tired enough yet? I don't...	Not Alone	7	532	Dec 14, 2011 by Michelle814
	remember to take a NAP! (Preview) Just saying that if you need a nap, take one! I am a believer that rest keeps me going! Today I can't take a bath so I improvize. My bathtub leaks w/ cracks & it is ridiculous. I am hoping for a miracle in that department. Just sayin' y'all. Love ya, Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	2	374	Dec 14, 2011 by Very Very Tired
	I'm new and I'm lonely (Preview) My baby is due in 7 weeks and after 9 months of being sober my husband of nearly two years is out drinking again. It's killing me. Our history...(if anyone cares) We have been together for nearly 5 or 6 years now. I fell in love with him before I realised that he had a problem and it's been so hard to leave hi...	Bargee	26	874	Dec 14, 2011 by danni
	Serenity is.. (Preview) In Hope For Today on December 25th there is a beautiful page that reads all the explanations of serenity. My favorite is where it says that the character defects are not something "bad in us but traits that we no longer find "useful" and we are ready to remove them so that the more usefu...	Michelle814	5	652	Dec 14, 2011 by Michelle814
	magical music (Preview) I am in awe of the individuals God chooses to send his greatest messages through - when I think of angels singing on high - this kind of voice rises above the rest.	likemyheart	2	336	Dec 14, 2011 by Breakingfree
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