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debbiems · debbiems

So I am sicker than I thought. Now that I know I can not control my 22 yrs old AS. I am trying to control the way my husband deals with him. What in the heck is my problem. I never thought I was a control freak, wow I am alot sicker than I thought I was. So I am trying to take a good look at myself and see where this com...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

Michelle posted about relapse. Last night I tried to walk away and I was in the car and he absolutely would not let me leave. Yesterday was such a great day, I worked a 1/2 day then met my parents for lunch. I was able to get to the Tag office to change the registration on my car (6months later) and then got a te...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

So last night and this morning I completely lost my serenity. This morning I flipped out of my AH; yelling, telling him I hate him, wallowing in self pity over the fact that I married an addict/alcoholic, and telling him I wish I had never met him. Am I proud? I am so ashamed. But this slip has actually sh...

atheos · atheos

The co-worker who yelled at me yesterday apologized today. A *real* apology, not an "I'm feeling guilty so I'll say I'm sorry, but here's why it was your fault I yelled at you". I'm not sure I've *ever* gotten a real apology from someone who's blown up at me before. I wish it was acceptable to t...

debbiems · debbiems

I really don't know where to begin, but the day started out rough not will my 22 yr old AS just things in general. Not much food in the house, (my husband has been layed off of work for the last year) truck wouldn't start for me. So I had to call my sister in law for a ride. Work was tough! I guess in the back of my m...

John · John

We're on Step Two! Join us on the StepWork Board atstepwork.activeboard.comJust click on your group's step two area, read the chairpersons lead on the step, the responses/replies to it and then share your own experience, strength and hope on it.We will start on Step ThreeSunday, Dec. 25th, 2011...

Debi4vols · Debi4vols

I am currently seperated-3 months- from my RAH. He is 3 yrs sober. Drinking-wise he's not touched it..but his hateful, resentful personality stills lingers. When he's not complaining or passing judgement upon someone or telling me what i'm doing wrong..he doesn't say anything...totally diseng...

gg1123 · gg1123

I'm new to this forum. I'm actually new to this hole concept of al-anon. I've never been to a meeting, I've been to scared. I just read adult children of alcoholics.I could relate to that book better then I've ever related to a person. so i hope to find support and safe place to start my recovery. I just en...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I didn't want to leave. It was the first time I have visited my Mom and brother since I started Al-anon and it made all the difference. I can't believe how well it went. My Mom and I were able to hang out and take my girls to the aquarium together. I spent a day with my brother, his wife and kids and we even went w...

John · John

Hi everyone, I'm not sure why I'm posting this, or if it will get me what I need in the end, but I have to share it and get it out of me. In 1999, ten years sober, I walked into my first Al-Anon meeting... I was sober, but a mess. Al-Anon helped restore me to sanity during this time. I also started Miracless In...

Sincerely · Sincerely

I remember the 1st time i ever read the 4 types of alcholics out of the Blue Book. I remember thinking and even saying outloud to my cousler, oh, my husband will never be type 3 or 4. That was 7 years ago. Well, he was right! Alcholism is a disease that is Progressive and w/o treatment it only worsens. T...

orchidlover · orchidlover

When I was a teenager I ended up in a children's home because my mother couldnt' take care of me as I had a serious illness. The children's home, a huge mansion in the middle of nowhere, was a mix of all kinds of children who basically had no one. We were all ages, all races, some of us handicapped, and the...

GreenerGrass · GreenerGrass

So I take the trash out today and I see something in the base of my lilac bush. Winter here so there are no leaves. It's a big bottle of wiskey. Almost empty. So this is why it takes AH unreasonably long to take out the trash. Hmm. It sort of pissed me off, like oh I'm so bad to go to bed with, you have to have some l...

kael1539 · kael1539

Ugh, I don't know what my problem is. In the past I have gone to some Al-Anon meetings, felt a little better and then stopped going. Then things get bad and I go back. In the meantime, I can see now I've been depressed for a while now, my AH has been an alcoholic for a long time and struggled with sobriety ove...

atheos · atheos

(To break my pattern of isolation, I am doing 90 social activities in 90 days. Mostly Al-Anon meetings for now, but my sponsor says we can start counting other activities too once I'm ready for them.) Made it to day five... I am absolutely exhausted. I don't know how people with busy social lives find th...

kris10 · kris10

Had to send the man I love to jail this morning

hardest thing I've EVER had to do.... So yesterday after the cops told him to leave he ended up coming back around 8 at night... I had my little brother here so he only grabed some clothes and left... He then went to his mothers home, cusing her out looking th...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Tonight, I found an old USB and plugged it into my laptop. I didn't know what was stored in it. To my surprise, I found journal entries on an assortment of topics. It was from a year or more ago. It was so beneficial to read. I'll spare ya the details as to why But me being me, I wondered if there had been a...

Jerry F · Jerry F

((((MIP))))...LOL...yes it's real and I've gotta raise my hand that I have or own it also. I have a contract in my business which includes having to come in contact with a "mini" or "maxi" me depending on who's feeling more farty than the other. The "other" for me i...

12stepinKristi · 12stepinKristi

I saw these questions someone had posted. I'm not sure if they are from a work book or something, but I think answering these will help me really get through with the 2nd step, or at least guide me in the direction to complete it. Do I sense spiritual guidance in my life? How? I believe now and have alwa...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

I have called this untitled cos I couldn't think what to title it. I have been doing some writing work for my psychologist. Dealing with situations and writing my thoughts, actions and impulses and consequences. I decided to try to write about an event that happened a long time ago. I see part of my pr...

kydee · kydee

Hello everyone, I posted several days ago about a major melt down I had concerning my grandson and told you I would be back to share my story...Well here goes. My 19 year old grandson lives with me and has a big problem with drinking one night he had been drinking and was out of control and I wouldn't let him...

KLotus · KLotus

Last night I went to another meeting. I also think my husband picked a fight with me beforehand, because he knew I was going. I got angry, and we argued (it took a while if him pushing my buttons though). It was hard, but I think I did my best last night, and I was really happy that I went! The Jekyll and Hy...

KeepingFaith · KeepingFaith

Hi there :) I've been seeking the wisdom of experience from members on the MIP AA board. Their shares i have really appreciated. Everyone's feedback has helped me so much. More than simple words can begin to express. Im determined to learn as much as I can from your and their experiences as it helps me gr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I sometimes wish I didn't have so much to say! Today I am very stoked as we used to say in the 80s. I have more to offer sometimes than I realized. You all have shown me that I am worthy of all things even if I don't work for them. My life is great even though my ah is not receptive sometimes--he married a 33 year o...

Not Alone · Not Alone

So, dealing with the ABF - who is currently out of town of training. It seems to be going...okay. He is home on weekends and I know he's drinking then. I can't stand the smell. I still don't know where I want the relationship to go. I'm tired of the blame he lays and moodiness but am I tired enough yet? I don't...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just saying that if you need a nap, take one! I am a believer that rest keeps me going! Today I can't take a bath so I improvize. My bathtub leaks w/ cracks & it is ridiculous. I am hoping for a miracle in that department. Just sayin' y'all. Love ya, Kathleen

Bargee · Bargee

My baby is due in 7 weeks and after 9 months of being sober my husband of nearly two years is out drinking again. It's killing me. Our history...(if anyone cares) We have been together for nearly 5 or 6 years now. I fell in love with him before I realised that he had a problem and it's been so hard to leave hi...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

In Hope For Today on December 25th there is a beautiful page that reads all the explanations of serenity. My favorite is where it says that the character defects are not something "bad in us but traits that we no longer find "useful" and we are ready to remove them so that the more usefu...

likemyheart · likemyheart

I am in awe of the individuals God chooses to send his greatest messages through - when I think of angels singing on high - this kind of voice rises above the rest.

kris10 · kris10

He wasnt wanting to leave but he wa being very rude.. Name calling, blaming, and even telling my son that santa wasnt real... The cops got called.. Not by me. The made him leave. His mother came and got most of his things. Him and her are coming to get the rest soon.. She told me to set them outside.. Things a...

likemyheart · likemyheart

In a recent post, Never going back said this: he ruined every holiday, every vacation, every important moment for years, made his family live in fear of his next outburst, and HE doesn't even realize or admit it. My ex denies any wrong doing at all - everything was all my fault; I yelled too so we were both...

kris10 · kris10

I woke up from my nap and found that he blocked me on facebook....childish but he always does... And he put that he is single... Guess that just helped me out!!! So, I told him he needs to leave... He left but didn't take anything so he will be back... He doesn't have anywhere to go so I'm sure he will try to st...

kris10 · kris10

Me AGAIN... Ugh... Got off the phone with my Abfs(or ex) mother.. So to make that clear ....his mother. Anyways, of corse he went right to her work after he left here mad today.. ( still hasnt came back for his stuff i packed) i think I explained that in another post.. Sorry so many. So let me remind u that he...

Tracy · Tracy

wow this is definatley a cunning and baffling disease. I have been with my partner for nearly 7 years I have been in al non for 4 and he has been in AA for 2 and a half. I have learnt so much yet know this is only the tip of the iceberg. We seperated after his last slip my boundary I will not be part of his active...

Pushka · Pushka

I find that God (my HP) has fed me enough information at the right time. Originally when I thought I wanted all of the information about last year, I wasn't ready and God sure did know better than me. It was one of those things of I did get tired of being spoon fed, in this case ripping off the bandage would...

Sangyaa · Sangyaa

Hi, I used to frequent this board and al anon meetings but at some point I felt 'okay again' and dropped off. Last september-january my abf was in a residential treatment center, and things were great for both of us. After he got out and we were living together again, it was great for another month and a ha...

kris10 · kris10

I'm finding that my Abf can be a real A when it comes to me standing up for myself and sticking to my boundries.... (and i'm not talking about Addict if you get my drift) So, I'm going to vent a little... He's pissed that I keep saying NO when he wants to take MY CAR, that he doesn't put any gas in.. I just say, &q...

Jozie · Jozie

Yea Know... Sometimes Life Just SUCKS... Last Night I Went to a Meeting because I had something On my Mind I was Hoping to release... (Which happened AFTER the meeting) but instead I found myself at a loss once more... Found out that a Dear Sweet Recovery Friend is Ill, and it seems that the Doctors don't...

Xenther · Xenther

I'm feeling lost. I'm supposed to attend a party with my girlfriend where there will be a lot of wine consumed. My girlfriend is going to have a couple of drinks, and let me know that if I was going to get worked up about it that I shouldn't attend because it would get her feeling anxious about how I was feeli...

KLotus · KLotus

I have still been attending weekly alanon meetings. I love my Monday home group! I am finding that I truly need to shop around to find the meetings that work for/speak to me. Unfortunately last week I was only able to attend one meeting - but it was kind of nice to miss it, and know how much I value alanon...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

This past weekend was horrible...my wife has bottomed out with her depression. She was basically non-functional and I was a single parent all weekend, which was somehow made harder by the fact that she was physically there, watching me struggle with our 2 kids, but completely unable to help. The kid...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Is it that time again? Yep! It is MONDAY & time(afternoon) to update everyone on how my weekend went. Could almost not have been better w/a few scrapes but not a big deal. I went to a very nice but crowded Shrimp Peel for our snowriders community fundraiser. It was a funraiser if you like that sort of t...

New upset member · mketcher1

Hey everyone, It's nice to know there are alot of people like me out there. I have been living with my A for 4 and a half years. We have 2 and a half year old son and I am in nursing school. I am almost done with school...May 2012. I have no money because I quit my job to finish school. I have tried everythi...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

I am so thankful for the experience that everyone here shares! Friday night I arrived home and my AH was super frustrated over the internet and trying to get a movie to play and the pauses. He called the help desk and another help desk and the first call was ok the second I cringed. I was in the kitchen makin...

lacewing · lacewing

I am unable to chair my regular Tuesday Night Alanon Meeting in our Alanon Chat room for this Tuesday (December 13th) and next Tuesday (December 20th). I am hoping someone will be gracious and step up for me so our Holidays Needs are met. After The Christmas Rush is over, I will be able to get back in the s...

rehprof · rehprof

So..my soon to be exA has been drinking for the last 3 years, and for the last year living with his sister (since I asked him to leave). When my 15 and 9 yo boys go to him on the weekend, I know there are other influences in the home to keep them safe. Saturday he calls me and tells me that he and his best friend...

kris10 · kris10

I have been doing good at not reacting lately if I do say so myself... But there is a line you just DON'T cross with a mother... Lastnight it was the usual "can I have a cigarette" I say no and he takes them anyways when I fall asleep for 2 seconds.... Not worth my breath.... I say no you can't take t...

atheos · atheos

My sponsor and I have agreed that for three months, I will not spend an evening at home alone. It's not totally a 90/90, because some evenings will be activities other than meetings, but the idea is to break this habit of isolating and replace it with a feeling that being around people is normal. This wil...

danni · danni

So my AH drank last night after I went to sleep (which is when he has been doing his drinking lately--frankly this is a relief for me), and he left our apt patio door unlocked. He is constantly reminding me to lock the door, since we are on the first floor off of a busy street. If he hadn't been drinking, he...

ifa · ifa

My bf has diabetes and -- not everyone knows this -- they can have the same kind of unpredictable moodiness as an A. My ex h was an A, and he would go into sudden rages and say whatever he could think of to make me feel bad. Bf stopped by today, in the midst of a blood sugar crash. I stupidly forgot that he can't t...

ifa · ifa

With all the miserable job stress in my life these days, I still have reasons to thank my HP. I had a wonderful time today, and by "coinciidence" met some people who are going through similar experiences at work. We are in our late 50s and are much older than our co-workers. We feel excluded, a...

John · John

Hello and Happy Holiday Season,Every December I ask everyone who is listed on the Miracles In Progress message boards to help me bring a awesomely memoriable Holiday to the many newcomers in the Miracles In Progress Recovery Houses by simply sending each house member a Holiday Card, and signing it w...

Jen · Jen

I am finding that I have problems with reacting to my kids. I take too many things personally that are just the way kids are. I also tend to want them to act older than they are for my convenience. That is not fair to them. They are just kids. They dont mean anything when they complain about a meal or get into...

lightblue2 · lightblue2

I have a mulberry tree in my backyard. It grows fast and when it does it is over my neighbours fence a fair way. At times I love the tree.. the food and shelter and protection it can give the birds. It brings the birds around my home and it provides for them in a natural way. At times I have cut the tree back, whe...

Saved By Grace · Saved By Grace

Hello Family, I am grateful to be able to come here in safety, trusting that I will receive objective and healthy feedback. I am facing a dilemma right now in my present relationship and cannot sit in denial any longer. My bf is a recovering A who has a back injury for which he takes prescription drugs for...

orchidlover · orchidlover

I had a big breakthrough yesterday in realising that I now want a different kind of relationship if I ever get into one again. Since I have not dated much at all (no dates this year thus far)... At one time I wanted an all encompassing love, a love that took up all my time and which my life rotated around. I...

nyc018 · nyc018

I don't know how to deal with things today. I'm separated from AH. He's been sober over 3 mos after a series of binges that drove him insane and made him lose his job. He's now in AA and working with a sponsor, but has a long way to go emotionally.He visits me and our son every weekend. Some days are better t...

BThom61 · BThom61

I am very unhappy now. I am sitting at work, it's 10:57pm on Friday. He just called he's drunk, doesn't know when he got home or how. Unless he passes out, he will continue to call me. I don't want to be home right now. Because he will begin to put me down, and blame me for everything. My girls go stay at friend...

lightenedbyenlightenment · lightenedbyenlightenment

enter your safe world as a fledgling out of my 6 year chaos. I just want to say thank you. Because of this forum online I have successfully broken communication with my A now for nearly 2 whole days. I find myself reading over everyone's posts and finding the truth and strength to resist relapse back int...

atheos · atheos

I've been doing a lot of thinking (or navel-gazing) recently about why I am having so much trouble with the end of step 3 and beginning of step 4, and I think I finally found the root of that -- I don't believe my mistakes will be forgiven. I have a hard time trusting people because I know I will eventually ma...

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	Sicker Than I Thought (Preview) So I am sicker than I thought. Now that I know I can not control my 22 yrs old AS. I am trying to control the way my husband deals with him. What in the heck is my problem. I never thought I was a control freak, wow I am alot sicker than I thought I was. So I am trying to take a good look at myself and see where this com...	debbiems	6	528	Dec 17, 2011 by Michelle814
	Writing it out (Preview) Michelle posted about relapse. Last night I tried to walk away and I was in the car and he absolutely would not let me leave. Yesterday was such a great day, I worked a 1/2 day then met my parents for lunch. I was able to get to the Tag office to change the registration on my car (6months later) and then got a te...	Jackie11	7	465	Dec 17, 2011 by Michelle814
	Relapsed (Preview) So last night and this morning I completely lost my serenity. This morning I flipped out of my AH; yelling, telling him I hate him, wallowing in self pity over the fact that I married an addict/alcoholic, and telling him I wish I had never met him. Am I proud? I am so ashamed. But this slip has actually sh...	Michelle814	10	482	Dec 17, 2011 by Michelle814
	Wow, that was... new. And nice! (Preview) The co-worker who yelled at me yesterday apologized today. A real apology, not an "I'm feeling guilty so I'll say I'm sorry, but here's why it was your fault I yelled at you". I'm not sure I've ever gotten a real apology from someone who's blown up at me before. I wish it was acceptable to t...	atheos	2	301	Dec 17, 2011 by Pushka
	Bad day getting worse (Preview) I really don't know where to begin, but the day started out rough not will my 22 yr old AS just things in general. Not much food in the house, (my husband has been layed off of work for the last year) truck wouldn't start for me. So I had to call my sister in law for a ride. Work was tough! I guess in the back of my m...	debbiems	8	598	Dec 17, 2011 by debbiems
	Step Two on Step Work Board! Join us! (Preview) We're on Step Two! Join us on the StepWork Board atstepwork.activeboard.comJust click on your group's step two area, read the chairpersons lead on the step, the responses/replies to it and then share your own experience, strength and hope on it.We will start on Step ThreeSunday, Dec. 25th, 2011...	John	0	313	Dec 17, 2011 by John
	Recovering Alcoholic Husband (Preview) I am currently seperated-3 months- from my RAH. He is 3 yrs sober. Drinking-wise he's not touched it..but his hateful, resentful personality stills lingers. When he's not complaining or passing judgement upon someone or telling me what i'm doing wrong..he doesn't say anything...totally diseng...	Debi4vols	10	644	Dec 17, 2011 by 12stepinKristi
	new beginings (Preview) I'm new to this forum. I'm actually new to this hole concept of al-anon. I've never been to a meeting, I've been to scared. I just read adult children of alcoholics.I could relate to that book better then I've ever related to a person. so i hope to find support and safe place to start my recovery. I just en...	gg1123	4	436	Dec 16, 2011 by pineapple
	I am home from Cali and..... (Preview) I didn't want to leave. It was the first time I have visited my Mom and brother since I started Al-anon and it made all the difference. I can't believe how well it went. My Mom and I were able to hang out and take my girls to the aquarium together. I spent a day with my brother, his wife and kids and we even went w...	Breakingfree	6	344	Dec 16, 2011 by pineapple
	Memories, History and thoughts.... (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm not sure why I'm posting this, or if it will get me what I need in the end, but I have to share it and get it out of me. In 1999, ten years sober, I walked into my first Al-Anon meeting... I was sober, but a mess. Al-Anon helped restore me to sanity during this time. I also started Miracless In...	John	10	394	Dec 16, 2011 by bud
	Progressive Alright! (Preview) I remember the 1st time i ever read the 4 types of alcholics out of the Blue Book. I remember thinking and even saying outloud to my cousler, oh, my husband will never be type 3 or 4. That was 7 years ago. Well, he was right! Alcholism is a disease that is Progressive and w/o treatment it only worsens. T...	Sincerely	3	328	Dec 15, 2011 by GailMichelle
	Christmas gifts (Preview) When I was a teenager I ended up in a children's home because my mother couldnt' take care of me as I had a serious illness. The children's home, a huge mansion in the middle of nowhere, was a mix of all kinds of children who basically had no one. We were all ages, all races, some of us handicapped, and the...	orchidlover	8	601	Dec 15, 2011 by Jen
	booze in the bushes (Preview) So I take the trash out today and I see something in the base of my lilac bush. Winter here so there are no leaves. It's a big bottle of wiskey. Almost empty. So this is why it takes AH unreasonably long to take out the trash. Hmm. It sort of pissed me off, like oh I'm so bad to go to bed with, you have to have some l...	GreenerGrass	21	637	Dec 15, 2011 by GreenerGrass
	Hitting a big low after committing to Al-Anon (Preview) Ugh, I don't know what my problem is. In the past I have gone to some Al-Anon meetings, felt a little better and then stopped going. Then things get bad and I go back. In the meantime, I can see now I've been depressed for a while now, my AH has been an alcoholic for a long time and struggled with sobriety ove...	kael1539	8	534	Dec 15, 2011 by kael1539
	90/90 - day five (Preview) (To break my pattern of isolation, I am doing 90 social activities in 90 days. Mostly Al-Anon meetings for now, but my sponsor says we can start counting other activities too once I'm ready for them.) Made it to day five... I am absolutely exhausted. I don't know how people with busy social lives find th...	atheos	8	455	Dec 15, 2011 by atheos
	update..... (Preview) Had to send the man I love to jail this morning hardest thing I've EVER had to do.... So yesterday after the cops told him to leave he ended up coming back around 8 at night... I had my little brother here so he only grabed some clothes and left... He then went to his mothers home, cusing her out looking th...	kris10	14	505	Dec 15, 2011 by youfoundme
	Benefits of Journal Writing? (Preview) Tonight, I found an old USB and plugged it into my laptop. I didn't know what was stored in it. To my surprise, I found journal entries on an assortment of topics. It was from a year or more ago. It was so beneficial to read. I'll spare ya the details as to why But me being me, I wondered if there had been a...	GailMichelle	10	1085	Dec 15, 2011 by tommyecat
	Old man grumpy syndrome... (Preview) ((((MIP))))...LOL...yes it's real and I've gotta raise my hand that I have or own it also. I have a contract in my business which includes having to come in contact with a "mini" or "maxi" me depending on who's feeling more farty than the other. The "other" for me i...	Jerry F	4	482	Dec 15, 2011 by tommyecat
	working the second step and trying to figure out how to complete it (Preview) I saw these questions someone had posted. I'm not sure if they are from a work book or something, but I think answering these will help me really get through with the 2nd step, or at least guide me in the direction to complete it. Do I sense spiritual guidance in my life? How? I believe now and have alwa...	12stepinKristi	5	936	Dec 15, 2011 by tommyecat
	untitled (Preview) I have called this untitled cos I couldn't think what to title it. I have been doing some writing work for my psychologist. Dealing with situations and writing my thoughts, actions and impulses and consequences. I decided to try to write about an event that happened a long time ago. I see part of my pr...	Lindaoakford	8	533	Dec 15, 2011 by GailMichelle
	My long journey back (Preview) Hello everyone, I posted several days ago about a major melt down I had concerning my grandson and told you I would be back to share my story...Well here goes. My 19 year old grandson lives with me and has a big problem with drinking one night he had been drinking and was out of control and I wouldn't let him...	kydee	5	456	Dec 14, 2011 by hotrod
	AH, work, and ACOA (Preview) Last night I went to another meeting. I also think my husband picked a fight with me beforehand, because he knew I was going. I got angry, and we argued (it took a while if him pushing my buttons though). It was hard, but I think I did my best last night, and I was really happy that I went! The Jekyll and Hy...	KLotus	3	417	Dec 14, 2011 by orchidlover
	My Abf opened up - now patience and pray? (Preview) Hi there :) I've been seeking the wisdom of experience from members on the MIP AA board. Their shares i have really appreciated. Everyone's feedback has helped me so much. More than simple words can begin to express. Im determined to learn as much as I can from your and their experiences as it helps me gr...	KeepingFaith	8	542	Dec 14, 2011 by KeepingFaith
	life is sooo good--live it! (Preview) I sometimes wish I didn't have so much to say! Today I am very stoked as we used to say in the 80s. I have more to offer sometimes than I realized. You all have shown me that I am worthy of all things even if I don't work for them. My life is great even though my ah is not receptive sometimes--he married a 33 year o...	Hoot Nanny	1	390	Dec 14, 2011 by Michelle814
	Broken (Preview) So, dealing with the ABF - who is currently out of town of training. It seems to be going...okay. He is home on weekends and I know he's drinking then. I can't stand the smell. I still don't know where I want the relationship to go. I'm tired of the blame he lays and moodiness but am I tired enough yet? I don't...	Not Alone	7	445	Dec 14, 2011 by Michelle814
	remember to take a NAP! (Preview) Just saying that if you need a nap, take one! I am a believer that rest keeps me going! Today I can't take a bath so I improvize. My bathtub leaks w/ cracks & it is ridiculous. I am hoping for a miracle in that department. Just sayin' y'all. Love ya, Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	2	307	Dec 14, 2011 by Very Very Tired
	I'm new and I'm lonely (Preview) My baby is due in 7 weeks and after 9 months of being sober my husband of nearly two years is out drinking again. It's killing me. Our history...(if anyone cares) We have been together for nearly 5 or 6 years now. I fell in love with him before I realised that he had a problem and it's been so hard to leave hi...	Bargee	26	804	Dec 14, 2011 by danni
	Serenity is.. (Preview) In Hope For Today on December 25th there is a beautiful page that reads all the explanations of serenity. My favorite is where it says that the character defects are not something "bad in us but traits that we no longer find "useful" and we are ready to remove them so that the more usefu...	Michelle814	5	584	Dec 14, 2011 by Michelle814
	magical music (Preview) I am in awe of the individuals God chooses to send his greatest messages through - when I think of angels singing on high - this kind of voice rises above the rest.	likemyheart	2	269	Dec 14, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Cops got involved:-( (Preview) He wasnt wanting to leave but he wa being very rude.. Name calling, blaming, and even telling my son that santa wasnt real... The cops got called.. Not by me. The made him leave. His mother came and got most of his things. Him and her are coming to get the rest soon.. She told me to set them outside.. Things a...	kris10	11	577	Dec 13, 2011 by rara avis
	Question for A's (Preview) In a recent post, Never going back said this: he ruined every holiday, every vacation, every important moment for years, made his family live in fear of his next outburst, and HE doesn't even realize or admit it. My ex denies any wrong doing at all - everything was all my fault; I yelled too so we were both...	likemyheart	7	596	Dec 13, 2011 by maryjane
	thats that.... (Preview) I woke up from my nap and found that he blocked me on facebook....childish but he always does... And he put that he is single... Guess that just helped me out!!! So, I told him he needs to leave... He left but didn't take anything so he will be back... He doesn't have anywhere to go so I'm sure he will try to st...	kris10	8	541	Dec 13, 2011 by orchidlover
	How do YOU handle the blame game?? (Preview) Me AGAIN... Ugh... Got off the phone with my Abfs(or ex) mother.. So to make that clear ....his mother. Anyways, of corse he went right to her work after he left here mad today.. ( still hasnt came back for his stuff i packed) i think I explained that in another post.. Sorry so many. So let me remind u that he...	kris10	14	1005	Dec 13, 2011 by orchidlover
	sobriety v active drinking (Preview) wow this is definatley a cunning and baffling disease. I have been with my partner for nearly 7 years I have been in al non for 4 and he has been in AA for 2 and a half. I have learnt so much yet know this is only the tip of the iceberg. We seperated after his last slip my boundary I will not be part of his active...	Tracy	2	336	Dec 13, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Old information (Preview) I find that God (my HP) has fed me enough information at the right time. Originally when I thought I wanted all of the information about last year, I wasn't ready and God sure did know better than me. It was one of those things of I did get tired of being spoon fed, in this case ripping off the bandage would...	Pushka	2	354	Dec 13, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	Worst holiday season so far (Preview) Hi, I used to frequent this board and al anon meetings but at some point I felt 'okay again' and dropped off. Last september-january my abf was in a residential treatment center, and things were great for both of us. After he got out and we were living together again, it was great for another month and a ha...	Sangyaa	5	477	Dec 13, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	On days when "A" could stand for a couple things.... (Preview) I'm finding that my Abf can be a real A when it comes to me standing up for myself and sticking to my boundries.... (and i'm not talking about Addict if you get my drift) So, I'm going to vent a little... He's pissed that I keep saying NO when he wants to take MY CAR, that he doesn't put any gas in.. I just say, &q...	kris10	6	412	Dec 13, 2011 by lightblue2
	Just at a Loss (Preview) Yea Know... Sometimes Life Just SUCKS... Last Night I Went to a Meeting because I had something On my Mind I was Hoping to release... (Which happened AFTER the meeting) but instead I found myself at a loss once more... Found out that a Dear Sweet Recovery Friend is Ill, and it seems that the Doctors don't...	Jozie	5	384	Dec 13, 2011 by orchidlover
	Confused about attending a wine party (Preview) I'm feeling lost. I'm supposed to attend a party with my girlfriend where there will be a lot of wine consumed. My girlfriend is going to have a couple of drinks, and let me know that if I was going to get worked up about it that I shouldn't attend because it would get her feeling anxious about how I was feeli...	Xenther	13	492	Dec 13, 2011 by orchidlover
	Life (Preview) I have still been attending weekly alanon meetings. I love my Monday home group! I am finding that I truly need to shop around to find the meetings that work for/speak to me. Unfortunately last week I was only able to attend one meeting - but it was kind of nice to miss it, and know how much I value alanon...	KLotus	1	296	Dec 13, 2011 by Pushka
	Every positive moment is a gift from God... (Preview) This past weekend was horrible...my wife has bottomed out with her depression. She was basically non-functional and I was a single parent all weekend, which was somehow made harder by the fact that she was physically there, watching me struggle with our 2 kids, but completely unable to help. The kid...	usedtobeanyer	6	300	Dec 13, 2011 by never going back
	is it that time again? (Preview) Is it that time again? Yep! It is MONDAY & time(afternoon) to update everyone on how my weekend went. Could almost not have been better w/a few scrapes but not a big deal. I went to a very nice but crowded Shrimp Peel for our snowriders community fundraiser. It was a funraiser if you like that sort of t...	Hoot Nanny	3	263	Dec 13, 2011 by never going back
	New upset member (Preview) Hey everyone, It's nice to know there are alot of people like me out there. I have been living with my A for 4 and a half years. We have 2 and a half year old son and I am in nursing school. I am almost done with school...May 2012. I have no money because I quit my job to finish school. I have tried everythi...	mketcher1	6	458	Dec 13, 2011 by Bargee
	I handed it over (Preview) I am so thankful for the experience that everyone here shares! Friday night I arrived home and my AH was super frustrated over the internet and trying to get a movie to play and the pauses. He called the help desk and another help desk and the first call was ok the second I cringed. I was in the kitchen makin...	Jackie11	8	297	Dec 13, 2011 by kris10
	Tuesday Night Alanon Meeting in MIP Chat... (Preview) I am unable to chair my regular Tuesday Night Alanon Meeting in our Alanon Chat room for this Tuesday (December 13th) and next Tuesday (December 20th). I am hoping someone will be gracious and step up for me so our Holidays Needs are met. After The Christmas Rush is over, I will be able to get back in the s...	lacewing	0	1127	Dec 12, 2011 by lacewing
	How do I keep my kids safe? (Preview) So..my soon to be exA has been drinking for the last 3 years, and for the last year living with his sister (since I asked him to leave). When my 15 and 9 yo boys go to him on the weekend, I know there are other influences in the home to keep them safe. Saturday he calls me and tells me that he and his best friend...	rehprof	9	467	Dec 12, 2011 by Pushka
	momma bear syndrom.....grrrrr (Preview) I have been doing good at not reacting lately if I do say so myself... But there is a line you just DON'T cross with a mother... Lastnight it was the usual "can I have a cigarette" I say no and he takes them anyways when I fall asleep for 2 seconds.... Not worth my breath.... I say no you can't take t...	kris10	12	556	Dec 12, 2011 by Pushka
	Three months = a new habit (Preview) My sponsor and I have agreed that for three months, I will not spend an evening at home alone. It's not totally a 90/90, because some evenings will be activities other than meetings, but the idea is to break this habit of isolating and replace it with a feeling that being around people is normal. This wil...	atheos	6	277	Dec 12, 2011 by pinkchip
	Door left unlocked (Preview) So my AH drank last night after I went to sleep (which is when he has been doing his drinking lately--frankly this is a relief for me), and he left our apt patio door unlocked. He is constantly reminding me to lock the door, since we are on the first floor off of a busy street. If he hadn't been drinking, he...	danni	10	412	Dec 12, 2011 by danni
	might as well be A (Preview) My bf has diabetes and -- not everyone knows this -- they can have the same kind of unpredictable moodiness as an A. My ex h was an A, and he would go into sudden rages and say whatever he could think of to make me feel bad. Bf stopped by today, in the midst of a blood sugar crash. I stupidly forgot that he can't t...	ifa	13	785	Dec 12, 2011 by ifa
	Thank you HP (Preview) With all the miserable job stress in my life these days, I still have reasons to thank my HP. I had a wonderful time today, and by "coinciidence" met some people who are going through similar experiences at work. We are in our late 50s and are much older than our co-workers. We feel excluded, a...	ifa	7	256	Dec 12, 2011 by ifa
	Christmas Card Request (Preview) Hello and Happy Holiday Season,Every December I ask everyone who is listed on the Miracles In Progress message boards to help me bring a awesomely memoriable Holiday to the many newcomers in the Miracles In Progress Recovery Houses by simply sending each house member a Holiday Card, and signing it w...	John	0	412	Dec 12, 2011 by John
	Kid stuff (Preview) I am finding that I have problems with reacting to my kids. I take too many things personally that are just the way kids are. I also tend to want them to act older than they are for my convenience. That is not fair to them. They are just kids. They dont mean anything when they complain about a meal or get into...	Jen	2	253	Dec 12, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	I have a tree (Preview) I have a mulberry tree in my backyard. It grows fast and when it does it is over my neighbours fence a fair way. At times I love the tree.. the food and shelter and protection it can give the birds. It brings the birds around my home and it provides for them in a natural way. At times I have cut the tree back, whe...	lightblue2	5	409	Dec 12, 2011 by lightblue2
	Don't Need to Be Right- Just Need to Be Happy (Preview) Hello Family, I am grateful to be able to come here in safety, trusting that I will receive objective and healthy feedback. I am facing a dilemma right now in my present relationship and cannot sit in denial any longer. My bf is a recovering A who has a back injury for which he takes prescription drugs for...	Saved By Grace	7	633	Dec 12, 2011 by Saved By Grace
	Degrees of love (Preview) I had a big breakthrough yesterday in realising that I now want a different kind of relationship if I ever get into one again. Since I have not dated much at all (no dates this year thus far)... At one time I wanted an all encompassing love, a love that took up all my time and which my life rotated around. I...	orchidlover	10	618	Dec 12, 2011 by orchidlover
	I feel like exploding (Preview) I don't know how to deal with things today. I'm separated from AH. He's been sober over 3 mos after a series of binges that drove him insane and made him lose his job. He's now in AA and working with a sponsor, but has a long way to go emotionally.He visits me and our son every weekend. Some days are better t...	nyc018	7	537	Dec 12, 2011 by never going back
	Alcoholic Husband doesn't know when to stop (Preview) I am very unhappy now. I am sitting at work, it's 10:57pm on Friday. He just called he's drunk, doesn't know when he got home or how. Unless he passes out, he will continue to call me. I don't want to be home right now. Because he will begin to put me down, and blame me for everything. My girls go stay at friend...	BThom61	5	745	Dec 12, 2011 by never going back
	The beginning of the end (Preview) enter your safe world as a fledgling out of my 6 year chaos. I just want to say thank you. Because of this forum online I have successfully broken communication with my A now for nearly 2 whole days. I find myself reading over everyone's posts and finding the truth and strength to resist relapse back int...	lightenedbyenlightenment	10	629	Dec 12, 2011 by never going back
	Knowing the problem helps! (Preview) I've been doing a lot of thinking (or navel-gazing) recently about why I am having so much trouble with the end of step 3 and beginning of step 4, and I think I finally found the root of that -- I don't believe my mistakes will be forgiven. I have a hard time trusting people because I know I will eventually ma...	atheos	6	303	Dec 12, 2011 by Michelle814
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