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I am finding that I have problems with reacting to my kids. I take too many things personally that are just the way kids are. I also tend to want them to act older than they are for my convenience. That is not fair to them. They are just kids. They dont mean anything when they complain about a meal or get into something they shouldnt. They just want attention, or something different to eat. But, I think I feel like I am not good enough to fix them something they like, or dont have enough of me to go around.
But, I dont know how to deal with them when they whine and try to wear me down. I am not sure what to do about the oldest who is bullying his little siblings. He was taught to bully by AH when he was using, so it is not going to be easy to break him of it. But, I cannot allow it to continue, as I can see the middle one starting to bully his baby sister.
In general these are really good kids and they are familiar with our programs as they go to all of our meetings. It is just hard sometimes to tell what is a complication from this disease, and what is just normal kid stuff.
The oldest is 11yo and his attitude suggests puberty is not long coming. He has been even more moody and emotional than usual.
So, anyway, I am really tired tonight, but I just thought Id throw this out there and see what others think and are doing to combat these problems. I know many of us are dealing with them.
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
JEN: I noticed that you didn't mention hubby when we were talking last night. I can see why? I know he is or was a bully from our conversations in the past. but right now he is in recovery hopefully from bullying too! Just saying...