Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

As I've mentioned on this board many times, I left my AH in the spring of last year. We've been married for almost 30 years. I'm so much more at peace living in my simple one bedroom apartment, just two miles from work and walking distance to pretty much everywhere I want or need to go. I can sleep at night. I...

DreamXL · DreamXL

Hey Whackamole............:) whats shakin girl ! Happy Happy Birthday !! Havent seen you for a while, hope your having a great day. May all your dreams come true in Extra Large :) Hope to see you soon........

Oksie · Oksie

Woke up feeling so much better it wasn't funny. Im almost elated. I know I have to bring that down a bit and get more 'centred' Yesterday, after I had a realisation about the triggers and where that awful feeling came from..... I ate. and ate. and ate. well yo uget the picture. Mostly bad food. I gue...

Oksie · Oksie

HI guys It's me Linda. I know I said I wasn't going to post for a while, but I just can't help myself. Today.... I am not in a good place in my own head. I just need to write for a bit cos its hard to form the words in real speak. Today... I woke up hating every cell in my massive body. I did not want to wake up. I do...

LeenieBeanie · LeenieBeanie

I have been going to Al Anon for about 1 year. Long story short : we have a beautiful, sweet alcoholic daughter who has been been in addiction half her life. Drugs at 15, stopped at 20 then picked up a bottle and has not put it down. I dont have to tell you what we have been through - we could have paid cash for an...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Only have a few minutes so here it goes! I am feeling better. I am still growing! I am still changing--I will never be perfect. The only thing constant is change. I hope I am not the same person this time next year. I hope that the truth will set me free. I hope you all will feel a sense of growth in me. I don't fe...

daisy31 · daisy31

Just a few things I am loving about alanon today...... People look happy to see me at the meetings (which is new to me!) :) They like to give hugs and it feels safe to do so. People are authentic and open about their issues People like to get together afterwards just to hang out at a restaurant and everyone i...

Tracey C · Tracey C

I originally posted this on another board. Maybe it may be more appropriate for on here. Hi,I was wondering if you could help me.Are people who go to aa allowed to be sponsors for al-ateen? I have an issue with a male who sponsors our children's al-ateen group. He has made inappropriate comments...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

For the benefit of those of you who don't know me very well, I've been coming to MIP on and off since 2005. I'm what is known in program lingo as a double winner, meaning I am in both Al-Anon and AA. I only mention that in case there are newcomers in here who may be confused by my outgoing outspoken and often ou...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

My AH sat next to me on the couch tonight and cried. He cried because he can't stop and doesn't know how and doesn't know what to do. This is not the first time this conversation has been had. Tonight he was asking me to help him find a 3 day detox program because he can't do this on his own and doesn't believe j...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

I've been Really looking at my past however many years .. One of Alanon's Promises is that we will learn to perceive Reality .. I survived alcoholism by fantasizing in a denialish sort of way .. copied behaviors by telling myself it wasn't this way or that way .. seeing the cycle and how it passed down to m...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

http://www.cnn.com/2012/02/22/opinion/brooks-addiction-problem/index.html?hpt=hp_t3

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I'm still angry about the fallout from my AH's DUI from last Thursday. I can't seem to shake it. I am withholding affection from him, being curt and short with my words, and I am keeping my distance. We've had a few good talks this week and he's doing a great job in taking care of his side of the street rig...

respect · respect

I have two things on my mind today. They are seeming so big right now that I feel like my world is caving in. I tried to remember some slogins to help me relax. I had to think hard to pull a few out but I'm now trying to rememember that this too shall pass..... But in the meantime I need to tell someone what's goi...

Giggly423 · Giggly423

Hey everyone I am new to this message board, but hopefully this is somewhere I can get some advice. I am engaged to be married to an alcoholic. I know whole heartedly that he's an alcoholic, but I'm not sure he's ready to admit it. Right now he is in a detox center withdrawing from alcohol. This is the fir...

CWren · CWren

My AH has been a heavy drinker since we met 12 years ago. I always thought it was because we were young and having fun. We had our first child and I noticed he still drank, a lot. We had another child. He still drank a lot. But he never drank where it interfered with work or where anyone else knew about it...

kickster · kickster

Hi, I'm looking for something I read awhile ago. It spoke about; Sometimes the answer to our Prayers is to "Wait" & that "God is Working on Something" I don't know if it is 1 or 2 readings. I think it's either in: ODAT, COURAGE TO CHANGE or AS WE UNDERSTAND I can't find it anyw...

Hope2000 · Hope2000

This is the 1st time I've acutally reached out and spoke- about the pain, frustration, and fear I've felt for years. My AH and I've been married 13yrs, two beautiful kids but the drinking has been the dark cloud hanging over us. The past year has by far been the best, only because I did quit trying to cont...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I'm in my second marriage. By the time I married my first wife, I'd been in intimate relationships with maybe 6 women. I was married to her for 18 years. I was only unfaithful twice so that makes a total of eight relationships. I was single for 4 years. By the time I met my second wife I had made up for lost tim...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now princess I'm very busy." He wasnt really busy, he was drinking. Next day the young girl asked her daddy if they could go to the circus like they used to do. Her daddy said, "...

orchidlover · orchidlover

The ex A was and will be the last relationship where I jump in and then blame him for not being who I needed. My lifelong pattern has been to rush into relationships believing that any relationship I have will be changed by the superhuman force of my love. Granted there are many things in my life I can't cha...

stefani74 · stefani74

So everything's going really great! He's clean and sober for close to 4 months now. He's eating healthy and working out because he started gaining weight after quitting everything. He's excited his blood pressure is down and he just wants to a better, healthier person. Well that used to be my thing...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

Exhausting conversation with AH. I am reminding myself not to fight my HP's plan. Surprise endings: my HP's speciality (thanks Pushka!). Hey, HP, this better be one helluva a happy ending because right now it just sucks. I keep reminding myself there is something greater than myself. There is a big...

ttpurtee · ttpurtee

Well, I have been going to Al-Anon meetings and I have discovered that everything that you are not suppose to do when you are married to an A. I did. I feel bad about that and I have already filed for divorce. However, I don't really want a divorce. I love my husband and married him with forever in mind....

stephaniej · stephaniej

Tonight I noticed that one corner of our apartment smells like beer. Obviously, either my AH or his friend, who had been staying with us, spilled some beer over there. We are moving out of this apartment in a week. Our new place does not have carpetl Oooo, I so wanted to send a text message to my AH. I e...

robind78 · robind78

I have a 26 y.o. daughter who lives with an alcoholic. I suspect she is one also. Her boyfriend just lost his job due to drinking and was ordered to undergo in-patient treatment. He has not done so. I talk to my daughter and we just talk about superficial things. Sometimes I think I don't really know...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Court went fine, ez. Tenant made a fool of himself, when it was over he owed me money and was livid. He argued with the judge, showed he was lying about one thing after another. When my friends asked me,"What made him argue, and how come he cannot see the damage he has done." thank you al anon. &q...

amills4294 · amills4294

About a month or so ago I wrote an email to my brother explaining to him the circumstances that my spouse was moving back home and that I was doing it primarily for our daughter... I guess at the time I felt I had the need to justify my decision and of course Im sure I shed my spouse not in the best of light. My b...

TwistedServant · TwistedServant

Bernie here. Grateful member of Al-Anon for 16 years and recovered alcoholic of 14 years, whichever you prefer. I do a lot of sponsorship. I used to be old school, you know, men sponsor men, women sponsor women, but lately I don't much care what your gender is. If you're willing to do the work, I'm willin...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

I feel proud of myself this morning... and happy... I feel very happy: My husband said goodbye to me this morning and I felt an urge to ask if he was going to his outpatient group, but I did not say a word, because it is none of my business. He ended up saying he was headed there on his own to me.. Then he talked...

surfgirl123 · surfgirl123

Things have been quiet since the last outburst. I have been trying to focus on myself. He has been fairly quiet and agreeable. Then last night, I get home from work, he says he is really tired and going to bed at 6pm (usually a sign he has been drinking), I don't comment on it, tell him to get some rest. Whil...

peacewithin · peacewithin

Thank you all for your Prayers & Support Test came back NO Cancer . But I do have to have surgery to remove a tumor that is non-cancer. So relieved inhale, exhale. Peace & Love DEB

atheos · atheos

The phrase (that I wanted to put in a work email, but didn't) "Never before has a job made me feel so much like jumping off a parking structure" sums up the last month quite nicely. I would NEVER actually do it, but the fact that there was an afternoon where I looked over the rail and thought &quo...

david62 · david62

Hi (((Family))), I got a little deeper bit of understanding this Sunday morning, sitting in a meeting of my "other" program. The priest was sharing about a story of Jesus healing a paralytic person who was carried to Him by his family. Jesus heals the paralytic person then tells him to, s...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

Last night right as I was arriving home from job 2 I received a text from my MIL. She was talking about how she needed to change her views and stop being so judgemental. How she needs to change some things and basically asking that we pray for her. She sends these type texts to me, my AH and my SIL sometimes an...

ttpurtee · ttpurtee

really really enjoyed my f2f alanon meeting last night. I can't even begin to tell you how much I enjoyed it. I would take up the rest of message boards. I felt a lot of peace at the meeting. Unbelieveable!! I felt less crazy! which is always a good thing.

I feel like texting my AH and telling him...

daisy31 · daisy31

So I talked to my sister who I haven't talked to in a few months. I fear she may be developing an alcohol problem just as so many of my other family members have-she recently told my other sister that she is a functioning alcoholic and laughed about it. I have been working on detaching and using the sloga...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

I can humbly accept God's will for me now. I feel it flowing through me now. I can put my hands up and enjoy the roller coaster ride that is life as I know it, which is not much. At my home group last Thursday, a dear friend I have made in the program happened upon a 3x5 index card holding the page for one of the...

Overcome · Overcome

I got into a "discussion" on facebook today with a person who was posting hate posts about Whitney Houston and how we were giving her more attention than she deserved. This person was pointing out how we as a country needed to get our priorites straight and value and recognize our fallen sol...

Skylark · Skylark

I sat here for a long time staring at the smilie box and the empty text box. Here I am, about to write an Al-Anon family group post about someone in my life who is an addict beginning recovery. This is not what I thought I'd be doing on November 17, 2011. I don't know what I figured I would be doing, but you kno...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I decided to go watch a movie with my exAH last night. I have't spent much time with him and we both love and miss each other. When I got to his house he was already well into his drinking night and well it went down hill from there. He was trying to make me confess how our marriage ending had very little to do wi...

Beyondsick · Beyondsick

My brother has ruined my life. I could write you a book right now.....I am very angry and depressed right now....mentally, physical and financially. I never know how bad things were until just recently. It's his attitude that's a killer. He does no wrong, he's nasty, and for some reason I think he thin...

Corgi2 · Corgi2

I was just going through some of my older posts on here as I am experiencing some familiar pain. As I read my own words, it brought me back to where I was when I wrote them...it hurts to see where I was and it hurts even more to see how little has changed in the lives of my alcoholics. However, Im proud to say tha...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

and it led straight to this site. Few other things first, a couple of them me, a couple not me. I understand that I can't change the name so I will be deleting this profile and starting a new one. See you all soon in a new name. I don't know how it got to be my real name, I am not good with computers and stuff and I j...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Ahhhhh Pushka...HP needed an instrument to work with me today and you were it!! Bet you didn't even know. This is what I read this morning before going out into the day...Wasn't in a very good mental, emotional, spiritual or physical place cause the worry and fear and past and future were having the...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

Not the best Subject header but it's what it is .. I have a small daughter with my X partner of 11 years; he was clean for some time but is using a Legal Substance.. For the 3rd week in a row he has blown off his visitation with our daughter .. He's called week after week from unavailable phones and when we don'...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My oldest turned 14 and she wanted a family party. So I invited the exAH and his enabling parents over for dinner. My exFIL helped me cook in the kitchen which is normal and nice, while cooking he was asking me questions that I was uncomfortable answering, so I gently answered vaguely. My exMIL showed up...

TwistedServant · TwistedServant

Been away for a while. Back now. See you in the meetings and no doubt I'll tell a few stories about why I haven't been here or why I came back. Who knows.

Michelle814 · Michelle814

Is this common. I believe one of the readers either today or yesterday talked about it and it really spoke to me. In al-anon recovery its like waves. I will feel really hopeful and like I am making progress and then I will plummet. Nose dive back into my old ways and struggle. I also get like my brain is in o...

TwistedServant · TwistedServant

Got a funny story. Got to share it with you. It happened a few weeks ago. I've already mentioned in other posts that sponsorship is a big part of my program. And although I know men are supposed to sponsor men and women are supposed to sponsor women, I sponsor anyone who's willing to do the work required to...

surfgirl123 · surfgirl123

As I am going through the mental process of deciding whether to stay or go from my AH, I have started to think to myself "what would I do, or be doing, if he was not around?", funny thing is I often can't come up with anything. My life has become so small dealing with him that I really don't know wha...

Debilyn · Debilyn

When this older couple came up for a visit, they came to tell me my dear friend, yes the 3rd one, has a bad cancer. She, my mother and I were were and are very close. She helped Mother so much when she was dying of b cancer. I know she did not let me know becuz she knows what we went thru with mother. this last thre...

Aloha · Aloha

Though we're divorced, thankfully it was amicable... my exAH and I still keep in touch occasionally (like maybe once a month or every few months). The other day I got to feel and come to an awareness on where I currently draw the line in our contact with one another. The hardest part of that for me was voca...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

HI guys I have been on these boards for about 7 months now. That is a really short time. It has helped me alot but I fear it is becoming SUCH a part of my life that I spend hours here. Every day of the week I am here. I spend hours here when I am at work and don't get things done at work. I have shared much of my jo...

pineapple · pineapple

The last few days have been tough for me. I've been struggling, and know I've slipped in my recovery. This morning I was thinking of RLC and remembered that he used to remind me that the great thing about this program is that we can start over any time we need to. SO, I'm starting over this morning. I'm goin...

TwistedServant · TwistedServant

This is a story about step eleven. its not really an al-anon story. but its a good story and like all good stories it has a moral, and I like the way I tell it. One day I was walking along the beach after a meeting. I saw an old man walking toward me. Every so often, he would kneel down, pick something up and st...

Ariel · Ariel

Well, the ABF got so drunk on Monday that I woke up at 1:30 am to my phone ringing - him screaming at me as to why I locked the doors. Because I'm home alone with 2kids and honestly didn't want him in our home (home is in my name). He got in, he continued screaming at me but I couldn't really understand what he wa...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I know that people have been tremendously helped through the meetings of Al-Anon. I don't doubt their success. I have gone to quite a few meetings over the last few years, however, I feel lousy when I leave. I kept pursuing them thinking the dynamics change and people attending change, however, i...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42763

Michelle814 · Michelle814

I feel so grateful tonight. I feel such gratitude for all the friends I have made living this new way of life. I thought life would be dull when I first entered the room. I was afraid to change from my old ways. What I have learned is that life is so full of surprises and my HP really knows how to put things all...

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	Serenityville vs. Crazytown (Preview) As I've mentioned on this board many times, I left my AH in the spring of last year. We've been married for almost 30 years. I'm so much more at peace living in my simple one bedroom apartment, just two miles from work and walking distance to pretty much everywhere I want or need to go. I can sleep at night. I...	Green Eyes	11	357	Feb 25, 2012 by Michelle814
	Whackamole, Happy Birthday !! (Preview) Hey Whackamole............:) whats shakin girl ! Happy Happy Birthday !! Havent seen you for a while, hope your having a great day. May all your dreams come true in Extra Large :) Hope to see you soon........	DreamXL	2	246	Feb 25, 2012 by All I can be
	In a GOOD place today (Preview) Woke up feeling so much better it wasn't funny. Im almost elated. I know I have to bring that down a bit and get more 'centred' Yesterday, after I had a realisation about the triggers and where that awful feeling came from..... I ate. and ate. and ate. well yo uget the picture. Mostly bad food. I gue...	Oksie	3	221	Feb 25, 2012 by Ariel
	not in a good place today (Preview) HI guys It's me Linda. I know I said I wasn't going to post for a while, but I just can't help myself. Today.... I am not in a good place in my own head. I just need to write for a bit cos its hard to form the words in real speak. Today... I woke up hating every cell in my massive body. I did not want to wake up. I do...	Oksie	18	558	Feb 25, 2012 by Oksie
	Need to hear Experience - Alcoholic daughter wants to move back (Preview) I have been going to Al Anon for about 1 year. Long story short : we have a beautiful, sweet alcoholic daughter who has been been in addiction half her life. Drugs at 15, stopped at 20 then picked up a bottle and has not put it down. I dont have to tell you what we have been through - we could have paid cash for an...	LeenieBeanie	5	855	Feb 24, 2012 by LeenieBeanie
	just a moment to reflect... (Preview) Only have a few minutes so here it goes! I am feeling better. I am still growing! I am still changing--I will never be perfect. The only thing constant is change. I hope I am not the same person this time next year. I hope that the truth will set me free. I hope you all will feel a sense of growth in me. I don't fe...	Hoot Nanny	1	266	Feb 24, 2012 by daisy31
	Just a few random thoughts I have... (Preview) Just a few things I am loving about alanon today...... People look happy to see me at the meetings (which is new to me!) :) They like to give hugs and it feels safe to do so. People are authentic and open about their issues People like to get together afterwards just to hang out at a restaurant and everyone i...	daisy31	5	348	Feb 24, 2012 by danni
	Al-ateen Sponsors (Preview) I originally posted this on another board. Maybe it may be more appropriate for on here. Hi,I was wondering if you could help me.Are people who go to aa allowed to be sponsors for al-ateen? I have an issue with a male who sponsors our children's al-ateen group. He has made inappropriate comments...	Tracey C	4	413	Feb 24, 2012 by Tracey C
	A Cat Story (Preview) For the benefit of those of you who don't know me very well, I've been coming to MIP on and off since 2005. I'm what is known in program lingo as a double winner, meaning I am in both Al-Anon and AA. I only mention that in case there are newcomers in here who may be confused by my outgoing outspoken and often ou...	Wolfie55	9	444	Feb 24, 2012 by Breakingfree
	ESH appreciated for how to handle this? (Preview) My AH sat next to me on the couch tonight and cried. He cried because he can't stop and doesn't know how and doesn't know what to do. This is not the first time this conversation has been had. Tonight he was asking me to help him find a 3 day detox program because he can't do this on his own and doesn't believe j...	Jackie11	13	568	Feb 24, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Just the Effects ... (Preview) I've been Really looking at my past however many years .. One of Alanon's Promises is that we will learn to perceive Reality .. I survived alcoholism by fantasizing in a denialish sort of way .. copied behaviors by telling myself it wasn't this way or that way .. seeing the cycle and how it passed down to m...	MeTwo2	9	458	Feb 24, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Addiction is Not Hopeless addiction AA (Preview) http://www.cnn.com/2012/02/22/opinion/brooks-addiction-problem/index.html?hpt=hp_t3	Green Eyes	4	5905	Feb 24, 2012 by Michelle814
	Releasing my anger (Preview) I'm still angry about the fallout from my AH's DUI from last Thursday. I can't seem to shake it. I am withholding affection from him, being curt and short with my words, and I am keeping my distance. We've had a few good talks this week and he's doing a great job in taking care of his side of the street rig...	ilovedogs	10	756	Feb 24, 2012 by danni
	wreck of a day: when to interfere? (Preview) I have two things on my mind today. They are seeming so big right now that I feel like my world is caving in. I tried to remember some slogins to help me relax. I had to think hard to pull a few out but I'm now trying to rememember that this too shall pass..... But in the meantime I need to tell someone what's goi...	respect	12	657	Feb 24, 2012 by Mattie
	Help: Postponing a Wedding (Preview) Hey everyone I am new to this message board, but hopefully this is somewhere I can get some advice. I am engaged to be married to an alcoholic. I know whole heartedly that he's an alcoholic, but I'm not sure he's ready to admit it. Right now he is in a detox center withdrawing from alcohol. This is the fir...	Giggly423	15	575	Feb 24, 2012 by orchidlover
	High functioning AH ... feel alone. (Preview) My AH has been a heavy drinker since we met 12 years ago. I always thought it was because we were young and having fun. We had our first child and I noticed he still drank, a lot. We had another child. He still drank a lot. But he never drank where it interfered with work or where anyone else knew about it...	CWren	15	587	Feb 23, 2012 by abbyal
	Do you know where to find this? (Preview) Hi, I'm looking for something I read awhile ago. It spoke about; Sometimes the answer to our Prayers is to "Wait" & that "God is Working on Something" I don't know if it is 1 or 2 readings. I think it's either in: ODAT, COURAGE TO CHANGE or AS WE UNDERSTAND I can't find it anyw...	kickster	2	354	Feb 23, 2012 by usedtobeanyer
	Afraid (Preview) This is the 1st time I've acutally reached out and spoke- about the pain, frustration, and fear I've felt for years. My AH and I've been married 13yrs, two beautiful kids but the drinking has been the dark cloud hanging over us. The past year has by far been the best, only because I did quit trying to cont...	Hope2000	7	412	Feb 23, 2012 by Jerry F
	Rock Logic (Preview) I'm in my second marriage. By the time I married my first wife, I'd been in intimate relationships with maybe 6 women. I was married to her for 18 years. I was only unfaithful twice so that makes a total of eight relationships. I was single for 4 years. By the time I met my second wife I had made up for lost tim...	Wolfie55	6	536	Feb 23, 2012 by Green Eyes
	Please Daddy Don't Cry (Preview) One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now princess I'm very busy." He wasnt really busy, he was drinking. Next day the young girl asked her daddy if they could go to the circus like they used to do. Her daddy said, "...	Wolfie55	4	454	Feb 23, 2012 by John
	Look before you leap (Preview) The ex A was and will be the last relationship where I jump in and then blame him for not being who I needed. My lifelong pattern has been to rush into relationships believing that any relationship I have will be changed by the superhuman force of my love. Granted there are many things in my life I can't cha...	orchidlover	6	364	Feb 23, 2012 by hotrod
	He's encouraging me? That's a switch! (Preview) So everything's going really great! He's clean and sober for close to 4 months now. He's eating healthy and working out because he started gaining weight after quitting everything. He's excited his blood pressure is down and he just wants to a better, healthier person. Well that used to be my thing...	stefani74	5	372	Feb 23, 2012 by danni
	Emotionally exhausted (Preview) Exhausting conversation with AH. I am reminding myself not to fight my HP's plan. Surprise endings: my HP's speciality (thanks Pushka!). Hey, HP, this better be one helluva a happy ending because right now it just sucks. I keep reminding myself there is something greater than myself. There is a big...	Very Very Tired	13	732	Feb 22, 2012 by orchidlover
	ESH needed please (Preview) Well, I have been going to Al-Anon meetings and I have discovered that everything that you are not suppose to do when you are married to an A. I did. I feel bad about that and I have already filed for divorce. However, I don't really want a divorce. I love my husband and married him with forever in mind....	ttpurtee	7	411	Feb 22, 2012 by orchidlover
	Took a long, hard look at my motives (Preview) Tonight I noticed that one corner of our apartment smells like beer. Obviously, either my AH or his friend, who had been staying with us, spilled some beer over there. We are moving out of this apartment in a week. Our new place does not have carpetl Oooo, I so wanted to send a text message to my AH. I e...	stephaniej	8	350	Feb 22, 2012 by orchidlover
	What to talk about? (Preview) I have a 26 y.o. daughter who lives with an alcoholic. I suspect she is one also. Her boyfriend just lost his job due to drinking and was ordered to undergo in-patient treatment. He has not done so. I talk to my daughter and we just talk about superficial things. Sometimes I think I don't really know...	robind78	4	580	Feb 22, 2012 by robind78
	the one little Al Anon saying...... (Preview) Court went fine, ez. Tenant made a fool of himself, when it was over he owed me money and was livid. He argued with the judge, showed he was lying about one thing after another. When my friends asked me,"What made him argue, and how come he cannot see the damage he has done." thank you al anon. &q...	Debilyn	6	367	Feb 22, 2012 by kael1539
	The Queen of Mistakes (Preview) About a month or so ago I wrote an email to my brother explaining to him the circumstances that my spouse was moving back home and that I was doing it primarily for our daughter... I guess at the time I felt I had the need to justify my decision and of course Im sure I shed my spouse not in the best of light. My b...	amills4294	10	584	Feb 22, 2012 by amills4294
	On the Subject of Trust (Preview) Bernie here. Grateful member of Al-Anon for 16 years and recovered alcoholic of 14 years, whichever you prefer. I do a lot of sponsorship. I used to be old school, you know, men sponsor men, women sponsor women, but lately I don't much care what your gender is. If you're willing to do the work, I'm willin...	TwistedServant	6	472	Feb 22, 2012 by Wolfie55
	Celebrating Every Day Victories (Preview) I feel proud of myself this morning... and happy... I feel very happy: My husband said goodbye to me this morning and I felt an urge to ask if he was going to his outpatient group, but I did not say a word, because it is none of my business. He ended up saying he was headed there on his own to me.. Then he talked...	Michelle814	6	370	Feb 22, 2012 by Wolfie55
	Locked Cell Phone (Preview) Things have been quiet since the last outburst. I have been trying to focus on myself. He has been fairly quiet and agreeable. Then last night, I get home from work, he says he is really tired and going to bed at 6pm (usually a sign he has been drinking), I don't comment on it, tell him to get some rest. Whil...	surfgirl123	4	404	Feb 22, 2012 by whitedove
	Thanks For Prayers & Support (Preview) Thank you all for your Prayers & Support Test came back NO Cancer . But I do have to have surgery to remove a tumor that is non-cancer. So relieved inhale, exhale. Peace & Love DEB	peacewithin	6	266	Feb 22, 2012 by Breakingfree
	It's all ****ed up... (ESH needed) (Preview) The phrase (that I wanted to put in a work email, but didn't) "Never before has a job made me feel so much like jumping off a parking structure" sums up the last month quite nicely. I would NEVER actually do it, but the fact that there was an afternoon where I looked over the rail and thought &quo...	atheos	7	502	Feb 22, 2012 by orchidlover
	Carrying My Mat (Preview) Hi (((Family))), I got a little deeper bit of understanding this Sunday morning, sitting in a meeting of my "other" program. The priest was sharing about a story of Jesus healing a paralytic person who was carried to Him by his family. Jesus heals the paralytic person then tells him to, s...	david62	8	441	Feb 22, 2012 by orchidlover
	It works if you work it... (Preview) Last night right as I was arriving home from job 2 I received a text from my MIL. She was talking about how she needed to change her views and stop being so judgemental. How she needs to change some things and basically asking that we pray for her. She sends these type texts to me, my AH and my SIL sometimes an...	Jackie11	6	345	Feb 21, 2012 by Pushka
	F2F Alanon meetings (Preview) really really enjoyed my f2f alanon meeting last night. I can't even begin to tell you how much I enjoyed it. I would take up the rest of message boards. I felt a lot of peace at the meeting. Unbelieveable!! I felt less crazy! which is always a good thing. I feel like texting my AH and telling him...	ttpurtee	7	337	Feb 21, 2012 by stefani74
	How to handle family dynamics? (Preview) So I talked to my sister who I haven't talked to in a few months. I fear she may be developing an alcohol problem just as so many of my other family members have-she recently told my other sister that she is a functioning alcoholic and laughed about it. I have been working on detaching and using the sloga...	daisy31	7	428	Feb 21, 2012 by daisy31
	3x5 Roller Coaster Ride (Preview) I can humbly accept God's will for me now. I feel it flowing through me now. I can put my hands up and enjoy the roller coaster ride that is life as I know it, which is not much. At my home group last Thursday, a dear friend I have made in the program happened upon a 3x5 index card holding the page for one of the...	Michelle814	7	627	Feb 21, 2012 by kael1539
	Whitney Houston and understanding addiction as a disease. (Preview) I got into a "discussion" on facebook today with a person who was posting hate posts about Whitney Houston and how we were giving her more attention than she deserved. This person was pointing out how we as a country needed to get our priorites straight and value and recognize our fallen sol...	Overcome	11	861	Feb 21, 2012 by Overcome
	The beloved addict in my life (Preview) I sat here for a long time staring at the smilie box and the empty text box. Here I am, about to write an Al-Anon family group post about someone in my life who is an addict beginning recovery. This is not what I thought I'd be doing on November 17, 2011. I don't know what I figured I would be doing, but you kno...	Skylark	14	652	Feb 21, 2012 by Madm
	Major Slip (Preview) I decided to go watch a movie with my exAH last night. I have't spent much time with him and we both love and miss each other. When I got to his house he was already well into his drinking night and well it went down hill from there. He was trying to make me confess how our marriage ending had very little to do wi...	flopadopilus	14	676	Feb 21, 2012 by flopadopilus
	So depressed (Preview) My brother has ruined my life. I could write you a book right now.....I am very angry and depressed right now....mentally, physical and financially. I never know how bad things were until just recently. It's his attitude that's a killer. He does no wrong, he's nasty, and for some reason I think he thin...	Beyondsick	8	523	Feb 21, 2012 by Wolfie55
	Re-reading posts (Preview) I was just going through some of my older posts on here as I am experiencing some familiar pain. As I read my own words, it brought me back to where I was when I wrote them...it hurts to see where I was and it hurts even more to see how little has changed in the lives of my alcoholics. However, Im proud to say tha...	Corgi2	6	332	Feb 20, 2012 by Breakingfree
	googled my name (Preview) and it led straight to this site. Few other things first, a couple of them me, a couple not me. I understand that I can't change the name so I will be deleting this profile and starting a new one. See you all soon in a new name. I don't know how it got to be my real name, I am not good with computers and stuff and I j...	Lindaoakford	5	484	Feb 20, 2012 by rehprof
	"God specializes in surprise endings" (Preview) Ahhhhh Pushka...HP needed an instrument to work with me today and you were it!! Bet you didn't even know. This is what I read this morning before going out into the day...Wasn't in a very good mental, emotional, spiritual or physical place cause the worry and fear and past and future were having the...	Jerry F	8	629	Feb 20, 2012 by Michelle814
	The X meth addict in my life & his new Legal addiction (Preview) Not the best Subject header but it's what it is .. I have a small daughter with my X partner of 11 years; he was clean for some time but is using a Legal Substance.. For the 3rd week in a row he has blown off his visitation with our daughter .. He's called week after week from unavailable phones and when we don'...	MeTwo2	8	591	Feb 20, 2012 by Pushka
	Exhausting birthday dinner (Preview) My oldest turned 14 and she wanted a family party. So I invited the exAH and his enabling parents over for dinner. My exFIL helped me cook in the kitchen which is normal and nice, while cooking he was asking me questions that I was uncomfortable answering, so I gently answered vaguely. My exMIL showed up...	Breakingfree	7	328	Feb 20, 2012 by Pushka
	Returning to MIP (Preview) Been away for a while. Back now. See you in the meetings and no doubt I'll tell a few stories about why I haven't been here or why I came back. Who knows.	TwistedServant	5	356	Feb 20, 2012 by Wolfie55
	Question about Recovery's Ups and Downs (Preview) Is this common. I believe one of the readers either today or yesterday talked about it and it really spoke to me. In al-anon recovery its like waves. I will feel really hopeful and like I am making progress and then I will plummet. Nose dive back into my old ways and struggle. I also get like my brain is in o...	Michelle814	18	526	Feb 20, 2012 by Michelle814
	Lunch For Two (Preview) Got a funny story. Got to share it with you. It happened a few weeks ago. I've already mentioned in other posts that sponsorship is a big part of my program. And although I know men are supposed to sponsor men and women are supposed to sponsor women, I sponsor anyone who's willing to do the work required to...	TwistedServant	2	386	Feb 20, 2012 by Wolfie55
	What Would I Do? (Preview) As I am going through the mental process of deciding whether to stay or go from my AH, I have started to think to myself "what would I do, or be doing, if he was not around?", funny thing is I often can't come up with anything. My life has become so small dealing with him that I really don't know wha...	surfgirl123	7	414	Feb 20, 2012 by Wolfie55
	I found out thursday (Preview) When this older couple came up for a visit, they came to tell me my dear friend, yes the 3rd one, has a bad cancer. She, my mother and I were were and are very close. She helped Mother so much when she was dying of b cancer. I know she did not let me know becuz she knows what we went thru with mother. this last thre...	Debilyn	7	372	Feb 20, 2012 by Ariel
	Speaking up on boundaries (Preview) Though we're divorced, thankfully it was amicable... my exAH and I still keep in touch occasionally (like maybe once a month or every few months). The other day I got to feel and come to an awareness on where I currently draw the line in our contact with one another. The hardest part of that for me was voca...	Aloha	2	415	Feb 20, 2012 by TwistedServant
	I will read but not post for a while (Preview) HI guys I have been on these boards for about 7 months now. That is a really short time. It has helped me alot but I fear it is becoming SUCH a part of my life that I spend hours here. Every day of the week I am here. I spend hours here when I am at work and don't get things done at work. I have shared much of my jo...	Lindaoakford	8	428	Feb 20, 2012 by pinkchip
	starting over (Preview) The last few days have been tough for me. I've been struggling, and know I've slipped in my recovery. This morning I was thinking of RLC and remembered that he used to remind me that the great thing about this program is that we can start over any time we need to. SO, I'm starting over this morning. I'm goin...	pineapple	7	377	Feb 20, 2012 by Pushka
	Please God, Show Me What To Do (Preview) This is a story about step eleven. its not really an al-anon story. but its a good story and like all good stories it has a moral, and I like the way I tell it. One day I was walking along the beach after a meeting. I saw an old man walking toward me. Every so often, he would kneel down, pick something up and st...	TwistedServant	2	588	Feb 19, 2012 by TwistedServant
	Confused & Disappointed (Preview) Well, the ABF got so drunk on Monday that I woke up at 1:30 am to my phone ringing - him screaming at me as to why I locked the doors. Because I'm home alone with 2kids and honestly didn't want him in our home (home is in my name). He got in, he continued screaming at me but I couldn't really understand what he wa...	Ariel	8	511	Feb 19, 2012 by Ariel
	Anybody feel this way about AlAnon Meetings (Preview) I know that people have been tremendously helped through the meetings of Al-Anon. I don't doubt their success. I have gone to quite a few meetings over the last few years, however, I feel lousy when I leave. I kept pursuing them thinking the dynamics change and people attending change, however, i...	wifeofalcoholic	6	720	Feb 19, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Step Bosrd (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42763	hotrod	1	290	Feb 19, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Perspective (Preview) I feel so grateful tonight. I feel such gratitude for all the friends I have made living this new way of life. I thought life would be dull when I first entered the room. I was afraid to change from my old ways. What I have learned is that life is so full of surprises and my HP really knows how to put things all...	Michelle814	3	395	Feb 19, 2012 by TwistedServant
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