Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Michelle814 · Michelle814

My husband and I had an argument. No one flipped out or got over dramatic. He heard me out. I heard him out. Then he did the dishes and I vacuumed the living room. He said he used to have to be right but with the help from AA he does not have to anymore. I was wondering if I am an alcoholic because I started thin...

likemyheart · likemyheart

So my ex is angry at me (again) - because I had the audacity to leave a message three days after he was supposed to give some money (but didn't)towards HIS motorcycle payment which I'd been paying on alone for the last four months. I have decided that I will take the credit hit, the loan is in my name only and...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I've been so proud of myself over the last few days; I've shaken off the negativity I had for weeks. I'm being much gentler with myself, and less judgmental of my AH. My worst time of day is always right now...I've been at work for a couple of hours, I know my AH is oversleeping and thus not taking care of th...

stephaniej · stephaniej

We're in the process of moving. The new place is only about a mile away, but has about twice as much room as the old place, which will provide us all some much-needed personal space. My AH has been drinking like it's his last day on the earth for the past week or so. All the work he said he would do last week f...

phur · phur

Hello, I am new to this type of group and just need someone that is dealing with the same things I am. I have a husband that is a drunk and I am having a hard time with it. He only drinks on weekends but is drunk from Friday until he goes to work on Monday. His drinking has gotten worse over the years and I just ca...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

Some of the older folks may remember this song that Billy Preston put out in the 70's. I've been humming it a lot the last couple of weeks. A few weeks ago, there was a horrible accident in our area where a school bus collided with a dump truck, killing an 11 year old girl and critically injuring 3 other chil...

Grace7 · Grace7

I hear it again and again. Now, my adult children in their 30's are even "angrier" towards me it seems, even though I have Always been open with them about their Dads addictions (etol and drugs), had them in alakid. One adult son texted me about his 3 yr old saying I called her an inappropriat...

serenity84 · serenity84

Hello All, This is my second post in this forum. My ex-boyfriend of 2 and a half years is an alcoholic. We lived together for about year and broke up last October. It has been a tumultuos turning of events and I sought the help of Al anon and will be in the program for 5 months in March. I got a sponsor and I am wo...

rehprof · rehprof

kids have been with their Dad since weds..I have a terrible cold...and then spent 1 1/2 hours this morning shoveling 8 inches of heavy snow..by myself...but I think my fever broke while I was out shoveling... though the snow was pretty, I was focused on this stuff in my head...why does no one ask ME if I n...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I seem to struggle w/ words these days but on here I can backspace & sometimes start all over again; what a priviledge to be on this wonderful site where I am accepted & loved! I feel like a blabber mouth but then my Ah reminds me that he too talks way too much & I lose what he says half the time. So...

Overcome · Overcome

To those of you who were in the MIP chat room last night (you know who you are ), Thanks! As is usually the case, when we are hearing what we don't want to hear (but we already know), I got mad last night and left. But after sleeping on it, I know it's time for some "tough love" with my alcoholic. Bec...

connorsmommy · connorsmommy

I'm new here - my sponsor just told me about this site. I just spent HOURS reading the many posts and I really wish I had known about this a couple years ago. my son (20yrs old) went to rehab last summer, had one brief relapse and is currently doing ok. Prior to last summer we went through hell. I'm su...

John · John

Hi family and friends, Sometimes, I wish I didn't see and hear some of the things I do. I wish I could ignore some of the insanity that alcoholISM brings to the table of life. But at the same time I'm glad I get to see it, and not be it. John

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Some days are worst than others, I felt a little heavy hearted this morning when I got up. I stay in the grieving mode often because of my kids lifestyle and all the negative that goes with that. Not working, always broke. I let her clean for me weekly to help her out, she come over with 2 or 3 loads of clothes...

1 day at a time · 1 day at a time

im finally after a long time feeling quite content with my life im making alot of changes in the right direction and growing as a person.the only thing thats missing is the relationship i wish to have with my recovering ah.i feel really good about myself,and really good about the person who he has grown...

Hurtbeyondwords · Hurtbeyondwords

Ok. Here is the question. I am in a 5 year relationship with my A. We have been riding the Alcoholic roller coaster for the last two hellashious years. She is just now starting to get serious. She has a good sponsor and she goes to meeting everyday. She was a year sober, but one day decided to drink again. Si...

Sara1976 · Sara1976

Was married to an alcholic who went to rehab a year ago is drinking again. We have 2 young children and are in the middle of a custody battle. He continues to drink when the children are there but states that he hasn't gotten drunk since rehab. Even while this is going on he and his girlfriend continue to d...

atheos · atheos

The job I have now is my first "normal" (fulltime, in an office, etc.) job. My boss finds problems with everything I do, and is pretty harsh when he corrects me for them (Never just tells me what I did wrong, always throws in something like "I expect ____. If you don't like it, then this pr...

10jq1830 · 10jq1830

Hello, This is my first time here and I need some guidance. My husband is high functioning alcoholic. Our 20 yr old has always been bothered by her dad's drinking but is away at school now. Our 17 yr old who never seemed bothered about it came to me the other night to tell me how much it upsets her and had ev...

amills4294 · amills4294

I'd be interested in hearing others thoughts, experiences, perspectives on personal privacy in a relationship. I have come to learn that not everyone has the same view of this... As I've matured I've come to accept and value the need for personal privacy. I have times I just need to vent. I need to g...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

This one is a bit long, but I'm feeling a bit longwinded.When I fell in love with my wife Nancy, I forgot to ask her if she had children. Well, she had told me she was married twice before and I recall her mentioning she had a few sons and a few daughters but I naturally assumed they were all grown up, moved ou...

ttpurtee · ttpurtee

I am going to attend my first al-anon meeting tonight. I am excited and scared all at the same time. I have been extremely depressed lately. I am hoping these meetings will help me out of this depression. I never really wanted to go to al-anon meetings, but I think I need them. This is not something I...

emil · emil

I went to my second therapy session and before I went in I thought "why am I here." After talking for a while I realized I am here- for me. I want to feel stronger for me. I know that I am often intiminated in many relatonships. When any type of conflict occurs I often pretend its not happen...

Ariel · Ariel

No, he didn't call...didn't text. And I honestly don't care. Grateful, actually. I worked from home today while my daughter & son played quietly in their rooms. I'M FREE!!!! My daughter & I had a slumber party last night...we all went toy shopping after work...and there was no negative jerk...

TLD · TLD

Although I am content where I am, staying in one room at my parents is starting to get frusterating. There is no space to think, no room to move and living out of boxes isn't fun. Meanwhile the exAH is living in our house with 3 bedrooms and lots of space. He has still locked me out and I'm only allowed supe...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I don't struggle to not drink so much, but I have gravitated over to Alanon quite a bit for 1 main reason lately. I can't change other people. How much does this suck? I thought a therapist was supposed to be able to do that and help people that way. Intellectually I know even therapist are only vehicles...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Practice, Practice, Practice...I wasn't standing still I was going crazy!! I wasn't doing anything and that was the problem I was just doing crazy or rather letting crazy do me. It happens and finally I got soooo sick and tired of being sick and tired I just went with sloganizing...thinking, feel...

happygolucky · happygolucky

Hi guys and gals. I am new here, and I am seeking some guidance/help with some issues I am having with my SO in her recovery program. Obviously I do not want to air dirty laundry in a public place, so via PM's, and or phone would be best. I believe I have enough reasons to be worried, but would like unbiased co...

Tracy · Tracy

I have lived in a asmall part of Liverpool in Englad all my life. for a couple of years there has been a local alcoholic who is a nuisance but harless who lives on the streets so I thought. local people ive him clothes etc once a tent in the winter. I went to the bus stop before to go to my meeting, I have split...

Ariel · Ariel

My ABF quit drinking for a week and a half, and is still the same, mean person he ever was. He refused to go to AA. I was lifting heavy boxes for goodwill into my car & he walked right past me...twice. Then he huffed & puffed That Id asked for help. He asked me later 'what my problem was' & I calmy t...

daisy31 · daisy31

I have been thinking lately about how before Alanon I had SO many self help books. I was constantly looking for serenity in those books and it left me with only despair and exhaustion. For awhile I was even trying to do affirmations and the law of attraction. If I would say an affirmation then I relly d...

1 day at a time · 1 day at a time

well im finally learning i dont have to try to be perfect.when ive set myself up by trying to be perfect i only set myself up to fail and then feel bad when i can not reach that goal.now i will do the best and can do and that is easy.and if that is not good enough for someone else that is their problem.i will do my...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

One of the many gifts I have received in my almost 12 years of sobriety is the work I was allowed to do at a local transition home for recovering alcoholics and addicts. I have no formal background or training in the field of alcoholism unless you count my 30 years field experience. I guess I just have a wa...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is getting easier to function these days w/o my dad & step-mom. I still want to pick up the phone & call them. I want to be there where they are sometimes too. I guess God has other plans for me to stick around & maybe touch another life. I often wonder what it would have been like if I could hav...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

As I've mentioned on this board many times, I left my AH in the spring of last year. We've been married for almost 30 years. I'm so much more at peace living in my simple one bedroom apartment, just two miles from work and walking distance to pretty much everywhere I want or need to go. I can sleep at night. I...

DreamXL · DreamXL

Hey Whackamole............:) whats shakin girl ! Happy Happy Birthday !! Havent seen you for a while, hope your having a great day. May all your dreams come true in Extra Large :) Hope to see you soon........

Oksie · Oksie

Woke up feeling so much better it wasn't funny. Im almost elated. I know I have to bring that down a bit and get more 'centred' Yesterday, after I had a realisation about the triggers and where that awful feeling came from..... I ate. and ate. and ate. well yo uget the picture. Mostly bad food. I gue...

Oksie · Oksie

HI guys It's me Linda. I know I said I wasn't going to post for a while, but I just can't help myself. Today.... I am not in a good place in my own head. I just need to write for a bit cos its hard to form the words in real speak. Today... I woke up hating every cell in my massive body. I did not want to wake up. I do...

LeenieBeanie · LeenieBeanie

I have been going to Al Anon for about 1 year. Long story short : we have a beautiful, sweet alcoholic daughter who has been been in addiction half her life. Drugs at 15, stopped at 20 then picked up a bottle and has not put it down. I dont have to tell you what we have been through - we could have paid cash for an...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Only have a few minutes so here it goes! I am feeling better. I am still growing! I am still changing--I will never be perfect. The only thing constant is change. I hope I am not the same person this time next year. I hope that the truth will set me free. I hope you all will feel a sense of growth in me. I don't fe...

daisy31 · daisy31

Just a few things I am loving about alanon today...... People look happy to see me at the meetings (which is new to me!) :) They like to give hugs and it feels safe to do so. People are authentic and open about their issues People like to get together afterwards just to hang out at a restaurant and everyone i...

Tracey C · Tracey C

I originally posted this on another board. Maybe it may be more appropriate for on here. Hi,I was wondering if you could help me.Are people who go to aa allowed to be sponsors for al-ateen? I have an issue with a male who sponsors our children's al-ateen group. He has made inappropriate comments...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

For the benefit of those of you who don't know me very well, I've been coming to MIP on and off since 2005. I'm what is known in program lingo as a double winner, meaning I am in both Al-Anon and AA. I only mention that in case there are newcomers in here who may be confused by my outgoing outspoken and often ou...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

My AH sat next to me on the couch tonight and cried. He cried because he can't stop and doesn't know how and doesn't know what to do. This is not the first time this conversation has been had. Tonight he was asking me to help him find a 3 day detox program because he can't do this on his own and doesn't believe j...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

I've been Really looking at my past however many years .. One of Alanon's Promises is that we will learn to perceive Reality .. I survived alcoholism by fantasizing in a denialish sort of way .. copied behaviors by telling myself it wasn't this way or that way .. seeing the cycle and how it passed down to m...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

http://www.cnn.com/2012/02/22/opinion/brooks-addiction-problem/index.html?hpt=hp_t3

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I'm still angry about the fallout from my AH's DUI from last Thursday. I can't seem to shake it. I am withholding affection from him, being curt and short with my words, and I am keeping my distance. We've had a few good talks this week and he's doing a great job in taking care of his side of the street rig...

respect · respect

I have two things on my mind today. They are seeming so big right now that I feel like my world is caving in. I tried to remember some slogins to help me relax. I had to think hard to pull a few out but I'm now trying to rememember that this too shall pass..... But in the meantime I need to tell someone what's goi...

Giggly423 · Giggly423

Hey everyone I am new to this message board, but hopefully this is somewhere I can get some advice. I am engaged to be married to an alcoholic. I know whole heartedly that he's an alcoholic, but I'm not sure he's ready to admit it. Right now he is in a detox center withdrawing from alcohol. This is the fir...

CWren · CWren

My AH has been a heavy drinker since we met 12 years ago. I always thought it was because we were young and having fun. We had our first child and I noticed he still drank, a lot. We had another child. He still drank a lot. But he never drank where it interfered with work or where anyone else knew about it...

kickster · kickster

Hi, I'm looking for something I read awhile ago. It spoke about; Sometimes the answer to our Prayers is to "Wait" & that "God is Working on Something" I don't know if it is 1 or 2 readings. I think it's either in: ODAT, COURAGE TO CHANGE or AS WE UNDERSTAND I can't find it anyw...

Hope2000 · Hope2000

This is the 1st time I've acutally reached out and spoke- about the pain, frustration, and fear I've felt for years. My AH and I've been married 13yrs, two beautiful kids but the drinking has been the dark cloud hanging over us. The past year has by far been the best, only because I did quit trying to cont...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I'm in my second marriage. By the time I married my first wife, I'd been in intimate relationships with maybe 6 women. I was married to her for 18 years. I was only unfaithful twice so that makes a total of eight relationships. I was single for 4 years. By the time I met my second wife I had made up for lost tim...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now princess I'm very busy." He wasnt really busy, he was drinking. Next day the young girl asked her daddy if they could go to the circus like they used to do. Her daddy said, "...

orchidlover · orchidlover

The ex A was and will be the last relationship where I jump in and then blame him for not being who I needed. My lifelong pattern has been to rush into relationships believing that any relationship I have will be changed by the superhuman force of my love. Granted there are many things in my life I can't cha...

stefani74 · stefani74

So everything's going really great! He's clean and sober for close to 4 months now. He's eating healthy and working out because he started gaining weight after quitting everything. He's excited his blood pressure is down and he just wants to a better, healthier person. Well that used to be my thing...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

Exhausting conversation with AH. I am reminding myself not to fight my HP's plan. Surprise endings: my HP's speciality (thanks Pushka!). Hey, HP, this better be one helluva a happy ending because right now it just sucks. I keep reminding myself there is something greater than myself. There is a big...

ttpurtee · ttpurtee

Well, I have been going to Al-Anon meetings and I have discovered that everything that you are not suppose to do when you are married to an A. I did. I feel bad about that and I have already filed for divorce. However, I don't really want a divorce. I love my husband and married him with forever in mind....

stephaniej · stephaniej

Tonight I noticed that one corner of our apartment smells like beer. Obviously, either my AH or his friend, who had been staying with us, spilled some beer over there. We are moving out of this apartment in a week. Our new place does not have carpetl Oooo, I so wanted to send a text message to my AH. I e...

robind78 · robind78

I have a 26 y.o. daughter who lives with an alcoholic. I suspect she is one also. Her boyfriend just lost his job due to drinking and was ordered to undergo in-patient treatment. He has not done so. I talk to my daughter and we just talk about superficial things. Sometimes I think I don't really know...

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	February's End (Preview) My husband and I had an argument. No one flipped out or got over dramatic. He heard me out. I heard him out. Then he did the dishes and I vacuumed the living room. He said he used to have to be right but with the help from AA he does not have to anymore. I was wondering if I am an alcoholic because I started thin...	Michelle814	9	440	Feb 29, 2012 by Michelle814
	Same ole nonsense (Preview) So my ex is angry at me (again) - because I had the audacity to leave a message three days after he was supposed to give some money (but didn't)towards HIS motorcycle payment which I'd been paying on alone for the last four months. I have decided that I will take the credit hit, the loan is in my name only and...	likemyheart	2	551	Feb 29, 2012 by Breakingfree
	That dang hardware store USED to be a bread store! (Preview) I've been so proud of myself over the last few days; I've shaken off the negativity I had for weeks. I'm being much gentler with myself, and less judgmental of my AH. My worst time of day is always right now...I've been at work for a couple of hours, I know my AH is oversleeping and thus not taking care of th...	stephaniej	6	480	Feb 29, 2012 by Oksie
	REALLY had to work my program over the past few days (Preview) We're in the process of moving. The new place is only about a mile away, but has about twice as much room as the old place, which will provide us all some much-needed personal space. My AH has been drinking like it's his last day on the earth for the past week or so. All the work he said he would do last week f...	stephaniej	3	355	Feb 29, 2012 by Breakingfree
	New to this and need some one to talk to (Preview) Hello, I am new to this type of group and just need someone that is dealing with the same things I am. I have a husband that is a drunk and I am having a hard time with it. He only drinks on weekends but is drunk from Friday until he goes to work on Monday. His drinking has gotten worse over the years and I just ca...	phur	12	589	Feb 28, 2012 by orchidlover
	"That's the way God planned it, that's the way God wants it to be..." (Preview) Some of the older folks may remember this song that Billy Preston put out in the 70's. I've been humming it a lot the last couple of weeks. A few weeks ago, there was a horrible accident in our area where a school bus collided with a dump truck, killing an 11 year old girl and critically injuring 3 other chil...	usedtobeanyer	7	616	Feb 28, 2012 by usedtobeanyer
	Adult Children of A's being Angry at the Non Drinker (Preview) I hear it again and again. Now, my adult children in their 30's are even "angrier" towards me it seems, even though I have Always been open with them about their Dads addictions (etol and drugs), had them in alakid. One adult son texted me about his 3 yr old saying I called her an inappropriat...	Grace7	5	567	Feb 28, 2012 by Aloha
	Wanting more from the Alcholic alcoholic recovery ex-boyfriend al-anon communicate (Preview) Hello All, This is my second post in this forum. My ex-boyfriend of 2 and a half years is an alcoholic. We lived together for about year and broke up last October. It has been a tumultuos turning of events and I sought the help of Al anon and will be in the program for 5 months in March. I got a sponsor and I am wo...	serenity84	8	6649	Feb 28, 2012 by pinkchip
	Feeling alone..need reassurance (Preview) kids have been with their Dad since weds..I have a terrible cold...and then spent 1 1/2 hours this morning shoveling 8 inches of heavy snow..by myself...but I think my fever broke while I was out shoveling... though the snow was pretty, I was focused on this stuff in my head...why does no one ask ME if I n...	rehprof	9	532	Feb 28, 2012 by stephaniej
	can't always think of something to say, but I TALK anyway! (Preview) I seem to struggle w/ words these days but on here I can backspace & sometimes start all over again; what a priviledge to be on this wonderful site where I am accepted & loved! I feel like a blabber mouth but then my Ah reminds me that he too talks way too much & I lose what he says half the time. So...	Hoot Nanny	0	425	Feb 27, 2012 by Hoot Nanny
	Thanks! (Preview) To those of you who were in the MIP chat room last night (you know who you are ), Thanks! As is usually the case, when we are hearing what we don't want to hear (but we already know), I got mad last night and left. But after sleeping on it, I know it's time for some "tough love" with my alcoholic. Bec...	Overcome	2	462	Feb 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	12th Step ~ sponsoring, etc (Preview) I'm new here - my sponsor just told me about this site. I just spent HOURS reading the many posts and I really wish I had known about this a couple years ago. my son (20yrs old) went to rehab last summer, had one brief relapse and is currently doing ok. Prior to last summer we went through hell. I'm su...	connorsmommy	2	426	Feb 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	I wish I had blinders on sometimes... (Preview) Hi family and friends, Sometimes, I wish I didn't see and hear some of the things I do. I wish I could ignore some of the insanity that alcoholISM brings to the table of life. But at the same time I'm glad I get to see it, and not be it. John	John	7	414	Feb 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	"This to shall past" (Preview) Some days are worst than others, I felt a little heavy hearted this morning when I got up. I stay in the grieving mode often because of my kids lifestyle and all the negative that goes with that. Not working, always broke. I let her clean for me weekly to help her out, she come over with 2 or 3 loads of clothes...	Highlyfavored	2	479	Feb 28, 2012 by danni
	patience? rsvp (Preview) im finally after a long time feeling quite content with my life im making alot of changes in the right direction and growing as a person.the only thing thats missing is the relationship i wish to have with my recovering ah.i feel really good about myself,and really good about the person who he has grown...	1 day at a time	7	695	Feb 28, 2012 by 1 day at a time
	Why I feel the need to know. And why my A feels the need to keep it to herself. Lies drinking spouse relationship (Preview) Ok. Here is the question. I am in a 5 year relationship with my A. We have been riding the Alcoholic roller coaster for the last two hellashious years. She is just now starting to get serious. She has a good sponsor and she goes to meeting everyday. She was a year sober, but one day decided to drink again. Si...	Hurtbeyondwords	12	9718	Feb 28, 2012 by Aloha
	drinking after rehab? (Preview) Was married to an alcholic who went to rehab a year ago is drinking again. We have 2 young children and are in the middle of a custody battle. He continues to drink when the children are there but states that he hasn't gotten drunk since rehab. Even while this is going on he and his girlfriend continue to d...	Sara1976	16	7459	Feb 28, 2012 by Sara1976
	I don't know if I'm being crazy... (Preview) The job I have now is my first "normal" (fulltime, in an office, etc.) job. My boss finds problems with everything I do, and is pretty harsh when he corrects me for them (Never just tells me what I did wrong, always throws in something like "I expect ____. If you don't like it, then this pr...	atheos	12	661	Feb 27, 2012 by Grace7
	family group with daughter appropriate? (Preview) Hello, This is my first time here and I need some guidance. My husband is high functioning alcoholic. Our 20 yr old has always been bothered by her dad's drinking but is away at school now. Our 17 yr old who never seemed bothered about it came to me the other night to tell me how much it upsets her and had ev...	10jq1830	5	458	Feb 27, 2012 by Grace7
	Personal Privacy in a relationship - thoughts on boundaries (Preview) I'd be interested in hearing others thoughts, experiences, perspectives on personal privacy in a relationship. I have come to learn that not everyone has the same view of this... As I've matured I've come to accept and value the need for personal privacy. I have times I just need to vent. I need to g...	amills4294	11	724	Feb 27, 2012 by Pushka
	Don't Tell Me, Show Me (Preview) This one is a bit long, but I'm feeling a bit longwinded.When I fell in love with my wife Nancy, I forgot to ask her if she had children. Well, she had told me she was married twice before and I recall her mentioning she had a few sons and a few daughters but I naturally assumed they were all grown up, moved ou...	Wolfie55	8	617	Feb 27, 2012 by peacewithin
	First Al-Anon Meeting (Preview) I am going to attend my first al-anon meeting tonight. I am excited and scared all at the same time. I have been extremely depressed lately. I am hoping these meetings will help me out of this depression. I never really wanted to go to al-anon meetings, but I think I need them. This is not something I...	ttpurtee	11	566	Feb 27, 2012 by whitedove
	emil feeling better and ready for the work (Preview) I went to my second therapy session and before I went in I thought "why am I here." After talking for a while I realized I am here- for me. I want to feel stronger for me. I know that I am often intiminated in many relatonships. When any type of conflict occurs I often pretend its not happen...	emil	4	339	Feb 27, 2012 by hotrod
	He Left, Day 2 (Preview) No, he didn't call...didn't text. And I honestly don't care. Grateful, actually. I worked from home today while my daughter & son played quietly in their rooms. I'M FREE!!!! My daughter & I had a slumber party last night...we all went toy shopping after work...and there was no negative jerk...	Ariel	6	524	Feb 26, 2012 by Jennifer
	Frusterated with the selfishness of alcoholism (Preview) Although I am content where I am, staying in one room at my parents is starting to get frusterating. There is no space to think, no room to move and living out of boxes isn't fun. Meanwhile the exAH is living in our house with 3 bedrooms and lots of space. He has still locked me out and I'm only allowed supe...	TLD	8	1569	Feb 26, 2012 by TLD
	What I still struggle with (Preview) I don't struggle to not drink so much, but I have gravitated over to Alanon quite a bit for 1 main reason lately. I can't change other people. How much does this suck? I thought a therapist was supposed to be able to do that and help people that way. Intellectually I know even therapist are only vehicles...	pinkchip	24	759	Feb 26, 2012 by oldergal
	Sloganizing.... (Preview) Practice, Practice, Practice...I wasn't standing still I was going crazy!! I wasn't doing anything and that was the problem I was just doing crazy or rather letting crazy do me. It happens and finally I got soooo sick and tired of being sick and tired I just went with sloganizing...thinking, feel...	Jerry F	7	663	Feb 26, 2012 by nyc018
	Needing some help/guidance. (Preview) Hi guys and gals. I am new here, and I am seeking some guidance/help with some issues I am having with my SO in her recovery program. Obviously I do not want to air dirty laundry in a public place, so via PM's, and or phone would be best. I believe I have enough reasons to be worried, but would like unbiased co...	happygolucky	5	437	Feb 26, 2012 by Michelle814
	lcoholic at he bus stop (Preview) I have lived in a asmall part of Liverpool in Englad all my life. for a couple of years there has been a local alcoholic who is a nuisance but harless who lives on the streets so I thought. local people ive him clothes etc once a tent in the winter. I went to the bus stop before to go to my meeting, I have split...	Tracy	5	497	Feb 26, 2012 by Pushka
	Well, He Left (Preview) My ABF quit drinking for a week and a half, and is still the same, mean person he ever was. He refused to go to AA. I was lifting heavy boxes for goodwill into my car & he walked right past me...twice. Then he huffed & puffed That Id asked for help. He asked me later 'what my problem was' & I calmy t...	Ariel	10	533	Feb 26, 2012 by Hope4Peace
	relief of control in alanon (Preview) I have been thinking lately about how before Alanon I had SO many self help books. I was constantly looking for serenity in those books and it left me with only despair and exhaustion. For awhile I was even trying to do affirmations and the law of attraction. If I would say an affirmation then I relly d...	daisy31	4	390	Feb 25, 2012 by daisy31
	learning i dont have to be perfect. (Preview) well im finally learning i dont have to try to be perfect.when ive set myself up by trying to be perfect i only set myself up to fail and then feel bad when i can not reach that goal.now i will do the best and can do and that is easy.and if that is not good enough for someone else that is their problem.i will do my...	1 day at a time	4	410	Feb 25, 2012 by daisy31
	Just Friends - An Al-Anon/AA Love Story (Preview) One of the many gifts I have received in my almost 12 years of sobriety is the work I was allowed to do at a local transition home for recovering alcoholics and addicts. I have no formal background or training in the field of alcoholism unless you count my 30 years field experience. I guess I just have a wa...	Wolfie55	7	610	Feb 25, 2012 by Michelle814
	it is getting easier...I guess! (Preview) It is getting easier to function these days w/o my dad & step-mom. I still want to pick up the phone & call them. I want to be there where they are sometimes too. I guess God has other plans for me to stick around & maybe touch another life. I often wonder what it would have been like if I could hav...	Hoot Nanny	3	454	Feb 25, 2012 by Michelle814
	Serenityville vs. Crazytown (Preview) As I've mentioned on this board many times, I left my AH in the spring of last year. We've been married for almost 30 years. I'm so much more at peace living in my simple one bedroom apartment, just two miles from work and walking distance to pretty much everywhere I want or need to go. I can sleep at night. I...	Green Eyes	11	435	Feb 25, 2012 by Michelle814
	Whackamole, Happy Birthday !! (Preview) Hey Whackamole............:) whats shakin girl ! Happy Happy Birthday !! Havent seen you for a while, hope your having a great day. May all your dreams come true in Extra Large :) Hope to see you soon........	DreamXL	2	324	Feb 25, 2012 by All I can be
	In a GOOD place today (Preview) Woke up feeling so much better it wasn't funny. Im almost elated. I know I have to bring that down a bit and get more 'centred' Yesterday, after I had a realisation about the triggers and where that awful feeling came from..... I ate. and ate. and ate. well yo uget the picture. Mostly bad food. I gue...	Oksie	3	295	Feb 25, 2012 by Ariel
	not in a good place today (Preview) HI guys It's me Linda. I know I said I wasn't going to post for a while, but I just can't help myself. Today.... I am not in a good place in my own head. I just need to write for a bit cos its hard to form the words in real speak. Today... I woke up hating every cell in my massive body. I did not want to wake up. I do...	Oksie	18	634	Feb 25, 2012 by Oksie
	Need to hear Experience - Alcoholic daughter wants to move back (Preview) I have been going to Al Anon for about 1 year. Long story short : we have a beautiful, sweet alcoholic daughter who has been been in addiction half her life. Drugs at 15, stopped at 20 then picked up a bottle and has not put it down. I dont have to tell you what we have been through - we could have paid cash for an...	LeenieBeanie	5	950	Feb 24, 2012 by LeenieBeanie
	just a moment to reflect... (Preview) Only have a few minutes so here it goes! I am feeling better. I am still growing! I am still changing--I will never be perfect. The only thing constant is change. I hope I am not the same person this time next year. I hope that the truth will set me free. I hope you all will feel a sense of growth in me. I don't fe...	Hoot Nanny	1	345	Feb 24, 2012 by daisy31
	Just a few random thoughts I have... (Preview) Just a few things I am loving about alanon today...... People look happy to see me at the meetings (which is new to me!) :) They like to give hugs and it feels safe to do so. People are authentic and open about their issues People like to get together afterwards just to hang out at a restaurant and everyone i...	daisy31	5	424	Feb 24, 2012 by danni
	Al-ateen Sponsors (Preview) I originally posted this on another board. Maybe it may be more appropriate for on here. Hi,I was wondering if you could help me.Are people who go to aa allowed to be sponsors for al-ateen? I have an issue with a male who sponsors our children's al-ateen group. He has made inappropriate comments...	Tracey C	4	492	Feb 24, 2012 by Tracey C
	A Cat Story (Preview) For the benefit of those of you who don't know me very well, I've been coming to MIP on and off since 2005. I'm what is known in program lingo as a double winner, meaning I am in both Al-Anon and AA. I only mention that in case there are newcomers in here who may be confused by my outgoing outspoken and often ou...	Wolfie55	9	521	Feb 24, 2012 by Breakingfree
	ESH appreciated for how to handle this? (Preview) My AH sat next to me on the couch tonight and cried. He cried because he can't stop and doesn't know how and doesn't know what to do. This is not the first time this conversation has been had. Tonight he was asking me to help him find a 3 day detox program because he can't do this on his own and doesn't believe j...	Jackie11	13	650	Feb 24, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Just the Effects ... (Preview) I've been Really looking at my past however many years .. One of Alanon's Promises is that we will learn to perceive Reality .. I survived alcoholism by fantasizing in a denialish sort of way .. copied behaviors by telling myself it wasn't this way or that way .. seeing the cycle and how it passed down to m...	MeTwo2	9	541	Feb 24, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Addiction is Not Hopeless addiction AA (Preview) http://www.cnn.com/2012/02/22/opinion/brooks-addiction-problem/index.html?hpt=hp_t3	Green Eyes	4	7171	Feb 24, 2012 by Michelle814
	Releasing my anger (Preview) I'm still angry about the fallout from my AH's DUI from last Thursday. I can't seem to shake it. I am withholding affection from him, being curt and short with my words, and I am keeping my distance. We've had a few good talks this week and he's doing a great job in taking care of his side of the street rig...	ilovedogs	10	848	Feb 24, 2012 by danni
	wreck of a day: when to interfere? (Preview) I have two things on my mind today. They are seeming so big right now that I feel like my world is caving in. I tried to remember some slogins to help me relax. I had to think hard to pull a few out but I'm now trying to rememember that this too shall pass..... But in the meantime I need to tell someone what's goi...	respect	12	744	Feb 24, 2012 by Mattie
	Help: Postponing a Wedding (Preview) Hey everyone I am new to this message board, but hopefully this is somewhere I can get some advice. I am engaged to be married to an alcoholic. I know whole heartedly that he's an alcoholic, but I'm not sure he's ready to admit it. Right now he is in a detox center withdrawing from alcohol. This is the fir...	Giggly423	15	657	Feb 24, 2012 by orchidlover
	High functioning AH ... feel alone. (Preview) My AH has been a heavy drinker since we met 12 years ago. I always thought it was because we were young and having fun. We had our first child and I noticed he still drank, a lot. We had another child. He still drank a lot. But he never drank where it interfered with work or where anyone else knew about it...	CWren	15	671	Feb 23, 2012 by abbyal
	Do you know where to find this? (Preview) Hi, I'm looking for something I read awhile ago. It spoke about; Sometimes the answer to our Prayers is to "Wait" & that "God is Working on Something" I don't know if it is 1 or 2 readings. I think it's either in: ODAT, COURAGE TO CHANGE or AS WE UNDERSTAND I can't find it anyw...	kickster	2	437	Feb 23, 2012 by usedtobeanyer
	Afraid (Preview) This is the 1st time I've acutally reached out and spoke- about the pain, frustration, and fear I've felt for years. My AH and I've been married 13yrs, two beautiful kids but the drinking has been the dark cloud hanging over us. The past year has by far been the best, only because I did quit trying to cont...	Hope2000	7	501	Feb 23, 2012 by Jerry F
	Rock Logic (Preview) I'm in my second marriage. By the time I married my first wife, I'd been in intimate relationships with maybe 6 women. I was married to her for 18 years. I was only unfaithful twice so that makes a total of eight relationships. I was single for 4 years. By the time I met my second wife I had made up for lost tim...	Wolfie55	6	620	Feb 23, 2012 by Green Eyes
	Please Daddy Don't Cry (Preview) One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now princess I'm very busy." He wasnt really busy, he was drinking. Next day the young girl asked her daddy if they could go to the circus like they used to do. Her daddy said, "...	Wolfie55	4	537	Feb 23, 2012 by John
	Look before you leap (Preview) The ex A was and will be the last relationship where I jump in and then blame him for not being who I needed. My lifelong pattern has been to rush into relationships believing that any relationship I have will be changed by the superhuman force of my love. Granted there are many things in my life I can't cha...	orchidlover	6	441	Feb 23, 2012 by hotrod
	He's encouraging me? That's a switch! (Preview) So everything's going really great! He's clean and sober for close to 4 months now. He's eating healthy and working out because he started gaining weight after quitting everything. He's excited his blood pressure is down and he just wants to a better, healthier person. Well that used to be my thing...	stefani74	5	450	Feb 23, 2012 by danni
	Emotionally exhausted (Preview) Exhausting conversation with AH. I am reminding myself not to fight my HP's plan. Surprise endings: my HP's speciality (thanks Pushka!). Hey, HP, this better be one helluva a happy ending because right now it just sucks. I keep reminding myself there is something greater than myself. There is a big...	Very Very Tired	13	816	Feb 22, 2012 by orchidlover
	ESH needed please (Preview) Well, I have been going to Al-Anon meetings and I have discovered that everything that you are not suppose to do when you are married to an A. I did. I feel bad about that and I have already filed for divorce. However, I don't really want a divorce. I love my husband and married him with forever in mind....	ttpurtee	7	493	Feb 22, 2012 by orchidlover
	Took a long, hard look at my motives (Preview) Tonight I noticed that one corner of our apartment smells like beer. Obviously, either my AH or his friend, who had been staying with us, spilled some beer over there. We are moving out of this apartment in a week. Our new place does not have carpetl Oooo, I so wanted to send a text message to my AH. I e...	stephaniej	8	427	Feb 22, 2012 by orchidlover
	What to talk about? (Preview) I have a 26 y.o. daughter who lives with an alcoholic. I suspect she is one also. Her boyfriend just lost his job due to drinking and was ordered to undergo in-patient treatment. He has not done so. I talk to my daughter and we just talk about superficial things. Sometimes I think I don't really know...	robind78	4	663	Feb 22, 2012 by robind78
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